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On Love

Friendship develops mainly in adolescence. At this stage in life a young man or woman is overwhelmed by the demands of the awareness of the functionings of affectivity, and needs someone like oneself involved in meeting similar challenges, to look together at the swell of emotions, the mobility of affective energy, and at the simultaneity of demands which come from the many directions and which one has to learn to cope with. At adolescence one needs someone like oneself, in order to live in contact with the unknown. The polarization is towards not being alone when facing the pressures of an exalted inner life. Finding someone who faces similar demands is a prerequisite for the building of friendship. While often the body-image guides people in being attracted physically to each other, it does not affect friendships. The interests of two selves in the exploration of a field of experience placed outside them is by far the strongest cement. Adolescent friendships have been scrutinized through diary confessions which confirmed that, for a few years at least, they were full of love and free of physical desires. Later they might change character and involve sexual relationships, often homosexual. These late developments may have prevented a clear understanding of the springs of friendship which we see in the bonds developed by a need to know together what comes one’s way, bringing a sudden shift of interest in the affective life of adolescents and overwhelming them. The vision of the world for pre-adolescent boys and girls is the one of the absolute of action. With the advent of adolescence it is transformed into the one of the absolute of sentimentality. It is possible to meet this transformation alone. But most people do not choose that route, and for two or three years in many, many lives, the cultivation of friendship seems more important than 36 Â

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On Love  

What can be learned about love if one considers it as an energy that is the result of self-awareness? In his essay On Love, Caleb Gattegno a...

On Love  

What can be learned about love if one considers it as an energy that is the result of self-awareness? In his essay On Love, Caleb Gattegno a...

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