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MyCottleville Magazine

January / February 2017

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American Hero...

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TABLE OF CONTENTS Publisher’s Note | Meet the Team............................page 5 The First Reponder...................................................page 6 News Updates ........................................................page 9 Up Coming Events .................................................page 10 Past Events ...........................................................page 11 History of Cottleville ..............................................page 13 American Hero .....................................................page 14 Securus ................................................................page 20

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MyCottleville Launch Party......................................page 22 Golf Cart Regulations ............................................page 24 New Year’s Resolution ...........................................page 26 Life on Venus ........................................................page 27 Seven Priciples of Time Management .......................page 28 Life on Mars .........................................................page 32

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City of Cottleville Officials Mayor Jim Hennessey jim.hennessey@cityofcottleville.com Ward 1 Alderman Marie Mannino marie.mannino@cityofcottleville.com John Stiles john.stiles@cityofcottlleville.com Ward 2 Alderman Don Buchheit don.buchheit@cityofcottleville.com Bob Ronkoski bob.ronkoski@cityofcottleville.com City Administrator Rich Francis rich.francis@cityofcottleville.com Chief of Police Brett Mitchell brett.mitchell@cityofcottleville.com City Clerk/Treasurer Amy Lewis amy.lewis@cityofcottleville.com Deputy City Clerk/Waste Hauling Lindsay Jones lindsay.jones@cityofcottleville.com

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What is it and why is it important? What does it mean to you and your place of employment? What does it mean to you and your family? This column is going to accentuate the importance of leadership in all facets of life and will highlight great leaders that live or work right here in the Cottleville area.

Make Your Life Great Again... Following such an ugly election season, how do we start to heal a nation that is so deeply divided? I don’t know about your’s, but before the election, my social media feed was filled with posts trying to convince the world why one candidate is worthy of a vote and why the other candidate is the worst person on Earth. Social media after the election has been more of the same, exalting one person and denigrating the other. The end result is a nation that is, not only deeply divided, but emotionally invested in this divide in a way that creates animosity, bitterness and hostility.

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How do we overcome it?... We have to start with ourselves. We must take a look in the mirror and ask ourselves if we are being true to our values and true to our faith. The feeling of being right, of winning, gets the best of us sometimes. That desire to beat our chest and say, “Ha! I told you I was right. I win!” or “I will eventually prove you wrong!” leads us down a very sad and lonely path. It’s a path filled with judgment and intolerance. Is this behavior consistent with our personal core values or the values of our faith? It is a helpful exercise to actually identify and verbalize our values. You may even want to write them down. Remind yourself of what should be driving your thoughts and actions. Is it more important to you to love and respect one another or to be right and win arguments? When we get off track, it is the remembrance of our values that pulls us back to where, deep down, we know we should be. It is our ego that loves to derail our true self and provide us with an alternative and illusory set of values. Fortunately, a little introspection, the proverbial “look in the mirror”, is all it takes to put our egos back in check and evoke our true values. For me, love is the truest and most impenetrable value of all. If we remember to love first, then we will more easily see our adversaries as human beings, worthy of respect and undeserving of judgment. If you can do this, you will lessen your internal tension, your relationships will improve, disagreement will be more tolerable and your life will be great again!

Questions with a Leader... Our great community is filled with hundreds, if not thousands, of great leaders. We have leaders in business, education,

public service, non-profit and faith-based organizations. Leadership is manifested in many different ways by many different people. As a recurring part of this column, I am going to seek out some of the best leaders in the Cottleville area and ask them 7 simple questions. The questions will be personalized to the leader and crafted to allow for the most poignant and insightful responses in regards to life and leadership.

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McAuleys Playground Ground breaking Ground breaking for McAuleys Playground was held on December 19th to mark the playground construction that will soon begin. In partnership with Mercy, and Unlimited Play, it will be located in the future Hansen’s Park behind Mercy Kids on Ohmes Road. McAuley’s Playground will be a playground for all kids, including children with disabilities. www.unlimitedplay.org McCauley Animal Clinic Now Open NEW clinic opened January 2nd at 4646 Mid Rivers Mall Dr. Building located across from St. Charles Community College, and in front of the strip mall that houses Monkey Joe’s. For details call 636-300-0200 The Salvation Army 2016 St. Charles County Elected Officials Bell Ring The City of Cottleville, with the help of Mayor Jim Hennessey, participated in reigning bell champion at Schnucks Cottleville, December 10th, to support The Salvation Army. Kountz Fort Trail City staff plans to begin reconstructing the Kountz Fort Trail (rear Brittany Place subdivision) to a more permanent surface. This new surface will be more of a hard surface that should better facilitate walking and biking. This new base and surface type will also be more suited to handle the flooding that occurs in this area. Highway N Shared Use Path Design and right-of-way acquisition for this project is well on progress. This project will provide a new (approximately 10 foot wide) pathway/sidewalk on the north side of Highway N from Mid Rivers Mall Drive to Mannino’s Market. From their subdivision entrances, this pathway will offer, Brittany Place, Timberwood Farms, FHC and others, a nice route into the Cottleville old town area and to the park. Construction should begin in 2017. Annual Tri-City Holiday Food Drive St. Charles County Prosecuting Attorney, Tim Lohmar, to Judge the Tri-City Food Drive Competition, which ends on January 6th, 2017. This is the seventh year Weldon Spring, Dardenne Prairie, and Cottleville have participated in a friendly competition with bragging rights and a trophy.

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January 13, 2017 • Friday - Cottleville Farms & Home Job Fair Looking for a job? 5pm to 8pm and 14th, Saturday 8am to 11am at Staybridge Suites, 1155 Technology Dr., O’Fallon. January 14, 2017 • Saturday - Auditions at St. Charles Community College (SCC) SCC Young People’s Theatre will hold open auditions for Aesop’s Musical Foibles at 9am Saturday, January 14th, in the Daniel J. Conoyer Social Sciences Building auditorium. Performances will be at 3pm and 7pm Saturday, February 18th and 2pm Sunday, February 19th. Tickets are $5 and can be purchased at stchastickets.com or by calling 636-922-8233. January 17, 2017 • Tuesday - Cottleville/Weldon Spring Chamber General Membership Meeting January General Membership Meeting, at 11am – 1pm at the Old Hickory Golf Club, 1 Dye Club Drive. Sponsored by Kristin Ward - Waddell & Reed. Guest Speaker Josh Tyler - Facebook Marketing. Call 636-336-2979 January 17 - 19, 2017 - Auditions at St. Charles Community College (SCC) Center Stage Theatre will hold open auditions for A Doll’s House at 7pm Tuesday-Wednesday, January 17-18th. Callbacks will be at 7pm Thursday, January 19th. www.stchas.edu/centerstage January 23, 2017 • Monday - Back the Blue Dine Out at Rack House West Winery. 10% of proceeds will benefit The BackStoppers Inc. from 11am to close 5065 Highway N. https://www.facebook.com/events/1768419093424722/ February 14, 2017 • Tuesday - Valentine’s Day 3 Course Dinner Celebrate Valentine’s Day at The Rack House with a limited 3-course menu. Grant Argent will be providing his acoustic sounds from 5-8pm. https://www.facebook.com/events/390405654626698/ February 15, 2017 • Wednesday - Spring Sand Volley Sign Up Cottleville’s Spring Sand Volley Sign Up starts. www.missourisandvolleyball.com (Click on Legacy Park location) February 1 & February 8, 2017 • Wednesdays & February 20, 2017 • Monday Crappie Fishing Taught by a team of expert crappie-fishing instructors, the eight-hour course encompasses four two-hour night classes costs $89 per person. Classes will be held from 7:30-9:30pm each Wednesday in February (excluding February 15th) and Monday, February 20th. To enroll in Crappie University, call 636-922-8233 or visit stchas.edu/learnforlife to register online. March 4, 2017 • Saturday - The GREEN TIE GALA The Gala is at the Old Hickory Golf Club (1 Dye Club Dr.), to Honor Supporters of Cottleville St Pat’s Foundation. The Green Tie Gala is the kickoff party to the Cottleville St. Patrick Day parade festivities. The event features live music by CONTAGIOUS, gourmet food, an open bar and unlimited excitement! http://www.stpatparade.org/gala March 11, 2017 • Saturday - St Patricks Day Parade STARTS: Warren Elementary and FINISH: Francis Howell Central. The parade will be limited to 80 units. For more information contact Craig Tihen - Email: ctihen@cottlevillefpd.org PARKING AREAS => The Old American Furniture Location (Cottleville) => St Charles Community College Shuttles will drop off and pick up at these locations => Cottleville Wine Sellers - Bemo’s - Cottleville Fire House NOTICE: No Personal Golf Carts allowed on Parade Route between 7am-5pm on the Parade Day March 18, 2017 • Saturday - Trivia Night To Raise Funds for Friends Helping Friends Join MyCottleville Magazine at the Cottleville Knights of Columbus Hall for a fun night of food, drink and FUN. Help us raise money for Great Cause! 100% of the funds raised are used to help local families that might otherwise not be able to get the help they desperately need. There will be 1st and 2nd place prices, 50/50 Raffle and auction items. See page 47 in this magazine for a registration form and contact information 10 | MyCottleville Magazine

PAST EVENT UPDATES EXIT 6 Beer Festival Exit 6's Beer Festival at the Legacy park was smashing success. This was their second annual event and some of us had the opportunity to sample craft beers from over twenty breweries across the area. Congratulations EXIT 6 who also celebrated five year anniversary recently. If you stop in EXIT 6, make sure to try Ryane’s Red, one of their popular beer, and one of five of EXIT 6's draft beers.

All Paws Rescue & Golf Cart Show at Bemo’s Grill parking lot Oct 22nd

October 22, 2016 Cruising Cottleville Golf Cart Show at Bemo’s 5pm Free to walk, bike, drive or golf cart All Paws Rescue Block Party & Golf Cart Show -1st, 2nd, 3rd place prizes for best decorated golf cart! www.allpawsrescue.info

Cottleville Police Department National Night Out at the Legacy Park OCTOBER 27, 2016 Great Southern Bank celebratied FIVE YEARS in Cottleville. Congratulations Avi Suri and team!


Hansen’s Park-McAuley Playground Ground Breaking! A recent ground breaking for McAuleys Playground was held on December 19th to mark the playground construction that will soon begin. Mayor Hennessey has had a passion to build this new playground since he was elected Mayor in 2013 and it is becoming a reality!! In partnership with Mercy, and Unlimited Play, it will be located in the future Hansen’s Park behind Mercy Kids on Ohmes Road. McAuley’s Playground will be a playground for all kids, including children with disabilities. Mayor Hennessey stated: “After 3 years of planning and fundraising, we are extremely pleased to announce construction which should begin soon weather permitting. Because of the hard work and generosity of Mercy, Unlimited Play, the Cottleville Firefighters Outreach, Catch 22 (Mike Matheny’s charitable organization), and countless others, we are looking at opening the park and playground sometime in Spring/Summer 2017. This will be a great addition to our parks, and I am so happy we will provide children of all abilities the chance to enjoy playing on a playground”. MyCottleville Magazine | 11

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CFO Haunted Trail & Bonfire Party presented by Mercy Kids Cottleville Firefighters Outreach hosted the 7th Annual Haunted Trail & Bonfire Party presented by Mercy Kids on Saturday, October 15th in Legacy Park. Food Trucks, Beverage Sales and the Haunted Trail were the highlights.

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Cottleville … Where history never grows old As one of the oldest cities in St. Charles County, Cottleville has been working to preserve and enhance its historic downtown district, which is home to, shops, businesses, restaurants, a U.S. Post Office, churches, a grocery store, pubs, City Hall, and 125 acres of parks. The City completed a Master Plan for the area in recent years and launched a $1.2 million StreetScape project in 2011 to add 120 parking spaces, lighting and sidewalks to the historic downtown area. The goal is for Old Town Cottleville to retain the best of its past and be a distinctive center for the Community. The Town of Cottleville is one of the oldest in St. Charles County. As far back as 1800 there existed a group of houses located near the spot where the old Boone’s Lick Road crosses the Dardenne Creek. Cottleville, located along the old Boone’s Lick Road, was first settled by Captain Warren G. Cottle, who secured a land grant from the Spanish in 1798. It was said of him that Cottle farmed extensively and practiced medicine occasionally because there was little sickness among the people, and those who got sick had no money to pay for his services. However, the town did not develop much until the John Pitman family of Kentucky settled about one and one-half miles west of town in 1810. Other early settlers were George Huffman, also from Kentucky, prior to 1803; Aaron Rutger, a Hollander, prior to 1809; Nathaniel Simons from New England; and Nicholas Contz, a Pennsylvania Dutchman. In 1811, Dr. Warren G. Cottle died and his children, who were quite numerous, inherited his extensive farmlands. One of his sons, Lorenzo, inherited about 200 acres of land located on both sides of the Dardenne Creek. In 1839,Lorenzo parceled into lots that part of his property lying on the south side of Dardenne and named the town Cottleville in honor of his deceased father. Before that time the village was sometimes called Dardenne or Pin Hook. Another prominent landowner of that era was David K. Pitman, whose land adjoined that of the Cottle’s. During the 1850’s and 1860’s, he laid out two subdivisions to the town. The Village of Cottleville prospered so that at one time it numbered eleven places of business, two hotels, and a population of 500 people. In 1846 the town became a rival of St. Charles and petitions were circulated to have the County Seat of Justice transferred from St. Charles to Cottleville. The people of St. Charles heard about this daring attempt and soon had many counter-petitions circulated. This ended the ambitions of Cottleville’s citizens to bring the County Seat to Cottleville. The historic Boone’s Lick Road (now Missouri State Route N) began as a trail leading from St. Charles to Boone’s Lick in Howard County. It follows the route blazed by Daniel Boone’s sons to a salt lick that they discovered in Howard County. Within St. Charles County, the early Spanish Grant settlers followed it as a route between their farms and the City of St. Charles. From St. Charles it passed through Harvester, Cottleville, Dardenne, Pond, and Pauldingville into Warren County. This road was, at one time, an Indian trail, and also one of the principal highways leading westward through Missouri. Along its path traveled many covered wagons, stage coaches and pony express riders. It often happened that the travelers became stranded at the point where the Boone’s Lick Trail crossed the Dardenne, because of the frequent over-flowing of the stream and the muddy condition of the bottom lands through which the road passed. Gradually, small places of business came into existence, such as country stores, wagon repair shops, little hotels, etc. Two grist mills where wheat and corn were ground into flour and meal, were in operation by 1804. It became the stagecoach route over which travelers and mail were transported. Many covered wagons traveled the Boone’s Lick Trail to settle in counties west of St. Charles County. Later, the Boone’s Lick Trail was the route followed by those who branched off to follow the Oregon Trail, the Santa Fe Trail, and the California Trail. During the Civil War, troops and supplies were transported over this route. Later, cattle and mules were driven over the route on the way to the railroad and auctions. During the 1850’s, a timber plank road was built from St. Charles westward along the Boone’s Lick Road as far as Cottleville. The road was known as the Western Plank Road. The road project was not a success because the timbers soon began to warp and rotted away after a few years. During the Civil War, Cottleville was the location of a famous recruiting camp named Camp Krekel. MyCottleville Magazine | 13 My

American Hero Calls Cottleville... Home John McDaris was part of the operation that brought down Saddam Hussein’s sons


By: Robin Seaton Jefferson - Special Correspondant

ohn McDaris has called a lot of places home around the world. For 17 years the retired infantry sergeant first class bedded down anywhere the Army told him to, from bases to overtaken bridges to a secured water treatment plant in Iraq. But today the American hero who helped take down former Iraqi dictator Saddam Hussein’s sons in Mosul in 2003, calls Cottleville, Mo., home. McDaris followed in large footsteps. Most of the men in his family served their country before him including his father, brother, and both grandfathers. “It’s what my family does,” McDaris said. “Some families hand over corporations. My family business is the U.S. Army.” And even though the 35-year-old heavy weapons expert and platoon sergeant was forced to retire for medical reasons, namely a life-altering brain injury, he says he would do it all again in a heartbeat. “Don’t be sorry for me. I volunteered,” McDaris said. “Whether it’s a banged up knee, brain surgery or an elbow problem, to me nothing can compare with what others have sacrificed for this country. I took an oath at 17 years old, and I’m prepared to give my life, willingly, for my country. America is the best country in the world.” A self-described “Army brat,” McDaris’s earliest memories are of Fort Leonard Wood, the U.S. Army installation in the Missouri Ozarks. “I remember I broke my femur bone and collar bone there. I guess it’s when I started doing what my older brothers told me to do, so I started breaking bones there.” Those injuries wouldn’t be his last; but he wouldn’t receive any medals for them either. Those would come later. Talking about awards and honors given him by the country he’s so willing to sacrifice everything for is not McDaris’s strong suit. “I do have quite a few medals from my time as a soldier, but not one was earned alone,” he said. “Every piece of hardware on my uniform has a story with someone else’s name attached to it. But the ones I hold dearest to my heart and soul are the ones that define the men I was so honored to serve with. The Combat Infantryman’s Badge and my 101st Airborne Division Combat Patch.” McDaris was a rifleman and a heavy weapons expert in the U.S. Army Infantry Division. “I wanted to be where the rubber met the road. I wanted to be the spear of the fight for my country. I went into it not with a sense of cockiness, but with a sense of, ‘I’m going to do this. I’m going to do this the way they showed me, and I’m going to prevail.’” He did prevail on July 22, 2003, when he and his platoon were on guard at the battalion headquarters in the Iraqi city of Mosul. He said several Iraqi vehicles pulled into the headquarters. Men who looked nothing like conventional soldiers emerged from the vehicles and headed straight for the commander’s office. McDaris and his men speculated they must be Special Forces. It wasn’t long after their arrival that McDaris and his platoon were given operations orders. “The birds started flying over,” he said. “All these attack helicopters were starting up. We thought, ‘We’re going to go jack somebody up.’” Operation Tapeworm had begun. Hussein’s sons were killed during the firefight that McDaris participated in that day. They were struck down in their final hiding place by U.S. Special Forces and the 101st Airborne’s famed 3rd Battalion, 327th Infantry Regiment “Battle Force” after the owner of the villa they were hiding in gave them up. It is widely believed that Qusay and Uday Hussein, illegal oil smugglers, were even more ruthless and cruel than their notorious father. It was reported that their deaths were celebrated throughout Iraq as well as much of the world.

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The American government was criticized for releasing pictures of the brothers’ lifeless bodies following the attack. But authorities insisted the move was necessary to convince the terrorized Iraqi people that the long-feared brothers were really dead. On December 13, 2003, just five months after the brothers were killed, their father, also hiding to avoid capture, was found by American forces and taken alive. On November 5, 2006, Saddam was found guilty of crimes against humanity and was sentenced to death by hanging. His appeal to that sentence was denied and the former dictator was executed on December 30, 2006. McDaris described the last hiding place of the Hussein brothers. “It was a nice house in a nice neighborhood,” he said. “Everybody set up in blocking positions around the house. First the assault team went in and a couple of them were shot. We were listening to the radio traffic. I heard the .50 caliber MG [machine gun] open up. We could see rounds going straight through the house and hitting the house behind it. Then I heard them call on the radio, ‘Get the Mark out here!’ That was me. I had the Mark 19.” Few weapon systems are as effective as the Mark or MK19 Automatic Grenade Launcher, which can destroy most light-armored vehicles. “A traditional gun fires a direct shot. The automatic grenade launcher is more of an area target weapon,” McDaris said. “It lobs the 40 mm rounds into the area, and when they hit, they explode like grenades.” This was the gun McDaris was ordered to shoot into the front of the villa where the Hussein brothers, Qusay’s son, Mustapha, , and one other man were hiding. “There were four people taking on a couple of companies of infantry.” When he ran out of ammunition for the Mark 19, McDaris said he switched to the M249 Squad Automatic Weapon, or SAW, which holds rounds of linked ammunition and engages point targets out to 800 meters. “There were still birds [Apache helicopters] firing hell fire missiles.” McDaris said they didn’t even know who they were going after until the firefight was over. “All we knew was that it was a high value target.” When he did find out, McDaris said he felt good for the people of Iraq. “Saddam was bad, but his kids were the devil on earth.” He said he believed in his mission mainly because he was an American soldier, but also because of the children he met in the streets of Iraq—children who were starving and often without clothing not torn to pieces, while Saddam had goldand silver-plated AK47s. McDaris saw them on one mission when his platoon had secured a weapons factory in Baghdad that belonged to the dictator. They overtook an Iraqi Army general’s palatial home on another mission. “I couldn’t believe there were light switches made of gold, and not even 100 yards away there was sewage in the streets,” he said. Nevertheless, McDaris is hopeful for what he and others did to build the nation of Iraq and the future of peace. “The children will be the funnels of our efforts. My father served in Vietnam. It was a messed up situation for the soldier and America. But look at the country now and the relationship we have with them, the respect they have for the soldiers. That’s because the kids that were there are now in charge of that place. The kids loved us in Iraq, and we loved the kids.” McDaris was injured several times while serving his country. While on patrol on the streets of Iraq, he was nearly be-headed. He was operating as the rear gunner for his platoon, when he was assaulted. It was just a couple of months after the firefight in Mosul. “They would drop piano wire across the street to behead the front and rear gunners. The wire grabbed the back of my helmet and picked me up and dropped me. It knocked out a couple of teeth.” McDaris finished his third deployment and went home soon after that. What he didn’t know was that his personal war had only just begun. “For a combat veteran, the war’s not over. It’s when another phase of war begins,” he said. “You are kids and you’re sent away. You do some horrible things, and you see some horrible things. Seventeen hours on a plane back to America doesn’t give you the time to process what you’ve seen, what you’ve done. You come back with a lot of baggage. I didn’t handle it well at all. I was angry, depressed and very destructive in regards to my health and career.” continued on page 16

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It would be a woman who would change everything for the damaged war hero. McDaris met Nikki McDaris on October 2, 2004, in Louisville, Ky. She told him early on, he said, “’Either you get help, or I’m leaving,’” John McDaris said. “Eleven years later and she’s still my wife.” John had major depression and survivor’s guilt when he returned to the states. “It was from the relationship with these men. You are closer than your parents, your brothers. When something happens to one of these men, you carry it home and you can’t let it go. It’s been 14 years since my buddy died in Mosul, and I still hate the month of September. Mental health is such an important issue and military and civilian culture is finally seeing that.” But the mental health issues weren’t the only disorders John would face after the Iraq War. He was working in the recruiting office in St. Peters in 2014 when he collapsed. “I said something funny and we started laughing. The next thing I remember I woke up in the ambulance.” John was suffering from a Chiari malformation, a condition in which brain tissue extends into the spinal canal. He would undergo brain surgery where his skull would be shaved and cadaver skin would be used to sort of tie up the brain, he said. John said the injury was caused from all of the concussions he suffered from IED (improvised explosive device) blasts during his deployments. He survived quite a few of them. Friends and military comrades from all over the world came to see John while he was in the hospital following the nine-hour surgery. But it was his wife’s strength that left him breathless. And if there were any medals for wives, John said Nikki would earn top honors. “My wife is the epitome of what strength is. If I could be as poised and calm as she is in adversity, I would be fine. She is the perfect combination of my mother and my grandmother, the two greatest women I’ve ever known. She takes my breath away. She saved my life.” Today John volunteers at Pathway Community Hospice, and serves on the Missouri Gateway Chapter of the 101st Airborne Division Association. He visits veterans’ homes across the state, honoring them with a final salute and a presentation of the American flag. John and Nikki hope to adopt a child soon, the dream of a man who speaks of his own father and fellow Army veteran, Ted McDaris, with considerable regard. “Other than Jesus Christ, my dad is the second greatest man who ever walked the earth.”

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id you ever wonder what it would be like to have your own team of advisors like the CEOs and COOs of the largest corporations, or even your own cabinet, like the president and heads of state? Have you considered what it must be like to have just the right person on hand to answer that one question you have about your insurance, taxes, legal matters or financial planning? The president of a Cottleville company has asked these questions, and he has made it his business to offer ordinary people the same services afforded to heads of companies and elite investors—what he calls his “Circle of Advisors.” Christopher Shreves is president and CEO of Securus, a financial-planning company based in Cottleville. The veteran insurance agent has gathered certified licensed professionals such as licensed insurance agents, lawyers, registered securities advisers, CPA’s, long term care and Medicare experts, special needs planning specialists, and reverse mortgage specialists in one firm to work on the financial futures of his clients in the greater St. Louis area and beyond. Shreves is the Money Matters professional on KMOV Chanel 4’s Great Day St. Louis. He is also a licensed insurance advisor, and a member of the National Ethics Bureau and Better Business Bureau. He also serves on the CID (Community Improvement District) board for Cottleville. Shreves opened Securus in 2004. Today it is one of the fastest growing financial services companies in the industry. He specializes in advising clients on how to preserve their assets, reduce taxes, and how to diversify one’s portfolio based on standards of suitability and individual client needs. “Every sports team, successful corporation, or organization built for long term results has key members with expertise in specific fields to benefit those they serve,” he said. “At Securus, we maximize these experts. They are our Circle of Advisors. [They] partner with us for one purpose—to serve the needs of our clients.” Shreves said everyone, at some point in his or her life, will need help with saving, growing, protecting, distributing and transferring their money. Typically, these needs require the help of a tax, legal, investment or insurance advisor. “You would need to find trusted individuals in each of these areas, work separately with them, and then try to go back and forth to make sure all of the advice works well together,” Shreves said.

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Plan for Now and the Down the Road Trying to coordinate the work and advice of all of these people will more than likely result in mistakes, gaps in future goals and higher costs Shreves said. “They all look at things a little differently,” he said. “The magic of our office is that we all serve the client from the same office. We have all the principal advisors in one place, working together. We all understand the client and focus on the client in unison. There will likely be a savings because, for example, the attorneys don’t have to go out on their own to create clients. The group creates clients for each other. We work with attorneys who are specialists in elder law, estate planning and veteran’s affairs.” Securus is not a captive agency, Shreves said. For example, the agency has more than 25 different companies available for its agents to choose from for clients on the insurance side alone. The Circle of Advisors work hand in hand to assist customers in taking care of their needs today, while planning for their financial objectives, Shreves said. “Our job is to make sure people have income for life so they don’t run out of money.” Securus focuses on building long-term relationships with clients. Every client is given a personal advisor who will provide what the client needs to make informed decisions and will be there to serve them through all of their needs today and in the future, Shreves said. The advisor begins with a comprehensive study of the client’s current needs, while delving deep into understanding his or her goals and objectives for the future. They then analyze the results and, along with the client, begin to formulate solutions. “If those solutions call for an estate-planning attorney, money manager, or CPA, Securus can help,” Shreves said. “Each of these professionals is located in-house and is available by appointment.” Shreves said the goal of Securus is to bring the services together for the client. “These professionals don’t work for me. They work for the client. We all work together to do the best job for the client.” Securus continues to review and adjust a client’s goals and objectives with him or her as the years pass to make sure they stay on track for the future. Shreves said there is never a charge for an initial consultation. “I don’t feel like anyone should ever have to pay someone to determine whether they can bring them a value.” For more information about Securus, visit www.securusnow.com, call (800) 720-4252, or (636) 720-1900, or email them at info@securusnow.com.

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MyCottleville magazine hosted its launch celebration, November 9th, at Bemo’s. Mayor Jim Hennessey, Chief Brett Mitchell, Sheriff Scott Lewis, Assistant Chief Skip Stephens, City Administrator Rich Francis, Counselors, area business owners were among the distinguished guests who attended this formal evening party. MCed by non other than Kelly Lamm and with Marybeth Johnson’s live performance, this invite-only party featured a short film about Cottleville Parks. Stephen Thompson briefed on the history of MyCottleville project, followed by a vision talk by Steve Naugher. After the introduction of Mycottleville team a cake cutting by the mayor concluded the first part of Cottleville’s the exciting event. Later was an open-house party, which continued the rest of the evening.

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Make Your New Year’s Resolutions Stick By: Skip Stephens, Assistant Chief - Cottleville Fire District - Contributor

As we break into a New Year, we may be reminded of all our previous New Year’s resolutions that we failed to achieve. Tread mills and elliptical machines in gyms are always full for the first 2 or 3 weeks of January. Regular gym users laugh when they see the annual influx of people with good intentions that will soon be back to their old ways. But how do we maintain that magical energy that works for us for a short time every January? You know what I am talking about… the energy that not only gets us in the gym, but inspires us to start a new diet, to read a new book, begin a writing project, consider going back to school or whatever it is that you really want to do. Unfortunately, we usually see this magic and our good intentions melt away with the warmth of spring. The best way to make sustainable, desired changes in your life is to create new habits. It is difficult to launch a new behavior or routine, but once established, you will find it difficult to break. Yes, even good habits are hard to break! New habits can set forth positive momentum in your life that will make you feel great about yourself. One good habit can lead to another and another. I have recently found an app for my smartphone that is helping me create new (good) habits. Search “habits” in your app store and you will find numerous applications that will help motivate you and keep track of your progress. The one I use was free to download and it logs the amount of water I drink, the pages I read, my exercise habits and much more. It also makes me log my unwanted behaviors such as drinking soda and eating food late in the evening. New technology aside, I profess that your greatest motivation tool is as old as mankind: your true will. Whatever you have the will to do, you will do. If you want to lose a few pounds but can’t stop eating desserts, then your will to eat desserts is stronger than your will to lose those pounds. There is nothing stronger than true human will, which can work both for you, and against you. Why can’t you stop eating those desserts? Because human will is so strong. So, you have to ask yourself what you really want; what is truly most important to you? You have to be honest. If you are absolute about making positive changes, you can. If you decide that you truly want something, the next step is to root out all of your excuses and self-doubt. Your mind can be your biggest inhibitor, but can also be your biggest asset. Believe in yourself; take a leap of faith. Stop making excuses and listen to your true desires. Life is too short and you only get once chance to live it. There is a lot of truth to that 90’s song that told us that if you free your mind, the rest will follow. Change your will. Change your thoughts. Change your habits. Change your life! Best of luck to you in 2017!

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a humorous look at life by Kina Bryant

My day started off pretty good, but I have a long tale to tell... First, I had a couple of wonderful clients. I met my family for lunch before taking my daughter to work. I received a call from the vet saying that I could pick up my cat’s ashes, but I had to stop for gas before heading there. While pumping gas, I dropped the gas cap and it rolled underneath the car. I leaned over to grab it, but it was nowhere in sight. I glanced around to see if anybody was looking before I got down on all fours to search for it. Of course, it was out of reach. I thought that if I laid flat on my belly and stuck my head under there, my arms would be long enough... but no... I wouldn’t fit. Crap! I knew that I had gained weight, but this was ridiculous. Then it dawned on me... getting dressed in the dark this morning, I must have grabbed my “Wonder Bra”. Hmm... Now that I think about it, my top-to-bottom ratio seemed a tad off in the mirror this morning. Well, there was no way I was going to drag my hooters any farther underneath that car and scuff the lettering off of my new sweatshirt. I decided to get back on all fours and stick my right leg out to possibly kick the cap out the other side. I was hoping no one would pull up next to me and think that I was a yoga lunatic doing my poses while pumping gas. As soon as I extended my leg, I got a massive cramp in my butt cheek. I fell to my back and moaned. This sucker wasn’t giving up! I pushed my heels into the ground and raised my pelvic up trying to ease the pain. If that didn’t scream “Yoga Lunatic”, I don’t know what would. The cramp finally subsided. I laid there for a moment not caring who happened upon me. Then a voice snickered in my head, “You could just put your car in reverse and pull back a few feet.” After hanging up the gas nozzle and backing my car up, I stomped over to the cap while mumbling nasties under my breath. I bent down too hastily to pick it up and ended up throwing it a few feet farther. I puckered my lips and slowly bent over to grab it again. As I was bent over, a car horn blared long and hard behind me. THE HELL YOU SAY! I righted myself and whirled around yelling an obscentiy only to realize that it was just someone being cut off on the main road. It took me a few tries to get the gas cap on. Thinking all the while, that if anyone reviewed the surveillance video, they would send the psychiatric ward after me. At the vet’s office, I managed to pick up my cat’s ashes and make it to the door before I lost a few tears. I swiped them away with the back of my hand thinking that I had just smeared my mascara. Then I remembered... I didn’t wear any makeup today. I sat the ashes in the passenger seat and pulled down the rear view mirror to clean my face. COULD THIS DAY GET ANY MORE AMAZING? I had car soot streaked in various places on my face. One particularly perplexing mark looked like I had smeared three lines from the right side of my nose out to my cheek, looking like... of all things....WHISKERS! I’m sure the people at the vet’s office thought that I was in some serious mourning to stripe my face up just like my cat’s.

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Seven Principles of Time Management By: Ken Willard - Contributor

Many leaders today find themselves wanting to improve their time management skills. We read books, attend training classes, buy the latest apps for our smart phones, and in many cases work with a professional coach—with the hope that we will discover that one magic secret which will give us more hours in our days. Sorry to burst that bubble, but there is nothing anyone can teach you that will add more hours to your day. However, there are things we can all do to increase our productivity and thus become better managers of the time we have been given. The following are seven timeless principles of time management to get you started on the journey: 1) Time is our most precious resource. Consider for a moment all of the resources you manage. Money, people, facilities, inventory, etc. All of these resources can be replenished when we need more. However, time itself cannot. You cannot make time. You cannot borrow time. You cannot save time. You cannot extend time. You can only use it. And once you use it, it is gone forever. Think about all the time and energy you and your organization spend in meetings focused on all of the other resources. They are important resources, and we should focus on them. Most leaders and organization do not spend any time or energy on where they are spending their time. Maybe it is time for you to break the cycle. 2) We all get the same amount of time. Who are your role models? Who do you admire from history? Abraham Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr., Margaret Thatcher, Mahatma Gandhi, Moses, Sandra Day O’Connor – all of these great leaders (and your competitors) receive the same amount of time each that you receive . . . 168 hours a week. The secret is not to try and find more hours, the secret is to better use the hours you already have. 3) Clarity on mission and vision is critical. What is it you really do? Not your job title. What do you produce? Once you are clear on your mission, reflect back on your last few weeks and months and honestly access how much of your time is spent in the area of your mission. None of us will ever be able to spend 100% of our time on our mission. But even a small improvement of 1-2 percent can make a huge difference over the course of a year. Leaders know the value of vision for their organization. How about for you personally? What are you working toward in your life? Invest the time to gain clarity on your mission and vision. These elements should be the foundation for all of your time management practices. Take an honest look at your calendar and your to-do list. Do you see a connection between your tasks and activities to your mission and vision? It never happens by accident. We must be intentional. 4) Prioritizing your time must be intentional. Think about what you did yesterday. Those were your priorities. Think about how you spent your time last week. Those were your priorities. We are all constantly making choices about how we spend our time. If you really want to change how you are spending your time, it will require intentionality on your part about prioritizing your tasks and activities. Do not allow your inbox, to-do list, or someone else to determine your priorities. Learn to be proactive when you create your schedule and to-do list so you are working on top priorities before other items. 5) Most of what we do each day is a habit. Research has shown that as much as 60% or more of what we do each day can be categorized as a habit. What does this have to do with time management? If you want to change how you are spending your time, you need to realize that it will often require changing your habits. The challenge here is that there is also research showing habits cannot really be removed, they can only be replaced. There is a great book called, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg which can provide some valuable insights into habits. What habits do you have which need to be replaced soon? 28 | MyCottleville Magazine

6) Effective goals move you toward your vision. Setting goals is one of the best things a person can do to move themselves forward. Unfortunately, most people set poor or ineffective goals. (Look at the number of people who never achieve their New Year’s resolutions.) Most leaders have heard of S.M.A.R.T. goals and many of them have used this process at work. The concepts translate very well into our personal goals. While there are many different words used for the acronym “SMART,” one of the most common is: Specific, Measurable, Actionable, Results-Oriented, TimeBased. Your goals should meet that criteria. Here are the two most important pieces of setting goals: the “specific” or the “why you are setting this goal” is the element that will best determine if you will actually achieve the goal; some element of your goal needs to show up on your daily to-do list each week. Now is the perfect time to set a goal or two for the next season in your life. 7) Coaching improves goal achievement. Do you really want to achieve your goals? The best way to ensure this happens is to share it with someone who can hold you accountable. Accountability is born when two or more people know about a commitment. In this case we are talking about positive accountability. A professional coach can provide you with encouragement, resources, and accountability toward your goals. Make the investment in yourself and look into engaging with a professional coach. Visit the International Coach Federation website (www.coachfederation.org) to learn more about coaching and find a coach. Ken Willard lives in O’Fallon and is the author of Time Management for the Christian Leader: Or How to Squeeze Blood from a Turnip, published by Abingdon Press. He is an ICF certified Christian Leadership Coach, church consultant, and leadership speaker. Ken can be reached through his website: www.Leadership4Transformation.org

God gives each of us the same 168 hours every week. Some of us seem to use that time with incredible efficiency and power. But for many others this is an area of frustrating deficiency. Time Management for Christian Leaders challenges leaders to evaluate goals, and teaches practical techniques for improvement. Author and coach Ken Willard reveals ways we inadvertently waste time, and offers solutions in a step-by-step process at the reader’s own pace. This book is engaging, easy to read, and even entertaining. Most importantly, it is full of information that can transform the Christian leader’s ministry and life. You will want to keep this book close at hand, to read again and again. These strategies, insights and coaching questions help readers to really manage their time. Or, as the title suggests, to Squeeze Blood from a Turnip. --J. Val Hastings, MCC, Founder & President of Coaching4Clergy & Coaching4BusinessLeaders Insightful, practical help for leaders! Time Management for Christian Leaders is a wonderful tool for laity. The principles in this book can open us to allow God to produce greater fruit for the Kingdom.--Brian Hammons, Conference Lay Leader -- Missouri Conference of the United Methodist Church If you’re looking for more abundant living, this book is for you. Ken’s biblically grounded approach produces practical strategies for today’s time-pressed Christian leaders.--Beth Caulfield, Director of Small Groups and Team Vital Champion, The United Methodist Church of Greater New Jersey This book offers both personal coaching and ways to make your church or faith-based organization more effective. Are you ready to be coached? Prepare to be both motivated and encouraged by this book. You’ll walk away from it more focused on your core values and on God’s path for you. --Jim Barber, Executive Director, Society for Church Consulting; President, Barber Church Consulting Life in ministry moves fast, and this potent book can help us to do more of what we are meant to do. --Aubrey Malphurs, Founder of The Malphurs Group; Professor of Leadership and Pastoral Ministries, Dallas Seminary MyCottleville Magazine | 29

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humorous look at life by Kevin Ziegemeier I do not like to shop... That is one of the reasons I got married. With the wife around, I can relax knowing I have someone who has my shopping needs in mind. Unless we need tires or beer, the wife is responsible for our household purchases. If I do happen to find myself in some sort of retail space, I am always looking for a good deal. With all of the thrift stores, dollar stores, and discount stores around town, it is easier than ever to find lots of stuff at a low price. Being a wise and savvy consumer, when I do shop, I enjoy finding a good deal. That is why when I go to the store, I am immediately attracted to the sales items and special racks. The other night, wife and I were doing a little shopping at the local discount store and we came across a $0.88 rack. You heard that right…..a $0.88 rack. That is a better deal than I could get at the $0.99 store and a much better deal than those expensive dollar stores. I was so excited. There were so many things to choose from on this rack and I just activated a new credit card. Even though much of the merchandise on the rack was relatively useless to me, I just felt I could not pass up these savings. That would be fiscally irresponsible. So I got busy filling my basket with all sorts of cool things........a deck of cards, a game of jacks, a toothbrush, a long lighter, a rubber spoon, toenail clippers, a 2-pack of cups, and a hair brush. I get to the next shelf……a wood paddle with a ball and rubber band, a nerf hoop, lip balm, hair ribbons, and a table cloth. This is awesome…..I cannot stop. I am so happy, shopping for the soul. I get to the third shelf. A five pack of Adam Sandler movies for $0.88? You’re right, that is way overpriced…..so I move on. Travel Scrabble, cat treats, ear buds, and a “As seen on T.V.” cleanser promoted by the one and only Eric Estrada. I am just about to wrap up my shopping spree when I come across something I did not expect to see on the $0.88 rack. It was feminine hygiene products. Is this a joke? Are there really people that will actually purchase feminine hygiene products for $0.88 and feel they got a good value? That is like having a Jaguar and putting bacon grease in the crankcase. I mean when I go to purchase my man stuff, I would never purchase it from the $0.88 rack. I am more than willing to pay full price at the dollar stores. Like I said, I am wise and savvy consumer. When considering a household budget, it is important to save a buck or two when possible. I believe the wife is also wise and savvy with her purchases. When she is purchasing products to give her exterior a good shine, she is excellent at finding good deals. However, when it comes to her under the hood maintenance, she has total access to the wallet, credit cards, house deed, and 401k. If money is really tight, I will get a second job. After all of these major decisions, I am exhausted. Shopping is hard work. This was a really stressful five minutes. I am ready to find the wife, hit the checkout line, and get home. Since this particular retail store is huge, it takes me a while to track her down. I finally find her and see that her basket is full of stuff as well. As she peruses my purchases, she is impressed by way I was able to stretch our household dollars. Being the gentleman I am, I unload both carts while wife reads this month’s issue of Cosmo. O.K., maybe it is not that gentlemanly of me to unload the carts, but can I help wanting her to put a couple of new plays in her household playbook? I unload stuff on the belt and started to unload her cart. She has lots of household necessities…….soap, paper towels, donuts, shoe strings, a skillet, and a welcome mat. Job well done by both of us…..until I see the last several items in her cart. To my horror, she had also stopped by the $0.88 rack and picked up some stuff. Some feminine hygiene products and a 5 pack of Adam Sandler movies. I still love my wife, but this incident makes me question her shopping skills. As much as I hate shopping, I think I will have to go more often so this kind of thing does not happen again. I just hope we have enough room in the house for all of the extra tires and beer. 32 | MyCottleville Magazine


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very February 14, across the United States and in other places around the world, candy, flowers and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint, and where did these traditions come from? Find out about the history of this centuries-old holiday, from ancient Roman rituals to the customs of Victorian England. THE LEGEND OF ST. VALENTINE The history of Valentine’s Day–and the story of its patron saint– is shrouded in mystery. We do know that February has long been celebrated as a month of romance, and that St. Valentine’s Day, as we know it today, contains vestiges of both Christian and ancient Roman tradition. But who was Saint Valentine, and how did he become associated with this ancient rite? Did You Know? Approximately 150 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine’s Day the second most popular card-sending holiday after Christmas. The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death. Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons, where they were often beaten and tortured. According to one legend, an imprisoned Valentine actually sent the first “valentine” greeting himself after he fell in love with a young girl–possibly his jailor’s daughter–who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter signed “From your Valentine,” an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories all emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic and–most importantly–romantic figure. By the Middle Ages, perhaps thanks to this reputation, Valentine would become one of the most popular saints in England and France. ORIGINS OF VALENTINE’S DAY: A PAGAN FESTIVAL IN FEBRUARY While some believe that Valentine’s Day is celebrated in the middle of February to commemorate the anniversary of Valentine’s death or burial–which probably occurred around A.D. 270–others claim that the Christian church may have decided to place St. Valentine’s feast day in the middle of February in an effort to “Christianize” the pagan celebration of Lupercalia. Celebrated at the ides of February, or February 15, Lupercalia was a fertility festival dedicated to Faunus, the Roman god of agriculture, as well as to the Roman founders Romulus and Remus. To begin the festival, members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the infants Romulus and Remus, the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide. Far from being fearful, Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in a big urn. The city’s bachelors would each choose a name and become paired for the year with hischosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage. contnued on page 35

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VALENTINE’S DAY: A DAY OF ROMANCE Lupercalia survived the initial rise of Christianity and but was outlawed—as it was deemed “un-Christian”–at the end of the 5th century, when Pope Gelasius declared February 14 St. Valentine’s Day. It was not until much later, however, that the day became definitively associated with love. During the Middle Ages, it was commonly believed in France and England that February 14 was the beginning of birds’ mating season, which added to the idea that the middle of Valentine’s Day should be a day for romance. Valentine greetings were popular as far back as the Middle Ages, though written Valentine’s didn’t begin to appear until after 1400. The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written in 1415 by Charles, Duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. (The greeting is now part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England.) Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois. TYPICAL VALENTINE’S DAY GREETINGS In addition to the United States, Valentine’s Day is celebrated in Canada, Mexico, the United Kingdom, France and Australia. In Great Britain, Valentine’s Day began to be popularly celebrated around the 17th century. By the middle of the 18th, it was common for friends and lovers of all social classes to exchange small tokens of affection or handwritten notes, and by 1900 printed cards began to replace written letters due to improvements in printing technology. Readymade cards were an easy way for people to express their emotions in a time when direct expression of one’s feelings was discouraged. Cheaper postage rates also contributed to an increase in the popularity of sending Valentine’s Day greetings. Americans probably began exchanging hand-made valentines in the early 1700s. In the 1840s, Esther A. Howland began selling the first mass-produced valentines in America. Howland, known as the “Mother of the Valentine,” made elaborate creations with real lace, ribbons and colorful pictures known as “scrap.” Today, according to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated 1 billion Valentine’s Day cards are sent each year, making Valentine’s Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year. (An estimated 2.6 billion cards are sent for Christmas.) Women purchase approximately 85 percent of all valentines.


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Local Girl Sings from the Heart Marybeth Johnson... Singer committed to sharing her gift By: Robin Seaton Jefferson, special correspondent “Every piece of my music comes straight from the heart. It’s raw. It’s risky. But it’s all true.” That’s the way local country music singer, song writer Marybeth Johnson describes her music. The 26-year-old mom and mother/baby nurse at St. Luke’s Hospital in St. Louis said she started singing before she could speak. It would be many years later that she would learn to play the guitar. “I learned to play the guitar at 19 years old,” Johnson said. “I learned simple chords so I could sing along.” It wasn’t long after that before she started booking shows. She did it, she said, to build confidence in herself. “Everything for me is about challenging myself. It’s easy to stay home and play in your home. But there is no fun in that for me. I had to get out of my comfort zone. God blessed me with a gift. I believe if you have a gift, you have to share that gift with putting a smile on people’s faces with your talent.” At least some of Johnson’s music didn’t come from a place of happiness, though. “I’ve experienced severe loss in my life and thank God above I have music to help me cope with tragedy,” she said. “My father passed away suddenly in June of 2010, leaving behind myself, my mom, my daughter, and my 16-year-old brother, Ricky. After losing my father, I watched how so many people came forward to help us and I learned through that experience that it’s 100 percent okay to cry and to ask for help.” She said it was from that experience that she wrote “Not Alone,” a textured and emotionally-rich yet hopeful piece about coming back from tragedy. “My two favorite parts of that song are ‘Reach out when someone offers you their hand,’ and ‘It’s hard to find the strength, but I look at this love around me, and every day I count my blessings.’ Those pieces of the song truly describe how I feel. I learned to surround myself with the best people, reach out when someone offers help, and to focus on the love that is in my life instead of focusing on the negative.” Less than a year later, another loss would befall the young singer. In 2011, her daughter’s father died in a drunken driving accident. She said that was the “most difficult thing I’ve dealt with.” It would have been easy to give up at that point, but instead she went back to school, immersed herself in her work and focused on raising her daughter. Today she is married and working hard at her nursing and music careers. She plays mostly covers, and whatever music she writes is usually done on sticky notes, at her kitchen table, in the shower, and in bed. She sometimes records herself on her phone to save lyrics for later. Johnson grew up in Missouri singing in choir and participating in all of her high school musicals. She said her mother recognized her talent years ago. “My mom encouraged me. She just knew I could sing. I have videos of me singing Disney songs. There is one of me singing Beauty and the Beast. I saw it and I thought, ‘Oh my goodness, this cute little girl! She really can sing!’ I see now what my mom saw.” At 21, Johnson started traveling back and forth to Nashville, Tenn., where she would meet up with other writers and collaborate on music in writers’ rooms and studios. “It’s a fun culture,” she said. “It’s like a college town, but everything’s about music.” But as her daughter grew, she realized she needed to “put down roots” somewhere. So today she only travels locally, performing gigs throughout the St. Louis Metropolitan Area. “I realized it doesn’t have to be a job,” Johnson said. “It’s a really enjoyable experience for me now. Sometimes it’s sitting on the computer learning new songs for four hours, because as a local musician, you do a lot of the work yourself.” Johnson said part of being a musician for her is service to others. “I’ve always known I’m a servant for people.” As a young person she worked as a lifeguard. As an adult, she works as a nurse. “I love the postpartum time, helping moms and healthy babies through a joyful, but stressful time. And I get to sing to the babies in the nursery.” Her own daughter is “more of a writer than a singer,” Johnson said. “She likes to make up her own songs, and she’s actually really good at it.” Johnson said she can sing or play in any genre, but country music is her first love. “I love telling a story. Country music is a universal love. Everyone can relate to a song, even if they claim they don’t like the whole genre.” Her favorite artist to cover is Miranda Lambert, though she does “love covering old school country.” Johnson said she plans to further her nursing degree and continue playing local shows. “I want to keep sharing that gift with everyone,” she said. She is now working with a guitarist to expand her repertoire into the genres of pop, rock, and more classic country music covers. For more information on Johnson and upcoming shows, visit https://www.reverbnation.com/marybethjohnson. 36| MyCottleville Magazine

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Wishes Do Come True!

Cottleville’s St. Patricks Day Parade has become one of the most significant events in St Charles county region. Typically featuring more than one hundred floats and attracting well over 50,000 spectators, nevertheless the focus of the parade has been to raise money for charity and create a great community event. And not to forget, prior to the parade, nearly 4,000 runners race through the streets of Cottleville - a tradition that has grown about twenty percent each year. Last year though having Make-A-Wish® kid Kinley as parade’s Grand Marshal was the true highlight. Kinley found out her wish coming true at St Patrick’s Day Parade. Also Mayor Jim Hennessey arranged Kinley a ride in a brand new corvette from Jim Trenary Chevrolet during the parade. Kinley had a great day on 3/12/16 and thanks Mercy Kids, Make-A-Wish Missouri, City of Cottleville and St. Patrick’s Run and Parade Foundation for make this surprise a reality.

WHO WAS ST. PATRICK? St. Patrick is the beloved patron saint of Ireland. The Irish are famous for spinning exaggerated tales, so despite the infamous stories traditionally attributed to St Patrick, quite little is actually known about his life. We do know that St Patrick was born in Britain and that at the age of 16 was captured by Irish raiders who attacked his family’s estate. He was then transported to Ireland where he was held captive for six years, living a solitary, lonely life as a shepherd. It was then that he became a devout Christian, embracing his religion for solace. From his writing, we know that a voice, which he believed to be that of God, spoke to him in a dream, urging him to leave Ireland. He did. Walking nearly 200 miles, Patrick escaped to Britain and undertook seriously religious training. After 15 years of study, Patrick was ordained as a priest and sent to Ireland. His mission was to minister to Christians and to convert the Irish, then pre-dominantly pagans, to Christianity. Because Patrick was familiar with the Irish language and culture from his years of captivity, he chose to incorporate Irish ritual and symbols into his teachings rather than to eradicate Irish beliefs. Thus, was born the Celtic cross. Patrick superimposed the sun, a powerful Irish symbol, onto the traditional Christian cross so that the result would seem more natural to the Irish. St Patrick’s Day is celebrated annually on March 17th, the traditional religious feast day of St. Patrick and the day he is believed to have died in 460 A.D. The Irish have observed this religious holiday for thousands of years. But, how did we come to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day in the United States? MyCottleville Magazine | 39

 BEST CORNED BEEF AND CABBAGE EVER! Recipe and photo by Lynnae McCoy

I’ve cooked Corned Beef and Cabbage more than a few times over the years. The cabbage wilts, the corned beef is dry, or the carrots are mushy. I think I finally got it right! This Corned Beef and Cabbage recipe is easy, but it does take some time. I finally gave up on cooking corned beef in the slow cooker and gave boiling it a go. Apparently boiling corned beef is the way to go, because this was DE-li-cious! I paired the corned beef with a tangy horseradish sauce that added just enough zing to really make the meal! Before you attempt this meal, make sure you have a pot big enough to handle the corned beef and veggies. I added a little of the Pacific Northwest to this Irish meal by adding a pint of MacTarnahan’s Amber Ale by the Portland Brewing Company to the corned beef and veggies. It really adds to the flavor and I loved smelling the corned beef cooking.

CORNED BEEF AND CABBAGE Serves: 6 • Prep time: 10 mins • Cook time: 4 hours Ingredients: • Corned Beef Brisket • 1 pint amber ale • 10 small red potatoes • 1 head cabbage • 1 onion

• ½ lb. baby carrots

Instructions: Trim the fat from the corned beef brisket. Place the beef into the stock pot and pour the beer over it. Add enough water to cover the beef by a couple of inches. Bring to a boil. As the water comes to a boil, I like to skim off the foam, so the pot doesn't boil over. Add the spice packet that came with the corned beef. Cover and turn down the heat. Simmer corned beef for about 50 minutes per pound. For a four pound brisket, that's about 3.5 hours. Prepare horseradish sauce (recipe below), so the flavors can mix for a few hours before dinner. Forty minutes before the corned beef is done, add whole potatoes and carrots. Cover, return to a boil, and simmer for forty minutes until the veggies are tender. Remove corned beef, potatoes, and carrots to a casserole dish or serving platter. Cover with foil and keep warm in the oven. Cut cabbage and onion into wedges. Add cabbage and onion to the pot, which now only contains the cooking liquid from the corned beef. Simmer 15 minutes or until crisp tender. Add cabbage to the platter and serve the entire meal with horseradish sauce.

HORSERADISH SAUCE Ingredients: • 1 cup sour cream • ¼ cup hot cream horseradish • salt and pepper to taste

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This time of year bodies of water become frozen, but not completely, which is why Cottleville Fire District is issuing a reminder to “Stay Off the Ice”! If you fall through thin ice, cold water carries heat away from the body 25 times faster than air of the same temperature and, as a result, your body core immediately begins to lose heat to the outside environment. Your clothes because water-logged and heavy. Within 10 minutes, you will lose dexterity and motor function in your extremities and will be at severe risk of drowning. Why ice is so dangerous: • Thickness can be deceiving because it will vary throughout a body of water • Even think ice often contains unseen weaknesses • Once you fall through, self-rescue is nearly impossible, even for good swimmers • Many people sustain head injuries from slipping on ice What to do if you witness an ice emergency: • Call 911 immediately • DO NOT go out on the ice • If you choose to attempt to help someone, try to find something to reach the victim from the shore, such as a rope, pole or tree branch. With such an item you can attempt to tow them in but be sure that you do so on stable ground and that you are not pulled in yourself. Unfortunately, there is a notable increase in these type incidents during the winter months that involve children and young adults during outside activities. Most recently, in January of 2015, a suburban St. Louis teenager who slipped through an icy lake located in Lake Saint Louis had no pulse for nearly 45 minutes after he was rescued. He has since made a “miraculous” recovery. Every Cottleville Fire District apparatus carries ice rescue suits and every firefighter receives training each year which includes going into icy water and simulating ice rescues on area ponds.

Cottleville Firefighters Outreach Since its inception in 2008, Cottleville Firefighters Outreach (CFO) set out to make our community a safer, healthier and happier place to live and work. CFO provides crisis assistance to victims of tragedy including, fire, natural disaster, illness and other unforeseen circumstances. In the past year alone, CFO has quietly provided crisis assistance funding and in-kind donations valuing over $7,000 for 19 local families. In addition to crisis assistance, CFO holds family friendly events with 100% volunteer labor to support all CFO programs and partnerships. CFO events include: CFO Kids Fun Fest, CFO Haunted Trail and Bonfire Party and Bi-Annual Trivia Night. CFO partners with CFPD and other local agencies on events throughout the year as well. CFO Programs include: CFO Scholarship Program, Firefighter for a Day, Fishing with Firefighters and more. CFO partners with CFPD and other local agencies on additional programs that benefit the community including: MDA, Adopt-a Family, Saturday Jubilee, Toys for Tots and more! For more information about CFO or to inquire about possible crisis assistance visit www.fireoutreach.com or email cfco87@gmail.com. MyCottleville Magazine | 41 My

A New Way to Care for Loved Ones with Alzheimer’s...

This is Home!


The culture of long-term care is changing. Gone are the days of the “rest home” where individuals living with Alzheimer’s/dementia were housed, fed and cared for, and no longer active or considered a contributing member of society.

“Home” has in the past essentially meant institution... Not so for the Gables of Cottleville, a new residential option for families caring for loved ones with dementia. The Gables actually is a home. It’s a 7,500 square-foot-home designed and built by cousins Kurt Smith and Tim Effinger a developer and home care expert. The duo have listened to the leading voices in the care of those with Alzheimer’s/dementia who are focusing on the significance of care settings where the value and dignity of each person is respected. Tim and Kurt consider the Gable “life care” or a place where “Living continues” a home away from home. The Gables will focus on person-directed care resulting in self-determination and purposeful living for Alzheimer’s. This type of care reflects a shift toward optimal relationships at all levels in a home environment. Our leadership team knows through personal family experience the challenges of caring for aging parents and the illnesses that require special care in the home. In 2008, after experiencing similar challenges themselves Tim and his wife, janice, purchase a private duty franchise to offer inhome elder care. They have partnered with Kurt who specializes in residential construction built the Gables of Cottleville. The Gables is a new and distinctive residence at118 Ohmes Road in Cottleville, Missouri providing families an option for care for their loved one with Alzheimer’s/dementia in a residential setting. “While nothing can ever replace their home, here you’ll find comfortable, relaxed surroundings, independence, and an embracing culture where residents and families alike are encouraged to participate in their care, “At the Gables your loved one will find home.” The Gables is barrier free and residents are encouraged to move throughout the home visiting with staff and other Residents. Families will find an atmosphere of independence that encourages individuals to live and function at their peak abilities finding an exceptional quality of life. The Gables staff are trained in cutting-edge, evidence-based behavioral interventions to support those living with Alzheimer’s/dementia. All caregivers receive Alzheimer’s and dementia best care practice training and are required to receive ongoing training on a regular basis. Our registered nurse has 33 years of experience as a RN and our social worker has 30-plus years of experience in her field. They educate, train and provide emotional support to staff, residents family and the community. Certified nurse assistants/Level 1 Med Aides are present 24 hours a day, seven days a week. 42 | MyCottleville Magazine

The Gables includes 12 – 14 ft. x 15 ft. private rooms, each with a half bath, closet and ample space for the Resident’s own furniture, encouraging them to make the room their own. The community dining room, living room, recreation space and kitchen, feature contemporary décor and plush furniture welcoming visits with family and friends at any time. The Gables is equipped with handrails throughout as well as video surveillance inside and outside the home and a secure decorative. Residents, as well as their families are encouraged to engage in meaningful daily activities specifically designed for those with Alzheimer’s disease and dementia. These include: reminiscent therapy, music therapy, crafts, memory games, pet therapy and non-denominational religious services. Residents are also encouraged to participate in laundering, doing dishes and cleaning. Care will be built around the individual resident’s preferences. The whole goal is the home environment. Janice Effinger, director of operations at The Gables, earned her MBA from Webster University in 2004. She was also director of operations at the Effingers’ Home Care franchise from 2008 to 2016, where she oversaw the private duty and Medicaid services and supervised nursing, caregiver and administrative staff, to ensure compliance with state and corporate policies, and excellent quality of care. Janice was also the primary caregiver for her mother, father and sister during serious illnesses and through end-oflife care. “She knows the importance of aging in place and living in a home-like environment,” Effinger said. The Gables community and family educator, Barbara Bailey holds a master’s degree in social work. A graduate of George Warren Brown School of Social Work at Washington University in St. Louis, Barbara has been in the field of medical social work for 30 years. She specializes in hospice and home care and leads several Alzheimer’s support groups throughout the St. Louis metropolitan community. Registered Nurse, Rebekah McNiff, is the daughter, mother and aunt of loved ones with severe mental and physical illnesses serves. A graduate of the nursing program at Florissant Valley Community College, she now serves as nursing director at The Gables. McNiff has worked for more than three decades at BJC Healthcare in various fields, including cardiology. She also worked as research coordinator for Washington University’s Behavioral Medicine Center for seven years and most recently served as a home care nurse for a client with dementia. Though staff at The Gables is expertly trained, Effinger said those seeking care for a loved one should always consider how workers treat their residents. “They may forget your name, but they will never forget how you made them feel.” The Gables of Cottleville Memory Care Home is open and has rooms available. For more information or to schedule a tour call 314-288-8691 or email The Gables at tim@thegablesofcottleville.com. MyCottleville Magazine | 43

Life Long St. Peters Resident Makes a Difference for Local Families in Need! By: Robin Seaton Jefferson - Special Correspondant Mark Brown has made a lot of friends over the last decade. The long-time UPS driver, husband, father and grandfather didn’t set out to make friends, but rather to be a friend, when he started his “Friends Helping Friends Association” charity 10 years ago. “It just seemed like every time I turned around somebody needed help with something,” Brown said. “My wife and I liked to go to trivia nights, so I started holding them and putting the money in the bank.”

Another “friend” was on disability and unable to pay his heating bill, Mark said. “Many times that’s what it is. People are behind on their rent or other bills. Or they may need clothes. Sometimes I help food banks.” Mark makes friends everywhere. And sometimes, unbeknownst to him, they’re actually old friends. One request came on behalf of a coworker’s son’s wife’s mother, who coincidentally Mark had delivered packages to as a UPS driver years earlier. The woman had stage four cancer and needed help paying medical bills. Through the charity, Mark organizes a trivia night once a year. The idea isn’t too complicated, it’s just a big job for one person. “It’s just me,” he said. Planning for the event can take up to five months. He arranges for the location, sells at least 35 tables, takes in donations, makes sure there are snacks and drinks, and researches the trivia categories and questions.

At the time, Brown got some good advice from an old pro at fundraising—his father, the late St. Peters Mayor Tom Brown. “He told me I needed to set up a charity,” Mark Brown said. “He said I couldn’t just throw money in the bank.” So Mark took his father’s advice, and the rest, as they say, is history. Since then, Mark has helped countless people throughout the St. Charles County area who have needed everything from assistance paying bills to clothing for their children. One hundred percent of the funds Friends Helping Friends takes in goes to help those in need. Mark doesn’t just hand out cash, though. Friends Helping Friends has a unique purpose to take care of the problem, and it works. Most of the requests come by word of mouth. “I don’t give anyone money. For instance, a friend of a friend told me about a couple who needed help,” Mark said. “Their daughter was on crack and had left her kids with her mom and dad who lived in a trailer park and were on a fixed income. Winter was coming, and the kids had no winter clothes. The friend got me their sizes. I went out and bought boots and coats and pants, everything they needed.”

The event is usually held at St. Robert Bellarmine Church in St. Charles or Fireman’s Hall in St. Peters. He banks the money following the event, and draws on it all year to answer the calls of those in need. The event typically raises about $11,000 each year, he said. Friends Helping Friends isn’t the only charity for which Mark has helped organize a trivia night. He assists with the trivia event benefitting Meals on Wheels every fall. That event has raised some $80,000 in the last five years, he said. In the end, it’s really all about helping people and making new friends, Mark said. “I have a hard time telling people no.” Look for Friends Helping Friends Association on Facebook.

“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive,

and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.” -- Anaïs Nin We Support Friends Helping Friends, Assoc. Friends Helping Friends, Assoc. is a St. Charles County based charitable organization founded by, life-long St. Peters resident, Mark Brown. It was created to help local people in financial and health related crisis. 100% of the funds received through donations and fundraising events are used to help people that might otherwise not be able to get the help they desperately need.

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Local Celebrity Starring

Lindsay Harmon

By: Robin Seaton Jefferson


indsay Harmon has had cocktails with the cast of “Chicago PD.” She’s shared a movie set with Shailene Woodley, Theo James and Naomi Watts. And she has had wine with Matt Damon. Harmon doesn’t typically hobnob with the rich and famous. But the local artist, animal lover and trained meteorologist is an up and coming actor who’s worked as an extra in several films and television series and is now landing speaking roles in local projects. Known as actor Zera Lynd, a stage name she formulated using her maternal grandmother’s first name and a takeoff on her own first name, Harmon started her career in 1998 after she was invited to work as an extra in “The Informant” alongside superstar Matt Damon. She said it was just a fluke that she got the call to play an extra in what would become her first movie credit after competing in the Miss Missouri pageant. “I was just a girl drinking wine and having a salad in the movie,” Harmon said. “So I got 45 seconds of face time, then 30 seconds of the back of my head sitting near Matt Damon,” she said of her role in the 2009 biographical-comedy-crime film directed by Steven Soderbergh and written by Scott Z. Burns that was filmed at Lambert-St. Louis International Airport. Harmon dreamed of being an actor as a child. “I wanted to do this when I was young, but you always needed parental permission. My parents didn’t have the time to drive me around to all of the auditions. So when I was 21, I started looking around on my own.” Harmon soon got work as an extra, which only motivated her further. “It definitely piqued my interest. When you are an extra, people don’t necessarily see you. People are watching the main characters. We just help make the scene. So you don’t do it for fame. You do it because you enjoy it,” Harmon said. While working as an extra can be rewarding, Harmon would always prefer to play a character. She recently finished filming her role as “Sophie” in “Begin Again,” a feature film being produced locally by Vicki Kellerman-Doerr. She has worked in horror films with local director, Richard Hamilton and his production company, Morbid Curiosity. She also plays a police officer in Lilton Stewart’s production of “Michaela.” Part of her “demographic” that she shares with casting companies is, well, what many refer to nowadays as “resting bitch face.” “‘Allegiant’ needed taller people that look angry,” Harmon said, referring to Robert Schwentke’s 2016 science fiction adventure film, “Divergent Series: Allegiant.” She said she got the role because of “my resting bitch face.” Harmon plays a part in the Factionless Army fight scene in that movie. “So now anytime they’re looking for a mean mug, I apply for that too,” she said. 46 | MyCottleville Magazine

Harmon said she loves the variety afforded in acting. “I like to play different roles. I like pretending to be a doctor in one show, a cop in another or a vampire in another.” Though Harmon has technically been in the business for almost 20 years, she said she has only considered herself a “working actor” since earning her speaking and character roles. “The last two years I have traveled hard and worked hard,” Harmon said. Most surprising to Harmon since working on movie sets is that so many of the actors are simply nice people. “I was surprised about how engaging some actors are. It’s nice to see 30 people behind the scenes and in front of the scenes working toward one goal.”

It takes a positive attitude when a five-minute scene can take 14 hours to shoot. “A lot of effort goes into it.” Harmon said dealing with cameras, actors, instructions to new extras and back up film are just a few of the things that take up the hours that go into shooting a single movie scene. Harmon said she follows about 20 pages for aspiring actors on Facebook and 10 groups on the Internet, looking for work. Harmon has degrees in meteorology and broadcast journalism from Mississippi State University and Lindenwood University, respectively. In addition to her work in front of the cameras, she has also done behind-the-scenes work such as video and audio editing, compiling film clips and putting together news content. Today she works as a painting instructor at Canvas and Cocktails - the casual art class and wine party business she owns with her mother.

Besides wanting to further her career in front of the cameras the 35-year-old St. Louis resident is motivated by something else. She wants to save animals. Harmon operates a no-kill, foster-based rescue organization for feral dogs called The Feral Companion. The non-profit group caters to feral, shy and special needs dogs that shelters are often unable to accommodate because of their lengthy rehabilitation time in addition to shelter workers’ lack experience with the dogs’ special needs. Harmon said it is easier to help dogs when you have connections – especially some of the connections she has made in the movie business. When asked where she hoped to be in 10 years, Harmon’s answer was to put the animals above herself. “In the overall picture, I hope to have an area of land established for my rescues, with celebrities associated with it to help them,” Harmon said. “For myself, I want to be a role model for other people. I want to be acting or working as a meteorologist at a TV station. I love storms and weather. As a child I wanted to warn people. I like being a solid person people can look to.” As for the movie roles, she would also like to play a part in “Guardians of the Galaxy,” a series of feature films about a fictional space-faring superhero team based on the Marvel Comics. In fact, she’d be interested in anything Marvel Comics produces. And she said she wouldn’t turn down a “Jurassic Park” role either. “I hear they are coming out with “Jurassic World III” at some point. I would love to have a role in that.” For more information on Harmon’s rescue organization, visit TheFeralCompanion.org. MyCottleville Magazine | 47

Cottleville Parks and Recreation The City of Cottleville provides many ways to have an active lifestyle in our community. Enjoy the 125+ acres of park grounds and 38.5 acres of lakes. It’s easy to plan an outing or event in Cottleville’s Parks and 5K run/walks, graduation parties, birthday parties, and fundraisers events happens throughout the year. A few Special Events include the Haunted Hayride, Mission Clean Stream, the Easter Egg Hunt are home to Cottleville and it’s parks. Pavilions are available to rent by completing a Pavilion Registration Form and remit it to City Hall along with your cash/ check payment. For larger events, or if you have any questions, please contact Amy Lewis 636-498-6565 x201 or amy. lewis@cityofcottleville.com. • Legacy Park: located at 5490 Fifth Street near City Hall on Hwy N. • McCauley Playground in the future to be Hansen’s Park located behind Mercy Kids on Ohmes Road. Plans & funding for this park is under way. • Scott A Lewis Park: located in the rear of Miralago Subdivision off Mid Rivers Mall Drive at 1000 Scott A. Lewis Lane. • College Meadows Park: located on North Side of St. Charles Community College. Ckeck out this video “Cottleville Parks and Recreation “https://youtu.be/rCo0CrdN_dw https://youtu.be/rCo0CrdN_dw” Special thanks to our sponsors for this film; MTL Excavating Services, Securus Circle Of Advisors and Bemo’s Grill

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Did You Know? Do you have a kayak, paddle board, or a canoe? You can use it right here in Cottleville at Scott A. Lewis Park with easy launching via the boat ramp at Buchheit Lake. This lake is nearly 20 acres giving you lots of room for water sports of all kinds, including fishing and boating.

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Manchester by the Sea

Movie ReviewS by: Kevin Ziegemeier

Starring: Casey Affleck, Michelle Williams Rated R

Rating scale 3 Screws… EXCELLENT, A MUST SEE

2 Screws… Good, Wait for video release

1 screw… Average, Wait for Netflix release

You’ve been screwed… do not waste your time or money

It is that time of year…….Oscar season. For the people who live on the east or west coast, they have the opportunity to see movies that never make it to the theatres in the Midwest. Often times, it is these movies that get nominated for an Academy Award. Many people in the Midwest see the list of Oscar nominated movies and have never heard of several of the movies. By the time we have the opportunity to see these movies, all the award shows are over and the awards have been handed out. Fortunately for some of these low budget movies, the story and acting are so good, they get released in the Midwest theatres for us to see before the award shows. Manchester By The Sea is one of these low budget movies that has been nominated for several awards this year. In Manchester By The Sea, Lee Chandler (Casey Affleck) makes a living as a handyman at a Boston apartment building. He is single, lives in a single room in the basement, and spends his evenings drinking alone at the corner bar. His life of solitude takes a detour when he is informed that his brother has passed away. Since his brother was a single father raising a 15 year old son, Lee needed to return home to make the funeral arrangements. After the funeral, Lee is informed that his brother had made him the legal guardian of his son. While trying to deal the wishes of his deceased brother, Lee is forced to confront his past. A past that haunts him. A past that has driven him to his life of seclusion. He is conflicted between the responsibility thrust upon him and the past he cannot get away from.

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I do not get emotional in the theatre…..no matter how sad or depressing the story. However, this movie brought me to the brink of tears. My wife was crying and several other people in the theatre were crying as well. This movie will make you confront your worst fear. The story is sad and tragic. Unfortunately there is no happy ending. A movie like this is not for everyone. There are no car chases, explosions, or underlying love stories, but I do recommend it. Do not let the 137 minute run time scare you off. The story is well-paced, the acting is excellent, and the end will leave you wanting more. The Oscar nominations are well deserved. I give Manchester By The Sea... 3 enthusiastic screws!


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