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Welcome! ou may think that Family Times has suddenly gotten political when you read the title of our main feature article this issue: Raising a minority-friendly child. But it wasn’t the American situation or rising immigration figures here that have inspired pen to paper on this article. We’re not taking a position on immigrants or refugees. We just wanted to investigate what being different means through the eyes of a child. That could mean anything from socio-economic variances and learning difficulties to a different colour skin or an unusual accent. One thing that we do know for sure is that kids notice differences from a very young age: different coloured hair, different shaped people and differing abilities. I’ll never forget when my nephew – who has almost no filter on his mouth – shouted to his mum in the supermarket, “Why is that lady fat?” He obviously didn’t learn from that experience. It wasn’t long afterwards that he loudly pointed out, “Look Mum, that man only has one leg!” Every parent wants to avoid that mortifying feeling, but the fact is that we are taught from a young age to categorise everything according to what is “normal” and what is different. So how can parents raise children that can



recognise differences without being afraid or distancing themselves from those differences? To take it a step further, rather than just teaching acceptance of differences, what about inclusion? My heart literally ached recently reading the story of a young autistic boy who invited his whole school class to his birthday party, but nobody turned up. It takes courage and compassion to reach beyond our own comfort zone, but including those who are different from us can be a richly rewarding experience for both parties. We’re also covering a range of other topical stories this issue, from education and health to every-day parenting and technology. However, feel free to email me: if there are any issues that you’d really like to see Family Times cover. I’d love to hear from you. In the meantime, don’t forget to make the most of all the competitions, giveaways and kids’ activities.


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ow your child reacts to going from flying solo to having to share Mum and Dad depends largely on their age and their temperament type. Those reactions range from withdrawal and temper tantrums through to attention seeking and asking you to stop spending so much time feeding the baby. It might sound terrible, and it might sound like something your little angel will never do. They may even be excited about a new arrival. But you won’t really know how things will go until you are home with the new baby. Preparing in advance is a good idea. Preschoolers may not grasp concepts of time, so it might not mean much if you say that the baby will arrive in a few months. It may be more useful to explain that the baby will arrive in a particular season, such as winter or when it’s cold outside. You can go through your child’s baby pictures with them to remind them how tiny a baby is, or visit friends with an infant to try to orientate them. Bring them along to a scan appointment so that they can see baby and hear the heartbeat. If you’re birthing at hospital, let them see your packed bag and explain to them how long you’ll be gone for. Even with all that, though, it’s important to remember that the oldest sibling will go



Read stories together about your firstborn’s new role Reading stories about the trials and joys of having a new sibling can help your preschooler adjust to their new situation. Books that feature children who resent the new baby in their lives can help him understand that those feelings are natural. Stories that show children enjoying and taking pride in their little siblings present positive role models for your child. Your local library will have some books on offer.

4 through an adjustment period when a new sibling comes along. Here are a few ways to help them through:


Involve them A great way to involve your firstborn is to give them special jobs to do. They can “help” you bathe the baby, fetch nappies or new clothes. Let them hold the baby (with the aid of pillows and your close supervision).

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Ask their advice Ask your older child their opinion on what to dress the baby in, to pick a story to read to the baby or a game to play with the baby. Most preschoolers have a natural flair for entertainment – singing, dancing, or making faces – and a baby is an appreciative audience.

Acknowledge their feelings It’s normal for your preschooler to have a range of feelings about this new change in their family. Rather than telling them off if they have a negative reaction to baby, acknowledge their feelings: “It seems like you’re feeling sad right now. Do you want to tell me about it?”


Spend a little time alone together Spend some time each day with just your older child, even if it’s only a few minutes of drawing or building with blocks. This time makes them feel special and reminds them that you’re still their parent and you still love them.

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RAISING A minorityfriendly child e human beings find our identity as part of a group. As much as we want to fiercely believe that we are independent, individual and not led by the crowd, the vast majority of us strive to fit in. We’re a business person, a parent, a certain socio-economic status. We’re a bluecollar worker, a student, the sporty type. It’s comfortable, so we predominantly keep within the social confines of those groups. But what do we do when we encounter someone who is different? Most kiwis like to believe that we’re pretty accepting of people from diverse backgrounds: we’ve embraced ethnic cuisine, we encourage our kids to join a school cultural group or we may donate to charities that support people with disabilities. But CCS Disability Action disability leadership coordinator for the southern region Prudence Walker says that raising kids to go a step further than acceptance and to start to include others who don’t fit the same cookie-cutter mould is essential for them, and for those who need to be included. “I think it’s about realising that we are all different in society. Even if we fit into

single RSVP. His parents couldn’t bear to see his tears again, so they invited his heroes – the local police department – to his birthday instead. What resulted was a very happy child, according to However, Walker says it’s impossible to underestimate the importance of being included by peers. “If you already have a difference that’s judged in society or you are marginalised, then it’s even more important to feel included with your peers because it’s reflecting that you’re okay; you have value.”


Inclusion - it starts early

the mainstream or the norm of society, we are all different anyway. “Having an impairment is just another difference. There’s often a bit of fear that goes around people who have impairments, so it’s really important for kids to realise that it’s just another difference – it’s not a big deal, it’s just people.”


The heartbreak of kids who experience exclusion has been covered in newspaper stories and social media posts in recent times. Take for example the Nicastros’ story: their 8-year-old autistic son insisted on inviting his entire school class to his birthday celebration for the third year in a row, although he had never received a

Research shows that 3-month-old babies can notice differences in appearance. Developmental psychologist Kristina Olson said that was completely normal for kids. Her research into race for Yale University deduced that the important thing was how parents taught their children about those differences. A vast majority of parents avoided the subject, according to Psychology Today, so their children were left to determine that meaning on their own. The parents’ objective was usually to model that race and skin colour were not important, but


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“If you already have a difference that’s judged in society or you are marginalised, then it’s even more important to feel included with your peers because it’s reflecting that you’re okay; you have value.” the opposite conclusion was usually reached according to Olson. “Children often learn very quickly that simple questions or comments about these observations are shut down, stopped, and hushed with incredible velocity. Children become aware that this topic must be important because unlike their other questions, these ones go unanswered and leave their parents with looks of worry.”

A model for inclusion

Inclusion of others who are different – whether it be a physical or intellectual disability, race, ethnicity, or socioeconomic status – starts in the home according to Olson’s research. “Four to 5-year-old children of parents who have more diverse friends show less racial bias than the children of parents who have less diverse friends.” she wrote.

“What is more, a study done by Bar-Haim and colleagues in 2006 showed that growing up in a multi-racial environment versus a mono-racial one produced differences in race-based responding in children only 3-months of age.”

Inclusion in education

New Zealand schools are also starting to intently focus on encouraging inclusion. Cobham Intermediate is “very much a multicultural school,” according to international homestay coordinator Bronwyn Shalfoon. The school currently hosts nine fulltime international students and has hosted as many as 25 in the past. They also host short-term international groups and have many migrant children from a range of countries as well as students with Maori and Pasifika backgrounds. Cobham makes sure every international student has a local buddy, and actively facilitates including them into school life. The most important thing for internationals, Shalfoon said, was that they didn’t want to be seen as internationals. They just wanted to belong. Shalfoon believes that hosting international students is beneficial for Kiwi kids and their families. They learned about other cultures and how to assimilate with a range of people. “Students are starting to hear more and more that they are going to grow up to become global citizens. To help prepare our students, we need to ensure that they are effective communicators who care about our planet and display a range of

Tips on raising minority-friendly kids

Children need to learn about their own backgrounds and get a sense of their own identity. Explain to

them about their family and their family history, with photographs if possible. Actively teach your kids about the backgrounds of people who are different from them; whether it be race, ethnicity, colour, language, ability, or other. Expose your kids to activities, materials and concrete experiences that destroy stereotypes. Take the whole family along to local culture events that differ from your own, and make it your practice to include others who are different from you in your own life.  Help your children learn to enjoy, appreciate, and seek out differences rather than to fear them. Teach your children that harassment of others who are different is never acceptable.

values such as respect and kindness.” Those thoughts are echoed by CCS Disability Action disability leadership coordinator for the southern region Prudence Walker. “There are always different opinions about inclusion. When you have specific needs there are always plusses and minuses to that. But everybody is a person and everybody has the same value as having human life. Why would

we ever think that people should not be included?” CCS Disability Action recognises that it’s not always easy to include kids with disabilities in schools, but that there is help available. Its philosophy is that it’s good for children and young people to learn together. That way, they can learn to make friends with others who are different and to respect differences, rather than be afraid of them.

It’s natural for kids to notice differences in a person’s appearance, manner of speaking or ability, and to express curiosity or even fear about them. Most parents can probably share a comparably mortifying moment when their child noticed someone different and expressed it verbally, and loudly: “Look Mum, why does that man only have one leg?” or “Mum, why is that lady so fat?” How parents deal with these occasions can help (or hinder) their child’s preparedness to accept and include others who are different from themselves. Here are a few tips on how to raise a minority/diversity-friendly child.


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Sometimes we think that our littlies are too young to understand science. But it’s not just the big school kids who get to have all the fun: we have a great experiment to encourage scientific thinking in your little ones.


Water displacement was first used as a method for measuring solid objects that were shaped irregularly. Essentially it means that we can find the volume of an object by how much the water in a jar moves when it’s placed inside. Remember that volume is a different measurement to weight – so light, but large objects will have the same volume as the same sized object in a heavier material.

EXPERIMENT This is a very easy experiment to do with young children in particular, because it’s an experience they already know of (when they get in and out of the bath, the water moves up and down). It’s also super cheap and easy to do, and even if you don’t have the time to spend doing the following experiment, you can still take the time to show them the next time they have a bath. Hop in with them to show them how much a larger object/person displaces all that water!

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A large, transparent container (jars with large openings work best) Tap water A permanent marker Various sizes of stones or small toys

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Instructions 1.

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Half fill the container with tap water. 2. Get your little one to draw a line where the water level is. 3. Ask them what they think will happen if you place one of the small stones/toys inside the container – why do they hypothesise this? Encourage

thinking about other experiences they’ve had: if we’ve seen something occur many times, we can rightly assume that it will behave the same way again. 4. Test the stones/toys, keeping an eye out for the water displacement. 5. Talk about why this might be happening and why it might be different depending on the size of the object. 6. Explain water displacement, showing it to them whilst you’re both playing. 7. Let them go nuts: see how high you can both make the water level rise with water displacement by placing all the stones/toys inside!


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When your child doesn’t fit

the school mould he beginning of the school year is a period of great anticipation and anxiety for parents, especially if your kid is heading off to school for the first time. For many families, that anxiety quickly dispels, as your kid settles in with a new teacher, new or returning friends, and a routine that offers a mix of stability and challenge. For other families, however — families like ours — that settling in never happens. You have a child whose particular combination of gifts, challenges and personality simply don’t fit their school. If you’ve been struggling with school challenges for a while, as we have — perhaps some of these suggestions can help:

with was the sense that we had to make Peanut fit into school — instead of vice versa — because in the real world, you have to be able to follow the rules. But the truth of the matter is that school requires a lot more rule-following than life does. Kids who have a hard time in school aren’t necessarily going to have a hard time in life.



Remember that school issues are harder for your kid than they are for you If you’re getting emergency calls from school that force you to leave work, or facing daily battles over getting to school in the first place, it can feel like the school struggle is your struggle. But if your kid is having such a tough time with school that it’s disrupting your work or family life, then your kid is probably


having an even harder time than you are. Approach this with empathy, but believe me, that will be incredibly hard to remember at the moment that you are dragging a screaming 7-year-old to class so that you can make your urgent, 9am client meeting.


Recognise the differences between school and life One of the things we really struggled

Be the squeaky wheel Part of what has made our guy so challenging is that he absolutely will not put up with a situation that doesn’t work for him: if he’s bored or frustrated he brings the whole classroom to a grinding halt. That makes life difficult for his teachers, classmates and family, but it also ensures he gets his needs met. Advocate vociferously for your child. Ask for a support worker to come in and develop a plan to work with your kid, and insist that the teacher actually follow it. Meet with the teacher every week, and the principal once or twice a month.


Go with your gut on who to trust Schools, psychiatrists and other experts love to tell you that they know how to handle kids like yours. Maybe they

do…and maybe they don’t. Over time, I’ve learned to trust my gut on who to work with, but I wish I’d spent less time working with people who never felt right to me, and just followed my instinct to find and work with the people who clicked.


Get assessed If your kid is having issues, get in line for an assessment as soon as possible, with the best person you can get in to see. If you’re relying on the public school system to provide that assessment, it may take some time before you get an appointment; if you have the means to pay for it, it may be worth having a private assessment sooner.


Find other challenged parents When you’re parenting a challenging child, it can be incredibly painful to be part of the everyday conversations that parents have, comparing notes on their kids. So I sought out parents who were having atypical parenting experiences: friends with kids who had learning or behavioural issues, parents I met through home-school programmes, other mums I met on Facebook groups. BY ALEXANDRA SAMUEL

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The immunisation debate

As Immunisation Awareness Week kicks off in the last week of April, it’s a great time for parents to contemplate their vaccination choices.

his year, 2017, marks the halfway point in the Global Vaccine Action Plan (GVAP) – endorsed by 194 member states of the World Health Assembly in May 2012 – which aims to prevent millions of deaths from vaccinepreventable diseases by 2020 through universal access to immunisation. The World Health Organisation (WHO) estimates that immunisation averts between 2- 3 million deaths worldwide each year. An additional 1.5 million deaths could be avoided, however, if global vaccination coverage improves. On a local level, New Zealand’s target for immunisation coverage is 95 per cent of children fully immunised by eight months and then two years of age (additional vaccines are specified for twoyear-olds). Currently, 93.3% of 8-montholds and 93.1% of two-year-olds are reaching these markers. The Immunisation Advisory Centre says that although most Kiwi kids are fully immunised, a few still die each year and more suffer ongoing permanent physical or mental disabilities and medical complications from diseases that are preventable through immunisation. There are many more hospitalisations. For example, this year, the chickenpox


vaccine will be added to New Zealand’s schedule in July. Currently, there are about 50,000 cases of chickenpox infections in New Zealand each year. Several hundred result in hospitalisation, one or two cases result in residual longterm disability or death, and one case results in severe congenital varicella syndrome. However, No Forced Vaccines – an association of individuals concerned

about ethics and maintaining the fundamental human right for parents to make the health care choices they deem appropriate for their children – says that Kiwi parents need to be made aware of all the statistics surrounding vaccination, not just the potential benefits. It lobbies for reporting on the National Immunisation Register (NIR) to include significant adverse reactions to vaccines in addition to assessing how effectively vaccines are preventing cases of specific notifiable diseases for which a vaccine exists. “Making a free and informed decision about any medical treatment, including vaccination, is a basic human right,” spokesperson Katherine Smith said in a recent media release. No Forced Vaccines does not advise people not to vaccinate, but opposes forced or coerced vaccinations. Its members are often parents who allege that their kids have experienced a negative reaction to vaccination. The right to make an informed choice and give your informed consent when using a health service is guaranteed under the Code of Health and Disability Services Consumer Rights. Being informed means that you

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couch kid to exercise e all know that Ministry of Health guidelines state that your child needs at least 60-minutes of physical activity a day. But what if your child hates exercise? It may be an incredible disappointment to you. You may be a runner, a cyclist, a gym-goer or yoga loving hipster, but your offspring just didn’t seem to receive that gene. Or, you may be a couch potato yourself but don’t want your kids to fall into the same trap. Either way, we’ve got some tips to get your littlies active.



Think outside the playing field Not everyone is drawn to organised sports like rugby or netball. Look for other activities that your child may enjoy: dance, rock climbing, swimming or martial arts. And have patience – sometimes it can take a while to find the right fit. The earlier you start, the better, when it comes to non-athletic kids. That way, you are giving them a chance to develop an appetite for exercise long before they’ve set their mindset that it’s not for them.


Join the game Kids love it when their parents play with them. You can encourage your child’s fitness by taking a family hike, having a game of back-yard catch, hopscotch, bouncing on the trampoline and much more. You don’t need fancy equipment or special classes to encourage your child to exercise.


Limit screen time Passive pastimes are the nemesis of a fit and healthy kid. That’s why it’s a good idea to limit the amount of time your child spends with screens each day – whether it’s watching television, surfing

the Internet or playing video games. Encourage active pastimes instead – shooting hoops at the local playground, walking the dog, or a game of tag. And stick to your guns: one sign of weakness on the tech front and it’s game over!


Lead by example If you vegetate in front of the television every night, the remote control in one hand and a bag of chips in the other, you’re not practicing what you preach. And your kids aren’t likely to respect restrictions you set on their screen time either. So check your own viewing behaviour and serve as a role model by incorporating physical activity into your everyday life. When you can, walk instead of driving. Climb the stairs rather than wait for the elevator. Regularly participate in active pursuits that you enjoy and let your kids see.


Bring a friend along Kids love to hang out with their peers, so get them to invite a buddy along for a bike ride, offer to bring a friend ice-skating, or head to the pool with a group of kids in-tow. Young kids love going to the playground with friends to chase, climb, swing, slide and run. Your child is probably more likely to join a sports team or try a new activity if a friend is involved. Take advantage of that.


Use exercise as a reward Forcing a child to go outside and play may backfire and increase resentment and resistance. For this reason, never make exercise punitive. Don’t make your child run laps or do push-ups as a punishment. Instead, try using physical activity as a reward. For example, your child might be happy to kick a ball around for 20-minutes if it’s a break from homework. 11

How to raise a

(POTENTIALLY) RICH KID Einstein famously said that compound interest is the most powerful force in the universe – you can teach your child to harness its powers.

ou may have read the headline and tuned out immediately. But here’s the secret: you don’t have to be a rich parent to raise a rich kid. It doesn’t hurt to have a few million tucked away in investments, but the wealthiest parent can raise a child doomed to financial failure if they don’t school their child on the importance of compound interest. And a financiallychallenged parent who has made mistakes can set their child on the path to financial freedom if they instil sound financial practices from an early age. And if compound interest is still a mystery to you, read on.


It’s simple, really.

It’s money earning interest, that interest earning interest, and so on. That can work for you, with the principle of saving, or against when you use a credit card or hire purchase. That may sound difficult to explain to a child. But it’s basically all about how time affects money’s value.

First, explain what interest is

smaller coin of your own, as interest. As the amount of coins they deposit goes up, so does the interest. But if they withdraw coins from the jar, the interest goes down too.

As adults, we take interest for granted. Keep the explanation simple for kids: interest is what a bank pays you to keep your money there. The longer the money stays in the bank, the more money you make.


The cost of a loan

Lend them $5, and charge them 10% interest each week until they pay it back. If they pay it back within a week, it’s just $5. If it’s two weeks, they owe you $5.50. If it’s three weeks, then it’s $6.05 and so forth. This demonstrates how loans result in you paying interest on interest.

The dark side of compound interest

Of course, you’ll also want to talk about the other aspect of interest: paying it. When bills aren’t paid on time, interest accumulates — only instead of earning more money, they’ll owe more. They’ll be paying interest on interest, instead of earning interest on interest. This explanation is especially important as kids get older and approach the age they might get their first credit card. You can demonstrate the principles of compound interest from a young age.


The marshmallow test

Give your child one marshmallow and tell them if they don’t eat it today, they’ll get another one tomorrow.

Tomorrow, they’ll have two, and if they put them aside, they’ll have four the next day. This can be a good, tangible lesson about how delaying gratification can increase something’s value.


The bank of Mum and Dad

When they’re a little older, start a money jar with coins. Get them to deposit one coin and match their deposit with a


Create a visual

Is there a toy or gift your child really wants? Make a deal: Tell them if they save a certain amount of money, you’ll buy it. Establish at the beginning how much interest they’ll earn on their savings, such as 5% or 10%. Draw up a savings goal chart and put it on the wall. At the end of each week, mark their progress. Write down how much they have saved, as well as how much interest they’ve earned. They’ll be able to see over a month or more the power of compound interest.

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NZ needs more

foster parents he Vulnerable Children’s Ministry wants to recruit 1000 more foster parents for children who need temporary and long-term care. Foster Care Awareness Week (511 March) highlighted the 6 per cent increase in the number of out-of-home placements for vulnerable children (from 4203 to 4435) during the period 30 September 2015 to 30 September 2016. Family Times talked with Fostering Kids New Zealand communications advisor Alistair Wilkinson – who is also a foster parent – about the challenges and rewards of foster parenting.



What difference can a foster parent make in a child’s life? A Foster parents make a profound impact in the lives of New Zealand’s most vulnerable children. Sometimes, foster parents provide care for just a few nights - in other cases they take permanent care of children. Whatever the situation, the best foster parents provide homes that heal; a haven from the chaos that has usually preceded their transition into care.


How rewarding/ demanding is it? I can tell you from personal experience as a permanent (home for life) caregiver - it is the most challenging and the most rewarding role. To be successful as a caregiver, you need to understand the impact that trauma has on the brain. Traumatic experiences change our behaviour, and can lead to negative labels. The thing to grasp is that kids in care who act out are not bad kids; they are kids who’ve been hurt. Children in care have all the same hopes and dreams as other kids, but too often society puts up barriers to their success. When they do succeed, it is all the sweeter. There is no such thing as an ordinary day when you’re caregiver because extraordinary things happen all the time.


What makes a good foster parent? Good foster caregivers understand the impact that trauma has on a child’s ability to function, and they make a commitment to continue learning about how to care for vulnerable children. We’re big on training at Fostering

Kids NZ, because we believe in creating therapeutic home environments where children can heal. Caring for a child who has been hurt can be tough - sometimes they take their anger out on caregivers so you need to have a lot of patience and you can’t get rattled easily.


How can you prepare to be foster parents?

A You need to think carefully about

the impact it will have on your family. If you already have children, you need to understand the impact it may have on

them. It can also put pressure on couples - so you need to have a very strong relationship. Good foster caregivers maintain strong support networks - not just family members but also friends and neighbours. You need to have people to call on when challenging situations arise. If you’re interested, seek out someone who is already doing it and talk to them. Also, it’s a rigorous process to become an approved caregiver, and it gives prospective foster parents the opportunity to think about what they really want.

Have you thought about becoming a foster carer? Are you flexible, committed and resilient? Then call Key Assets now! You may be our next Foster Care Champion! 0800 525 437

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KIDS' TIME Welcome to Kids’ Time at Family Times. Enjoy the fun activities and competitions. For competitions, enter online by visiting www.familytimes. and click on the competitions link.

Looking for some rainy day activities for your children? Click on the For Kids section on our website for answers and for further activities your children can print out and complete.








Win a Crayola prize pack This issue we would love you to draw your favourite winter scene. Maybe it’s one of your favourite places to go in winter or your favourite winter activity. Then tell us all about it. Send us your picture (either via post or email) and you will be in to win a wonderful prize pack for creative kiwi kids from Crayola. There are three entry age groups: 1-4, 5-8, and 9-12. Don’t forget to write your name, age, description and postal address (so we can send you your prize if you win!) Post to PO Box 36,004 Christchurch 8146 or email admin@familytimes. Entries close 15 May 2017.

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There once was a dog with a keen sense of smell. She was known far and wide as Detective Dog Nell. Written by the brilliant Julia Donaldson and stunningly illustrated by the multi-talented illustrator and printmaker Sara Ogilvie, Detective Dog is a fast-paced celebration of books, reading, libraries, and the relationship between a little boy and his rather special dog. To be in to win one of 5 copies of this book, simply visit and enter on our competitions page. Competition closes 8 May 2017.

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Calendar of Events

As beautiful autumn colours start to grace our landscape, it’s the perfect time to get out and about and enjoy all the city has to offer. For more event and entertainment ideas, visit and enjoy our large, family-friendly resource.

7–8 April

● The Christchurch Food Show. Taste and buy a huge range of local and international foods and drinks, and enjoy a stellar lineup of culinary stars. From 10am–5pm. Tickets start at $15. Horncastle Arena. Visit

8 April

● Dr Julie Bhosale Starting Solids tour. This internationally-renowned nutrition expert, author and speaker will shine the spotlight on current research about

starting babies on solids. From 9am–12pm, Knox Presbyterian Church. Visit event. From 1–3pm, 146 Seaview Road, New Brighton. Visit

8 April

● Under 5’s Market. A huge variety of bargain new and pre-owned clothing, toys, books and equipment for sale. Cash sales only. Cost: $2 entry. From 10am–12.30pm, The Cashmere Club. Visit www.facebook. com/ChristchurchParentsCentre.

27 April to 13 May

● The Sound of Music. A perfect musical event for a family treat to enchant the young and young at heart. From $30, Rangiora Town Hall, 303 High Street, Rangiora. Visit

14–17 April

● Canterbury Folk Music Festival. A family-friendly weekend featuring acoustic and folk music from top national and international performers, including a youth band project and a fun-filled children’s programme. Waipara Adventure Centre. Visit


For more event and entertainment ideas, visit and enjoy our large, familyfriendly resource.

● StarJam—The Joy of Music. An extraordinary concert to help fundraise for award-winning charity StarJam. Adults $10, children $5. At 5pm, The Piano: Centre for Music and the Arts, 156 Armagh Street. Visit


15 April

● Lincoln Easter Market. Family fun at the Easter-themed market. Easter egg hunt, face painting, live music plus a bustling market with local produce. From 10am to 1pm, Lincoln Green, Gerald Street, Lincoln.

29 to 30 April

● 2017 Autumn Garden Show. An exhibition celebrating autumn with vibrant flowers and plants, from alpines to bonsai. Free, from 10am, Christchurch Botanic Gardens, Ilex Room and marquee. Visit

4–14 May

● Joseph and the Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat. The Biblical story of Joseph, his eleven scheming brothers and his coat of many colours, in catchy songs and colourful dance numbers. From $64.90, Isaac Theatre Royal. Visit

15 April

● Circus Open Day. Christchurch Circus Trust is celebrating World Circus Day by opening its doors to give the public a look—and maybe even a go—at circus. Free

Why PORSE? Because little minds grow best at home Home-based educators with PORSE provide a loving, family-orientated environment for your children, where fun, learning and exploration are encourage and nurtured. We offer low-ratio childcare, flexible hours and 20 hours ECE for 3-5 year olds. Work and Income subsidies may also apply. For more information, please call Bridget Hooper ph 021 240 9330.

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7 May

● Steam Sundays at Ferrymead. An early 1900s township and heritage museum. Enjoy a fun-filled day and take a ride on the steam train and trams. From 10am to 4.30pm, 50 Ferrymead Park Drive, Heathcote. Visit

14 May and 11 June

● Stop Motion Animation Sundays. Learn to make stop-motion animated movies at a 90-minute session using iStopMotion and LEGO specific techniques. Cost $15 or $25 to share computer. At 1pm, Imagination Station, 113 Worcester Street. Visit www.

26 May

● The Big Bike Film Night. Lights, cameras, bikes! Showcasing a collection of short movies that have everything a bikecentric audience could want. Cost: $20. At St Margaret’s College, 12 Winchester Street. Visit

Holiday PROGRAMMES Looking for something fun, educational or adventurous for your kids during these school holidays? Check out some of the great programmes available in the following listings: ● TimberNook TimberNook offers authentic, outdoor experiences for children - igniting creativity, problem solving and imagination: experience Taking Flight, Story Book and Extreme Art. Email kim., phone 027934-0409 or visit ● Busy Bumbles Busy Bumbles is an award winning OSCAR programme, which offers a stimulating, quality programme for children. See www. for more information.

4 June

● SHARP Trust SHARP Trust provides low cost, quality, Christian out-of-school care for children aged 5 to 13-years. Enrol now at www. or phone 03-338-0673.

14 to 16 June

● Kelly Sports Kids learn a range of fundamental skills used in all sports at Kelly Sports’ CYF approved holiday programmes in St Martins, Burnside, Wairakei, Spreydon and Yaldhurst. Phone Steve on 021-044-6283 or email

25 June

● Mainland Football #GETIN to football – join one of Mainland Football’s fun, action-packed holiday programmes in the heart of the city at Canterbury’s home of football – English Park. Fun outdoor and indoor programmes available. Visit www.

● ASB Christchurch Marathon. One of the fastest courses in the world. There are marathon, half marathon, 10k and Kids’ Mara’Fun options for all levels of runner. Starts 8am, Cathedral Square. Visit

● NZCT Chamber Music Contest district rounds. Open to full-time students from Years 9 to 13. The public is also welcome. Cost $0–8. The Piano: Centre for Music and the Arts, 156 Armagh Street. Visit

● Winter Encraftment Market. More than 70 stalls, handpicked for their quality craft and design items. Large food court. From 10am to 3pm, Lincoln Event Centre, 15 Meijer Drive. Free entry. Visit

● SwimKings Learn to swim with the experts at SwimKings: book now for school holiday programmes or join the babies and preschooler or after school programmes at any time. Phone 03-341-7579 or visit ● Art Metro Holiday art programmes at the Art Metro for ages 5 to 15-years. Painting and drawing classes with individual tuition in small groups. Inquiries welcome. Visit or email ● Living Springs  Kids’ camp - 18-21 April. Check the website for details: www.livingsprings. or email

● CASPA CASPA offers a holiday programme experience that your five to 13-year-olds will enjoy. Our programmes are designed to be fun and educational. For peace of mind, call CASPA on 03-349-9260. ● Kidsbase A fun, safe and caring environment for all kids before school, after school and during school holidays. Visit www. or text 027-239-7690 for a programme near you. ● Sport Canterbury Sport Canterbury active kids’ holiday programmes promote fun, participation and sporting experiences for 5 to 13-yearolds. Visit On 16-27 January.

● Kowhai Residential School of Riding Kowhai runs horse riding courses most weekends and all school holidays throughout the year: fully supervised, fun and educational. Visit, phone 03-312-4309. 17


ENTERTAINMENT Autumn is here, and it’s a great time to get out and explore the plethora of exciting events and entertainment destinations around the city. Here are a few ideas to get you started, and we’ve got heaps more at ● Mega Air Mega Air is New Zealand’s premiere trampoline arena! Free play sessions, dodgeball tournaments, Mega Fit classes and amazing kids’ parties! Phone 03-3442628, visit ● Christchurch Gondola Perfect family entertainment at the Christchurch Gondola: great views, Red Rock Café, Time Tunnel and walking trails. Visit ● Christchurch Tramway Welcome aboard the Christchurch Tram! Travel on our newly extended track and enjoy this unique and historic way to view the inner city. ● Willowbank Wildlife Reserve Visit Willowbank’s Big 5; the tuatara, the kiwi, the cheeky kea, the mighty takahe

and the very rare kaka. Visit ● Orana Wildlife Park Experience up-close animal encounters at Orana Wildlife Park. See New Zealand’s only gorillas, hand feed giraffe, view kiwi, lions and much more. Visit www. ● Laser Strike Come play an indoor, family-friendly, exciting game of laser tag. We also do birthdays and large groups.  Phone 03-366-7595. ● Weka Pass Railway Enjoy a fun day out or picnic at Weka Pass Railway. All weather entertainment. Visit for details.

● Black Cat Cruises Make it an unforgettable experience with Black Cat Cruises and the Hector’s dolphins. Just 90 minutes from Christchurch and best of all, under 5s cruise for free! Visit

● Black Cat Cruises Kids cruise for free with Black Cat Cruises Akaroa Harbour Nature Cruise these holidays: one child per one full-paying adult. Phone 0800-436-574 or visit for more information.

● Kowhai Residential School of Riding Kowhai runs horse riding courses most weekends and all school holidays throughout the year: fully supervised, fun and educational. Visit, phone 03-312-4309.

● Southern Ballet Southern Ballet Theatre presents All That Jazz. On Wednesday 26 to Saturday 29 April, 3pm and 6pm daily. Phone 03-379-7219 for bookings.

● Imagination Station This is a charity run, not-for-profit play and education centre with a whole lot of LEGO! Visit

Holiday specials

Here are some great holiday ideas designed to keep you and your little ones entertained during the school break. ● Cinderella in Space Your favourite fairytale boldly goes into outer space in the most imaginative and hilarious retelling yet! On 19-29 April 2017, The Court Theatre,

Are your children learning to swim with SwimKings? SwimKings SwimOlution programme: • Quality trained staff wanting to make a difference for your child • Swimming lessons for all levels • Warm friendly family environment • Serving the South West area for 20 years

Book now for the School Holiday Programme 03 341 7579 109 main sth rd, sockburn, christchurch -


● Kaiapoi Aquatic Centre Bumper boats every Monday, Wednesday, Friday and Sunday, 1-3pm during the school holidays. Cost is $5 plus pool admission. Kaiapoi Aquatic Centre, 9 Cass Street, Kaiapoi. Phone 03-375-5041. ● Avonhead Shopping Centre Elgregoe is at Avonhead Shopping Centre these school holidays! From 18 – 22 April at 11.30am and 1.30pm daily. Visit for more information. ● Cushion Theatre at the Malthouse Lost in Oz, 15-30 April. There is a mystery to solve and Oz and Dorothy’s cousins


Before and after school Looking for a great programme or activity to keep your kids occupied outside of school hours? Look no further – we’ve got some great options for you here, and at ● Busy Bumbles Busy Bumbles is an award winning OSCAR programme, which offers a stimulating, quality programme for children. See www. for more information. KELLY SPORTS - GIVING KIDS A SPORTING CHANCE. are caught up in a magical world where nothing is as it seems. Visit ● Little MusicPlay Family Fun Day 29th April - come along and experience the joy of MusicPlay with your baby or child. Email us for your FREE ticket: ● Sport Canterbury Sport Canterbury active kids’ holiday programmes promote fun, participation and sporting experiences for 5 to 13-yearolds. Visit On 16-27 January.

● CASPA CASPA offers an after-school programme that your five to 13-year-olds will enjoy. For peace of mind, call CASPA on 03-349-9260. ● Kidsbase A fun, safe and caring environment for all kids before school, after school and during school holidays. Visit or text 027-239-7690 for a programme near you. ● M*A*S*H Various programmes around Christchurch, Timaru/Temuka and North Canterbury. May be free - full WINZ subsidy available. “The best fun your kids can have.” Phone 0800-420-520,,

After School Clinics Pre-School Programmes Holiday Programmes Sports Days Birthday Parties Sports Club Clinics At Kelly Sports, we give children the opportunity to learn a range of fundamental skills used in all sports such as kicking, throwing, catching, striking, jumping and running. Operating in excess of 40 Schools and Pre-School centres Christchurch wide we can deliver programmes to suit your needs. We also run CYF approved Holiday Programmes at 5 venues across the City in the areas of St Martins, Burnside, Wairakei, Spreydon and Yaldhurst.

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Simplicity Parents, you can breathe a sigh of relief. It looks like – finally – we might be simplifying our parties a little. If you’ve lost countless nights of sleep trying to plan the perfect Pinterest party, relax – things are scaling back. Simplicity will be the overarching theme of the year. Instead of setting out to impress little guests and their parents, the focus is turning more to quality interaction.

Top kids’ party trends for 2017 We may not have a crystal ball, but we’ve been doing our research to find the top kids’ party trends for 2017. Make sure that your child’s big day is on point with these top tips: Drip cakes

Statement balloons Instead of ordering a balloon bouquet, or filling a room with tons of balloons, this year there will be a focus on statement balloons. This gels with the overall theme of simplicity. Think oversized gold number balloons, or balloons that spell out your child’s name. You can tie them to a chair with one or two other balloons that match the party’s theme colours, if there are any.

Naked cakes have had their day – drip cakes are all the rage now. It might be wise to outsource this to a professional cake maker if you are an inexperienced baker. But, if you are clever in the kitchen, why not have a try at this style of cake? The results are just stunning, especially topped with fresh flowers or a calligraphy cake topper.

Unique themes Forget princesses and pirates and all the cliché themes of all the childhood parties your kids have been too. Think quirky, think cool. Ask your child what they would like to centre the party around. Maybe it’s penguins, or a Japanese tea party. It could be Lego. Whatever it is, one-of-a-kind party experiences are going to be more popular than in the past. This more individual focus will allow kids to have a party that’s more representative of them, rather than just shows or movies that they like.

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Statement backdrops These are great. Instead of decorating an entire space, use a statement backdrop to spruce up a small area. Check out Ali Express if you’re plenty organised and you can pick up a bargain for $30 or less. It will take 2 to 6-weeks to arrive though. Statement backdrops are also fun for doing party photo shoots, so you get double value for your money.

Interactive food stations Interactive food stations are another way to get creative with your party styling and they’re so much fun for guests! Some cute and easy ideas include a cupcake decorating table, a DIY taco station, a self-serve ice cream sundae bar and a donut wall. If you want to keep things simpler, a dessert table or candy buffet will always be appreciated and devoured by guests.



cafe and restaurant dining Dining out as a family is a fantastic opportunity to treat the kids to new culinary experiences and take a night off from cooking. We have compiled a list of some of our favourite, family-friendly places to go. WINNIE BAGOES


Here at Winnies, it is our aim to offer you the best family pizza dining experience in New Zealand. Winnies Ferrymead is the perfect spot to bring the family for lunch or dinner 7 days a week: a great kids’ menu, the awesome Winnies Kids’ Pizza school and a family-friendly environment. The best pizza in town! Unit 3, 2 Waterman Place, Ferrymead 03-376-4900

Caesars is a spacious restaurant and bar with fresh, home-style Kiwi food and a section for Mediterranean cuisine. The restaurant offers quality food and beverages for all ages and budgets, including a children’s menu and play area. It’s ideal for birthdays and functions. Promotions throughout the week and Kids Dine Free Mondays (conditions apply). Northwood Supa Centa Phone: 03-323-5420


Milieu Cafe is a warm and welcoming cafe located in the heart of Addington. Great for meeting people for a full meal, coffee and cake or even afterwork drinks and nibbles. We offer all kinds of kids’ drinks and meals; it’s a great place for kids and family meals on the weekend. 112 Wrights Road, Addington 03-962-9629


Located at Addington Raceway, Spectators is open all day, has ample free parking at the door, a “minor” menu and Kids Eat Free on Sunday. It opens out onto the Lindauer Lawn – the perfect garden spot for kids to run and play while you enjoy the food, views and brews. T&C's apply. 65 Jack Hinton Drive, Addington 03 339 7915


With a shaded play area and secure fencing, there’s peace of mind for mum and dad and fun for the kids. Relax and enjoy our top-notch coffee or a cold drink while the little ones entertain themselves. Special offer: Monday and Tuesday $15 pizza & salad with house wine, beer or coffee. $10 lunch Monday to Friday. 16A Beach Rd, Waimairi 03-382-8599

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Term 2, 2017 Monday 1 May to Friday 7 July

Term 4, 2017 Monday 16 October to no later than Wednesday 20 December Term 1, 2018 Between Monday 29 January and Wednesday 7 February to Friday 13 April

2017 - 2018 secondary and composite school term dates Term 2, 2017 Monday 1 May to Friday 7 July

Term 4, 2017 Monday 16 October to no later than Thursday 14 December

Remaining public holidays 2017 14 April 17 April 25 April 5 June 23 October 25 December 26 December

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When it’s more than

the baby blues ell, sometimes. Plunket says that women often experience a range of emotions – from elation and excitement to times of feeling low, anxious, confused and tearful – in the early days of motherhood. And that’s normal. What’s not normal is when the baby blues last longer than a few weeks. When that low feeling lasts, it can develop into postnatal depression. Post-natal depression affects about 13 per cent of new mothers, according to Plunket, and new mothers often ignore the signs out of guilt. It can affect a firsttime mum or a mother of five within the first year post-partum. One Kiwi mother, Erin, told her story to She put her tearfulness and anxiety down to being tired all of the time. She disliked being stuck at home alone, and although her baby brought her joy, she struggled with resentfulness over loss of freedom. When her doctor diagnosed her with post-natal depression, she didn’t believe it. “What have I got to cry about? How could I have PND?” she said. Mothers often ignore the signs of post-natal depression due to incorrectly


associating it with failure as a mother. But ignoring and suppressing post-natal depression is dangerous. In worst-case scenarios, it can affect how you feel about and care for your new baby and other children. The good news is that post-natal depression is not a life sentence. Treatment can be as simple as talk-therapy through to doctor prescribed medication depending on the severity of symptoms. The most important thing is to seek professional help and to not try to manage it alone. Some tips:

Try to get lots of rest

Sleep or rest whenever possible. If someone is able look after your baby for a couple of hours, put on some soothing music, have a warm drink, and relax. Try to nap when your baby is sleeping and forget your to-do list for a while.

Eat a healthy, well-balanced diet

Try not to go for long periods without eating, to avoid a dip in your blood sugar levels. A balanced diet will prevent you from becoming tired and feeling run down.


It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but exercise will help you to feel better in mind and body. There are plenty of YouTube clips with home-based exercise for mums, or taking baby out for a walk can lift your mood and get you out of the house.

Meet other mums

Having a baby can be isolating and postnatal depression can really make you feel alone. Join a Plunket group or other mums’ group in your local area and make connections with other mums.

Be kind to yourself

Taking care of yourself and your baby are the most important things. Try not to load yourself up with tasks that aren’t essential. Leave any big decisions for when you’re better, and be realistic about what you can achieve. Oh, and treat yourself once in a while.

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Experience feelings of hopelessness Experience depression during pregnancy Believe they just can’t cope Feel angry and irritated but not sure why Feel overly anxious about their baby Tearful, alone, guilty, and unsupported. Have difficulty sleeping even when their baby sleeps Have thoughts of harming themselves or their baby Feel that they are being a bad mother and that somehow they have to cope Not realise they are suffering from postnatal depression

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The horror of misplacing a child Many a parent has experienced mobilethe phone today overwhelming sense of is much more than panic when they realised a handy device to that their beloved son make necessary phone calls: or daughter, who was by it’s a mini-computer, internet their side one minute, had trawling whizvanished gadget. That’s seemingly into thin a air lot the of power next. in the hands of a child, preteen or teen Thankfully, the reality whose reasoning and for most is that they deduction capabilities haven’t wandered are not yet fully too far and they are quickly enveloped in your arms with expressions of “Thank God you’re safe,” and “You must never wander off like that; Mummy was frightened.”


That said, it’s a moment a parent never forgets and one that haunts them for years to come. And truth be known, it’s also a moment a child never forgets. We live in a world where, as parents, we’re constantly walking that tight rope of encouraging our children to go out there and live life-to-the-full whilst playing helicopter mum for fear of something happening to them. This modern-day conundrum has been recognised by Christchurch company, Mimark, which recently launched the concept of a virtual ID service. Mimark is built on a philosophy of bringing loved ones back together, safely and quickly. The company’s core offer is a virtual ID service that holds a person’s profile that provides

information that you are happy for others to readily access in a time of need – such as name, emergency contact details and any vital medical information that might be needed in the case of an accident. While the ID is held in the cloud, it is readily accessed by way of a customised QR code embedded in a resin-based waterproof sticker. One quick scan of the QR code with a smartphone, or by texting the ID number on the sticker to 5211, the wearer’s identification, emergency contact details and medical information, will be downloaded in seconds. Whether taking steps to ensure the safety of a child or a family member with particular needs, the concept of a virtual ID in times of distress is a compelling proposition. This virtual ID service is subscription based, with an annual cost of $20. The stickers are available in packs of eight and can be securely placed on clothing, bags, bike helmets, phones and the like. The company has also launched the Mimark Recogniser – a watch that has the unique QR code embedded in the strap. Sticker packs retail for $10 and the Recogniser for $99.95.


Sometimes you need some information or an answer to a curly question. Why not pick up the phone and call the relative support agency? You’ll find professional caring people ready to assist you.

➜ Catholic Social Services No-cost parenting support programmes and family/individual counselling open to all. Usual office hours with late night on Tuesdays to 6.30pm, only by appointment. 336 Cashel Street, P O Box 4237, Christchurch. Phone: 03-379 0012

➜ Women’s Centre A safe women-only space run by women for women. We provide: resources, courses, counselling, Drop-in 10am-2pm, Monday-Friday, 242 Ferry Road, Waltham. Contact us: 03-371-7414, 022-105-5308.,

➜ New Zealand Speak Easy Association Inc. Canterbury is a stuttering support group. We meet at the University Speech Disorders Unit every 1st and 3rd Thursday of the month at 7.30pm. For more information phone Barry Hay on 03-981 8593. New Zealand Speak Easy Association Inc, PO Box 16554, Hornby, Christchurch.

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karoa is a fabulous place for a day-trip or a longer stay to really unwind. Best of all, this historic, picturesque haven is a world away from city life but just an hour-and-a- half’s drive from Christchurch. It’s the perfect location to just relax and take your time to soak in the magical surroundings, or if you have a hankering to be active, take part in the many activities that are on offer in Akaroa and the dramatic outer bays. There’s something in Akaroa to suit every family member:

On the way: • Stop for a coffee and food at the Little River Café & Gallery, and check out the great art. • Stop at the Barry’s Bay Cheese Factory and view traditional cheese making. There is cheese making every second day during the season (mornings are best). In Akaroa: • Walk the length of the town and stop in at the many boutique craft shops to enjoy some retail therapy. • Eat fish and chips at the world famous Akaroa Fish & Chip shop, or a tasty lunch and coffee at L’Escargot Rouge. Great food and great views. • Take a harbour cruise, dolphin swim or a sail boat on Akaroa Harbour and check out the rare hectors dolphins and other wildlife. You can also hire a kayak and paddle out on the harbour yourself. • Explore the Akaroa Museum. Free entry. • Don’t miss The Giants House Mosaic & Sculpture garden. It’s exuberant, astounding, colourful, surprising, seriously playful, unique in the world, and it’s bound to make you smile.



BOOK BUNKS AT ROD DONALD HUT. VISIT WWW.DOC.GOVT.NZ Walks Akaroa has many great walking tracks that you can enjoy for free. These vary from short hikes to all-day tramps over the hills. Most of the walks have spectacular views of the Akaroa harbour once you get up into the hills above the township.

SURPRISE VIEW - GARDEN OF TANE. Top walking tips from Rod Donald Banks Peninsula Trust Visit to see all the exciting walks in the Akaroa area. Then choose one of Rod Donald Trust’s walking brochures from the Akaroa,

Little River or DOC visitor centre to get the details. The Trust suggests the magical Garden of Tane at the southern end of Akaroa for a short adventure. Get lost on a myriad of mysterious tracks criss-crossing through forest and see who can find the biggest tree, the ancient iron horse and the way out!

Find the hidden letters around Akaroa by following the clues below. Add the letters in the boxes below.




Once you have the special word completed, email your answer to to enter the draw and be in to win a pass for 2 (an adult and a child) for a 24 hour package with Pohatu penguins (Scenic drive, bush walk, penguin tour, accommodation, return trip to Akaroa. Valued at $260). Open for any ages.

Akaroa Scavenger Hunt

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Find the old light that use to guide the sailors back to their home safely. There you will find the first clue. Find the weapon of defense used by the British warship HMS Britomart. Second clue is here. Bubble bubble toil and trouble the clue is by the single pot. Third clue can be found here.

Dolphin on land, where children play. Extra clue: close to a place when translated from French means “My house”. Fourth clue can be found here.


For more of a challenge, walk to the Rhino on the Children’s Bay Farm, and see if you can spot the giraffes too on the way up. Akaroa’s newest place for fun is Purple Peak Curry Reserve. Leave the car at Heritage Park about half way up Long Bay Road and then walk the rest of the way to the very top of the hills behind Akaroa on Curry Track. For the biggest adventure of all, plan a two night tramp on Te Ara P taka and walk from the Lyttelton to the Akaroa craters via the Peninsula’s spectacular summit ridgeline. There are two overnight huts – historic Sign of the Packhorse and the brand new Rod Donald Hut. For a taster experience, park at Port Levy Saddle on Western Valley Road and reach Rod Donald Hut in less than one hour. In the area: • Visit Okains Bay Colonial Museum. • Do a penguin tour with Pohatu Penguins. Pohatu Penguins offer unique nature tours to see the little penguins in their natural environment. You’ll also learn about

Red, white and blue, where the locals meet to get their meat. Fifth clue here.

the self-funded conservation work that saved the birds from extinction in the area. Play a game of mini golf at the Akaroa Mini Golf Course.

Where to stay Akaroa on the Beach At Akaroa on the Beach, there are three unique, waterfront, designer apartments in a tranquil setting, each with spectacular views of Akaroa Harbour. Designed with the Pacific in mind, they are just metres from the water, and a relaxing 12-minute waterfront walk to the village centre. Mt Vernon Lodge Mt Vernon Lodge offers a variety of accommodation, from economy rooms and cottages to cabins/chalets with full facilities. It’s right in the heart of Akaroa with manicured lawns, mature trees and amazing views.

At the Akaroa museum ask the curator for his/her riddle and get the last part of the word. Final clue here. 1






Win a family pass

Win a family pass for two adults and two children to experience an Akaroa Harbour Nature Cruise. You’ll spend two hours on the water in Akaroa Harbour where you will see Hector’s dolphins, fur seals and maybe even some native penguins, along with the stunning majestic scenery and sea caves as you cruise through the extinct volcanic crater. To be in to win this fantastic prize, simply visit and enter on our competitions page. Competition closes 8 May 2017

Upcoming events 1 April Akaroa Harvest Festival. Sample the finest Peninsula fare in dishes created by local food heroes. Free admission, live music and kids’ entertainment. Potter’s Croft, 57 Rue Grehan Valley Road. Email, phone 021166-3737. 15 April Akaroa & Bays Lions Paddy’s Market. Grab a bargain! Furniture, collectables, tools, household goods. White Elephant starts at 10am and auction starts at 10.30am. At Akaroa Sports Recreation Ground. 23 April The Little River Country Bumpkin Giant Pumpkin Festival. Giant pumpkins, scarecrow competition, entertainment, stalls, delicious soup and pumpkin pie and much more. At Little River Domain, Little River, 11am-3pm.

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ice creams Take this voucher into the Akaroa Village Inn Shop (by the main wharf Akaroa) for $4 off ice creams. 25


the Mackenzie Country T

he Mackenzie District has some of the best scenery in New Zealand with snowy mountains, golden tussock-lands and turquoise-coloured lakes. You'll be captivated by the stunning scenery and exhilarated by the range of outdoor adventures. There's something to suit every member of the family. • Boating, fishing and golfing. • Walking tracks weave their way throughout the Mackenzie. There's something for every fitness level. • Get on your bike and view fantastic scenery cycling along the Alps 2 Ocean. It is a suitable grade for grandparents and grandchildren alike. • Relaxing soak in the hot pools. • Stargazing – one of the best stargazing sites on Earth. • Horse riding, swimming and water sports. •

Explore glaciers

If you’re staying in Twizel and would like to go for a kid-free bike ride or fishing trip, the ECE qualified team at Twizel Early Learning Centre offer casual bookings Mon-Fri. Call them to make a booking: 03 4350640.






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Family Times Christchurch Autumn 2017  
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