DON’T BE THAT GUY

This is the name of a campaign a female friend of mine successfully ran, no the name was not stolen but it serves as inspiration to ideologies linked to toxic masculinity; So far one of the overall themes present here is that of control; In the campaign she gathered experiences from women who experienced catcalling and harassment locally and were appalled by the expeience and decided enough is enough, it was great, the campaign that is as women were allowed to freely speak on experiences associated with this behaviour.

Remember having respect towards women, well catcalling is also degrading towards them; Dr. Murray linked this back to toxic behaviours being accepted in society, where men are allowed to degrade women freely. One particular testimony that stood out was a young teenage school girl being harrassed whilst in her uniform near her home, it was so bad, the family had to relocate, Dr. Murray then argued that it also stems from a sense of entitlement in every aspect of life from men, whether it’s personal contact information, a name or even intercourse.

Dr. Murray stated that again fathers need to teach boys how to properly interact with women, restructing the socialization process of forming healthy relationships with women, not feeling entitled to anything from women.

The solution, have and give respect to women when interacting with them and if that’s not enough, think about any female relatives; mothers, aunties, sister, nephews, How does it feel when they speak about the slighest sign of dissrespect towards them especially from a male; DO YOU REALLY WANNA