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Relationships: Do You Want To Be In a Relationship? By Elsabe Smit, Author of It’s Over! Move On And Feel Good About Yourself Why is it that some women find it so difficult to let go of a man who is not interested in a relationship with them? I often speak to women who have their eye on a particular man who is not responsive. These women will do anything to get the man to respond to them. They will think about him all the time, and even send him long emails and regular text messages. When they get no response or a non-committal response, they look for ways to make the man love them. Most of the time these women don’t want to hear that the man is not interested in a relationship with them - and often not even in a friendship. And the poor man cannot run away fast or far enough. Often their only “sin” was a friendly greeting or an innocent compliment. When a man says “you look beautiful today”, it is not a marriage proposal. It is also not the beginning of a relationship. It is often not even interest in you as a potential partner. It is just a bit of flattery. When a woman regards the most insignificant attention from a man as the beginning of something serious, that woman needs to ask herself why she so desperately needs attention and confirmation from someone else to establish her self-worth. Even in our enlightened age men don’t like to be the prey. A small handful of men are egotistic enough to enjoy the attention, but even these men feel crowded soon enough. In one instance a woman told me that she knew the man was going to marry her, because even though they had not had contact for over ten years, she is convinced of their “spiritual connection”. I have no doubt that such a “spiritual connection” exists between these women and the men who spend much energy evading them. Sadly the connection is one-sided – the woman fixates on the man and gets all her energy from him. This must leave the man tired for no obvious reason, because he may not be consciously aware of the woman using him as a source of energy. Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010

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Copyright © Elsabe Smit 2010

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I always ensure that any guidance I give to clients is honest and responsible. It is immensely frustrating to deal with clients who do not hear a word I am saying, and who want to blame me for not helping them to get any interest from the man. If such clients then leave me because I did not tell them what they wanted to hear, I count my blessings. To me it means that they will not use me as a source of energy, and I can help other people. If a woman needs to get her energy from another person, she also needs to work on her self-belief. We all are able to generate our own energy and share it with others. Where a woman believes that she is not capable of generating her own energy, she often suppresses the energy that she has. This makes her less creative, and such energy blockages can result in dis-ease of the female reproductive systems. I have seen countless instances where such women discovered their own strength outside of a relationship and then had a lovely relationship with a man who wanted to be with them. such an equal partnership works far better than a predator=prey situation which eventually results in energy blockages in both partners. If you are waiting for a specific man to show some fleeting interest in you again, my recommendation is to forget him, and find an interesting hobby to spend your time and energy on. Before you know it you will be pursued and wooed for the interesting person you are, rather than be avoided for the desperate person you were.

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Relationships: Do You Want To Be In A Relationship?