out there, they remain knit together as a couple and, through sentimentality, events in their lives gain a dimension which would not be there if each was on one’s own.
Universal Love Men and women the world over are brought to enjoy activities which, while involving each individual, place the stress on the collectivity or at least on the fact that one is linked with others. In such activities — of which group dancing is an example — one merges into the group and learns to subordinate individual whims to collective performance. This discipline is part of the functioning of love extended to involve many more than a couple and is to be associated with a “good” represented by the harmonious performance of several people merged into a new unity. Team performance, no doubt, requires that each participant considers others and forgets himself for the purpose of contributing something to what all want to achieve. The returns for the individual are as much from the task well done as they are from participating in a way that one forgets oneself and discovers the more complex entity of the group welded together with oneself in it, stressing not the individual contribution but the group-performance. Besides using the disciplines of subordination and integration through participation, if one feels for the others, one discovers friendship extended in a new manner. Increased awareness of solidarity and caring for the higher levels of responsibility are obviously part of friendship
What can be learned about love if one considers it as an energy that is the result of self-awareness? In his essay On Love, Caleb Gattegno a...