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DONT DO THE CRIME IF YOU CAN’T DO THE TIME
One can see how everything is linked together in this piece, leadership, accountability, self control, being self aware, having and giving respect to everyone, being able to think for oneself; all these are traits which should be adapted by the modern male in order to eradicate toxic masculine behaviours in society. One of the biggest toxic masuline behaviour acceptable in society is poor conflict resolution skills and violence towards women.
Dr. Chevannes spoke about violence towards women owning that again fathers are responsible to teach their boys how to handle conflict in a healthy way; One young man expressed that his biggest mantra is “Live to see another day”, he expressed that his father always told him not go to “Mike Tyson” on anyone but rather be calm and keep the advantage always, he stated that it also has to do with understanding others in society. No don’t allow anyone to take advantage of you but violence is almost never the answer. Dr.Murray spoke about high crime rate as well, linking it back to fatherlessness and being negatively socialized as a result. Learn to walk away from most situations which again has to do with control. She also linked it all to violence against women, Yikes!!! All that is left to be said is, “REAL MEN DONT ABUSE OR HIT WOMEN”, not just physical abuse but verbal or emotional abuse. The solution, well realise that makes a man less of a protector in society, having any abuse on any woman, it also leads to a lack of respect from female conuterparts, once again think about any female relatives, and how it would feel to hear just the slightest thing about disrepsect or violence, well that’s every man for you. Be brave and exemplary through actions of being upstanding and respectable in society.
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References
BROWN, Janet and Barry Chevannes. 1998. Why Man Stay So: An Examination of Gender Socialization in the Caribbean. University of the West Indies, Mona.
CHEVANNES, Barry. In press. Learning to be a Man: Culture, Gender and Socialization in some Caribbean Communities. Kingston: University of the West Indies Press.
