Re-planning Your Relationship Contributing Editor: Felisha Bradshaw Just when you thought love conquered all, a little thing called being on the same page comes into your relationship and leaves a gap between you and your spouse. You begin to question if love is enough. In the beginning of your relationship you may have thought that the “L” word would carry your relationship into a world where it was worn across your chest and held power like the “S” on Superman’s. But then as the years pass and the arguments become overwhelming and consistent. There is no question that you still love her and her touch still sends chills up your spine and when her lips touch yours passion creates butterflies that flutter from your midsection, turning into liquid butterflies that escape between your legs. But then the question becomes stronger each time you argue. What use to make you upset; where you could walk away, think things through, and let it go as a disagreement between lovers turns into anger that has you mad for days, not wanting to talk it out, hear her out, tossing in your sleep because you’re trying to stay clear of her naked body, you even have thoughts of infidelity; thinking that someone else would understand you better. When you argue the things that you both say are harmful, some things you can’t take back and you wonder if you even want to. The words sting like alcohol on a deep cut, wounding your heart. You wonder how this could be when you still love her; you still want the future you both talked about. Then you realize that you haven’t spoken about the future in a long while. You wonder if you are still on the same page or in the same paragraph, like you use to be. She used to listen to your dreams, wanted to incorporate her dreams with yours… you both had a plan. So to make sure that all is going as planned you strike up a conversation.
Published on Aug 15, 2012
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