Family Community Church 478 Piercy Rd San Jose CA 95138
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EASTER SERVICES: APRIL 19 @ 5:00 PM, APRIL 20 @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM
You’ll find inspiring services and friendly people at FCC! Come visit soon!
Easter Services ................................3 Singles Ministry ..............................4 Business & Leadership .................. 4 DivorceCare ....................................5 Young Adults...................................4 Children’s Ministry .........................6 Jr High & High School ....................7 Marriage Ministry ..........................7 Moms Groups .................................8 Women’s Ministry ...........................8 Celebrate Recovery ........................9
FCC is conveniently located at the gateway to the Silver Creek Area & Evergreen Valley, right off Highways 85 and 101! 478 Piercy Rd, San Jose CA 95138 408-365-0313
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WEEKEND SERVICES: SATURDAYS @ 5 PM, SUNDAYS @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • A quarterly publication • Issue #110 • Published by Family Community Church 478 Piercy Rd, San Jose CA 95138 • Editor: Danielle Brown • Photos: John Stalker, Danielle Brown
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FAMILY COMMUNITY CHURCH Spring 2014 Issue
A Quarterly Publication of Family Community Church Spring 2014
SOMetHinG FOR eVeRyOne Check out what you’ll find at FCC!
easter is All About a Fresh Start Change. Sometimes we like it. Sometimes we resist it. Change scares us. We don’t know how to handle what’s next. You lose a baby or a mom or dad, or friend. A family fractures… divorce happens, right? Finally…a new job! You can’t get the classes you need to graduate on time. A major illness strikes. You just moved into Silicon Valley and don’t know where Costco is. You just got promoted! Change. What keeps people flocking to Family Community Church are programs and small groups where people get help to handle change successfully. People call this church a “hope filling station!”
Inside this Spirit newspaper are opportunities to help you explore the spiritual dimensions of life. FCC’s 130,000 SF campus at 478 Piercy Road features multiple auditoriums, high tech youth and children’s facilities, food court, batting cages, and seminar rooms for 12 Step Programs and Divorce Recovery Groups. Our campus is at the gateway to the Silver Creek Area and Evergreen Valley, near the intersection of Hellyer Avenue and Silver Creek Valley Road.
May 1 FCC launches small groups using study guides based on the recent blockbuster movie, “Son of God.” What a great way to help you with life changes! FCC has the largest singles and young adult population of any Silicon Valley church. Our Tuesday night college and young adult services are incredible. If you attend San Jose State, Gavilan, DeAnza, Foothill, City College, or Evergreen you are likely to see friends at FCC you know from school. If you’re a young professional working at Linked In or Google your friends may already be coming to FCC on Tuesdays at 7 PM. If you are widowed or starting over again after a failed marriage FCC is a safe place to hang out with others and navigate change. Why be lonely when God has a place waiting for you that can bring healing and meaning and a fresh start? Easter is all about getting a fresh start. The Bible says, “A clean slate and a fresh start come from God by way of Jesus Christ.” The resurrection of Jesus changed time forever and split history into A.D. and B.C. And that resurrection power is available to bring you new life, good changes, and a fresh start!
Enjoy a coﬀee with friends and snacks from our Food Court on Sundays! FAMILY COMMUNITY CHURCH is a GROWING, non-denominational church designed to meet your needs. • • • • •
Meet new friends and get to know your neighbors Experience incredible musicians and uplifting music Quality media and stage props that make sermons come alive Positive, practical messages that encourage you Trust your children to the care of dedicated nursery workers and incredible programs like AWANA
Weekly Meeting Options: 1. Saturday 5:00 PM Worship Service in The Café Auditorium. 2. Sunday 9:00 AM and 10:45 AM Worship Services in the Main
Pastor Bill Buchholz delivers relevant, Biblical messages at FCC!
Sunday 9:00 AM Traditions Service in The Chapel. With classic hymns!
Sunday 9:00 and 10:45 AM in The Food Court Lobby. Enjoy food and our worship service at the same time! A convenient, informal way to meet friends.
Tuesday, 7 PM, Young Adults Service in Stage3 Auditorium. A great band, exciting singing and passionate preaching—all geared at college and young professional adults. 6. Friday, 7 PM, Celebrate Recovery Service in Stage3 Auditorium. A safe setting to overcome struggles because of habits, hurts and hang ups that limit your potential. Pastor Mindy Scratch is nationally recognized for leading a team that has made FCC’s CR program one of the best in America.
We are easy to find off Highways 85 and 101 in South San Jose. Call 408365-0313 or go to www.FCCchurch.com. View a typical church service online. Check out our 12 Step Program (Celebrate Recovery). GriefShare is for people who have recently lost a loved one through death. Divorce Care offers healing for divorced and blended families. AWANA programs are a must for kids. I’d love to meet you personally! Bill Buchholz Founding & Senior Pastor Family Community Church
POWeRFUl MeSSAGeS Practical, Biblical messages in services throughout the week!
ClASSeS FOR KiDS Classes designed for kids of all ages, plus fun special events!
yOUnG ADUltS An exploding ministry for young adults ages 18-37!
DynAMiC MUSiC Upbeat worship times in all of our services, from kids to adults! Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 1
We Are Proud to Call FCC Home Brian and Carey Gil have been attending Family Community Church since Spring of 2002… they think. It’s been so long now it’s hard for them to remember exactly! Brought to the church by a Spirit newspaper at Easter time, they found that FCC could be the church home that they had been looking for. Carey, raised Presbyterian, and Brian, who was not raised attending church, were taken in by the modern, awesome worship music and the practical and applicable sermons by Pastor Bill. Brian became a Christian after beginning to attend FCC and both chose to be baptized over the last few years. “Deciding to be baptized was a big step for me,” says Carey. “Growing up Presbyterian, that’s not something that was ever discussed as something to do as an adult. The more I heard Pastor Bill talk about it, the more I heard God calling me to take a leap (or dunk) of faith. I was so nervous to get up there in front of everyone… but I knew that was the point!” Brian and Carey met at UCLA and were college sweethearts who met in an 8:00 am Statistics class—who says math can’t be interesting? They moved up to the Bay Area after college and were married in 2000.
Brian is a Silicon Valley veteran and is currently running the product management team for Articulate Software out of his home office. “It’s very easy to get caught up in the materialism and competitiveness of the tech world. I really value how many of the messages at FCC relate the timeless knowledge in the Bible to our area’s unique stresses and shift the focus back to what really matters,” says Brian. He has been involved in the FCC Signs Ministry for many years, placing directional signs on nearby streets, making sure that people find their way to the church. He’s been doing it since back in the days when the family’s largest car was a VW Jetta, which made the process an interesting Jenga-like exercise. Carey is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker working as a Social Work Supervisor for the Refugee Foster Care Program at Catholic Charities. She is the coordinator of FCC’s “MOMSNext” Group (a “spinoff ” of MOPS, a group for mothers of school-aged children), and was active in the MOPS group for 4 years prior to chartering the MOMSNext group this past Fall. She also has volunteered in a variety of positions in the KidzPlanet Children’s
Ministry over the last 12 years and can be found now greeting parents and children at the check-in desk at KidzPlanet. Brian and Carey remember when FCC moved from the Great Oaks Blvd campus to the current campus on Piercy Road in 2006, excited to be helping paint the rooms in KidzPlanet because their own children would soon be enjoying them. Hannah (age “almost 8” years), Holden (5 years) and Alyssa (2 years) can be seen running through the KidzPlanet halls and occupying the playground swings during most Sundays. When not singing VBS songs and coming up with unexpectedly profound prayers, their hobbies include Little League baseball, Girl Scouts, music, and dancing like nobody is watching. The Gil family is proud to call Family Community Church home. They are profoundly grateful for the personal and spiritual growth, friendships and camaraderie that they have experienced as a result of their time here and are looking forward to many more exciting years as a part of this congregation.
FCC’S CORe VAlUeS At FCC we are on mission to lead people to become fully devoted followers of Christ. We have values that drive us: 1: We’re after life change. We want people to take steps in their spiritual relationships with Jesus. We believe nobody has ever spiritually arrived, and there’s always the next step to get closer to God. We want people to take that next step. 2: We value excellence. If we do it, it has to be our absolute best. This doesn’t mean perfection. It means honoring the God who gave us His best. 3: We believe church is not a spectator sport. We want every believer to ask themselves, “Who am I? What tools has God given me and how can I use them for God?” 4: Spiritual growth encompasses your whole life, not just what happens on Sunday. If you’re not becoming a better spouse, a better parent, a better employee, Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 2
6: We believe that people matter to God. So we have a heart for the lost because God has a heart for the lost. 7: In order to reach people no one else is reaching, we’re going to have to do things no one else is doing. So we’ll have to be on the cutting edge, and we’ll have to take risks. This will make some people uncomfortable. We don’t care. 8: We are culturally diverse. If you’re breathing, you’re welcome here. 9: We believe that “we” is greater than “me.” What we become together trumps what any of us could aspire to be alone.
Come visit this weekend! Sunday Worship Services
9:00 & 10:45 AM In FCC’s Main Auditorium 9:00 AM: Classes for Nursery - Grade 4 10:45 AM: Classes for Nursery - Sr High
Saturday Worship Service
5:00 PM in the Cafe with childcare for ages 18 months - 11 years old
Sunday @ 9:00 AM in the Chapel with traditional hymns & choruses FCC is a non-denominational Christian church open to everyone! For more information, we invite you to visit our web site at www.FCCchurch.com.
Good Friday Service
a better friend, or, in general, a more loving person, you’re doing it wrong. 5: We don’t want to burn out, and we don’t want to rust out. We believe God gives clear direction to each of us, so we should be led by the Holy Spirit. What has God asked you to do? What has God tasked you to do? Ok. Now go do that!
Friday, April 18 7:00-8:30 PM 10: We will be contributors, not consumers. As a church, as a group, as a family, we will come together to sacrifice for this vision. We will give, and then we’ll give some more, and then we’ll give some more, and some more, because that’s what Jesus did for us… And it’s the least that we can do. *************** You can view our Core Values video on our web site at www.FCCchurch.com. Click on About FCC.
Hosted by FCC’s Celebrate Recovery Ministry Everyone is invited to attend! Pastor Chase Wiggins will share with us on the topic of “True Love Is Red.” There is no greater love than that which was demonstrated 2,000 years ago on a mountain in Jerusalem. Please join us as we reflect on what true love is, and how we too are called to love in the same way that we were shown love. We will offer extended worship and communion as well. Childcare is available for $5/child. Don’t miss this powerful service!
Saturday, April 19 @ 5:00 PM
Easter at FCC: Incredible music and compelling sermons! Saturday, April 19 @ 5:00 PM & Sunday, April 20 @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM The message of Jesus was fueled by a radical new ethic of love. One crucifixion changed everything. This radical love that Jesus offers is available to us and through us. But, do we truly know it and live it? The resurrection of Jesus is the most important event in human history and yet it might surprise you that it has nothing to do with religion. It is actually much bigger than that. And it has a lesson for our everyday lives.
On Palm Sunday weekend, April 12 & 13, the sermon “Radical Love” will explore the reality of crucifixion in the first century and its implications for us today. Then, Easter weekend, in all 3 services April 19 & 20, the sermon “There’s Nothing Religious About It” addresses what makes Christianity so different from every religion in the world.
Join us on Saturday, Apri 19 at 5pm in our Kidzplanet auditorium as families will ‘Walk With Jesus.’ This is an experiential and moving family Easter event where parents and children travel together in Jesus’ footsteps during his last week on earth. Families travel to Jerusalem for Palm Sunday, sit down for the Last Supper, pray in the Garden of Gethsemane, discover the sacrifice
of Good Friday, and celebrate freedom from sins at the empty tomb. Your entire family will walk away with a greater understanding of what Jesus did and what the Easter Celebration is all about. You will not want to miss out on this unforgettable, moving experience for the entire family.
Cost is $10 per family if registered by April 15. $15 at the door.
Register at www.FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313
If you ever wondered about your life purpose and if God can help you find it, don’t miss hearing these relevant sermons.
“Son of God” Movie Small Group Studies Start at FCC after Easter From the creators of ‘The Bible’ miniseries, ‘Son of God’ explores the life of Jesus Christ from his birth through the resurrection using selections of the miniseries as well as deleted scenes. The film features powerful performances, exotic locales, dazzling visual effects and a rich orchestral score. It’s the first motion picture about Jesus’ life since Passion of the Christ released ten years ago.
Weekend Sermon Series April 26 - June 29 What does it mean to be a Christian? Ask 100 people that question and you are likely to get 100 different answers. In the sermon series beginning April 26 & 27, Christian, we will explore the one word that Jesus gave his followers that should define them. Join us! You’ll examine the characteristics Jesus used to define those who follow him and the implications they have for believers today. The words used to describe Christians today often bear no resemblance to what Jesus wanted his followers to be known for. In this sermon series, you’ll learn: • What one word should be descriptive of every Christian • How Jesus’ followers should treat those who are outside the faith • Why people love Jesus but can’t stand his followers
What does it mean to be Christian? Curiously, the term is never used in Scripture. Instead, Christian was a label used by outsiders to define Jesus’ followers. Jesus referenced ‘disciple’ as the key word he used to describe his supporters along with the fact that they would be known for their love – a novel concept for their time – and ours today.
We encourage you to go see the movie and then get involved in a FCC small group Bible study, based on the movie. Son of God 6 week Bible Study: The Life of Jesus in You By Rick Warren, author of Purpose Driven Life and Pastor of Saddleback Church What would happen if you applied the lessons from events in Jesus' life temptation, suffering, death, resurrection - to your own? Would you come to know Him more intimately and with a
greater understanding of your purpose? Would you embody more completely the mission, love, and mind of Jesus? Small Group Studies May 1 through June 5 FCC will offer ‘Son of God’ 6 week small group studies at our campus on Thursday nights at 7:00 PM, starting May 1, where children and youth programs are available. We also want many groups to meet in homes, college campuses, and offices. Visit our web site for a list of small groups that meet during the week. Study Materials Everyone who does the study will need to pre-order a study guide, available from Saddleback Resources, and bring it to the group with you. Links to purchase resources are on our web site.
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What if believers today embodied these traits? Would the non-believing world put aside its definition of ‘Christian’ and instead know us by our love? This sermon series will provide you with a practical tool that can help grow your faith or find faith if you are searching for answers. Join us on Saturdays @ 5:00 PM and Sundays @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM!
Small Group Studies on Thursday nights at FCC provide the chance to make friendships and grow in your faith! Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 3
What Helps YOU Grow? Excerpt from John Ortberg’s book: “The Me I Want to Be: Becoming God’s Best Version of You” If you’re single and over 35, be sure to check out our Singles Ministry! We get together for fun activities, game nights, outdoor hikes, Bible studies, and holiday dances. Join us for lunch after the Sunday 10:45 AM service each week. Come on out to our next event! It’s a great place to have fun and build relationships. Game Night - Saturday, April 12 @ 6:00-9:00 PM in Room 252 Spring Dance - Saturday, May 17 @ 6:00-10:30 PM in Stage3 Auditorium Potluck & Game Night - Saturday, June 21 @ 6:00-9:00 PM in Room 252 Singles Bible Study - Thursdays @ 7:00 PM at FCC, with the exception of any 5th Thursdays of the month Visit www.FCCchurch.com or email Singles@FCCchurch.com for more information, or stop by the Singles Kiosk in FCC’s Lobby after Sunday services!
Biblical Business Training The Biblical Business Training group helps professionals learn how to apply our faith and Biblical principles at work. We invite you to join us for breakfast twice a month and connect in an informal, supportive environment!
Every other Monday @ 7:00-8:00 AM In FCC’s Lobby Cafe - Coffee served, plus optional Breakfast @ 6:30 AM ($5) For upcoming dates, visit www.FCCchurch.com - Events/Info - FCC Calendar
It Hurts to Lose Someone... Find help at GriefShare GriefShare is a friendly, caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences. You don’t have to go through the grieving process alone. GriefShare is led by people who understand what you are going through and want to help. You’ll gain access to valuable GriefShare resources to help you recover from your loss and look forward to rebuilding your life.
Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM, February 27 - May 15 Cost is $15 for workbook. Childcare programs available - see web site for info.
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When a young shepherd boy named David was preparing for battle against Goliath, King Saul stepped in to help. But he made the mistake we so often make in other battles: He figured that whatever would be helpful to him would also be helpful to David. So King Saul — who stood “head and shoulders” above every man in Israel — dressed up David in his own tunic and armor, crowned him with his helmet, and armed him with his sword. David “tried walking around” in them, the Bible says, but it was no use. Saul was a size 52 long and David was a 36 regular. Saul was a warrior; David was a shepherd. Saul was a man; David was a teenager. The very things that would help Saul in a battle would only hinder David. Fortunately, David had enough selfawareness and courage to name the problem. “I cannot go in these,” David said, “because I am not used to them.” David had to set aside Saul’s equipment and use what would help him — a sling, some stones, and nimble feet — and Saul ended up sending David with the best help he could give: “Go, and the Lord be with you.” The greatest battle of life is spiritual. It is the struggles with resentment and anger and greed and superiority that keep me from living in the flow with God. How often in spiritual life do we get burdened because we try to wield weapons that have helped someone else in the battle? We hear about how someone else prays, or reads Scripture to start or end their day, or worships, or studies, or serves — and we feel guilty if we don’t do the same. We get frustrated because what works for someone else is not helpful to us. We are like David, trying to walk around in Saul’s armor... God is a hand-crafter The key is not treating every [person] alike; it is finding the unique conditions that help each [person] grow... Our great model for this is God himself, for he always knows just what each person needs. He had Abraham take a walk, Elijah take
a nap, Joshua take a lap, and Adam take the rap. He gave Moses a forty-year time out, he gave David a harp and a dance, and he gave Paul a pen and a scroll. He wrestled with Jacob, argued with Job, whispered to Elijah, warned Cain, and comforted Hagar. He gave Aaron an altar, Miriam a song, Gideon a fleece, Peter a name, and Elisha a mantle. God is a hand-crafter, not a massproducer. Jesus was stern with the rich young ruler, tender with the woman caught in adultery, patient with the disciples, blistering with the scribes, gentle with the children, and gracious with the thief on the cross. God never grows two people the same way. God is a hand-crafter, not a mass-producer. Now it is your turn. God has existed from eternity — but he has never had a relationship with you before. He wants to do a new thing with you. The problem many people face when it comes to spiritual growth is that they listen to someone they think of as the expert — maybe the pastor of their church — talk about what he does, and think that is what they are supposed to do. When it doesn’t work for them — because they are a different person! — they feel guilty and inadequate; they often give up. Trying to grow spiritually without taking who you are into account is like trying to raise children on an assembly line. If you train an 80-pound gymnast and a 300-pound linebacker exactly the same, you will end up with two useless 190-pound people. What, then, do I need to know to learn how God wants to help me grow? ... Here is a question: What do you do that makes you feel fully alive? John Ortberg is an author, speaker, and senior pastor of Menlo Park Presbyterian Church. Read more at www.JohnOrtberg. com. This excerpt appeared in www. zondervan.typepad.com.
Young Adults Ages 18-37 Weekly Services ~ Tuesdays @ 7:00 PM Discipleship Groups ~ Wednesdays @ 7:00 PM Encounter has grown by the grace of God and is thriving! Our weekly Tuesday Nights services are nothing short of incredible. The services consist of worship, media, creative arts, and a powerful word. If you are between the ages of 18-37, I want to personally invite you to Encounter. In our short time together I can promise you that you’ll experience community, fellowship, powerful worship, a great teaching, and most of all a loving God who loves you and wants to use you. We believe that everyone in their hearts has a space that only God can fill, so please come and join us to be filled by God! In the midst of growth, this year we have also really been focusing on the “shadow moments” of our lives. The shadow moments are basically doing things for the Lord that are unseen by people, and one area where we have seen tremendous fruit is in our Wednesday night discipleship program called The Exchange.
The Exchange is very practical and consists of a 15 minute teaching, followed by small groups (guys and guys have separate groups). If you are struggling with your next steps in your spiritual journey, whether it is prayer, reading the Bible, or just going deeper in God, then I want to encourage you to come out on Wednesday Night to the Exchange at 7:00 PM. We serve a “come as you are” God, so we are a “come as you are” church. When you walk into our doors I can promise you that you will be loved by God and loved by people. So wherever you are at on your journey with God, come to our group and feel the love of Jesus that saves, transforms, and changes our lives.
Youth & Young Adults Pastor CWiggins@ FCCchurch.net
Divorce Hurts... You don’t have to go through it alone Most people will tell you that separation and divorce are the most painful and stressful experiences they’ve ever faced. It’s a confusing time when you feel isolated and have lots of questions about issues you’ve never faced before. DivorceCare meets weekly to help you face these challenges and move toward rebuilding your life. Each DivorceCare session has two distinct elements: A Seminar with Experts: During the first 30–40 minutes of the meeting, watch a video seminar featuring top experts on divorce and recovery subjects. These videos feature expert interviews, real-life case studies and on-location video. A Support Group with Focus: After viewing the video, spend time as a support group, discussing what was presented in that week’s video seminar and what is going on in the lives of group members.
Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM Cost is $15 for workbook. Childcare programs available - see web site for info.
Register at www.FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313
Shoes & Secrets
By Missy Takano
Figuring out friendships as a post college adult My parents drove me to Oregon and helped fill my dorm room with everything a college freshman might need: a bookshelf, clean socks, a desk lamp, chocolate. Within an hour of arriving, I made friends with two girls down the hall who were every bit as extroverted as I was at eighteen. It was so darn easy to make friends when we were all students. Study was our work, so we were coworkers. We lived in the same hall, so we shared all the things that roommates share - mostly shoes and secrets. We were figuring out life and navigating adulthood at the same time, in all the same contexts. My college friends were the most full-time friends I’ve ever had, and it was effortless to build those friendships. After we’d all graduated, we were still roommates, sharing a house in a really trendy part of Portland. Within a few months of each other, four of us got engaged. We all married and moved out at the same time. The bridal showers were out of hand. Friendships, I started to learn, aren’t actually effortless. Years later, it still feels like a weird, new thing when I start to make a friend. Like a haircut that I think probably looks great, but I’m just not used to it yet and I’m not sure if I’m doing the right thing with it. Those extroverted college girls ruined me for making friends. It turns out, great relationships don’t usually happen within the first hour of meeting someone. Not in the post-college life. I might hit it off well with someone I’ve just met at church, but we won’t likely walk arm-in-arm to the cafeteria tomorrow or borrow each other’s study notes for Dr. Hauff ’s class. It’s been a disappointing adjustment, especially when I need to borrow a pair of shoes and my husband’s just don’t go with my outfit. Forging friendships takes way more effort and intention and time in this season of life than it did in my teens. But because of that, the relationships I build now tend to be rather meaningful. I might only see someone once every other month, but we’ve rearranged schedules to make that meeting happen, and we care about that time together. A friend who has two little kids, like I do, might have zero energy for
a coffee date on the weekend. No problem: me neither. So we text each other while we’re each rocking a baby to sleep and, line by line, generate deep conversations about faith and family. My husband made a great analogy. He said that most college friendships are like microwaved meals: they’re fast and convenient but may not be the highest quality. Now that we have to work much harder at friendship relationships, they’re like a slow-cooker recipe. Much more time required, but probably a far better result. We are definitely nourished in the relationships that we forge these days. Sometimes I find myself still wishing that a new best friend would just happen, that a girlfriend would call me up to ask for my study guide. But then I arrive, a bit bedraggled, at a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) group meeting at church on Wednesday morning. Or a barbecue in someone’s backyard. And I realize that I’m doing life with these people. That we’re still navigating adulthood together. We’re not sharing shoes, but we are sharing burdens and celebrations. We might have to go out of our way to be in touch, but the touch matters. There’s a proverb in the Bible that says, “The way iron sharpens iron, so one friend sharpens another.” I look around at the people in my life who encourage and challenge and support me, who are willing to confront me when necessary, and I know I’m blessed. Iron, like a good friend, isn’t forged easily. God’s heart for us is to know community and love and relationship. That takes some real work and some real time, but so far, it seems to be worth it. I’d still like to borrow some shoes, though. Missy & her husband Chris met at Multnomah University and now attend FCC and serve as volunteer leaders in the Stage3 Youth Ministry. They are raising their two awesome boys and Chris is the 7th Grade Bible Teacher at Valley Christian Junior High School.
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CHILDREN’S MINISTRY Sunday Services @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM: Nursery through Grade 4 Saturday Service @ 5:00 PM: Childcare for 18 months - Grade 5 Our Children’s Ministry, called Kidzplanet, is a safe place where your children will have fun as they build a solid faith foundation. We offer classes that are age specific, exciting and God centered. Kidzplanet is a safe and secure environment for each child. All volunteers and leaders are carefully screened and supervised, and a stringent security process for all kids provides parents the assurance that their child is being well-cared for during the service. Our nursery through Kidzplanet Jr rooms provide hands on activities, music, and an interactive Bible lesson from our caring leaders. Early childhood classes for 3 thru 5 year olds
also include an exciting time in our very own jump house and playground. Our main Kidzplanet service offers a place where children from first through fourth grade can discover and develop a passion for God. Through live worship, engaging teaching, and a variety of fun activities, children are exposed to God’s Word and challenged to grow in their relationship with Jesus. For more information, contact Pastor Matthew Trujillo at 408-365-0313 or MTrujillo@ FCCchurch.net.
The Super Show Saturday, May 31 @ 1:00 PM Our theme in Children’s Ministries this year is “What Makes A Superhero?” and children are discovering that when we have faith in God and take action, an ordinary person can do Super and Heroic things! The Super Show is an opportunity for children in 1st thru 6th grade to show their Super God given talent (sing, dance, play an instrument, etc) or share a Super accomplishment or act (good report card, volunteered somewhere, obeyed their parents, etc). We want your child to know that they are Super in God.
Contact Pastor Matthew Trujillo at PastorMatthe w@FC C church.com to get your child on the program! Refreshments will be served. No cost. Superhero theme Bible verse: Wash yourselves and be clean! Get your sins out of my sight. Give up your evil ways. Learn to do good. Seek justice. Help the oppressed. Defend the cause of orphans. Fight for the rights of widows. Isaiah 1:16-17
Vacation Bible School Monday, July 7 - Friday, July 11 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM A week of fun activities for children entering grades 1-6! Children will HEAR the gospel, ACTIVELY USE their Bibles, and KNOW what it means to give God glory! Those who look to him are radiant. Psalm 34:5 Cost is $35. Snack will be provided; Bring a sack lunch. Details and Registration at www.FCCchurch.com
KIDS CLUB After School Program Stipe Elementary -Tuesdays Oakridge Elementary - Thursdays FCC is privileged to sponsor a faith based after-school program at two schools in south San Jose. Kids Club is a free, after-school program designed to teach positive life skills to children through games, music, and Bible discussions. Through Kids Club, FCC is able to help kids build relationships, find out who God is, and learn how much He loves them. For more information, contact Riva at RTrujillo@FCCchurch.net. Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 6
SPECIAL HEARTS Special Hearts ministers to the hearts and needs of disabled people and their families, providing spiritual and emotional support through parent groups, fellowship, and special needs buddies. We also connect with other groups that provide special needs resources, events and respite care. Special Needs Buddies are available to provide support for children during Sunday morning services at 9:00 & 10:45 AM. Visit our web site for information on get togethers and resources for parents!
Thursday nights at FCC @ 7:00-8:30 PM, for Grades 1-6 Kids will have an opportunity to Konnect with other kids and the Word of God through exciting games and activities. They will also put their faith into action with outreach and service projects. Two 5 week sessions offered during the Summer Session #1: May 22 - June 19, Session #2: July 17 - August 14 Register at www.FCCchurch.com
For 5th & 6th Graders - Sundays @ 10:45 AM AREA56 is THE PLACE for fifth and sixth graders. Designed specifically for preteens, our service usually kicks off with a crazy, exciting game for everyone to participate in, followed by live WORSHIP and an engaging message to DISCOVER what the Word of God has to say to their lives. We also have small group time where each student can CONNECT with one another and build relationships with their peers which gives them a chance to GROW, as they can get their questions answered and share their thoughts.
Students are encouraged to participate and SERVE in our services in the areas of singing, music, media, greeters and taking on leadership roles during various activities – all preparing them for their next step in youth ministry. Oh, and did we mention we have ping pong and foosball tables! If you have a fifth or sixth grader, bring them to AREA56 – located in The Café – every Sunday at 10:45am! For more information, contact Pastor Matthew Trujillo at 408-365-0313 or PastorMatthew@FCCchurch.com.
Building Godly Generations
Seminar on Saturday, April 26 @ 9:00 AM - Noon For all adults, whether single or married! Powerful teaching by Joseph Manoharan to help build godly relationships! •
Understanding the heart of a woman and purpose of a man
Difference between a Wedding and Marriage
Why so much preparation for weddings and nothing for marriage?
The Purpose and Power of Man
The Purpose and Power of Woman
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What is A Real Man? 7 principles of Purpose Dominion Versus Domination The Male as Visionary and Leader A Man and His Sex Life Male – Female Differences How to be a Good father Keys to becoming a Real Man
God’s Design – Equal and Different The Uniqueness of Woman Woman as Enhancer Woman as Reflector Woman as Life-Giver Understanding Woman’s Communication Style Understanding Woman’s Emotional Needs and Sexuality
Cost is $15 per person. Childcare available for $10 with pre-registration for ages 18 months - 11 years old.
Register at www.FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313
Jr. High & High School students Sundays @ 10:45 AM & Thursdays @ 7:00 PM Stage3 is Family Community Church’s ministry for 7th through 12th graders. It is a place where youth can come and experience fun, community, and a living God who wants to be a part of every single aspect of their lives. To help students grow as individuals and as together as a group, we offer a time in our services where they break off into small groups with other students their own age. They get a chance to discuss how they can go deeper in God in the midst of our chaotic culture. We believe that our students are called to bring change to their culture, rather than the culture changing them. There is no better way to prepare them than training from dedicated adult leaders and support from kids their age. Pastor Matthew and myself are very excited for this opportunity to serve your kids and watch them become all that God has called them to be. All you have to do is bring them, and our team of
trained leaders will do the rest! We invite all students to join us for our upcoming series: Occupy All Streets, followed by Tis The Season. Occupy All Streets is a series that will teach students to use the gifts, talents, passions, and skills that God has given them to bring glory to Him. Tis the Season is a series that talks about how Now is the time for you to become all that God has called you to be. So many times we focus on the future and what is to come, but we believe that God is active in every season of our lives. We want to encourage the students to trust Him and live for Him now!
Youth & Young Adults Pastor CWiggins@ FCCchurch.net
Better Together Marriage Ministry Fun get togethers for couples! Dinner & a Movie Night
Saturday, April 27 @ 5:30-9:30 PM (approximate) Westfield Oakridge Mall in San Jose. Cost: Price of dinner and a movie for two. We will get dinner from the food court and then meet on the right side near the pretzel stand to enjoy each other’s company. We will scope out what is playing and catch a movie at approximately 7:00 PM depending on the start times. You can go on your own to a movie, go with a group or tag along with friends!
Family Beach Day at Seacliff
Saturday, June 28 @ 10:00 AM - 5:00 PM (approximate) Seacliff Beach State Park - 201 State Park Dr, Aptos, CA 95003 Come bring the family and enjoy a day with friends. Look for the FCC banners. Bring your own lunch, drinks and beach gear. We will be there early (8:00am!) to save a place, so come and hang out with us. We will be there until approximately 5:00. Parking cost is $10 and is located above the beach.
For more information, and to sign up for our event Evites, visit our web page at www.FCCchurch.com/better-together. Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 7
How to Instantly Make Your Marriage Happier “You signed us up for what?” “A trapeze class,” Les said. “As in ‘flying through the air with the greatest of ease’ kind of trapeze?” “Yes. I found a special they were running with Groupon – it’s like half price or something.” Les was speaking as if he ordered us a couple of ham sandwiches. “I’m not concerned about the money, I’m concerned about our safety.”
Moms Groups with Childcare! For moms who have an infant through Kindergartner
By Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott When we entered the “Aerialdrome” Les said: “See, they have a net under the whole thing so you can’t get hurt if you fall.” I was looking at the trapeze platform that was at least 25 feet in the air when our instructor approached.
“You’ll want to change your clothes and start warming up your muscles,” the instructor “Children are happy told us. “It makes it because they don’t have much easier to hang a file in their minds called from the bar by your ‘All the Things That knees.”
Could Go Wrong.’” “They start us off in ‘Ground School’ before I looked at Les, wide–Marianne Williamson we do tricks in the air eyed, as we walked to and stuff,” he said with a our respective locker straight face. “It will be fun.” rooms. Les just grinned and bounced his eyebrows at me. “Have you lost your mind?” I blurted out. “I have no desire to join Ringling After being hooked up to the rig around Brothers.” your waist and learning the “take-off ” techniques, you’re in the air and learning Les laughed out loud at my apprehension to kneehang – thirty minutes into the and began showing me photos on the lesson. Wow! And before the class is website. The pictures did little to ease my finished, if you’ve got the courage, you’re anxiety – but I eventually agreed to go flying into the hands of another instructor along (just like Les knew I would). who catches you from the other trapeze.
For moms who have school-age kids 2nd & 4th Wednesdays @ 9:30-11:30 AM Register at www.FCCchurch.com/classes/mops MOPS and MOMSnext are open, accepting groups for moms to come just as you are, to experience authentic community, personal growth, practical help and spiritual hope. Our meetings twice a month include brunch, fun and encouraging conversation with friends, and inspiring speakers on topics for moms and women. You’ll make great friends and receive practical support as a mom all at the same time! Childcare is offered for 9 months through Kindergarten (infants can stay with moms).
Cost: $15 for ages 13 & up, $8 for ages 12 and under Purchase tickets at www.FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313 Space is limited! Purchase tickets right away! Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 8
21 Ways to Connect With Your Kids School Readiness Avoiding Mothering Comparisons MOMSnext topics feature: Media & Technology for Kids Responsibility: Chores & More! Working With Your Child’s Teacher Siblings Without Rivalry Conflict Styles in Marriage
Bible Study The Sacred Echo: Hearing God’s Voice in Every Area of My Life
Mother’s Day Weekend
For women of all ages Invite your mother, daughter, and friends!
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Saturday, May 10 11:00 AM – 1:30 PM
MOPS topics feature:
Fridays @ 9:00 -11:00 AM April 25 - May 23 DVD series by Margaret Feinberg ‘Don’t Listen For the Voice of God. Listen for His Echo.’ When God really wants to get your attention, he doesn’t just say something once. He echoes. He speaks through a sermon, a chance conversation with a friend the next day, even a random email. The same theme, idea, impression, or lesson will repeat itself in surprising and unexpected ways until you realize that maybe, just maybe, God is at work. According to author Margaret Feinberg, the sacred echo reminds us to pay close attention -- something important may be going on here. The sacred echo
challenges us to prayerfully consider how God is at work in our life as well as in the lives of those around us. Filmed on location in the Rocky Mountains, The Sacred Echo DVD Bible Study takes viewers on a journey to explore prayer and hear God’s voice not just as a whisper but as an echo. The study is designed to help us recognize God’s leading and walk more confidently in the fullness of all he has for us.
Register at www.FCCchurch.com or call 408-365-0313 Cost is $15/includes workbook
“At CR we have found lasting healing and hope for a life filled with grace and freedom. ”
12 Step Program to help overcome hurts, habits, & hang-ups
Rebecca & Javier Garcia
Every Friday @ 7:00 PM at FCC
Everyone is welcome! Childcare available through grade 5 At Celebrate Recovery, you will find a safe and welcoming place to find help with your past hurts or any habits and hang-ups that are holding you back. Together we work through and apply God’s healing power in our lives through the Bible based “8 Recovery Principles.”
These principles have helped people all over the world become free from addictive, compulsive & dysfunctional behaviors. This freedom creates peace, serenity, joy and most importantly, a stronger relationship with God & others.
Friday Night Schedule: 7:00-8:00: General Large Group Meeting 8:00-9:00: Small Groups / Newcomers 101 9:00-10:00: Fellowship Time - A chance to get to know people from our group, meet new friends, and connect with accountability partners and sponsors. Each Friday, everyone meets together at our General Large Group Meeting for worship, teaching of one of the recovery steps or a personal testimony. Small Groups are facilitated by Celebrate Recovery Leaders who have been through recovery themselves. Small groups are a safe place to open up about life struggles and celebrate the victories God is giving us. We offer groups for: •
Men’s Alcohol & Chemical Dependency
Men’s Lust & Sexual Addiction
Men’s Young Adults General (ages 17-27)
Codependency & General Issues (Men’s & Women’s groups)
Anger & Control Issues (Men’s & Women’s groups)
Women’s Sexual / Physical / Emotional Abuse
Women’s Anxiety & Depression
Coaddicted/Codependent Women in relationship w/ sexually addicted men
Newcomers Group for all first time attendees
Rebecca’s Story: As a child, I was raised in a family that jumped from church to church - Mormon, Baptist, Lutheran, Catholic, Seventh-day Adventist, and non-denominational churches. To say the least, I never really knew if there was a true belief in regards to God and Jesus. As an adult, I still struggled to find the right church for my family. I wanted a church that taught truth, a place where you could feel the love of the Lord. I was struggling with belief in man and his ability to teach the truth of Jesus. I was also struggling to keep my marriage together, trying to deal with the ramifications of depression and to deal with the mistrust I had in everyone. On the outside, people thought my life and marriage were perfect. It was getting hard to keep up the charade. In March 2012, my youngest son told us he had been invited to attend a youth service at his girlfriend’s church. My husband and I discussed the idea and decided why not, it seemed important to our son. In truth, when I first walked into FCC, it was overwhelming. There were people standing at the door greeting everyone as they came in. I saw the information kiosks, the café and coffee bar. I thought I had walked into the food court at the mall. It took me a moment to realize that FCC had taken away all the excuses people have to avoid or not come to church. Smart. The first service I sat through was so moving. I felt like it had been written especially for me. It was as if God saw all my needs and hurts and told me that it was all going to be all right, to just trust Him. I walked out tasting the sweetest taste I had ever tasted. Love, acceptance, and forgiveness. I wanted more.
Boundaries Class Save the date! 8 week class Starting in September Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. In this DVD series, Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
Throughout the year, my family continued to attend FCC regularly. My children, whom we had never been baptized, chose to do so at FCC. I chose to commit my life to God and was re-baptized. I was also drawn to attend some of the Thursday night classes. In July 2013, I finally got the nerve to attend Celebrate Recovery. As the daughter of an alcoholic parent, I had attended AA and Ala-teen meetings, to try and find answers; I made the mistake and assumption that Celebrate Recovery was the same thing. I could not have been more wrong. As it happened, my first night there was a chip night. A woman got up and shared about her own personal battles and struggles and how she had begun to heal with the help of God and CR. When she
was done, I heard no words of sarcasm, no judging, not one negative comment. I was in shock. In fact what I saw was the entire group got up and applauded her. They hugged her and supported her. After that, Pastor Mindy came up and started to call people up to receive a chip as recognition for winning the battle with their own personal struggles. Then Mindy said, “And now for the hardest chip to earn… Anyone who is here for the first time or who has been free from their hurt, habit, or hang-up for 24 hours, please come forward.” I was so overcome with fear. I didn’t move. Everyone around me who recognized me as a newcomer encouraged me with smiles and “you can do it’s.” I finally stood up and with tears and fears, I slowly walked to the front. I finally admitted that I had hurts that I could not fix on my own. I believe God had directed me to the place where I could find healing and acceptance and most of all, forgiveness. I have been attending Celebrate Recovery for six months now. I am learning how to face my issues not on my own anymore, but with God at my side. I am learning how to forgive and take back the control I gave other people over my life. I can’t say my marriage is healed yet; it’s a work in progress. I can’t say my life is perfect, no one is. What I can say is that with the help of Celebrate Recovery, my forever family, and my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I am being healed. I am learning that there is nothing that anyone has struggled with that can keep us from the love of Jesus. We would love to invite you to come and check out Celebrate Recovery any Friday night! It’s simply the best place to find lasting healing and hope for a life filled with grace and freedom. Javier’s Story: My family and I first attended FCC because my son had been invited by his girlfriend. I was very hesitant, but I felt like I had to do it because I wanted him to think I was a good father. I was raised Catholic, but I only attended church a couple times a year. I never had a problem with God. I was never angry or resentful or anything. I believed that He existed but that I didn’t need him. I didn’t have a bad childhood, no extremely abusive person in my life, yet somehow I always felt like there was something missing. An emptiness of a sort. That I tried consciously and » Continued, PG. 11 Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 9
Visual Arts Ministry 1st Tuesday of each month 7:00-8:30 PM at FCC The new Visual Arts Ministry Fellowship is a Christ-centered community of artists. This Artist Fellowship for adults will cultivate creativity, strengthen your faith and provide opportunities to use your creative gifts for the glory of God. You are encouraged to bring a sample of your artwork monthly to share with the group so we can all enjoy and learn from each other’s creativity. The emphasis during the “Show n’ Tell” time is A&E (Appreciation and Encouragement).
If you have any interest in the visual arts, whether as an artist, craftsperson, photographer, graphic artist, etc., or you are someone who is an art lover, a collector, someone who wants to know more about art and artists, or someone who is thinking about learning how to make art, whether you’re a beginner, intermediate, or experienced artist, a hobbyist, or a professional, you’re more than welcome - please join us.
“Prime Time” Seniors
FCC’s New Television Stage Available for Booking!
Family Community Church is pleased to announce the availability of our newly constructed television stage, “Studio FCC.” This new stage was built to accommodate the increasing production demands of the media teams at FCC, and to support the photo and video efforts of local agencies, production companies, and corporate marketing entities. We worked in consultation with several key figures in the professional SF Bay Area TV/film arena to ensure that the specifications of the stage are consistent
with high-end industry standards. The stage offers a prelit 65’ x 25’ infinity hard-covered cyc with a green/white split, over 400 amps of dedicated lighting grid and floor power, and a basic grip package. For availability, rates, and booking please contact John Stalker - Media & IT Pastor - 408.656.5907 jstalker@FCCchurch.net For additional information please visit: www.studioFCC.com.
Connections for Seniors age 55 and up! Monthly Potluck Fellowship
Second Thursday of every month @ Noon in FCC’s Cafe. Bring a dish to share. Enjoy fellowship with friends and hear from a guest speaker.
Traditions Service in the Chapel: Sundays @ 9:00 AM
Weekend service option for those who prefer traditional hymns & worship choruses. Live music in the Chapel and the same message from Pastor Bill via video from the Main Auditorium.
Media Ministry Come join us! No experience necessary - We will train you! Our dynamic weekend services are made possible thanks to help behind the scenes from our amazing Media team! This team operates the video cameras during services, as well as the media equipment that puts the words for songs and sermons on the screens in our Auditorium. We are always looking to add more volunteers. Come tour the Media Backstage Control Room and watch the team direct a service LIVE! If you like what you see, we’ll train you to join the team! No experience is necessary. This is a fun, hands-on ministry. Contact Pastor Tony Liardon at PastorTony@FCCchurch.com for information. Hope to see you soon!
Watch Our Services Online! Visit www.FCCchurch.com FCC Archived Service Videos: Browse through recent services to enjoy worship music and a relevant message from a recent series. FCC iTunes Podcasts: Listen to sermons while on the go with our iTunes podcast! Facebook Page: Check out photos from events! www.facebook.com/fccchurch
FCC Reusable Shopping Bags Convenient and easy to use! Purchase at FCC’s Information Center Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 10
Adopt a Highway
Red Cross Blood Drive
Saturdays @ 8:45 AM - Noon Once a month
Saturday, June 21 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM Room 252, off FCC’s Lobby
FCC has the privilege of serving our community by cleaning a stretch of Highway 85 South between Cottle and Great Oaks. We head out to the highway on a monthly basis as a team, and we invite you to join us on our next outing! We meet at FCC at 8:45 AM in the parking lot near the outdoor playground. Adults and children 15 or older are welcome. Vests and gloves are provided. Visit our web site to sign up! Join us as we do our part to keep our area clean!
Every blood donor is special. Every reason is unique. Why do you give? When an anonymous donor helped save Amanda’s life, her mom Catherine realized the importance of giving. You can make a difference too. Please make an appointment to give today. Go to www. redcrossblood.org and enter the sponsor code: FCC, or call 1-800-REDCROSS (1-800-733-2767)
Celebration Choir Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM Do you love to sing? Whether you enjoy singing in the shower, the car, or on the stage, FCC’s Choir is the place for you! Not only will you sing a lot and learn how to hone your craft as a vocalist, you will meet great people and develop relationships that will last a lifetime. No experience necessary! Come check it out and get started with this fun and talented group. Contact Rick Engle at Choir@ FCCchurch.com for more information or just come out to one of our practices!
San Jose Batting Cages Located inside FCC’s Building B
Hours of Operation: Monday - Friday, 3:30-9:00 PM Saturday & Sunday: 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM
Offering baseball & softball cages, pitching lanes, and more!
Happy Hour - Only $5!
Unlimited Batting Cage Hitting Mon-Fri @ 3:30-4:30 and 8-9 PM
San Jose Batting Cages Services Include: Player Development, Hitting & Pitching Lessons, Team/Group Clinics, Core Fitness Training, Academic Tutoring, and Birthday Parties
SPECIAL OFFER One free token (10 pitches)
Valid until May 31, 2014 No cash value
Homeless Ministry Saturdays @ 11:45 AM
Salvation Army, Downtown San Jose Outreach to the homeless and those who are underresourced in our downtown community is the focus of this ministry. We meet at The Salvation Army every Saturday to serve lunch. Volunteers must be 18 years or older. Hands-on service includes serving food, encouraging and praying for people, and cleaning up afterwards. Donations of clothing, bedding (blankets, sleeping bags), and toiletries are accepted as well. These items cannot be stored at the church during the week, but you may bring them with you any Saturday you serve. For more information, contact Christie at 408-365-0313 or Christie@FCCchurch.com.
Lay Chaplain Ministry Do you know someone in a convalescent home or senior center who is lonely or would enjoy a visit from a caring individual? FCC has nearly one hundred trained lay chaplains who provide visits to seniors who are often forgotten. Email Christie@FCCchurch.com or call our church office at 408-365-0313 to request a visit. Just provide the name and location and any other pertinent information about a loved one. FCC’s lay chaplains will come and brighten up their day! Please note, the ministry does not make home visits.
Prayer Ministry Our Prayer Team is available during and after our weekend worship services to pray with anyone who would like prayer. In addition, the Prayer Ministry offers: Prayer Group - Every Monday @ 7:00 PM Join us in the Stage3 Auditorium for a time of worship and prayer. Learn how prayer can change you, your family, children, relationships, church, and the nation! 24 HOUR PRAYER LINE: 408-365-0313 ext 430 (Messages checked daily) Email Prayer Requests to Prayer@FCCchurch.com
Facility Rentals Wedding, Convention, Meeting, Event, Quinceañera, Parties, Room Rentals FCC is a huge 17 acres 130,000 SF campus that accommodates small weddings, large conventions or family events like parties and Quinceañeras. Available Facilities 2 large auditoriums, 8,000+ SF, stage, theater lighting, and multi media projectors. Seats 400 for wedding or special meetings and conventions. 1 large auditorium, 20,000 SF, seats 1,450, large stage (70 foot opening, 36 feet deep, 138 feet total width), food court/lobby that accommodates another 950 people. Additional meeting rooms available for corporate/private events. Perfect set up for Wedding & Reception The 8,000 SF auditoriums are next to each other. For weddings or conventions you can have a ceremony/meeting in one auditorium and go right into a meal reception or dance in the adjacent auditorium. For details, Contact Cindy at Cindy@FCCchurch.com or call 408-365-0313.
How to Make Your Marriage Happier » Continued from PG. 8 Wow again!
you see his face when I let go of the bar?”
Sure, you’re attached to a harness that keeps you from falling, and, yes, there’s a humongous bouncy net running the length of the set up, but this was not your “dinner and a movie” date night. This was something out of the ordinary. This was an adventure.
The experience jostled us out of our routine. You know the feeling. You’re excited. Adrenaline is pumping. Your brain is high on dopamine. You feel happy in love. It’s the same thing that happened early in your relationship when you were dating and falling head over heels for each other. New and exciting experiences together reignite those loving feelings and tap into those same “happy places” in your brain. In other words, trying new things makes you happy together. You might say that trying new things is the love drug for married couples.
And that’s exactly what research reveals is vital to keeping your love life alive and kicking – experience more adventures. Don’t worry, a high flying trapeze act is not required. All we ask is that you explore how trying new things can impact your relationship. It’s a secret the happiest couples know: New experiences together breed deeper happiness and greater love. You can probably imagine the conversation over dinner we had following our flying trapeze class together. We were both animated and laughing harder than we had in a good while: “I didn’t think that guy was going to catch you!” “I know! I was so nervous, I could barely focus on what I was supposed to do. Did
Celebrate Recovery unconsciously to fulfill. I became addicted to pretty much anything. I was addicted to gambling, drinking, eating, and mostly to lustful desires. Yet I still thought God was for weak people, the ones who can’t cope with their own emotions or fears. I wasn’t one of those guys. I wasn’t an abusive person either, or irresponsible or unkind. I was what you would call a nice guy, a nice guy who worked too much. I subjected my family to move from place to place, many times because I couldn’t say no to my family members when they needed financial help. My wife grew frustrated with it, and
Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are a husbandand-wife team of marriage experts and New York Times best-selling authors. They have been featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Their television appearances include CNN, The View, The O’Reilly Factor, The Today Show and Oprah. Their professional training – Leslie as a marriage and family therapist, and Les as a clinical psychologist – ensures a presentation that is grounded, insightful and cutting-edge. Their resources are available at www. lesandleslie.com.
» Continued from PG. 9 instead of manning up to the situation, I resented her. Finally, I realized I did need help. The biggest testimony about coming to CR is that for the first time in my life I am not ashamed to have people read these things about me. I feel the freedom that can only come from finally walking with God. I have been baptized a Christian in this church and what a day it was. I have been accepted by every person I have met. And in return I am beginning to learn how not to be a nice guy, but a man of God. The journey is long, but the company is good. I hope that you can come and walk with us. Spirit Newspaper • Spring 2014 • 11