Discovery Gardens Toastmasters Club —Newsletter
Issue 3, 2015
November 7, 2015
Freedom to Express Yourself The MISSION of a Toastmaster Club : We provide a supportive and positive learning experience in which members are empowered to develop communication and leadership skills, resulting in greater self-confidence and personal growth.
Featured programmers : Judges Training : 06 Nov 2015. Debate Contest Club : 21 Nov 2015. Debate Contest Divisions : 04 Dec 2015. Club Officers Training : 11 Dec 2015. “I know the price of success: dedication, hard work, and an unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen.” Frank Lloyd Wright “The secret of joy in work is contained in one word – excellence. To know how to do something well is to enjoy it” Pearl S. Buck “Genius is one perspiration”
Thomas Alva Edison “You have to care. You cannot do good work if you do not care. That’s not necessarily a strength but it gives you strength”. William Albert Allard:
Discovery Gardens Toastmasters Club —Newsletter
Issue 3, 2015
November 7, 2015
Freedom to Express Yourself Introspect, Sharpen & Succeed Chief Editor, Nilesh Kumar I am super excited to release this edition of DGTC newsletter. It’s my first as an editor at this club, but club’s friendly and encouraging environment makes me feel as if I have been its integral part for long. The tranquility and refreshment that I experience after every meeting replicate with that of after an exhilarating swim at sunny & beautiful Dubai beaches. And I am sure similar are the experiences of every member and guest of this family. Looking at members’ commitment and leaders dedication, I vouch for club to continue providing the best platform to sharpen your speaking and leadership skills.
In addition, the journey of toastmasters motivates us to introspect and to explore our personal and professional aspects. Such introspections are delivered as speeches, which subsequently help us learn our other strengths & weaknesses. I encourage all readers to focus on their strengths to grow and succeed in life. Spending time on a weakness is worthy only if it’s relevant to your success. Otherwise, streamlining your energy and time sharpening your strengths will do more benefits than dividing them building irrelevant skills.
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support your learning as a Toastmaster & as an individual. Feel free to reach me for comments and feedback. Wish you a happy reading and see you soon with next edition.
Editor’s Column — Nilesh Kumar
Build Your Strength Deepa S
Secret to Successful Evaluation — Priya N
Win Your Fears Arun D
Positive Thinking 5-6 - Venkat V New Members Intro - Anil & Agasthya
Rocking DGTC Team
Congratulations! Venkat Vempati on his appointment as Area Director & completion ACB. Cub wishes you success in your new role.
Ajay Rathi on Lead-
This newsletter is filled with wonderful articles, which will
ership Achiever Award 2014-15.
New members on taking up the challenge to mature as a speaker and a leader. Club wishes you success and promises to provide you support.
Be Your Own Strength President — Deepa Surendran
महात्मना परे ण साहसमं न
कर्तव्यम ् ” is one of the very important Chanakya Sutras. The clear message of this is that everyone has a responsibility towards his or her objectives. And, in my opinion to achieve the objectives everyone should “Be Your Own Strength”. We should realise the importance of being responsible of what we do. And also we must develop ourselves and become our own strength. Self-Development is a lifelong process. It's a way for people to assess their skills, qualities and their objectives in life. Based on these factors, set goals in order to realise and maximise ones’ potential. What matters most is realizing
the reason you were born is to become the best human being you can possibly be. Personal development is not a tool for reaching a bigger goal, such as career achievements or financial benefits. Becoming a complete human being is already the biggest and most noble goal you can aspire to. Self-Development should be the central mission of our lives rather than merely the means to a more limited end such as just for achieving your career goals. SelfDevelopment should elate you, gaining confidence and changing yourself in a complete circle of 360◦s. I suggest to treat yourself as best you can becoming your own strength, without depending or waiting for
My fellow members of Discovery Gardens Toastmasters often tag me as good evaluator, which definitely makes me feel good and motivates me to give my best shot each time. But was I good at it always?? NO. I believe I worked on giving evalua-
tions the way it should be given.
I had my share of flaws and mistakes in evaluations: blabbering on the stage, pointing out too many suggestions, being too critical and the list goes on. But soon I realised this wasn’t going the right way.
you wish to become or achieve. We cannot blame anyone for our failures or unhappiness. None else can be responsible for our success & happiness. Also, to have more than what we've got, then we should become more than we are. So work hard, be
Secret to Successful Evaluation VP Education — Priya Nambiar
I realised I have to script my evaluation if I have to give a good evaluation. That’s when I started scripting my evaluations during the break. I made points during the speech. Then those points are crafted in to evaluation keeping in mind the rules of evaluation.
3 positive points, 2 suggestion and end it up with summary.
I also started looking for good quotes that I can use in my evaluations which I noted it down in my communication manual. I can say there was a difference in my evaluations. My evaluations became more organised, I could reduce my Ah’s, Umm’s and other filler words. Also it helped me script my evaluations for the contest in that given stipulated time.
the business and I’m still learning every day. But I believe each and every role in toastmaster manual needs certain amount of home work. Ending my article with the hope that it might help you in a little way towards becoming a competent speaker.
I realise I’m not the best in
Win Your Fears Treasurer — Arun Damodar Life is full of surprises and challenges. Sometimes the challenges seem so big that they instill fear in you. Fear is by far the biggest obstacle to growth. The way you handle your fears, determines the altitude you reach in your life. So what’s the best way to handle one fears? A small story on this subject by one of my favorite inspirational authors, Robin Sharma : Once there was a wise monk living deep in the mountains .One day, he was on his way walking to a temple in the mountains .After walking for a long time, he finally reached the gates of the Issue 3, 2015
isolated temple.As he walked towards the temple , he suddenly noticed five black dogs .The dogs looked scary with blood shot eyes and salivating at their mouths.Suddenly they started running towards the monk. The wise man saw the dogs running towards him and did something strange. He started running towards the dogs !! Now it was an extraordinary scene !! The dogs running towards the monk and the monk running towards them .The dogs had never experienced anything like this before .They saw the man running towards them and scattered away into the forest!!
In life , when you face fearful situations do not avoid them. Run towards your fears and they will run away from you !! Always remember to run towards your fears!
Positive Thinking Area Director — Venkat Vempati
“If you think positively, sound becomes music; movement becomes dance and smile becomes laughter”. Let us appreciate the power of “Positive Thinking”, by knowing how dangerous negative thinking could be. Negative thinking sees everything in the worst possible way. It can drain our energy and can even kill. To explain this, let me share a small event from history which is well documented in the book “How full is your bucket?” by Tom Roth and Donald Clifton. I narrated this as part of my ACB speech “Story Telling” delivered in Dubai Petroleum Club. It was Korean War in 1950-53. The war was between North Korea supported by communists: Russians and Chinese on one side and South Korea supported by Americans on the other side. The war was short – lasted for 3 years, but 5 Million people lost lives. America suffered heavily. 40,000 Americans died, more than 100,000 wounded and thousands were captured alive. In a war, those captured alive are called Prisoners of War (PoWs). They are retained in special camps for some time and then exchanged on both sides. The treatment given to the PoWs is generally harsh. With no proper food, PoWs are made to starve turning them into skeletons. With no strength to fight back, they are kept alive only to facilitate exchange of prisoners and for other political reasons. Some of the torture methods are extremely cruel and include: Water boarding: The prisoner is tied on to a slanting board - flat on his back with head down. Face is covered with a cloth and water is poured. The man cannot breathe and suffers from a feeling of getting drowned. With inadequate oxygen, the brain gets partially damaged. Page 5
Sleep deprivation: Prisoners are not allowed to sleep. They are tied in standing positions and water is sprayed on the face to prevent from sleeping. Confinement in boxes, sexual violence and humiliation are other common methods. Unable to withstand such treatments, generally about 10-15% of the prisoners die. In case of the American PoWs, the death rate was very high at 38% - the highest PoW death rate in US military history. The prisoners were provided adequate food, water and good shelter – far better compared to many PoW camps. Still the death rate was 38%. What was the cause of this high death rate? In this particular camp, North Koreans adopted certain strategy:
North Koreans encouraged the prisoners complaining against each other. They gave the prisoners rewards such as cigarettes for this. But neither the offender nor the soldier reporting the violation was punished. The captors encouraged this practice only to break relationships and turn the men against each other.
The captors gathered groups of 10 or 12 soldiers and each man was encouraged to confess before the group: “Tell us, all the bad things you have done – as well as all the good things you could have done but did not do to your fellow soldiers”. In fact, the soldiers were not ‘confessing’ to the captors, they were confessing to their fellow soldiers. The negativity came out. This had resulted in erosion of trust, respect and social acceptance among Americans. The captors undermined slowly the allegiance of a soldier to his boss and country. The relationships had been broken and the soldiers simply did not care about each other.
Flooding the soldiers with negative emotions: If a soldier received a supportive letter from their home or friends, the captors withheld it. All negative letters, such as those telling of a relative passing away, or a message from wife which said “I have given up on your return and am going to remarry” – were delivered to soldiers immediately.
Flood of negative emotions !! There was no emotional support either from with-in or outside. Everything was negative and everybody was negative. They were put in a condition of emotional and psychological isolation with all negativity. There was no trust and respect among all the colleagues. The relationships had been broken. No friend, no boss, no country. They did not care for anyone but completely surrendered physically and mentally. With extremely hopeless situation, the effects were devastating. The soldiers had nothing to live for and lost basic belief in themselves, their loved ones, God and country. After the initial few months, the Koreans removed the fencing all around. Also, subsequently withdrew the security guards. Yet no prisoner tried to escape !!!.
A soldier would go into a corner alone, sit down, and pull a blanket over his head. He would be dead in two days. It’s no surprise that 38% had died on their own !!!
The captors would even deliver overdue bills from collection agencies back home.
Finally, they were handed over to Red Cross in Japan. Red Cross volunteers offered them telephones to ring any of their families or friends to convey them that they were safe, alive and would be returning shortly. But, very few bothered to make a call. Even, after returning home, the soldiers were very quiet with no friendships or relationships with anyone. An emotional and psychological isolation !!!.
Koreans employed the “ultimate weapon” with their objective “to deny any emotional support”.
Dear fellow Toastmasters, The entire sea water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put us down unless we allow it to get inside.
Introduction â€” New Members Anil Kumar
I am a qualified Chartered Accountant from India. I have been in UAE for more than 16 years and at present I work as Finance & Admin Manager of a food Industry owned by a French multinational company. I reside in Dubai Investment Park with wife and 2 daughters. My main hobbies are chess, cricket and swimming. For coming to my personal life, I lead a very happy and peaceful life and my weekends are mainly dedicated to family and friends. Regarding my passion, I would like to reach the highest corporate leadership. Now a days I am more involved in business meeting and would like to get real feedback from others about my speech and gestures. I think Toastmasters club is an ideal platform for this. Also I believe that getting acquaintance with various people and becoming friends with them will add more value to personal life.
I am a science enthusiast who like experimenting and exploring technology. In fact, one of my works is published in the Indian patent journal and upcoming in Indian journal of science. I completed my BE in 2014 and working with Al-Tayer Engineering as Sales Executive now. Another passions of mine are athletics, fishing & body building. I chose Toastmasters to improve my command over English, to enhance confidence and to learn the art of networking, which are required in both personal and professional life. And to be a good leader and distinguished gentleman.