PART 1: STATUS

WHO AM I AS A MAN AND AN INDIVIDUAL?

In gathering research, a conversation was held with Dr. Murray whom distinctively defined masculinity as having three main pillars under the following catergories: Status, Sex and Aggression, each having their own relationship with masculinity. She then stated the importance of being secure in your one’s skin, especially for males since women are looking to men for leadership and protection in society.

Sex has to do with no, not with intercourse but realizing our actions affect not only ourselves but females and their behaviour in society, realizing that women are biologically wired to be nurturing but can’t do so in an environment where toxicity is allowed to strive and Aggression has to do with problem solving aspects of life as a man, interesting isnt it?

The word “status” according to the Oxford English dictionary means “A person’s social or professional position in relation to other people.” Lets break this down

The first question that was asked in the research phrase was “Who are you?”, whether male or female, the responses received, “Huh?” “Wah kinda random question that?” “Why you ask?” How does that look in your eyes as the reader? Pause and think about it before you continue reading.

One may think it was crazy to ask, but the responses were not sufficient, most persons opted to answer at a later date; answers such as “I’m me, I’m special, I’m unique etc were later received, it could have been subsequently asked, what makes you special or unique?.

The question was then asked why is it important for persons especially men to know who they are? Several responses received: “Nobody can’t take liberty a you once you know and love yuhself”, “No woman nuh wah nuh man wah nuh sure a himself” “A so people can’t trouble you”, That’s just the tip of the iceberg for the issue. Ask around, most likely the same results will be received.

So how does one find out who they are especially as a male? Here’s a challenge, ask the following questions to get ahead of the curve,

“Who are you?/Who are you currently? Who do you want to become? Who are you amongst your friends, family, colleagues etc? Who are your role model(s)? What do you want for your life and self?” Sit with with a pen and a notebook (Yes Really), ask the above questions, write down all thoughts for clarity, congratulations this is actively learning about yourself; any likes, dislikes, passions, expectations, definition of success, all of which make up who you are as an individual and a man.