open up, yielding secret after secret, the greatest being that there is no end to what can come one’s way. In surrender, a new kind of knowledge makes its appearance. It can be associated after the event with what one already knows, but is truly sui generis. We may still want to call it acquaintance, but its name matters little. The fact is that in surrender concepts stop, past experience seems remote and possibly is presented only in what it has done to one’s self, to the levels of the thresholds of one’s sensitivity as they can now be made to function. The main “activity” of surrender is to lower the fences built around one’s sensitivity, and to allow one to receive and receive, acknowledging it by finding oneself more capable of receiving more, of what the other brings in his or her being, in his or her gifts present in the caress, the kiss, the intimate contacts. In surrender, one can give oneself as well as receive the other. Surrender guides the pressure of one’s lips, of one’s fingertips, of one’s penetration or depths to be penetrated, or collaboration at the many points of contact. Because of surrender love-making becomes human. Sometimes one of the two in the couple can live it when the other is somewhere else. It does not matter, for surrender is a state and not part of a contract between two people who decide to love in a certain way. Through surrender we learn to take the other in, to be with the other in the most conscious way. But love does not necessarily express itself in the form of lovemaking. Even between people who could have become a couple in the fullest terms, there may be circumstances in which one of
What can be learned about love if one considers it as an energy that is the result of self-awareness? In his essay On Love, Caleb Gattegno a...