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FROM THE PUBLISHER Welcome to the June edition of Coastal Christian Family. This month we celebrate Father’s Day. There are different kinds of fathers. Some are biological fathers, some stepfathers and some men who just naturally love and nurture young people around them. We see this in teachers, coaches, youth directors and many others. I am so blessed to have a father who loves me and is a loving grandfather to my children, a father-inlaw who loves my children and a husband who is a great dad and leader of our family. God gives direction in his Word to fathers and gives the perfect example of how to be a father as our Heavenly Father. Duck Dynasty’s Phil Robertson gives his thoughts on family, marriage and fatherhood in our cover story this month. Spending time in the Word and sharing his faith is his lifeline. I believe God wants fathers to be spiritual head of their households, to love and discipline their children while teaching them mercy and compassion. Fathers have the responsibility to teach their children about God and be examples of how to live for the Lord. Let’s give thanks this month as we think about the dads in our own lives for their love, leadership and support. Fathers, read the Word and teach your children about our loving Father in Heaven as He has directed. “Tell it to your children, and let your children tell it to their children, and their children to the next generation. ” Joel 1:3
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C ONTENTS Volume 13, Number 6
DEPARTMENTS 3 From the Editor 7 Faith at Work • School Teachers are Special People
ON THE COVER 12 The Robertson family from the A&E reality show Duck Dynasty, talk faith, family and the great outdoors. See page 12.
6 Loving your Father No Matter What 21 Memories that are Never Forgotten
7 An Encouraging Word • What do you Want to be When You Grow Up? 8 Body & Soul • Serve as Jesus instructs and As He Did 8 Fashion for You • Ageless Summer Style! 9 Healthy Living • Food Addicts • Celebrate Recovery
10 In His Grip • Being a True Competitor 10 Fellowship of Christan Athletes News • New Chapter, New Beginnings 11 Barganomics • Great Tips to Manage Your Money 11 Best Books • Heaven Hears
Loving your Father No Matter What
18 Characteristics of Great Single Fathers
NEXT ISSUE Jeff Miller,
14 Christian Soldier • Memories That are Never Forgotten 15 Teachable Moments •Surviving and Getting through “Tough Times” •No One Can Predict the Future 16 Potluck •Tips for Buying and Eating Foods from the Area • Zucchini Parmesan Crisps
17 An Encouraging Word Living the Dream 17 Kid’s Korner •Kids get Connected With the Bible using Simple Science Experiments 18 Business Today • 6 Practical Tips to Summertime Parenting 18 The Single Life • Characteristics of Great Single Fathers 19 Legal Matters •Abortion – Front and Center 19 Money Matters •From the Desk of Dave Ramsey 20 Coloring Page
21 Calendar 22 Advertising Directory
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S PECIAL F EATURE
An Ashes to Beauty...Literally! When I was four years old my father left my mother and our home. From that time on he lived over four hundred miles away. I absolutely adored my father. He would visit every three months. When he would come, it would be all I could think about for the week prior. As soon as he walked through the door, I struggled having fun with him, because I so dreaded Sunday evening, which was his regular departure time. The pain of all this was torture. By the time I was a teenager, my tears dammed up as I learned to block the pain of him leaving. Passively sowing judgment in my heart toward my Dad and his flaws became the norm. I reaped a harvest of trouble from this judgment of him, even though he "seemingly" had the more apparent issues. When I became an adult, he wanted me to visit him to go fishing, but I always found a reason for not making the four hundred mile drive. Even though I was a Christian, I figured he wasn't good to me, so why should I be good to him, completely bypassing "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you". Little about me was golden with so much pain. When my Dad passed away over ten years ago in South Bend, Indiana, I barely shed a tear. His ashes were sent to me via U.S. Mail. And when his ashes arrived at the Post Office, it was like I was picking up a used car part at a junk yard. I had zero emotion. My Dad's ashes stayed in my utility vehicle for over 30 days. I even forgot that they were in the back. Eventually, I made a plan to take and spread his ashes over a lake on my way to a business meeting, because I knew I was wearing a suit, making it convenient for me to get done, funeral style. The day of my business meeting was extremely windy, which was a little scary with me scattering ashes. But the wind was straight-line wind blowing out of the north in one direction making an easier aim of it. As I walked out to the edge of the water, a thought (Holy Spirit's Voice) occurred to me to ask God for my Dad's anointings. Even though I wasn't real sure what anointings were, that's what I did. I angled myself in such a way that his ashes would easily fly out across the water away from me. I drew the box back and fffllluung his ashes up into the wind. Now two days prior, I had bought a brand new pair of black, Johnson and Murphy, dress shoes. As soon as I sent my Dad's ashes flying, the wind made a strong and abrupt change of direction, sending his ashes directly down and backwards. You guessed it. My new shoes were covered in the grayish white ash of my Dad. So much ash had fallen on my shoes that small bone fragments were even inside and along the crevices making my walking prickly. My immediate reaction was panic and to throw out multiple expletives, because I was so grossed out. I bounced around kangaroo-like for several minutes as I attempted to bang the dust off of my shoes. The moment was surreal! Dejectedly, I started walking back to my car. And suddenly, the Holy Spirit spoke to me within my spirit and said, "I've given you your father's anointings". There was a
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pause, and then the dam of my pain broke. I stopped, and began crying harder than I had ever cried before. What I had experienced was an event generated out of heaven. My shoes werenâ€™t the real target. God had blown his breath into the ashiest part of me...my wounded soul. That day He began a process of beautification (healing and deliverance) in me toward my Dad. As I reached the car, I remembered that my Dad's passions were as a writer and speaker. He constantly wrote about everything for which he cared, especially about changing society for the good. He also loved to speak and attended Toastmasters speaking club meetings for years. Presidents Nixon, Carter, Reagan and Bush Sr. all had an opportunity at reading my Dad's mail because he would boldly send his thoughts directly to the White House. I got tired of hearing him talk about all "that stuff", when he was alive. On this windy day, all I knew was, I had my Dad's anointing, and it felt good to me. The moral of the story is this. We have all been given different kinds fathers. Some were good and some were not so good. No matter what kind of Dad you've had, honor him for whatever good attribute you can find, instead of being bitter toward his issues. Repent by embracing something positive. Give to and take care of your Dad even when he hasn't given to you. This will help stop the sowing and reaping cycle of judgment that might be keeping the spirit of misery empowered within your family. To do this you must allow the Holy Spirit to restore your heart to your Dad as written in Malachi 4:6. Also, be, for your children, who you would have wanted as a child. If you have recurring issues affecting your children negatively, do something about it. Get some inner healing. Rejoin a church. Make solid men friends at church who know how to raise children and ask to be mentored by them. Man up with humility. All of what I've just said is achievable only by the breaking of one's self-will and the bending of both knees to the Trinity...God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit...the perfect relationship. Just because you are a Christian doesn't mean this has happened. Today, I still have the shoes. They've been resoled at least six or seven times, and I'll NEVER throw them away. They'll always be covered with the memories and anointings of my Fathers. And I really do miss my Dad. The loving feelings I had for him as a child have fully been given back to me, through healing and deliverance. I wish Dad was still here. I would show him off to all my friends, and I'd drive 400 miles to take him to some fishin' hole on the water he loved so much. â€” Brian Burke Christian Speaker/Founder of Lovestruction for Men. To receive Lovestruction For Men email blast/blog address, email me email@example.com
FAITH @ W ORK
A N E NCOURAGING W ORD What do You Want to be When You Grow Up? Are you still asking yourself that question? I am 39 and may have finally figured it out. What about you? Do you still long for the days as a child when you would sit and dream about becoming something great or someone who made a difference in the lives of others? The answer came to me when I discovered what was different while being a child. As a child I knew what I was good at based on one thing alone: It was fun.
Say Your Prayers Curtain climbers. Yard monkeys. Cherubs. Whippersnappers. Ankle biters. I don’t know what you call them, but our children have been turned loose on the world. School is out for summer (at least it ends this week here where I live). By the end of summer I’m afraid my description of these little animals will be a bit stronger. I’ll be ready for them to return to the classroom. Still, I appreciate their euphoria. I can recall the butterflies that formed in my stomach as summer break approached each year: “No more pencils, no more books, no more teachers’ dirty looks.” So, I still get giddy this time of year just thinking about summer. But the real happiness is found in empty classrooms where teachers are dancing with unmitigated joy. At least I know my sons’ teachers are dancing. Preachers’ kids are the worst, you know. It’s been said that if teachers were paid like professional athletes, and athletes were paid like teachers, our society would be a much better place. Amen to that. But money is not the reason these men and women give themselves to the classroom. They teach because they love working with children or a particular subject. They teach because as a student, they themselves were greatly influenced by a teacher. In fact, influence seems to be the real reason teachers teach. Only parents and close family members have the kind of unparalleled impact on youngsters as teachers. The influence is incalculable. Too many times we who stand behind pulpits or travel to the “mission field” (whatever that means) monopolize the market on doing God’s work. But everyone – everyone – has opportunity to do the work of God. This is doubly true for teachers. Sure, there are a few bad apples in the educational barrel – you can find these kinds of folks in all career fields. Yet, teachers are a heroic lot who deserve our support, admiration, and even our prayers. God knows if I were matched against twenty-five second graders every day, I’d want someone praying for me. And to my sons’ middle school teachers, a final word before you slip into the rapture of a kid-less summer: My wife and I have one more son coming your way. As he has been cultured by his older brothers, he may be the most challenging one yet. So accept my apology in advance. I’ll be praying for you. — Ronnie McBrayer Ronnie is a syndicated columnist, speaker, and author of multiple books. You can read more and receive regular e-columns in your inbox at www.ronniemcbrayer.me.
When you were 7, what made you want to be a fireman, singer, dancer, or artist? It was fun, right? As an adult, what made you want to be “responsible?” One word: Money. You were told it actually cost money to eat and have shelter, so you needed to do something more “responsible” with your life. The fact is, we can’t all be firemen, dancers or artists. If that were the case, we wouldn’t have cars to ride around in or clothes to wear because no one would be available to assembly them. I’m not suggesting we forsake responsibility for raw passion, but I am suggesting we begin to look at what brings us joy in life. How would the world benefit from you if you were able to share your very best? I love to talk. Regardless of the subject matter, I feel compelled to give my input. I woke up one day and realized I could be the greatest blessing to those around me if I did what I was created to do: Talk. As a child I was chastised and told to be quiet, and now I am doing it as a career through public speaking. My 5 year old will most likely be an entertainer based on her current behavior. She is a constant source of entertainment and thrives on attention. She can bring a smile to anyone’s face in a matter of seconds. I pray I never teach her how to be “responsible” and forsake her gifts. Is it possible she could grow up to be the next Lucille Ball or Reba McIntyre or Joan Rivers? Yes, but what are the chances if her passion is traded for being responsible? I don’t deny the need for being responsible in life. After all, money doesn’t grow on trees, but I would hate to have her grow up, live a life of being “responsible” and look back at age 70 and long for the days of yesterday when she was doing what she was best at: entertaining. How can we do a reality check in life to see where we stack up? Here are a few things to think about: • If money were no object, what would you do with your time? • What brings you the most joy in life? • What could you do all day long and not feel tired or drained mentally? • What section of the bookstore do you gravitate towards? • When you were a kid, what did you want to do? Are you still waiting for that to happen? Don’t give up your day job just yet. That’s not what I’m suggesting. I only want you to look at your life and realize one thing: This is it! This is the only shot you get. There won’t be any do-overs. Do you want to look back when you are 70 and feel like you added value to those around you by doing what you were created to do? I sure do. I want to give my all and do what only I can do. Question: Are you doing what you were created to do, or do you feel like that gift has been covered up by other things that have gotten in the way? Start today by looking for ways to connect with what you were created to do. —Jeff Jones Jeff is a speaker, author, and host of The WISE™ Life podcast. Having played drums for Dove Award winning band Big Daddy Weave for over 13 years, Jeff recently left the road to be home with his family and share with others insights on living life with passion, making marriage matter, raising kids with character and fulfilling your dreams at JeffDrummer.com.
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B ODY & S OUL
Who Do You Serve?
Mark 10:45 “The Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve.” To serve has several meanings: do military time, be a servant as a waiter, assist a celebrant at mass, be worthy of reliance and trust, begin a tennis match, to be favorable, to the service and respect due, to help persons and the list goes on and on.. Jesus entered the world to serve. And we should enter our jobs, our homes, our children’s lives, our friends and family’s dilemmas, and our churches to serve. Servant-hood requires no unique skill or seminary degree. Notice to those paying attention: To serve is to love the overlooked. Jesus sits in your classroom wearing thick glasses, outdated clothing and a sad face. You’ve seen him. He works in your office. Pregnant again, she shows up late and tired. No one knows the father. Water cooler rumors say even she doesn’t. You’ve seen her. When you love the misfit and befriend the hurting, you love Jesus. “Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, you did it to me! (Matthew 25:40 TM) To serve is to wave the white flag. We fight so much. “Where do you think all these appalling wars and quarrels come from?” asks James, “Do you think they just happen? Well, think again. They come about because you want your own way.” (James 4:1 TM) When I reflect on some of the circumstances and events that I thought were a disaster and the end of my world, I was convinced it was
the wrong plan. I want what I want when I want it. Real servants don’t struggle, they submit. To serve is to do something each day that you don’t want to do. Pick up someone’s trash. Surrender your parking place. Call that long-winded relative. It doesn’t have to be a big thing. Helen Keller once told the Tennessee Legislature that when she was young she longed to do great things and could not, so she decided to do small things in a great way. Don’t be too big to do something small. “Throw yourselves into the work of the Master, confident that nothing you do for him is a waste of time or effort. (1Corin. 15:58) — Barbara Rucker Barbara loves this chapter in her life as a Mary Kay Beauty Consultant and thanks God for this awesome opportunity. She has the blessing of helping women feel and look beautiful and offers confidence to enrich their lives. Being in show business for over 30 years was magical, but did not offer the precious relationships she has today with everyone she works with. Her two children daughter Taylor and son Logan, both in their mid -twenties, are her award winning production!
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Ageless Summer Style!
This month I turn 30! The big 3-0! Jumping into a new age bracket brings thoughts of dressing in that age bracket. 30: Do I have to dress like a mom? How can I still incorporate trends, without looking like I am 17? In my eyes, fashion is not about age. It is about who you are and what you like. I love trying new things with my wardrobe. My husband does give me funny looks at times, but I trust my instincts and go with it. Don’t dress for a certain age, dress for yourself. However, you should dress appropriate for your age and body type.
Don’t fall victim to trends. There are some fun trends out there right now; neons, florals, cut outs, etc. Try one or two of the trends, but don’t make an effort to try all of them. You will waste time and money. Let’s say you are loving the popular floral prints. Go by a place, like the Silver Sands Outlet and try out the style. You won’t spend a lot of money, but you will get something new and stylish.
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Be comfortable. If you try on a blouse or skirt and have even the slightest feeling of resistance, don’t buy it! I promise, you will not wear it. If you feel like the skirt is too tight or too short, chances are, it is. The same thing goes for items in your closet. If you don’t like it or don’t wear it, get rid of it. Find something that you do like. It is all about the fit and how you feel in the piece.
Invest in staples. Every fashionable girl, no matter her age, needs certain items in her closet; a basic black dress, white button up collar shirt and chic blazer. These are items that you should not feel guilty about purchasing. They create a classic look, and each piece can always be used to dress up your everyday look. It is also fun to add a pop of color. Try a bold necklace with a basic white t-shirt, jeans, blazer and heels for a perfect Friday night date look. Or, pull out the black dress with that same necklace and heels and you have a great look for the office. It is worth your time and money to invest in classic pieces. Being fashionable does not have an age limit, but be careful with certain trends. Base your look on your personality, where you are going and how you feel in it. Fashion is about showing your style. Get comfortable and try something new!
A classic black blazer is a wardrobe staple you will wear for years to come. Pictured is Central Park West/Gus Mayer, $165.
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H EALTHY L IVING
Food Addicts in Recovery Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous (FA) is a program of recovery based on the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. FA members are men and women of all ages. Some have been obese; others have been severely underweight, bulimic, or so obsessed with food or weight that normal life was difficult or impossible. The common denominator uniting members of FA is addiction and a relationship with food that parallels an alcoholicâ€™s relationship with alcohol. The following is the definition of FA that is used in FA literature and read at FA meetings: Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous is a fellowship of individuals who, through shared experience and mutual support, are recovering from food addiction. We welcome all who want to stop eating addictively. There are no dues or fees for members; we are self-supporting through our own contributions, neither soliciting nor accepting outside donations. FA
is not affiliated with any public or private organization, political movement, ideology, or religious doctrine. We take no position on outside issues. Our primary purpose is to abstain from addictive eating and to carry this message of recovery to those who still suffer. FA addresses addiction on every level. The program first helps food addicts physically refrain from their addiction. For more information visit www.foodaddicts.org.
Local Meeting locations: St. Simons Episcopal Church Tuesday 7pm and Thursday 9 am 28 Miracle Strip Pkwy Fort Walton Beach, FL 32547 Trinity Presbyterian Church Monday 6:30pm 3400 Bayou Blvd. Pensacola, FL 32503
Celebrate Recovery What does your pain look like? Is it procrastination, guilt, anger, rage, fear, anxiety, separation or divorce, alcohol or drug use, perfectionism, insecurity, overspending, overworking, overeating, over-achieving, grief, loss, sexual addictions, hurtful relationships, gambling, emotional unavailability, lying, attention seeking or the need to control? By working through the eight recovery principles and twelve steps with Jesus Christ as our Higher Power, we can and will change, experience healing and recover the image of God in us. Celebrate Recovery (CR) is a Christ-centered recovery program that will help you heal from the pain of your unmanaged hurts, habits, and hang-ups. CR is open to anyone with hurts, habits or hang-ups, and anyone is welcome regardless of their past difficulties in life. CR provides a safe place where anyone who is seeking hope and healing can come and find the love of Christ. CR is a source of hope to many who struggle with such issues as depression, grief, loneliness, anxiety and fear. Celebrate Recovery provides a safe place to find healing and hope. There is a place to go to finally feel whole.
Local meetings: Mary Esther United Methodist Church 703 Miracle Strip Parkway Mary Esther, FL.
Tuesdays, Dinner 5:45 pm (no cost) Program 6:30 pm. Nursery available. 243-7595 or email firstname.lastname@example.org for more information Niceville United Methodist Church 214 Partin Dr. S. Niceville, FL 32578 (850) 678-4411, ext. 146 or email@example.com Fridays, Dinner 5:45 pm (Suggestion donation $5 adults, $3 children, $15 max per family) Program 6:30 pm Nursery provided.
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I N H IS G RIP ® Are You A Competitor? No professional golfer in history faced greater challenges than did the great Ben Hogan. Hogan turned pro in 1930, but after brief stint, had to take a job as a club pro - twice. Ten years later he finally made the professional tour, but WWII derailed the opportunity. After the war, he won 38 tournaments in five years. But then, everything changed. Hogan and his wife nearly died in 1949 when a Greyhound bus hit them head-on. Hogan suffered multiple fractures and life-threatening blood clots. He was in the hospital 59 days and told he could possibly never walk again. Never playing golf again was a foregone conclusion. But the "experts" underestimated Hogan's tenacious, competitive spirit. Months later he won the U.S. Open. It was his competitive drive and dedicated work ethic that drove him to become one of the greatest golfers of all time.
I love this Scripture passage from Revelation 19:11-16: “I saw heaven standing open and there before me was a white horse, whose rider is called Faithful and True. With justice he judges and wages war. His eyes are like blazing fire, and on his head are many crowns. He has a name written on him that no one knows but he himself. He is dressed in a robe dipped in blood, and his name is the Word of God. The armies of heaven were following him, riding on white horses and dressed in fine linen, white and clean. Coming out of his mouth is a sharp sword with which to strike down the nations. "He will rule them with an iron scepter." He treads the winepress of the fury of the wrath of God Almighty. On his robe and on his thigh he has this name written: King of kings and Lord of lords. (NIV) What do you think? Does that sound like a passive Savior, or a competitor who fights for the glory of God? If you want to finish life well, you have to compete for the life you want. The sooner you begin the better. Find the mark, strive for excellence and compete in life for the glory of God.
How about you. Do you live your Christian life with that kind of competitive tenacity? Too often, people expect Christians to be poor life competitiors, and that Christianity often equates with passivity. I'm sorry, that is an extremely poor representation of Jesus and His mission to come into this world and save souls. That mentality also does a disservice to all the saints throughout history who competed for their faith in the face of certain death.
— Scott Lehman President of www.inhisgripgolf.com and contributor to the Golfer's Bible (B&H Publishing). You can follow Scott on twitter at www.twitter.com/inhisgripgolf or Facebook at www.facebook.com/inhisgripgolf
FCA S POTLIGHT
New Chapter, New Beginnings We are so blessed here on the Emerald Coast to have support for this organization that gives so much to our youth. Okaloosa and Walton Counties are beginning a new chapter with a new board of directors to aggressively support and build up the Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA) organizations in our counties. Through the leadership and organization of Michelle Carmical FCA is going to grow and give back to our young people. Coastal Christian Family, in support of our local FCA organizations, will be publishing a newsletter every month with news, upcoming events and testimonies from students, supporters and board members. The Fellowship of Christian Athletes is touching millions of lives... one heart at a time. Since 1954, the Fellowship of Christian Athletes has been challenging coaches and athletes on the professional, college, high school, junior high and youth levels to use the powerful medium of athletics to impact the world for Jesus Christ. FCA is the largest Christian sports organization in America. FCA focuses on serving local communities by equipping, empowering and encouraging people to make a difference for Christ.
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The FCA Values Our relationships will demonstrate steadfast commitment to Jesus Christ and His Word through Integrity, Serving, Teamwork and Excellence
1. Integrity We will demonstrate Christ-like wholeness, privately, and publicly. (Proverbs 11:3)
2. Serving We will model Jesus' example of serving. (John 13:1-17)
3. Teamwork We will express our unity in Christ in all our relationships. (Philippians 2:1-4)
4. Excellence We will honor and glorify God in all we do. (Colossians 3:23-24) Join Coastal Christian Family in supporting this great organization. For more information, to volunteer or offer support contact Michelle Carmical at firstname.lastname@example.org — Joanna Amunds
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Ever wonder why you can’t win an eBay auction? Most likely, your competition is using a sniping service. What's that? It’s an automated system that will place your bid at the last possible moment of an auction, which means other bidders aren’t aware you’re part of the competition. You can set up the snipe as soon as you spot an auction and the system will begin biding for you only seconds before the close of the auction – right up until you either win or reach the maximum bid amount you set. Cost for a sniping service is minimal, but varies from service to service, with some charging a small flat monthly fee for unlimited sniping and others charging a per-snipe fee of as little as 10 cents. You can try sniping services for free before you decide on the one you prefer. Some of the best ones: www.EZSniper.com; www.AuctionRaptor.com; www.BidSlammer.com; www.BidNip.com; www.AuctionSniper.com; and www.BidRobot.com.
Cookie Pops our kids will love this treat! You’ll need: (A) 12 cream-filled chocolate sandwich cookies (like Oreos); (B) a 9-oz. bag of semi-sweet chocolate chips; (C) 2 tbsp. of solid vegetable shortening (like Crisco); (D) chocolate and or/colored candy sprinkles; and (E) 12 popsicle sticks. Cover a tray or baking sheet with wax paper. Insert a popsicle stick into the cream filling of each cookie. In the microwave, melt the chocolate and shortening together, checking every 30 seconds until it can be easily stirred to a smooth consistency. Dip one cookie pop into the melted chocolate and use a spoon to completely coat the cookie. Hold the cookie pop over the wax paper and shake on the candy sprinkles. Gently place the cookie pop on the wax paper. Repeat the dip and sprinkle process with each cookie pop – you may have re-melt the chocolate to keep it from getting too thick.
Painting Tip When taking a break or stopping for the day during a painting project, place your roller and brushes inside a plastic bag; twist-tie it firmly closed. Separately bag any paint tray you’re using. Refrigerate your bagged items until you’re ready to start again and save all that clean-up work for the end of your project.
Heaven Hears Reading Heaven Hears is like listening to a story told by a good friend. Lindy Boone Michaelis tells the story of her son Ryan, his tragic accident and road to recovery. It will touch the heart of every mother. The unfailing mother’s love and hope is woven throughout the book. It is the kind of story that’s hard to put down and there is a feeling as the reader of feeling apart of the unfolding drama of Ryan’s recovery. Michaelis’ dedication of the book is a great summation of the story. “To all those who have gotten that terrible phone call about a loved one injured, in the hospital, in a crisis and who have filled the waiting rooms in pain and in prayer, I wrote this book for you. May you discover the faithfulness of the Father as I have.” This story is told from a mother’s point of view and how she never gave up her faith in a loving God. When medical personnel saw no hope, the Boone/Michaelis family never gave up on Ryan’s healing. The support of each other and the faith demonstrated by the family is truly inspiring. Michaelis writes of her childhood and growing up in the high profile life of her father, Pat Boone, and the faith of her parents. She also writes about Ryan’s own path to the Lord and recovery even today. This book is available at www.amazon.com and www.barnesandnobel.com —Joanna Amunds
Closing Thoughts As our national Independence Day approaches, remember the principles on which America was founded. Share the Good News of Jesus Christ at every opportunity. If we’re to remain a Christian nation, we cannot allow ourselves to sit back in apathy. “In Germany they came first for the Communists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Communist. Then they came for the Jews, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn’t speak up because I wasn’t a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics, and I didn’t speak up because I was a Protestant. Then they came for me, and by that time no one was left to speak up.” (Martin Niemöller) —Judy Woodward Bates is a speaker, TV personality, columnist for www.Examiner.com and www.TravelinTales.com and author of Bargainomics: Money Management by the Book.
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hristian FamilyPublications recently caught up with the patriarch of the famed A&E Duck Dynasty family and creator of Duck Commander duck calls, Phil Robertson, to talk faith, family and the business of ducks…
You mention in your new book, Happy Happy Happy, that for you the most dramatic part of your A&E reality television show, Duck Dynasty, is at the end of each show when the family gathers around the table to eat. How was it decided to end the show this way and particularly include a prayer together? Phil: Faith is the most important thing to our family and this really wasn’t something that we were willing to negotiate. This is part of who we are and we want people to see that…we are believers who pray and value prayer.
CFP: Who has had the biggest faith influence on your life and how? Phil: I’d have to say Miss Kay (Phil’s wife Kay Robertson). If not for her faithfulness to me and the Lord—especially through my ripping and roaring days--I don’t know that I would ever have found my way.
The men of the Robertson clan share signature beards. Patriarch Phil Robertson says, "It seemed that the more committed I became to living off the land and following my dream to build a duck call that sounded exactly like a duck, the more I just let it all grow. The two went hand in hand.” Pictured are Phil's brother Si and sons Jas and Willie.
Phil: Our family has faced its share of challenges. There were
God first in your life? Phil: I spend time in God’s Word every day—that’s my lifeline. I’m an elder in the church family we are part of. As part of my relationship with the Almighty, I share my faith with anyone who will listen—and sometimes even if they’re not sure they want to hear what I have to say.
times when I was trying to build the Duck Commander business that we didn’t know how we were going to pay our bills—but somehow, the Almighty always provided. Once I repented and gave my life to God, I never looked back; I always knew He’d take care of us. Then there were the years with our prodigal sons, where we saw them turn from what we’d taught them and live through some pretty rough experiences. But each of them came back to the faith and have made us proud.
CFP: Have you found your faith critical in getting you through
CFP: What has been your most difficult challenge as a parent?
CFP: Are there things you do, habits you have, to help you keep
How did you deal with that challenge? Phil: Well, the first several years I wasn’t much of a father. Al, our oldest, felt my absence more than the younger boys. When Al went off the deep end spiritually, we weren’t all that surprised because he hadn’t had the influence of a godly father in his younger years. But with Jep, we were really taken back. Through it all, we leaned on God for support, we confronted our boys with God’s truth, and we continued to love our boys, no matter what. It was that continued love and commitment to God that brought them back. CFP: What pleases you most about your sons? Phil: All four of my sons know the importance of hard work, and they all use the gifts God has given them to help the family business, but even more important, to share God’s Word…
CFP: You and Miss Kay have been married more than 50 years. What advice have you given your boys about marriage? And maintaining a healthy marriage? Phil Robertson hopes his life story will be a vehicle to witness to others.
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Stick it out even when things get tough. When you get married, it’s a lifetime commitment. Plenty of lovin’ and putting each other first is essential.
CFP: What do you believe is the most important thing for parents to teach their kids? What values are most important? Phil: That Jesus is the only answer to our sin problem and to our grave problem. We’re all going to end up six feet under—and that’s a problem. Kids need to know that Jesus is the only solution to those problems and that the truth of God’s Word is non-negotiable.
ith the entire Robertson clan involved in some way in the family’s duck calling business, we asked Phil, founder of Duck Commander, and his son Willie, CEO of Duck Commander, what they find most rewarding and most difficult about having a family business.
Greatest Reward… Phil: Though it’s not always perfect, spending time together and having common goals makes me happy, happy, happy. It’s a great feeling as a father to know that you can trust your sons to carry on something you started. Willie: I get to tell my brothers what to do. But even more important than that, I get to work with people I trust and who have my back—and I have theirs.
Greatest Challenge… Willie: My brothers don’t always do what I say. Oh, yeah, and you can’t fire your kin.
Phil: The same thing that’s the best about having a family business is also the hardest – spending so much time together. Our family is not only together all day at work, but at church and family events, too. People who are together that much are bound to get on each other’s nerves. But it’s those biblical principles of forgiveness, patience, kindness, and love that keeps everyone coming back to work day after day. — Laurie Stroud
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A Special Time
In 45 years, I’ve been blessed to be a part of some incredible experiences. You know, the kind that you want to capture every moment of so that you can revisit it over and over again. They were some of those special moments that heighten your senses and take your emotions to deeper levels than you thought you could experience. There were birthdays that blew me away, meetings with special people, first dates, first kisses, and some especially powerful musical performances. Each is stored away in my memory to be re-lived over and over again, recalling those original feelings that were so powerfully felt in the first place. I had another of those recently, the kind that you don’t soon forget. They centered around some special moments we shared with our friends at Fort Jackson, SC. For those of you who aren’t aware, Fort Jackson is home to several thousand men and women who serve in our U. S. Army. It is the place where basic training takes place for large portions of our troops. It’s also the home for training ALL of the chaplains for every branch of our military. Our ministry team was invited to spend a few days visiting with one of Lisa’s old friends who is married to the Command Sergeant Major of the post. While there, I also was blessed with a chance to speak to and encourage some of the soldiers and their families. My first opportunity came as we visited the post hospital. I walked into a room of about 40 wounded warriors–men and women who carried physical and emotional scars from their service to our country. I was humbled to look into their faces and see the courage these troops had but I was equally saddened to know the pain and the struggles that they faced. Tuesday morning was a larger event. I have to confess. After 25 years of ministry including nine years of traveling and speaking with Ridley Barron Ministries, I have never been more nervous about an opportunity I had to speak. I had been thinking about this for weeks and contemplating what it was that I might could say to encourage these soldiers and their families. Honestly, I was worried about how nervous I was as we prepared for the lunch time meeting. Then came this very incredible moment, one I wasn’t prepared for. As they began the program on Tuesday, one of the Chaplains asked us to stand for the playing of our national anthem before we ate. Like most of you, I’ve heard the Star Spangled Banner played thousands of
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times–before games, at funerals, in worship services. I have never felt it like this. Never. I can’t imagine that I ever will again (unless I’m in the same surroundings). As the first notes began to lift from the Army band that played in the room, I was suddenly struck by this amazing thought…I’m listening to the national anthem while I am surrounded by men and women who have agreed to put their life on the line to defend that flag and our right to hear this song. Chills literally went up my spine. I began to tear up. I thought to myself, “I’ll never make it through the presentation at this rate.” We enjoyed our meal and some more encouraging music. Then my turn came. I began that presentation the only way I knew how at that moment. “I’ve never been more nervous than I am now,” I began. “You see, as a kid, I grew up wanting to be a soldier. I had a dad and uncles and in-laws and cousins who served our country in the military. I never had the opportunity to serve myself but, growing up in Columbus, GA, I used to love it when my dad would drive me through the base at Fort Benning….” I was choking back tears at this point. “The reason I’m so nervous is because I feel like I’m standing in a room with some of my biggest heroes and I’m not quite sure how to act.” The sounds of “hooah” greeted me, a sign that it was okay to continue. I won’t share the rest of the day. What I said next probably pales in comparison to the sound of those men and women encouraging me with their grunt of military affirmation. I’ve always had a tremendous respect for the ones who lay their lives on the line for us. On this occasion, it was magnified and intensified in ways I never thought possible. I love those men and women for what they do (Heck, I’m tearing up just sitting here thinking about it). They have offered the greatest gift at the greatest cost with not much in return. I can only hope our time with them last week as a team encouraged their hearts. I know it sure did mine. “NO ONE has greater love than this, that someone would lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13 HCSB For each and everyone of you…HOOAH!!
— Ridley Barron Ridley Barron Ministries
T EACHABLE M OMENT
God Is Not the Bad Guy
Over the past few years, my family and I have lived through (i.e. survived) some pretty traumatic events. Not just your regular daily drama – or the good old drama we see on Facebook – but real life-shaking events of loss, intense pain, and sadness. Of course, we don’t have a monopoly of these experiences – everyone goes through them, and some more than others. And, I’m not sure that I’ve always handled them very well. I can’t speak for the rest of the family, but I think I’ve been through the “7 Stages of Grief” at least twice, and I have set up shop on the anger stage for a few months, along with my other apparent favorite: depression. Unfortunately, getting stuck on either of these steps didn’t always lead to the best choices. Having been a church-going person for several years, I also tried to attach some meaning to these experiences. Many well-meaning people helped me to try to see things this way, saying things like: “This is God’s will” or “They are in a better place” and other statements meant to be encouraging. Unfortunately, often I found myself thinking: “So, why would God make this happen…couldn’t he have done it a different way? I mean, he’s God, right?” Eventually, I just settled in my mind that God knew what he was doing, but that still left questions. Maybe, I thought, God causes bad things happen for reasons only he understands. That was a little hard to handle, so I settled on the idea that God only allows bad things to happen. However, after reading Jesus’ words about the Father’s love, as well as Paul’s commentary in Romans, I found this… “We know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28) The truth is that we live in a broken world, and because of that, bad things are going to happen. Yes, sometimes our actions cause bad things to happen, and sometimes the actions of others cause bad things to happen, but most the time, bad things just happen. God isn’t to blame for all the horrible things that happen to us on this earth and neither does he send these horrible things into our lives. Even his son Jesus had to suffer all the same human pain on this earth and more! Knowing this, I am just starting to see things from a different perspective. We need to stop thinking of God as who causes the bad things to happen, or as who just allows the bad things to happen. Instead, we should see Him as the One who will help us through the bad times, take the broken pieces, and create something new and good from them. If we let him, God will take the bad things – even a combination of bad things – and make something good. You see, there is no formula, and no set timeframe, but it will happen if we allow him to do it. Yes, we will always have the memories, and it will often still hurt to some extent, but if we can look past the fog of the pain, and separate the past from the present, we will start to see God at work.
God is In Control – Believe It
"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them" (Eph. 2:10). "If you go to live in Israel, I am so totally going to come visit you," exclaimed a wonderful surrogate daughter of ours. "I totally want you to," I replied. Then, "Elohim," I began to think, "how will all this happen?" So the trouble of the double-minded me surfaces once more. King David and Solomon had the same problem, as did Jacob, Paul and Joseph, when he experienced his dreams, as well as the disciples when they realized the power Jesus had available at His hand and started pre-planning and envisioning their roles in His kingdom. I'm guilty, too, of wanting to assume I know how things are going to unfold. After all, God and I agree on so much. If that were so, if I so easily could predict His plan, why has my life been such a roller-coaster of events, good and bad? Why did I not foresee the obvious opportunities or heed the warning signs predicting catastrophe? Now, looking back, they seem so laser-clear to my repentant soul. If it had been my plan prevailing, I wouldn't have recovered from my first marriage failures as a husband. I never would have experienced the rebuilding of my life and been gifted to learn a new career using a skill set in financial planning I never believed I possessed. If I had grasped the potential of all those redeeming moments, I would not dare have predicted I once again would lose my career livelihood, being humbled into bowing at God's alter to admit my total dependence on His provision. At that low moment, I certainly would not have, in my wildest imagination, predicted that my wife and I would be offered the opportunity to go to Israel— God very obviously providing the means (ours being so pathetically meager). I guess what I'm getting at is that I'm trying to give up on predicting future circumstances. Yet certainly I don't want to throw the baby out with the bathwater: I hear God calling strongly that we are to go back to Israel. I look at the headlines of strife and turmoil—potential war in the region—and shake my head, thinking once again, "How will all this happen?" It will happen because God has designed it to happen. It will happen when He deems it appropriate, and it will be for His glory, not mine. It will be obvious when that time and purpose are ready to be set in motion because everything will fall perfectly into place. The challenge will be to keep up with God's breathtaking intention as the groundswell of other followers will respond in words similar to our adopted daughter's exclamation. Their hearts will shout, "I am moved by these events and by this example in ways I don't understand and can't explain." God, as always, will amaze us by evidence of His Spirit surging forward. “In my own strange way, I'm comforted, Adonai. I don't (and won't) have to do any of the true heavy lifting. My job will be to run as quickly as I can to keep up with You, shrugging my shoulders all the time and telling others along the way, "I don't know how, I just know Who. I believe in the power of the One True God." — Mark Cornelius
— David Pridmore Husband, Father & Recovering Hypocrite email@example.com
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P OTLUCK Are You a LocalVore? Being a “Localvore” involves buying and eating food produced close to home. Studies have shown that food grown in your region arrives to market fresher and retains more nutrients. Processing and preservatives are less needed since the food does not have to travel so far to market. Also, less resources (which are primarily fossil fuels) are needed to package and transport food to market. The warmer weather is here and Farmer’s Markets are now in full swing. Almost every Saturday you will see a deluge of people descending upon these mostly open air markets with their children and pets in tow. I am normally there in the wee hours of the morning with my baseball cap, ponytail, sunglasses and lots of cloth shopping bags looking for the best produce to make my family meals for the week. For those who want to try being a Localvore and have always wanted to go to a Farmer’s Market, but do not know what to expect here are a few tips:
Things to bring to your local Farmers Market Shopping bags – For all sizes of produce and various items such as soap. Not every vendor will give you a bag for the item that you purchase. Insulated Cooler – For items such as milk, cheese and meats. I leave mine in my vehicle and bring my cold products back to the vehicle first, so that I do not have to walk around with them in the heat while I shop. Wagon – To tote the little ones in or if you buy lots of goodies and do not want to walk back to your vehicle frequently it is a real help Cash – Even in our credit card society, cash is still king. Most vendors are small and do not take credit cards. Sunscreen – The sun can take advantage of your time browsing outside, so do not forget to protect your skin while you shop.
Plan Recipes – One of the biggest mistakes that people make is to bring home food that they do not know how to prepare. Now is the time to look for seasonal recipes, so that when you go to market you know what to buy. Inventory – When you go to market, look at the variety of items that are being sold and make a list to remind yourself what you might pick up next time. Ask – If you do not see something, ask a vendor. Many times if you want to buy something such as a whole chicken and you do not see anyone selling them, a vendor might be able to point you in the right direction as to where to go. To find a Farmer’s Market in your area, go to www.FarmersMarketOnline.com
— Charlie Kaser Charlie is an author, photojournalist and public speaker. She has spoken to numerous conventions, congregations and groups throughout the United States regarding environmental responsibility. As the mother of four and proud preacher’s daughter, she strives to “walk the walk” in her daily life. www.CharlieKaser.com
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Zucchini Parmesan Crisps Ingredients per Sandwich 2 slices wheat bread 3 slices fresh turkey breast Handful of fresh mixed greens 4 slices cucumber 2 slices tomato 1 half of an avocado, sliced 1 Tbs. Lemon Basil Aioli
Lemon Basil Aioli 1 cup mayo 1 garlic clove, minced 2 Tbsp freshly chopped basil 1 Tbsp fresh lemon juice Zest of half a lemon Freshly ground pepper
Directions Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Line two baking sheets with foil and spray with vegetable spray. Slice zucchini into ¼ inch thick rounds. Toss rounds with oil to coat well. In a bowl or plate combine breadcrumbs, Parmesan, salt and pepper. Place rounds in parmesan-breadcrumbs mixture coating both sides and Pressing to adhere. The mixture will not completely cover each round but there will be a light coating on each side. Place rounds in a single layer on baking sheets. Sprinkle any remaining breadcrumb mixture over the rounds. Bake 22 to 27 minutes until golden brown. There is no need to flip them during baking.
A N E NCOURAGING W ORD
Dream Big! Nothing good happens when you hold back!” Girlfriends gathered around the fountain outside the movie theater reciting that line from the recent film “Home Run” about overcoming family dysfunction and holding onto a 15 year dream. Another 15 year dream occurred at the Academy Awards when Ben Affleck took home the best film Oscar. He delivered a heartfelt message. “He’s a Jersey boy, ya' know,” said my Garden State friend. I’d forgotten his hometown, but will forever remember the encouragement he delivered with the acceptance speech for Good Will Hunting which he co-wrote with Matt Damon: “There will be obstacles, people will tell you no. Keep going. You will get a green light.” They dreamed big. My first big dream began at 5 years old when I took my parents classic books off the shelf and placed my Crayolas inside: Ellen. To think I had my first book signing surrounded by dolls and invisible friends. The writing dream grew 15 years ago when I left the Midwest filled with faith in myself. I thought it was about luck and didn’t understand grace until I landed at a community church in Southern California, checked the box for more information to become a Christian and dropped it in the offering basket. After years of doubting, I needed to know. A pastor and his wife met me in the church library and asked if I was going to heaven, I said yes quickly even though I wasn’t sure. He asked why, and I said, “Because I’m a good person.” Then I burst into tears knowing it was the
wrong answer. He showed me in the Bible that salvation is based on trusting in Christ alone. He said, “By grace we are saved, not by works so that no man may boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) He reassured me that everyone sins, Jesus is the only one who is perfect and that He wants to have relationship with us despite our past. The Apostle Paul spent the first part of his life as a hateful wildman known as Saul. Many people have their cometo-Jesus meeting later in life. “It’s a dream come true,” said a friend who prayed faithfully 25 years for her husband’s salvation. “I always wanted a husband who believed and would spend eternity with me in heaven.” They are living happily ever after he prayed for forgiveness at a men’s retreat. At a women’s retreat recently, I sat at the table with the following quote: She knew who she was in Christ and she dared to dream big. Tyler Perry encourages many to dream big. Under the photo of his azalea-lined driveway a fan posted: “Tyler, I’m in a shelter with my son just looking at your place makes me smile and want to dream big.” His films and life have been an inspiration to millions to pursue big dreams. I rejoice when others are living the dream, and wish someone told me sooner about Duck Dynasty. Not only are they imperfect people saved by God’s grace, putting Him in the center of family and having fun, but they’re causing all of us to laugh and dream big! — Ellen Diederich Ellen is a freelance writer and public speaker living in Franklin. She has published articles, greeting cards, a poetry chapbook and spoken to groups to encourage them to share their faith.
K ID ’ S KORNER
Water to Wine
God performs amazing miracles that can change our lives.
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS Mark 9:23 “‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes.” (NIV)
Water to Wine You will need: Unsweetened Grape Juice Baking Soda Vinegar Water 3 Transparent Glasses Instructions: STEP 1: Fill each of the transparent glasses one quarter of the way with water. STEP 2: Add one tablespoon of unsweetened grape juice to the first transparent glass and mix. STEP 3: Add one teaspoon of baking soda to the second transparent glass and mix until all of the baking soda is dissolved in the water. STEP 4: Add two tablespoons of vinegar to the third transparent glass and mix.
STEP 5: Slowly pour the liquid from the first transparent glass into the second transparent glass and observe. STEP 6: Slowly pour the liquid from the second transparent glass into the third transparent glass and observe.
EXPLANATION The grape juice is an indicator. An indicator will tell you if a liquid is an acid or a base. When you add the water and unsweetened grape juice to the transparent glass of water and baking soda, the color changed. The unsweetened grape juice or indicator let us know the baking soda was a base. When you added the second transparent glass to the transparent glass of water and vinegar the mixture turned a different color. The unsweetened grape juice or indicator let us know the vinegar was an acid.
BIBLE CONNECTION The Bible is oozing with miracles performed by God. While you were able to change the liquids different colors only God can perform miracles. — Jason Lindsey Go to www.hookedonscience.org for Beyond the Science Lab video segments and more hands-on experiments.
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B USINESS T ODAY
6 Practical Tips to Summertime Parenting
No other time challenges working moms and dads more than when summer hits and the kids are getting out of school. How do you continue working, while they have two to three months off? If you are feeling anxious and conflicted, it’s no wonder. You have responsibilities in your work and limited vacation time. As a parent you want your children to have a fun summer and also spend their time productively. While on summer break, they need alternative supervision, some continuity to their education and diverse outdoor activities. It’s a lot to handle! Reduce the stress by taking a proactive and strategic approach to summertime parenting:
1. Summer classes and community programs are abundant. To help you get started, Google “summer kids programs” and you will see the choices are endless. Research local museums, libraries, churches, public and private schools, girl/boy scouts, dance studios, soccer/hockey clubs, fitness centers, YMCA’s, tutoring centers and theatre companies.
2. Overnight camps and mission trips work well for 1-2 weeks. Talk to other parents for recommendations. If children are not ready to be away from home yet, look into local day camps or local mission projects. Have your children be involved in choosing some of their options. Negotiate between learning enrichment types of programs such as math camp with pure fun and favorite sports. Strike a balance between intellectual, spiritual and character development, along with physical challenge and creative pursuits. Consider hiring a summer nanny. Both young teachers and older students make great inexpensive and responsible helpers. Stay at home moms/dads may also be available. This can help with giving your kids some downtime to just hang out with their friends while also providing adult oversight and transportation. Seek names from a local Christian school, church, friends and neighbors. Don’t be afraid to go up to another parent while on the baseball field or waiting around at the martial arts studio and ask for ideas for summertime. Networking is a boost to smart parenting. Ask extended family to help out with supervision and driving for planned programs, or even taking your children for a 1-2 week visit at their home. Grandparents, aunts and uncle, and even long time friends may enjoy some special time with your child.
The Bible tells us to teach our children God’s principles consistently and intentionally. (Proverbs 22:6) Summertime offers a great opportunity to prayerfully consider what each of your children most need right now in their development of these principles. It is also a chance to trust God to guide you. — Elaine Morris Executive Coach & Strategic Planning Expert Partners with Dr. John Townsend in the Leadership Coaching Program For a complimentary copy of The Christian Leader’s Goal Setting Guide, email Elaine@elainemorris.com
T HE S INGLE L IFE
Celebrating the Life and Love of Single Fathers “Daddy, can we go to the movies today?” “Daddy, will you teach me to ride my bike?” “Dad, I really like this girl at school but I am too shy to ask her out.” A father's love is deeply foundational and important to children. Nothing can replace being hugged and tickled by a father or going fishing with a dad who takes the time to show a child how to place a worm on the hook and enjoy the solitude of quiet while waiting for a the fish to bite. It is important for children to know they are safe and loved with their father. I have known several single fathers who love their children with complete commitment and consistency, even through losing their wife (and mother of the children) to death. I also know single fathers who were abandoned by their wife due to selfishness. Some common characteristics these men share, according to the children, are: Strength: “Through everything we were going through, changing jobs, changing homes, Dad kept us together and always found a way to keep God as an important part of our lives.” Wisdom: “Dad always gave us advice and would be open to long talks – anytime I needed help he would listen. He would let us in on bits of wisdom from his experience in similar situations. He listened with his heart and never was too busy to stop and talk.” Safe: “Dad always made sure we were safe, he cared about who we hung out with and always paid attention to the details.” Exhausted: “Dad was always working one or two jobs to provide for us. He was tired from work but he never gave up.”
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Challenges: “Scheduling was difficult because we only had one car and one driver but Dad always tried to get us everywhere we wanted to go. Money was tight and caused stress, but that has shown me the value of hard work and what is really important. We didn't always get all the stuff we wanted, but we always had the things we needed.” Tenacity: “Looking back I know my Dad gave us his very best after the divorce and he never gave up hope! He trusted God for the things he could not change and he allowed us to still love our mom. He even moved us closer to our mom in hopes that she would want to spend more time with us. It took a couple years, but now my mom is part of our life, and that is only because our Dad moved us closer to her. He was tenacious in doing what was best for us, not what was fair or convenient.” This Father's Day let us celebrate the life and love of single fathers! Their on-going love and presence in a child's life is irreplaceable and important to their children. If you know a single father in your neighborhood, work environment or at church, take time to encourage and affirm the love and commitment they have to their children. They need to be supported and appreciated. — Tammy Daughtry, MMFT Tammy is Founder of Co-parenting International and author of “Co-parenting Works! Helping Your Children Thrive After Divorce.” www.CoparentingInternational.com.
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What Does Abortion Really Mean? Until last month, the word “abortion” didn’t mean much to most Americans. It was a freedom, a choice or an issue to be debated. However, that all changed with the coverage of the trial of abortionist Kermit Gosnell, who was charged with murdering babies who were born alive during abortion procedures. When investigators raided Gosnell’s Philadelphia abortion facility two years ago, they found what they described as a “house of horrors”. During the trial, prosecutors presented a case that few Americans thought possible in this country. The grisly and horrendous details that came out from the testimony showed that Gosnell committed unspeakable acts to helpless human beings. As atrocious as the testimony was and as hard as it was to listen to and watch, Americans learned something from this ordeal. They finally learned the truth of what abortion really is – an act of violence that kills a baby and wounds a mother. The curtain has been pulled back, and the ugly truth has been exposed. Abortion is not about providing healthcare to women. It is not about giving women choices. Abortion is the exploitation of women for profit and the taking of a precious life. Whether it is happening in inner city Philadelphia or in downtown Nashville, it is a tragedy that must stop.
Maybe now it will. Because of this case, even long-time abortion activists are now rethinking their positions, and although the abortion industry is trying to spin its way out of this, they will have a hard time continuing to convince the American people that abortion is simply a mundane procedure. Proverbs 24:11-12 says, “Rescue those being led away to death; hold back those staggering toward slaughter. If you say, ‘But we knew nothing about this,’ does not He who weighs the heart perceive it? Does not He who guards your life know it? Will He not repay everyone according to what they have done?” Kermit Gosnell has been convicted and will spend the rest of his life behind bars. As for the rest of us, we can no longer say that we knew nothing about this. We must work and pray for an end to the brutality being done to women and their unborn children every day in this country; a country that claims liberty and justice for all. — Stacy Dunn
M ONEY M ATTERS Dear Dave, I’ve been on medical leave from my job due to an injury. My doctor recently advised extending the leave another six months, but during this time I wouldn’t be paid. My husband makes $75,000 a year, and we owe $40,000 on our cars. This includes a $30,000 note on one of them. Should we take money out of our 401(k) to make it through the additional time off? — Crystal Dear Crystal, Absolutely not! You guys have dug a hole for yourselves, and borrowing from one place to fix another will only make that hole deeper. In cases like this you have to address the core issue. Your income has dropped significantly, so you need to cut your lifestyle to match your new income level. My advice would be to sell the cars, at least the $30,000 one. There’s no justification for $40,000 worth of vehicles in your garage when you’re living on $75,000. It makes me think you don’t have any savings, either, if you’re talking about raiding your 401(k). Financially speaking, you have no room to breathe right now. Serious situations call for serious actions. You’ve got to get your lifestyle down to a manageable level until you’re able to work again. And even then, there’s no reason to raise your lifestyle up to your income. Live on less than you make, Crystal. That’s what enables you to save money and be prepared when Murphy comes knocking on your door! — Dave
Dear Dave, I’m having trouble making my auto payment. I owe $20,000, and the car is worth $17,000. Should I allow the bank to repossess it, and could they take a lien against my house if they do? — Jose Dear Jose, You bet they could slap a lien on your home. You never want to go through repossession if there’s any way to avoid that scenario. If they repossess, not only does your credit take a huge hit, you also lose control of the price of the car. After a repo, the lender will sell the car and sue you for the difference. But if you sell the car, you might be able to work out a higher price, leaving you a lesser amount you’d owe for the difference. Chances are if your loan is with General Motors, they won’t work with you on the $3,000 difference. In that situation, you can either negotiate with the bank or go to another bank or credit union and get a small loan for the difference. Just make sure you pay the loan off as quickly as possible. Keep in mind, too, that even if the car is worth $17,000, it won’t bring that much on the repo lot. More than likely it would sell for about $11,000, leaving you $9,000 in the hole. By giving up control, you’d create a much bigger financial mess. I wouldn’t do that. — Dave Ramsey, Dave Ramsey is America’s trusted voice on money and business. He’s authored four New York Times best-selling books: Financial Peace, More Than Enough, The Total Money Makeover and EntreLeadership. The Dave Ramsey Show is heard by more than 6 million listeners each week on more than 500 radio stations. Follow Dave on Twitter at @DaveRamsey and on the web at daveramsey.com.
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JUNE 2013 CALENDAR VBS Village Baptist Church- 101 Matthew Blvd Destin, FL 32541 FREE (T-shirts $10) Shelli Pierson 850-837-8107, ext 104
June 7 Stargazing at Fort Pickens- Fort Pickens 1400 Fort Pickens Rd.Pensacola Beach, FL 32561 June 08 7th Annual Fishin Chix Pink Rubber Boots Ladies Fishing Rodeo-Tournament starts at 6:30 am on June 8, with fish weigh-ins noon to 2 pm. Flounder's Chowder House 800 Quietwater Beach Road, Pensacola Beach, FL 32561 June 10 – Aug 16 Holy Kidz Summer Camps @ Destin Life Center - Destin United Methodist Church June 10- Aug 16th with a one week break during 4th of July week. Each week camp will run from 8 am to 3 pm Monday thru Friday. After hour care until 6 pm will be provided by Destin Life Center if you pre-register. Register now as space is LIMITED. For more info call Tami @ 850586-8264. Jun 10 – 13 VBS Good Shepherd Lutheran Church “Tell it on the Mountain”- 1 Meigs Drive Shalimar, FL 850-651-1022 June 17 – 21 VBS Mary Esther United Methodist Church “Kingdom Rock”- 703 Miracle Strip Pkwy. Mary Esther, FL 32569 (850) 244-5546 VBS Niceville United Methodist Church “Jump. Putting Faith in Action”214 Partin Dr. S., Niceville, FL (850) 678-4411
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June 21 – 23 Fiddler on the Roof- Pensacola Little Theatre Friday & Saturday 7:30 p.m. Sunday 2:30 p.m. 400 S. Jefferson St. Pensacola, FL 32502 June 22 Discovery Saturday- 10am-noon Naval Aviation Museum, 1750 Radford Blvd. Pensacola, FL 32508
Coming In JULY July 3-4 Pensacola Beach 4th of July CelebrationThe Pensacola Beach Chamber of Commerce presents the 4th of July Fireworks starting at 9 p.m. over the Santa Rosa Sound, just behind The Portofino Boardwalk. This show is free and open to the public. You can find parking at The Boardwalk. If you have questions or want more information, call (850) 932-1500. Sertoma's 22nd 4th of July CelebrationCelebrate Independence Day in Seville Square, Downtown Pensacola. The daylong activities will feature a free children’s area. Mass Kunfuzion will be taking the Bayfront Stage at 4 pm. followed by August Body at 6:30 p.m. to kick off the largest Fireworks display on the Gulf Coast at 9 p.m. over Pensacola Bay. For more information, call (850) 262-6060. Navarre Beach hold 3rd Annual Fireworks Display-The Santa Rosa County Tourist Development Council is sponsoring Navarre Beach’s 3rd Annual Independence Day fireworks
display. The show will launch over the Santa Rosa Sound beginning at 9 p.m. The show is free and open to the public. For more information, call (850) 939-3267. Fort Walton Beach 4th of July CelebrationThe City of Fort Walton Beach Presents The 4th of July Celebration at The FWB Landing Park including A Children’s Bicycle Parade. Decorate your bike in your own patriotic theme. Registration begins at 4:00 p.m. and the entry fee is $1.00. After the parade, enjoy live entertainment leading up to the fireworks show at 9 p.m. For more information, call (850) 244-8191. July 4th Extravaganza on the Destin HarborThe celebration on the Destin Harbor will feature a hot dog eating contest at 6:30 p.m. sponsored by Dave's Dogs and Harry T's and live entertainment by Departure, a Journey tribute band. The spectacular fireworks show will begin at 9 p.m. launching over the East Pass. For more information, call (850) 424-0600. Red, White, and Baytowne-Celebrate the 4th at the Village of Baytowne Wharf in Destin. There will be a Village of kids activities from 6 p.m. to 10 p.m. including facepainting, and balloon sculpting. Live music will be featured with Coconut Radio from 6-9 p.m. and at 9:15 p.m. they will light up the sky over the lagoon with a grand fireworks display. For more information call (850) 267-8000. July 8 - 12 VBS First United Methodist Church “Kingdom Rock”-103 First Street SE, Fort Walton Beach, FL 32548, 850-243-9292, Registration deadline July 6
June 7 – 9, 14 – 16th Skyscraper- A production performed by Stage Crafters. This is a story of life, love, friendship and chance encounters. Fort Walton Beach Civic Auditorium. Tickets are $15 and available at P.S. Gifts in Fort Walton Beach or Bayou Books in Niceville or by visiting www.stagecrafters.com. Discounted student tickets are available at the door.
VBS Wright Baptist Church- Colossal Coaster World, 795 Beal Pkwy NW, Fort Walton Beach, FL
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S UPPORT G ROUPS Food Addicts in Recovery Anonymous(FA) is a fellowship available to anyone in the community who may be suffering from overeating, food obsession, under-eating, or bulimia. Everyone is welcome, including those who are concerned about someone who may be suffering. FA is a non-profit Twelve Step fellowship based on the principles of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). There are no dues or fees for members. Meetings on Tuesdays at 7 p.m. at St. Simon’s Episcopal Church, 28 Miracle Strip Parkway, Fort Walton Beach, FL. For more information call 850-259-0980 or visit foodaddicts.org. Bi-Polar, Depression Support GroupTuesdays 7:00 p.m., St. Simon’s Church, Fort Walton Beach, FL Peer to Peer Support GroupWednesday 3:00 p.m. once a month. Call (850) 244-1040 for actual dates. Location: Mental Health Association Building, 571 Mooney Road, Fort Walton Beach, FL 32547 Community Action CounselWednesday 1:00 p.m. once a month. Call (850) 244-1040 for actual dates. Location: Jobs Plus Conference Room, Fort Walton Beach, FL Brain InjuryWednesdays 9:30 a.m. Trinity United Methodist Church, 403 Racetrack Road, Fort Walton Beach, FL (850) 862-4169 MOPS GroupsMary Esther MOPSMary Esther United Methodist Church, 703 Miracle Strip Parkway, Mary Esther, FL 2nd and 4th Tuesday 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., (850) 243-7595 Cinco Baptist MOPS1st Wednesday, 9:30 to 11:45 a.m., Cinco Baptist Church, 26 Yacht Club Drive, NE, Fort Walton Beach, FL (850) 243-7656
Shalimar MOPS2nd and 4th Thursday at 9:30 to 11:45 a.m., Shalimar United Methodist Church, 1 Old Ferry Road, Shalimar, FL (850) 651-0721 First Baptist Navarre MOPS2nd and 4th Thursday, 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., 9302 Navarre Parkway, Navarre, FL (850) 9395424 Destiny Worship Center MOPS1st Saturdays, 6:30 p.m., 122 Poinciana Blvd., Miramar Beach, FL (850) 650-6800 GBUMC MOPS1st and 3rd Thursdays, 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., Gulf Breeze United Methodist Church, 4115 Soundside Drive, Gulf Breeze, FL (850) 916-1660 First Baptist Church MOPS, 2nd and 4th Fridays, 9:30 a.m. to 12:00 p.m. 622 Bayshore Drive, Niceville, FL (850) 729-6913. Celebrate Recovery- Fridays Niceville United Methodist Church, Niceville, Florida, Dinner 5:45 pm. Program 6:30 p.m. For information call (850) 678-4411, ext. 146 Celebrate Recovery- Tuesdays, Mary Esther United Methodist Church, Mary Esther, FL, 5:45 Dinner, Program 6:30 p.m. For information call (850) 243-7595 Divorce CareVillage Baptist Church, Destin, Florida, Wednesdays 6:00 p.m., Room 2209. Call (850) 837-8107
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June 8 2013 Family Life Ministries Tee up “Fore” Life Golf Tournament- Fort Walton Beach Golf Course. For information call (850) 243-5800 or go to the website www.familylifesozo.org.
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A BOUT O UR A DVERTISERS Affordable Home Insurance Inc.- Dennis P. Gagnon, Jr. Agent. 3999 Commons Dr. W, Suite F Destin, FLA 32541 firstname.lastname@example.org 850-654-4-1567 or 850-259-1414 Cold Stone Creamery –Destin Commons – (850) 837- 6838, Destin, Florida Good Shepherd Lutheran Church-1 Meigs Drive, Shalimar, FL (850) 651-1022, www.gslcshalimar.org HarborWalk Village-The historic Destin Harbor, Destin, FL. Free Parking or come by boat. www.HarborwalkDestin.com or call (850) 424-0600
Image Printing and Digital Services- Commercial, Digital Color, Mailing Services, Graphics/Pre-Press, 315 E. Hollywood Blvd., Suite 3, Mary Esther, FL 32569 (850) 244-3380, www.imagepds.com IPacket Networks-, Offering advanced network solutions to the resort condo owner at a lower operating cost. IPacketnet.com (888) 821-6476 Lord & Son Construction- We treat every one as we would want to be treated, Steve Christopher, www.lordandson.com cell (850) 259-0334 or office (850) 863-5158
Olshefski Productions- A Glimpse of God’s Wonderful Creation” OlshefskiProductions@gmail.com (850) 496-0753 Pak “N” Fax- Your One Stop Shop, 8540 Navarre Pkwy., Navarre, FL (850) 939-0990 Run the RaceWellness Coaching- Marilyn Smith (961) 271-0621 Wild Willy’s Adventure Zone – Coming Soon to Okaloosa Island, Fort Walton Beach WPSM, 91.1- The Positive Choice, 244 N. Hill Avenue, Fort Walton Beach, FL 32548 (850) 244-7667. Contact Whitney for sponsor information. www.wpsm.com
C LASSIFIEDS Good Shepherd Lutheran Church Ray Angerman - Pastor Curtis Wiese - Family Life Minister 8:00 AM - Traditional 10:45 AM - Contemporary Sunday School for All ages 9:30 Nursery Available 1 Meigs Dr. Shalimar, FL (850) 651-1022 gslcshalimar.org
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