Family Community Church 478 Piercy Rd San Jose CA 95138
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Something For Everyone! Check Out Details Inside Men’s Ministry ............................Pg 3 Singles Ministry...............................4 Business & Leadership................... 4 DivorceCare.....................................4 Young Adults...................................5 Jr High & High School.....................5 Children’s Ministry...................... 6-7 Women’s Ministry........................ 7-8 Marriage Ministry...........................8 Celebrate Recovery.........................9 Hispanic Ministries........................10
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FCC is conveniently located at the gateway to the Silver Creek Area & Evergreen Valley, right off Highways 85 and 101! 478 Piercy Rd, San Jose CA 95138 408-365-0313
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Weekend Services: Saturdays @ 6 pm, Sundays @ 9:00 & 10:45 am Spirit Newspaper • Summer .2013 • A quarterly publication • Issue #107 • Published by Family Community Church 478 Piercy Rd, San Jose CA 95138 • Editor: Danielle Brown • Photos: John Stalker, Gina Rodriguez, Lauren Laing, Danielle Brown
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FAMILY COMMUNITY CHURCH Summer 2013 Issue
A Quarterly Publication of Family Community Church Summer 2013
SOMETHING FOR EVERYONE
Answering Life’s Big Questions In your lifetime you’re going to spend 150,000 hours of your life at work. That’s about 40% of your life working. Work defines our lives. Work describes our lives. It dominates our lives. It identifies our lives. A recent study showed that 65% of the people say if I could have a different job I would. I’m not satisfied. I’m not fulfilled. I don’t think I’m in the right job after all.
non-denominational church of more than 5,000 designed to meet your needs. Our 130,000 SF campus at 478 Piercy Road features multiple auditoriums, 35,000 SF of high tech youth and children’s facilities, food court, batting cages, and seminar rooms for 12 Step Programs and Divorce Recovery Groups.
So we’re doing an FCC sermon series that looks at what the Bible says about work. Join us for “Doing Business With God” on weekends at FCC through June 23. We’ll tackle questions like… What do I do when I get laid off? How do I get a promotion? What is the best job for me? What should I be doing with my life? How do I even know what’s the best kind of job for me? What do you do when you’ve got a bad boss and you’ve got conflict going on? What do you do if you want to start a new business? The Bible actually has a lot of material to answer all of these questions. Whether you are just getting out of college and entering the work force, single or married, this will be a practical and engaging experience exploring God’s will for this area of your life. Inside this Spirit newspaper you will find many opportunities to help you explore the spiritual dimensions of your life. Family Community Church is a growing,
Enjoying great food and fun together at FCC’s recent “Block Party” event! Our campus is at the gateway to the Silver Creek Area and Evergreen Valley, near the intersection of Hellyer Avenue and Silver Creek Valley Road. Weekend worship services are Saturdays at 6 PM and Sundays at 9:00 & 10:45 AM (new Sunday times). We invite you to join us!
Check out what you’ll find at FCC! By Pastor Bill Buchholz
Our Children’s Ministries, Youth, College/ Young Adults and Singles Programs are ready to welcome you. Often children and youth don’t want to leave because they have such a blast! At FCC you… •
Meet new friends and get to know your neighbors • Enjoy skits, interpretive dance, and upbeat music with a great band • See high quality theatrical media and stage props that make sermons come alive • Hear positive, practical messages that encourage you each week • Trust your children to the care of dedicated nursery workers and incredible programs for every age group We are easy to find off Highways 85 and 101 in South San Jose. More info? Call 408-365-0313 or go to www. FCCchurch.com, view a streaming church service and read about all of the ministries we offer! Come this Saturday or Sunday and give us a try! I’d love to meet you personally.
POSITIVE TEACHING Creative, Biblical messages are presented in a variety of services!
ACTIVITIES FOR KIDS Games, jump houses, fun music, and Bible lessons for all ages!
Bill Buchholz Founding & Senior Pastor Family Community Church
FCC’s 30th Anniversary!
INSPIRING MUSIC Compelling worship times in all of our services, from kids to adults!
Sunday, June 30 @ 10:00 AM FCC is celebrating 30 years of ministry in Silicon Valley! The church was founded in 1983 by Pastor Bill & Melody Buchholz in their living room and has grown to serve thousands of people throughout the past 3 decades. Join us as we come together to celebrate with one special all-church service on Sunday, June 30 at 10:00 AM!
FUN WITH FRIENDS Friends of all ages laugh and have a great time at the programs we offer all throughout the week! Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 1
We’re All Like Iron Man W
e all have a lot in common with this summer’s biggest action hero. Well, except for the flying robot suit. As I am writing this, the film Iron Man 3 has made $680 million dollars worldwide since it opened a few days ago. In case you’re Amish and haven’t heard of this film, the story centers around an unlikely hero named Tony Stark. Now, Tony Stark is a brilliant man. He invents. He builds. He’s a visionary. In short, he’s a genius. And that genius nets him billions of dollars. This is the first thing that makes Tony Stark cool. After all, as a culture, we love geniuses. We love professional sport geniuses. We love musical geniuses. We love performer geniuses. And we live in Silicon Valley, a place that highly rewards geniuses in the area of technology and innovation.
Or Brittany, who always seemed to be counseling someone through a tough time. At one point, her friend was dealing with self-harm, so Brittany took a purple sharpie and drew a butterfly on her wrist and an identical one on her friend’s wrist. She told her friend, “Now, when you want to cut, remember, you can’t kill the butterfly. Call me instead, and I’ll get you help. Let’s just take it day by day until this butterfly fades, okay?” I’d like to give Brittany an “A” for creative compassion. I think those gifts are exceptional. They’re not monetized. You don’t get rich by being nice to people who are typically ignored in social settings. There’s no TV show called “America’s Next Top Compassionate Friend.” But I think there’s a level of exceptional genius in that.
Like Monica, whose father was severely injured in an accident at work. She went to high school and worked two jobs to help support her family and pay medical bills. And she managed to get into UCLA. I’d like to give her an “A” for resiliency and resourcefulness. Or Julian, an unstoppable locomotive of laughter and optimism who brightened every class he was in with his sheer joy. He was a “clique-slider” – relating to every sort of student in every social strata. He made everyone feel better when he was around them. I’d like to give him an “A” for passion for life. Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 2
See, the problem with Tony Stark is that he’s a self-absorbed, egotistical mess of a human being. In the comics, Stark is an alcoholic who comes within millimeters of destroying his life. What if, in addition to being geniuses, we’re also in danger of simply living our lives with our primary motivation being to make sure we get what we want? What if the real danger is NOT that we’re not geniuses, but that we ARE geniuses, but we waste that genius because we never use it to help other people. What if we just continue on to live quiet, self-absorbed lives? JESUS AND IRON MAN
Come visit this weekend! Sunday Worship Services
9:00 & 10:45 AM In FCC’s Main Auditorium 9:00 AM: Classes for Nursery - Grade 4 10:45 AM: Classes for Nursery - Sr High
Saturday Worship Service
6:00 PM in the Cafe with childcare for ages 18 months - 11 years old
Sunday @ 9:00 AM in the Chapel with traditional hymns & choruses
Hispanic Ministries service in Spanish, Sunday @ 10:45 AM (pg 10) FCC is a non-denominational Christian church open to everyone! For more information, we invite you to visit our web site at www.FCCchurch.com.
One of Jesus’ main teachings was that it’s not about WHAT you do, but WHY you do what you do. Jesus’ teachings are clear: motivations – your heart – matters. And what you love most will drive your life.
Now, for most of my life, I assumed that geniuses are very rare in this world. Like people who are 7-feet tall. Or people who like the music of Neil Diamond.
I taught high school English for several years at a local public high school, and it always bothered me that there was no way to reward or formally acknowledge that many of my students were extremely gifted at things for which there was no report card.
At the risk of sounding like either a heretic or a geeked-out 12-year old, I think that Jesus would have much to say about Iron Man.
WHAT IF EVERYONE IS A GENIUS?
But here’s a thought: What if everyone is a genius? I’m not trying to sound like one of those, “Everyone gets a medal even if you come in 12th place” people. I’m being serious. What if everyone is a genius, just perhaps in areas that aren’t traditionally measured?
By Pastor David Tieche
If you love money more than anything else, you’ll live your life to get it.
Here’s a thought: What if everyone is a genius? What if every single person has been given an “A” gift. Now, I know, that some people have been blessed with an “A+” gift. And some rare individuals have multiple “A+” gifts. But it does no good to compare yourself to other people and their gifts. At the end of my life, God will not ask me, “Why didn’t you win Dancing with the Stars?” That’s not the skill set I have. Also because God hates Dancing with the Stars. But what if? What if every single person alive has an “A” gift? What if everyone on earth is a genius at something? What if everyone has a little Tony Stark in them? THE STARK REALITY But wait. What if it’s worse than that? What if everyone has a little Tony Stark in them? I’m not talking about the genius part. I’m talking about the incredibly
If you want approval more than anything else, you’ll live your life to get it. If you want power over people – so they know you’re right and they’re wrong – you’ll live your life to get it. One of my favorite authors Frederick Buechner once wrote, “To find your meaning just look to where your greatest passion meets the world’s greatest need.” Use your genius to help people. This is what makes you a hero. For example: Bono was a rock-star genius for years. But what made him a hero was his willingness to speak up for the world’s poor. Bill Gates was a genius when he built Microsoft. But what made him a hero was his willingness to use his considerable resources to tackle some of the world’s biggest problems, like pandemic disease in the Africa. See, what makes Bono and Bill Gates and Tony Stark interesting is that they’re geniuses. But what makes them heroes » Continued, PG. 10
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Car & Motorcycle Show Plus Chili Cook Off!
Hosted by FCC’s Men’s Ministry
Sunday, July 28 @ 12:00 PM Weekend Sermon Series: May 25 - June 23 If you’ve ever wondered, how do I get out of a dead-end job that I feel stuck in? How do I get a promotion when all my peers are getting promoted and I’m not? How do I get hired for a job when there’s so much competition competing for the same job? How do I stand out in that job interview process? This FCC sermon series is for anyone, whether you are fresh out of college, already in an established career, married or single, wanting to make a change or stay until you retire from the company you are currently working for.
The Bible has incredibly valuable and relevant insight on the topics we will explore: • • • • •
The Purpose Of Work The Work God Shaped You To Do Making Wise Decisions At Work Standing Out At Work Team Work Makes The Dream Work
A great show of classic cars and motorcycles, a fun event for the whole family! Everyone is invited! Come to the church service at 10:45 and then come out to the Car Show right there in our parking lot. Or just come at noon and enjoy the show! If you are interested in bringing a car or motorcycle for the show, contact Todd at PastorTodd@FCCchurch.com.
This series of talks could change your life! Join us at one of our 3 weekend service times: Saturday @ 6 PM, or Sunday @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM!
Thankful to be a part of the FCC family! Todd, Danielle, Terrell, & Derek Brown
Weekend Sermon Series: July 7 - August 25 Heroes and villains. Showdowns and miracles. Life and death. The Bible holds within its pages some of the greatest stories ever told. Stories packed with action, drama, and mystery. Stories that have stood the test of time and can stand toe to toe against the best Hollywood blockbusters. In our series IN•FIN•8 we look back through the Scriptures and retell eight of the greatest stories forever
told, learning why they still matter to us today. Over the course of this series, our pastors will preach some of the most well-known stories in the entire Bible. These stories are more than tales of events from long ago, they are timeless examples of how God wants to show Himself in our lives every day.
Intro to FCC Luncheon Sunday, July 21 @ 12:00 - 2:30 PM Want to find out more about FCC? You are invited to this free luncheon with Pastor Bill! Find out how FCC started, what we believe, and how you can become a part of the family. Since people from many different church backgrounds attend FCC, this luncheon is designed to help you get to know our leadership and understand our strategy for ministry. Childcare available for $3 per child. Register at www.FCCchurch.com.
Todd Brown, FCC’s Music Pastor My love for music is something that I’ve always had. As a young boy, I can remember singing to records of the Beatles, Elvis, James Brown and BB King. I began singing solos as a teen in church. Love for music became a love for worship and praise. After graduating from Bethany Bible College in 1998, my wife Danielle and I started serving on staff at Family Community Church. As the Worship Pastor, I get to do what I love - develop teams, arrange music, and lead people in worship. We currently have over 10 teams of musicians throughout the church including youth and young adults - who work hard to create dynamic worship experiences for everyone who walks through our doors. We would love to have you come worship with us at FCC! This is not “your grandma’s church,” it’s a place where we rock out, have fun, and meet new people!
Danielle Brown, Adult Ministries Pastor Todd and I are celebrating 15 years on staff at FCC and are so thankful to be a part of the ministry here. What a joy to see so many people receive just what they need, whether it be hope & encouragement, teaching, mentoring, friendship, support for difficult times, an opportunity to find meaningful service, and so much more. As the Adult Ministries Pastor, I coordinate the various classes that we offer for adults, our MOPS and MOMsnext groups for moms, and ministries for Women, Marriage, and Guest Services. I also enjoy developing our quarterly Spirit newspaper which goes out to over 150,000 homes in the community to invite people to come join us at FCC. Todd and I are so inspired to see the dedication of hundreds of volunteers at FCC who serve to make sure people feel welcome and have the opportunity to get connected to God and other people who care about them. If you don’t have a church home, come find your place! Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 3
10 Ways to Improve Your Day in Just Five Minutes Five minutes. It’s only a little bit of time. But it’s long enough for you to do one thing that could make your whole day better. That’s a great return on your time investment! So take five minutes and try one of these 10 simple ways to lower stress, boost your mood, and get more energy. It might give you that extra spark you need to meet the challenges of the day. 1. Make your bed. This isn’t about being a clean freak. It’s a small ritual that can help create a calm environment for you in your bedroom -- and a soothing bedroom is part of “sleep hygiene” -- little habits that can help you sleep better. Author Gretchen Rubin recommends making your bed as a daily habit in her book, The Happiness Project. Do it first thing in the morning, and you’ve got one less thing to worry about for the rest of the day. 2. Pack a snack. Before you head out the door in the morning, prep a healthy snack to take with you. Ideas include fruit, unsalted nuts, and low-fat cheese or yogurt. When you get hungry later in the afternoon, you’ll be ready! 3. Clear your desk. From stray papers to scattered coffee mugs, clutter can make you lose focus and curb productivity. Declutter your outer environment and you may feel more organized and better able to concentrate on the task at hand. 4. Pump up the music. Several studies have found that listening to music can help lower blood pressure, reduce stress, and boost mood. The right music has the power to change your attitude. So load up your MP3 player and create a playlist that will make you smile -- whether you’re working or working out. As long as you don’t blast it (bad for your hearing), this is a safe, healthy way to make your day more enjoyable. 5. Sniff a lemon. For a quick de-stressing trick, turn to an underrated sense -- your sense of smell. Japanese researchers found that linalool; a substance found in lemons, may turn down the classic “flight-or-fight” stress response. Not into lemons? Try Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 4
basil, juniper, or lavender -- those scents have also been found to lower stress. 6. Stretch. No need to put on your yoga pants or get all bendy. Just a few easy moves will do. Stretch your arms overhead. Raise and lower your shoulders a couple of times. Stretch your legs as you lean your torso against a wall. Be gentle, so you don’t overdo it. Stretching can help improve your circulation and flexibility, and may help ease the tight muscles that come with stress. 7. Breathe. Settle into a comfortable position in a chair or on the floor. Then follow your breath -- in, out -- for a few minutes. Thoughts are bound to bubble up in your mind -- no problem. Just let them float by and turn your attention back to your breath. Breathing daily, even just for a few minutes, may help tame stress. 8. Keep a gratitude diary. Take a minute every day to write down what you’re thankful for -- big or small. It’s easy to vent about weather, traffic, or job woes, but complaining brings negative energy along with it. Being thankful for what you have can make you appreciate all the positives in your life. 9. Turn off your electronics. Take a little break, already, from all your gadgets. Staring at computer screens and electronics all day long can zap your energy and encourage inactivity. So log off -- of everything -- every now and then. This is especially important to allow you to unwind and relax before bed. Just because the world is on, 24-7, you don’t have to be! 10. Prioritize. Give yourself permission to admit that you can’t do everything, all at once. Instead, you can nibble away at your to-do list, and feel more satisfied, by setting some priorities. So make a list, figure out what really matters, what can wait, and what you can skip. Work your way down the list, handling your top priorities first. Bit by bit, you’ll get there! By Jennifer Soong, WebMD Feature Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD © 2010 WebMD, LLC. All rights reserved. www.webmd.com
If you’re single, ready to mingle, and over the age of 35, be sure to check out our Singles Ministry at FCC. Singles get together for fun activities, game nights, outdoor hikes, Bible studies, and holiday dances. We go out to lunch after the Sunday 10:45 AM service each week. Come on out to our next event! It’s a great place to have fun and build godly relationships that can last a lifetime. Healthy Potluck & Game Night - Saturday, June 8 @ 6:00-9:00 PM, Rm 252 Day at Santa Cruz - Saturday, June 22 - Check web site for details Singles Bible Studies - Meet in homes and at FCC during the week: • Thursdays @ 7:00 PM at FCC (2nd, 3rd, & 4th weeks of the month) • 1st Friday of the month @ 7:00 PM at a home in San Jose • Wednesdays @ 7:00 PM in Morgan Hill Visit www.FCCchurch.com or email Singles@FCCchurch.com for more information, or stop by the Singles Kiosk in FCC’s Lobby after Sunday services!
Divorce Hurts... Find help at DivorceCare DivorceCare is a special weekly seminar and support group for people who are separated or divorced. It’s a place where you can be around people who understand what you are feeling. Join us and find valuable information and support to help you to heal from the hurt of divorce.
Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM, September 26 - December 19 Cost is $15 for workbook. Childcare available with pre-registration.
Register at www.FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313
Biblical Business Training The Biblical Business Training group helps men & women professionals learn how to apply our faith and Biblical principles at work. We invite you to join us for breakfast twice a month and connect in an informal, supportive environment!
Every other Monday @ 6:30-8:00 AM
In FCC’s Lobby Cafe - Coffee served, plus optional Breakfast ($5) For upcoming dates, visit www.FCCchurch.com - Events/Info - FCC Calendar
For Young Adults ages 18-37
Weekly Service on Tuesdays @ 7:00 PM Live Band, Relevant Life Talks, and Connection! Stage3 Auditorium, FCC’s Building B Encounter is a “Come as you are” ministry, and we are growing! In recent weeks, we have seen so many new people walk through our doors, and tremendous growth in all aspects of the ministry. God is truly doing amazing things in this group and in this City.
We believe that once you truly experience Jesus your life will never be the same. Your job is to just simply come to the Stage3 Auditorium on Tuesday nights at 7:00 PM. When you walk in those doors, I can promise you that you will be loved by God and by people.
This summer we have a phenomenal series of talks planned, as well as fun summer events! If you are between the ages of 18-37, this ministry is for you!
We have amazing fellowship, worship, and biblical teaching that will reach you wherever you are at in your spiritual journey. My prayer for you is that you will become all that God has called you to be. You are a vital part of the body of Christ, and you have a divine purpose on your life. Please come and experience the love of Jesus, which sets people free!
Encounter is a Come-As-You-Are ministry! Come on out and join us this week!
Young Adults Pastor CWiggins@ FCCchurch.net
Jr. High & High School students Sundays @ 10:45 AM & Thursdays @ 7:00 PM FIGHT BACK AGAINST IRRITABLE SUMMER SYNDROME Are you a teenager? Is it summer? Well if so, you could be at risk for Irritable Summer Syndrome. Research has shown that after only a few weeks, most teens grow incredibly bored and irritable. You will grow tired of texting your friends, “What RU doing?” every other second. Your eyes will slowly glaze over as you grow weary of playing video games like “Call of Halo 4 Black Ops Metal of Duty.” And you will soon realize that one can only go to Great America so many times before the rides become lamer than One Direction’s latest album. So. Dear Teenager. You’ve only got 10 weeks off of school. Don’t waste your summer. Fight Irritable Summer Syndrome by coming to Stage3, and instead have an epic summer filled with epic epicness.
COME TO STAGE3
We meet every Thursday night from 7-9pm and every Sunday at 10:45am. Here is why you should check us out: •
Elevate: Events for ages 27-37 “LINKED UP” - Every Sunday @ 10:0010:45 AM in Room 255 at FCC Come meet others, watch a short video and then talk on relevant professional and personal issues. SUNDAY LUNCH - The first Sunday of each month, after the 10:45 service! Look for the pink flamingo to find us. June 2: Sai Market, 6175 Santa Teresa Blvd, San Jose, CA 95123. July 7: Shiki Japanese, 6229 Santa Teresa Blvd, San Jose, CA 95119. August 4: Casa Teresa, 6039 Snell Ave, San Jose, CA 95123.
FIDDLER ON THE ROOF Sunday, June 23 @ 2:30 PM Morgan Hill Community Playhouse POOL PARTY Sunday, July 14 at a local home (RSVP to our email* for address) GOLFLAND Saturday, August 10 Visit us online for more event details
www.FCCencounter.com * RSVP for events and/or send questions to email@example.com
You can bring your old friends. They will also (like you) make new friends. There is a lot of friend-making going on at Stage3.
You will have fun. Fun is our middle name. Don’t believe us? Look at our birth certificate. It’s right there.
You will experience and learn about God. Chances are you’ve heard that church is boring. Well, that might be true, but this is no ordinary church. Boring is not allowed on our premises. We filed a restraining order.
So, Teenager. Fight Irritable Summer Syndrome. Come experience summer like you’ve never experienced it before in a place that’s unlike any place you’ve ever been.
Fight Irritable Summer Syndrome. Come to Stage3. It’s way better than wandering around the mall.
Youth & Teaching Pastor You will meet new friends. We have DTieche@ well over 100 teenagers from tons of FCCchurch.net schools across the area. The odds are good.
Stage3 Summer Beach Day Saturday, June 8 @ 1:00 PM For students entering grades 7-12 Meet at Stage3 to go together to the beach, and we will be back at FCC at approximately 9:00 PM. Cost is $10 and includes one meal. Bring your own snacks. See you there! For information on more Stage3 events, visit our web site at www.FCCchurch.com or our Facebook page: “Stage3 :: FCC Youth Group” Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 5
Vacation Bible School For grades K-5 ~ Offering two sessions! Monday-Friday @ 9:30 AM - 1:00 PM
Children’s Ministry Sunday Services @ 9:00 & 10:45 AM: Nursery through Grade 4 Saturday Service @ 6:00 PM: Childcare for 18 months - Grade 5 During our weekend church services, classes are offered for kids of all ages! Your child will love learning in age appropriate classes with teaching and activities created especially for them. Carefully selected curriculum helps children grow in their knowledge of the Bible and know how much God loves them. We offer exciting music, games, and Bible teaching that reinforce what Kidzplanet is all about - children knowing they are loved by God and growing in a relationship with Jesus. In the main room (grades 1-4), kids enjoy jump houses, arcade games, foosball, air hockey, board games, and exciting weekly competitions and object lessons that reinforce the weekly lesson. Our goal is that elementary kids have FUN coming to Kidzplanet and LOVE to hear the word of God and want to tell others about what they have learned! Individual nursery through preschool rooms provide hands on activities,
music, and an interactive Bible lesson. Early childhood classes for 2, 3, and 4 year olds also include jumphouse or playground time. All children receive TONZ of tender care from qualified and trained volunteers. All applicants who are interested in volunteering go through an extensive interview and background check process for the safety of your children. Our Children’s Ministry believes in having FUN, and this includes special events beyond Sunday mornings. These events build Kid-munity and bring families together. Some events that we will be having in the near future are Movie Night (popcorn and Candy are free!), Family Fun Night (great fun for the entire family to compete against one another!), and a Glow in the Dark Party in June! Our events are family focused, outrageous, and guaranteed to be memory making events you don’t want to miss!
Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM September 5, 2013 May 15, 2014
Teaching Kids to Know & Love God’s Word! Awana is an international Bible club that helps churches and parents work together to develop spiritually strong children through Bible lessons, games, and Scripture memorization. Bring your kids for fun & games, Bible teaching in small groups, and awards and prizes!
Registration opens July 21: FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313 Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 6
Athens: Holy Land Adventure Escape to Athens with Paul!
VBS #1: June 24-28 Imagine leaving a life of privilege and power to face angry mobs, painful imprisonment, and chain-breaking earthquakes- all to spread the life changing truth of God’s love. Learn the jaw-dropping story of the Apostle Paul straight from Paul himself! In an ancient “anything goes” culture, your child will be inspired to share the truth of God’s immeasurable love.
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Day 1: God loves us all Day 2: God loves us and takes care of us Day 3: God loves us when others don’t Day 4: God loves us and sent His Son, Jesus Day 5: God loves us and wants us to share His love.
B.O.O.T. Camp (Biblical Outlook and Outreach Training) VBS #2: July 22-26 Attention! You’re in the Army now! It’s war out there, and the purpose of BOOT Camp is to train, prepare and equip all “little soldiers” to stand their ground and fight the good fight in the ageless battle between good and evil. Children will be enlisted in as “Privates,” marching, saluting one another, and preparing to be good soldiers for Christ.
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Day 1: We’re at war! Understanding the Gospel Day 2: Commander in Chief; God’s love, God’s word Day 3: The Enemy and His weapons: Out of Darkness Day 4: The Armor of God: Using the Sword Day 5: Victory! The Battle Plan
Register at www.FCCchurch.com. Cost is $35/child per session. Please have your child bring a sack lunch every day except for Friday, when lunch will be provided.
“Welcome Summer” Glow in the Dark Party! Friday, June 28 @ 6:30- 8:30 PM For Grades K-4 and families in Kidzplanet Auditorium Looking for something to do on a Friday night? Come join us for a fun filled evening Glow in the Dark style! Bring a favorite dessert and join us for games and tons of fun. There will be prizes for “most glowing”, most creative, & more!
Brand new group designed for 5th & 6th graders! Sundays @ 10:45 AM in FCC’s Chapel Area56 offers dynamic, engaging instruction especially for this age group, along with mentorship to learn life skills “God’s way” while engaging with their peers. We understand that the tween years can be a difficult time of peer pressure, discovering who you are and growing up. Area56 helps students navigate through these years with confidence in who God says we are, while preparing them for the next step of development into their teenage years and youth ministry. We point them to the gospel, challenge them to dig deep into the Word and train them to be leaders in the church .... and have a ton of fun together in the process!
Hey 5th & 6th Graders! The Area 56 Week of God and Fun is a great opportunity for 5th and 6th graders to not only have tons of fun, but also learn about Jesus. It’s a dynamic and memorable crashcourse on the miracles, the teachings, the words and the actions of Jesus, all wrapped up in a super ball of fun, games, excitement, and new friends Monday-Friday, June 17-21 12:30-3:00 PM - Cost is $15 Register at www.FCCchurch.com
One Thousand Gifts:
A Dare to Live Fully Right Where You Are Women’s Bible Study offered at two times: Wednesdays @ 7:00-9:00 PM, June 26 - July 24 Fridays @ 9:00-11:00 AM, June 14 - July 19 “How,” bestselling author Ann Voskamp wondered, “do we find joy in the midst of deadlines, debt, drama, and daily duties?” When your days are filled with the mundane, disappointment, or even darkness, how can you break the bondage of self-hatred and fear that has white-knuckle control on your life and instead embrace the everyday blessings that will immerse you in Christ’s fullness? How can you live your life with a heart overflowing with delight? In this five-session, video-based study, Ann encourages participants take on the life-changing discipline of journaling God’s gifts---to really look at life and find
Women’s Ministry Breakfast
If you could ask God one question, what would you ask?
THE ALPHA COURSE Free 8 Week Course - Includes Dinner! Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM, September 5 - October 24 Alpha is a safe place to ask your questions about God, Jesus, the Bible, the church, & more!
Register at www.FCCchurch.com. Cost is $15, includes participant’s guide. For childcare information, see web site.
THE ALPHA COURSE explore the meaning of life
the good in it. It’s only in this expressing of gratitude for the life we already have, we discover the life we’ve always wanted ... a life we can take, give thanks for, and break for others. We come to feel and know the impossible right down in our bones: we are wildly loved --- by God. Embark on this personal, honest and fresh exploration of what it means to be deeply fulfilled, wholly happy, and finally fully alive.
Saturday, June 22 9:00-11:00 AM For women of all ages!
COFFEE TALK is a friendly casual place where women can connect with one another while being inspired and encouraged. You’ll enjoy a relevant message by a guest speaker, personal stories, and some honest conversation along with a healthy dose of laughter and fun. On top of that you’ll also enjoy a light breakfast and Starbucks coffee. You’ll be encouraged to deepen your friendships with others and God!
Flawed and Fearless
Using our imperfections to reflect the perfection of Jesus With special guest speaker Adelle Gabrielson
Alpha is for everyone, open to people from all backgrounds, religions, and viewpoints. You are invited to come investigate questions about the existence of God, the purpose of life, the afterlife, the claims of Jesus and more.
“Don’t air your laundry in public. Keep up appearances. Worry about what the neighbors think.” Women of any age can relate to that inner voice that tells us we’re not good enough, that we’re hopelessly flawed, and that isolation is better than losing our reputation.
Each evening begins with dinner together. Then there is a short talk which looks at a different aspect of the Christian faith each week. This is followed by a time of discussion in small groups. Everyone is welcome to contribute their opinions and no question is considered hostile or too simple.
With personal stories, humor and honesty, Adelle shares how to find freedom in our flaws. This presentation will encourage women to take risks, ask for help, and be open about imperfection. Because after all, it’s not our job to be perfect, it’s His.
Register at FCCchurch.com - Childcare available with pre-registration
Cost is $5 through Friday, June 21 @ Noon. Cost $7 at the door. Register at www.FCCchurch.com or 408-365-0313 Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 7
Empty Threats and Baby Swings
Moms Groups with Childcare! By Missy Takano
“Come here, Finn! It’s time to go!” I watched as a mom beckoned her son. My job in the childcare room of a community center meant that parents could leave their young ones with me for an hour or so while they worked out.
bucket-style swings, especially when his little brother is in one. I pushed both of them for a couple minutes, then took out the baby. I reached for Caleb. “Let’s go, Buddy. Time to get out of the baby swings so other kids can use them.”
Finn wasn’t budging. The four year-old was still intensely occupied with a set of trucks on the other side of the room. She tried again.
“But I like the baby swings!” he said, pushing me away.
“Finn. You’re not listening to mommy.” No response from Finn. I busied myself with a few other kids working on their snacks and crafts, but was surreptitiously focused on the saga of Finn and his mom.
I raised one eyebrow. You know the one. The one that means Don’t You Cross Me Young Man. I leaned closer and said quietly, “You obey me right now. Get. Out. Of. The swing.” I reached for him again and got the same response. “No! I like the baby swings!”
“Finn? Do we need a timeout? Come on, In the next five Finn. Time to go home. Finn, listen to mommy. If you have little ones, you If you don’t come right know what I mean: even on now then we won’t get the most cooperative, wellto play at the park later. planned days, it’s a huge Come on, Finn. You’re hassle to get out the door. not obeying.” It took about ten minutes before Finn was finally out the door with his mom, and it was only because he eventually grew bored of the trucks. I thought to myself, No empty threats. Never do that with my kids. They need to obey right away, or there will be immediate consequences. Fast forward a couple of years, to last Tuesday. My boys are ages three and one. There’s a wonderful playground in the same parking lot as our local library. It’s all just a mile away, but it still requires a Herculean effort to get the boys dressed, fed, and buckled into the car, and of course the downstairs becomes a disaster in the process. If you have little ones, you know what I mean: even on the most cooperative, wellplanned days, it’s a huge hassle to get out the door. We arrived at the playground half an hour before the library’s opening time of 11am. My boys and I happily played and were having a good old time... until The Baby Swing Incident. My older son can swing on the “big kid swings” just fine, but still enjoys those Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 8
For moms who have an infant through Kindergartner
seconds, a movie played in my head. It was in fast-forward, but it was very clear. It was all the times in the last few weeks that I haven’t followed through. All the times I’ve given him multiple opportunities to comply instead of requiring obedience the first time. All the times I’ve let him gently nudge or downright bulldoze through the boundaries we’ve set for him. All the times, in essence, that I was just like Finn’s mom. I took a deep breath, and without a word I reached into the swing and took him out. I buckled the baby into the stroller and lifted Caleb in my arms. We headed to the car, where I put the baby into his car seat. Caleb was confused. Then I lifted him into his car seat and started buckling. “WAIT, MAMA!” he wailed. “THE LIBRARY!” Yes. The library. All of my hard work that morning to get them out of the house so that we could go to the playground and, ultimately, the Promised Land: the library. I was desperate for a new stack of books, and Caleb was eager to pick some out and play in the really cool children’s area in our library. This was hard on both of us. I thought about the mess waiting for us at home, the mess I’d let them make so that we could all be fed and dressed and out » Continued, PG. 11
New this September! For moms who have school-age kids MOPS & MOMSnext will both take place on 1st & 3rd Wednesdays @ 9:30-11:30 AM September 4, 2013 - June 4, 2014 In addition to our MOPS group that we have offered for several years, we are excited to add a new MOMSnext group, a group for moms of school-age kids! MOPS and MOMSnext are open, accepting groups for moms to come just as you are, to experience authentic community, personal growth, practical help and spiritual hope. Our meetings twice a month include brunch, fun and encouraging conversation with friends, and inspiring speakers on topics for moms and women.
Childcare is offered for 9 months through Kindergarten (infants can stay with moms in the meetings). If a mom has children in both age ranges, she can choose to register for either group. Parenting topics in MOPS will focus on issues related to infants, toddlers, and preschoolers, and the topics in MOMSnext will focus on issues related to school-age children.
Information & registration at www. FCCchurch.com/classes/mops
Better Together Marriage Ministry
Fun get togethers for couples! American River Camping & Rafting Trip - Friday, July 19 - Saturday, July 20 Families are invited for this event. Experience the thrill of being on the river or read a book beside it, take a hike, go fishing, take a swim.
Couples Moonlight Train Ride - Saturday, September 14 At Roaring Camp in Felton. Steak dinner, Moonlight train ride & Line dancing. Elkhorn Slough Kayaking - Saturday, October 12 @ 9:30 AM - 1:30 PM For more information, and to sign up for our event Evites, visit our web page at www.FCCchurch.com/better-together.
Celebrate Recovery 12 Step Program to help overcome hurts, habits, & hang-ups
Every Friday @ 7:00 PM at FCC
Everyone is welcome! Childcare available through grade 5 At Celebrate Recovery, you will find a safe and welcoming place to find help with your past hurts or any habits and hang-ups that are holding you back. Together we work through and apply God’s healing power in our lives through the Bible based “8 Recovery Principles.”
These principles have helped people all over the world become free from addictive, compulsive & dysfunctional behaviors. This freedom creates peace, serenity, joy and most importantly, a stronger relationship with God & others.
Friday Night Schedule:
7:00-8:00: General Large Group Meeting 8:00-9:00: Small Groups / Newcomers 101 9:00-10:00: Fellowship Time - A chance to get to know people from our group, meet new friends, and connect with accountability partners and sponsors. Each Friday, everyone meets together at our General Large Group Meeting for worship, teaching of one of the recovery steps or a personal testimony. Small Groups are facilitated by Celebrate Recovery Leaders who have been through recovery themselves. Small groups are a safe place to open up about life struggles and celebrate the victories God is giving us. We offer groups for: • • • • • • • • •
Men’s Alcohol & Chemical Dependency Men’s Lust & Sexual Addiction Men’s Young Adults General (ages 17-27) Codependency & General Issues (Men’s & Women’s groups) Anger & Control Issues (Men’s & Women’s groups) Women’s Sexual / Physical / Emotional Abuse Women’s Anxiety & Depression Coaddicted/Codependent Women in relationship w/ sexually addicted men Newcomers Group for all first time attendees
Enemies of the Heart 6 week class offered on Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM September 5 - October 10 Breaking free from the destructive power of guilt, anger, greed, & jealousy Divorce. Job loss. Estrangement from family members. Broken friendships. The difficult circumstances you are dealing with today are likely being fed by one of four emotional forces that compels you to act in undesirable ways, sometimes even against your will. In this 6 week DVD study, Pastor Andy Stanley explores each of these destructive forces—guilt, anger, greed, and jealousy—and how they infiltrate your life and damage your relationships.
He says that, left unchallenged, they have the power to destroy your home, your career, and your friendships. In Enemies of the Heart, Andy offers practical, biblical direction to help you fight back, to take charge of those feelings that mysteriously control you, and to restore your broken relationships. Class is led by Mindy Scratch, FCC’s Recovery Pastor.
Register at www.FCCchurch.com
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A Battle to Save Our Family “God has saved our marriage & restored our relationships” Tom & Christie Herrington Christie & I started coming to FCC in 2002. Christie was looking for a children’s ministry that our kids would enjoy and that would help them get closer to Jesus. Everyone made us feel very welcome and the church didn’t fall down when I walked in the doors. It just happened that the kids loved it and she really felt a connection there with the amazing music and messages that felt like Pastor knew exactly what you were going through. Things were not good on the home front. Christie was struggling with depression, anger and was overwhelmed with my alcoholism & drug use. Not knowing where else to turn, she thought to try Celebrate Recovery. She found support, love and understanding in the rooms of CR. As people shared, she heard so many familiar stories. She realized she wasn’t alone in her struggles. After about a year of attending CR’s Friday night meetings, she knew she needed deeper, personal healing and was desperate to stop the cycle of pain she was going through. This was a battle to save our family. She decided to dedicate herself to a 9-month 12-step group. During that step study she had to face some painful past hurts, but with strength from God, knew it would help her and our family. I started seeing a change in Christie’s attitude and behavior. So I decided to check this out for myself (but I didn’t need it!). I went a few times, mostly for praise & worship and to listen to the message. To be honest, I had too much pride & fear in me to admit that I needed recovery and healing. Little did I know that God was going to break that down. I was always angry. Any little thing would set me off. My family was the target of a lot of my anger. My emotions were like a roller coaster; my addiction was in full swing. I was taking 15-20 pills/day of Vicodin. This crazy lifestyle continued for a few more years. I believe God was tired of my actions and everything was finally coming to light. That summer, I dropped the bomb. I told my wife that I had been taking pain medication for the past 8 years and I couldn’t stop on my own. By that time, I was taking 20-30 pills/day. I was so scared that one of those times I wouldn’t wake up. The next week was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to overcome.
I remember waking up in the middle of the night numerous times soaking wet. My body hurt so bad that I couldn’t sleep. I was brought to my knees, praying to God, please get me through this. I’ll do anything You ask of me. He said get into a step study. That’s exactly what I did. I got so much healing and made many connections to other men in that group. It was my 2nd family for the next year. I totally gave it everything I had. I had too much to lose not to. God was really working on me. I had a lot of baggage that I’d acquired over my life. I did get very overwhelmed, but God said I’m here with you. I promise this will change and renew your heart. I wish I could say I stayed clean, but that’s not the case. It took me one more step study to get the freedom I’ve been wanting. God has saved our marriage and restored my relationships with our awesome kids. I’m so blessed & thankful for all the support and encouragement that I’ve received from this Celebrate Recovery program. It really did save my life & family. I’m proud to say that I have 6 years sober from alcohol and 2 years clean from Vicodin. There’s an atmosphere in CR that is casual and accepting. A different level of mutual trust makes it feel like a safe place where we can be real with one another. The fact that it’s confidential gives us the freedom to share real struggles that we deal with. Through Celebrate Recovery, God has healed us to be effective leaders in ministry. I’ve been blessed to co-lead a young adult 12-step study. Christie is a leader in The Landing, a safe, confidential program where teens can come to find freedom from life-controlling issues, draw closer to Jesus and find leaders who care about them and what they are going through. Don’t we all look back and wish we had healthy mentors to guide us through those rough years? How beneficial would it have been to get some healing before we entered life-long relationships & began raising a family? We are imperfect people and not here to judge you, so join us on a Friday night to get freedom from pain, habits & past hurts. We are proud to say we are “one of those people” that attend CR! Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 9
“Prime Time” Seniors Connections for Seniors age 55 and up! Monthly Potluck Fellowship
Second Thursday of every month @ Noon in FCC’s Cafe. Bring a dish to share. Enjoy fellowship with friends and hear from a guest speaker.
Traditions Service in the Chapel: Sundays @ 9:00 AM
Weekend service option for those who prefer traditional hymns & worship choruses. Live music in the Chapel and the same message from Pastor Bill via video from the Main Auditorium.
Bible75 Class Thursdays @ 7:00-8:15 PM 75 minute in depth Bible study
Join us as we explore the book of 1 Timothy. The Apostle Paul wrote to Timothy to encourage him in the faith and affirm his leadership and abilities. Discover how his instructions can be applied to our lives today. Class is free! Join us in the Family Room. Dinner & refreshments served in the Food Court from 6-7 PM.
Celebration Choir Come join the Choir! Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM
Ministerio Hispano Hispanic Ministry at FCC
FCC “Fuego de Dios”
Una Iglesia Unida, en Amor, en Fuego y de Multitudes
Trabajando Juntos ~ Expandiendo el reino Servicio: Domingo a las 10:45 AM ~ In the Cafe Sunday Service in Spanish @ 10:45 AM Estudio bíblico: Viernes a las 7:00 PM - Friday Bible Study @ 7:00 PM Fuego de Dios te invita a que juntos podamos alabar y adorar a nuestro Señor Jesucristo y oír cada Domingo la Palabra de Dios que es impartida en amor, ésta nunca regresa vacía, transformando los corazones para vivir una vida de victoria. Contamos con programas para niños, jóvenes y adultos. Ven y será una gran alegría que te unas a nuestra visión. Te esperamos. Pastores Oscar y Elsa Morales, PastorOscar@FCCchurch.com
Do you love to sing? Whether you enjoy singing in the shower, the car, or on the stage, FCC’s Choir is the place for you! Not only will you sing a lot and learn how to hone your craft as a vocalist, you will meet great people and develop relationships that will last a lifetime. No experience necessary! Come check it out and get started with this fun and talented group. Contact Rick Engle at Choir@ FCCchurch.com for more information or just come out to one of our practices!
We’re All Like Iron Man » Continued from PG. 2 was their decision to make the world a better place. FINAL POINT So. What can change the heart of a person to live a life of heroic genius? Well, perhaps many things, but here’s what has always captured me. The story of Jesus, who is a superhero who happens to be real. The Bible says that Jesus was actually God. But it goes on to say that Jesus didn’t consider being God and living in Heaven as something to be used to his own advantage, but made himself nothing and took the nature of a servant. Jesus became a man and then humbled himself even more, being willing to die, even die on a cross. Why? What was Jesus’ primary motivating factor? What did Jesus want more than anything else? Well, the short answer is me. And you. He rescued you and me. We were held hostage by Evil. By Death. By Sin. Jesus gave His life to rescue us. Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 10
For me, seeing how far Jesus was willing to go to get to me inspires my heart to love God. The life of Jesus shows us that if you and I can begin loving something more than us, that’s the first step in understanding God. And maybe, understanding God is the first step to loving something more than us. And maybe all that results in us using our genius in ways that turn us from being self-absorbed egomaniacs into legitimate heroes. Just like Iron Man. Just like Jesus. David Tieche is FCC’s Teaching & Youth Pastor. You can hear from Dave at FCC’s main services and in the Youth services on Sundays @ 10:45 AM & Thursdays @ 7 PM. Visit Dave’s blog at www.davetieche.com
Red Cross Blood Drive
Our Sunday services are brought to life with lights and videos thanks to our Media Ministry! This team operates the video cameras in the Auditorium and the media equipment in the backstage Control Room.
Saturday, June 22 9:00 AM - 3:00 PM FCC’s Food Court & Lobby
We are always looking for more people to join the team! Come tour the Control Room and watch the team direct a service LIVE. If you like what you see, we’ll train you to join the team. No experience is necessary. This is a fun, hands-on ministry. Hope to see you soon! Questions? Email Pastor Tony Liardon at PastorTony@FCCchurch. com for more information.
Every blood donor is special. Every reason is unique. Why do you give? When an anonymous donor helped save Amanda’s life, her mom Catherine realized the importance of giving. You can make a difference too. Please make an appointment to give today. To schedule your appointment, log on to redcrossblood.org and enter the sponsor code: FCC, or call 1-800-REDCROSS (1-800-733-2767)
San Jose Batting Cages Located inside FCC’s Building B
Offering baseball & softball cages, pitching lanes, and more!
Hours of Operation: Monday - Friday, 3:30-9:00 PM Saturday & Sunday: 10:00 AM - 6:00 PM
Happy Hour - Only 5!
Unlimited Batting Cage Hitting Mon-Fri 3:30-4:30 and 8-9 PM
www.SJBattingcages.com (408) 360-9076
50% OFF all batting cage tokens
FACILITY RENTALS Wedding, Convention, Meeting, Event, Quinceañera, Parties, Room Rentals FCC is a huge 17 acres 130,000 SF campus that accommodates small weddings, large conventions or family events like parties and Quinceañeras. Available Facilities 2 large auditoriums, 8,000+ SF, stage, theater lighting, and multi media projectors. Seats 400 for wedding or special meetings and conventions. 1 large auditorium, 20,000 SF, seats 1,450, large stage (70 foot opening, 36 feet deep, 138 feet total width), food court/lobby that accommodates another 950 people. Additional meeting rooms available for corporate/private events.
ALL DAY Saturday & Sunday!
San Jose Batting Cages Services Include: Player Development, Hitting & Pitching Lessons, Team/Group Clinics, Core Fitness Training, Academic Tutoring, and Birthday Parties
ONE FREE TOKEN (10 pitches)
Valid until June 30, 2013 No cash value
FCC’s TAKE2 AUDITORIUM set up for a banquet
Strength Fitness A full body cardiovascular/circuit training workout for anyone who wants to focus on endurance, core training and strength building involving calisthenics. This class will meet you at your current fitness level and will facilitate the building blocks to assist you in reaching your personal goals. You will enjoy jump starting your day with a healthier way of living. Ages 18 and up.
For details, Contact Cindy at Cindy@FCCchurch.com or call 408-365-0313.
Special Hearts Ministries
Boot Camp Tuesdays & Thursdays 5:30-6:30 AM
Support Group for Parents of Children with Special Needs
Instructor Patty Linares, NASM certified. 408-712-6146
Visit www.strfitness.com to register
Lay Chaplain Ministry Do you know someone in a convalescent home or senior center that is lonely or would enjoy a visit from a caring individual? FCC has nearly one hundred trained lay chaplains who provide visits to seniors who are often forgotten. Email Christie@FCCchurch.com or call our church office at 408-365-0313 to request a visit. Just provide the name and location and any other pertinent information about a loved one. FCC’s lay chaplains will come and brighten up their day! Please note, the ministry does not make home visits.
Prayer Ministry Our Prayer Team is available during and after our weekend worship services to pray with anyone who would like prayer. In addition, the Prayer Ministry offers: Teaching & Training on Prayer - Every Thursday @ 7:00 PM Join us in FCC’s Chapel for a time of worship, teaching, and prayer. Learn how prayer can change you, your family, children, relationships, church, and the nation! 24 HOUR PRAYER LINE: 408-365-0313 ext 430 (Messages checked daily) Email Prayer Requests to Prayer@FCCchurch.com
Perfect set up for Wedding & Reception The 8,000 SF auditoriums are next to each other. For weddings or conventions you can have a ceremony/ meeting in one auditorium and go right into a meal reception or dance in the adjacent auditorium.
Join us for our weekly support group meeting on Thursdays @ 7:00-8:30 PM in Room 255 Contact Kristine Hodson at firstname.lastname@example.org
We minister to the hearts and needs of disabled people and their families, providing spiritual and emotional support through parent groups, fellowship, and special needs buddies. To do this, we also connect with other churches and community groups that provide special needs resources, events and respite care.
Empty Threats and Baby Swings » Continued from PG. 8 the door to our beloved library. “Caleb,” I said quietly. “We have to go home, because you didn’t obey.” He began to really cry. The conversation went on during the short ride home: Caleb crying, pleading, bargaining. I’d quietly repeat that we couldn’t, because he disobeyed when I told him to get out of the baby swings. I’m not saying that I handled the situation perfectly, by any means, but he got the point. Much later that day, after more tears and hugs and lunch and a nap and some playtime, I brought up the library again. “Hey Buddy. Think we should we take a quick trip to the library? Get some new books?” Caleb’s face lit up, then quickly became somber. “Yeah,” he said. “Because I didn’t obey last time.” He got it! He made the connection! Oh, sweet victory! What a joyful trip we had to the library that time. My husband and I talked it over that
afternoon, how we’d both been sliding on our follow-through and allowing disobedience. How it was harder to follow through, it meant more conflict right then, but ultimately less conflict in the long run. What really amazed me was how much happier my son has been in the last week. With boundaries and consequences in place, he’s more secure, cooperative, even creative! It’s so hard in those moments to stand firm, but with God’s help we remember that the job He’s given us is to raise our children, not cater to them. Shaping those young hearts is worth the little battles it sometimes takes, even when it means the living room is a mess and we have a couple of overdue library books. Missy & her husband Chris met at Multnomah University and now attend FCC and serve as volunteer leaders in the Stage3 Youth Ministry. They are raising their two awesome boys and Chris is the 7th Grade Bible Teacher at Valley Christian Junior High School. Spirit Newspaper • Summer 2013 • 11
Published on May 29, 2013