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A Self Help Guide

A FAIRYLIGHTS PRODUCTION AUTUMN 2018 INSPIRECORP


You are complex

THIS SERIES IS FOR DOPE A** GIRLS CREATED BY GIRLS WHO BELIEVE IN YOUR INNER MAGIC - FAIRYLIGHTS


Self Help for Black s So u l s Mental Health Support that makes sense for deep souls


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COMPLEX STYLE & INNER ARMOR

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GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER INNER WORLDS & TWENTY ONE PILOTS

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ALGORITHMS TO UNDERSTAND FEELINGS

A LETTER FOR YOUR SOUL

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TUTORIAL FOR WHEN YOU’RE PISSED

YOUR TURN: A CHALLENGE

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INTRODUCTION


I I Enter into a world of magic where every season is celebrated and girls gather in circles to share stories and create art around mental health struggle.

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We host cozy events each season and educational workshops around mental health topics. We collaborate with the amazing girls in our community to share the message of normalizing mental health struggle, removing the barriers of stigma and supporting each other. We share information with the support of psychology practitioners and develop emotional skills

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I I InspireCorp is a mental health social enterprise that is specialized in prevention in mental health for Teens. Based in Morocco and with a female team, it is approaching mental health with creativity and innovation.

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Inspirecorp believes in prevention and building the resilience of young people so they can go through adversity without it causing devestating mental health issues. It focuses on three aspects to build resilience: Emotional Education,supporting personal interests, and building supportive relationships. The InspireCorp team designs customized emotional education curricula, mental health programs and dreams of making emotional education a human right.

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INNER ARMOR

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Complex Style

Using Outerwear as Inner Armor

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Our personal style is more than just what others see on the outside. It is a representation of mood, identity, our relationship with the outer world and our relationship with ourselves. It is a realm for our own personal exploration and protected. SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

Inner Armor


It’s just my style You would never allow an old person to tell you that your style is just a phase, you would rightfully roll your eyes and let them continue in their self-righteous speech they enjoy giving. It is not a phase, it’s part of your personality. Well, I say it is even more than that. Your style and the reasons behind it are complex just like you. They are also unique even when your style may belong to a certain labeled group. Your style is not only a form of self-expression, it also matches your personality and how you understand yourself, you lean on it for emotional support and it makes you feel strong and confident even when that is the farthest away from how you truly feel.

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Inner fragility You are bombarded everyday with the needs of other people, their emotions and all their concerns. Those emotions don’t just pass by you, you absorb them and have to process them yourself. This takes energy and is not always convenient because it interrupts your personal struggles and can sometimes add to them. Your style can sometimes be the shield between you and this world. It stays separate from other people and reminds you of your own individuality, your own needs and the process of putting together your outfits can sometimes be a purposeful process of self-care and expression.

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Inner Armor


Armor as protection With this separation between the self and the other, your style can play the role of protection. A personal armor that gives you strength when you need it and ward off unwanted attention. This doesn’t diminish from the value of your style but rather adds to it a layer of complexity and importance. The protection however is temporary, because style can only do so much for us. It wants us at some point to fly on our own and be independent. So even though we may depend on it at some points, in others we have to learn new ways of coping outside of comfort zones.

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Beginning to explore the space outside of our comfort zones also allows us the space to begin to experiment with our style. This space is important because we are complex beings, always learning more about ourselves and at times just wanting to experiment for the rush of it. By understanding the complexity of ourselves and our styles, we can allow space for ourselves to grow and choose our identity as we experiment and interact with it.

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CHECKLIST

A sarcastic checklist for getting your shit together

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CheckList


CHECKLIST + Figure out the source of all my problems, not. I am the source. (I’m human)

Start with the ones I have power over and find their weaknesses.

+ Categorize all the shit into little piles and give them names. Now we can be friends.

+ Appreciate how evil I am.

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+ Stop dismissing things that are happening because It’s not like I can take step out of my life. + Dump all the shit in my head on a paper, because I can’t seem to read my own mind. SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

+ Cross out the ones out of my control, they get diplomatic immunity from being destroyed. + Ignore the pile of “maybe in my control” and “should be in my control”; they need some time.

+ Create a masterplan to exploit these weaknesses. + Okay, no seriously, change what I can control, I’m not a tree (though I wish). + Try again when the change doesn’t stick because checkpoint #3. CheckList


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Creating your own inner world like TOP Anchoring Self Understanding

Taking on the battle of facing and overcoming your demons requires a map and some weapons. The first step of this battle though is creating you’re the map itself or it feels like walking around in darkness trying to find a pinhole of light. A great example of someone who created this map is Tyler from Twenty One Pilots. If you haven’t heard their music, listen to them now, you can thank us later. Understanding your demons and dreams The map that you are creating is a symbolic space that represents areas of yourself. You are free to SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

12 create one using any representation that appeals to you. Symbolism just helps you visualize and anchor the abstraction of self-reflection. Twenty One Pilots created an Evil Cult of bishops in a tower of Silence and a rebellion that is trying to take it down. Each Bishop represents a different demon such as fear, depression, anxiety, death etc. While the rebellion uses beauty and music to pull and save you from the hold of the bishops and their enforced Silence (See Album Trench).

Our very own founder (@jijimoussa on Instagram) created a map using Hogwarts to represent different areas of self and understand them. So, feel free to use any symbols, stories or representation that you connect with. Symbolize your demons and dreams You can only build up the details of this map of your inner world if you consider what you want to represent in it. Think about what you struggle with such as fear, ego, shyCreating your own inner world like TOP


TRENCH ALBUM The three first music videos of the Trench album represent a trilogy and tell the story of clancy and his fight against DEMA. If you would like to understand the story of where these images come from and how Tyler crafted the world that represented his demons for the Album Trench then I highly recommend watching the video essays by Nalbis on Youtube.

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ness, staying in your comfort zone, aggression, sadness, etc. What do each of these things look like or feel like and is there something in that fictional world that feels similar and can be used to represent it. What about the qualities you wish you had more of such as connecting with others, slowing down, working hard etc. How can you use spaces or things in this imagined world to represent them?

ze them. Using them to assess the current state of things is the hardest thing because it requires some honesty with yourself, not bashing yourself or praising yourself, just being as objective as possible. You can then identify what you would like to work on and improve and the steps you can take to do that. What is something you can do in each area tomorrow?

Analyze your demons and dreams

Share with us a map of your creative inner world!

Now that you have the symbols of your demons and dreams spread out across this map of your imagined world, you specify what you mean by each one, write them down because who has the time to memori-

If you have any questions about using this process, send us a picture of your map along with your question and one of our psychology practitioners will be happy to respond. Creating your own inner world like TOP

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FEELS

Designing algorithms just to understand my feelings 14

Complex Feelings My feelings are not characters of Inside Out (Cute Pixar Movie you should watch). I wish they were as simple as anger, sadness, joy, and fear. They are more like black smog with squiggles swirling inside. Sounds confusing and vague? They are! They are complex monstrous beings that sometimes whisper and other times shout and roar. SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

They can be stubborn and refuse to go away, they can push and press until I can barely breath, they can hide and then suddenly jump out. They can feel like lifting light or an abyss of black.

Breaking down the complex The complexity of my feelings can feel like I have nowhere to start to understand them, nothing in parFeels


ticular to grasp or hold on to. Talking about them sometimes helps because I figure stuff out as I say it but it isn’t always possible to talk about it and sometimes I just don’t feel like talking. Expressing it in some abstract artistic form like poetry or drawing can also

help. However, breaking them down only starts to happen when I systematically start to analyze them in terms of how I’m feeling in different areas of my body, creating a list of words that relate to this emotion, and writing sentences of thoughts that are running through my head.

Quantifying the complex I then take this list and start to categorize what I’m feeling into plus and minus and the result. I’m no math genius but (a + b = x) is not genius either. So, this is taking inspiration from math but also just running wild with it using imagination. See what equations you come up with. For example, I found out that when I’m feeling cranky and irritated, it goes back to me being tired, and when I experience something disappointing and feel upset, I’m actually feeling sad. I feel all this at the same time as well as feeling this general heaviness of feeling down. Therefore, SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

I’m no math genius but ( a + b = x ) is not genius either.

for me, Sad + tired = depressed. So now when I notice that I’m tired, I pay attention to making sure that what I am experiencing is positive. Now it’s your turn! Try the process and share with me your algorithms, you’ll find others who feel it too!

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You are never alone. You are surrounded by beings in the

A Letter for your Soul

universe, in every living mat-

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ter and within you there are many sides of yourself. Feel free to strike up a

conversation any time. You’re hoping that you can stay fast asleep or just get lost in the music that reminds you of that dream. You’ve woken up though and those feelings are back swirling around your heart. It climbs up to your cheeks and gets stuck at your eyes.

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Darling, this loneliness that you feel, that makes you surround your soul with walls of steel, is just your heart seeking something more.

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A LETTER FOR YOUR SOUL This longing for more is hazy and undefined, you wish you could be a person because they would be easier to hold. Then you would hold on and never let go. But it’s just a hazy more. Darling, this more that you long for, that you search for everywhere around you, is actually inside you and has been all along.

Darling, these parts of you need to be heard. So talk to them, draw You will find them and get to know them so they can feel more seen and heard.

of you, I promise, then there will be more of you to hold.

It’s hiding in corners of your soul that you have never explored, feeling forgotten and ignored. It calls out to you and wraps its arms around your heart wanting you to hold it back and never let go.

Darling, there is beauty in your soul for you to yet explore. There is life in your soul that will make this SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

feeling go. There is joy within you that has nothing to do with someone else but is only yours to create and mold.

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Then you will bring light to them and watch them blossom and unfold. You will find more of you, I promise, then there will be more of you to hold.

Darling, get to know those parts of your soul and you will be living in the dream that you so tightly hold. You can then create a new dream and find new parts of your soul . A letter for your soul


How to: Hold yourself back when you are Pissed off!

People are the most infuriating annoying beings on this planet! I know. If aliens came through, you might seriously consider leaving with them. Now is this petty human worth your energy or time? You are a Queen who graciously understands that some people just don’t see the full picture or understand how to conduct themselves appropriately in your presence. So, lift your head high, shoulders back and take in a deep breath. Take it in slow, hold it then slowly release it. Good. Do it again, you look beautiful just breathing. Now smile graciously and Walk away. Thank you, you’ll be the Queen of that Alien race if they ever come. SELF HELP FOR BLACK SOULS

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Truth or Dare: Pick One of each and get involved! TRUTH A

TRUTH B

TRUTH C

What is the kind of style that you have always dreamt of wearing, wishing that you could or had the courage to do so? Describe it and why you can’t wear it.

Describe the demons you battle with. What do they look like? Draw them as characters and give them names. Describe them and their past story they have had with you.

Write a letter to a part of your soul that you haven’t listened to in a while and ask them questions to get to know it better.

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DARE A

DARE B

DARE C

Send us a long text that is actually a rant to your brain. Show us your sass and all the bold words you usually never say to people but sure as hell say to yourself.

Follow our sarcastic checklist for getting your shit together and send us pictures as proof!

Give us your sassy how to tutorial for dealing with people when we’re pissed off, anxious, hangry or any other emotion.

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Truth or Dare: Pick One of each and get involved!


CREDITS

We honor all our Queens

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