PART TWO: SEX

Control Is Power

As a male, one of the biggest things is that of control, control over words, habits, actions etc. Earlier there was a discussion about control over negative coping habits such as excessive drinking now the attention is turned to control in regards to the opposite gender; no don’t try to control any female or human being, in fact the only person to be controlled is yourself as a man. In his book, What we reap and what we sow, Dr. Chevannes argued about the importance of practising control over sexual urges especially as a male. He argued that many modern men are irresponsible as many don’t stick to one sexual partner but they also run from commitment and from paternity. The number of single mothers is proof enough statiscally both locally and worldwide as fathers have abandoned their responsibility. That is why, in this country, it is the women who father their children; Dr. Murray certainly agrees, she quoted instinctively that “a single mother cannot father a child effectively and vice versa”, think about that as it might be relatable, it’s not to take away from women but to provide emphasis to balance within the home. The socialiation process of the child becomes skewed (biased towards one particular subject or group), as only the mother is actively playing her role for the child but the male is needed for masculine socialization. One can see that all the ideologies above are linked.

Dr. Murray linked this back to the number of single parent maternal households, fathers being absent, young men are led a stray by societial pressure, conforming to negative behaviours and coping mechanism; she distinctively spoke about the “gyallis” lifestyle, for anyone unaware having a bunch of women at once, then one thing leads to another, rinse and repeat, a child growing up without a father becoming a father, knowing he isn’t ready, meditate on it but the unfortunate reality especially locally.

The solution, well prevention is better than cure, don’t conform to the negative in society, again think about the consequences of these actions having multiple children due to a lack of control from the “gyallis life”, NOT