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The Death of a Friendship By Kanarian Kindred
For many of us 2013 will mark the creations of new chapters of our lives. Unfortunately, with the creation of new chapters a few old ones will be written and some might even close. In a nutshell, some people aren’t going to be a part of your life in 2013. This change does not have to result in resentment. The reality is, sometimes people have reached full capacity in your life and although it can be a painful process, it’s often necessary. Anyone that is not contributing to your progress is hindering your growth and that relationship needs to be modified. Here are some factors to consider when you begin cleaning house.
1. Everything has its seasonThough we hate to face it, some people aren’t meant to be in our lives forever. Therefore, when you start to sense that a relationship is going south, handle it like an adult talk to your friend regarding any concerns or hurt feelings you’re having. If the friendship is indeed over wish them the best and keep it moving.
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2. If it’s your fault own it and take responsibility- Sometimes you’re the problem, so take the time to evaluate the situation. Did I do or say anything to cause this person to fall back from my life? If so, be the bigger person and apolo-
gize for your misgivings. If they still choose to walk away accept their decision and move on. 3. Get your head out the clouds & back in the game- Lastly, it’s time to get real with yourself and everyone around you. To put it bluntly, are you really surprised people have severed ties with you? How often do they call? How often do you see them? Are you always a sounding board for their problems, but never get a shoulder to cry on when needed? If so, the fact the friendship is dying shouldn’t be a total surprise. The signs have been there all along, but you chose to ignore them. For that reason, speak with the person directly to gain a better understanding of what went wrong. This affords you the ability to end the friendship on a high note, and take the information with you as a “what not to do” in future friendships. As you move forward, take the time to enjoy the ride. Instead of instantly calling people friends, take the time to get to know them. Understand that everyone is not meant to stay with you for a lifetime; some are just meant to be there for a moment in life.
Urban lifestlye magazine