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BIBLICAL VISION of the FAMILY THE DOMESTIC CHURCH

Dr. Joseph C. Atkinson Copyright © 2011 • All rights reserved • COMPANION GUIDE BOOK

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BIBLICAL VISION of the FAMILY


— from the desk of —

Dr. Joseph C. Atkinson Associate Professor of Sacred Scripture JOHN PAUL II I NSTITUTE FOR STUDIES ON M ARRIAGE AND FAMILY Washington, DC • atkinson@thedomesticchurch.com

May 10, 2011 Dear Beta Group in Arizona, This is a special Beta version of the Guide Book produced for you. I wish to thank each of you personally for evaluating this material as you go through the seminar. Much work has gone into the production of this Guide Book. Now it is your turn. You have two goals. The first, and most important one, is for you to enjoy the sessions and grow deeper in your understanding of God’s design for your family. Secondly, the publishing team and I are looking forward to hearing back from you on any and every aspect of the Guide Book: from fonts to evaluation of the questions, from design to content. You are very much a part of this project and your help will be invaluable. Our plan is to produce the final Companion Guide Book only after we have heard from you and have incorporated any suggestions that will help the book be clearer and more dynamic. Thank you in advance for your help. I pray that you and your families will be personally enriched as you go through these sessions. I hope you will be able to find ways to improve this seminar so that others may greatly benefit from it as well. May the Lord guide you and help you capture the Biblical vision of the family, your domestic church.

Dr. Joseph C. Atkinson


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BIBLICAL VISION of the FAMILY Introduction

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a clear understanding of the nature and purpose of your family? Do you see how your family participates in God’s plan of salvation? Our goal in this seminar is to help you understand the Biblical vision for your marriage and family. O YOU HAVE

The family is the primary cell of society and, surprisingly, it is also the primary cell of the Church. The strength, the health, and the vitality of any society and of the Church are based on the health of the family. In the family we come into being, grow in our identity, and give life to others in various ways. Through the family our faith is supported and the daily experience of grace is lived out. The love of husband and wife is meant to share in and be a concrete expression of the love of Christ (Eph 5:22-32). There is no such thing as a perfect family. All share in the brokenness of the world. We all deal with wounds, hurts and our sins. But the wonder of a Christian family is that we can allow the grace of Christ to come into every aspect of our family life and redeem it. Grace does not come because we are perfect. Rather it comes to us when we keep turning to God in our weakness. Today, the family is deeply fractured because of two main problems. First, we no longer are sure what the purpose and meaning of family is. We have lost the vision of what it is to be a family. Second, although there inevitably are problems, brokenness, hurts and wounds in every family, they often go untreated because we do not know what to do. We need to learn to walk in the light — with God and with each other.

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Aims and Objectives HELPING FAMILIES better understand themselves and the calling that God has on their lives is the goal of this thirteen-part seminar. In order for the family to be healed and renewed, the first need is to discover the truth about the family. These presentations will help you realize the specific nature and structure of the family which God has given it. They will also help you see the critical role the family plays in the God’s plan of salvation. The most important thing for you to do is to capture God’s vision for your own marriage and family.

SEMINAR STRUCTURE

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HIS SEMINAR is designed with several components to help you

understand and integrate the material as we go along in the series. This will happen in different ways. The seminar will include a) talks on video; b) in-depth summary outlines; c) personal note spaces; d) small group discussion questions; e) personal reflections on your family; and, f) daily Scripture reflections.

To help you get the most out of the seminar, this Companion Guide Book organizes the material systematically for you. It will walk you through each step. It is designed to help you follow the lectures, take notes that are important to you, and work through the material on a personal level. All of this is to help you understand the material better and apply it to your own situation. This Guide Book also has a library of key Biblical references, [critical sections of Church documents — to be added], and other reference tools that will be useful to you once you have completed the seminar and they will serve as a convenient and systematic reference afterwards. The Companion Guide Book includes the following:

Outline of Talks • The main purpose for each talk is given at the beginning. • This is followed by a detailed outline of the major topics covered. • Major ideas are highlighted in the text.

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Personal Note Spaces • As you go through the Outline, there are spaces provided for you to take notes or make any jottings you like. • These spaces are designed to help you interact with the seminar material.

Questions for Small Group Discussions • Each participant will be part of a small group which will have an assigned moderator. • After the talk, the small group will take time to discuss the questions that are provided dealing with the week’s topic. • Participants are free to share as much or as little as they choose.

Personal Reflections on Your Family [included in back of Guide Book; begins on page 194]

• You are encouraged during the entire seminar to set aside 5-10 minutes each day to think and pray about your family. • To help you, we have developed a Personal Reflections on Your Family section at the end of the book. • This section will help you apply each talk to your own situation. • You do not have to share this material with anyone else. • In this section, there are the three main questions which you can review regularly throughout the seminar. • You may write down a single word or a paragraph for each question — whatever is going to be helpful to you. • As you go back to the Personal Reflections on Your Family section, you can add anything you’d like along the way. • Your responses will grow during the seminar as you see the Biblical vision for your family more clearly.

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Weekday Scripture Reflections • For each day of the week, a daily Scripture verse and question are provided for you to think and pray about. • These weekday reflections are tied to the seminar material and are meant to give God an opportunity to speak to you about your self and your family. • Again, these do not have to be shared with anyone else.

Table of Biblical References • Each talk is provided with a table of Biblical references keyed to the day’s theme. • These are broken down by topic.

Resources [ TO BE ADDED after AZ BETA]

• At the end of the Guide Book is a section containing helpful materials and resources relating to the family.

May this series become a time of God’s grace in your life . . . and may the Lord bless you and your family.

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BY WHAT VISION?

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The purpose of this talk is to help you understand that you are operating out of a specific worldview, a vision of life, and that it will determine what you believe and what your family will become.

INTRODUCTION The Present Situation

❐ The family is under great attack.

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___ All touched by the disintegration of family life: ___ Divorce, co-habitation, contraceptive mentalities, abortion, fatherless homes, rejection of the faith ___ The uniqueness of man and woman rejected ___ Marriage is a mere social contract — changeable at will ___ Nature of family redefined by laws

The Culture Wars

❐ Culture wars: competing visions of reality

Which vision of reality is going to prevail? ❐ Our need

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___ To discover the Presence of God in our family.

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➣ wounds often not acknowledged and go untreated ➣ need to find ways to open ourselves to God’s healing

— AIM OF SERIES —

To help you understand the true nature of your family and how Christ desires to transform and heal us

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Vision = the ability to see

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The Scriptures are clear about having a vision for life.

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WhrEv.a; hr”AT rmevow> ~[‘ [r:P’yI !Azx’ !yaeB. Where there is no vision, the people perish but the one who keeps the law is happy (Proverbs 29:18)

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____ chazon (vision) - God’s revelation about reality ➣ our ability to see reality correctly

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____ parah (to let go /to go wild)) ➣ to reject God’s vision is to reject God

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____ shomar (to keep/observe)

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By What Vision Do We Live Our Lives?

World Views ___ Each person operates out of a specific world-view ___ Competing visions = battle for the mind ___ Inexorable law = inner logic moves to appointed end ___ E.g.: Parable of the House Built on Sand or Rock

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Three Examples

❐ Communism

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___ State more important than people ___ Logical basis: any state will outlive any individual ➣ E.g. Stalin’s genocide of Ukrainians in the interests of the communist state

❐ Materialism

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___ Human person only matter — no spirit ___ In China, religious people must be re-educated

❐ Feminism–Genderism, Androgynism

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___ Each person the same and interchangeable ___ Masculinity and femininity collapsed into each other

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Each world view moves towards its inevitable conclusions.

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The Current Situation Of Families

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“At a moment of history in which the family is the object of numerous forces that seek to destroy it or in some way to deform it . . . the Church perceives in a more urgent and compelling way her mission of proclaiming to all people the plan of God for marriage and the family.” — John PAul II, Familiaris Consortio 3 (1981)

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Modern Myths ___ Divorce is healthy ___ Children are resilient ___ Don’t need both parents ___ Fathers are superfluous, etc.

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Judith Wallerstein, Unexpected Legacy of Divorce ___ California 40 years ago instituted no-fault divorce ___ Evidence necessitated a change a. sexual experiences b. drug and alcohol use c. Suffering continued into adulthood … the template broken, childhood died

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Fatherless Children

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___ Five times more likely to be poor ___ Three times more likely to fail at school ___ Two to three times more likely to experience emotional or behavioral problems requiring psychiatric treatment ___ Three times more likely to commit suicide as other adolescence ___ Up to forty times more likely to experience child abuse compared to children growing up with both a father and mother — The Faith Factor in Fatherhood (Lexington Books, 1999) ed. Don Eberly, pp. 136ff

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Which vision are we going to choose? NOTES _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

❐ The Sacramental Principle

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“Early the next morning, when the attendant of the man of God arose and went out, he saw the force with its horses and chariots surrounding the city. “Alas!” he said to Elisha. “What shall we do, my lord?“ Do not be afraid,” Elisha answered. “Our side outnumbers theirs.” Then he prayed, “O LORD, open his eyes, that he may see.” And the LORD, opened the eyes of the servant, so that he saw the mountainside filled with horses and fiery chariots around Elisha.”

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(2 KINGS 6:11-17)

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[ The following brief segment of the outline for Session 1 is not on the DVD ]

What is Reality? ___ Creation has a sacramental dimension ___ There is meaning beyond / beneath the surface of things ___ The spiritual really matters ___ Physical things can transmit spiritual realities ___ Attached by absolutized scientific rationalism

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R E M I N D E R

Please take time before the next Session to write in your Guide Book in the section:

PERSONAL REFLECTIONS ON YOUR FAMILY Writing out your reflections is at the heart of the seminar. [ Begins on page 194 ]

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Questions for Small Group Discussions 1. What makes up your worldview? What values do you have? What vision motivates you? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

2. Are you aware of even having a “vision” for life?

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3. On what is your vision of life based? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

4. Does God’s Word play a role in forming your vision? Yes / No 5. Is your attitude: “what you see is what you get” or do you believe things have a meaning which lies beneath their surface — that is, do you see life in materialistic terms or do you have a sacramental approach to life and family? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

6. Family is important but does family life point to an even greater reality? What purpose does family have in the greater scheme of things? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

7. Do your see your family as playing a part of the covenant with God? How? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

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— Weekday Scripture Reflections —

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“Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added to you” Matthew 6:33 ➣ Do I want to seek God in my life and for my family? DAY

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“For I have chosen him, so that he may command his children and his household after him to keep the way of the lord.” Genesis 18:19 ➣ Am I aware of God working in my life or in my family?

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“Without a vision the people perish.”

Proverbs 29:18

➣ Am I open to God’s vision for my life?

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“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.”

Gen 1:1

➣ Do I think of God as my own Creator, as the One who made me?

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“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son.” John 3:16 ➣ Am I aware of God’s love for me?

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— BIBLICAL REFERENCES — Vision / Families / Symbols THEME

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“Without a vision”………………………………… .....Proverbs 29:18 Sacramental Reality……………………………..… ...2 Kings 6:11-17 Families Family & Salvation History.......................................................Gen 3:15 Abraham: Blessing of Families..............................................Gen 12:1-3 List of Generations in Salvation History ...............Gen 5:1-4; 10:1-32; 11:10-26; 35:22-26; 36:10-43; Ex 1:1-5; Ezra 2:1-60; Matt 1:1-17; Lk 3:23-38 God works through Families (The Annunciation).............Lk 1:26-40 The Kingdom of Heaven and Children........Mark 10:14; Lk 18:15-17 Marriage as the Symbol of Christ and the Church...........Eph 5:31-32 Household Baptisms..........................................................Acts 16:14-34 Marriage Symbolism Christ as the Bridegroom.................................John 3:28-30; Matt 9:15 Marriage in Parables ...........................................................Matt 25:1-13 Marriage Banquet of the Lamb ...........................................Rev 19:7-10

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THE STRUCTURE of CREATION

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The purpose of this session is to look at the account of creation in Genesis in order to understand the structure and meaning God has given to the human person and to the family.

Last Session We Examined The Concept of ‘Vision’ ❖ ❖ ❖ ❖

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every person has a vision of reality we operate out of this worldview we make decisions by this framework our need: recovery of the Biblical vision for marriage and family

Do We Have A God-Given Nature or Not? ___ If not, then we are free to do whatever we like ___ If men and women have a specific nature, then we must discover this in order to be fulfilled ___ Scripture as the car manual for marriage and family

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Modern Context ___ human nature is seen as plastic and malleable ___ We can change our marriage and families at will, with no consequences

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The Christian vision of reality begins with the revelation of creation.

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Genesis 1 Shows Us ___ Every created reality is willed by God ___ Each has its own specific nature ___ God is sovereign over all ___ We are not the Creator ___ We are created ___ There are specific principles operating in creation ___ There is a final purpose to creation

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The Renewal Of The Family ___ To set ourselves up as our own creators is to descend into chaos ___ Renewal of the Church and the family needs an authentic theology of creation.

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The Creation Account

#r<a’h’ taew> ~yIm;V’h; tae ~yhil{a/ ar”B’ tyviarEB. In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. (Gen 1:1)

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Effects of Genesis 1:1 ___ Genesis discloses the mystery of creation and who we are ___ Gen 1 best read against the pagan background

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Pagan Worldview ___ Many gods and goddesses ___ Were highly sexualized ___ Gods were unpredictable ___ Conflicts ___ Average pagan lived a life of angst / anxiety ___ Never knew best way to approach their gods to obtain favor ___ Pagan religions = a form of magic to manipulate the gods

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Hebrew Revelation: God of the Covenant ___ God commits himself irrevocably to his people ➣ God who creates ➣ God who saves ➣ God who protects ___ Man knows peace because there is a covenant ___ Pagan gods never made such a covenant with their people ___ Covenant = peace + purpose

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Pagan Creation Is Different ___ not creators ___ emerged from a primal mass ___ created by other forces

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Sexuality Became Divinized ___ Whole of reality sexualized ___ Became a way to manipulate the gods ___ Used magically within the cult ___ Ritual sex had its own logic (e.g. orgies to win divine favor)

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The “One” Hebrew God undoes world of myth. ❐

Sexuality Removed from the Divine Sphere ___ Sexuality only a created good – not divine ___ Sexuality finally takes its proper

bereshith / . / “In the beginning…” ___ Makes possible the concepts of linear time and history ➣ pagan worldview = time was cyclical ➣ tied to agriculture and season ➣ life a continual cyclical matter ➣ no final end = no sense of divine purpose to life

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___ Concept of “bereshith”— in the beginning — breaks this ➣ there is an original beginning ➣ implies a finishing end point (i.e., purpose) ___ Allows for the sense of history ➣ what we do in time life matters ➣ we are going from point A to point B ➣ the end point is Christ

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barah / ’ / “To create” ___ Only God is ever the subject of the verb ‘create’ ___ No material mentioned ___ Creation out of nothing = creatio ex nihilo ___ God alone source and ground of creation ___ all things come from God- including family and marriage ___ God gives all things their nature, structure, and purpose

Whbow” Whto ht’y>h’ #r<a’h’

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And the earth was without form and was void. (Gen 1:2)

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God Gives A Specific Structure To Creation

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Shows There’s A Process To Creation ___ Creation not all at once but a process ___ God first created the formless void ___ Virtually all contained within this original mass ___ An original unity – all things connected ___ God speaks His Word into His creation ___ Whole of creation begins to unfold ___ Light emerges, the waters gather, dry land appears, animals come from the soil

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His Word Informs Creation ___ Process of differentiation ___ Two realities: “corporate identity” and “real differences” ___ Differentiation — at the heart of creation

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Today: no respect for differences / collapsed into each other / have no meaning ___ In creation, all things related to each other ___ Difference in unity allows the glory of God to be experienced

God’s Word Gives Everything Its Form And Meaning

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___ Prologue of John’s Gospel reflects Gen 1:1 ___ The Word spoken in Gen 1 is a person — the Logos ___ All creation comes through (dia) Him ___ This Word becomes flesh — Jesus — John 1:14 ___ The Lord was present at Creation ___ Creation is for Him, through Him, in Him ___ Christ gives all creation its final form

Meaning of Marriage and Family: Found in Jesus

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The Revelation to the Hebrews “demythologizes” sexuality ___ Sexuality not divinized ___ God is ruler and ground of all creation 17:40

Modern world rejects God; creates pagan understanding of sexuality ___ We use sexuality for our own purposes and ends ___ Which Vision Shall We Follow

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The Creation of Man ___ Begins with the plurality within the Godhead ___ Elohim — the word for God- is in the plural (‘im-ending) ___ Verb (barah) is in the singular ___ There is some form of relationship in God, yet God is One ___ Man is made in the image of God ➣ God is creative ➣ God is relational ➣ Man — at his core — is meant for relationality

GOD CREATED MAN IN HIS IMAGE, IN THE IMAGE OF GOD HE CREATED HIM; MALE AND FEMALE HE CREATED THEM

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(Gen 1:27)

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Positive Tension Between Singular (’oto) And Plurality (’otam) ___ Absolute unity to the human race (“him”) ___ Humanity composed of both male and female ___ Complementary couple shows forth the glory of God

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Gender ___ Animals have gender (see v. 21) but not stated ___ Gender only mentioned with creation of man ___ Critical to identity ➣ Not accidental, unimportant, or trivial ➣ Cannot dismiss it or collapse it ➣ Cannot make it interchangeable ➣ Differentiation is at the heart of creation

GOD BLESSED THEM… “GO FORTH AND BE FRUITFUL AND MULTIPLY”

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(Gen 1:28)

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First Commandment Given To Man: To Reproduce ___ To be fully human we need to be open to life ___ The blessing of God always tied to sense of fecundity

GOD BLESSED THE SEVENTH DAY AND MADE IT HOLY (Gen 2:3)

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The Sabbath Structure of Creation ___ A sequential six-day structure to creation ___ Everything finds its meaning in the worship of God ➣ We discover our true selves only in the worship of Him ➣ How strongly do we honor the Sabbath?

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R E M I N D E R

Please take time before the next Session to write in your Guide Book in the section:

PERSONAL REFLECTIONS ON YOUR FAMILY Writing out your reflections is at the heart of the seminar. [ Begins on page 194 ]

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Questions for Small Group Discussions

1. Do you look to God to find out what should be the structure and goals of your family? Or do you let the surrounding culture set the agenda? Explain. ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

2. What does it mean for me to be made in the image of God? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

3. From where do I get my views about masculinity and femininity? Do I respect the differences in gender? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

4. Is Sunday truly a day of worship in our family? Are we oriented towards God on this day? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

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— Weekday Scripture Reflections — DAY

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“In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Genesis 1:1 ➣ What does it mean that God as my Creator?

DAY

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“God created man in his own image...”

Genesis 1:27

➣ How am I made in God’s image?

DAY

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“Male and female he created them.”

Genesis 1:27

➣ What does masculinity / femininity mean for me?

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“Go forth and be fruitful and multiply.” Genesis 1:28 ➣ Am I open to God’s blessings in my life?

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“Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.” Exodus 20:8 ➣ Do I try to make Sunday holy for myself and my family?

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— BIBLICAL REFERENCES — The Structure of Creation Vision / Families / Symbols THEME

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God Wills Creation God’s Word in Creation...............Gen 1: 1-3; 6, 9, 11, 14, 20; Jn 1:1-3 Differentiation Process ...........................Gen 1: 4, 6-7, 9, 11,14, 20, 24 God blesses ..............................................................Gen 1: 22, 24, 28-29 All creation is good.................................Gen 1:4, 10, 12, 18, 21, 25, 31 Corporate Dimension Corporate Beginning ...................................................................Gen 1:2 Creation begins with the “inchoate mass” tohu vevohu .........Gen 1:2 Principle Of Differentiation Earthly waters separated from heavenly ones......................Gen 1: 6-8 Land appears after seas gathered..........................................Gen 1:9-10 Vegetation, animals, flora emerge from soil .........Gen 1:11-12; 24-25 Creation Of Man The “imago dei”....................................................................Gen 1:26-27 Barah — to create (used 3 times).............................................Gen 1:27 Only God is subject of barah Procreation..................................................................................Gen 1:28 This is the first commandment in Scripture. Blessing and procreation are linked.

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FRACTURED CREATION, FRACTURED FAMILY, THE HIDDEN PLAN

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In this session we will look at how God’s perfect creation became fractured and how He planned to restore that creation and bring it back to Himself.

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❐ Last Session (3) We Examined The Structure of Creation ___ Discovered God’s plan for how men and women are to relate ___ Examined the differences between Contract and Covenant ___ Marriage = a high calling / vocation ___ Goes beyond a social contract / affects the core of our being ___ A wonderful tension in the male-female relationship ___ Both members have absolute dignity from God ___ Both man and woman always subjects / never objects ___ Each created for the other = communion ___ The differences willed by God ___ Adam was created first = organic ground of human race ___ Woman not created in isolation but taken out of man ___ Establishes a hierarchy (sacred order) to their relationship ___ Man is head to serve, protect, and establish peace ___ The two become one flesh = great mystery ➣ Bring into existence something which never existed before ➣ Two people, yet one organic reality ___ God’s perspective: marriage is indissoluble.

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We have been looking at marriage and family through the lens of original creation ___ Reveals God’s intentions for the human race

This episode: reality of “Fractured Existence” ___ Man rejected the vision God has given him ___ Listened to other voices ___ Taking us away from God

This episode: Anatomy of Sin (Bad News) ➣ Intrudes into all our lives ➣ We continually live with The Fall and its consequences

Good News ___ The Lord has not abandoned us ___ Announces His plan to restore us

All relationships fractured by original sin

Modern world does not like to acknowledge sin ___ Not to take account of reality is dangerous

We need to know ___ The conditions we live under / struggle ___ Why there are problems within ourselves / others ___ Terms of combat ___ Need to take account of our sinful nature ___ Otherwise we will be blindsided

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The Fall

Refers to a falling from the state of grace / union with God ___ Caused by a change of vision

Before: man’s only object of vision was God ___ All seen through God ___ God was the ordering principle of life

Temptation: man’s gaze pried away from its proper object (God) ___ Adam began listening to evil ___ Became preoccupied with self ___ Changed from being God-centered to self-centered ___ Fell out of the blessedness of God-consciousness ___ Fell into the hell of self-consciousness.

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The Mystery of Evil “Now the serpent was the most cunning of all the beasts of the field… Has God indeed said not to eat of the any of the trees of the garden…” (Gen 3:1)

Mystery about evil ___ Serpent (identified as Satan in the Book of the Revelation) simply appears ___ Do not know his origin ___ Instrument by which temptation enters into human existence

Plan of attack ingenious / subtle ___ Sows doubt into woman’s mind ___ “Did God really tell you not to eat…” ___ Temptation attempts to put a distance between man and God.

Woman’s reply is only partly correct

“You shall not eat it (the fruit) of the tree in the middle of the garden” is correct

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She makes two mistakes: ___ Goes beyond what God had commanded ➣ God did not say that they must not touch it ___ Gets the commandment wrong ___ Misquotes God ➣ Instructs Adam ➣ If they eat of the fruit “they will surely die” (Gen 2:17) ➣ The Hebrew is explicit / no ambiguity ___ Woman’s response: “they might die.” ➣ Conditional tense: inserts a sense of chance into the process ➣ They might die / they might not

In Jesus’ temptations, He quotes God’s Word correctly ___ Important to know the Word of God

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Where was Adam in all this? ___ Only one created when commandment given ___ Is the male and protective head ➣ Should have with his beloved ➣ Keeping her oriented towards the Lord ___ Offers no protection ➣ Perhaps he did not properly tell the woman about the prohibition ➣ Adam is head and responsible ➣ Easter’s Exultet: “O blessed fault of Adam” ___ Husband and father to exercise protective role ___ Adam fails his family

Eve confuses God’s Word ___ No longer grounded in the truth ___ Becomes susceptible to the influence of evil

Evil contradicts what God said ___ Asserts: “You certainly will not die!” (Gen 3:4) ___ Adds a note of jealousy

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___ Questions God’s motives ➣ Suggests God feared they would become like gods ➣ Suggests God not truthful / does not want them to be like Him ➣Distorts the nature of God

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Woman begins to listen to him

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Anatomy of Sin

Temptation: gradual overcoming of the truth ___ Opens us up to acting against the truth and good of our being ___ Rejects the real nature of our Heavenly Father “T HE ‘ RAYS OF FATHERHOOD’ meet a first resistance in the obscure but real fact of original sin…Original sin attempts…to abolish fatherhood... Placing in doubt the truth about God who is Love.” (John Paul II: Crossing the Threshold of Love, p. 228)

In Original Sin we turned from God ___ Accepted a lie about the Father ___ No longer trusted His love ___ Relationship with God and creation distorted/fractured ___ Lost the security of our being (God) ___ Became susceptible to other voices (not of love) ___ Led us away from the source of our being

“The woman saw that the tree was good for food, pleasing to the eyes, and desirable for gaining wisdom. So she took some of its fruit and ate it; and she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.” (Gen 3:6)

Gradual descent from the Presence of God ___ Fruit looked good ➣ Eyes turned from God

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___ Desire grew beyond the appointed limit ➣ Lust / desire for power ___ Never any looking back to God ___ Woman focused on her own self ➣ Her desires / her own estimations / her own judgments ___ Reality of God removed from situation

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“So she took some of its fruit and ate it; and she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.” (Gen 3:6)

Physical actions commit her to a new reality

She crossed a boundary / cannot return on her own

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Effects of Sin

Effects of sin are immediate ___ Man and woman get want they want: knowledge ___ Sought knowledge in isolation from God ___ Loss of freedom ___ They become self-conscious

“The eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized that they were naked.” (Gen 3:7)

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Nakedness causes them shame ___ See one another as objects (not as subjects) ___ Their desire no longer grounded in love ___ Fallen out of God-consciousness and into the hell of self-consciousness ___ Aware of themselves being separated from everyone and everything else ___ Joy, freedom, unselfconsciousness now lost

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“They sewed together fig leaves and made for themselves loin covering.”

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(Gen 3:7)

Attempt to protect themselves through their own efforts ___ Going into a hostile world ___ Clothing from leaves not sufficient ___ Their efforts not adequate ___ A symbol for our own efforts to save ourselves ➣ Not adequate to the problem ___ Protection (salvation) must come from God

Relationships Affected by Sin “When they heard the sound of the LORD God moving about in the garden at the breezy time of the day” (Gen 3:8)

God’s initial relationship with mankind ___ Normal to be aware of God ___ Like walking together in a garden ___ His Presence was immediate ___ Man experienced God as a friend ___ Normal not to have fear

After sin, man and woman no longer go out to meet God ___ Fear had entered into the world ___ They flee not from evil but from the Presence of love

“The man and his wife hid themselves from the LORD God...” (Gen 3:8)

Our relationships no longer transparent ___ We tend to hide ➣ Because of fear, guilt, shame ___ Hiding takes many forms ___ Only in Christ is fear overcome

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Even at this point, pattern of our salvation evident ___ Man sins, hides from God ___ God seeks him (“Where are you?”) ➣ God’s heart goes out to His children

Casualties of our sin ___ Fractures relationship with God ___ Transparency (trust & openness) gone ___ Man cannot stand the Presence of God ___ Shame causes him to run from the light

Disturbing effects upon the relationship of man and woman ___ Adam blames the woman ___ Blames God for giving him the woman

The man replied, “The woman whom you put here with me — she gave me fruit from the tree, so I ate it.” (Gen 3:12)

Sin destroys openness between the first couple

Relationship now determined by self-interest ___ Highest value is self-preservation ___ Man-woman relationship fractured to its core ___ They are hiding from each other

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Logic of sin ___ Always produces same effects as at the Fall ___ Alienation and discrimination ___ No longer love God or each other ___ Always brings death

And the man replied, “The woman which you gave to be with me, gave me of the tree and I ate.” (Gen 3:12)

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The communion between God, man and woman now gone

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Genesis 3 gives us the clues, explains our present situation ___ Life is fragile

This scene in Genesis 3 between the first man and woman is relived in every family.

We feel the powerful drive towards communion with the other ___ To openness and transparency ___ To live in truth and integrity ___ The vocation to communion is inscribed in our very being

Need to acknowledge our brokenness / sins ___ Not an idealist or romantic vision of marriage / family ___ Must be based on reality

We need to acknowledge the call to communion but we must also recognize the devastation that sin has brought upon our own present situations.

We are motivated by fear and self-protection

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A sense of adversary lurks in the background ___ Do not want to face the truth about ourselves or our situations ___ Do not want to accept responsibility for our actions ___ Blame others, God, the situation

Only Adam’s sin original — we only reproduce the same experience

Always a moment of grace when truth breaks into our lives

The brokenness in our lives: broken relationships ___ Power struggles in the family ___ Spouses unwilling to forgive ___ Lack of honesty in dealing with each other ___ Children become rebellious / reject their parents’ guidance ___ Siblings bear grudges against one another

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How do we overcome this in our own family? ___ Cannot do it on our own ➣ Requires grace ___ When we admit our faults, grace breaks through ➣ A moment of freedom ➣ Relationships are restored ➣ Grace of Calvary applied to our own families ➣ “Walking in the Light” (1 John 1:7) ➣ Eden restored ___ The enormity of our problems

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ADDITIONAL MATERIAL (not included in the DVD Presentation) ___ The enormity of our problems ➣ Can our relationships ever become whole again? ➣ Can we ever have love in our marriage again? ➣ Will I ever be able to trust my spouse again? ➣ Will we ever know joy in our family?

God provides the answer — in the midst of the problem ___ Be warned against easy solutions ___ Answers that are man-made ___ “Self-help” programs that promise automatic results

The real answer takes nothing less than the death of the Son of God ___ Only He can undo the effects of sin

The Son will restore us to the Father

& “I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; He will strike at your head, while you strike at his heel.” (Gen 3:15)

Church Fathers saw a reference to Christ’s Passion ___ First announcement of the Gospel (Proto-evangelium)

Cosmic Battle between Good and Evil ___ The representative of the human race (“seed of the woman”) ___ That which is evil (the serpent) ___ Serpent (Satan) can inflict some damage ➣ He can only strike at the heel (Gen 3: 15) ___ But Good will triumph in the end ➣ Jesus (the seed of the woman) will strike at the head (Gen 3:15)

The great promise of Christianity is to heal ___ Heals disordered relationships ___ Heals brokenness

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By His sacrifice, Christ has won for us grace (power) ___ To face ourselves / live in truth ___ To overcome death ___ To come out of hiding / admit the truth about ourselves ___ To face ourselves and each other

Original Sin fractures our relationships ___ God, ourselves, each other ___ No longer know our true selves ___ We are wandering

Christ gradually heals the wounds of our soul ___ Begin to know Him and ourselves ___ Need the power of the Holy Spirit for this wholeness

God provides garments of sin ___ The first sacrifice ___ Blood must be shed to overcome the effects of the Fall ___ Only Christ’s sacrifice can deal with the Fall

The Son will restore us to the Father.

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Please take time before the next Session to write in your Guide Book in the section:

PERSONAL REFLECTIONS ON YOUR FAMILY Writing out your reflections is at the heart of the seminar. [ Begins on page 194 ]

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Questions for Small Group Discussions 1. How do I hide from God? From my spouse? From my self? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

2. Am I aware of my fallen nature? How do I struggle against temptation and sin? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

3. Am I open and transparent with my husband or wife, or do I tend to be closed? Why? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

4. What effect does sin have on my family or marriage? Am I afraid? Of what? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

5. How do I allow Christâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s grace come into my life and that of my family? _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________________________________

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— Weekday Scripture Reflections — DAY

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“I heard the voice of the Lord God walking in the garden.” (Genesis 1:27) ➣ How am I aware of God’s presence in my life?

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“I was afraid because I was naked and so I hid myself.” (Genesis 1:1) ➣ Am I hiding anything from God or myself?

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“The serpent was more crafty than all the animals of the field.” (Genesis 1:27) ➣ Am I aware of how temptations affect my life?

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“And the man said, “The woman which you gave to be with me… And the woman said, The snake..” (Genesis 1:28) ➣ Where do I need to stop blaming others and take responsibility?

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“And the Lord God made coverings of skin for Adam and his wife and He clothed them.” (Genesis 3:21) ➣ How does God take care of me and my family?

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The Fall Serpent more crafty......................................................................Gen 3:1 Temptation ................................................................................Gen 3:1-6 Woman misquotes command.....................................................Gen 3:3 God walking in the Garden ........................................................Gen 3:8 Man blames woman...................................................................Gen 3:12 Woman blames serpent .............................................................Gen 3:13 Punishments Man’s punishment ................................................................Gen 1:17-19 Woman’s punishment ................................................................Gen 3:16 Serpent’s cursed ...................................................................Gen 3:14-15 Ground cursed......................................................................Gen 3:17-18 Protoevangelium .....................................................................Gen 3:15 Eve, mother of all living ............................................................Gen 3:20 Lord makes clothes of skin for man and woman ...................Gen 3:21

May this series become a time of God’s grace in your life… may the Lord bless you and your family

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In this session we will look at what the Scriptures teach about fatherhood and the role fathers play in God’s plan of salvation.

LAST SESSION (6): Role of family in God’s plan for salvation ❖ Importance of Abraham’s family in the covenant ❖ Family designed & willed by God ➣ Indispensable part of his salvific will ➣ no family = no covenant. ❖ Generation lists (toledoth) of such critical importance, inc. nT ❖ Biblical vision of person and family ➣ Scriptural vision different (from world) ➣ Modern world has atomist view ➣ Exist only as individuals ➣ We have lost corporate dimension ➣ Bible: person always personal and corporate identity ➣ Individual always part of a family ➣ Family extends into the past and future

The covenant with Abraham ❖ Family plays a critical role ❖ Blessing comes through the family of Abraham ❖ All families will be blessed in Abraham (Gen 12:3) ❖ Covenant passes through to children ❖ Sign of the covenant = circumcision ➣ Brings children into the covenant ❖ Circumcision = father cutting the faith into body of son ➣ On organ that produces family line

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Family and covenant inextricably mixed together

Fatherhood under attack for over 40 years ___ Critical issue we are facing

Our culture is living through a crisis of fatherhood. ❐

Societal forces neutralize role of the male (father) ___ In favor of an androgynous mode ___ From a feminist vision of reality ___ Gender has no meaning = accidental.

Sociological data proves otherwise ___ Men abandon their marriages and families ___ Recent trend: women leave their husbands ___ Emergence of single parent family

Basis of “single parent” families ___ Belief: no gender-based parenting skill ➣ i.e., no indispensable mother or father ___ Father or mother = the same = interchangeable or dropped ___ One-parent family as good as two-parent family

Sociological data over last 40 years ___ Devastating effects ___ Child needs both parents ___ Each plays their own role

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Biblical Evidence for Role of the Father

Fathers essential for the passing on of the faith in ancient Israel ➣ Key to this were the father-led rituals

Fatherhood essential for healthy families

Rejection of fatherhood = damaging of children ___ Have innate need for strength / protection of a father

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Through the mother the child receives his being; through the father the child receives his identity. ❐

Absence of fathers produces psychological wounds ___ Called “father-hunger” ___ Deprived of the right to the presence of a protecting father ___ Hungering after this foundational need

Calling God Father (author: John Miller) ___ Takes on political correctness and their attempts to neutralize language ➣ Especially removing the title “Father” from God

Biblical revelation stands in contrast to pagan religions

Pagan religions ___ Father-gods weak and cowardly ___ Struggles between father-gods and their sons for dominance ___ Wives / mothers help sons defeat husbands

Revelation to the Hebrews: God = a Father, all powerful ___ Uses power & authority to protect / redeem His people ___ Patriarchy= the rule (arche) to protect and help people come to fullness of being ___ God is Father who brings security into the lives of His people

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God = Father of the covenant ___ For first time in history, man had complete security ___ Because of Father-nature of Yahweh ___ Committed Himself by covenant to His people ___ Pagan gods did not make a covenant with their people

In Hebrew religion: patriarchy means the rule (arche) of the father (pater) ___ No concept of domination or perversion of power ___ Hebrew God acted as Father to Israel ➣ presents new paradigm of fatherhood

God acted as a Father with Israel ___ He instituted three feasts ___ Feasts were the responsibility of the father ➣ Guaranteed father’s involvement with the family

Father needs ways / rituals to take up his role ___ Mother already a part of the child (for 9 months)

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Father-led Ritual: 1. Redemption of the First-Born

The Rite of Redemption only dealt with first-born son

The LORD said to Moses, “Consecrate to me every first-born.” (Ex 13:1-2)

Meaning of ritual: related to the redemption Yahweh wrought in Egypt

When Pharaoh stubbornly refused to let us go, the L ORD killed every first-born in the land of Egypt, every first-born of man and of beast. That is why I sacrifice to the L ORD everything of the male sex that opens the womb, and why I redeem every first-born of my sons. (Ex 13:15)

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Tied to teaching and transmission of faith.

Explanation for ritual is given in Scripture:

When your son asks you, “What does this mean?” you shall say to him... (Exodus 13:14)

Ritual today: ___ Father approaches the rabbi with his child ___ Asked to redeem his child or leave him at the altar ___ Father expresses his desire to redeem his son ___ Hands over the redemption money (as substitute) ___ Recites two benedictions ___ Rabbi solemnly pronounces three times: ➣ “Your son is redeemed, your son is redeemed, your son is redeemed.”

Family ritual has two effects: ___ Strengthens bonding between father and son ➣ Child knows how precious he was to the father ➣ Father chooses to be involved / responsible for his child ___ Images forth the relationship between Yahweh and His son, Israel.

“To redeem and care for children in this manner was spiritually motivated; since this was what Yahweh himself had done in redeeming His children from Egypt, this is only what human fathers can be expected to do with their children as well.”[3] (John Miller Calling God Father , p. xx)

As we understand Yahweh as Father = same type of fatherhood in our own families ___ Fathers should care and protect

A religious consciousness was developed, experienced, and lived out through the family. The family was the medium of the message.

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Father-led Ritual: 2. Circumcision

Circumcision = sign of the covenant ___ To become a part of Abraham’s household demanded circumcision ___ To participate in the covenant required circumcision ___ Rabbi Hirsch: father represents community/family of Abraham ___ Covenant, Abrahamic family and fatherhood all intertwined ___ The father is the transmitter of the tradition (circumcision)

Family = instrument by which one is taught about and introduced to the covenant ➣ Its rituals are the ways in which the covenant is lived out

Covenantal family life was established in Abraham ___ Covenant cut into the flesh of its male members ___ Makes one a part of the covenantal community ___ Identity of family grounded in covenant

The medium ( family and family life — including these rituals) was the message. You cannot separate one from the other. The family and the covenant are inextricably bound together.

Christ fulfills all signs and rituals of the old covenant ___ Passover becomes Eucharist ___ Circumcision is fulfilled in Baptism

Paul makes the link between circumcision and baptism

In him, you were also circumcised with a circumcision not administered by hand, by stripping off the carnal body, with the circumcision of Christ. (Colossians 2:11)

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Families need to realize their responsibilities in baptism ___ Children are baptized precisely because parents are committed to Christ ___ They desire to bring up their children in the faith

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Father-led Ritual: 3. Passover

This feast (a home meal) commemorates God’s deliverance of the Jews from Pharaoh ___ This event and its rituals are totally family-based ___ Family in the Exodus = basic unit for salvation ___ Head of each family commanded to take a lamb ___ Slaughters it on the fourteenth day of the month ➣ Get to know lamb (becomes part of them) = reference to Jesus

“Tell the whole community of Israel: On the tenth of this month every one of your families must procure for itself a lamb, one apiece for each household.” (Ex 12:3)

Passover to be eaten as a family meal (Ex 12:4)

Doorways of family homes are marked with the lamb’s blood

“Of every house in which they partake of the lamb... take a bunch of hyssop, and dipping it in the blood that is in the basin, sprinkle the lintel and the two doorposts with this blood.” (Exodus 12:7, 22)

Head of the house slaughters lamb ___ Takes a basin of its blood to front door ___ Using a leafy hyssop branch, smears blood on the lintel ➣ Top portion of the door ➣ Blood drips down forming a vertical line of blood ___ Then smears the blood on the two door posts (from side to side) ➣ Forms a vertical line of blood ___ The family home is marked with a cross of blood

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Only those within the confines of family (home) saved from the angel of death ___ The family provided the context for experiencing the mighty works of God

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Ritual of Passover = pedagogical tool ___ Via it, the salvific act of God transmitted through generations

When your children ask you, “What does this rite of yours mean?” you shall reply, “This is the Passover sacrifice of the LORD, who passed over the houses of the Israelites in Egypt; when he struck down the Egyptians, he spared our houses.” ...On this day you shall explain to your son, “This is because of what the LORD did for me when I came out of Egypt.” (Exodus 12:26-27; 13:8)

The father to tell the child what happened ___ Faith: witness to the mighty acts of God in history ___ Both of nation and of individual

Father = bearer of tribal memory ___ Becomes link between the generations ___ His responsibility to transmit the truths of the faith

Passover is the father-led ritual that ensures the basic message of God’s saving power is given to generations to come.

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How does role of the father play out today? ___ Are fathers involved in helping children know the faith? ___ Marriage for a.) love of spouses; b.) procreation and education of children ___ Israel incarnated this truth through rituals in the home

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The fundamental function of zakar / male was that he be the instrument of remembrance. The male, in this role of the remembering one, becomes the “bearer of the spiritual traditions of mankind.”

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Review

In modern setting, fatherhood is greatly devalued

But frightening consequences for fatherless families can’t be denied

Role of fathers needs to be recovered and honored ➣ So father-hunger can be properly healed

While modern ideologies fight against fatherhood, biblical evidence shows: indispensability of fathers ___ for healthy families ___ for passing on of the faith

In ancient Israel: three father-led rituals ___ Redemption of the First Born, Circumcision, Passover ___ Gave identity to the nation / family ___ Home rituals, led by fathers

How are we to live out these truths in our context? What rituals are available to us that can strengthen the spiritual identity of our families?

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The Role of the Father

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Fathers often not involved with their families ___ Even when present ___ Especially concerning spiritual matters ___ Many psychological problems because of lack of an involved / healthy father’s presence

Mother provides the sense of being for the child ___ Carries the child in her womb for nine months ___ Nourishes / nurtures him into existence for years thereafter

Father psychologically gives the identity to child ___ Steps in at critical moment ___ Separates the identity of the child from mother

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Jesus’ Baptism: He hears the voice of the Father

And the Holy Spirit descended upon him in bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.” (Lk 3:22)

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The Father is reaffirming the identify of the Son

Only the Father can do this

Fathers have an essential role to play in the lives of their families

Will we rise to the occasion?

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One of the great needs of the Church today is to equip fathers to become the men that God desires them to be and to enable them to carry out their responsibilities as husbands and fathers. Healing

Often there is much healing needed in our relationship with our fathers

We need the great graces of Christ who is the same yesterday, today and forever

Regardless of where the hurt is Christ can minister to us, heal us, and restore us

It is a journey to allow Christ’s grace to enter into our lives

“Lo, I will send you Elijah, the prophet, Before the day of the LORD comes, the great and terrible day, o turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, Lest I come and strike the land with doom.” (Malachi:3:24)

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Questions for Small Group Discussions 1. Men: How am I, as a father, acting within my family? Women: Did my father live out his role as father in the family I grew up in? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

2. How is my family structured so that the faith can be passed on? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

3. What is my own relationship with God as Father? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

4. What types of relationships do people have with their fathers? Is there any healing that needs to go on there? ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________ ________________________________________________________________________

R E M I N D E R

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— Weekday Scripture Reflections — DAY

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”The LORD said to Moses, “Consecrate to me every first-born.” (Ex 13:1-2) ➣ Do I realize my children belong to God? Explain. DAY

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“When your children ask you, ‘What does this rite of yours mean?’ you shall reply...” (Exodus 12:26-27; 13:8) ➣ Am I involved in the spiritual formation of my children?

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”Of every house in which they partake of the lamb... take a bunch of hyssop, and dipping it in the blood that is in the basin, sprinkle the lintel and the two doorposts with this blood.” (Exodus 12:7, 22) ➣ Do I see our family life as being dedicated / consecrated to Christ?

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“And a voice came from heaven, “You are my beloved Son; with you I am well pleased.” (Lk 3:22) ➣ Am I affirming my children? DAY

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“O turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers..” (Malachi:3:24) ➣ What can I do to turn my heart towards my children?

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— BIBLICAL REFERENCES — FATHER-LED RITUALS Vision / Families / Symbols THEME

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Redemption of the First Born.............................................Ex 13:1-14 a) Consecrate every first-born..............................................Ex 13:1-2 b) Death of first-born of beast and man in Egypt ................Ex 13:14 c) “When your son asks...” ......................................................Ex 13:14 Circumcision...............................................................................Ex 17:10 a) Fulfilled in Baptism.................................................Colossians 2:11 Passover..................................................................................Ex 12: 1-51 a) Lamb for each household .....................................................Ex 12:3 b) Passover eaten as a family meal...........................................Ex 12:4 c) Doorways marked with lamb’s blood ............................Ex 12:7,22 d) Children ask meaning of ritual .........................................Ex 12:26 Affirming Voice of the Father Jesus’ Baptism / Father’s voice .................................................Luke 3:22 Elijah and Relationship to Fathers Turn the hearts of the fathers to children ........................Malachi 3:24

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