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By Susan Galardi

Some folks believe that people were created in the image and likeness of god. Others believe that god was created in the image and likeness of people. There’s a similar debate in regard to children and their parents. Adults ooh and ahh over newborn babies, seeing what they want to see, the same way some people anthropomorphize the every twitch of a dog’s ear. As family members and friends ogle a red, wrinkled baby who looks more alien than human, the first thing you hear is: She’s beautiful! The second thing is: She looks just like you! When our son was born, and as he has grown into a little boy, most of my partner’s friends and family are in strong agreement about the uncanny resemblance between the two of them. I can see it clearly myself: Same face, different hair and eye color. But after he was born, my friends and family would whisper to me on the side, “I can’t believe how much he looks like you.” I would smile demurely, proudly, and whisper back, “I know – don’t say anything about it please.” I should point out here that I have absolutely no genetic or biological connection with our son. Every one of my friends and family members knows that. But just ask them and they’ll tell you: He looks just like me. A few years ago a friend of mine and his wife had their first child. I went to visit him, and her family was there, carrying on about how much the little girl looked like the mother. They went into great detail about the shape of the face, the spacing of the eyes, the bridge of the nose, the position of the ears – Yes! She was the spitting image of her mother. Shortly my friend’s family came in. The mother’s

Susan Galardi

He Looks Just Like ................. YOU!

family gave them their due, allowing them to pass the baby around from person to person as they removed themselves to the buffet table in the other room. My friend’s family carried on about how much the little girl looked like her father. They went into great detail about the shape of the face, the spacing of the eyes, the bridge of the nose, the position of the ears – Yes! She was the spitting image of him. Oh, the mother and her family must be so disappointed! The child didn’t have a trace of her! After all that work… Adults blindly decide which parent the child favors, and they speculate on his or her race and ethnicity. In the case above, my friend is African American; his wife, Caucasian. You guessed it. The

black side of the family looked at her ears and predicted the rich shade of brown she would ultimately be. The white side of the family pointed out how fair her skin was, and that she really had no “black” attributes at all. What a shame that there was no connection with the father … My family does the same with our son. In terms of nationality, he’s mostly Irish and Scottish, a good part Dutch, a smidge Italian and about 1/8 Romanian. I don’t know much about Romanians. I’ve told him they’re gypsies, and made up wonderfully colorful, romantic stories about them. I did watch a Romanian film that was in the Hamptons International Film Festival last year. None of the actors looked like him. Well wouldn’t you know it, my partner and I met a 100% Romanian recently. We were very excited about Hudson meeting him, too. How exotic! When they met, we asked our new friend if he saw any Romanian in Hudson. Definitely, he said, Hudson looked very Slavic – especially the face shape. But my partner’s family says our son has “the map of Ireland on his face.” My Italian family believes he is the poster child for Northern Italians, with his light hair, fair olive skin and green eyes. In all honesty, I actually believe he looks Dutch – the coloring, certainly his height (the Dutch are the tallest people in the world). But that breaking with tradition is not usual in the child look-alike game, which is really very simple. Ask anyone who your child looks like, and you’ll get a very clear answer. But it won’t be determined by genetics or nationality. It is determined 100% by who is doing the looking.

Kid’s Calendar SATURDAY, MAY 2 KEITH HARING POP ART PRINTING WORKSHOP – Bring a T-Shirt! $20. 10 – 11 a.m. The Golden Eagle, 14 Gingerbread Lane, East Hampton. 631-324-0603. SPRING FLING AT THE BIG DUCK RANCH – All ages. Games and prizes, live music by Who Are Those Guys, hay rides with the baby duck, surprise celebrity guests, hot dogs and snacks. Free. 12 – 3 p.m. Big Duck Ranch, 1012 Flanders Road Rte 24, Flanders. 631-727-5342. SPRING CARNIVAL –Food, caricaturist, live music, games, and more. Student celebration of the end of the semester. 11 a.m. to 3 p.m. Rain location gym, sun location Chancellors Hall field. Free and open to the public. Stony Brook Southampton. 631-632-5132. CROSS STITCH BASICS – Learn the ancient art of embroidery with a simple and fun project. 1 p.m. Hampton Library, Bridgehampton. COOL TUNES FOR KIDS – Creative and entertaining kids’ show. All ages. Register in advance. 3-3:45 p.m. John Jermain Library, Sag Harbor. 631-725-0049 x 30. SUNDAY, MAY 3 TOUR AND WORKSHOP AT PARRISH – Family Fun Day. Members free, $5 non-members. 2 – 4 p.m. Parrish Art Museum, Southampton. 631-283-2118 x 22. THURSDAY, MAY 7 GOODNIGHT MOON & RUNAWAY BUNNY – Mermaid Theatre of Nova Scotia’s’ production of Goodnight Moon & Runaway Bunny. $10. Grades k-2. 10 a.m. and 12:30 p.m. Westhampton Beach Performing Arts Center, 76 Main Street, Westhampton. 631-288-2350 x 102. PROGRAMS/CLASSES MOMMY AND ME COOKING & CULTURE – Thursdays starting this week. Features a recipe and craft from a different culture. Series concludes with a dumpling feast. For kids under 5 with caregiver, $100 per six-week session. 1:30 - 2:30 p.m. North Sea Community Center, Noyac Road, Southampton. 631-283-4555.

MOMMY (OR DADDY) & ME CAKE DECORATING CLASS – Learn basic cake, cookie and candy decorating skills. $150 for the full session; $37.50 per class (register in advance.) Thursdays and Sundays 9:15 - 10:15 a.m. Country School, 7 Industrial Road, Wainscott. 631-233-0251. AMY’S ARK FARM – “Art of Life.” Tuesday to Friday. 4 to 5 p.m. Small art classes held in a converted barn in Westhampton. Focus on art, cooking, reading, yoga and more! Ages 4-9. $85 for a 4 week session. 631-288-3587 or 631-902-3655. GYMBOREE AT CMEE –A new collaboration with the leaders of early enrichment education “Gymboree.” Friday mornings in May and June. Two four-week sessions. 376 Bridgehampton/Sag Harbor Turnpike, Bridgehampton. 631-537-8250. ONGOING KIDS KARAOKE – 5 to 7 p.m. Regulars Music Caféé, 1271 North Sea Road, Southampton. 631-287-2900. BASKETBALL, SOCCER, BALLET, TAP, DODGE BALL- SYS in Southampton. Programs continue daily with sports, dance, fun. Contact SYS for info at 631-287-1511. HAMPTON LIBRARY STORYTIME – Saturdays 10 a.m to 1 p.m. Children ages 4 to 7. Age appropriate stories and music making. Registration required. Hampton Library, Bridgehampton. QUOGUE LIBRARY STORYTIME - Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays. 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. All ages. Story time, literacy games, puzzles and more. 90 Quogue Street, Quogue. 631-653-4224. PETTING FARM AT AMARYLLIS SANCTUARY – Sundays. 1:30 to 3:30 p.m. Pony rides available on most days. 93 Merchants Path, off Sagg Road (behind Wolffer), Sagaponack. 631-537-7335. ART AT THE GOLDEN EAGLE – 14 Gingerbread La. East Hampton 631-324-0603. CMEE – Children’s Museum of the East End. Interactive exhibitions, arts and science based programs and workshops, special events. 376 Bridgehampton/Sag Harbor Turnpike, Bridgehampton. 631-537-8250. General

Admission $7. Free to members. SOUTHAMPTON TOWN WORKSHOPS AND CLASSES – Call to register for classes 631-728-8585 GOAT ON A BOAT – Puppet Play Groups for children under 3 on Mon., Thurs. and Fri. at 9:30 a.m. Tot Art for children 5 & under Mon. and Fri. at 10:30 a.m. Rte. 114 & East Union St., Sag Harbor. 631-725-4193. LIL COWPOKES PONY CLUB – Every Sat. from 10 a.m.-12 p.m. for ages 3 and up. Learn about animals and how to ride a pony. Amaryllis Farm Equine Rescue, 93 Merchants Path, Southampton. 631-537-7335. ART BARGE – Open May though September. Open Mon.-Fri., 9 a.m.-4 p.m. Offers weekly children’s studio programs. KIDS KARAOKE – Every Sat. 5-7 p.m. Regulars Music Cafe, 1271 North Sea Rd., Southampton. 631-287-2900. AFTER SCHOOL ART – At the Parrish Art Museum, Southampton. 631-283-2118, ext. 40 or visit MOMMY AND ME – Mondays 10:45 a.m. to 11:45 a.m. for pre-school children and parents/caregivers. Montauk Library, Montauk Highway, Montauk. 631-324-4947. MUSIC TOGETHER BY THE DUNES – A music and movement program for children newborn through age 5 and their parents/caregivers. Mon. and Tues. mornings at the Dance Centre of the Hamptons, Westhampton Beach. Thurs. mornings at the Southampton Cultural Center. Fri. mornings at Southampton Town Recreation Center on Majors Path in Southampton. 631-764-4180. Send all events for the kids’ calendar to by Friday at noon.

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Dan's Papers May 1, 2009  

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Dan's Papers May 1, 2009  

Dan's Papers, the 51-year-old bible of the Hamptons, is owned by Manhattan Media, a multi-media publishing company based in New York City,...