LEARN IT TILL YOU EARN IT

People like to say “fake it till you make it”, how about learn it till you earn it, why should anything be fake in life, people can tell and no one likes anything fake. This quote was shared amongst friends recently and interestingly they were all shocked, someone even told said they liked that quote, a huge discussion went on, then the matter of respect came up, between males and females; Yikes!!! It was debated that modern men nowadays don’t respect females and it’s true within our own behaviour in society, through catcalling (the act of shouting,harassing and often sexually suggestive, threatening, or derisive comments at someone publicly).

Respect goes a long way in society and in life, remember the primary role of men: to provide, to lead and to protect. Dr. Murray argued how to respect women is not taught in the household, she then linked it biblically for those who are spiritual, that Eve came from our rib, she then argued that it has to do with mindset as well, as a strong man would and should be taught how to respect and treat women in society, simple gestures such as: opening the door, protecting and helping women in times of vulnerability, all seemingly becoming non existent in modern society or only the minority of men engage in those traditional acts of masculinity.

Dr. Chevannes also spoke about the sexualisation of women being at a high rate in society, he went on to argue that yes men go through physical attraction for women but should not be controlled by their urges and should stick to the basics when dealing with the opposite gender: honesty, respect, leadership, protection, security, emotional security etc.

A survey was conducted amongst at least 20 females and one of the biggest turn offs in males notably was dissrespect and insecurity. Dr. Murray stated that it is linked to insecurity as males should be remember that their mother is first and foremost a woman, she also argued that there is some level of insecurity present if males actively and genuinely don’t show respect to women, stating that this is one of the signs of a weak man in society. Think about women for you, is respect actively shown? Assuming the answer is yes, it only seems fair to give more respect to women in society and it will be reciprocated (respond to an action or emotion with a similar tone) as a result, meaning more men will be respected. Newsflash, its free to respect women. Respect, first learn it then remove the “L”.