A Message from Claudia Ratzlaff, LSW, MSW, Chief Executive Officer
Volume 4, October 2014
Greetings Friends, This fall we have been given a lot to talk about during football season, so here are some facts to bring to the discussions: Domestic violence is a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another intimate partner. Domestic violence can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic, or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that intimidate, manipulate, humiliate, isolate, frighten, terrorize, coerce, threaten, blame, hurt, injure, or wound someone. Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, shoving, grabbing, pinching, biting, hair pulling, etc. are types of physical abuse. This type of abuse also includes denying a partner medical care or forcing alcohol and/or drug use upon him or her. Sexual Abuse: Coercing or attempting to coerce any sexual contact or behavior without consent. Sexual abuse includes, but is certainly not limited to, marital rape, attacks on sexual parts of the body, forcing sex after physical violence has occurred, or treating one in a sexually demeaning manner. Emotional Abuse: Undermining an individual's sense of self-worth and/or self-esteem is abusive. This may include, but is not limited to constant criticism, diminishing one's abilities, name-calling, or damaging one's relationship with his or her children. Economic Abuse: Is defined as making or attempting to make an individual financially dependent by maintaining total control over financial resources, withholding one's access to money, or forbidding one's attendance at school or employment. Psychological Abuse: Elements of psychological abuse include - but are not limited to - causing fear by intimidation; threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends; destruction of pets and property; and forcing isolation from family, friends, or school and/or work. The New Jersey Prevention of Domestic Violence Act (PDVA) provides relief to a victim of domestic violence: Civil relief, which is in the form of obtaining a restraining order, and criminal relief, which allows a victim to file criminal complaints against the batterer. Domestic violence is a serious crime and the police must respond to your calls. Under the PDVA, it is the primary duty of the police officer who responds to a domestic violence call to enforce the law and to protect the victim. Let’s keep the conversation going and end domestic violence.
Claudia Ratzlaff, CEO (Sources: National Domestic Violence Hotline, National Center for Victims of Crime, and WomensLaw.org. , njcourts.com,www.dvacenter.org)
Inside this issue: Home To Work/ Child Care Network……………….2 Fathers’ Care Network/PALS…….3 Domestic Violence Awareness Month Events………………………4 Violence Intervention Program/ Dream Catcher…………………….5
The Holiday Shoppe is an opportunity for clients to "shop" for free. Moms shop for their children - a simple act, but one that has significant impact as we empower families moving beyond abuse. The Holiday Shoppe would not be possible without the generosity of our donors and volunteers.
Dismantling Racism Initiative…….6
Children’s Toys & Clothing: Newborn - 17 Years
Happenings/Volunteer Update Community Appreciation………….7
Jewelry, Arts & Crafts, Books, Games, DVDs, Small Electronics, Gift Cards , Bows, Tape, Gift Wrap
For more information, please call 609-601-9925 ext. 209 or visit www.acwc.org
Home to Work/Child Care Network
Home to Work (HTW) Program 2014-2015 Educational Funding Available for Displaced Homemakers! (By: Sharon Holtzman, Job Developer)
If you’re looking for the opportunity to get certified educational training to start or change your career and reinvent yourself, the HTW Program has funding that could help you. These funds are available to Atlantic County Residents who are Displaced Homemakers. A Displaced Homemaker is a woman who is:
It’s a well known fact that the best way to find a job is through networking. The Home to Work’s Job Club offers job seekers an opportunity to expand their network, receive mutual support from members and valuable job leads from a variety of resources. Occasionally, we have guest speakers from local employers offering employment opportunities. Come out and join us for two hours of job support, networking, and more!
Widowed Divorced Separated Spouse is disabled or Spouse is in the military Displaced due to domestic violence The Home to Work program can assist you in assessment of skills, career exploration and linkages with local educational training schools and colleges. Some career options include: Licensed Practical Nursing Microsoft Office Specialist Pharmacy Technician Own or operate a Child Care Center/Child Development Associate Home Health Aide Web Page Graphic Design Specialist Financial
For more information, please call (609) 601-9925, Ext. 202.
FAMILY, FRIEND NEIGHBOR (FFN) (FORMER APPROVED HOME) PROVIDER and IN-HOME PROVIDER HEALTH & SAFETY REQUIREMENTS By: Percy Figueroa-Director of Child Care Resource & Referral
Looking forward to hearing from you and seeing you at our next Job Club!
Medical Health Claims Specialist …or bring us the certified program of your choice for review! Home to Work services also include assisting you with preparing to enter today’s job market with an effective resume, cover letter, interviewing skills and professional clothing. We have free, ongoing computer trainings, self development trainings, job readiness, life skills and much more! For more information, please contact Sharon Holtzman, Job Developer, at (609) 601-9925, Ext. 202 or visit our website at www.acwc.org.
If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, sexual violence, or human trafficking please call our 24 Hour Crisis Hotline: 1-800-286-4184 Page 2
The New Jersey Department of Human Services/Division of Family Development’s (DHS/DFD) federal is mandating, regulatory requirements on Health and Safety. Such requirements will include successful completion of a Child Abuse Record Information (CARI) check, Home Inspection Checklist, Orientation/trainings on Health and Safety, Cardiopulmonary Resuscitation (CPR) certification and First Aid training. An Approved Home Provider means a child care provider who is not registered pursuant to the Manual of Requirements for Family Day Care Registration, not licensed pursuant to the Manual of Requirements for Child Care Centers, and whose home has been evaluated and authorized for payment through the DHS child care service programs, using the Self-Arranged Care-Home Inspection and Interview Checklist. Unregulated relatives, friends or neighbors may be eligible for approved home status. An In-Home child care provider means an individual who provides child care services in the child’s own home for fewer than 24 hours per day. Effective July 1, 2014, prospective new providers must meet all health and safety requirements. Existing providers must meet all health and safety requirements by December 31, 2014. All CARI inspections, CPR and First Aid certifications and orientation must occur before an In-home or FFN Provider is approved and eligible to receive payment. These requirements are designed to protect the health and safety of children served by all Providers, including FFN and In-Home Providers for whom child care services are provided with public funds. For more information about the Child Care Network, please call: 609-601-9925.
By: Michelle Reed, FCN Supervisor
What does it take to be a Dad? Is it only DNA that generates a position of fatherhood? Can the man who does not biologically create a child still be a Dad? How is the title of Dad decided; based on scientific description, emotional connection, financial responsibility, or a combination of these things? The Merriam Webster dictionary defines Dad as: : a person's father The Merriam Webster dictionary defines Father as: : a male parent : a man who is thought of as being like a father : a person who was in someone's family in past times The Fathers' Care Network is not bound by any specific parameters when identifying Dads. Any man who identifies with a parenting role is considered a Dad in this program. It doesn't matter if he is the biological, adoptive, step or “fill-in” Dad; identifying as the supportive male figure in a child's life is the determining factor. Why, you may ask, is this the case? Well, a child does not necessarily identify with the scientific basis many adults use in determining the position of a Dad. Children recognize positive, supportive adults who acknowledge them as human beings, working to establish a place in their world. Established clients of the Fathers' Care Network range in position from biological fathers (established by DNA testing), stepfather's (married or living with the biological mother), adoptive fathers, and “fill-in” fathers (those who fill the parenting role in the lives of children biologically connected or not; such as nieces, nephews, godchildren, grandchildren and those children who have only known one Dad without really knowing the absolute relationship). These clients are invested in their role as a Dad. While they may have various socio-economic backgrounds, employment experience and social experiences, all connect on the same subject— Fatherhood! The Fathers' Care Network is a program designed to assist fathers in strengthening their role in the lives of their children. If you or someone you know is interested in improving or maintaining their role as a Dad, please contact the Fathers' Care Network at 609-601-9925 option #7.
By: Megan Mohr-Murphy, PALS Supervisor
Using Creative Art Therapy to Heal Wounds from Domestic Violence Creative arts therapy is an umbrella term which can include the following therapy modalities: Dance/movement therapy, music therapy, art, drama and play. These modalities use different approaches and creative techniques to help people learn coping strategies, express feelings, identify boundaries and increase self-esteem. The Peace: A Learned Solution program utilizes creative art therapy to help children and their non-offending parent heal from the trauma of domestic violence. The PALS program currently has a dance/movement therapist and a music therapist who work with the children and their families to heal bonds broken by domestic violence as well as help them process the trauma they have experienced. Creative art therapy can give children an avenue to express their feelings in a way that traditional talk therapy may not. The creative arts offer a non-threatening outlet for children to express themselves and process the trauma they have experienced. Children may be nervous and scared in a clinical setting, answering questions and discussing topics such as domestic violence. In creative art therapy, they can work through the trauma with skilled creative art therapists by creating art, such as making a song or other musical expression or through dance, yoga and other expressive movement. Creative art therapy can help children with trauma in many ways. It helps them build tools and resources to cope with their trauma as well as encourages positive selfregulation and decreases stress reactions. It can also help children’s brain integrate their sensory memory with the more linear, chronological memory which can help children reach a point where they can talk and/or think about the trauma without reliving it. Creative art therapy can restore a sense of hope and help children reconnect with parts of themselves they may have disconnected from in order to survive the trauma they have experienced.
How Do I Get Involved with PALS? If you are interested in setting up an initial appointment or would like additional information, please call (609) 601-9925, ext. 220. A PALS Case Manager will assist you in determining the level of services that will best benefit your children and family.
The Women’s Center
Violence Intervention Program
2014 DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH EVENTS October 1-31: ▪ Domestic Violence Awareness Information Table - 10:00am - 3:00pm - Stockton College ▪
F-Wing Atrium Empty Chair Display - Cornerstone Commerce Center Atrium - 1201 New Rd., Linwood
October 3: 9am-3pm - Stockton College-Carnegie Library Center, Atlantic City ▪ Child Abuse and Incest Seminar, sponsored by the Coalition for a Safe Community October 3: 12pm-5pm - Domestic Violence Awareness Information Table - Old Navy-Mays Landing October 4 & 5: 10am-5pm - Oktoberfest - Historic Smithville Village October 5: 12pm-6pm - 2nd Annual Hammonton Fall Festival - Mt. Carmel Fairgrounds October 7: 9am - 4pm - Clothesline Project Display - Cornerstone Atrium, 1201 New Rd., Linwood October 7: 6pm –8pm - “Amy’s Story” - Stockton College - Campus Center Meeting Room 1 October 8: 6pm - 7:45pm - Arts Garage, African American Heritage Museum ▪ Performance of: “Things I Remember: A Conversation on Racism in the US” October 9: 10am-3pm - Clothesline Project Display- Atlantic Cape Community College October 14: 6pm-8pm - Flowers on the Lake - Historic Smithville Village October 15: 11am-3pm - Clothesline Project Display - Stockton College - F-Wing Atrium E/F Lower Gallery October 21: 9am-11pm - Friends Helping Friends - Boscov’s EHT October 23: 6pm - 8pm - Documentary Film: “Miss Representation” - Stockton College - F Wing Room 203 October 25: 12pm-5pm - Domestic Violence Awareness Information Table - Old Navy-Mays Landing October 28: 9am - 4pm– Clothesline Project Display - Cornerstone Atrium, 1201 New Road, Linwood October 28: 6pm-8pm - Cornerstone Atrium, 1201 New Road, Linwood ▪ Understanding Rights & Responsibilities for Child Welfare Involved Families October 30: 9am-4pm - Walk in Her Shoes - Stockton College - C/D Wing Atrium
24-HR Hotline 1-800-286-4184
Violence Intervention Program (VIP) The Women’s Center
By: Dana Hicks, Associate Director of Programs
In the age of social media, I have seen a number of awareness campaigns cropping up. It seems a lot of the charitable giving and awareness is most successful when the “audience” can empathize with the cause for fear of being stricken with a certain illness, or the emotional reaction to the photo of a sick child or abused animal. I know for me these campaigns are effective; they evoke emotions and send me into action; whether that action be signing up for a walk or donating money-or when most effective, doing both. This gets me thinking about Domestic Violence Awareness Month which is October of every year. It makes me wonder why we haven’t been able to find that niche in moving people to action. And I can’t help but wonder if it’s because for the most part, many people believe they could never be that person…that woman who is married to a man that is just a little too loud in public and everyone wonders about what happens behind closed doors and how she could stay with such an obnoxious person; that woman who is dating the CEO of a big company and must be doing something to set such a successful man into a rage; that man whose intimate partner is hurting him; that alcoholic couple who is always fighting…that person who we will always find something wrong with and very different from us, therefore, making it certain, we could never be them. The truth of it is any of us could be a victim of domestic violence. Those who are in healthy relationships are fortunate that the person they fell in love with was someone who did not have abusive tendencies spectacularly wrapped up into a cute, adoring package of love and insecurities; “Oh, he is always so worried that I’m going to leave him”, “He loves me so much he can’t stand when we are apart”….and the list goes on. The truth of the matter is domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors that do not start off with the sound of war whistles. They are small red flags that are disguised in heart shaped boxes that open to a mirror that is so distorted that the person who is questioning their partners behaviors begins to see themselves as the problem. And by the time that mirror gets shattered and there’s a realization that the person that loves them is actually hurting them, the web of isolation has been weaved so tightly around them, it’s hard to find a way out. Even when leaving is an option, the fear of what will happen when they leave, because of months and years of very real threats, makes it even harder. Furthermore, the victim of this abuse cannot believe she/he is one of those people. And, she/he knows what judgments exist about them which further prevents them from speaking out and asking for help. Wouldn’t we all rather be a part of a society that clearly states, without judgment, blame or excuse, domestic violence is not okay, that no one asks or deserves to be abused, and that we are all
By: Jamie Lynn Anastasio, North Region Care Manager
Dream Catcher, a historic symbol of assisting good dreams to a person and keeping at bay all others. Our program, similarly seeks to holistically address the needs of human trafficking survivors throughout the State of New Jersey, utilizing prevention, protection, partnership and prosecution to eradicate Human Trafficking. Since inception in April of 2014, the Dream Catcher program has partnered with several New Jersey governmental and non-governmental agencies. Through Anti-Trafficking Coalition meetings, law enforcement partnership, Service Provider Memorandums of Understanding (MOU), and human trafficking educational trainings the process of addressing this complex human rights violation in New Jersey has begun. Subsequently, we have exceeded our quarterly goals; as our team of five diligently provides clinical and intensive case management services for more than 40 survivors of human trafficking. As our goal is to reduce the vulnerability of potential victims & the demand for exploitation in all its forms, we look forward to continuation of growth and service provision to this population through the Dream Catcher program. If you or someone you know is a victim of human trafficking, please call our 24 hour crisis hotline at 1-800-286-4184.
extending our hands outward in show that we are here to help. Such outward demonstrations could be as simple as attending an awareness campaign event (scheduled throughout the month of October), volunteering as a Crisis Advocate, making a donation to our Shelter Renovation campaign, or by becoming a friend of The Women’s Center by giving time/ money to the advancement of the Agency and “Like” us on Facebook. For more information on our VIP Program, please visit www.acwc.org or call 609-601-9925 option #6
Diversity Statement The Women’s Center is committed to providing equal treatment to our diverse community with a fully integrated and educated staff. Diversity is our strength and we celebrate it by helping individuals of all ages, races, nationalities, religions, physical abilities and sexual orientations. We pledge ourselves to creating and maintaining an environment that respects multiple traditions, heritages, and experiences. Our mission is to eliminate discrimination by becoming change agents in the workplace and in the community.
“ Things I Remember: A Conversation on Racism in the US” A collection of stories written and performed by the staff of The Women’s Center around how they have experienced racism. The monologues are presented in hopes of educating others about how racism continues to affect our world. We are committed to continuing the dialogue within our work, community and personal lives, with the hope of one day ending this oppression. This performance is copyrighted by The Women’s Center to educate our society.
The thought that stayed with me was when the young boy, about seven or eight years old asked “Can racism kill you or get you killed?” I did all I could to give him an honest answer about the past and at the same time reassure him that things where better than years before the Civil Rights Act was passed…when I sat down I thought, but it is not over. Thank you for bringing honest, raw commentary about our countrys’ past and the realities of the present concerning racism. I have hope for our future through your brave work.
Rose Williams- Harambe Social Services
24-HR Hotline 1-800-286-4184
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Happenings & Volunteer Update
With Appreciation to Our Community Supporters and Friends On behalf of The Women’s Center and the families that we serve, we want to thank you, most sincerely, for your extremely generous donations this Holiday season and throughout the year. As strong supporters of The Women’s Center, your thoughtfulness touches us deeply and serves to reinforce our mission to ensure that all families struggling in silence know that there is hope and love and a future filled with joy and laughter waiting for them.
Donations can be made online at www.acwc.org or mailed to: 1201 New Road, Linwood, NJ 08221
We simply could not do what we do for our clients and the community without the help of the exceptional people who give of themselves deliberately and freely; our volunteers. If you’ve been thinking about ways to support The Women’s Center, and you have some time, please join us. We have two programs; our “General Volunteer Program” and the “Volunteer Crisis Advocate Program”. Here’s some basic information on both... Do you enjoy interaction, using your great customer service skills? If so, the thrift store, Finders Keepers, or greeting clients in a direct services environment may be just the right match for you. If you prefer administrative duties, or helping out with community events, we need support in those areas, as well. If you are interested in making a difference in the lives of people impacted by domestic violence or sexual assault, please consider our Volunteer Crisis Advocate program. Advocates are specially trained volunteers who support individuals who have experienced domestic or sexual violence. This support takes place at a police station or hospital in Atlantic County. Advocates help to ensure that survivors know their rights and options and are supported through crisis. A 40-hour training program is required to become a Volunteer Crisis Advocate.
Save the Date Wine Tasting to Benefit The Women’s Center Hosted by
Sofia Restaurant 9314 Amherst Avenue in Margate Tuesday, December 2nd 6:00pm - 8:00pm $25 per person Tickets can be purchased at the door or on our website at www.acwc.org
Saturday, September 20, 2014
Mission: Empowering Women by Working to Secure their Physical Safety, Emotional Well-Being, Individual Freedom and Economic Equality.
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Unless otherwise noted, all trainings are held at : The Women’s Center, 1201 New Road, Linwood, NJ 08221. Online Registration www.acwc.org or call 609-601-9925. Ext. 207.
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High School Equivalency Exam (formerly GED)
Tuesday and Thursday 9:30 a.m. - 12:00 p.m. There is no charge for the instruction. To find out more, please call 609-601-9925 ext. 207
Finders Keepers Thrift Store Store Hours: Monday thru Thursday, 10am-5pm 1201 New Road, Suite 113, Linwood ~ Clothing, shoes, jewelry, accessories, books…
and much more!