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C omm unity

The worldwide movement for marriage equality started here in the Islands when the Hawai’i Supreme Court decision declared marriage discrimination unconstitutional. But Hawai’i needs to step up its game - among the nations of Moana Nui, the great ocean that links us with the rest of our Polynesian neighbors, Aotearoa has just sped right past us.

By Mickey weems

Victory Followed by a Love Song

New Zealander than passing this bill,” said Wall. She thanked her wife and then added, “I thank my colleagues, for simply doing what is fair, just and right.”

Gay Onslaught: Troops or Gas?

Wall’s coat of many colors was complemented by a speech given MP Maurice Williamson just before the third and final reading of the bill and its passage. Williamson addressed the possible effects of Gay marriage on his nation:

Thanks to MP (Member of Parliament) Louisa Wall, New Zealand (Aotearoa by another name) has become the thirteenth “I’ve had a reverend in my local nation to legalize same-sex electorate say that the ‘gay onmarriage, and they did it with slaught will start the day this bill style. After the vote was tallied, is passed.’ So we are struggling people sang a Maori love song, to know what the gay onslaught “Pokarekare Ana.” In the spotlight will look like. We don’t know if it was Wall, who wore a rainbow- will come down the Pakaranga colored jacket. “Nothing could highway as a series of troops or make me more proud to be a whether it will be a gas that flows 4 |

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kids. I know how good adoption is, and I have found some of the claims just disgraceful. I found some of the bullying tactics really evil. I gave up being scared of bullies when I was at primary school.

Nuclear War, Toads and Argumentative Daughters

“However, a huge amount of the opposition was from moderates, from people who were concerned, who were seriously worried, about what this bill might do to the fabric of our society... Let me repeat to them now that all we are doing with this bill is allowing two people who love each other to have that love recognized by way of marriage. That is all we are doing. We are not declaring nuclear war on a foreign State. We are not bringing a virus in that could wipe out our agricultural sector forever. “We are allowing two people who love each other to have that recognized, and I cannot see what is wrong with that for neither love nor money. I just cannot... But I give a promise to those people who are opposed to this bill right now. I give you a watertight guaranteed promise. The sun will still rise tomorrow. Your teenage daughter will still argue back to you as if she knows everything. Your mortgage will not grow. You the electorate and blocks us all in. will not have skin diseases or “I also had a Catholic priest tell me that I was supporting an unnatural rashes or toads in your bed. The act. I found that interesting com- world will just carry on. ing from someone who has taken an oath of celibacy for his whole God and the life. Celibacy... I haven’t done it so Big Gay Rainbow I don’t know what it’s about. “Finally, can I say that one of the messages I had was this bill was the cause of our drought. Well, if Eternal Burning any one of you follow my Twitter and Bullies “I also had a leader tell me I would account, you will see that in the burn in the fires of hell for eternity Pakuranga electorate this mornand that was a bad mistake be- ing, it was pouring with rain. We cause I’ve got a degree in physics. had the most enormous big gay I used the thermodynamic laws of rainbow across my electorate. It physics. I put in my body weight has to be a sign.” and my humidity and so on. I assumed the furnace to be at 5000 degrees and I will last for just on 2.1 seconds. It’s hardly eternity. What do you think? “I also heard some more disgusting claims about adoption. Well, I have got three fantastic adopted

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Some day, the biggest problems Hawai’i will face regarding samesex marriage will be deciding what Hawaiian song to sing when our own legislators recognize our right to marry, and who will give the cleverest speech. // june 2013 | 5

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A D e m u e s e lY

g n i h s pu the limits We have all heard about the benefits of eating healthy and keeping our bodies active. Our mothers told us repeatedly to eat our veggies and go outside to play. As we got older, our doctors told us the same thing. We have friends who remind us that one more Krispy Kreme will send us directly into a new size of jeans. Some of us have more will power than others, but in the end, it is all about finding the right people to guide us through a good program. No matter what the level of fitness is right now, it can be improved. Elyse Umeda, the founder of CrossFit 808 - has the pictures to prove it. Elyse is also one of the coaches at CrossFit 808, a job she seems to have been preparing for her whole life. She helped the Punahou women’s basketball team to a state championship, and Princeton to an Ivy League title. A couple of years after earning a degree in Economics from Princeton, she accepted a position as assistant coach to the women’s basketball team at Samford University in Alabama.

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By: Flavia Francesquini | Images: HTL

How many of us made a New Year’s resolution? How many of these resolutions involved exercising and eating better? And now, a moment of truth: how many were not broken?


Working in a very conservative institution was a challenge at times. “I was the only Asian in a place where they are not necessarily used to seeing Asian faces,” she remembered about Samford, “and they were quite religious, so being out was not really an option.” True to her style, Elyse not only got over the hurdles, she excelled at her job and led her team into 23 victories that season. People at Samford were sad to see her leave: “They wanted to keep me, but the opportunity to come home and start my business took precedence and I came back to Hawai’i.” Elyse was already a CrossFit coach when she opened the doors to her brand new gym and staffed it with the best trainers she could find. She ought to know a good trainer when she meets one - she is one of the best in business and her track record is impressive. She got 4th place in the 2011 CrossFit Games Open. That’s 4th in the world! Her showing in the Open advanced her to the 2011 CrossFit Games where she finished in 23rd place. But don’t let that intimidate you. Elyse said that anyone with the right attitude can do well with her program: “You have to want to get better and you have to be disciplined to get the results. When walking into my gym, you must leave your ego at the door. CrossFit is a lifestyle, so coming to the gym is more than working out, it’s about making a family.” Despite her busy schedule, Elyse finds time to play, and to be with her partner of two years who is surprise - a P.E. teacher!

Age: 28 hometown: Honolulu ethnicity: Japanese occupAtion: Founder / Coach CrossFit 808 turn on: Hard Working People, Healthy + Fit Bodies turn off: Laziness + Uncaring Attitude

So put down the plate lunch and look this woman up. As the big letters on her gym’s window say, “You can have excuses or results, not both.”

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H ealth

By Celia Dominguez, M.D. Pacific In Vitro Fertilization Institute

Are We Closer to Having the Same Rights? On February 23, 2011, Hawai’i Governor Neil Abercrombie signed civil unions into law, which went into effect on January 1, 2012, granting same-sex couples many of the same rights as married couples. Like only a handful of other states, Hawai’i has an infertility insurance mandate that requires insurance plans to provide coverage for fertility treatment and in vitro fertilization (IVF). According to Hawai’i infertility insurance law, all contracts with pregnancy-related coverage must provide a one-time only benefit for outpatient expenses that arise from an IVF procedure. This means IVF is covered as long as certain criteria are met. The most important criterion pertaining to LGBT people is that the patient’s eggs be fertilized with her spouse’s sperm. Under the law, the term “spouse” refers to a person who is “lawfully married” to the patient under the laws of the State. Until

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recently, Gay couples were clearly excluded. But under the new Hawai’i civil union law, couples are now somewhat “married.” Is approval given to samesex couples if they meet the appropriate criteria within the IVF mandate?

For same-sex female couples, it includes endometriosis or tubal damage, and possibly coverage for same-sex male couples if the sperm is abnormal. Technically, the IVF mandate can be carried over to the same-sex civil union population except for the interpretation of “spouse’s sperm.” In the past, this has hindered legally married hetero-sexual couples with severe reproductive problems concerning the male from getting in vitro coverage if donor sperm was needed. What does this mean for all the same-sex Lesbian couples who obviously require donor sperm, or males who require donor egg to achieve a pregnan-

Dr. Celia Dominguez is recognized as an expert in the field of reproductive medicine, in vitro fertilization and laparoendoscopic surgery. She has held faculty positions in Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at the University of California in San Diego, the University of New Mexico and at Emory University in Atlanta. Dr. Dominguez is double-board certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology, Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility, and is a physician at Pacific In Vitro Fertilization Institute.

cy? Will there be partial coverage if other criteria are met?

In non IVF cases, HMO plans in Hawai’i cover infertility diagnosis and treatment and presently do not stipulate that a “couple” be married and do not exclude the use of donor sperm. This means that same-sex Lesbian couples, under an HMO plan, should be covered for medical care,

ultrasounds, fertility medications and the insemination procedure (the patient/couple must pay for sperm from the sperm bank). What are a same-sex couple’s fertility needs? If those needs include insemination (IUI) or IVF, will there be coverage?

When it comes to IVF cases, let us hope that the law is not applied so narrowly to leave out LGBTs.


By: Pride at Work Hawai‘i For most of us, work is how we keep a roof over our heads and food on the table. The money we earn also helps us look after our health and protect ourselves and our families’ future. Work defines our days (and/or nights), and is often key to our identities and sense of self-worth.

sex discrimination include gender expression and identity, but only 21 states have laws making it illegal to discriminate in the workplace on the basis of sexual orientation. Out of the 21 states, 17 of those states also protect against gender identity and expression discrimination.

During Pride month, LGBT people think about how our gender and sexual identities affect our working lives differently than those of our co-workers.

Studies consistently show that Gay men earn 10% to 32% less than their heterosexual counterparts, while transgender people have unemployment rates 2 to 4 times greater than the national average. In addition, the federal Defense of Marriage Act has enshrined economic inequality for samesex couples by denying them numerous federal benefits with both immediate and long-term financial impacts, from survivor benefits to forcing workers to pay income taxes on benefits provided by their same-sex partners.

Do our co-workers (who do similar work) get benefits we don’t, or make more money because they identify as heterosexual? Do they face less discrimination? Are those who fit sociallyapproved gender roles more likely to get hired for a job, or get promoted? Too often, the answer is yes. The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission ruled last year that laws protecting against

Declaration of Human Rights says, “Everyone, without any discrimination, has the right to equal pay for equal work.” In 1963, the U.S. Congress passed the Equal Pay Act that prohibits sex-based wage discrimination between men and women, pointing out the following problems with inequality: (1) Depresses wages and living standards for employees necessary for their health and efficiency. (2) Prevents the maximum utilization of the available labor resources. (3) Tends to cause labor disputes, thereby obstructing commerce.

(4) Burdens commerce and the free flow of goods. (5) Constitutes an unfair method of competition. For too many LGBT people, workplace inequality and discrimination remain tremendous burdens. While momentous strides have been made, the 1969 Stonewall Riots gave us a reason to celebrate Pride in our existence each June. It is in our best interest to keep up the fight for economic parity in our workplaces, regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, or gender expression. We all need to be able to live and support ourselves with dignity.

Do you have LGBT workplace issues you’d like us to discuss? Contact us at or 543-6054. PRIDE AT WORK HAWAI‘I advocates for full equality and inclusiveness in the workplace for LGBT workers and its families to build solidarity between the Labor movement and the LGBT community.

Article 23 of the Universal

States that have laws making it illegal to discriminate in the workplace on the basis of sexual orientation. States that have laws making it illegal to discriminate in the workplace on the basis of sexual orientation and protect against gender identity and expression discrimination.

Earnings of heterosexual male

Earnings of homosexual male

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Geography Club

Gay Best Friend (G.B.F.)

Geography Club

Opening Night Film Tuesday June 4th 6pm – 8pm

It’s not what you think. This secret society, with a name so nerdy it keeps the curious away – is actually a covert classroom refuge where a group of outcasts are about to navigate the clique-mined social terrain of the American high school. Images: Courtesy of Release

The 2013 Honolulu Rainbow Film Festival (HRFF) takes place June 4th – 9th at Doris Duke Theatre, Honolulu Museum of Art at 900 Kinau Street. On its 24th year, the HRFF continues to raise awareness about LGBT culture and arts through the use of film. For more film screenings, visit

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Based on Brent Hartinger’s best-selling critically acclaimed novel, Geography Club is a smart, fast, and funny account of contemporary teenagers as they discover their own sexual identities, dreams, and values. 16-year old Russell is still going on dates with girls while having a secret relationship with football quarterback Kevin, who will do anything to prevent his football teammates from finding out. Min and Terese tell everyone that they’re just “really good friends.” And then there’s Ike who can’t figure out who he is or who he wants to be. Finding the truth too hard to hide, they all decide to form the Geography

Club. However, their secrets may soon be discovered and they could have to face the choice of revealing who they really are. In Attendance: Alex Newell (Fox’s Glee: Wade “UNIQUE” Adams) and lead actor Cameron Deane Stewart (Pitch Perfect); Executive Producers: Frederick Levy & Bryan Leder.


G.B.F. (Gay Best Friend)

Red Carpet Event: Signature Event Film Thursday June 6th 8:30pm

The G.B.F has replaced puppies and the latest blingin’ bracelet! What’s better than a moving, breathing, life-sized Gay Best Friend? Like OMG, here comes my GBF! Two best friends, Tanner (Michael J. Willett) and Brent (Paul Lacono) go through high school while being secretly in the closet. Brent longs for the spotlight and has a plan that will make him the most popular kid in school. He believes that coming out will make him instantly popular, as the newest must-have teen girl “accessory”: The G.B.F.

Tanner on the other hand, would rather fly under the radar and graduate from high school without ever being noticed. When things don’t go according to plan and Tanner is outed instead of Brent, the two boys go from B.F.F.s to instant frenemies as the three most popular girls in school launch an all-out social war to win Tanner’s statusenhancing friendship. Meanwhile, Tanner must choose between skyrocketing popularity and the friends he is leaving behind. Look out for performances by: Megan Mullally (Will & Grace), Sasha Pieterse (Pretty Little Liars), Evanna Lynch (Harry Potter), Andrea Bowen (Desperate Housewives), Natasha Lyonne (American Pie), Rebecca Gayhart, Jonathan Silverman and Horatio Sanz.

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Source: HRC | Updated: May 14, 2013

State issues marriage licenses to same-sex couples Massachusetts (2004), Connecticut (2008), Vermont (2009), Iowa (2009), New Hampshire (2010), District of Columbia (2010), New York (2011), Maine (2012), Washington (2012), Maryland, (2013), Delaware* (July, 2013), Rhode Island* (August, 2013) and Minnesota* (August, 2013)

Statewide law providing the equivalent of state-level spousal rights to same-sex couples within the state

Statewide law providing some statewide spousal rights to same-sex couples within the state

California* (domestic partnerships, 2005), New Jersey (civil unions, 2007), Oregon (domestic partnerships, 2008), Nevada (domestic partnerships, 2009), Illinois (civil unions, 2011), Hawai’i (civil unions, 2012), and Colorado (civil unions, 2013)

Wisconsin (domestic partnerships, 2009)

*California: Same-sex marriages that took place between June 16, 2008 and Nov. 4, 2008 continue to be defined as marriages. On Oct. 12, 2009, Gov. Schwarzenegger signed into law a bill that recognizes out-of-jurisdiction same-sex marriages that occurred between the June to Nov. 2008 time frame as marriages in California, and all other outof-jurisdiction same-sex marriages as domestic partnerships. *Delaware: The marriage law will go into effect on July 1, 2013. *Minnesota: The marriage law will go into effect on August 1, 2013. *New Mexico: In Jan. 2011, the New Mexico Attorney General issued an advisory opinion declaring that the state can recognize out-of-jurisdiction same-sex marriages. At this time, it is unclear what affect this opinion will have. *Rhode Island: The marriage law will go into effect on August 1, 2013. *Wyoming: On June 6, 2011, the Wyoming Supreme Court decided Christensen v. Christensen, ruling that Wyoming trial courts have the ability to hear divorce proceedings terminating same-sex marriages created in other jurisdictions.

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Give And You Shall Receive By: Flavia Francesquini Location: Andy South Studio images: HtL

in the late ‘80s, i was a teenager living in Brazil, convinced that nothing bad would ever come near my invisible bubble of dreams. then my favorite uncle died of AiDS, and after him several friends, and friends of friends, relatives and perfect strangers. nearly everyone i knew had been touched by Hiv and AiDS. this was a disease that took more than lives - it paralyzed with fear those who were not infected. // june 2013 | 13

in the early years, while scientists struggled to understand the virus and people were dying without explanation, our community was hit by not only the devastation of the illness itself, but by the intolerance and homophobia that descended on us as a group. Although incidence of AiDS in Hawai’i is aware that pastries had become a luxury low in comparison to other parts of the not everyone could afford. He also wanted U.S., many of us have been directly af- to do something that would positively affected by this epidemic, and our commu- fect our community. A friend mentioned nity has suffered. One of the ways we have a job opening at the Life Foundation and been able to curve the spread of Hiv is Marquez has never looked back. “i love through education. Knowledge is indeed my job and i love the foundation itself,” he power, and one person who works hard to said. “it’s more than a job for me, and i inform our community is Calvin Marquez. think a lot of the people who work here At the age of 33, Marquez is nearly as old would agree that this is not just where we as the Life Foundation, a non-profit orga- come to earn a salary.” nization he’s worked for since 2009. three quarters of the employees are memBut that is not where it all started for bers of the LGBt community, and those Marquez. who are not are extremely Gay-friendly. “it may not seem like a big deal because After graduating from Castle High School, there are only 35 of us running this place,” this Kaneohe boy entered Kapiolani said Marquez. “But we can all tell you why Community College to pursue an inter- we believe in what we do, and why our est he had discovered at Castle: the art jobs are so important to each of us.” of making pastries. After graduation, he landed the perfect job and became Mid if a quarter of the employees at any given Pacific Country Club’s pastry chef. business could say this about their job, we would live in a much more efficient - and After seven years, Marquez lived his friendly - world. dream until he came to a crossroad. the economy had begun to fail, and he was Marquez started out as an outreach

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worker going into the community and talking to folks at risk. As he became more involved with the Development Office, he learned about what it takes to put together all the fundraising events to keep the program running. “our fundraisers generate money that helps to pay the rent, keep our employees and keep us going.” His diligence propelled him to become events Manager, but not for long. As of June first, Marquez became the Life Foundation’s newest Communications Director. those who know him couldn’t envision a better person for the job. Marquez is no stranger to creating, developing and executing events of all sizes. He is one of the producers of the Hawai’i Magnifique Pageant, which has graced the Pacific Beach Hotel for the last ten years. When asked about his love life, “Who’s got time for that?” he replied. But he does have time to design and create beautiful stage costumes. He is very modest about his talent: “i didn’t go to school for this, but i’ve been quite artistic since high school and i like to use my imagination to come up with beautiful things. even as a pastry chef, i always made things that were pleasing to the eye as well,” he said. “Costume design for competition is tricky because the candidate gets 3 to 5 minutes onstage. it needs to be memorable!” And memorable seems to be right up his alley. Part of this zest for life and for all things beautiful comes from the love he’s received at home since he was young. Marquez (who is Hawaiian, Filipino, Chinese and Japanese) calls himself a “true Hawai’i mix plate” and can’t say enough about his mom, Cheryl. “My parents split when i was very young, and my dad was never around so my mom was all we had, and she was great.” Coming out was not traumatic. in fact, Cheryl is still one

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of his biggest supporters. “My mom helps a lot by volunteering to cook, to work the door… whatever we need. She’s been to many Life Foundation events and everyone loves her. i love being able to share all the great things we do and show her that there is good in the world, and we are a part of it.” As i said goodbye to Marquez, i was struck by the power of those words. Yes, there is good in the world! it’s great to be able to recognize good when we see it, and even more so, to help create a world in which good is more than a word, it’s a state of being. Studies have shown that when we help others, we feel happier and healthier in turn. i think about what Marquez said about his job and all the ways they help a slice of our community that most of us seem to forget. they are on to something… good!

if you are interested in experiencing the satisfaction that comes from helping others, contact the Life Foundation and ask what you can do. there are many ways to plant beauty in the world, and you may be holding the seeds of compassion, wisdom and laughter, right there in your hands. visit:

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C omm unity

By: Mickey Weems

Before 1778: Hi’iaka No timeline about Hawai’i would be complete without a nod to wa kahiko, the centuries before contact with colonial powers. Legends from those days include stories about Hi’iaka (Hi’iakaikapoliopele, sister of Pele who was deeply in love with the mortal woman Hopoe).


Pride is not just a time for celebration. It is also a moment to consider what the LGBT community has accomplished, and what yet needs to be done. Before we can see where we are, we must see where we’ve been.

Here is a brief timeline of important moments in LGBT history in Hawai’i. This list is by no means finished – but we should start somewhere in chronologizing our heritage.

1950s-1970s: “I Am A Boy” and Christines in Chinatown

to hold the sausage on that night’s sex pizza.

When much of the country was persecuting transwomen and arresting them on the spot, Honolulu was helping visitors find them. Pamphlets of the city showed Chinatown as the place to go for a good time with a beautiful woman at just the right price, not to mention fabulous drag shows at the Glades. To make sure that woman was not (or was!) properly equipped for a bedroom swordfight, transwomen were required to wear “I Am A Boy” buttons, in case the customer wanted



This is not to say that everything was roses and rainbows for our people – the buttons were forced upon those of us who cross-dressed, and there were severe penalties for noncompliance. Violence against Christines (a name for transwomen, based on Christine Jorgensen, an MTF tennis player) and even murder were all too commonplace. Nevertheless, there was at least a baseline tolerance of difference rather than a total ban, the first step towards acceptance and finally, appreciation.


1778-1779: Captain Cook and Aikane Encounter

2006: Kim Coco Elected to Board of Education

Right from the start, the first Europeans recorded in Hawai’i knew that something was queer about the Islands. Important male chiefs traveled openly with their aikane or male lovers. For their part, the Hawaiians saw nothing at all queer in the arrangement, and assumed officers on board Cook’s ship had their own aikane from among the lesser-ranked men.

In November of that year, transwoman Kim Coco Iwamoto of Kauai won a seat on the Hawai’i Board of Education. At that time, she was the highestranking transperson in the USA.

Truth be told, they did.

1993: Hawai’i Supreme Court Rules Marriage Discrimination Unconstitutional This is the snap heard ‘round the world, the first bold move for marriage equality. Some of us may be depressed that other states have beaten Hawai’i in achieving the legalization of same-sex marriage – keep in mind that progress was stymied by a tsunami of mainland money because Hawai’i was such a big threat to legal homophobia. Others may have finished before us, but we started the movement.

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2008: Thomas Beatie Bears a Child Tracy Lagondino grew up in Hawai’i. She was so beautiful that she was a finalist in the Miss Teen Hawai’i Pageant. But Lagondino did not feel right identifying as female, and transitioned to male and a new name: Thomas Beatie. That transition included a masectomy, but he kept his ovaries and uterus. He married (legally) in Hawai’i in 2003. Beatie’s wife, Nancy Thomas, couldn’t bear children, so he elected to get pregnant. It took some serious effort, including a prolonged search for a physician that would treat them with respect. But their efforts finally proved successful, and Beatie became famous as the first man to give birth.


2009: Hinaleimoana Shares the Last Word On the third floor of Hawaiian Hall in the Bernice Pauahi Bishop Museum, a building that displays the most sacred artifacts of Native Hawaiians, there is a video celebrating the rebirth of Kanaka Maoli consciousness. One speaker is Auntie Vickie Holt Takamine, renowned kumu hula and activist. The other speaker is Hinaleimoana, also kumu hula and

2009: Kaleo Ramos Crowned Emperor of Hawai’i’s Imperial Court

activist, but in addition mahuwahine, the Native Hawaiian transwoman identity. The fact that Hinaleimoana is given the shared honor of having the last word in the museum’s fine collection is a testament to her dedication to Native Hawaiians, and the commitment of the museum to all of Hawai’i’s people.

2011/2012: Governor Abercrombie Comes Through Newly elected Governor Neil Abercrombie signed a bill legalizing civil unions. It was the first law he enacted as governor. On January 1, 2012, Hawaiian civil unions became a reality.

The Imperial Court of Hawai’i crowned its first female-to-male Emperor, Kaleo Tevaitea Tanoa, marking 2009 as a banner year for FTM and MTF transpeople.

Next Month: GO ‘BOWS! This July, all men’s sports teams at UH Manoa will be called “Rainbow Warriors,” ending over a decade of unspoken homophobia that bullied the football program into dropping “Rainbow” from its name.




2013: Bigoted B&B Loses Court Case for Lack of Lesbian Aloha

2012: Tulsi Gabbard Rejects Her Father’s Hatred Mike Gabbard has been the biggest tool in the Devil’s workshop of Hawai’i homophobes, but karma bit him in the ass when his daughter, Tulsi Gabbard, publicly renounced his bigotry in eXpression! Magazine last summer. Tulsi then went on to win the office of Hawai’i Representative in the U.S. Congress.


Taeko Bufford and Diane Cervelli from Southern California were refused lodging at the Aloha Bed and Breakfast in Hawai’i Kai because they were Lesbians. But on April 15, a judgment from the Hawai’i First Circuit Court forced the B&B to act with pono towards our people, thus serving notice to the ignorant that “aloha” is incompatible with Gay-hate.

2012: Dan Inouye: Champion of the LGBT Community Passes On Senator Dan Inouye, the bravest man in all recorded history for his utter badassery during WWII, died on December 17. As brave as he was, Inouye said there was one man who out-bad-assed him, an unknown Gay soldier he had served with as the ultimate hero. Inouye said he wanted to be buried next to his Gay friend in Arlington Cemetery, but that wish was not fulfilled. His burial in Punchbowl is

nevertheless a boon for those of us who honor his grave here in Honolulu. Inouye left us with another legacy: every one of our national representatives and senators is a staunch ally of our community (let’s not forget the Governor and the Mayor of Honolulu as well). Mahalo nui loa e Daniel Inouye.

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C omm unity

By: Mickey Weems

Straight Closet: Football, Firearms & Faith Eva Andrade, Executive Director of the Hawai’i Family Forum, likes to talk about same-sex “marriage.” The reason why she drapes scare-quotes around the M-Word is because she does not believe that same-sex marriage exists, and she is not alone. Right-wing extremists all over the world have been throwing shade about the reality of Gay marriage for decades. But the argument is becoming less attached to reality as the country moves toward marriage equality. The theory of non-existent Gay marriage is based upon a prior notion that Gay doesn’t exist. Any defect is a lack of something, they claim – lying is the lack of honesty, deafness is the lack of hearing, and homosexuality is the absence of healthy man-woman erotic-romantic desire. “I am not a homophobe,” they say, “because ‘gay’ isn’t a real phenomenon. There is no fault in seeing things as they really are.” Those who say such things are sure that they are revealing the hard-hitting truth, plain and simple. Case closed.

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Tipping Point But they leave out the history of the closet. Until Stonewall in 1969, much of society could pretend there was no such thing as Gay because so many of us were conditioned to hide our orientation and gender expression. We were walking, talking façades, and our fellow citizens preferred us that way. We knew it was expected of us, so we actively contributed to our invisibility. We learned to be our own police, judges, juries and jailors. Saved everyone else the trouble. Once we saw the contours of our selfimposed oppression, we questioned why we devoted so much energy to it. More and more of us came out, and in the process, really pissed off our oppressors. Every time they drew a line in the sand, we walked right through it, all the way to Washington, DC - to demand our rights, all the way to the voting booth - to elect LGBTContinued on p22


Is Your Investment Making Social Sense? By: Travis Knott As the global climate changes, discussions heat up in Washington. Many investors are paying attention to the impact of their investments on the environment and the well-being of people around the world. As this trend has increased, so has the demand for investment choices that demonstrate not only financial soundness, but also a concern for quality of life. This investment philosophy, known as socially responsible investing (SRI), has a special appeal to many individuals concerned with the future of our planet. What constitutes

socially responsible investing? Investors who adopt an SRI strategy believe their decisions should be governed not only by economics, but also by social issues. This often means refraining from investing in companies or industries that produce products or offer services the investor disapproves of, regardless of the company’s or industry’s potential for profit or value. Investors who maintain an SRI strategy may choose to avoid investing in companies related to alcohol, tobacco, gambling and weapons. It can also mean investing in companies

that promote workplace diversity, actively participate in community volunteer programs or work to improve the environment. Benefits, drawbacks and strategies of SRI As with all types of investing, there are tradeoffs that come with socially responsible investing. Those who practice SRI can feel good that their investment choices reflect their values. However, socially responsible investors

must balance this benefit with more limited choices with regard to portfolio diversification. Some strategies that those interested in SRI may employ include divesting from companies that do not align with their personal morals or beliefs, and participating in shareholder engagement. They may also include: • Investing in SRI mutual funds These funds include see INVE$TING on p26

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C omm unity Continued from p20 friendly officials, all the way to the aisle in houses of worship and court-houses around the world - to declare our love for our chosen beloveds. Our numbers and those of our allies have now reached a critical point. DIY and the 3 F’s Ever since the Hawai’i Supreme Court declared marriage discrimination unconstitutional in 1993, our cause has been before the public eye, and we have no intention of letting up. No longer can society pretend we are not here. Our successful assertion that we actually exist has created a crisis of the soul for hard-core homophobes. If we don’t buy into the closet, it ceases to exist and they know it, placing the haters in the middle of a living nightmare that can only be avoided by retreating into an imaginary world in their heads.

portraying quarterbacks, assault weapons and Jesus, holy talismans to render their beleaguered psyches impervious to our perversity. Gay-hate comes from men and women who fear the subversion of true manhood, and it makes perfect sense when homophobes freak out if a pro-sports team player dares to come out – they prefer their athletes as rapists and murderers rather than fudge-packers. The worst of them in Hawai’i want to segregate their Warriors from their Rainbows. Mainland homophobes conclude that we want to take away all their guns, the ultimate symbol of their collective penis-as-pain rather than pleasure. Christian bigots fervently believe that, since they hate us, they conclude that we hate back and want to ban “their” religion, ignoring the fact that many of us are also Christian.

Denial of the existence of Gays and Gay These three - Football, Firearms and Faith marriage is more than just a line in the sand. - make up a Sacred He-Man Trinity that It means drawing up a blueprint for an previously kept us in the shadows where we internalized Happy Place to house their Inner belonged. If we become normal, their beloved Straight-jacketed Child, a do-it-yourself Trinity falls from grace. dreamscape in which our faggotassery ceases to exist. They build their own Straight But their greatest fear is that their Trinity might closets with the 3 F’s: Football, Firearms and make room for us, and they must admit that Faith, complete with stained glass windows they were wrong.

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When the World Doesn’t End It is becoming apparent that the football antiGay barrier is falling apart, but football will survive just fine – witness Ben Jay’s change of heart and the return of Rainbow Warrior football. Sensible firearm regulations will shatter some mainland bubba’s warrior fantasies and take away weapons of war, but common-sense gun owners will be just fine, just as they are in Hawai’i. Gay folks will walk hand-in-hand with our lovers into more and more houses of worship to take our vows, and nobody will give a damn. Here’s the problem. Witnessing this nightmare world of Gay acceptance will result in even more senseless violence against our people from people inspired organizations like the Hawai’i Family Forum. So listen up, Eve Andrade: Happy Pride! Come out of the Straight closet. Your closet is not so different from the ones Gay folks installed for themselves, back in the days when they could not conceive of being Gay, and they did your dirty work for you. You’ll feel so much better when you quit enabling murderers and bullies.


APRIL 29, 1965 — MAY 7, 2013 Those who attended the Paradise Festival on O’ahu in 2011 had the chance to hear one of the most influential DJs in the Gay male universe. Peter Rauhofer from NYC (by way of Austria) played the music for the main event. Unfortunately, that was his last performance here in the Islands. He passed away on May 7, 2013 due to brain cancer. He was 48 years old. Rauhofer was best known for his dance music remixes on the Club 69, Size Queen and Star 69 labels. His work on Cher’s “Believe” earned him a Grammy for Best Remixer in

2000. “Believe” was one of many hits, including “Appreciate Me” (with Amuka), “Hurt Me So Bad” (Lulu) and “Body” (Funky Green Dogs). His songs were especially prized by members of the Circuit community, a mobile tribe of Gay men and their allies that goes to weekend-long parties thrown in major cities, such as White PartyPalm Springs, White Party-Miami, Winter Party (Miami), Black and Blue (Montréal), DiversCité (Montréal), Purple Party (Dallas), events during Disney Gay Days (Orlando), Black Party (NYC), IML (Chicago), indepenDance (P-Town), Zoo Party (San Diego), Halloween In New Orleans, Prism (Toronto), MCQP (Cape Town), Continued on p27

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A few weeks ago, not many Gay Christian Post, Hutcherson used people knew about Jason Collins. the fact that Obama praised a But today, it seems like he is known homo-sexer (and that the only professional basketball Obama spoke at the National player in the world. His name and Planned Parenthood Conference) face are everywhere because he’s as proof of a vast conspiracy Gay. Specifically, because he’s against Christians in America. the first openly Gay professional player in a major U.S. sport. “Do any of you believe there is a connection between Jason It’s a BFD. Even President Collins announcing he is gay only Obama said that he “couldn’t be 72 hours after President Obama’s prouder” of Collins for coming speech to Planned Parenthood?” out, evidence that Obama is Hutcherson writes. “The answer clearly taking orders from Satan, is a resounding YES! More proof according to Dr. Ken Hutcherson that Christian views are very much of the Antioch Baptist Church in under attack!” Redmond, Washington. Yes, very much under attack. Pity In a May 2 opinion piece for the the poor Christians in America. 24 |

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(Rom.1:24-27).” In other words, Collins makes God puke. Of course, the joke is on Collins, according to Hutcherson. “Collins is being used as a pawn, in the most dangerous game of Russian roulette for his soul,” he writes. Hutcherson also predicts a rude awakening for Collins in the locker room: “I can’t imagine that Collins, standing in the shower after a game, and knowing the vast majority of his teammates are not gay, will go over very well. How about the players standing in the shower with him, knowing that one of their teammates likes other men? Just saying...” Let’s unpack that.

Just think of all the taxes churches have to pay, not to mention the fact that there has never been a single American President who identifies as Christian, and how out-numbered Christians are in Congress. And just try getting Christmas Day off from work! Yes, it’s a tough life for Christians in America. And it can all be blamed on Planned Parenthood and Jason Collins, a.k.a. “agents of Satan.” “The connection between these two stories should be very obvious: they both go directly against God’s Holy Word,” Hutcherson continues. “After all, God hates hands that shed innocent blood (Prov.617) and is sickened by sodomy

First of all, when someone ends an idea with “just saying...” it means, “I have just said something for which I do not want to take responsibility” because it was probably a shitty thing to say. And, indeed, this thinly veiled warning about things not going “over very well” for Collins the Homo, while he is standing naked with a bunch of his hetero teammates is worthy of not claiming responsibility, simply because it’s an asinine thing to say. Not only is Hutcherson implying that Collins is some kind of pervert who won’t be able to keep his eyes and hands off his teammates, but he’s also implying that a bunch of grown men can’t behave themselves if one of them is Gay, especially if they’re all naked. How little regard folks like Hutcherson have, not just for Gays, but for all men, as if a penis makes it impossible to be a decent human being. Then again, maybe Hutcherson is projecting his own fantasy of getting in a wrestling match with Collins in the shower, while a bunch of other naked guys stand around and watch. Just saying. // june 2013 | 25

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companies that many socially responsible investors support. They use SRI strategies as part of their fund objectives and portfolio choices. • Micro-financing Money invested in micro-financing service companies are used to support small businesses that otherwise would not be eligible for traditional financing. • Community-investing Community-investing directs capital from investors and lenders to communities that are underserved by traditional financial services institutions. Local organizations can then provide financial services to low-income individuals and to supply capital for small businesses and vital community services, such as affordable housing, childcare and healthcare. Building a socially responsible portfolio To invest according to ethical

standards, it is important to research investment decisions carefully. is a website of SRI World Group, Inc., which is a news, research, and consulting firm that advises clients regarding sustainability investment issues and corporate responsibility practices. The Forum for Sustainable and Responsible Investment ( is a nonprofit organization that promotes socially and environmentally responsible investing. Their website also provides extensive information that may help socially conscious investors get started. If an SRI strategy fits your financial objectives, consider working with a financial advisor to get professional advice about possible investment opportunities. A financial advisor can help find appropriate SRIs, and brainstorm options for future investments that satisfy both your financial goals and your desire to invest responsibly.

Travis Knott, Associate Financial Advisor with the practice of Sandra Smiley, is a Financial Advisor with Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc. in Honolulu, HI. Contact him at (808) 952-1251, 1585 Kapiolani Blvd. Suite 1100, Honolulu, HI 96814. Ameriprise Financial and its representatives do not provide tax or legal advice. Consult your tax advisor or attorney regarding specific tax issues. SRI World Group Inc. and The Forum for Sustainable and Responsible Investment are not affiliated with Ameriprise Financial, Inc. The included websites are provided for informational purposes only and are not an indication of endorsement of the content therein or affiliation with respect to the referenced sites. Brokerage, investment and financial advisory services are made available through Ameriprise Financial Services, Inc. Member FINRA and SIPC. Š 2013 Ameriprise Financial, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Mardi Gras (Sydney) and Honolulu’s own Circuit-party-on-hold dance weekend, Paradise Festival.

cancer does not appear overnight, and it is tempting to rethink any resentment about his flashes of anger and penchant for not showing up in light of his illness, considering the possibility that his health had been compromised for years as the illness progressed.

Peter Rauhofer was famous for bringing drama to the dance floor. His sets were filled with edgy, highly percussive sounds and very little fluff – a style that appealed to the tough urban sensibilities of queer New York, which in turn influenced much of Gay men’s dance culture. The drama he brought was not limited to his sets. He also had a reputation for a hair-trigger temper, and for canceling gigs at a moment’s notice. Nevertheless, the generosity he extended to new artists and his open praise of other remixers’ works made him a beloved figure in the scene.

Affection for the man went beyond recognition of his superb talents as a musicmaker and DJ. Accolades from promoters, fans and fellow DJs poured forth across social media when he died. There is little doubt that he will be remembered for his genius as a remixer, and the joy he brought people on dance floors from NYC to Honolulu.

His personal life was not fodder for public consumption. People in the club scene were shocked by the news that he suffered from a brain tumor. That important aspect of his mortal existence was a secret shared with only a chosen few, and it was announced only a few weeks before he died. Brain

Peter’s mother was with him in his last days, and took him home to Austria when he died. A candlelight vigil was held for him in Miami soon after he passed, another in NYC and he will be commemorated during this year’s New York Pride weekend, a festival in which he would typically have his own sold-out event.

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