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reverse order of children, this latter configuration would be less favorable for the family as a whole. The parents would do better with a configuration of daughters only than with sons only. The oldest daughter would try to identify with her mother and guide and guard her sisters in the way mother herself does. She notices, of course, that her father, too, is interested in her sisters and exerts no small attraction over them. Only she herself, the oldest daughter, feels somehow excluded from his interest Therefore, she tries to identify with her father, but does not succeed very well. In this she and her mother might compete with the father over the affection of the younger daughters and might have to recognize that the younger daughters favor their father. If the parents have only sons, the younger ones remain more exposed to the influence of their oldest sibling than would be true with daughters only. Neither the father nor the mother quite know what to do with their sons and are tempted to treat them a little like girls. The oldest son tries to learn partly from father, partly from mother, how he should handle his brothers, but he eventually has to resort to his own experiences with them.

Father the youngest brother of sisters/ Mother the youngest sister of sisters: (s..)b/(s. .)s This relationship is rather unfavorable. Only the father has learned in his original family how to deal with a peer of the opposite sex. However, he does expect nurturance and care rather than opposition, leadership rather than competition. The mother, for her part, is not sure whether she should compete with men or submit to tihem. If she were to submit to a man, he ought to be able to guide her and to take family matters in Ms own hands, something that she notices her husband does not do. Thus, both of them long for a third person, he for someone who relieves him of the troubles of every-

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Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

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