distinct couple. The problem is not more complicated because more than one couple exists involving one self. Perhaps, if such couples exist in fact, it may be even easier to know better what love is actually, because what is found in one can be tested in the others. Because of the fact that in terms of time we spontaneously give of ourselves to some people — thinking of them, feeling with them and about them — we shall consider here the time component to be the presence of the self in a relationship, feeding it and transferring to it the free energy that is in the self. Thus receiving some of the energy of the self, love flourishes in time.
Love-Attachment It is already clear that in love-attachment, psychic energy — which is also energy of the self (but not free) — is present and in such quantities sometimes, that it creates obsessions, permanent consumption of one's time and energy in going over that which automatically creates impasses for the couple or for one of the partners. One feels the uneconomical use of one's energy going round and round, but one still does it creating for oneself the distinct feeling that something is wrong in one's functioning. The expression “If only . . . ” makes its appearance because the self knows intimately that love is energy, but it has not been able to articulate it affectively. We may be able to learn a great deal about love as energy, as an attribute of the self, if we begin with love-attachment. But we shall only resort to this if we can not manage to do it directly by
What can be learned about love if one considers it as an energy that is the result of self-awareness? In his essay On Love, Caleb Gattegno a...