August 2015 Issue 3
Dubai Foundation For Women & Children Publications
She Says Every day we try our best for the betterment of the lives of those who need the most support. Itâ€™s our job. We deal with victims of abuse and trafficking. We see children, and helpless women. We provide them with the necessary support until theyâ€™re strong enough to stand tall and then we re-introduce them to the society. When they leave, we see different people than the ones who we first met. It is a daily act of kindness, and possibly our calling in life. We consider ourselves blessed to be able to live in the service of others, but we wonder how would the world be if every one of us changed one negative reaction a day, and switched it to an act of kindness? It could be giving way to a stubborn driver next to you on the road or perhaps volunteering your precious time for a good cause. Each one of us is capable of making a change, whether we are trapped in corporate offices or raising our children at home, it all starts with a small act of kindness, and soon becomes a habit.
Afra Al Basti Director General
Hero In the Shadow 1
First Family Day
Facts & Figures
Whyabused women remain silent
An act of Kindness
Hero In the Shadow: Gemma Salayo
What do you do at DFWAC? (Describe a normal day at work) I prepare coffee and breakfast for the staff every morning, I set up the conference room if there are any meetings or events, serve the guests, and I’m also a messenger.
You work in a place that serves victim of abuse, how does that effect you personally? Does it satisfy you to know you’re contributing just a little to a good cause? I’m definitely satisfied I am contributing to cause, even if it is It’s heartbreaking to people are suffering
that a good indirectly. know some from abuse.
How has working for the foundation changed you?
Working for the foundation changed me to be an open minded person, and always seek to create a friendly environment in the office.
What do you to unwind on your day off?
On my day off I like talking to my family back home, watching Korean drama, hanging out with my friends and going to the movies. I believe being around positive people will really change your entire day because laughing is the best medicine.
We know you don’t deal with the victims directly, but you are always there to cheer up the employees with sweet notes and nice gestures, what makes you do that?
I’m always keen on cheering them up with sweet notes and hugs because I want to lift up their spirit, and motivate them when they have a difficult day. I like to always remind them that I’m here for them, to cherish them, take care of them and always make them happy because I know they have an extraordinary kind of job.
If you had to make one wish right now what would it be?
If I had one wish right now it would be to go skydiving, I want to experience that feeling.
Growing up, what was your dream job? My dream job is to be a nurse.
The Dubai Foundation for Women and Children is working to take advantage of the sheltering period of the women and children victims of abuse with its â€œEmpowerment Programâ€? by providing them with life and professional skills. Those skills will be useful to them in the end of their rehabilitation program, as well as to ease their suffering by organizing trips and recreational activities. The program includes a variety of activities, including recreational activities and vocational training that include workshops, drawing, painting and sculptures in addition to various culinary arts lessons and trips at least twice monthly,
to encourage an atmosphere of joy and pleasure while healing. The program includes awareness and educational activities of a series of lectures and workshops relating to daily affairs, such as personal safety and how to deal with children and the prevention of fires and how to deal with various daily risks, and other topics that some cases lack sufficient awareness. During the month of Ramadan DFWAC organizes a number of awareness lectures in addition to Quran classes and other related activities to the holy month.
painting, music and games as well as organizing leisure trips, in which children are under the full supervision of specialists. Also as a part of the program, DFWAC organizes a number of events throughout the year such as the annual Iftar in the holy month of Ramadan, and other activities that contribute to the success of the rehabilitation to overcome the difficulties the cases went through.
The project also offers special recreational activities for children such as drawing,
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The Dubai Foundation for Women and Children celebrated the International Day of Families on the 15th of May, by organizing the First Family Day Festival at Fazza Beach, which aimed to strengthen the bonds between all family members, and offered a lot of fun and art activities for the large number of people who participated in the event. The Festival offered many interesting beach activities for all ages in addition to the competitions and the valuable prizes, which all succeeded to attract a big crowd to the event, and gathered many family members
at one place to spend a fun family time. The idea of the establishment of this event comes in the framework of the UAE government strategy that focuses on family and children, and also as part of the Foundationâ€™s aims to strengthen family bonds, which contributes in the prevention of abuse of various kinds, especially as family disintegration is one of the main causes of this phenomenon. The Foundation chose the International Day of families to establish this festival to emphasize the importance of the role of a bonded family in building and developing the community, as well as its role in raising new generations able to stay on the course and ensure a brighter future. DFWAC was proud of the fact that the festival
included fun and exciting activities gathering the whole family, from children to parents, thus contributing to strengthen the links between them. Many families members do not spend enough time with each other due to their responsibilities throughout the week, and the fact that their children prefer to spend the weekend with their friends. This festival is an invitation for everyone to care more about their relationship with their families and care to spend more time with them.
Childhood Carnival A fun way to educate children about abuse prevention The Dubai Foundation for Women and Children is keen to raise awareness among all members of the community about child abuse issues, through a range of initiatives and awareness activities held throughout the year. “Childhood Protection” awareness campaign comes on the top of DFWAC’s initiatives in this field, and it is launched every year in April, which is considered the month of child abuse prevention in many countries around the world.
DFWAC chose to culminate its campaign for this year by organizing the “Childhood Carnival” in collaboration with Al Jalila Cultural Centre for Children, at the Centre’s headquarter in Dubai, un-
der the slogan “Childhood Is Precious Protect it”, to provide a variety of interesting and fun educational activities that includes awareness messages to the children about how to protect themselves from getting abused. Hundreds of children from all ages and groups accompanied with their parents participated in the Carnival to attend the theater performances and art and music workshops, and photography seminars, as well as sports activities, in addition to the participation of a number of schools that organized trips for students to participate in the carnival.
The Carnival also aimed to educate parents and school supervisors about how to protect children from be-
ing exposed to abuse, as the Foundation is seeking to organize these types events and awareness initiatives, to reach the stage where all members of society, especially the children become the source to spread awareness on this issue. Many parents who participated in the Carnival expressed their happiness in this unique carnival, pointing out that it had succeeded in educating their children a lot about the prevention of abuse, in an interesting and entertaining way for the child and family, thanking the Dubai Foundation for Women and Children and Al Jalila Cultural Centre for this great effort to serve the community and its members.
DFWAC helps victims of violence in finding jobs by offering them training workshops during their rehabilitation period #services #Dubai A lot of things in our lives can be replaced except the Family so make sure that it always comes first #advice #GoodMorning #Dubai #UAE Your childrenâ€™s memory plays the main role in forming their characters so make sure they have enough good memories about you #GoodMorning #RememberTheElders Speaking with elders is like having free lessons about life DFWAC has visited elder people today at Thekhr elders club to celebrate the #WorldElderAbuseAwarenessDay on #May15
We apply the latest international practices in the field of care & rehabilitation of victims of abuse #services #goodmorning #childabuse #Dubai #UAE
Make sure you choose the domestic workers carefully as they will affect on your family and children everyday #advice #Goodmorning #Dubai
One of the childrenâ€™s psters at the Childhood Carnival #ChildhoodProtection #Dubai #UAE #awareness
Summary of 2nd Quarter 2015 Statistics on DFWAC Internal & External Clients J u n e , M a y, A p r i l Total number of New Clients Internal External
Total number of Discharged/ Closed
Total number of Active Clients
Other Categories of Violence Perpetratorsâ€™ Relationship to Clients Internal
Type of Clients
Type of Clients
Age Category 18 Children less than
Types of Abuse
Internal Clients Clients who entered and received in-house shelter and support services at the Foundation
Witnessed Domestic Violence
External Clients Clients who received support services without shelter
Why abused women remain silent… Fear
Promise to get better
Feeling of guilt
Wrong beliefs & norms
Lack of Knowledge
The Characters of an Abuser
• Keen on maintaining a good image • In general, Abusers act rationally and • Denial and belittling the abuse act, in front of people, appearing as a appears ideal outside the scope of they usually remember what they respectable person helps the abuser feel their families. did even if they act like they didn’t. comfortable and happy with himself. • They feel that they have their excuses and reasons and they don’t take responsibility for their actions. They blame the victim, or attribute these behaviors to alcohol, their childhood, their children and other reasons.
•Confusing love with abuse, abusers try to convince themselves that their mistreatment and aggressive behavior is derived from the extent of their love for their families.
•Possessive and perceive their partner and children as something they own. This sense of ownership is one of the reasons that lead for the abuse to get worse with time.
An act of
Have you committed one? Tell us your story. “My maid’s nephew was suffering from leukemia and she was very sad as they were struggling every month to pay for his chemotherapy… I insisted on paying for his treatment for as long as it takes, and six months later he was cured.” – Amira Habib
“I’ve seen a relative of mine “I’ve once spoken to a woman distribute chilled bottled water who was interested in making a to the laborers working in the donation to the foundation, and heat, and if they’re across the she said it was her daughter’s street from her house she would birthday and instead of the make a head count and share a regular massive princess parties cooked meal that was made for she started encouraging her to her family with them.” dedicate her birthdays to giving – Fatma Rashid back. On her last birthday they distributed cupcakes to people in a poor neighborhood nearby, “I was at a supermarket once, and on that specific birthday and a little boy was sent by his she wanted to give back to mother to buy milk and bread the abused children at the and the amount added up foundation’s shelter.” exactly to that, and he had a – Fatma AlFalasi soda at hand when the cashier told him his money is not enough, he took the drink back with the saddest look. I was behind him in line, and I told the “I made it a regular habit to say cashier I’ll pay for it.” hello and have a conversation – Anonymous with our cleaner at work, and one day she came and told me it was her birthday and she’s been saving for a while to take her friends out for dinner at a nearby KFC. It hit me then how we have the luxury to treat our friends to a fancy dinner at any time we want, and I gave her enough money to take all her friends out as a birthday gift. She was in tears and full of gratitude for such a simple gesture.” – Anonymous
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