James Newton, Julie Burst, Catherine Cousins Burst, Jared Burst, Deborah Burst, Michael Burst
Deborah & Michael Burst
Yes, it’s a momentous string of events, tears of joy with the proposal, the engagement party, a shower or two, and lots of fun planning the wedding events. But don’t forget you, too, will be one of the stars of the show and you need to find that perfect dress. Many of us have little experience in such a feat, especially since those days of tight-fitting dresses were over decades ago. However, we can still look like a member of the royal family or even better, a character lifted from the pages of a fairy tale. Most women love to shop, and no matter your preference—online, rental, or department store—there are more options now than ever before. After shopping for two dresses in six months’ time – for both my son and daughter’s weddings – there were many lessons learned, from weaving through jungles of jeweled jackets to dreamy designer gowns fit for a queen. It was a surreal journey, both funny and frustrating, in finding that most perfect dress. Unfortunately, it seems the higher-end bridal shops no longer carry the mother-of-the-bride designs. However, there are discounted bridal shops that do offer a more substantial selection of dresses for mom in both prices and sizes with the added luxury of an assistant who will grab a different size dress or bring in a seamstress for estimates. Most prefer an appointment, but they do accept walk-ins. Depending on 70 DeSoto
the degree of modifications, the cost of alterations can be pricey; look for a local seamstress in your community for more reasonable prices. Be creative in your shopping, both online or in stores. Be upfront with your salesperson: tell her what you like, and most of all, what you don’t like. When searching online, think twice about the description typed in the search bar. Often times, it will list some pretty dull mother-of-the-bride dresses; instead try typing evening attire, formal wear, or ball gowns. Most of us are in our 50s or 60s and want a more elegant look. And depending on the season and time of the wedding, some favor full length, while others prefer a tea-length. Let’s talk clearance sales, mainly in stores that are shutting down. True, you may get a dress under $100, but at times it can be tedious trying to juggle the gowns looking through rows and rows of jumbled sizes. Be sure to check the dressing room rules, many have limits on the number of dresses you can bring in. These stores can be quite lacking in customer service as well. Speaking from personal experience, be careful who you invite to assist you on your shopping spree. It’s not the time for someone to suggest you invest in a gym membership while looking at the mirror. Dealing with a salesperson who brings in a full body girdle that looks more like a scuba wetsuit is not the
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