YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT: Nutrition
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Special Edition 2009
30 YES WE CAN! Lumbie Mlambo's Take on Balance and the Reality of Change Photography by David D. Goff, Hairstyling by Nakeshia Hawkins, Wearing MAC: Facebody foundation, Studio finish concealer, Mineralize skinfinish Natural powder and Este Lauder Rose Goddess Gloss
POETRY Learn Respect
26 WAYS TO FIND BALANCE Foundations of Life
6 BE OUR NEXT… We Are Looking for You!
26 THEORY OF MIND What Personality Are You?
7 FROM THE EDITOR Lumbie Mlambo
27 NOT JUST FOR COMPANIES Getting Organized
fitness & nutrition
8 LOSING PREGNANCY WEIGHT Helping New Mommies Lose Belly Fat
28 GIRL INSPIRES MANY Julianna Keller
10 YOU ARE WHAT YOU EAT Nutrition Tips for 2009
33 DRAWING WITH KIDS Art Recovery
12 busy body Anthony Stone
element of equanimity Key Elements
34 YES SHE DID Do People Say You Don’t Look Your Age?
fashion & style
14 dressing for a cause Fashion Feeding the Hungry 16 panashe design Beautiful Summer Styles
heart & soul
19 LOVE OF MUSIC James Pinder
20 BUDDY WHITTINGTON The Blues Master 21 A NEEDED VISIT Only You Can Answer
22 AMEN Live Every Day to the Fullest 24 OUR HEART GOES TO YOU Giving is a Good Thing 25 NUTT'S AT WAR Belief of the Power of One
self expression poetry Learn Respect The wise owl perched in an oak... Always listened before he spoke. The good humored hyena with razor sharp teeth... Always laughed, before he leapt for meat. Every animal observes each other. But, only few will learn, my brother. The enormous elephant evolves and recalls all... It only takes a mouse to down his fall. The cool king cobra hisses, flaring his neck... Along comes the mongoose to shuffle his deck. Every animal observes each other. But, only few will respect, my brother. Observe and learn freely... It saves time. —By Billy Simpson
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from the editor
We can achieve anything in life if we put our minds to it. This may sound simple, but in reality it is not. You have to surround yourself with people who think like you and who want nothing but the best for you. Negative minded people will not help you accomplish your goal. People who wish you the best have this in common: They encourage you to do things you talk yourself out of doing, thus making you think outside the box. They give you feedback frequently to ensure you stay on track with whatever it is you are trying to accomplish. They are honest even if it hurts your feelings. They won’t let you quit. When you’re not doing so well, they tell you that you’re doing a great job, so that you stay motivated and focused. This, by the way, is not a lie, it is meant to encourage you to go on and it shows how much a person really cares about your success. When you have this kind of support in your life, anything is possible, but of course, you have to believe in yourself. Things that may seem so out of bounds are brought to existence. Your belief may be different, but I believe that anything is possible through God. Because I know He carries me through any difficulty in life, I know He would let me do those things I desire to do; those things that bring balance to life and allow us to share, empower, encourage, motivate and bring about change to those who seek it; change that allows us to be productive, create jobs, build and support our families, and find ways to feed the hungry like fashion shows with Chipo - Panashe fashion designer. Think about it! It’s a lifestyle balance! Can we do it? “YES, WE CAN!!”
Lumbie Mlambo, Editor-in-Chief
fitness & nutrition losing pregnancy weight
Weight? by Jenyl Ybaez, Little Dazzle
ost first time mothers like me are shocked by how we gained much weight after giving birth. This extra weight is usually visible in the stomach which is the most stretched part of the body during pregnancy. I was so worried on how to slim down to my original size. According to the associatedcontent.com’s article on How to Tone Your Belly After Giving Birth. —It is extremely important that you are able to get your stomach in shape because this means stronger back muscles which you will definitely need when caring for your baby.
Most doctors would suggest that the safest period before we can do physical exercise is to wait for six weeks after the delivery. We should also consult a doctor on the proper program to use. Although the six weeks period is very helpful to avoid injuries, there are safe exercises that can be done after the delivery. Robin Elise Weiss, LCCE and the author of The About.com Guide to Having a Baby; The Everything Pregnancy Fitness Book says, “there are a couple of exercises that you can do within hours after the birth, 8
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vaginal or c-section, to help you start feeling better and regaining strength.” Start by placing the hands low on the abdomen and practicing slowly breathing in until you can feel your hands move. Then slowly exhale. Repeat this about 5-8 times. Other exercises are legs and arm circles, leg slides with bending the knees, kegels and neck stretches. Another expert, Lisa Druxman, a fitness trainer and author of the book, Lean Mommy, suggests a great little exercise that you can do anywhere as long as you are sitting down is to tighten your stomach and pull in your lower abdominal muscles as much as you can. This helps work those muscles. She says, “Imagine you’re wearing a corset and you’re pulling its strings tight.” I attest that the simple exercises helped me lose some weight and gave me enough strength.
losing pregnancy weight fitness & nutrition
Another very effective and helpful way to lose weight, which I’ve tried, is through breastfeeding. I’ve read on diet-trends.suite101.com that most celebrity moms have spoken openly about how breastfeeding helped them lose weight after giving birth. It also states that studies show that breastfeeding can help burn hundreds of extra calories each day in the months following birth. It could also be a bonding moment for the mother and child.
On the contrary, some research proves that not all new mothers lose weight from breastfeeding alone. In fact, some mothers actually put on weight while breastfeeding. In the book, Eat Well, Lose Weight While Breastfeeding, author Eileen Behan, RD, shares the results of a study of 1,423 women presented at the First European Congress on Obesity. Behan states, “The strongest predictor for weight retention was how much mothers gained while pregnant; women who gained more than the recommended amount had a harder time getting it off. Older mothers retained more weight than younger moms. There were larger variations in weight gains and loses, but the bottom line was that breastfeeding alone does not guarantee weight loss.” Breastfeeding should still be combined with post-natal exercises. Making an effort to be fit does not only benefit the mothers, but their babies. So we should stay pretty and healthy new mommies!
fitness & nutrition eating right
You Are What You Eat by Anne Vanbeber, PHD, RD, LD - Nutritionist
Nutrition Tips for 2009 Government dietary guidelines emphasize a colorful plate that includes nutrient-rich fruits and vegetables from a “rainbow” of colors, including red, orange, yellow, green, purple and white to receive maximum health benefits. Worldwide populations who consume plantbased diets have less chronic disease, such as atherosclerosis, cancer, diabetes, obesity, osteoporosis, kidney stones and gallstones. Plants contain vital health-promoting compounds in the for m of pigments, phytochemicals and antioxidants that reduce the onset of disease.
Summertime is Ripe for Eating from the “Rainbow” Summertime offers ample opportunities to consume a colorful diet. Most Americans do not consume the recommended nine servings of fruits and vegetables each day, and research indicates that 50 percent of individuals eat no fruit all day long.
How can YOU increase your consumption of fruits and vegetables? •V isit the local farmer’s market. Vendors often provide food preparation tips and samples of the fruits or vegetables they sell. • Tend a small vegetable garden. Take satisfaction in preparing a meal that includes foods you have grown. • Visit a local farm that lets you “pick your own” fruits and vegetables. Involve children in choosing a new fruit or vegetable. • Cut up fresh vegetables in advance. Store them in pre-portioned containers in the refrigerator so they will be readily available for quick meals or snacks. • At meals, fill the plate ½ vegetables, ¼ starch, ¼ protein to consume more health-promoting phytochemicals.
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eating right fitness & nutrition Serve this Sassy Peach Salsa as a complement to meat, poultry, or seafood, or as a dip with corn chips: 1¾ pounds ripe peaches (about 6 medium), peeled, pitted, coarsely chopped
1 Tbsp. finely chopped red onion
1 Tbsp. chopped fresh mint leaves
1 Tbsp. fresh lime juice
1 tsp. jalapeño chile, seeded, finely chopped
In a medium bowl, combine ingredients, stirring gently to mix. Cover and refrigerate at least 1 hour to blend flavors. It makes about 3 cups. Approximately 25 calories per ¼ cup serving.
For more information about the nutritional benefits of fruits and vegetables and how to incorporate them into a healthy “rainbow” lifestyle, visit www.5aday.com or www.5aday.gov. In addition, informative books touting the beneficial phytochemicals and pigments in fruits and vegetables include What Color is Your Diet? by Heber and
The Color Code, by Joseph, Nadeau, and Underwood. These are but a few of the resources that discuss the historical and biological evidence that indicates plant foods promote health and decrease the incidence of chronic disease.
fitness & nutrition anthony stone
Busy Body A Workout Plan with Anthony Stone T
These workouts you need to be a little more creative. However, have everything you need lying down or in your kitchen cabinets.
Pushups 3 sets or to failure
Body Weight Squats 3 sets or to failure
Water Bottle Shoulder Press 3 sets or to failure
Walking Up and DOwn Stairs 3 sets or to failure Going to failure allows you to go at your own pace! Some other examples of working out at home could be mopping the floor or even doing yard work. The point is to utilize what you have at home, which maximizes your time without creating extra time or expenses.
“…you can either be too busy or get busy getting yourself into shape and improving your lifestyle.” 12
oo busy to workout? Not enough hours in the day? I would workout if I had a home gym? Gym memberships are too expensive! Maybe you have said a few of these things yourself or have at least heard it from someone else. The New Year’s resolution has come and gone, it’s time to take action. Although busy, there are still enough hours in the day to do some sort of physical activity. It’s time to think outside the box and not restrict your thinking to just gym workouts. Small steps can be to just take the stairs instead of the elevator or I have heard of people getting together during their lunch break and going for a walk. This has to be more than a resolution. It has to be a lifestyle!
To improve your health, it’s as easy as doing physical activity for 3 days a week at 30 minutes a day and this can improve your overall wellness. It’s that easy! So, now that we know how easy it is, here are some examples of beginner workouts for people who have never worked out before and want to start. After working out for a while you will be at the intermediate stage. Finally, the advanced stage to where you are familiar with all the machines and working out is a part of your daily routine. It only takes 21 days to develop a habit. Now, anymore excuses?
GYM WORKOUT Doing compound movements (exercises involving more than one muscle group) are going to burn more calories and allow you to shorten your workout in the gym.
Chest Press 3 sets. 15-20 reps.
Squats 3 sets. 15-20 reps.
Shoulder Press 3 sets. 15-20 reps.
Leg Press 3 sets. 15-20 reps.
Lat Pulldown 3 sets. 15-20 reps. Although you are not doing arms or abs, these things would be incorporated within the exercises you see above. Form is very important. Remember to tighten your stomach while doing each exercise. This will protect and strengthen your abs and lower back.
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key elements fitness & nutrition
Elements of Equanimity By Kenneth Meade
Dictionary.com defines equanimity as “mental or emotional stability or composure especially under tension or strain; calmness; equilibrium.”
lthough the word may seem obscure to some or perhaps even fictional, it has a simple meaning and is something we deal with every instant of our lives. Right now as you read this, there is a scale or gauge ebbing and flowing, displaying the level of your ability to act or react with ease and focus. Do you know how to read your gauge? What do you do when your gauge pushes towards the red line of “I’m about to lose it.” Equanimity means something specific and different to all of us. Some of our gauges have more space between the top and the bottom. What sets each of us off as well what clams us will vary. Some may have more things they find bring them close to a balanced state-of-mind and
others may see mostly things that fragment and unsettle them. What common ground is there in search of equanimity? Numerous components of our lives bare consequence for this potential of equanimity. Not casting aside the possibility that one can remain-in a state of equanimity long term, yet realizing that it can be a constant challenge, we can focus our energies on key components of our lives. Through effort and consideration, we may create a field better suited and further cultivated for a flower of equanimity to bloom. We can mold our existence with the same level of care as someone who tends their garden daily. It can be as simple as watering often and removing weeds whenever spotted.
Here is a list of elements of your life to consider and things you can do to help get you in equanimity. Self-awareness is as extensive an idea as your life
is long, maybe more so. If you are not affluent with it yet, start introducing yourself to yourself. What brings you joy? What brings you a sense of purpose?
Responsibilities and Obligations, when unattended to, have a way of throwing you off balance. Whether your bills or the plans you made with a friend, try not to see these with heavy eyes. Look for the feeling of giving them their share of consideration (or money). If it is not good, you may need to reconsider the friend (or being caught up on your bills). Social interaction is a great chance to develop and use equanimity. A feeling of relevance to others as well as the help they can offer you is healthy. If you view social gatherings as a waste of time, they are only by your design. Meditation is another word often misconstrued.
Think of it as any process that allows one to become fully aware and in tune with the moment. Again, there can be as many ways of doing this as there are different people. Find your way to examine every detail in a moment of your existence. This can be key to creating equanimity.
fashion & style dressing for a cause
Fashion Shows That Feed The Hungry Fashion Designer - Chipo Mudzengi
Photography by David D. Goff Your fashion is your comfort! Panashe Designs is fashion designed to make a difference in women’s lives by helping them develop their unique style and build confidence in their lives. My goal is for women to experience the empowerment; the comfort; the fun and the natural sense of self and well being. Our Fashion shows raise funds to support young single mothers and those about to become single mothers. Our message to them is “Be a Victor not a Victim.” We all have dreams and visions. I find myself at a crossroad – to be or not to be obedient. I choose to be obedient. Help me help others! Together we can make a difference!
panashe design fashion & style CrĂŠme and green The African Princess
This flattering, snuggly, fitting dress is suitable for summer and special occasions. Quite elegant and stylish.
fashion & style panashe design
Brown and CrĂ¨me
The Stylish Princess Beautiful summer skirt with striking features that embrace and compliments the body.
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panashe design fashion & style
Brown & Orange
The Grecian Princess Multi-purpose summer dress in rich colors that exudes vibrance and comfort. Suitable for bridesmaid dresses, parties and casual wear.
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Black & white
The Precious Princess Comfortably loose and fun summer dress with nice soft material that is suitable for hot sunny days. It has beautiful uplifting colors.
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Howard Pinder watches his son James Pinder play music instrument
natural rhythm heart & soul
Love For the of
Music by Jenyl Ybaez, Little Dazzle
Is a deep interest in music contained in our genes? As human beings, we have a natural love for music. While some might believe that musical talent is solely genetic, this is not necessarily so.
movie and foreboding music played. We need music to relax or comfort us. Some therapists recommend listening to or playing music as part of the rehabilitation process. It helps to control emotions. Think of the difference in moods between listening to hard rock music and listening to Mozart.
Our lives possess a natural rhythm that makes our souls compliment with the physical world. Every sound we hear becomes an opportunity for music. Human life constructs a melody wherein some musicians might derive notes for their compositions. We have a connection to music that might be imperceptible. When we hear a song at home, in the car, or even at a store we just dropped by, then we tend to recall it later by singing or humming its melody.
Music is something for everybody to enjoy. We tend to shut ourselves off from the opportunities to create music, only to realize that the success of others may have been ours to share. In playing the guitar, it is possible to achieve greatness with practice. We are often discouraged from creating music by the belief that musical instruments are difficult to play or that music is difficult to learn to read. We fear rejection or embarrassment. This thinking must change! Humming, whistling, singing and clapping the hands are all talents within us that can develop and improve.
Music also affects our mood. Nicholas Cook, author of Analyzing Musical Multimedia, states, “Words and pictures deal primarily with the specific, while music deals primarily with responses—that is, with values, emotions and attitudes.” When heart-broken, we feel every love song’s message. Sometimes, we think the song plays especially for us. When we hear a new song, we sometimes anticipate the next line because we feel the meaning of the song. The creators of theater, television, and film understand that music affects our moods and they provide soundtracks to help move us. Think of the emotions you felt the last time you watched a horror
Music contributes to our daily lives in tremendous ways. It has always been a part of our being. Some of us possess talent at being musicians, singers or composers. Nevertheless, it is important to remember that music touches us when we listen to it. In this way, music can benefit everyone’s lives – regardless of the ability to play an instrument.
heart & soul blues master
Buddy Whittington Takes A Divine Perspective
Photography by Marco van Rooijen
by Laura Lilley Smith
divine perspective that everything is going to be okay,” is what keeps blues guitarist Buddy Whittington on track. This year, the 52-yearold musician joined the impressive John Mayhall and The Bluesbreakers Band Alumni Club that includes Eric Clapton, Peter Green of Fleetwood Mac and guitarist Mick Taylor, who also played with the Rolling Stones. Like the others, Whittington has tasted success without the Bluesbreakers and is finding sweetness on all accounts. His first solo CD released in 2007 has made a big splash and features many self-written numbers that explode with energy, hints of country, new blues and a definite style that promises to keep listeners coming back for more. The Texas-born musician never had any formal training, teaching himself to play the guitar at the early age of eight. He began performing in clubs at 14, and never looked back. His big break came shortly after his band opened for Mayhall, soon thereafter guitarist Coco 20
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Montoya left The Bluesbreakers… and Whittington was in. Fifteen years of international touring as the band’s lead guitarist brought about what we see today: a musical blues sensation. Is it easy being on the road? Buddy admits there’s never been any other road for him, and he and his family take all the traveling, late nights and other performance requirements in stride. He credits his wife Cathy for the balance he finds in life. “She’s the one that keeps everything together,” he says. “She’s the glue.” “Shoot” he drawls, we are farthest from balance… but it works.” For this blues master, it must… there’s a new CD on the horizon, an international tour schedule, two teens seemingly well adjusted, and Cathy who keeps everyone together… through divine perspectives. To find the latest on Buddy visit myspace.com or buddywhittington.com His first solo CD is entitled: Buddy Whittington SOURCES: Whittington interview 3.20.09
A NEEDED VISIT
the pamphlet heart & soul
by Dewayne Coleman
ermaine Johnson and Edward Diner were high school friends. After finishing high school they remained friends, working regular jobs during the week and hanging out together every weekend. They spent most of their time going to clubs and parties, doing lots of drinking and smoking. They became comfortable with the life they had chosen. They were headed for self destruction, but did not know it! One summer day of a weekend in 1996, the duo sat outside on the porch of Edward’s house. To beat the heat, they took off their t-shirts leaving them in tank tops, short pants, and fresh white sneakers, wiping sweat from their brows with small towels. As usual they drank, smoked, and made plans for later that evening. In the middle of one of their discussions Edward got up, finishing off his beer and going into the house leaving Jermaine out on the porch alone. Jermaine pulled out his pager, checking it as he was receiving a page. Edward yelled out to him from inside the house, “Want another beer? Jermaine, turning to the door responded, “Yeah!” wiping sweat from his face with his small towel and putting his pager away. It was obvious that it was someone he didn’t want to talk to. As he turned back around there was a man standing at the end of the driveway. The man was very dark-skinned. His hair was like a sheep's coat. His eyes were covered with dark shades. He wore a rainbow colored tank top, shorts and socks. The man didn’t say a word, didn’t move a muscle, but just starred! Jermaine was somewhat on edge because he did not recognize the man. So he spoke to him first, “What’s up?” The man said nothing. He started walking toward Jermaine. Sand covered his footed socks, which scrapped against rocks in the driveway. Jermaine stood to his feet as the man got closer, clinching a tighter grip on his nearly emptied bottle of beer. Jermaine noticed something that he hadn’t before. The man was carrying pamphlets in his right hand. This somewhat put Jermaine at ease. He said nothing to Jermaine, just handed him one of the pamphlets. At the same time, Edward stepped out of the house with two bottles of beer. “Oh Sh..!” Edward exclaimed! The man said nothing to him either, just handed him a pamphlet, turned and began walking down the driveway. In confusion and misunderstanding, Jermaine and Edward looked at each other and then opened the pamphlets. Briefly glimpsing the pamphlets just to see what they were about, they looked up and stepped down off the porch. Looking both ways
down the street for the man, the man was nowhere to be seen. “Where did he go?” Edward asked. Jermaine said nothing. He had been amazed and shocked at the same time! In the days, weeks, and years that followed this encounter, neither spoke to each other and to no one ever of what happened, frightened of what people would say or think. They just kept it to themselves. Who was that who visited Jermaine and Edward that day? Why did he come to visit them? Where did he come from? How did he disappear like that? Will they see him again? If so, when? These are questions you'll have to answer yourself because what can be said is limited. But, if you'd like to know what was in the pamphlet, there were these verses, combined: Psalms 139 1-6, 13-14, 23-24. equanimitymag.com
heart & soul amen
I choose to be
And We All Say … AMEN! by Pastor William Bittock
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amen heart & soul Matthew 6:25-34 (New International Version) 25 ”Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is life not more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? 28”And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
I heard a story once that went like this: I have a mountain of credit card debt”, one man told another. “I have lost my job. My car is being repossessed and our house is in foreclosure, but I am not worried about it,” exclaimed his friend. “No, I’ve hired a professional worrier. He does all my worrying for me, that way I don’t have to think about it.” “That’s fantastic! How much does your professional worrier charge for his services?” “$50,000 a year,” he replied. “$50,000 a year? Where are you going to get that kind of money?” “I don’t know,” comes the reply. “That’s his worry.”
In my life I have chosen to believe in The Lord Jesus Christ and to believe in His every promise. Worry comes from our belief system. It is time to ask ourselves what we really believe in. You see, you have two choices every morning when you wake up, either to worry about the day or to pray about it. I choose the latter daily. How about you?
The cost of worry—don’t you hate paying interest on things you buy? House, car, credit cards? Well, worry is the interest we pay when we borrow from tomorrow’s problems. Live every day to the fullest, as we are told each day has its own troubles. Celebrate instead the victories that you have been so far ignorant of. You have accomplished so much in your life and have so much to be thankful for. Think back 10 years, five years, and see how far you have come. Today is actually the tomorrow you have been planning for, for a long time. Are you going to waste it? No, instead maximize it.
The cause of worry —we worry about food, clothing, health, and the future. 40 percent of what we worry about will never happen. 30 percent has already happened. 12 percent is unfounded criticism from others. 10 percent is our health. The last 8 percent is the actual problems we have to do something about. That means 92 percent of worry is useless! And worrying about the 8 percent didn’t help the situation one bit.
The cure for worry—Replace negative thoughts (worry) with positive thoughts (faith). The truth of the matter is we all have faith. The only problem is we either have faith in our challenges to overcome us or we have faith in our God to give us the victory. It’s all about perspective. The bigger your problem the smaller your god, but the bigger your God then the smaller your problem. Remember the story of David and Goliath? David was facing a 9 ft. tall giant but he was coming into the fight with a God who has never lost a battle. When I state that I choose to be happy today, it is a choice made knowing full well that I may have challenges ahead of me but I am confident in the knowledge that my God’s grace is sufficient for me. I am assured of victory in Jesus. Accepting that I may have challenges in my day allows me to respond to them not react to them. This is important and I do not want you to miss this. When you react to a situation you have no control of it. However, when you respond to a situation, it’s a well thought out, calculated decision you have arrived at. Respond positively to your challenges today. Choose to be happy no matter what and do not give any power to another human being to affect your joy. Whether they cut you off the road, whether they are your boss or even your spouse, choose to love instead of hate, choose to forgive instead of getting embittered, choose to model your faith in Christ to them.
heart & soul our heart goes to you
Heart Goes To You! Our
by Jenyl Ybaez, Little Dazzle
eing generous is easy. When blessed in many ways, giving back to the community is not hard. A person giving in this manner requires nothing in return. They have no concern what the receiving person thinks of them. Donating to the needy is an act of empathy. The giver shares their abundance. Generosity does not necessarily mean monetary or material goods. It is not necessary to be wealthy to extend a helping hand to the needy.
Charity work can be a very difficult task. A person can say, “I can do it!” but actually doing it can be challenging. Cathy Stone, executive director of the Rural Outreach Centre in Buckhorn says, “you get to the stage where you’re just annoyed by poverty.” In this case, we have to remind ourselves that being less fortunate is not easy. Living in deep poverty is a reality that everyone must understand. Sometimes it helps to know and experience it first hand to empathize with those experiencing it. Sometimes help will go to people who do not need it. If someone does take advantage of your generosity, this should not be a sufficient reason to stop one’s kindness in giving. Some may avoid being generous because of the possibility of being misunderstood or abused. Life is unpredictable and the wheel may turn around. The abilities or blessings one may have now may go to waste in the future. It is wiser to make the most out of what we have. Reaching out to others in the most beneficial manner is meaningful and rewarding. “Honestly, the kids were jumping for joy over a bag of potatoes”, says Cathy Stone. Unfortunately, this help sometimes is misdirected. 24
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If this happens, chalk it up to being a learning experience and continue your charitable work. Dedicating yourself to making a big leap to touch others’ lives by helping them is a decision that others sometimes question. Some people may not understand such ardor to help and the sentiment of fulfillment from doing it. The charitable person may have a mission that they can accomplish, like Mother Theresa of Calcutta, who is known for her mission to help the poor and the dying. On September 10, 1946, Teresa experienced what she later described as “the call within the call” while traveling to the Loreto convent in Darjeeling from Calcutta for her annual retreat. She says, “I was to leave the convent and help the poor while living among them. It was an order. To fail would have been to break the faith.” Giving is a good thing. When we give we inspire and change a person’s life in a positive way. People give because they want to. What an honor that is!
Nutt's at War
war child heart & soul
By Kenneth Meade
n a time when the cries to help the less fortunate are muted by the calls for bailouts or even the screams of unjust against them, some still make charity a priority. Dr. Samantha Nutt, founder and Executive Director of War Child Canada, points out that in these desperate times, those who were already desperate are at risk of becoming endangered. In a recent post from the War child Web site titled “Are Africa’s 15 minutes of fame already over?” Samantha uses stats like, one in six children die before reaching their fifth birthday in sub-Saharan Africa, while in 2007, US financial aid to Africa totaled $4.5 billion. She then asks that we consider, at the time of her article, that the AIG insurance bailout had been reported to be over $144 billion. In our research, we found articles posted the next day that listed $160 billion total, a day’s difference in reporting consisting of greater than triple 2007 African aid from the US, regardless of the amount being a hundred and fifty billion dollars greater. Before bailout was a buzzword, Samantha had been making a difference in the lives of woman and children affected by war. The efforts of War child have reached and affected areas in Iraq, Afghanistan, The Democratic Republic of Congo, Liberia, Sierra Leone, Somalia, Iraq, Burundi, northern Uganda, and the Thai-Burmese border. With Samantha’s ever-present belief of the power of one, in 2007 War child, she collaborated with singer songwriter Raine Maida in an effort to raise $30k to rebuild a school in the Congo. This project consisted of Raine walking the streets of Toronto with a cardboard sign and his guitar. By simply busking for change, the effort was successful and turned into the video for Raine’s “Yellow Brick Road” from his solo debut “The Hunters Lullaby.”
War child has a history of working with musicians. Earlier this year War child released “War child: Heroes” album, which involved well-known iconic artists selecting one of their songs and a new artist to perform it. More information on this album featuring songs by Bob Dylan, Bruce Springsteen, Paul McCartney, The Ramones, U2, David Bowie and more, can be found on War child’s Web site. Should the need to get involved strike you, War child has a few ways you can help. Their Web site www.warchild.us is a great place to start. You can donate to their current efforts in Darfur as well as sample tracks from the “Heroes” album. Dr. Samantha Nutt has also written the forward in “Notes from Canada’s Young Activists” which is another source of inspiration as well as ideas for those wanting to make a difference. Dr. Samantha Nutt is a specialist in Maternal and Child Health in zones of armed conflict, Family Medicine, Public Health, Refugee Health and Women’s Health. She is also on staff at Sunnybrook and Women’s Health Science Centre and is an Assistant Professor at the University of Toronto in the Department of Family and Community Medicine. She can be followed on twitter as NuttsatWarchild. War Child’s administrative costs are less than 10% of total expenditures and are among the lowest in the charitable field, meaning that 90 percent of all donations go directly to funding their charitable programs.
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Volunteering can be a soul satisfying experience that brings balance to your world. One volunteer hour a week can change a life. There are many opportunities in your own backyard to mentor a child, help with a canned food drive, or use your skills in a variety of ways to help others. Check out www.volunteermatch.org for possibilities near you.
Sleep Sweet dreams or the lack thereof could be detrimental to your well-being. According to a 2009 National Sleep Foundation poll, 2 out of 10 Americans sleep less than 6 hours a night. To help you sleep, try to keep a standard relaxing bedtime routine; finish your workout at least 3 hours before bedtime, and avoid two known sleep inhibitors: alcohol and caffeine. Most importantly, find your normal sleep time average, for most, it’s around 7.5 hours; however, some people are fine with 5 hours of sleep while others need 9. To find your “normal” take the sleeprelated tests at www.umm.edu/sleep.
Soothe your senses Light a candle and relax. Try a jimmy BELASCO soy candle: our favorite – Red Cedar Clove.
Laugh Incorporate laughter into your life. Studies have shown that laughter lowers your blood pressure, relieves stress and improves brain function.
Music What’s on your iPod? Try Falling Slowly by Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova… a little ditty from the Oscar winning soundtrack of Once. 26
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Want to improve your balance and coordination? Check out the Bongo Board. It’s a skateboard-balancing act. There’s special toe grips on top to keep your feet in place, and a rotating wheel underneath that allows you to maneuver in any direction. You can Bongo inside or outside… just remember it’s all about balance.
Bow-Wow Pets can help improve our well being. Owning a pet isn’t for everyone, yet studies have shown that pets can improve your mood, keep you exercising, create social support, offer love and companionship and reduce stress.
Read When you need balance from despairing news headlines take a moment and read Max Ehrmann’s Desiderata, a brilliant piece of prose that uplifts the spirit.
Pyramid of Life Personalize your eating plan and gain a nutritionally balanced lifestyle. Check out www.mypyramid.gov a Web site that helps you plan and assess you and your family’s food choices.
Love It’s one emotion that can send you out of orbit… but when practiced in all areas of your life can bring you much needed balance. SOURCES: The Health Benefits of Pet Ownership, November 1, 2007 by Elizabeth Scott, M.S. , About.com. Volunteermatch.org. National Sleep Foundation, press release 2009. University of Maryland Medical Center. jimmybelasco.com. mypyramid.gov.
THEORY of MIND ITSELF By Dewayne Coleman
I believe all human beings have multiple personalities. People are sent to prison and death only because their personalities came to life. SO WHAT ARE OUR PERSONALITIES?
Happy, sad, angry, rage and sensitive: When you’re HAPPY you smile and tell everybody how you feel! When you’re SAD you mope and won't talk to anybody! When you’re ANGRY you frown and plot! When you’re in a RAGE you look down on others and attack! Then you’re SENSITIVE because you use your senses. Remember, you have 5 SENSES! Don't use your 4 PERSONALITIES! ENDING ON THIS NOTE:
People may judge you if your personalities do come to life. For example: Because of your personalities you could get married and have kids. Then get lied to and left alone. Some people can get harassed and get in a lot of trouble. THINK ABOUT IT 5 TIMES!!
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NOT JUST FOR COMPANIES By Ronda Lee Levine
project is a “to-do” requiring completion of multiple tasks. Moving is a perfect example of a project. In order to move, one must complete many intermediate steps (i.e. finding boxes, packing, contracting with a moving company, etc.). Cleaning, writing an article, planning a vaca tion, craf ting, incr e asing income in a home business all are examples of every-day projects. Each project requires that the steps be broken down into simple actions. Each completed action brings the performer closer to the goal.
We all have days when we feel like we are drowning in multitask swamps. There is an easy way to keep track of all of our tasks and to break down each “to-do:” project management. Project management is a business tool, but some of the techniques project managers use can apply to your personal life. Creating projects from all those things you want to accomplish streamlines chores. Moving might be overwhelming, but purchasing bubble wrap, gathering large boxes, gathering small boxes, etc. are simple steps describing each needed action. When steps have been broken down into concrete action, it is easier to judge how long each step takes.
You can group similar tasks together. You will know what tasks require delegation to others. Basic principles of project management are not complex. The first step in the process involves writing down everything that needs doing. From baking cookies for the bake sale Saturday, to the sewing project, to getting on top of finances, write it down. Take time to write down long-term goals too – from losing weight to reading more to writing that novel. Once you have everything down, the planning process takes little effort. Decomposition is the second step. No, it is not the rotting of something in the woods. In this sense, it means taking the project apart into its component steps. Take, for example, baking cookies for a bake sale and think of each required action. Your list may look like this: • Check
cupboards for ingredients or make a shopping list
Pick up needed items at store
Transport cookies to bake sale
Each step contains a specific action. Tasks are action-driven. Completing each step brings you closer to your goal.
Because the grocery run must occur before the cookies can be prepared, you might schedule them for Thursday afternoon (and so on). By scheduling actions, you will be more successful in completing projects and accomplishing goals.
Having an action list is not enough. You must schedule each action. Estimate how long each action will take. Then, schedule a time to perform each action. It is easier to schedule from the deadline in. If the bake sale is on Saturday, you will write, “Transport cookies to bake sale” and “Sell cookies” at the appropriate times on Saturday. Perhaps Friday will be the day that the cookies are prepared, baked, and packaged. If you have multiple projects, it may be beneficial to use a spreadsheet program to track each project. In the spreadsheet, list the project name, the project description, the next actions, and the completion deadline. Every project requires a deadline for completion, decomposition, and action scheduling. By utilizing projects to manage your time effectively, you can increase your productivity and achieve a greater balance in your life.
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The desire to be successful
emember the little girl who was supposed to win the pageant contest on the Desperate Housewives episode? Remember how Eva Longoria’s character paid the judges so that her own contestant would win? This little girl was played by Julianna Keller. While we were still thinking of what to ask during the interview, she quickly reminds us, “I was also in the episode of Two and a half Men.” She smiles and picks up her guitar. “Do you play a guitar Julianna?” asks BJ. “I love my guitar!” she responds. “I can’t say I’m really that good because I’m still learning to play the guitar. It’s fun because it would be so cool to sing and play a guitar.
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Music is a huge part of my life.” Not only is she relaxed, she is driving the interview. “Do you guys want to know about my stage acting? Well, I love the way musical theatre combines acting, singing and dancing. It is a lot different from working on films or TV. Working on a stage production requires weeks of rehearsals with many performances. You get to know the other actors well and by the end it feels like we are family.” BJ pauses, “Wait a minute! How do you manage to do all that?” “That’s nothing! That’s not even half of what I do. 28
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young talent future kids Remember, I’m a kid and I have to go to school. My family helps me keep things together. They run around with me, taking me to auditions, rehearsals and so forth. Sometimes it gets a little crazy. That’s why I have to do home schooling. I like what I do. I imagine myself on Broadway!” “Wow! That’s huge. I do see you in Broadway. You look very determined!” exclaims BJ. When asked to rewind and tell us what got her into acting, singing and dancing, Julianna explains, “Julie Andrews is my inspiration. She can sing and act, and has a career that has spanned many years through the ups and downs of many things. Her talent is so deep, and genuine, and she is not someone who is defined by just one or two roles but a wide variety of characters. My family is the biggest inspiration. They support me in all I do.” What a blessing to have a family so supportive! Julianna can be herself. She can dream big knowing that her family is behind her. “So what did you audition for in California?” “This time it was for a voiceover showcase. Sometimes it is for films and TV episodes. I have done voices for 2 short animated films. I am always working on new voices so I can have a wide variety to choose from. My family teases me because I am constantly talking with different accents or character voices even when I’m just at home with family and friends.” “Where did you get your on set-training?” Julianna stands and asks, “Should I change into something else now … do you want me to try on something else other than white?” She changes and is ready to photo shoot by the window. “You were asking about training. My training includes voiceover, singing, 4-5 hours of dance, piano, guitar, and acting. You see, I have been in
many independent and graduate films. Taking classes is useful, but there is nothing better than actually working on the set. You learn about cameras, the casting process, and many other things.” She is having a great time. “I act because I think it is fun to take on the life of another and make it your own. As long as you’re in character, you are not yourself. It is a challenge, but it is rewarding. It is such a passion for me and I love every part of it.” She makes faces and we laugh. She continues, “I started when I was 5 as a munchkin in a musical theatre production of “The Wizard of Oz”. My two sisters were trying out and I had heard them sing their audition songs. I decided I wanted to try out and guess what? I got the part!” Julianna is very respectful, smart, and a joy to talk with. We ask her the Equanimity question - how does she balance her busy schedule? She jumps off the window ledge and responds, “Balancing my life means allowing plenty of time to concentrate on academics. [I believe] that an excellent education is important. I spend as much time on extracurricular training as I do on my school! It also means taking time for myself.” Good answer! Very impressive! “Ok, we are done. This was the last photo session. You did great! It was very nice meeting you and talking with you. You will go far … I wish you well!” utters BJ. “Thank you. It was fun! I hope to see you soon!”
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woke up one morning and thought to myself, “If someone were to ask me what is the number one thing, other than your family, that you constantly worry about?” I would tell that person I worry about time. I honestly don’t have time to do just about anything. That thought bothered me then, and it bothers me now. Think about it! Who has time for anything these days? Do retired people have time? Do the wealthy? I need answers to these questions.
Lumbie’s take on balance and the reality of change
The question of time became totally laughable when I got a call from JCT, a New York magazine company, asking me to host its radio talk show 30 minutes a day. The first thought that came to my mind was, “This has got to be a joke! Me, hosting a radio talk show? What do I know about hosting?” So, I told the company that it wasn’t going to work, I wasn’t interested. The owner, however, insisted and threw in some suggestions on how I could get started. I told him that it would take a lot of balancing of several things just to do one radio show a week. To cut the story short, I did a talk show that night. Talk about being quite unprepared! The show was supposed to last 30 minutes, but I signed off in 19 minutes. Good enough to get me kicked off the show, right? Well, not so fast! To my surprise, I got a call from the owner congratulating me on the job well done. He asked, “What do you want to call your talk show?” In my mind I’m thinking, “He can’t be serious? I won’t have any listeners. Besides, I would run out of things to talk about.” Anyway, “Balancing Lifestyles” became the name of my talk show. As I gained experience with the talk show, I became more organized and I prepared my interview questions ahead of time. All I had to do was put 30 minutes aside each day for the show. I became very involved and had a sense of connection. Balancing Lifestyles drew in many interesting contributors. Everyone had something to say about his or her lifestyle. The stories were sad, emotional, happy, strange, etc. It became clear to me
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that people, in general, love to share stories. The listeners enjoyed getting prepared for their live interviews. They loved the opportunity to be heard. “Trial… never too big to handle”
I later realized that there was more to my life than worrying about time. The issue had more to do with the fear of losing balance. You have no idea what life is like without balance. In 2001, I had a stroke. Not just once, but three times. An exercise freak that I am, what happened? How scary that was! Just to think that you could be very healthy one minute and the next minute your whole life is turned upside down. The experience may be different for other stroke patients, but I can tell you this: Your life is never the same after you have a stroke. The frustration of not being able to talk, not being able to walk, not being able to write, and not being able to recall things, the dizziness, and the confusion in my head! The frustration of having to learn things over again, like a child! No words can describe this enough. The experience alone is very emotional and, to this day, just thinking about it makes me tearful. I truly believe that we are put through trials for a purpose. God puts us through a test or trial. The truth is that the trial is never too big to handle. If it were too big to handle, then I wouldn’t have survived the stroke. I did not go through the battle alone. My family and friends were with me every step of the way. They did not quit on me even when I didn’t think I was going to make it. They were there to give me a hand so that I could take a step, maybe two. When the doctor delivered the news to my brother at the hospital that he wasn’t sure I would make it, my brother was brought to tears but he was there to support me in case I gave up or got up and did something stupid out of fear. In life there is a balance to everything. If you have faith and believe in yourself, you can make it through anything. I can talk, walk, run, recall things, and write with frustration, but that’s okay, I got my life back. I went back to doing the things I loved to do the most. I went back to modeling, doing fashion shows, acting in films and more. I felt like I had been given a second chance at life, a chance to share, to change my life, and to make a difference in my community. “The daunting thought”
In December of 2008, another thought came to me one morning as I woke up. The thought was, if someone came
to me and said, “If balance matters that much to you, why don’t you write a book?” The immediate response would be, “Write with my hand? That would be torture!” Again, the phone rings and it’s the New York magazine company telling me that the magazines I ordered were ready. Speak of the devil! Or should I say, speak of the angel? So, I said, “Please send the magazines. By the way, how many did I order?” They said “10” and I thought, “WOW! What am I going to do with 10 magazines that are a year old?” So, I asked them to give me my money back instead, but no, they were not going do that. After I hung up the phone with the company, the lingering, daunting thought came back to me and I just smiled because I knew the answer to the question – start a MAGAZINE! What a great idea! I could call it “Balancing Lifestyles,” a magazine for EVERYONE. We could share real life failure and success stories here and help each other out. You never know whose life you could touch! The inspiration and motivation you get from hearing someone tell you how they made it is absolutely uplifting and priceless. You will walk away a better person than you were before. “Thriving with dynamic energy in the jungle”
All I ever wanted was to create something for everyone and have fun doing it. I wanted everyone involved to have fun with it. So, I told everyone, “Have fun with it!” I never wanted to create enemies. I wanted to connect the dots that make the world look like a globe. I thought everyone would enjoy connecting the dots because it is these dots that make us united. But, sometimes we don’t get what we want or wish for. I never thought human beings could be such stumbling blocks when it comes to creating something so rewarding and uplifting. Les Brown would call them “the messengers of misery,” which relates to Murphy’s Law. It means that whatever could go wrong probably will. Well, I’m here to tell you, like Les Brown, the messengers of misery paid me a visit. It turns out that they did it at the right time when I was thriving with dynamic energy in the jungle with the rest of the rhinos. Here are some interesting things about these messengers: When it’s red, they see blue. When it’s dark, they see clarity. When it’s good, they see evil. When it’s real, they see it as unreal. When you are respectful, they see you as being disrespectful. It never ends! There is always an opposing force no matter what you do. I’m glad I listened to Jerry Clark’s Murphy’s Committee tape.
Murphy’s Committee, created from Les Brown and Scott Alexander’s concept, consists of 5 members who work very hard to make sure you don’t make it to the land of paradise. Murphy #4 got to me. But, I had developed thick skin and kept on charging like a rhino. I wasn’t going to let the cows stop me from making it to the other side of the jungle. It became clear to me that people who think like you, wish you well and want you to succeed. The messengers of misery will do anything in their power to bring you down. It’s up to you to keep on charging and to never quit. As Jerry puts it, “Don’t quit when the bear gets tired. Quit when you get tired.” I honestly think if I hadn’t listened to the motivational tapes by Jerry Clark I would have been sick from stress and worry. They say worry leads to grey hair. Well, I had to check my hair everyday to be sure. I decided to have a solution to every problem I was having. Think about it – you can either worry and stress over something or find ways to resolve it. For every problem, don’t stress— have a solution. You’re probably saying, “Sure, easier said than done!” Yes, you’re right in saying that. But, when you’re left with nothing and you’ve been put through a lot of trials and what not, you will want to come up with a solution to your problem. Don’t get me wrong on this. The solution to your problem is really another way of doing something. If you don’t like getting up at 5 am every day, find a way and change that. If you don’t like the way your spouse talks to you, talk about it with your spouse and get to some understanding. Sometimes the change is big, but you still have to go through with it to bring about equanimity. That’s the reality of change. “YES WE CAN!”
So, you want to know! I laugh now because I absolutely had no idea what it takes to start a magazine. The amount of work involved is out of this world. I thought I could just write up a few stories and have photos of people and whatever, but as I researched more and more I soon found out it wasn’t so. You don’t want to know, believe me. What was I thinking? Not to mention the SCAMS I ran into that left me broke. Let me say this now, for you SCAMMERS out there: How much would you lower your standards before the law catches up with you? You know there is a much more powerful force than you. If you’re successful at scamming, then I take it you know that you’re going to jail. Then your goal is to stoop so low, almost to nothing, and then be locked up in jail. You can only deter us, but you will not stop us from building our nation. YES, WE CAN! I’m with President Obama on working together to create jobs, grow businesses, and build this nation. That’s my commitment.
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President Obama said, “Let’s go to work!” Here we are! We started working on the magazine on January 20, 2009, the day of President Obama’s Inauguration. A lot of labor went into this. Like minded-people make things happen. I found out quickly that I was going to need balance to get this magazine done. Let me tell you this: You learn something from bad situations, no matter what. A scammer who tried working with me on the magazine told me that the name of our magazine was too long. They said it should be something like “BALANCE.” Believe it or not, even though I was angry with the scammer, I actually liked the shortened name. It just lacked a lifestyle to it, so I decided to call it “BALANCE: Balancing Lifestyles”, a magazine for EVERYONE. That name didn’t last for long. Our valued article writer, Kenneth, called me up one morning and suggested we change the name to Equanimity, to make it unique. That tells you how much he cares about the success of this magazine. The word “Equanimity” was not in my vocabulary at all. It is now, and I love it! I hope that we are able to help mold your existence with some level of care in order to create equanimity. Please read the real-life stories we bring you. If you believe in yourself you can achieve greatness! Always remember this: Greatness is not measured in terms of money, but happiness—happiness for you and those around you. Don’t let people discourage you from achieving your dream. Tell them, “YES WE CAN!”
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Mona Brookes’ Drawing With Children And Disabled Children By Ronda Lee Levine
rawing with Children: A Creative Method for Adult Beginners, Too, written by Mona Brookes, talks to adults about teaching children to unleash their creativity. In recent years, art therapy has become a popular method of getting through to children with disabilities. Whether these disabilities are developmental, physical, or learning-associated, experts agree that art is a good tool. Combining Brookes’ methods with disabled children creates a powerful form of therapy for the disabled child. Drawing with Children is unassuming. It takes parents and teachers through everything a young artist needs in order to get her thoughts on paper. The book begins teaching students how to relax their eyes and how to warm up to drawing. Because a large part of art is seeing, the book focuses on getting young artists to see what is there, not what they think is there. The book is also broken into three levels of difficulty. After gathering the suggested supplies (high quality colored brush markers, a black drawing pen and thick paper), students can complete a short assessment by copying three levels of pictures. This way, the parent or teacher can select the appropriate level for the student to complete when leveled lessons are available. Children will learn how to draw from graphic designs, still life, figures, and landscapes. Drawing with Children is intended for children up to around nine years of age (though it can
be used with any child beginning drawing). Brookes has a second book, Drawing for Older Children and Teens, which speaks directly to the student. This book can also be used as a basis for art therapy.
Utilizing art as a form of therapy for disabled children does not require the children to put their thoughts into words. Creating artwork is a natural human process and it allows the student to put their anxieties and fears on hold. It can even boost the self-esteem of an otherwise self-conscious child. In teaching art to disabled children, Brookes strongly advises to dispense with labels. Rather than saying a child is learning-disabled, has ADD, is on the autistic spectrum, etc., it is important for the teacher to keep an open mind and individualize art lessons to each child’s needs. Brookes’ book gives helpful tips on assisting students with problems including hyperactivity, drawing images backwards or upside down, and sequencing. When doing art with children – especially with disabled children, be aware of your body language. Do not show that you are frustrated or disappointed. Sometimes, we communicate this unconsciously by sighing, crossing our arms, or gripping the pencil just a little too
hard. The best way to teach children to draw using the method outlined in this book is to applaud the child and to assume a supportive role. This individual interaction will help instill confidence in a child that otherwise might be focused upon what is “wrong.”
In Mona Brookes’ book, she displays samples of artwork created by children with disabilities, noting that withdrawn and misbehaved children would be much calmer after the art component became part of their daily routine. Through instituting the principles outlined in Brookes’ Drawing with Children, you can help your own child or that special child in your life to experience distance from the disabilities he might face. By praising the artwork the child has created, you help them to find a sense of pride in themselves and their creation.
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