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Publisher TM Subair Pandavath Editor TM Nisamudheen S A 2013-2014 OFFICERS Club President TM Subair Pandavath Vice President Education TM Rajshekhar Kalyanshetti Vice President Membership TM Yoosaf Vannarath Vice President Public Relations TM Nisamudheen S A Secretary TM Dr. Unnikrishnan Kuroor Treasurer TM Naresh Yadav Lanjewar Sergeant @ Arms TM Rashid Ahmed Immediate Past President DTM Dr. M S Babu Doha Toastmasters Meeting Venue: Holiday Villa Hotel , Near Mumtaza Signal Meeting Days: First & Third Saturday of every month Meeting Time: 7.00 pm - 9.30 PM Email: Website: ELOQUENCE is a newsletter published by Doha Toastmasters Club, Holiday Villa, Doha, Qatar. This newsletter is published for the internal circulation among the members of Doha Toastmasters Club and to promote the ideas and goals of Toastmasters International. Publisher or Editor does not take the responsibility for the authenticity/opinion of the articles/authors, published. Toastmasters International and its logos are trade marks. For details visit:

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Editor’s Desk Dear Readers, We have entered a new term with fresh faces in the leadership with different ideas. After the summer vacation, we have just nine months remaining to execute our ideas and activities. When we look back to our glorious past we feel proud but, anxiety will encompass our thoughts when we look towards our future. Our desire for a bright future for the club makes us motivated. Nothing to be worried. We have a lot of things for cheering; a new DTM is born in our family, new members are rolling in and DCP points are pouring in. We have adopted a theme this year: “Discover your Hidden potentials” This news letter is all about unlocking our potentials. We have already got enough exposure in public speaking but somehow we are not ready to sharpen our writing skills. Our creativity should be unravelled. Here is an opportunity for us to improve and develop our writing skills. We should utilize it fully and all we have to do is to take an initiative. Spend some time from our evening relaxation hours. As an American writer rightly stated; “Writing is an exploration. You start from nothing and learn as you go.” Yours Truly,

TM Nisamudheen S A Editor, Eloquence

Inside this Issue President’s Message




Installation 2013


Installation Ceremony

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Money. Money. Money


Fun Farm


Family Values


Handling Difficult People


Special Moments


TAC-Q Awards


Welcome to Doha Toastmasters family…..


Back to Poet


Photo Gallery




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President’s Message TM Subair Pandavath, President, Doha Toastmasters Club

Discover Your Hidden Potential

Potential is defined as the inherent ability or capacity for development, growth or coming into being. Each of us has the capacity to become someone great which will enable us to do great things in life. Unfortunately, a lot of people never

discover the potential they have within themselves. Some of the greatest

athletes never play a game and some of the

greatest actors never act a part on a major stage simply be-

cause they never realize their true potential. A normal person uses only less than 10% of his brain. There are tremendous opportunities for exploring it for better

performance. How many of you believe that toastmasters club makes you a better communi-

cator or a public speaker? If your answer is “Yes”, then you are mistaken!! Toastmasters club does not make you a better communicator or a public speaker. What makes you better is your own hard work. Toastmasters club is only a platform that helps you to become a better communicator or a public speaker. You have to put yourself into course of action. You have to discover your fellow toastmasters will support you.

hidden potentials and your

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Installation 2013 Doha toastmasters club, the first toastmasters club of Qatar conducted a glittering installation ceremony on 5th July 2013 in the presence of toastmaster’s families. Perhaps, it is the first instance of witnessing the galaxy of stars descending to grace an Installation ceremony. Well, Doha Club couldn’t have asked for more. Present at the Installation Ceremony of the Club’s Executive Committee on July 5, were the International Director of Toastmasters International (TMI) DTM George Thomas, Past Regional Advisor and Brand Ambassador of TMI DTM Sonny Varghese, District 20 Governor Victoria Ferrer Mustafa, DTM, Lieutenant Governor for Education & Training MTM Subha Anupindi, Lieutenant Governor for Marketing. TM Yasser Abdullah Sulaiman, Division E Governor TM Saquib Raza Khan, Area 28 Governor TM Rauf Ahmad, District Speakers’ Bureau Chair DTM Manzoor Moideen and other dignitaries from Qatar. The new excom members installed by the Past President TM Anil Nair in a colorful ceremony are President TM Subair Pandavath, VP Education TM Rajshekar Kalyanshetti, VP Membership TM Yoosaf Vannarath, VP Public Relations TM Nisamudheen, Secretary TM Dr. Unnikrishnan Kuroor, Treasurer TM Naresh Lanjewar and Sergeant at Arms TM Rashid Ahmed. Outgoing President TM Dr. M S Babu thanked the members for their selfless support to help bring the glory to Doha Toastmasters during his tenure and pledged all assistance and guidance to the new team. New President TM Subair Pandvath outlined the EXCOM’s plan for the year ahead in his acceptance speech. The club has adopted the tag line “Discover the Hidden Potential” for the year 2013-14. The founding members of Doha club DTM Sonny Varghese and DTM George Thomas; DTM Victoria Ferrer Mustafa; MTM Subha Anupindi and other

dignitaries felicitated the new excom and all members of the club. It

was a proud moment for the club when DTM

Victoria Ferrer Mustafa, the 2013 – 2014 Governor for

District 20 comprising of Qatar, Bahrain, Oman, Kuwait, UAE, Jordan and Lebanon, pinned her District Governor’s Home Club Ribbon on the Doha Toastmasters Club banner. Five new members Mrs Anu George, Mr.Ahmed Jaffar, Mr. Endroslam Julius, Mrs.Maniroy, and Mr.Ramdas were also

inducted into the club on this occasion. TM Girish Jain was the Master of Cere-

mony. Outgoing VP Education TM Deepak Shivankar expressed gratitude to all who contributed to the success of the ceremony.

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InstallatiIon ceremony 2013-2014

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Club Officials for the term 2013-2014

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e-Quality TM Jayakumar Menon Quality Control is passé. Emphasis, today, is on quality assurance, maintenance and sustenance. Toastmasters, too, are not spared from this shift. While one, at every conceivable opportunity, decidedly drags and drops the ‘bomb’ on quality speeches and quality appraisals, a reference ignored and apparently

untouched for valid /

invalid reasons (excuses?) is to……. quality leadership. Workshop after workshop and seminar after

seminar, potential leaders are forced to believe in

idealistic behavior patterns that maketh a good leader forgetting the circumstances, people and situations the patterns were first conceived upon. Quality leadership falls squarely on the sincerity to lead with a conviction and a sense of purpose to project a clear vision that is tangible to those who are led; leaving no room for ego driven leadership or double standards. Quality Leadership revolves around the epicenter of those who are led. Hence


should necessarily be on the quality assured to, maintained and sustained amongst the latter. Lip talk can only lead the dumb………… making the leader just that, now and ever. Quality leadership helps those led to grow their own wings of success. For the quality of those led determines the quality of the leader. Therein lies e-QUALITY! Among Toastmasters.

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M o n e y, M o n e y, M o n e y TM Rajshekhar. Kalyanshetti, ACB.

Around three hundred years back Benjamin Franklin said- “Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of filling a vacuum, it makes one.” Although this is the truth, aren’t we in a man race for money and creating wealth. For some of us money is more precious than the air we breathe or the water we drink. Some people consider money as the starting point of all evil. I wanted to join forces with them until one day I realized how important money could be. Dust was giving way to night. A cold wind was blowing at full speed. Dark clouds could be seen announcing the arrival of rain. I was still a bachelor and was relishing the last pieces of my supper. I was dreaming of the salary I would be receiving the next day. A pair of Addidas shoes was a favorite item I had wanted to buy for a long time. Then I had to send money to my aged parents. If I had any money left after setting my credit card dues, I would visit the famous vegetarian restaurant. Well I was fed up with the almost unpalatable meals I cooked for my survival. The thought of the Adidas shoes and the meal at the restaurant made my spirits soar. It was then I noticed the silhouette of a little boy appearing. I saw my neighbor’s child beckoning me. Yes, it was a telephone call and my kind neighbor had sent his little son to run the errand. I rushed to my friend’s home. It was a call from my family back in India. My uncle had been hospitalized. He needed an urgent surgery which would cost them around twenty five thousand Indian Rupees. My family wanted me to send it urgently. I knew that as the family financier, everybody looked upon my salary as the treasure chest and me as their Saviour. The next day, after office hours, I went to the ATM to withdraw money. To my amazement, I found that my balance was very meager. Probably, the bank had appropriated their dues on time. I could forget about my Adidas shoes and the meal at the restaurant. But what about my poor uncle and his family who had put all hope on me? I could not draw a salary advance, because I was already above the prescribed limit. I sat there dumbfounded. I tried with many friends to get some money on time, all in vain. The surgery did not take place and my poor uncle bid goodbye to this world forever, not even living for a couple of months to hear my version of what actually happened. When I left for my uncle’s funeral, I found my relatives to be aloof and angry. Nobody appreciated my plight. When I returned to my workplace after this horrifying experience, I realized the importance of money. If you have money on time, you can achieve many things in life, including saving a person’s life or lending it to an honorable person desperately in need of money. I was determined to change my life. The fire in me woke me up with a vengeance, I worked hard and passed many exams. With the knowledge, experience and courage I gained from my life, I set foot in the Gulf to start a new beginning. This was when I realized the folly of Benjamin Franklin’s statement. I worked hard in the Gulf and with God’s grace I could steady my life beyond my expectations. Friends, after so many years in the Gulf, I have once again started taking a liking for Benjamin Franklin’s statement, I would now like to say, yes money is something in life, not everything. I have now changed my focus from making money to creating wealth through investing in my son’s education and health and well being of my family. A happy family is better than a financially rich family.

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FUN FARM (Funny quotes on Public Speaking)

"Make sure you have finished speaking before your audience has finished listening." Dorothy Sarnoff

"It usually takes more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech." - Mark Twain

"The duty of a toastmaster is to be so dull that the succeeding speakers will appear brilliant by contrast." - Clarence B. Kelland

"Speak when you are angry—and you will make the best speech you'll ever regret." Laurence J. Peter

"Public speaking is the art of diluting a two-minute idea with a two-hour vocabulary." Evan Esar

"The human brain starts working the moment you are born and never stops until you stand up to speak in public� George Jessel

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Family Values TM Tonse Satish Rao Family Values is a phrase, which we come across pretty often. Most of us feel that we have a good idea of its meaning but not really sure as to what it really means (and perhaps a bit confused as to what precisely these values are!) This looks crazy, but, is very much a reality. It is also true that this phrase may mean different things to different people. My idea of family values may not be the same as what you understand by family values. But it is highly possible that there will be some common elements. Why family values are important? Having strong and well defined family values lays the foundation for a strong and well-knit family. Strong and consistent family values are important in building trust and confidence in each family member. Family values caters to one of the most important emotional needs i.e., need to belong. When practised, this sense of belonging provides a caring place to fall back when life doesn’t go according to plan. Before we go further, it is important to understand what we mean by ‘family’. In earlier times, it was very easy to define ‘family’ as a group of people who lived under one roof! Now joint families are an endangered species. Even nuclear families no longer live under a single roof! A Family can therefore be said to be a group of people who are mostly first degree relatives and share a bonding. Well, I hope this definition is sufficiently wide and vague and can suit wide variety of people. Family values are a set of virtues, which are commonly known as values, morals and ethics. Incidentally, they are inextricably tied together. Values are guiding principles, which are regarded as desirable. Morals are the intrinsic beliefs developed from value systems telling us how we ‘should’ behave in any given situation. It is all about doing the right thing even when no one is watching! Ethics, on the other hand, are how actually we behave in the face of difficult situations that test our moral fibre. There are many highly desirable virtues, which can find place in the set of virtues which constitutes one’s family values. Below are seven essential components of family values: 1. Fostering a sense of belonging It is important that each member of the family feel that they are loved, that they belong and that they matter. While creating a strong family unit is great, each person should be allowed the space and freedom to explore the activities they think they may enjoy. People are more courageous and more willing to take chances if they know they have a safe place to come back to when things don’t quite go as per plan. Coming together for special occasions (such as weddings, ceremonies after death etc.), coming together on holidays and just spending time together as a family is what helps build that sense of belonging. 2. Honesty This is the foundation of any lasting relationships (i.e., such as mother-daughter, husband-wife, sister-brother etc.). Without honesty, a deeper connection will not form and certainly won’t last. Encourage honesty by practising understanding and particularly remember to respect when someone tells you of your wrong doings. They are telling you because they feel that you are worthy of such a confession. If you get angry when someone tells what has happened, he will tend to hide the things from you next time – simply to avoid the disrespect.

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3. Responsibility. We’d all like to be considered responsible people. Some of us are decidedly less so. Responsibility is something that we learn. As a child you may have been shown how to put your toys away after playing, how to keep your room tidy etc. This sense of responsibility extends well into adulthood. An adult who has an intrinsic sense of responsibility doesn’t require a lot of prodding to show up to work on time, return phone calls or meet deadlines. Setting out individual responsibilities for family members works to instill this quality in everyone. 4. Flexibility I’m all for order, schedules and structure in my family to help maintain some level of sanity. But too much structure and the unwillingness to give a little can result in a lot of unhappiness and resentment. The more flexibility you have in decision making, the happier your family will be for it. Imagine one member of the family always thinking he/she is right and enforcing his/her way of doing things. This certainly wouldn’t lead to much happiness within the family unit. 5. Communication. Communication is as much an art as it is a science. Failure to communicate leads to unhappiness and misunderstandings. Small issues grow into larger ones and when they eventually boil to the surface, it’s unlikely they will be resolved calmly. Communication is lot more than simply speaking your mind. In addition to spoken words, communication also extends to tone, volume, expression, eye contact, body language and effective listening. 6. Respect. This is a bit more difficult to define. In a family, respecting each other is to take feelings, thoughts, needs, and preferences in to account when making decisions. It also means acknowledging and valuing everyone’s thoughts, feelings and contributions to the family as a whole. Respect is indeed earned and there is a very fine line between it and fear. The only way to earn and keep someone’s respect is to first show them respect yourself. Respect as an important family value will extend out of the home and into school, work or other social settings. 7. Traditions. I think traditions makes a family unique! Traditions draw people together and create a sense of belonging for everyone. Traditions don’t need to be expensive, elaborate or a lot of work. It can be something as simple as a Saturday morning chatting (even over internet, if family is scattered) or an annual get-together. If you don’t currently have traditions in your family, create them! This might be the reason for some families to start a tradition of meeting for a day or two at a specified place at least once a year. Remember, these are the family values which I think are important. In addition to these, for a meaningful life and also for a successful one, a person needs to have values, which I call as personal or individual virtues. Important personal virtues are integrity, commitment, compassion, modesty and courage. Let me conclude this not so interesting (in fact a pretty boring!) write-up with a quote, source of which is unknown: “A Meaningful Life is not being rich, being popular, being highly educated or being perfect. It is about being real, being humble, being strong and being able to share ourselves and touch the lives of others. It is only then that we could have a full, happy and contented life.”

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TM Rashid Ahmed

Do you have anyone at your workplace who always drives you crazy? An outrageous boss, or a bully colleague, who screams so much that you wish to break his head and silence him forever. If the answer is yes then the following tips are for you. Difficult people do exist at every workplace. They come in all sizes. However dealing with them depends on your self-esteem, wit, self-confidence and professional courage. It is easier to deal with when the person is just generally intolerable, fighting with everybody and breaking the rules. But dealing with difficult people is much tougher when they attack you on a personal level and undermine your professional contribution. Wait a moment! Are you a difficult person? How do we recognize a difficult person? What do they look like? Let us analyze qualities of a difficult behavior: Arguing a point over and over Choosing self-interest over what is best for the group or team Inability to compromise Talking more and listening less Not following through on commitments Showing disrespect Dominating Taking undue credits Screaming or displays nervousness Manipulates The person having any of these traits is a difficult person indeed. Everyone has own style to deal with such a person. Somebody gave me some useful tips like putting an anonymous nasty note in the person’s mailbox threatening to kidnap & demand a ransom; placing a can of deodorant on a hygiene-challenged coworker’s desk; putting dead bugs in the desk drawer of the outrageous boss; insulting him by using some respectful mother father words or else break his head off to satisfy our soul…. But these ideas can lead you to the quiet, calm and peaceful Jail in Qatar and can result in a permanent entry ban. So, let me present more productive ways to deal with your difficult coworker:

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Control your emotion: We usually regret after any conflict—or at least we wonder what we were thinking. And that's just it: We weren't thinking. An emotional reaction bypasses thoughtful deliberation. Our immediate response to a difficult person is often to fight back. We react too quickly when we feel insulted. We want to prove that we are correct—but doing it angrily and intolerantly can hinder your major objectives. It is better to control yourself and invite the person for a private discussion, ask him why he is upset. This shows that you are interested in a resolution rather than merely arguing. The responsibility now shifts back on the antagonist. Say "It sounds like you're angry right now, and I'm sorry about that." This demonstrates a willingness to understand. Always keep your cool!! Count 1 to 10 to calm yourself before responding. Calm mind thinks better and can solve so many difficulties including difficult people. Deal with the person with gentle humor or slight sarcasm. I use humor every time I deal with anybody difficult. I say oh! You are breaking my heart, it does not suite to a most beautiful lady to speak so high and this anger may decrease your charm; mama, your smile is so sweet, keep it up. Let us discuss how together we can make it better. My experience tells me that things change very rapidly and the anger turns into a pleasing smile. I once told my PRO: If you were not that handsome I would have broken your head for this behavior and to my great surprise he was laughing instead of being angry. Then I explained him the difficulty I face when he behaves like that. Humor can turn the worst situation into a pleasing atmosphere. Create a win-win situation and resist the urge to fight to win the argument. Address the problem to the person. Remember it is always better to talk to the person instead of talking about the person. Don’t become a complainer or whiner. Use “I” instead of “you.” For instance, instead of saying, “You never sent me that email,” consider saying, “I never received that email.” It will not sound like accusation. Make them friends. It is easy to deal with friends. Develop relationship, compliment them in easy moments. Wow nice shirt! You are looking great! I even asked a tall employee, will you sell your height? What a great height you got! Give me some part of it! Silly jokes only; but it develops relationships. When leaving home, forget the tension your spouse gave you, Mrs. Sharma’s necklace, neighbor’s new car or daily soap dramas, and promise yourself every day that I will make friends today, I will not make enemies. I will focus on my long-term goals rather than wasting my time for stupid silly arguments. The last, but not the least, invite them to Toastmasters.

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SPECIAL MOMENTS Barwa Speech Craft Programme

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New Members to the Doha Toastmasters Club

MTM Anu George TM Jaffar Ahmed TM Edrosolam Julius MTM Mani Roy TM RamDas Ramachandran MTM Chitra Rajeev TM Badar-el-Muneer Atique MTM Lubna Mohd Al Qatawneh TM Gary Galazo TM Deepak Jagtap

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The Road Not Taken Robert Frost (1874–1963

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear; Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black. Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.

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Outgoing Excom

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Presenters / Organizers

Friday 8th November’13

Educational Workshop

Area-12 + 18

Friday 22nd November ’13

Judging Workshop


Friday 6th December’13

2nd Club Officers Training


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Doha Gavels Doha Gavels club meets on 2nd & 4th Saturday from 3PM to 5PM at Skills Development Center, Doha.

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MISSION OF THE CLUB The mission of the DOHA Toastmasters Club is to provide a mutually supportive and positive learning environment in which every individual member has the opportunity to

develop oral communication and leadership skills, which in turn foster self confidence and personal growth.

Being a Toastmaster means more than simply making a commitment to self-development. Everyone who joins a Toastmasters club is making a commitment to the club, to its members and the organization as a whole. A TOASTMASTER’S PROMISE 

To attend club meetings regularly;

To prepare all of my speeches and leadership projects to the best of my ability, basing them on projects in the Competent Communication and Leadership Program manuals, Advance Communication manuals or competent leadership manual;

To provide fellow members with helpful and constructive evaluations;

To prepare for and fulfill meeting assignments

To help the club maintain the positive, friendly environment necessary for all to learn and grow;

To serve my club as an officer when called on to do so;

To treat my fellow club members and our guests with respect and courtesy;

To bring guests to club meetings so they can see the benefits Toastmasters membership offers;

To adhere to the guidelines and rules for all Toastmasters educational and recognition programs;

To maintain honest and highly ethical standards during the conduct of all Toastmasters activities.

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