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UNEASY SPEAKING: A path through conversation Sometimes you’re forced to have conversations at work that you would rather avoid.

Life is awkward. But generally, it is those

awkward moments that give the most life lessons. In both work and real life, people are forced to discuss things that they wish could remain unspoken. The conversations that no one wants to have are the most important, whether it be on personal life, someone’s bad breath or career discussions. These conversations may be unwanted, but without them development would be impossible. I am not a psychologist, sociologist or anthropologist, so I cannot give technical analysis of conversations and growth based on another person’s research. However, I do have some personal anecdotes that I think are valuable lessons in handling those hard

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conversations, how I have handled some in my past, and what I could have done better. My senior year of college, I lived in a townhousestyle on-campus apartment complex with three other roommates. I went to a small college, in the middle of the mountains, surrounded by trees and land, so we spent a lot of time sitting around talking about our dreams, goals and future plans. While these should have stayed upbeat and hopeful conversations, one of my roommates’ favorite ways to turn the conversation was to discuss, in explicit terms, what our biggest flaws were. I do not mean to say that she was trying to get us to think deeply about where we were in life and how we needed to work on ourselves to make our