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A FAMILY SHARES THEIR

Life Lessons

WHAT IS BEST

Age For Braces? I AM A Bad Parent! DO YOU KNOW YOUR LANGUAGE?

Spouse’s Love


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FROM THE PUBLISHER

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s I go to print with the Summer 2014 Issue of Family Matters in Milton, I can’t help but feel a bit nostalgic. Two years ago, I was preparing a mock issue and introducing it to small business owners, in the hopes that they would support a publication that was yet to exist. From the start, the support and feedback has been outstanding. I am constantly hearing from readers about how much they enjoy reading Family Matters and how they look forward to our Facebook posts.

Cover photo and photo of Susanna by Eujenia Medeiros - My Four Eyes Photography. Photo of Lynn by Laurie Goodman Photography.

I am overjoyed to be working with the super talented Lynn Lockhart of re:design creative. Her help in the creative department is invaluable. Her understanding of our community facilitates her communication with advertisers and readers.

Eujenia Medeiros My Four Eyes Photography

I can not easily express the tremendous pride I feel having my daughter Eujenia Medeiros on board. As an aspiring photographer, she has contributed her work on several cover shots. Every time she works on a new issue, her talent and style evolves, and more importantly, so does her confidence. Through the growth of Family Matters in Milton, the focus remains the same. Offer a platform for small business owners in our community to reach their audience. Entrepreneurs are hard workers with a wealth of information. This information can certainly be found anywhere, considering the age we live in. However, the personal connection and sense of community remains strong when we turn to one another for advise and ideas. I look forward to your continued support and I urge you to continue to support the local business in this beautiful town we live in. Don’t forget to tell them you saw them in Family matter in Milton!

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CONTENTS

I Am A Bad Parent!..................................2 Where Do YOU Want To Live?....................6 Pool Safety............................................8 Do You Know Your Spouse’s Love Language?......................................10 What Can You Do When Your Teen Pushes You Away?..............................18 What is the Best Age for Braces?...........21 A Family Shares Their Life Lessons........22


WHERE DID I GO WRONG?

I AM A

Bad Parent!

Parenting is a rewarding and difficult job. The kids, the job, the property.... parents have to balance so many responsibilities. Many factors contribute to parenting stress: the size of the family, the financial situation, special needs of family members, single-parenting, and whether there are extended family members and close friends providing support. These factors can influence the level of stress parents feel and how parents cope with stressors.

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o child is born with a manual! Thankfully, there is much we know about child development and effective parenting strategies, but a “one size fits all” approach can be ineffective. It is important to take into account the individual needs of the family and the cultural background. Parents can feel like they do not measure up; this can include not doing enough for their children and handling discipline issues in less desirable ways. Yet, keeping in mind that we are usually talking about adults whom we expect “know what to do” when it comes to their children, we cannot lose sight of the fact that parents are human, so they make mistakes, have their own personal needs, and need support in order to fulfill their roles effectively.

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As a general rule, providing a safe and nurturing environment is an important part of a parent’s responsibility. Along with this is the need to set limits and shape their child’s behaviour through positive attention and negative consequences that help children experience success and become productive members of the community. When parents feel like they have not done enough for their child (e.g., spending one-on-one time, providing activities), setting limits and making important decisions their children may be unhappy with can be more difficult than usual. Conversely, when children are displaying bad behaviour, parents can fall into the trap of focusing on negative consequences to the expense of positive attention and time that promotes a warm parent-child relationship.


Involving children in goal-setting, establishing routines and communicating expectations changes in form as children grow older. Developmentallyappropriate ways of maintaining a positive relationship with children and setting limits is important. Consulting with the support network of family and friends can help parents gain some perspective and learn new ways to understand and approach problems. This can be difficult particularly if parents have much guilt and are worried about being judged negatively by others and blamed for their child’s struggles. Similarly, seeing the child as the problem and not willing to entertain how parenting contributes to the problem because a game of “whose fault is it,” when really most problems have several contributing factors. Visiting a psychologist and attending community support groups can be helpful steps in obtaining professional

assistance. Parenting programs (such as COPE, Triple P, Incredible Years) can help parents understand problems differently and learn new skills to help the parents and children and cope more effectively. And those of us who are in the support network – personal or professional – need to keep in mind that just like the children, parents are doing the best they can with the resources they have. Judging parents for family struggles and fueling parental guilt is a barrier only maintains problems. As we all do – parents sometimes need extra support to accept their strengths and weaknesses and make needed changes. Who was it that said that it takes a village to raise a child? Dr. Paulo Pires, C. Psych. & Dr. Shonna John, C. Psych. Halton Psychologists, 14A Martin Street, Milton, L9T 2P9


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YOU Want To Live?

Are you a commuter who needs Highway access or Go Train services? Are you new parents who rely upon your childcare provider or a particular school that has the courses your child needs? Maybe it’s a south facing backyard you seek for your garden. In Real Estate it always boils down to LOCATION.

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ost everyone knows that location is THE most important factor in your buying and selling decision, but the reasons location is important to one person can be so very different from the next person. On the micro level it can be as simple as sidewalk or non-sidewalk side of the street, bus stop location or even closeness to a friend or family member. As you expand the location bubble you can include factors like elementary and high schools, community centers, after school activities, walking trails and parks and proximity to shopping & local services. As consumers we think we are so wise that we consider the obvious factors. But do you also consider the unknown factors? In Milton, there are rolling fields, escarpment views and sprawling subdivisions. When you go to one Sales Center does their neighbourhood map show you everything that is AND everything that will be? Is it guaranteed? Double and triple check. A beautiful premium lot facing “future” park and green space are not always 100%. What about the empty corner of the subdivision with promises of shopping, coming soon! Does that mean 2014, or does the developer

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intend for it to occur sometime in this decade? So now the question becomes, how do you find out about things that are maybe’s on the location list but actually are really important? Is your premium lot still premium if a low-rise condo overshadows your once sun filled backyard? What about your peaceful side street which now backs onto a parking lot? These are the big picture location questions people need to be asking when they are deciding where they want to live. Talk to your neighbourhood experts and collect a range of answers so that your crystal ball becomes more accurate. • Go to more than one new home sale center and cross reference their “proposed” maps to see what their neighbourhood plans look like together. • Talk to municipal representatives, or check out the planning department on the Town of Milton’s website for plans and proposals for specific neighbourhoods. Go to Town Council planning meetings, for any neighbourhoods that you might be considering living in.


• If you think you are guaranteed a specific school, check out the Public / Separate School Board websites for boundary maps, current and future proposed maps. Also talk to the school administrators and find out if they know of any changes coming before you sign on the dotted line.

of a crossing guard or train track? Check out the area in the evenings and weekends too, maybe you are looking for your kids to play road hockey or basketball and you want to know if other neighbours have similar interests. Seems like a small thing, but it could make or break the deal for someone in your family.

• Go to the neighbourhood after your initial real estate visit, check it out in the morning when everyone is commuting to work, school buses and parents are dropping off at school, did your morning commute just increase because

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DO YOU KNOW YOUR SPOUSE’S

Love Language? Does it feel like you just can’t do the right thing for your loved one? It may not be enough just to tell your partner you love them or to bring them flowers.

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hen it comes to love, there is more than one language. And it is the inability to speak each other’s language that causes much of the strife in marriages and other familial relationships. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are 5 love languages. This means there are five universal ways that we express and interpret love. This is based on the patterns that are seen in couples and how they express and interpret love.

1. Words of Affirmation

For some people hearing “I love you”, words of praise or compliments are what they value most. These individuals feel that words have more weight than action sand would rather hear the reasons behind that love versus any other expression of love. This also means that if something negative or insulting is said it will not be easily forgiven.

2. Quality Time

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is an evening walk or a breakfast at your favorite local diner, spending quality time and being the focus of their undivided attention leaves them feeling satisfied and comforted more than words. Distractions, postponements or cancellations can be especially hurtful to these individuals.

3. Receiving Gifts

Not all people who enjoy receiving gifts are materialistic. This just means that for these individuals love is equated with a tangible gift. It doesn’t have to be extravagant but it does have to be meaningful and thoughtful. But if you buy a gift certificate or impersonal gift, be prepared for some backlash.

4. Acts of Service

Hearing the phrase “let me do that for you” is music to anyone’s ears but for people who see acts of service as the greatest expression of love, hearing that phrase is like hitting the jackpot. These individuals do not deal well with broken promises and laziness. Continued on page 13


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The language of physical touch doesn’t only refer to touch in the bedroom, but refers to the everyday physical connections, like holding hands, kissing, pats on the back and other types of re-affirming physical contact.

But it isn’t just knowing and understanding your spouse’s primary love language, but actually making an effort to speak that language, that’s vital to a healthy relationship. As we gain fluency in the primary language of our loved ones, we also begin to feel at ease expressing ourselves to them and they to us. So do you know your spouse’s love language?

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WHAT CAN YOU DO WHEN YOUR

teen pushes you away? During the teenage years children tend to try to separate themselves from their parents’ influence in an attempt to assert their autonomy. In doing so you may feel your teen is pushing you away or withholding information about their lives (e.g. friends, what they are doing, where they are). As a result you may feel that you do not know your child as well as you would like and that you do not have much influence on their choices. Below is a list of common reasons why teens decide not to share things with their parents.

TRIGGERS CAUSING TEENS TO PUSH AWAY Parent Behavior

Teen’s Reaction

Alternative Parent Behavior

You are in a Bad Mood. You have had a long day at work and are tired and irritable.

There is no point in talking. I hate when my parents yell.

Take time to take care of yourself. Once you are in a better headspace provide emotional support to your teen.

You are not completely paying attention because you are Preoccupied with other things such as chores.

Are you even listening to me? I am not a priority or important to my parents.

Stop what you are doing for a moment if your child decides to talk about something important to them. Set aside some time (e.g. after dinner) to spend quality alone time with your teen.

You don’t like talking about certain things like dating or sex so you Avoid Topics.

My parents are uncomfortable with these topics so it’s best to avoid them and talk to my friends instead. My parents don’t accept me for who I am.

Identify the topics you feel uncomfortable talking about, seek ways to talk about these topics with your teen, and then initiate the conversation with your teen.

You sense your child is not telling you something so you Persistently Question Them about what is bothering them.

Please leave me alone! You are so annoying! You are making me feel worse!

Recognize that your teen is emotionally upset and back off so they can try to use their own strategies to cope. Ask less direct/intrusive questions (e.g. how are things going with your friends?).

You Tease your teen in an attempt to get them to laugh or lighten up.

My parents don’t take me or my feelings seriously. My parents think my problems are silly. My parents don’t like who I am.

Take your teen seriously, even when they feel or react more extremely then makes sense to you. Share your own daily experiences or childhood memories to help put the situation in perspective.

You Nag your child to do their chores or change their behaviors.

You are so annoying! I am going to do it when and how I want, which is not now because you are telling me to do it.

Be clear about your request the first time and follow through with a consequence if the chore is not completed. If the behavior continues, ask what is getting in the way of your teen doing the chores and negotiate a solution.

You Express Disapproval of other teens or your own teen.

I can’t talk about that with my mom, she wouldn’t understand or approve.

Appreciate that your teen is sharing this with you, ask them to explain their side of the topic, and tentatively express your anxieties (not disapproval).

You let it show that you Doubt or Mistrust Them.

My parents think I am still a kid. My parents think I am a bad kid.

Trust that your teen will make good choices and has the skills to solve their own problems.

You Interrupt them when they are talking.

She doesn’t care about what I have to say so why bother trying!?!

Monitor how often you interrupt and apologize when you do.

You Jump to Conclusions or Take Sides when your teen has had a disagreement with a peer or adult.

Why try to explain, she only listens to the teacher’s side not mine.

Listen attentively, wait until the end, calmly ask questions and discuss both viewpoints.

You Don’t Keep Secrets.

If I tell my mom or dad the entire family/world will know!

Keep certain information confidential.

When your teen comes to you for help with a problem you Punish them.

I need help with this, but if I go to my parents it will only make things worse!

Don’t dwell upon the mistake or what your child did wrong, focus on how they can avoid similar situations in the future, or fix the problem now.

You Lecture your child, giving long speeches on issues important to you.

I know, I know! You have told me before! What I think doesn’t matter.

Deal with problems through dialogue. Ask your child to talk about their perspective.

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In summary, the parenting strategies that teens describe as effective in encouraging them to open up and share with their parents include listening attentively, showing emotional support, expressing an understanding of their feelings and experiences, honoring their secrets, showing appreciation for who they are becoming, and taking time to have fun with them. Try to keep in mind that your child’s attempts to reduce your influence is an important stage in the development of their identity and the establishment of a healthy self-esteem. Rest assured that studies find that in early adulthood youth’s values and behaviors end up more like their parents then the friends they had as teenagers. References: Tokic, A. & Pecnik, N. (2010). Parental behaviors related to adolescents’ self-disclosure: Adolescent’s views. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 28 (2), 201-222. Written by Dr. Kim Saliba School & Clinical Psychologist (supervised practice) New Leaf Psychology Centre 400 Main St. East, Suite 210, Milton, Ontario L9T 4X5 www.newleafpsychology.ca | 905-878-5050

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s an Orthodontist, I meet parents daily and I am routinely asked: “When is the best age for my child to get braces?” I firmly recommend to all parents that their children should be examined by an Orthodontist at age seven. While some parents gasp and say “Oh, that’s too young!” The Canadian & American Association of Orthodontists recommend all children have a check-up with an Orthodontist no later than age seven. The reasons are numerous. There is more to Orthodontics than just straightening the front teeth. Orthodontists are specialist trained in straightening teeth and jaw bones. They can detect subtle problems with jaw growth and tooth eruption while some baby teeth are still present. Even when a child’s teeth may appear straight, subtle problems may exist and can only be diagnosed by an Orthodontist. A short list of possible problems include: crowding, spacing, cross bite on front teeth, cross bite on back teeth, deep bite, open bite, teeth that stick out too far (protrusion), and under bites. Malocclusions (“bad bites”) can vary from mild to severe and can be due to genetic and/or environmental reasons. Teeth may grow into the incorrect position or may lack the space in the mouth and become impacted. If left uncorrected these problems can cause harm. In order to prevent unnecessary damage to teeth and supporting structures the recommended check-up at the age of seven will help identify any potential issues. One example is persistent thumb sucking. If the child continues with a sucking habit

after age seven, he/she may displace the growing teeth/bone into improper positions. There is a great deal of growth in the facial/jaw bones at the age seven and on, that can be easily manipulated. As some of this growth ceases before puberty it makes correction difficult or nearly impossible afterwards. Early treatment is designed to guide jaw growth, tooth eruption, and reduce the risk of trauma to protruded front teeth and to stop harmful habits. Self-esteem is improved by creating a more pleasing arrangement of teeth, lips and facial structures. As an Orthodontist, my goal is to provide each patient the most appropriate treatment at the most appropriate time. An analogy I give to parents is that it is much easier to extinguish a match than it is to wait and extinguish a wild fire! If there are no major problems to be addressed immediately, I do advise parents to wait until all of a teenager’s permanent teeth have erupted before commencing treatment. This reduces the total treatment time and minimizes the chance of doing harm to teeth.

I’m too old for braces!

It’s never too late to create a beautiful smile! More and more adults are seeking orthodontic care. I have treated patients as old as 77 with braces, which reinforces the fact that one can never be too old to look great and be healthier. Treat yourself, entrust your Orthodontist with your smile, and your improved smile will bring you happiness and increased confidence for a lifetime! FA M I LY M AT T E R S

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Rose at Oxygen Yoga and Pilates, for the first time. Instantly, I felt that she was someone I needed to know. The more I understand what Rose does for people everyday, and the wonderful lesson she is teaching her family, the more I admire her. Rose’s life lesson was taught to her in the most unexpected way. She has been the administrator for various community based social media groups as a way to help stay at home moms and working moms connect with one another in an effort to ease the challenges that life brings. During one of her trips to Micheal’s to pick up some craft supplies, she got a Facebook notification from a mom she Continued on page 24


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As a woman who struggled with her weight all her life, Rose knows she is not alone. In 2012, Rose joined Oxygen Yoga and Pilates. With the loving support of Lori-Ann McLeod and her team of incredible instructors and members, Rose began her successful journey to weight loss, better health and self esteem. To date, she has managed to lose over 75 pounds and feels better than she ever has. However, the thought of other women still struggling, like she had, gave her the feeling that there was more she had to do. On January 6 2014, Rose reached out to her network of amazing women and invited everyone who needed support with weight loss, to join her. I was one of the women fortunate enough to be part of this group. The love and unconditional support that this group offered was kike nothing I had ever experienced. This name has now Rose teaches her children that it is important group been changed to Life to give to those who need you, and take care Change Challenge. It is month challenge of others when you can. Not just those dear to awithsix support from a Registered Dietitian and you, but to your community, to strangers, Personal Trainers and to anyone who can benefit from love. well as over 30 women who are encouraging and A married mother of three, and home daycare supportive of one another. Rose has made this all provider, Rose teaches her children that it is possible and those of us who are benefiting from it important to give to those who need you, and are forever grateful to her for reaching out. take care of others when you can. Not just those dear to you, but to your community, to strangers, Another one of Rose’s endeavours has to do with to anyone who can benefit from love. As an effort small children and car safety. As Miltonians, to teach her children this lesson, Rose has been most of us are familiar with the story of the the at the forefront of many community based tragic death of Maximus Huyskens last summer. food drives. Five years ago, her husband Davide Maximus was accidentally left in a hot car and lost his job. A job loss takes an enormous toll on died as a result of heatstroke. It was a story a family. When most families would be asking for that rocked our community. Some sympathized help, the Passarellis helped others during their with the story, knowing that it could happen to most trying time. With the help of her teenage son anyone. Other judged and couldn’t understand Sandro, they canvased for, and organized many how anyone could forget a child in a hot car. food drives. They collected over 1500 pounds of food and donated to the Salvation Army. Continued on page 28 had never met, who was asking if anyone had any construction paper they could part with. Rose immediately offered to pick some up for her and deliver it to her house. When she arrived to hand over the construction paper, she didn’t expect a crying woman to answer the door. This woman was Adriana Laura Capozzi. Adriana explained that she just received a call from her husband telling her that her son had fainted in Walmart. Adriana had no way of getting to Walmart before the ambulance arrived so that she could be the one to ride with him, and Rose offered to drive her there. Days later Rose received a beautiful gift from this stranger. A key chain with the words “When you share love, love will find it’s way back”. It is with this phrase in mind that Rose raises her children.

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The Passarelli Family, Sandro, Davide, Rose, Olivia and Bella Rose, well she isn’t like the rest of us. She didn’t know the Huyskens family, and therefore did not judge. Instead she and two other moms decided to love them and do something to help them and the rest of our community. Forgetme-Not Family Fun Fair was organized to raise awareness of the real dangers possible Milton Fairgrounds was the host site to the first annual event. Hundreds of families came out to have a great time and to rally together to show the Huygens family the support they needed. This year on June 13 the 2 nd . Forget-me Not Fun Fair will take place. Rose has taken on the challenge on her own this year to make it bigger and better. It will include fun for the whole family and your family is encouraged to come out. Kids and Cars Canada will be on hand with demonstrations that will remind us all of the things we sometimes forget in our busy lives. 28

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Rose recognizes that everything she gives to our community would not be possible without the help and support of her loving family. Her son Sandro can be found canvassing door to door in an effort to help. She is grateful for her husband, Davide’s encouragement also. Helping the community takes time out of their family life and Davide pitches in with the children and the home so that Rose isn’t overwhelmed. Olivia and Bella are younger, but they too help in their own ways. She is extremely grateful for daughter Bella who helps out willingly around the house as well, in order to free mom up. In this way the family as a whole contributes to a greater cause. Family Matters in Milton wants to thank Rose and her wonderful family for all that they do for this unique community that we live in. People like Rose are what keeps our Milton strong. It is the love that gives away that keep the heart beat in this beautiful town.


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A community and family focused publication in the town of Milton Ontario

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