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MAY 2013

EXPOSING THE LIFESTYLE OF A BISEXUAL MAN

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GUYS | RELATIONSHIPS

BI-TWEEN

GUYS | RELATIONSHIPS

HIS

SHEETS SEXUAL ATTRACTION PATTERNS OF BISEXUL MEN BY A.M. ROSENTHAL

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ome men who have had sexual experiences with both men and women identify as bisexual. However, there is a long history of skepticism about whether these men also have substantial sexual attraction toward both sexes (Krafft-Ebing, 1886; Freund, 1974). In part, this uncertainty exists because it is common for self-identified homosexual men to have first identified as bisexual, despite later professing they were never genuinely attracted to women (Rosario et al., 2006). Similarly, some bisexual men appear to have exclu- sively homosexual attractions, but identify as bisexual for reasons of perceived social acceptability (Stokes et al., 1997). It is also pos- sible that some bisexual men may engage in sexual activity with both men and women because

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they are especially sexually open- minded, even if they are strongly sexually attracted to members of only one sex. If some men’s bisexuality is motivated by sexual attraction to both sexes, this should be evident in their pattern of sexual arousal. A man’s pattern of genital arousal, in particular, provides an objective and highly valid measure of his underlying sexual orientation (Bailey, 2009). Heterosexual men typically exhibit sub- stantially greater genital responses to female sexual stimuli (i.e., sexual stimuli featuring only women) than to male sexual stim- uli, whereas homosexual men show the opposite pattern (Chivers et al., 2004; Freund, 1963; Freund et al., 1989; Sakheim et al., 1985). In contrast, studies of genital arousal patterns in bisexual men have generally not demonstrated that such men are substantially attracted to both

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GUYS | MONEY

DOUBLE DIPPING

GUYS | MONEY

HIS DOLLAR TRACKING THE BISEXUAL MAN’S DATING BUDGET

BY PETER GRAY

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ost of us think too much when we save. What do we mean? Big goals like your dream car, a vacation home by the lake, and your kids’ college education are huge and uncertain. If you wait until you know the exact cost and when it’ll strike, you’ll never save anything.

So start today. Instead of thinking about how much you’ll need to reach your goal, estimate the maximum amount you could possibly save each month, says Dan Ariely, Ph.D., author of Predictably Irrational and a professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University. To figure out exactly how much you have left over, use the budget sheets at menshealth.com/2013budget. Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime, you’re stashing dough toward the day Junior gets into Yale.

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Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime, you’re stashing dough toward the day Junior gets into Yale. Automatic payments don’t just make saving

easier—they make spending less tempting. How? Money—spending it or even thinking about spending it—causes a dopamine rush in your brain. Then you’re relying on your willpower to resist handing over your VISA. That’s a battle you’ll lose, says Chip Heath, Ph.D., a professor of organizational behavior at Stanford University. “You can’t advise people to ‘spend less,’” he says. “You’re creating a willpower struggle that will have to be fought on a day-to-day, week-to-week basis.” So remove as many of those decisions as

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GUYS | CAREER

GUYS | CAREER

PLEASURE BUSINESS PLEASURE THE BALANCING ACT OF BUSINESS, PLEASURE AND PLEASURE AGAIN

JOHN SANDERS

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ost of us think too much when we save. What do we mean? Big goals like your dream car, a vacation home by the lake, and your kids’ college education are huge and uncertain. If you wait until you know the exact cost and when it’ll strike, you’ll never save anything.

Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime, you’re stashing dough toward the day Junior gets into Yale.

So start today. Instead of thinking about how much you’ll need to reach your goal, estimate the maximum amount you could possibly save each month, says Dan Ariely, Ph.D., author of Predictably Irrational and a professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University. To figure out exactly how much you have left over, use the budget sheets at menshealth. com/2013budget.

ier—they make spending less tempting. How? Money—spending it or even thinking about spending it—causes a dopamine rush in your brain. Then you’re relying on your willpower to resist handing over your VISA. That’s a battle you’ll lose, says Chip Heath, Ph.D., a professor of organizational behavior at Stanford University. “You can’t advise people to ‘spend less,’” he says. “You’re creating a willpower struggle that will have to be fought on a day-to-day, week-to-

Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime, you’re

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Automatic payments don’t just make saving eas-

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GUYS | SEX ADVICE

SEXPERTISE

FOR MEN WITH THE LADIES WITH THE FELLAS 1. Strap on some sexy briefs or boxers 2. Keep your naughty bits well-maintained. A simple trim can suffice if a bikini wax is an undesirable (ouch!) option. 3. Try a lap-dance or a sexy strip-tease. That doesn't mean you have to spend a fortune on lingerie -- you can easily remove the frumpiest clothes sexily. 4. Sexy texts can really get him going. Send him something like, "I can't wait for you to get home tonight -- got a surprise for you," and, well, give him a surprise! 5. If you're separated by many miles, try phone sex. It may feel weird at first, but it can be wicked sexy if you go with it. 6. Try something new. If your man isn't someone who is loud in the bedroom, explore new territory with him. 7. Lose all your inhibitions. Nothing revs a man up more than knowing that what he's doing to you is driving you wild. 8. Guide him into doing what you like. Take his hand and put it wherever you'd like it to go -- not only is this sexy for you, it's a total turn-on for a guy.

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1. The Reverse Cowgirl Position Perhaps one of the more popular sex positions, with the Reverse Cowgirl the angle of the penis through the front wall of the vagina stimulates the area of her G-spot. She'll be happy and so will you. Cowgirl hat not required, but highly suggested. Heels to the Sky Position Will "sex in the air" really make for the best sex position? One guy thinks so, so maybe give it a whirl. 2. The Yab-Yum Position Start out facing each other -- in the Yab-Yum position, which is you cross-legged and her sitting in your lap facing you, generally with our foreheads touching. Then, synchronize your breathing. Oh, and there's more. Good luck. 3. The Finger Sex Position Let's bring it back to basics. Old school tips and tricks on how to finger a girl learned from the Japanese by curling your index and middle fingers like you're gripping the trigger of an M1 carbine and apply steady, rhythmic pressure just inside the vagina. 4. The Butterfly Position Looking to find her G Spot? The password is: Butterfly Position. This is when where the girl has her legs all the way up, and then she has to suck in right as she’s about to... 5. The Tea-Bagging Position Yes, it’s a position too. Finally we clear up the


GIRLS | SEX ADVICE

SEXPERTISE

FOR WOMEN WITH THE LADIES 1. It’s safer at the shallow end. What I mean by this is that, evidence suggests, the outer third of the vagina is the most sensitive, so deep thrusting isn’t essential - at least not for her! Instead, try ‘dipping’ the tip of your member in and out of her vagina. 2. There are more than two erogenous zones. Yes the breasts and pubic area are obvious hot-spots but they get a lot hotter when stimulated in conjunction with other areas. Try kissing and gently stroking her neck, back, stomach and inner thighs. 3. Women are slow burners. For women, good sex takes time. Women are also more emotional lovers. So dedicating 10-15 minutes prior to sex, cuddling, kissing and holding your partner will be infinitely more successful at getting her aroused than spending a frustrating 5 minutes rubbing an unresponsive disappointed clitoris. 4. Tell her how great she looks. And mean it. On the whole, women don’t love to be naked. The second her clothes come off she feels vulnerable and sensitive. When she undresses, tell her what you love about her body. And if she tries to turn the lights off, turn them back on to show her she has nothing to be embarrassed about. 5. Assume the right position. Yes, the piece of the puzzle will always go together but there are certain tricks that will help make sure they are the perfect fit. By simply sliding a

WITH THE FELLAS 1. Just like women like a blended orgasm (more than one part of the vagina stimulated at the same time), men do, too. Try mixing up a hand-job or a blow-job by playing with his testicles. 2. Talk dirty to him. If you’re not used to it, it may feel WAY awkward, but the more you do it, the more second-nature it will become. And there’s a bonus! It may turn you on, too. 3. Bust out the sex toys -- remember, they can be multipurpose. Use them to stimulate the shaft of the penis while giving a blowjob to bring him to new heights of orgasm. 4. Switch positions. It’s easy to fall into the whole, “We have sex missionary style,” or “I’m always on top,” but you may find yourself pleasantly surprised by new positions. 5. Make sex a surprise. Put on his favorite pair of underwear and meet him at the door when he comes home from work. 6. Join him in the shower. No reason getting clean can’t come AFTER getting dirty. 7. Bring a bunch of pillows into the bedroom. They’ll help to achieve -- and enjoy -- new sexual positions.

Illustrated by Felicia Neuhof

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GIRLS | MONEY

GIRLS | MONEY

TIPS AND TRICKS FOR

JANICE SMITH

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ost of us think too much when we save. What do we mean? Big goals like your dream car, a vacation home by the lake, and your kids’ college education are huge and uncertain. If you wait until you know the exact cost and when it’ll strike, you’ll never save anything. So start today. Instead of thinking about how much you’ll need to reach your goal, estimate the maximum amount you could possibly save each month, says Dan Ariely, Ph.D., author of Predictably Irrational and a professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University. To figure out exactly how much you have left over, use the budget sheets at menshealth.com/2013budget. Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime,

you’re stashing dough toward the day Junior gets into Yale. Automatic payments don’t just make saving easier— they make spending less tempting. How? Money— spending it or even thinking about spending it—causes a dopamine rush in your brain. Then you’re relying on your willpower to resist handing over your VISA. That’s a battle you’ll lose, says Chip Heath, Ph.D., a professor of organizational behavior at Stanford University. “You can’t advise people to ‘spend less,’” he says. “You’re creating a willpower struggle that will have to be fought on a day-to-day, week-to-week basis.” So remove as many of those decisions as you can through automatic bill pay and savings withdrawals.

THE BISEXUAL WOMAN

IN THE WORKPLACE

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Illustrated by Felicia Neuhof

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GIRLS | MONEY

GIRLS | MONEY

HER DOLLARS

her DATES EXPLORING THE BISEXUAL WOMAN’S DATING EXPENSES DATING BUDGET

BY KATHARINE WINSLOW

Most of us think too much when we save. What do we mean? Big goals like your dream car, a vacation home by the lake, and your kids’ college education are huge and uncertain. If you wait until you know the exact cost and when it’ll strike, you’ll never save anything. So start today. Instead of thinking about how much you’ll need to reach your goal, estimate the maximum amount you could possibly save each month, says Dan Ariely, Ph.D., author of Predictably Irrational and a professor of psychology and behavioral economics at Duke University. To figure out exactly how much you have left over, use the budget sheets at menshealth.com/2013budget. Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime, you’re stashing dough toward the day Junior gets into Yale.

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Then set up automatic payments from your paycheck toward your goal. If you find you need more spending cash during the month, you can always adjust—but in the meantime, you’re stashing dough toward the day Junior gets into Yale. Automatic payments don’t just make sav-

ing easier—they make spending less tempting. How? Money—spending it or even thinking about spending it—causes a dopamine rush in your brain. Then you’re relying on your willpower to resist handing over your VISA. That’s a battle you’ll lose, says Chip Heath, Ph.D., a professor of organizational behavior at Stanford University. “You can’t advise people to ‘spend less,’” he says. “You’re creating a willpower struggle that will have to be fought on a day-today, week-to-week basis.” So remove as many

Photo by Felicia Neuhof

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GIRLS | RELATIONSHIPS

BI-TWEEN

GIRLS | RELATIONSHIPS

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SHEETS CONFESSIONS OF BISEXUAL WOMEN’S LOVE-LIVES BY NATALIE STONE

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ike most women, I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. I have even admitted to being open to experimentation ("Of course I would sleep with Halle Berry! It's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity"). For women, it's perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy), and according to the latest research, it's the norm. A new study reveals that women's sexual preferences tend to be a gray area (yep, identity confusion wasn't just for those college dorm days). In fact, researchers at Boise State University found that in a group of heterosexual women, 60 percent were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and

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50 percent had fantasies about the same sex. I fall into that 60 percent. Sometimes when I catch myself staring at a beau-

tiful woman in the grocery store, I wonder about my own sexuality. I'm not supposed to like girls! (At least according to society.) Would I date a woman? I'm not sure, but I am attracted to the beauty of other women - and they're so much easier to understand psychologically than men. We girls form deep relationships through friendships, which some say are the basis of love. And personally I believe that emotional connection and physical attraction are linked - i.e., guys tend to get cuter in our eyes if they're genuinely nice.

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MAY 2013

EXPOSING THE LIFESTYLE OF A BISEXUAL WOMAN

$4.95 USD


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