THINGS AREN’T ALWAYS WHAT THEY APPEAR www.LIVEforeclosureFREE.com
Here is an article that was sent to me over e-mail but there was no author given. If anyone knows who the author is I'd be grateful to give credit to it. This is a great example of how things aren't always what they appear to be. *DIRTY LAUNDRY* A young couple moves into a new neighborhood. The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees the neighbor hang up the wash outside. "That laundry is not very clean," she said, "she doesn't know how to wash correctly. Perhaps she needs another laundry soap." The husband looked on but remained silent. Every time her neighbor would hang out the wash, the young woman would make the same comment. About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her husband, "Look! she has learned how to wash correctly. I wonder who taught her this?" Her husband said, "I got up early this morning and washed the windows." And so it is with life: What we see while watching others depends on the purity of the window, which we look through. *** How was your mind conditioned? Do you see negative scenarios in your mind before they ever happen? The training we’ve grown up with may be conditioning our minds to see life through distorted eyes. It can be a HUGE handicap and would certainly prevent us from reaching our full potential. By changing what you think, you change how you feel, and eventually change your life’s outcomes. Lets say that because you have lost your job, and can’t make your house payment, you feel like a failure. What does your brain have to be telling you in order to make you feel like a failure? Is it saying you’re useless? You’ll never measure up? You’ll never get anywhere in life now that you’ve run into some hard times? Disconnecting our mind from those types of fixed opinions are what gets us through the hard times and back on track again. The dark feeling leaves and
we start to put everything back into perspective. To replace those disconnected thoughts by reminding yourself that, “No, I’m not a failure because of losing my job, it’s happening to good folks just like me.” and, “I can find a way to make it work for me, and my family, as long as I don’t give up.” and, “I can still be successful just like most millionaires who have failed their way to the top.” Over and over again I’ve coached people who look at life through negative glasses only to find that a combination of re-training the mind, and a true forgiveness of the heart, makes all the difference. When these two key ingredients are combined a powerful feeling of freedom takes over and anger and judgment flee. Its not a mystery like some might think. It is an opportunity to be the person you were meant to be. To forge ahead with the purpose you were meant to have. How do you forgive your spouse for getting fired? How do you forgive the banker for foreclosing on your home? A child who hurts you over and over again with their rebellion? Forgiveness is a topic that would take many pages of reading or several minutes to explain. It boils down to this. You are either the kind of person who builds a list of all the wrong doings others have done to you, or you are choosing to work on the forgiveness you would like others to give you. If you keep score, you might feel upset in your stomach quite a bit, or have illnesses frequently, sudden bursts of anger or a sharp tongue. Is it serving you well? Most people will stop reading right here. Most want to hold on to bitterness like its their very best friend because it's comforting and normal. Most people don't know that's its a poison they keep drinking every time they choose to keep it. If you want to keep it then stop reading. If you want answers then keep reading. I'm going to give you a short quiz. See if you can answer the following questions:
How would it make you feel if you knew your self worth was NOT dependent upon your ability to perform? How would you feel if the truth about your identity, and sense of worth, is found in who you are rather than what someone else told you or did to you, would that change things for you?
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If you didn't have to seek the approval and acceptance of other people, but instead you chose to believe that you're already approved and accepted would that make a difference to you? What if you decided to choose the truth that you have been forgiven already, not because of the things you did that you thought were right, but simply because someone gave you mercy without asking anything in return, would you like to experience that kind of forgiveness? If it were possible for you to have this already simply by choosing to accept it on faith, would that help move you forward in a positive way? Now how different do you think your life would be if you were able to do this same thing for someone else?
Bitterness would disappear. If it were to come back, you repeat the questions. CHOOSE to look at them as though their worth is not in how you look at them through your angry eyes but instead in the truth that their identity and sense of worth is found in who they are - not what they did or didn't do to you. If you were able to see yourself in this way, then you can see others this way as well. You can let go of bitterness because they don't get it any more than you did before reading the last two paragraphs. You see, life has taught us to get mad and stay mad until someone is man enough to apologize. But how long will you wait if that never happens? Until you die? Holding on to that bitterness is poison in your heart, your mind and in your body. Choose to let it go today.
Kellie www.LIVEforeclosureFREE.com These articles are copy right protected and written to help anyone seeking information to improve their situations, add personal growth to their list of priorities or coach someone they care about. I encourage you to share these articles, and when you do, please make certain they remain in their full,and complete version. Thank you!