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100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence
If the person you love withdraws on a regular basis, and you have to go hunting for him or her, I suggest you have a deep conversation about the behavior and see what the cause is. This kind of action can make you feel abandoned, and that will take away from the depth of your love. If you isolate as a means of getting back at someone, you are also hurting yourself. This passive-aggressive behavior may feel right in the moment, but after a little time has passed, you will feel lonely because you never shared what it was that hurt you in the first place. And if you don’t talk about what bothers you, it will never stop. Those who sequester themselves may also be dealing with depression and/or anxiety; they believe an illusion that being alone makes it all better. Not everyone who chooses to be alone has a mood disorder, but if you’re also a little blue, you should get yourself checked out by a professional. Being disconnected from the rest of the human race may make you feel safe or empowered, but it’s a temporary feeling. In addition, it is hard to feel confident when there’s no one around to validate your existence. We are social beings, and life is much more meaningful when you have someone to share it with.