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FROM OUR TRUSTEE How we give back is a personal choice each of us will make. As a Brotherhood, Delta Lambda Phi has evolved into a formidable force for making a difference at our host institutions. Much of our prior success we attribute to the strong level of alumni service– individuals Unfortunately, we quickly find that who contribute actively and many new interests — careers, financially – who make much of our families, and other experiences success achievable. that peak our passions — can create valid diversions. The day-to- Regardless of what you decide your day activities of life take over and, contribution will be – whether it is supporting a chapter service before long, we fall out of touch. project, or ensuring the future Despite this, the values we share as success of DLP by volunteering brothers are never truly forgotten. your time - it is imperative that all For Lambda men are making a members know how much we difference in their work spaces, value and appreciate the within their friend circles, and their contributions they make. communities every day. Since Austin, I have had the National events of recent weeks privilege of traveling across our raised concerns by some about regions on behalf of the whether or not there will be Brotherhood and engage with sustained progress in promoting outstanding brothers. Many of and valuing diversity and inclusion them shared with me their promise across our country. Oftentimes, the that they will get more involved. first thing to be lost is a collective Now – more than ever - is the right commitment to reach out and time to make good on that remain interconnected to our promise. I hope you will consider communities. lending your talent to our This current environment provides Brotherhood by helping to advance us an opportunity to demonstrate our mission and vision into the leadership and be that difference in future. people’s lives. It is important that When each of us contributes our we reaffirm our core value of time to advancing our Brotherhood service which charges us to be or enriching the communities we connected to our campus and our serve, we exemplify the best of neighborhoods… Service means Delta Lambda Phi. that we appreciate and give back to the people, institutions and the Make your presence known. larger world surrounding us. Be that difference. Once a Brother, always a Brother. This is a phrase each alumnus will embody throughout their entire life. In that essence, many of us leave our collegiate experience with high hopes of keeping our fraternal bonds intact.
TRUSTEE TOURS Beta Sigma | Rutgers U. | New Brunswick, NJ
Beta Xi | NYU | New York City, NY
///////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////// Delta | U of Minnesota | Minneapolis, MN
UMKC Colony & Heartland LAA
Beta Zeta | SIUE | Edwardsville, IL
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FROM OUR DLPAA PRESIDENT My Fellow BrothersAs we hurtle towards the end of 2016, we find ourselves in an familiar situation; another year has passed, all of us are (or nearly are) another year older, and we have seen good and bad things happen inside and outside the Fraternity. On the upside, inside DLP, we have all been fortunate to witness DLP reach its 30th anniversary, and many of us shared meal on Founder’s Day in celebration and community with each other. We’ve elected a new Trustee with a bold vision for the future, our 2016 Convention was our most successful yet, with our best keynote speaker yet, the fabulous Justin Sayre, and the DLP Alumni Association had its best membership year ever, raising over $7000 prior to Convention! In the greater world, Harriet Tubman is replacing Andrew Jackson on the $20 bill, child mortality is down across the world, there was a new Harry Potter book, play AND movie, the gene for ALS was found, and new chemotherapy breakthroughs have increased the 5-year survival for pancreatic cancer from 16% to 27%. There is much for us to be thankful for in 2016. However, 2016 has had its share of disappointments and heartbreak. In the fraternity, we lost several Brothers; Shane Wang, James Scott Berkovitz, Jordan Powell, and Aaron Bockneck. We closed a chapter and a colony. We had several difficult discussions about the Fraternity’s responsiveness to issues that have affected our Brotherhood. In the wider world, at least 26 transgender individuals have been murdered in 2016, making this the deadliest year for our trans* family members. A gunman attacked Pulse nightclub in Orlando, killing 49 and wounding 53 of our larger LGBT family in the deadliest mass shooting by a single shooter and deadliest act of violence against LGBT people in US history, impacting our DLP community in ways none of us were prepared to deal with. African-Americans have continued to lose their lives at the hands of law enforcement in shocking numbers as the perpetrators of that violence are most often placed on paid leave and found innocent of any
wrongdoing, even when video evidence has shown otherwise. Tragedies across the world continue, from the wildfires in Gatlinburg, the deadly crash of the plane of the Chapecoense soccer team, to the continuing genocides in Iraq and Syria. Finally, both Americans and the British both learned how much xenophobia, homophobia, racism and sexism in the world exited in the Brexit vote and 2016 US Presidential elections. There is much for us to grieve in 2016. Yet we must look forward to 2017 and ask ourselves, “How can I make 2017 better?” Delta Lambda Phi is founded on values that require us to look out for our fellow humans and set positive examples by word and deed. As alumni, we are asked to give back, not only to the greater world, but to our fraternity as well. We are asked to assist in the creation of the next generation of progressive leaders who walk the values of Delta Lambda Phi. As actives, we are asked to make our campuses stronger, safer, more diverse places where all are welcome and appreciated, and lead in the efforts to ensure all have a seat at the table. We do this because we believe that our Brotherhood and our world are better for our efforts. Each of us do this work in our own ways. We may hold a leadership position in our chapter or the wider Fraternity Leadership Team; we may donate money to the Fraternity through many different avenues. We may advise Chapters, mentor colonies, or serve as Big Brothers or trusted alumni.
Delta Lambda Phi® Alumni Association President, Chair Bryan Guffey Vice Chair Nolan Petersen Sokollof Clerk Miles Brainard Chief Alumni Services Officer Julian Casillas Director of Alumni Outreach Jordan Cardoza Director of Alumni Engagement Zach Ozbun Visit dlp.org/alumni for a complete list of Alumni Leadership Team members and their bios!
with local organization, run for political office, serve in pastoral roles, or donate our time as medical and legal professionals. We may serve on boards of nonprofits, travel to distant lands connecting with people unlike us, capture the untold stories in the world and make them more accessible, or even immerse ourselves in the language, culture and artistic forms of other countries and work to bring all people closer together. We find many ways to give back, and all work to underline the Fraternity’s Guiding Principle. In this way, we carry what we have learned and multiply it thousandfold to create positive change in our world. As we go into 2017, I ask you to make one commitment: find your way to give back. Whatever it is, however big or small, commit yourself to give back to the fraternity, people, organizations, and communities that have given to you. I assure you, it will be worth it. I wish all of you a wonderful Holiday season and a Happy New Year! In the Bond, Bryan Guffey DLP Alumni Association President
Some of us also give back outside the Fraternity. We may volunteer
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Inside this Issue
5 Spotlight On Gamma Gamma
6 I Believe In The Power of Our Letters 8 Building A Force of Giving 10 Five Questions With...
Class of Winter 2016
13 Building A Personal Board of Directors 14 Gifts of Talent & Time
Receive your Alumni Welcome Letter by filling out the New Alumni Survey today!
16 Half Is Showing Up
Visit dlp.org/alumni for details.
17 Serving From The Heart
18 Year in Review 2016 20 White & Gold Weekend Orlando 2017
FROM OUR EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR Greeting Brothers, The “season of giving“ is upon us. That is- if you believe in giving during only one season. Giving comes in many forms, three of which are highlighted here: Time, Talent, and Tithing. All three are forms of giving that Delta Lambda Phi needs year round. Time: Time is what we give to our chapters day in and day out, year after year. As active members, we spend countless hours planning rush and going to events, as alumni advisors we spend evenings counseling and helping out with fundraisers. As members of the Leadership team, we spend hours doing multitudes of tasks required to run an international organization on a shoestring budget. To fulfill the vision that the board creates for our organization requires the time and talents of over 40 volunteers. Last year alone we worked almost 7,000 hours collectively, which is the equivalent of 3 Full-time individuals. Without these volunteers working to better the organization, we would not be able to fulfill the goals that we have. Their positions range from Chapter support to graphic design, and the time they give us is invaluable.
Talent: Several of our positions require specialized skills, such as graphic design, knowledge of servers and infrastructure, or legal knowledge. Without these skills, we sometimes have difficulty
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completing what we need to do to achieve our goals. If you know of anyone willing to give their time and talent, please, send them along to the Leadership team, where they can help us better your organization.
Tithing: Tithing is an older religious word that amounts to willfully giving some of your income for the betterment of the church. DLP uses it to say- Fundraising and development. Sometime times an individual has very little time to volunteer, but still wants to make a contribution to the betterment of our organization. That's where “Tithing” or “Giving” comes in. Giving is the number one fastest and painless way to help our organization. Delta lambda Phi is a smaller organization, and we do a lot with very little. Our budget is tight, but we make things happen, every single day. By giving to the operational fund of the organization you allow us to provide more tangible resources for chapters, to keep the cost of events down, and to plan more effectively for the future. As 2016 comes to a close and we begin our journey continues into 2017- how will you give? Time, Talent, or Tithing?
Fraternally, Cory Molner
GAMMA GAMMA Brothers, In an effort to better recognize the accomplishments of our brotherhood, we have launched the Chapter Spotlight program. We received nominations from across the fraternity, and we are thrilled to announce the inaugural recipients: the Gamma Gamma Chapter of the University of Iowa. Gamma Gamma has put outstanding work into both recruitment and community programming. By utilizing new marketing and public relations strategies, including a beautifully composed recruitment video, they successfully inducted a pledge class of 10 members. They have simultaneously organized, in collaboration with other campus LGBT organizations, a range of programming events to celebrate LGBT History Month in October. Events included an Intersectionality Panel, LGBT History of Iowa City lecture, â€œWe Were Hereâ€? movie night, and STRUT philanthropy competition. Their work was supported by campus faculty and recognized by their campus newspaper and television station. Gamma Gamma has truly exemplified what it means to make our presence make a difference. Please join me in congratulating their efforts! Br. Andrew Hogan Chief Fraternal Services Officer firstname.lastname@example.org
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I BELIEVE IN THE POWER OF THE LETTERS A 30th Anniversary Message From Our Founder As we celebrate the 30th year of our Brotherhood, I reflect upon the power of our letters. The letters are not something that you can take off and put on. They are with us every day. But taking the extra step of physically wearing the letters not only makes your presence known, but it can also make your presence make a difference. I share with you how I learned this lesson. Back in the day, I wore my letters at least once a week. When traveling to Fraternity events, I would put on my jersey before I got on the plane or train and change into a fresh jersey after I arrived. During one long plane ride to California, I sat next to a family with a very inquisitive young boy. I remember him so clearly. He had the whitest skin I had ever seen and wore a Casper the Friendly Ghost t-shirt. He was in the fifth grade and wanted to know what my letters represented. I explained the basics of the college fraternity system, something about promoting a dignified and purposeful life, and that we did not discriminate based upon sexual orientation. He didn’t seem impressed. But it was a proud moment for me. I had made my presence known. As the years passed and the jerseys became fewer, more worn and did not fit as well as they once did, I found myself wearing the letters only at official events. It took a trip out West to remind me of the power of the letters. I was in our western region meeting new Brothers. “I think we may have met before,” said one Brother with a cheeky grin. He had the whitest skin I had ever seen, and his Fraternity nickname was Casper. That Brother was the young boy who had sat next to me on the plane ten years earlier. Now a man, he had completed high school, come out, pledged the Fraternity and wore the same letters as I did. I believe in the power of the letters. Thirty years later, I don’t wait for a special occasion to wear the letters. It’s my streetwear of choice. And my presence always makes a difference. Vernon L. Strickland, III
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PICTURED CITIES: 1. DAVIS, CA
8. EL PASO, TX
15. WASHINGTON, D.C
2. SACRAMENTO, CA
9. AUSTIN, TX
16. DES MOINES, IA
3. LOS ANGLES, CA
10. LANSING, MI
17. WEST LAFAYETTE, I
4. TUCSON, AZ
11. OSHAWA, ON
18. WILTON MANORS,
5. MINNEAPOLIS, MN
12. COLOMBUS, OH
19. ORLANDO, FL
6. ST. LOUIS, MO
13. ATLANTA, GA
7. KANSAS CITY, MO
14. NEW BRUNSWICK, NJ
The Delta Lambda Phi Alumni Association, in collaboration with chapters, colonies, LAAs, and our alumni network, celebrated the 30th Anniversary of the founding of our beloved fraternity. Pictured below are gathered photos of that weekend's festivities. We encourage you to use the momentous occasion to connect or reconnect with your brothers and remind yourselves of the spirit of Delta Lambda Phi.
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Building a Force of Giving By Marshall Smith
We have always been an organization that looks for areas where we can serve and use our talents and skills to expand our reach and benefit others. Each of us finds our own way to apply that support, whether that be on a local or organization-wide level, or through donations of time or money. Many of our brothers have found multiple areas where they can apply their skills and resources to further our overall goals, and for that we can all be thankful. The Delphi Foundation continues and extends that tradition through our programs targeting academic achievement, leadership development, and community involvement, which are funded through the generous donations of time and money from our valued donors.
Our Delta Force Leadership Academy (http:// dlp.org/deltaforce/) is now going into its seventh year. In the prior six years, nearly 100 men have grown with us to learn leadership skills and take those lessons back to their local chapters and communities. There they extend that reach to their local chapter and community, expanding our influence further than just the immediate reach of our programs. In our sixth year we saw an opportunity to expand that further, hosting several prior graduates back to participate in a second round of more advanced training and skill-building. These second-year graduates are now in charge of a new “Lightning Weekend” program, where a chapter is guided and advised by these trained brothers in a structured weekend of activities to help strengthen the chapter and create a greater impact in their community. As a next step beyond these programs, we’re working to develop a program for Young Professionals to continue our support beyond the college years and on into the workforce as our brothers start their careers.
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Funding is the lifeblood of our programs – without it we are unable to provide the services and programs we do to the high standards we have set forth. Any funds that are raised go directly toward our programs, as everyone involved with our programs does so on a volunteer basis. Many of them make further donations toward expenses and supporting our general fund, extending the reach and number of brothers our programs can serve. Here is where your funds can make a big difference, because without that support our programs cannot have the reach and impact.
While these programs provide great value, they also come at a cost. Hosting just a single brother at a Delta Force Leadership Academy weekend costs around $800 – yet as college students we know they cannot shoulder that burden alone. While they do make a contribution of about 10% of the cost to participate, the rest comes from the support of our donors. When you support us, we’re able to expand these programs and bring even more brothers to participate, learn, and interact. You can support us today (fully tax-deductible) either as one-time or even better as a recurring monthly donation, just by going to our website: http://dlp.org/delphi/donate/ Our Director of Planned Giving, Lou Camera, has another article in this issue where you can learn about additional ways to support Delphi financially over many years into the future. There are even ways to support Delphi financially without making a donation. We have coordinated with several corporate programs that will make a contribution to Delphi when you make a purchase with them, as long as we are noted at the time of purchase.
$35K Total Donated
Number of Donors
50% Increase in Donors
2014 I’d like to take a moment here to thank the Delphi Foundation board members. These gentlemen give a lot of their time and money to support the goals of our organization, and don’t always get the recognition for all that they have done. Supported by a number of other people across the organization, our Board of Directors is comprised of:
Lou Camera Ernie Hall Brian Hawker Marshall Smith
If you do business with any of these companies then your purchases help support the Delphi programs:
If you have flown on American Airlines or Delta Airlines in the last year (whether for fraternity events or personal/business travel) and did not link the tickets to Delphi, these tickets can be applied retroactively to our account – please contact me directly for more information. For more details about these programs and how your purchases can support Delphi, please see our donation page: dlp.org/delphi/donate/
Along with our other volunteers that assist with individual programs, these gentlemen have put forth many hours of effort to develop our programs and provide them to as many brothers as possible in the most efficient manner. If you would like to volunteer with Delphi for any of our programs or as a part of the Board, please contact me and I can discuss our opportunities to see how we can align those with your strengths and availability. I hope you will reflect this holiday season and find some way you can support Delphi that fits your current situation. If you have any questions or ideas regarding our programs, funding, or activities, I encourage you to contact me or any member of the Delphi board. We’re always looking for new energy and ideas, so that we can all grow together and provide the most valuable service and opportunities to all of our brothers, throughout their lives.
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FIVE QUESTIONS WITH...
A new feature of the Centaur’s Yell, “Five Questions With..” asks our brotherhood for quick responses for five questions. It’s that simple. Read below to learn more about your fellow brothers and look out for another set of five questions for the next issue of the Centaur’s Yell!
Active | Gamma Gamma Iowa City, IA Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. The lessons that I have learned from all the individuals who have touched my life. What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? Embrace your cultural heritage. Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. 30 years from now I plan to be working with the burgeoning leaders of DLP to sustain a space for reflection and growth. What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Pageant Material Kacey Musgraves What do you desire the most this holiday season? Policy which supports and protects queer people.
Alumnus | Beta Xi Washington, D.C. Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. Cupboards full of food, and the fact that I can stock them. What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? You're going to get there. It won't be easy. It won't be straightforward, but you will get there. Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. Celebrating Beta Xi's 40th anniversary with 40 years of some of the best from NYU - Lambda Men! What song or album do your currently have on repeat? My Shot (Rise Up Remix) by The Roots feat. Bust a Rhymes, Joel Ortiz and Nate Ruess. Like Busta says, "We ain't got no other choice. We need to rise up!" What do you desire the most this holiday season? For the Electoral College to surprise us all and actually make the winner of the popular vote, Secretary Clinton, president.
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Alumnus | Beta Tau El Paso, TX Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. Seeing, and understanding, the sacrifices my family has made that got me where I am today. What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? Don't be afraid to raise your hand! Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. I would like to spread knowledge about security in the systems we utilize everyday to individuals and organizations whilst providing some insight in what small things we can do to protect ourselves, our families, and the organizations/companies you are actively engaged in and outside of Delta Lambda Phi. What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Let Me Love You - DJ Snake ft. Justin Bieber What do you desire the most this holiday season? Vacation and delicious food! :9
Alumnus / Gamma Beta Old Bridge, NJ
Alumnus / Iota Sacramento, CA
Alumnus / Gamma Gamma Old Bridge, NJ
Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. The many opportunities I have had in the field I'm pursuing. Having struggled with mental health most of my life, I never thought it possible to pursue work, research, and a career in this field.
Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. My brothers, friends, and family make me extremely grateful. I'm incredibly fortunate to have such a supportive network of love and support!
Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. A genuine laugh, cheap and accessible food, and people who I can share both with.
What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? I had JUST come out at that age. My 13-year old self would benefit from the advice to know yourself and your essence and then you will find your voice. Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. Iâ€™d honestly love to be a leader of mental health initiatives for the fraternity, because thatâ€™s my wheelhouse and something I believe the fraternity could truly benefit from in spades. What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Rufus Wainwright's live cover of Judy Garland's "Zing Went The Strings of My Heart". What do you desire the most this holiday season? I'm a New York City dweller by nature. Theatre, parks, the crisp air sweeping through the Midtown grid - the works.
What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? You will not always be this awkward. Also, be wary of opportunists. Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. I'll be on the other side of the hill by that point, but I'd love to be celebrating the 60th anniversary of our brotherhood and contributing to the Board or its committees in a meaningful way. What song or album do your currently have on repeat? DNCE's self-titled album and the Hamilton Mixtape! What do you desire the most this holiday season? I'd just love for everyone to feel valued and embraced during a season when many don't. Also, tickets to see Bruno Mars.
What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? You won't ever feel comfortable after you start high school, and that is part of growing up. Don't run away from it, but learn to embrace and navigate it. Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. I hope to have been a part of every Convention, to have sat on the Board or Board Committees countless times, and to be actively contributing my time and talents back to the Office and to my home chapter, local chapter, and/or LAA. What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Album: Kelis - Flesh Tone What do you desire the most this holiday season? Money for some new (replacement) clothes... #BudgetHoliday
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Alumnus / Beta Tau El Paso, TX
Alumnus / Alpha Psi Columbus, OH Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. A home to live in Friends and family who love me The opportunity to make a difference in people's lives What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? Don't fight so hard to grow up. Be a kid, it's okay.
Alumnus / Alpha Tau Surprise, AZ
Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. My mother. Friends and brothers who share my drive and crazy.
Name the things that make you the most grateful in life. My 3 sons, my art, music and dancing
What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? Never follow the beaten path. Trust your instincts and just go.
What wisdom or advice would you impart on your 13 yr old self? Love awaits you. You have many gifts, talents and friends that will be with you forever. You will learn to protect yourself and others.
Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. Oh man, I'll hopefully have gotten the opportunity to serve as Trustee, and I hope to be donating at least $5000 to DLP annually, while also helping to facilitate DLP programs and continue to mentor and support our middle-aged alumni.
Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. As someone who tries to live up to the ideals of servant leadership, I hope to continue to serve the fraternity in some capacity. Whether itâ€™s offering my guidance or writing a sizeable check, I want to continue to help ensure this space if provided for anyone who wishes to be part of our brotherhood.
What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Rufus Wainwright's live cover of The Hamilton Mixtape
What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Campfire by Satellite Stories & Teardrops by Roosevelt
What do you desire the most this holiday season? Joy for the world.
What do you desire the most this holiday season? Breathe. Dance. Charge myself up to kickass in 2017.
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Describe your involvement/impact with DLP 30 years from now. My sons, whether or not they pledge DLP, will be strong and vocal leaders and protectors of and for everyone. I will continue to learn and love recklessly forever against all odds in the hope that no one will ever again feel alone or marginalized. What song or album do your currently have on repeat? Led Zeppelin - Greatest Hits and Justin Timberlake FutureSexLoveSounds What do you desire the most this holiday season? I hope to gain some ground on a community holiday event that could become a regular occurrence.
BUILDING A PERSONAL BOARD OF DIRECTORS BY JOHN SPORING
In the epic Greek poem, The Odyssey, Odysseus leaves his son, Telemachus, and household in the care of Mentor. He knew Mentor would watch over and teach Telemachus while Odysseus was fighting the Trojan War. Overtime, Mentor evolved to become more than just someone watching over a young person, mentor is now synonymous with a friend or trusted advisor. Today mentor conjures up scenes of a master/student relationship (think of Yoda and Luke, Mr. Miyaki and Daniel, even Gordon Gekko and Bud), but any relationship, where one person imparts knowledge to another, is a mentoring relationship. You may be wondering if you have any mentors. You may never have formally asked someone to be a mentor, and may have never participated in a formal mentoring program. However, it may be that many of your professors, coaches, and friends are already a mentor to you. A good mentor will be someone that you trust and feel comfortable being totally honest with. Mentors will never tell you what to do...they will provide you the benefit of their experience and give you possible alternatives and outcomes to your decision. WHERE TO FIND A MENTOR You can find mentors almost anywhere. As mentioned above, you may already have mentors in your circle. Generally, you want to build a relationship with someone firstthis helps to build the trust that is needed for a good relationship. However, there are formal mentoring programs which can match you with someone for a period of time. Feel free to ask some of your current mentors if they know someone who can answer your questions about a topic you want to learn more about.
This may lead to you developing a In other words, I find these relationnew mentoring relationship. Chances ships helping me to “Pay It Forward.” are some of your DLP brothers are Also I find that learn things from already mentoring you. those that I am mentoring. As one You will develop mentoring relation- grows older, technology continues to ships for every facet of your life and be a stumbling point. Many of the career. You may have one that helps people I mentor are younger than I you in your work life, another one and can teach me about new prothat helps you train for next year’s grams, apps, or ways of doing things. marathon, and yet another one for As I help them learn from my experiyour personal relationships. Some ence, they help me experience new mentors will stay with you for your ways to learn. entire life, while you may only meet BOARD OF DIRECTORS As you put towith others once or twice. gether mentors from different parts FORMAL PROGRAMS Many organiza- of your life you will develop your own tions have formal mentoring pro- personal board of directors. These grams (including DLP). By participat- are the people that you know you ing in the program, you are usually can call in the middle of a crisis and paired with a mentor based on some they will listen to you and offer expekind of mutual interest. During men- riences to help you make decisions. toring program, sometimes this is enough for a relationship to develop. I find it useful to keep a mentor who comes from a very different backIf you are interested in learning more ground from the others. Like a real about accounting, you may be paired corporate board, these “outside diwith a mentor who is an accountant. rectors” can offer a different point of Now you will have access to some- view. You may not always take their one who can answer question about advice, but it gives you the opporbecoming an account, the daily life, tunity to look at the issue from anthe pair, the culture. Sometimes other point of view. these mentor relationships can develop into a long term relationship, Your board may never meet all tobut often they end once the formal gether like a corporate setting, but it program ends. Sometimes the pair- is important to keep in touch with ing does not work. Do not be afraid them regularly. If they do not know to let the leaders of the program what is going on with you, it will be know that it is not workingthey may difficult for them to offer assistance. be able to match with someone else. And to not reach out to them only Just like in personal relationships, not when you have an issue, meet with them for coffee or lunch. As you all mentoring relationships work. learn more about them, you may be TWO WAY STREET A lot of time people able to learn something you never do not understand why someone expected, or perhaps mentor them would want to be a mentor. It often in someway. takes time away from family, friends, and work. However, speaking as Remember that mentors will be oldsomeone who has mentored all my er than you, younger than you, gay, adult life, I find mentoring an im- straight, male, female, retired, just portant part of my personal develop- starting a career, and anywhere in ment. The questions I get asked help between. Keep an open mind when me shape my experiences in a way you think you may be able to develop a mentoring relationship. that I can help the next generation.
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This is probably not the first time and it won’t be the last time you’ll hear this. The truth of the matter is, our fraternity relies heavily on the generosity of its alumni network to keep our brotherhood alive and thriving. When you are thinking of ways to contribute back to the brotherhood, don’t only think of writing a check (although we definitely appreciate it) but consider taking the next step. Whether it’s serving as a mentor to a new graduate struggling to get on their feet or using your technical expertise to take on a role with information services, our fraternity leadership team can make use of your talents. As the fraternity leadership team gets stronger, our chapters get stronger, you get stronger; it’s win, win—win. Read ahead on a perspective of a current alumni volunteer and take a look at current opportunities in the fraternity office. If you don’t see something here that fits your interest please email me at email@example.com. In the bond, Julian Casillas Chief Alumni Services Officer
Staff Volunteers July 2016
6,938 Logged Hours 2015-2016
3.5 Full-time Employee Equivalent
Open Staff Positions
CURRENT JOB OPENINGS Chief Legal Affairs Officer Director of Risk Management Legal Affairs Coordinator
Western Regional Coordinator Diversity & Inclusion Coordinator Server Engineer Support & Training Coordinator (IT)
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Email Michael Davis at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.
â€œI wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING.â€? Kris Borders Iota Chapter Alumnus Advisor
Formerly: Western Regional Director Director of Human Resources Western Regional Coordinator
Current Professional Position: Employee Relations Personnel Analyst, Sacramento County
How has your work in DLP supported your professional career? Most prominently, my work as the Director of Human Resources has the closest nexus to my professional career. My degree is in Business Administration with a concentration in Human Resources and Organizational Behavior. I've worked in HR for approximately 9 years of my professional life. HR is not always a pleasant field in which to work, particularly in the public sector. In my current position, I was able to use the skills and experiences I attained through my tenure as Director of DLP HR to help with things such as having difficult conversations, developing and implementing policies, and overseeing the execution of programs for staff. DLP also helped foster and develop other skills for me, such as working with diverse personalities and learning how to act with diplomacy.
Briefly describe the funniest moment during your time working for DLP. I don't know that I can come up with a specific one! The funniest moments working for DLP often came at events like Conventions and Staff Retreats. There's an additional bond that only people who work for the fraternity know. Spending time with brothers who were as determined to see our fraternity grow and thrive as I was often led to late night discussions filled with laughter.
Briefly describe the proudest during your time working for DLP.
I actually have two things for which I am most proud. First, as Director of HR, I helped shape the Fraternity Office's structure. I was able to advise and consult the Executive Director and members of Senior Staff on how to best structure various functional areas of the Office. Seeing my recommendations put into place gave me a sense of satisfaction that I can't fully articulate, but it let me know in no uncertain terms, that I'd made an administrative impact on our organization. Second, as Western Regional Director, I was able to plan and execute the Spring Western Conference. I'd staffed many conferences in the past, but I'd never been fully responsible for the planning and execution of one. Innumerable hours of research, a multitude of emails and phone calls, and many miles driven ultimately resulted in a conference that, while small, I believe the attendees enjoyed and found memorable.
What was your strongest motivator to join the office? My strongest motivator to join the office was my desire to contribute back to an organization that has given me so much since my induction. I'd worked for the fraternity in smaller capacities in the past, but I don't think I was ready for the responsibilities when I took them on. When I rejoined the Office in 2013, I was ready to give back and I had a lot of experience under my belt to help inform my decisions and actions. I knew I could make a difference and was determined to do so.
Describe you experience volunteering in the office in 6 words or less. I wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING. DLP.ORG | 15
Pictured David L West Fund Recipients at Convention in Austin, TX
July 23, 2016
Half Is Showing Up by Julian Casillas
We’re all familiar with some form of the adage, half is showing up, which is supposed to describe how in your work, school, or play, at least half of the effort and experience is simply being there. This doesn’t ring more true in our fraternity than when it comes to our fraternity-wide events. Whether it’s a regional conference or our annual convention, brothers leave these immersive weekends with not only an uptick of friend requests on Facebook, but a pep in their step and a genuine feeling of what it means to be a brother of Delta Lambda Phi. We’re now an organization of close to 4,000 brothers. If our brothers don’t get to experience the scope of our fraternity, and that our values have united thousands, then I feel like they haven’t fully understood what it means to be a brother of Delta Lambda Phi. For these reasons, started in 2012, funds were created by the DLPAA to help ensure that any brother who wishes to attend these weekends has the means to. I ask that during this season of giving, you consider donating to one of these programs. With current expenses that our collegiate brothers incur, any assistance is vastly appreciated.
David L. West Convention Assistance Fund Created in 2012 and named in honor of Br. West (who pledged that any brother who wishes to attend Convention should not be barred due to financial inability), it provide financial assistance to those Brothers who don’t have the means to attend the
Fraternity’s Annual Convention. Timothy Ortyl Conference Assistance Fund Created in 2015 and named in honor of Br. Ortyl (who selflessly made sure brothers could attend conferences), it provides financial grants to assist brothers
sponsored by the Fraternity. Donations to the Ortyl fund are tax Deductible and handled through the Delphi Foundation. Shining Knight Fund Created in 2015, it provides financial grants to eligible alumni who experience an unanticipated financial hardship due to loss of employment, disability, medical problems, or family emergency.
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Serving From the Heart by Alex Young One of the greatest challenges of my active experience was in my second year as President of my chapter and I had to call my brothers mother to tell her that her son was in the hospital because he attempted to commit suicide. This was a defining moment for me both as a leader and as a person. It strikes me now that this is probably one of the most substantial pieces of service I have done in my time as a member of Delta Lambda Phi.
Every year my Facebook wall is filled with posts of Greek communities highlighting the service their chapters do. It is also not uncommon for me to see the various chapters and organizations flashing graphics boasting thousands and thousands of hours of community service both locally and nationally. Don’t get me wrong, those are important conduits of service and provide members great opportunities to learn and develop. However, I always find myself sceptic of these numbers and often feel them to be somehow hollow.
Episodes like that, where service is born out of the realities of life, are the truest forms of service.
I want to ask the members and the leaders who are accruing these hours, “why?” “Why are you spending this time putting energy into the community?” I imagine many will say it is because they want to give back and make the world better, but I again am a skeptic. I get the sneaking suspicion, which has been confirmed numerous times, that these projects exist only for the sake of checking some box on an award form, for the prestige among their peers, or even to get their national organization off their backs. This is the reality. It is my belief that service for the sake of some reward is, to a certain degree, empty and laced with privilege. This is when I think about my experience with my brother’s mom, about fraternity members that have leadership thrust onto them, and about the times we are asked to go out of our way to help a friend in trouble. Episodes like that, where service is born out of the realities of life, are the truest forms of service. I reiterate, service hours from projects like cleaning the highway or serving food at a shelter are important. That being said, I believe it is experiences where we are serving from the heart are where we learn humility, empathy, and that we are not the center of the universe. I challenge those reading this to ask yourself, why are you doing this service project? Is it because there is a box to be checked or is it because you a human desire to help improve the world around you?
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