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Complimentary January 2017

Living the Good Life

Enhancing Life Through World-Class Care 1 IREDELL LIVING • JANUARY 2017






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Welcome to the January issue.


At Iredell Living, we want to wish everyone a happy, healthy, and prosperous 2017! Another year is here and with it comes resolutions, trying to break old habits and getting into some new ones.

Living the Good Life

January 2017

Exercise and losing weight are usually at the top of the list for most folks. Like many of you, I put on some extra weight during the holidays and will work to get this unwanted weight off in January. Good luck on keeping all your new year’s resolutions in 2017! Coming in February! I am excited to announce the launch of Iredell Living Today—a new website featuring local stories, fresh content and advertising opportunities for this place we call home—celebrating where you live, work

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January 2017

8 • Setting Goals For 2017 12 • Catawba Regional Hospice

Enhancing Life Through World-Class Care

18 • Statesville Civic Center

Plans Statesville Bridal Expo February 19

24 • Is It A Girl Or A Boy?


27 • What's Cooking?!

Stew Beef With Carrots And Potatoes

28 • A Word From The

Statesville Chamber Building Relationships Is Good Business

30 • A Word From The

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Mooresville–South Iredell Chamber Annual Luncheon & Awards Ceremony

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Setting Goals for 2017 By Cheryl Grant

were happening in my life…it seemed one after another… major struggles were presenting themselves to me to overcome. I made an appointment with a counselor, and what I cherished most about that time with her were the questions she asked me and the thought process that led me to the answers. Many times, we need an outside opinion of what we are doing and thinking in order to realize how we are sabotaging ourselves. Most of the time it is obvious to others what our problems are, but we can’t see the forest for the trees. It just takes someone asking us the right questions before the light bulb goes off in our head. What are you waiting for? What is holding you back? Can you see others living the life you want, but you can’t see yourself fulfilling that dream? Do you feel unworthy? Who made you feel unworthy? Do you need permission? I’m here to tell you, you are worthy of living your dream, and I’m giving you permission to dream BIG!


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ach year as January first rolls around, many of us make a list of things we are going to stop doing, things we don’t like about ourselves, and bad habits we are going to break. These are called our new year’s resolutions. This year, instead, make a list of things you want to accomplish; things you want to do instead of things you want to stop doing; things that you may have dreamt of doing for years but never acted on. My mother-in-law used to say, “If you live to be 100, life is still short.” There is no time like the present to start bringing those dreams into reality! I went through a period in my life when I felt I needed counseling, an objective opinion, a life coach. I was stuck. Bad things



Are you afraid of failing, or do you have a fear of success? Failing is a part of succeeding. So what if you mess things up? That just gets you one step closer to your goal! Are you afraid if you succeed that you will change and leave others behind? Well, change can be really good as long as your value system is intact. Maybe you won’t leave others behind. Just maybe you will inspire them to fulfill their own dreams! The bottom line is this: If you don’t like the direction your life is going, you are the only one who can change it. That change starts in your mind’s eye with what you focus on, what you say to yourself, and what you believe is possible. Write down your aspirations, then start moving toward your goals. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and reaching your goals will take time, but half the fun is the journey. Action is required to fulfill any goal, and it starts with you seeing the possibilities and not limiting yourself. What do you want in 2017?!







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On the cover–Catawba Regional

Enhancing Life Through World-Class Care By Kristie Darling

“My dad was so impressed with the compassion he felt and quality of care he received when our hospice volunteers came over,” Vickie Helms shared with me. “I’d been doing all that I could for two years, but he needed more. Dad’s in-home hospice care lasted eight months, and he moved into the Catawba Regional Hospice House a week before he passed away. Hospice made a huge difference in all our lives. It gave me a peaceful feeling in my heart.” Ever since my own experience with hospice in my family, I’ve said the same and heard stories just like Vickie’s. Catawba Regional Hospice is a jewel in our community, one that everyone should know more about. 12


Hospice’s leadership team includes, clockwise from top–David B. Clarke, president/CEO; Caron Tucker, vice president of clinical outreach; David W. Cook, chief operating officer/executive vice president; and Kelly Tate, vice president of community outreach. Pictured, above–Helping coordinate the

local work of Catawba Regional Hospice are, left to right–Sara Waugh, volunteer services coordinator; Dr. Jim Ross, foundation board member; and Kelly Tate, VP of community outreach. Opposite page–Supporting the needs of the medical community are Caron Tucker and Stuart Madow, director of professional relations, Iredell/Mecklenburg counties. (Photos by Shane Greene Photography)

ALL THAT HOSPICE IS, AND ISN’T Educating patients, families, and our entire community about the many ways CRH provides care and services is a critical role of the entire hospice team. Stuart Madow, director of professional relations, said, “Anyone can make a hospice referral—an initial call to us—to ask, what does CRH do? How do I start? What should we expect? Not just doctors make referrals, but friends, family, clergy, anyone. But if folks don’t understand all that we do—our services and the types of circumstance our patients and families are experiencing—if they are misinformed—those important calls don’t get made. That’s really unfortunate.” What I learned talking with the CRH clinical and administrative team is that you don’t have to travel this journey alone.



It’s expensive. No, because CRH believes in the value of end-of-life care, they pledge to never turn anyone away who is eligible for services. Those who are uninsured, underinsured, or not covered in other ways are supported through the CRH Foundation’s funds, received in part from memorials and donations. Payments for services are typically covered by Medicare, Medicaid, and other insurance plans.

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Only your doctor can make a referral. Anyone can make a referral to CRH.

Once you are enrolled, there’s no turning back. You can stop hospice care anytime, for any reason. Creative Director Jason Meyer recalled, “Sometimes folks ‘graduate.’ Our medical staff might stabilize a patient or get their medications right, and they go home. One patient came in, she was nursed back to health, went home, and eight years later attended our open house.”


You must move into the Hospice House. “A clear majority of patients are cared for at home,” Beneta Sherrill, facilities coordinator, explained. “Wherever you are most comfortable, CRH is there.” At home, in a nursing or assisted living facility, a retirement center, hospital, or a hospice house, extraordinary care is given.


Hospice is for people without hope, with only a few days to live. Vickie Helms shared another story, “After a sudden, serious cancer diagnosis, we really thought Mother had just a couple weeks left, but during the

next five weeks living at the Hospice House, she realized that CRH was not just a place to ‘go to die.’ She really was happy there, and her last days were pleasant, and her passing was very peaceful.” This is a common story that families share with gratitude.


You must stop taking your medications. Care plans are always made individually, patient by patient. Choices like this are made by the patient, the physician, and family.


Pain is always managed by sedation. Low-dose medication for chronic pain is a starting place to regain comfort and only increased if the patient is still hurting and requests it.


All hospices are the same. CRH is one of North Carolina’s original three hospices, licensed in 1979. It is independently owned, and as such, has developed unique programs that address needs right here. CRH believes that support can be provided by “neighbors taking care of neighbors,” bringing in nurses and volunteers who live nearby.


Hospice will replace family in caregiving. Hospice partners with family members in both caregiving and decision making. A compassionate team of professionals and highly trained volunteers are devoted to the physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being of everyone on this journey together.



PROGRAMS OF CARE “People think this is a place,” Kelly Tate, VP of community outreach, said, “but it’s really a philosophy of care. Our programs extend that care to all with a need. Everyone on our team is a devoted partner in making our programs beneficial and helpful.” CRH serves patients of all ages, including infants and children, regardless of circumstances or background at two Hospice Houses and in homes and care facilities in 10 counties.

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Expertise in unique medical conditions: “We’ve developed special programs treating common conditions associated with end-of-life care, such as COPD, congestive heart failure, and dementia, both at home and in the Hospice House,” Dave Clarke, president and CEO, explained. “We have staff with training and experience in all areas, and patients benefit tremendously from our specialized programs.” We Honor Veterans: Caron Tucker is VP of clinical outreach. She told me that one in four dying Americans is a veteran. “We Honor Veterans is supported, in part, by Richard’s Coffee Shop in Mooresville, where it’s veterans helping veterans. Our program has achieved Level 4 status, the highest possible, through the US Department of Veterans Affairs.”

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• Caring for patients happens in ways large and small. • Promoting quality of life is CRH’s primary goal. • Directing patient care at the Sherrills Ford Hospice House are, left to right–Heidi Byrd, director of clinical services, inpatient units; Beneta Sherrill, facilities coordinator; Megan Frasure, nurse practitioner; and Patti Goodwin, director of clinical services, South team. • Offering support for organizational efforts are Dr. Ross and Carol Stutts, CRH board member. 14


Center for Grief & Healing: Everyone deals with grief differently. Often, we can’t imagine how we will heal. Counselors and volunteers work compassionately, with nurturing experience, on many levels. Brighter Days Grief Camps are safe, supportive environments for children and teens to talk freely about loss with people specifically trained to do this work. Conversation, crafts, and friendships bring youngsters’ feelings out. Reaching out to schools, churches, and other agencies is part of CRH’s community support programs. Contact the bereavement department for more details. Respite Care: Caring for someone near the end of their life

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• Patient and nurse are partners in care (with a little extra help!). • Catawba Regional Hospice serves patients in 10 counties. • The Sherrills Ford Hospice House (The top two photos on page 14 amd on this page were provided by Catawba Regional Hospice. All other photos were taken by Shane Greene Photography.) is demanding; it’s not easy. When hardworking, devoted family members need a break, CRH can provide up to five days of temporary relief by offering patient care in the Hospice House during a caregiver’s critical time off.

This is just a short list of services, programs, and benefits of Catawba Regional Hospice. I recommend a look at their website,, and a call to speak with someone who can help.

Volunteer Training: “Hospice volunteer training is almost identical to staff training,” Kelly Tate said. “Whether you know you want to be a hospice volunteer or want to find out if it’s a good fit for you, the training provides understanding of the hospice philosophy, communicating with and serving patients, families, and friends, as well as a firm understanding of supporting roles that volunteers play during the end-of-life journey.” It is free—and priceless—to anyone with a desire to help.

UNDERSTAND MORE…ENHANCE THE DAYS AHEAD If you think that you or someone in your life would benefit from hospice care, just call. There is no obligation. If eligible, you can receive support and services that will truly improve the quality and comfort of your life. That’s good for you. If it’s determined that you don’t need hospice, well, it’s a win-win, isn’t it?

Volunteer training sessions are held on a regular basis throughout the year. The next series will take place in early 2017. Details are available at 828-466-0466 or by emailing volunteer@

Proactive inquiries serve everyone best. Many families say, “I just wish I’d called sooner.” You can learn a lot just by asking…it could change your life.

Sherrills Ford Hospice House Catawba Valley Hospice House 7473 Sherrills Ford Road 3975 Robinson Road Sherrills Ford, NC 28673 Newton, NC 28658 828-466-0466 828-466-0466 IREDELL LIVING • JANUARY 2017






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Plans Statesville Bridal Expo February 19 By Meredith Collins

One of the biggest events of the year for the Statesville Civic Center is the Statesville Bridal Expo. This year will be the 17th year for this annual event, on February 19th from 1 p.m. to 5 p.m. “The first Bridal Expo was in 2000 when the building first opened, and it’s grown tremendously since then,” Amye Burks said. She’s the Civic Center’s marketing and event coordinator. “The vendor spots always sell out at least a month in advance. We’ll have between 1,000 to 2,000 attendees.” 18


During the Expo, one side of the Statesville Civic Center is transformed into a wedding venue with a runway, and the other side is filled with vendor booths. This year, the runway will feature wedding gowns from Paige and Elliot Bridal Boutique in Huntersville.

Vendors donate substantial prizes given away throughout the event. Event sponsor, Holiday Inn Express of Statesville, donates the grand prize of $750 and the runner up prize of $250. These are awarded through a drawing to two audience members at the end of the runway show. “Our vendors really come together to make the show exceptionally beautiful,” Amye said. “They knock themselves out designing their booths, and it’s just amazing to see how they transform the Civic Center.” Amye says she’s gotten great feedback from vendors, and they usually get several bookings during the Expo.

The 2017 show will display around 60 vendors related to all things wedding. They will include caterers, videographers, Couples should be sure to like the Statesville Bridal Expo Facebook page for DJs, travel agents, photographers, hair tips, trends, and to get lots of vendor and and makeup artists, and florists. prize info before the Expo. “It’s a great

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Bridal Expo go all out on their booth designs, transforming the Civic Center into a feast for the eyes and a treasure trove of ideas for couple’s planning their special day. • The Statesville Civic Center is also a great place to reserve for your wedding, reception, conference or other events. Above–The staff at the Statesville Civic Center look forward to seeing you at the 2017 Statesville Bridal Expo! time for engaged couples to see what is out there and to make a fun day out of it,” Amye suggested. “There’s lots of good food to try and just about anything that you desire for your wedding.” The Statesville Bridal Expo is one of the largest events the Civic Center hosts. Attendees do not have to pre-register or pre-pay. Tickets are $5 per person. Grooms get in free with their brides. The rest of the year, they are doing many types of other events. “We have rooms available for 10 people all the way up to 600 and everything in between,” Amye said. “A lot of people don’t know we have small spaces for events like family reunions, birthday parties, and baby showers. We put all the tables and chairs up, so all you have to do is bring whatever decorations you want. Then we break down afterward. It makes it a lot simpler so you can focus on your guests and enjoying yourself!” Larger Statesville Civic Center functions include weddings, fundraisers, meetings, concerts, parties, and conferences. “The Civic Center was developed as a place where everyone could hold special events and make memories,” Amye said. “We want to be accessible, affordable, and accommodating.”

Statesville Civic Center 300 South Center St, Statesville 704-878-3493 • “Statesville Bridal Expo” on Facebook IREDELL LIVING • JANUARY 2017










Is it a Girl or a Boy? By Dr. Patricia Littwin

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Historically, society has recognized binary genders by using the traditional terms “male” and “female,” however, there are individuals who are born transgender. Being transgender means a person’s sex and gender don’t match. Sex is assigned at birth to be either male or female based solely on a child’s genitalia, and it may not align with their gender. Gender identity refers to an individual’s innate, deeply felt psychological identification as a male or female.

All embryos are identical in appearance for the first eight weeks of gestation. Research studies have shown that near the end of the first trimester either the X or Y sex chromosome becomes active and development begins, while gender develops in the third trimester in the brain.

What it means to be Transgender Despite many assumptions, it isn’t about surgery, sexual orientation, or wanting/wishing to be a particular gender, or even how someone dresses. Being transgender is how that person feels mentally compared to physically. There are nearly 700,000 transgender people living publicly in the United States. Each one is unique with personal journeys.

Not a Mental Illness Many transgender people seek counseling due to suffering from gender dysphoria, which is defined by strong, persistent feelings of identification with the opposite gender and discomfort with one’s assigned sex that results in horrendous distress or impairment. The mismatch between physical body and internal sense of gender is not a mental illness. Instead, what needs to be addressed are the negative psychological issues that emerge, such as feeling extreme anger, shame, anxiety, severe hatred of body image, suicidal thoughts and/or attempts, and severe confusion and overwhelming conflict about gender identity. When your physical body does not reflect your gender, it can be so intense that it interferes with the way you function in daily life. Not only does the transgender population have the highest rate of suicide attempts, but also the highest rate of suicide completions. Correcting the mind-body mismatch decreases gender dysphoria and allows living a healthy life. 24


Sex - Gender - Sexual Orientation • Sex: is an individual’s male or female genitalia: the X or Y chromosome • Gender: is a mental state of being male or female • Sexual orientation: indicates who a person is attracted to physically, sexually, emotionally, and/or romantically

Tips on Respect • You can’t tell someone is transgender by appearance • Don’t assume their sexual orientation • If you don’t know what pronoun to use, ask them • Don’t ask them what their real or birth name is • Avoid backhanded compliments like, “You look just like a real woman.” • Don’t ask whether they plan to take hormones or have surgery • And NEVER ask if they have had surgery

Gain Knowledge The World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) is an international association devoted to the understanding and treatment of individuals with gender identity disorders. Founded in 1979, WPATH currently has over 600 professional members who are all engaged in research and/or clinical practice that affects the lives of transgender people.

About the Author: Dr. Patricia Littwin is a clinical psychologist, certified sex therapist and gender therapist and the owner of LKN Psychiatric Services, LLC, located at 110 Charleston Drive in Mooresville. For more information, visit, or call 704.696.8182.





What's Cooking?! Stew Beef with Carrots and Potatoes

Stew Beef with Carrots and Potatoes

2 pounds of stew beef 4 tablespoons of vegetable oil, divided 1 tablespoon of Worcestershire sauce 1 teaspoon of salt ½ teaspoon of pepper 1 pound bag of baby carrots 4 large potatoes cubed into 1 inch pieces ¼ cup of flour Water


In a large pot, brown beef in 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil. Add enough water to more than cover beef by 1 inch. Add Worcestershire sauce, salt, pepper and carrots. Bring to a boil. Cut heat to medium and lightly boil for 1 hour and 15 minutes, adding water as needed. In a skillet, heat 2 tablespoons of oil. Add flour, stirring constantly until brown. Add 1 cup of water to make a gravy, stirring continually until smooth. Add gravy and potatoes to beef stew and simmer another 30 minutes or until potatoes are tender. Serve in bowls with warm bread.




s I sit down to write this column, I am compelled to think about those folks with whom I have done business in the last couple of days. I want to be intentional in thinking about WHY I am doing business with those companies. Is it the price? Is it the quality? What about convenience?


Building Relationships Is Good Business

David Bradley President and CEO Greater Statesville Chamber of Commerce



Let’s see...I dropped off some clothes that needed dry cleaning. Is my dry cleaner the cheapest in town? I doubt it, but I’m not too sure. Is his quality good? I’ve never had an issue that made me doubt his quality, and I have to drive a little out of my way to have the work done. Sounds like I have every reason to look for another cleaner… except…I REALLY like the owners and the folks on the front line. They give back to the community; we work on community together. We do business together based on the relationship we have built. The same thing can be said about where I chose to eat today. The food was good, the staff friendly, and that could be said about nearly every eating establishment in town. I made the choice to eat there today out of a deep friendship with the proprietor. I purchased gas from a convenience store that was 2¢/gallon more expensive than across the street (cost me an additional 32¢). Honestly, I don’t think I made a single purchasing decision today based on any other reason other than strong relationships. If I am NOT an oddball, and there are others like me that purchase accordingly, doesn’t it make sense that instead of trying to build our business, we build relationships? I am much more apt to buy a car, house, copier, phone, gym membership, coat, air conditioner,

or flowers from someone I know and respect. I am MUCH more apt to bank where I have a friendship with those on the frontline and in the back office. Establishing and nurturing relationships is the first necessity of doing business. This exercise was an eye opening experience for me. I sometimes view myself as a frugal and thoughtful buyer. Thoughtful, I might be, but I make choices based on a mutual trust and respect. My plea is for YOU to do the same thing. Think about who you work with on a daily basis and why. I try not to make too many overt commercials for the Chamber, but there aren’t many places and organizations in which you can build relationships like a chamber. Through networking events, community celebrations, public policy work, efforts to attract new business, and simply being the “front door” to a community, the Chamber is an incredible vehicle to build relationships. The caution, though, is to build the relationship first, knowing that the business will come. Over the course of the next year, we are going to focus a lot of time and effort on building relationships. We want to talk about those connections, and we want to hear (and tell) stories about how those bonds have built a stronger business. We want to know WHY and with whom you do business. Through 2017, we are going to plead for you to tell your stories in several different formats. My hope is that, by going through these exercises, we begin to more intentionally personalize our purchasing habits and build a deeper spirit of community.



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Mooresville South Iredell Chamber Annual Luncheon & Awards Ceremony January 24, 2017


Annual Luncheon & Awards Ceremony


ach year the MSI Chamber of Commerce holds its awards ceremony to celebrate the accomplishments of business and community leaders. This annual event brings all parts of the community together to recognize those individuals who make a difference. The luncheon sells out, with over 700 in attendance. It is held at The Cove Church at 197 Langtree Road in Mooresville. The show includes music and videos of the various award recipients in five key categories: Duke Energy Service Award—Duke Energy wants to recognize commitment to helping others and creating efforts that bring us closer as a community and nation. The purposes of the award are to recognize and reward leadership and/or involvement in volunteerism and community service; encourage a culture of citizenship and service in our communities; compliment the efforts of those individuals and organizations in the community who strive to improve our quality of life. Businessperson of the Year—We recognize merchants, industrialists, service representatives, or any person who does business in the Mooresville-South Iredell area for outstanding achievement in their chosen field.

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Citizen of the Year—We emphasize the contributions this individual has made over the year in the areas of civic and community involvement, religious, personal, and family life. We considered the years of service and depth of involvement in the community.

Mooresville Ford Entrepreneurial Award—This is a special designation to honor those in our community who deserve that unique spotlight for their innovative and effective work in a privately owned, independent enterprise. Sara Haire Tice Women in Leadership Award—We honor with a special designation a woman in a leadership role, and we acknowledge her accomplishments in the Mooresville-South Iredell area. This year’s keynote speaker is John J. Mack. Mr. Mack is a senior advisor and former chief executive officer of Morgan Stanley, the New York based investment bank and brokerage firm. Prior to his career with Morgan Stanley, Mr. Mack worked for several firms around Wall Street. He began his career at Morgan Stanley in 1972 as a salesperson in the firm’s taxable, fixed-income division. In 1997, Mr. Mack served as president and chief operating officer of Morgan Stanley Dean Witter & Co. In 2001, he was hired as CEO of Credit Suisse. He returned to Morgan Stanley as chief executive officer and chairman of the board in 2005. Born on November 17, 1944 in Mooresville, Mr. Mack is the youngest of six sons. John's parents were Alice and Charles Mack. The store that John's dad owned and ran with his sons was the wholesale business, Chas. Mack & Sons Wholesale, which was located at 132 East Center Avenue. John gave that building to the Town of Mooresville, and it now houses The Mooresville Museum. The public is welcome to attend this luncheon on January 24th at 10:30 a.m. at The Cove Church. Tickets can be purchased by calling the Mooresville South Iredell Chamber at 704-664-3898 or by visiting our website:






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