Infatuation The miracle of infatuation tells us that we can fall in love at once and endow an unknown person with attributes which make him or her the one who will fulfill us, will take care of our longing, of all our usual objections to meeting the unknown. The miracle of infatuation is common place in human beings. It is an integral part of the dynamics of love and no one will know what love is who does not give it its place. Infatuation like flood waters, removes obstacles on its way. One feels energized by the impact from the other, present or evoked. Affectivity, the source of infatuation, mobilizes the psyche and the soma but remains in control. The lover can express himself or herself better in words and otherwise. It is as if a great deal that was potential in oneself suddenly is available for immediate use. Infatuation changes the impacts emanating from the other into excitements that mobilize one in a variety of fields, not the least of which is the range of sexual expression. The energy of affectivity released by the presence of the other, is experienced as triggered by that other and as present in one's soma on some occasions more especially in one's sexual apparatus. Infatuation then is definitely known as energy of the self involving one in an area of experience in which one was not before its emergence. Infatuation rarely remains for very long at that level of expression of energy. Often it withers away. But on many occasions it changes itself into other forms of love, affection
What can be learned about love if one considers it as an energy that is the result of self-awareness? In his essay On Love, Caleb Gattegno a...