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Dear Living • Didn’t you know about your wife’s love of animals while you were engaged? Explain to her that when you married her, you didn’t realize you would be just another occupant in her doghouse. The conditions you describe are not only stressful,
but could also be a health hazard. Contact the city or county and find out whether there are restrictions on the number of animals that homeowners are allowed. (I hope they have all been spayed or neutered!) As her partner, your wishes should be taken into consideration and a compromise reached. Dear Abby • I’m a gay man. My sister and I are best friends. I love her dearly. Long story short, she has now taken her religious beliefs much more seriously (Christianity). She’s married, with three children (6, 4 and 2 years old) who my partner and I adore. They attend church every weekend, rehearse Bible verses with their children every night and are active in their community. My partner and I visit as often as we can to spend time with her and the kids. They live 200 miles away, and the drive is a long one, so we stay overnight. On our last visit, she pulled me aside and expressed how uncomfortable she
and her husband have been feeling with the sleeping arrangement. They don’t agree with us sleeping in the same room because we are “not married.” I know it’s more than that — it is because we are not a straight couple. They said they prefer we sleep in different rooms when we visit them. My partner and I feel devastated. Can you help? — Second-Class Citizen Dear Second Class • From your description, it’s unlikely that your sister and her husband will become more accepting than they are. As I see it, you have no choice but to “turn the other cheek” and spend your nights in a nearby hotel or motel. That may be the sacriﬁce you have to make to maintain your close relationship with the kids. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069.
Baked Alaska fan on quest for a utensil Dear Miss Manners • Baked Alaska is vexing me ... it seems to want every sort of utensil because of all its textures. Would the older way have been ice cream forks and perhaps dessert knives? Surely there were not baked Alaska spoons. What might a hostess use instead? Gentle Reader • Baked Alaska spoons! What a good idea. And how curious that they were not invented, as that dessert was ﬁrst made in the 19th century. Fortunately, it can be eaten anyway. You presumably have forks and oval spoons, which are the standard dessert service for treats that involve something crumbly that can be cut with a fork, and something gooey. Dear Miss Manners • A dear friend of my family wanted to have a baby shower for me (I’m the pregnant one) and my wife. I
like the idea of celebrating with a small group of friends and family, but we are absolutely opposed to registries or events where gifts are expected. We don’t want anybody to feel obligated to bring anything. If some bring gifts and others don’t, I’m worried that those without gifts will feel embarrassed. What should I tell the friend who would like to throw us the party? Also, what does one do at such a party? The shower activities we’ve read about seem silly. Gentle Reader • That Miss Manners shares your feeling does not change the fact that presents and silly games are the chief characteristics of baby showers. Therefore, what you should tell your friend is how much you appreciate the offer, but that you would truly rather not have a shower.
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Dear Miss Manners • I run a health care office, and I’ve just been solicited by a former patient to fund her further education on GoFundMe. I know this is now a “thing” to ask for money, but I am uncomfortable with this. What would be a good response? Gentle Reader • Is your in-box not overﬂowing with letters from people from all over the world, who announce that they hope they find you well and then ask for money? Miss Manners assures you that there are only two acceptable responses to solicitations for money: 1. Ignore. Or 2. Give. Send questions to Miss Manners, aka Judith Martin, on her website, missmanners.com; to her email, firstname.lastname@example.org; or through postal mail to Miss Manners, Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut Street, Kansas City, Mo. 64106. Miss Manners’ son, Nicholas Ivor Martin, and her daughter, Jacobina Martin, contribute to this column.
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Dear Abby • I’m recently married, and in my opinion, my wife has too many pets — seven inside dogs. She also feeds neighborhood cats, so at any given time, there are 10 to 18 cats in our yard. The dogs inside have no boundaries. They have taken over the main living space. The family room sofas are ﬁlthy and destroyed, so we can’t use that space. The carpet is gone, and there is dog hair everywhere. I’m at my wits’ end. I feel I have no say in this matter, and I’m constantly stressed over these living conditions. I hate going home. I have dogs with me when I eat, sleep and make love. I don’t know how to approach her on this. — Living Like an Animal in Phoenix
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