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and spoil her. Outside the family both siblings remain more interested in contacts with peers of the opposite sex than with those of the same sex.

SISTER AND BROTHE R A sister and a brother arrange their lives with each other in still another way. The older sister of a brother will generally be three years old when her sibling arrives, and it soon dawns on her that his sex has its advantages. She can play mother for her little brother, Just as mother does with both of them and with father. She has to take care of the little one, has to guard and protect him and will be held responsible for him by the parents, but she also gets a little in return: he looks up to her. He appreciates and loves her and before long learns to do her courtesies and favors too, however slight and shallow they may be. The older sister seems to realize that her younger brother, being the first and only boy in the family, tends to be taken more seriously and to be valued somewhat higher than herself. If she wants to be sure of her parents' affection, she must take care of him. If she is four or five years older than her brother, she becomes accustomed to the situation even more quickly than if the age difference is only three years, but this does not mean mat there are no fights and quarrels. In fact, the two siblings speak their minds in no uncertain terms at times. If the age difference between the sister and tihe brother is merely one or two years, then the sister feels more threatened by his arrival and has trouble expressing her feelings. She may take up to her fifth year of life to get used to her little brother before she is able to adopt a nurturing attitude toward him. In each case, the role of maternal care and responsibility as well as an awareness of her somewhat lesser importance in the family stays with her far into adulthood. She can handle boys well anywhere. She senses their interests, may even adopt those interests herself and subordinate her own. She can identify more readily

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Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

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