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Her girl friends are more important to her than are her boyfriends. Only the prestige associated with men and their friendships may temporarily overshadow her interest in girl friends. Even in marriage, and as the head of her family, she soil needs her contacts with girl friends and women more than other mothers do. Her favorite friend is usually a younger sister of sisters. Not only do the two get along well with each other, but her friend is surrounded by more men than she is herself and can bring one or the other of them along into her own house. She is also on good terms with an only child, particularly when this friend is a few years younger than she is and/or is the daughter of a mother who was a youngest sister herself. She can identify with another oldest sister (of sisters), but does not become close friends with her. In a group of friends the two would be rivals. Her gravest loss would be that of her father or her elected (male) authority figure according to whose guidelines she has tried to arrange her life. Only in her first few years of life would the loss of her mother hurt her more. In later years she can more easily overcome this loss, possibly by assuming mother's role in the family. She can also cope with the loss of a female or a male friend, and she can frequently be a model for the other bereaved persons. If, however, she suspects mat she herself may be in the slightest responsible for the loss, something she might feel without objective reasons if she were to lose a sister or her own child, she may struggle for the rest of her life to overcome this loss. Among her relatively preferred professions are those of teacher, principal, head nurse, missionary, sister superior of a convent, director of a children's home or of a kindergarten, chief physician, surgeon, neurologist, supervising secretary, editor(in-chief), manager of an employment or theatrical agency, movie star, or judge, As a patient of psychotherapy, her irritation with men as well as her ready subordination to her father and certain father figures would generally constitute the core of her problem. It is not easy to help her with this. More so than with other women, her pride can be her undoing. If she is a psychotherapist herself, she tends to be im-

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Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior  

Walter Toman - Family Constellation - Its Effects on Personality and Social Behavior

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