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cation, even (hough he has no siblings left with whom to practice that role. Friends of such brothers, however, frequently report that this kind of transformation does indeed take place with the younger brother. In cases where such changes of position occur after the loss of a sibling, one must assume that the original sibling position is likely to be preserved in varying degrees under the surface. The older a person is when he changes his sibling position, the less effective the new one will probably be. The person may satisfy the external requirements of his new part, or at least try to, but his attitudes and his social behavior may remain the same as before, especially when he feels he is not being watched or when he is trying to relax. One should relate the time during which a person has held a certain role among his siblings to the time during which he held another role. In a very staple model for evaluating the weight or the strength of those two roles, one would think that, other things being equal, the person would have to hold the new role for at least as long as he did the old one before the latter reaches the former in strength and behavioral effectiveness or before it can surpass it. However, as explained above (see p. 4f, p. 75f), earlier experiences should probably be given greater weight titan later ones, perhaps in proportion of their time of effectiveness to the person's total lifetime or age. If someone has held a certain role from his fifth to his eighth year of life, but thereafter has had to assume a completely new role that he had never played before, we would conclude, other things being equal, that his new role would be as strong or stronger than the old one only if he has passed his 16th year of life. Only men will he have held his new role for half his lifetime, Just as he had his earlier role at the time it stopped. If he occupies his second role while still holding his first one, or if his first role persists at least in part, the effects are more difficult to estimate. A middle brother of three boys who loses his oldest brother at the age of eight and takes his place vis-a-vis his youngest brother, had already partly been an oldest brother himself ever since his little brother was born. Hie effective time of a role, as expressed in relation to a

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Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

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