The man said,
‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘ woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” ~ Genesis 2:23-24 (NIV) ~
In the midst of marital disagreement it is not uncommon for a spouse to wonder if there isn’t somebody with whom they would be more compatible.
Suleyman Guresci, of Izmir, Turkey divorced his wife of 21 years after a bitter six-year court battle. In an effort to find the ideal woman, Guresci turned to a computer dating service the kind that evaluates your written profile and suggests matches for you.
Ironically, from a list of 2000 prospective brides, the computer selected his former wife, who unbeknownst to Guresci had signed up for the same service. (I know it sounds like a Hallmark made for television movie but it did happen!)
He decided to remarry his wife just nine months after their divorce.
He said, “I did not know that my ex-wife had been the ideal counterpart for a marriage. I decided to give it another try by being more tolerant toward her.”
Your ideal mate might just be the one you’ve already married.
Most of us understand the permanent nature of marriage/family relationships; we understand the need to approach problems at home with the attitude of “How can we make this work?” But WE FORGET. When trouble rears its head WE FORGET about focusing on how to make things work and instead we often fantasize of finding a better place to be. WE FORGET how important this attitude is to our marriage. WE FORGET how important this attitude is in other areas of our lives as well.
The principle Guresci learned also applies to a number of other areas: your church, your ministry, your job, and so on.
Church Growth Specialist, C. Peter Wagner, points out that one common characteristic of effective pastors is a commitment to stay. They’re not looking for greener pastures.
Just as God gave you your spouse and family, he placed you in your current circumstances. Maybe your job or your ministry is more than a little challenging, and maybe you’d like to move on.
Think before you do. Think before you even allow yourself to daydream about it. More than likely, God’s plan is for you to work through this situation. Even if ultimately He calls you elsewhere, He wants you to resolve this issue before you go.
Just like Guresci learned about his marriage your ideal situation might be the one you’re in right now. So keep Paul’s words in mind this week:
“Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.” ~ 1 Corinthians 15:58 (NIV) ~
Blessings on your week. Make sure that you don’t FORGET and are standing firm where God has called you to be. Looking forward to seeing you this coming Sunday for In-Person or Online Worship as we continue IMMERSE POETS with ACrash Course on Unquenchable Love.Pastor Terrell