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Travelling Embers Companion Workbook Enhance Your Self-Leadership

in your personal world

Enhance Your Self-Leadership

ISBN 978-1-61364-052-4 First published 2011 Creative Commons

Authored and self-published by Debbie Nicol Creator of Embers of the World

Graphic design by Olivewei

When the world speaks to you, what do you hear?

The Embers Model



milestone 1 intuition is serving me



milestone 2 intuition is serving us


milestone 3 change is serving all

Concept Travelling Embers is a portfolio of reflections from the author’s global travels. Being a small section of flame that separates and appears to flick off into oblivion, an ember is likened to a previous experience we had that lay dormant within us until we were ready to receive its great insights. It is hoped that through sharing these memories and embers, unique and personal experiences will surface along with life-promoting insights, facilitating reflection and connection, enabling personal change and self-leadership to emerge. Become…in Your Personal World, a companion workbook to Travelling Embers, facilitates independent or group reflection on personal change and self-leadership. The workbook’s intention is to spotlight situations which present opportunity for true inner connection and personal growth. It should open minds to reflections about ‘as I am’ and ‘as I can be’. Become…in Your Personal World takes place at a fireside setting, a place where many of us love to linger. A flame’s therapeutic warmth, free-flowing dance and ever-changing hues capture us from within, putting our conscious minds in neutral, allowing connection and truth to flow. The flame represents a safe haven into which we can escape, connect with and explore our inner being while allowing a new future to emerge. Become…in Your Personal World may be described as the ultimate connection tool. We all have opportunity to maximise our personal lives, accepting responsibility to create any change which will serve us, others and the future. The creation of Travelling Embers and Become…in Your Personal World is the author’s contribution to this responsibility. Why proceed into the depths of these embers? Purely because you can. How is your self-leadership serving? What could connection with inner happiness and authenticity produce that possibly does not exist currently? Let’s prioritise connection to self and others today!

one journe y of...


My journey is probably no different than yours! My life appeared to be exciting and grand, yet was simply not feeding my inner being, nor encouraging me to discover the leader within. Instead I was allowing myself to be, think, live and do that which others desired, eroding self-worth and personal growth. I had simply switched off, somehow believing that external influence was more appropriate than my own internal intuition. I was willing to sacrifice what was important to me, conforming at my own expense. My inner being was slowly but surely dying, my inner voice remained silent and my spirit was broken. Signs of internal struggle started to be evident. I had become a machine, ready to ‘be’ at the push of an external button. I approached life with less zest, started to disconnect from friends and colleagues and experienced diminishing inner reward. My body sent loud messages as it chose not to act on stage anymore, commencing a slow and agonising shutdown process. I was searching for clues on a long and winding path towards reconnection, as I stopped, looked, listened and felt. I cautiously believed when I started to receive inner messages. I explored methodologies to provide the best possible environment for this reconnection. I took time, much time! I connected deeply with feelings and emotions whilst surrounding myself with like-minded people. I shared some inner discoveries with my nearest and dearest, and stood in awe as the authentic inner leader emerged to shine brightly in today’s world. Had I received a copy of Become…in Your Personal World, I wonder how my journey may have differed?

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……what have been your touc h points of becomi ng?

1 Memory ar ound the ca mpfire

The older lady always appeared detached, different and alone in her thoughts. I however was too attached, too irritated by the one loud member of our tourist group, the one who seemed to wear the label ‘it’s all about me’. She was constantly the centre of attention, the centre I usually existed in. It was irritating that my jokes weren’t always heard. I was becoming attached to the attention the loud one was receiving and was disturbed by the static in my emotions. I was perplexed as to why my attention was constantly focussing on the loud one rather than the amazing scenery during our bus journey through the scenic countryside in Turkey. The older lady sat next to me on the bus after three days of my life following the same monotonous pattern. My holiday was wasting away in self-struggle. She must have detected my silent dilemma. Her reflection has never left me.

What annoys you in another person is simply a mirror image of yourself.

Recall when you experienced a high degree of agitation with another. Identify and describe the source of agitation.

To what degree is that source of agitation currently present in your own life?

How does it serve or hinder your personal life?

How do you celebrate the strength it has brought to your life?

What will need to change if you wish to release the source of agitation?

what’s on your mind now?

through association

reflections how has this ember helped you to

just a little more?

c he c k t he b ox e s to ide n t if y w he r e yo u a r e now in t hi s pr o c e s s .


I can describe the required change this ember has evoked I can identify what is likely to occur if this change doesn’t happen


I am willing to do whatever it takes to enable the required change




I have identified resources which could assist me with the change process I have explored collaboration that will yield mutual gain I am happy to discover alternative ways to change I am able to introduce new practices and behaviours I have identified rewards that will help embed the change into new behaviour on a consistent basis

My Future...

Our journey together commenced with the words ‘my journey is probably no different than yours’. My map defines my future ‘as it is’ currently, yet remains dynamic and open to becoming just that little more – and yours?

Future connection available through

...a s it can be

The Embers Model process questions What is the reason for the need to change? What is likely if the change doesn’t happen?

Am I willing to do what it takes to enable the change?



I stop, look, listen and feel I can describe the change required I feel the reasons for change I have a clear understanding of the impact this change will have


My energy is flowing I am happily engaging with difference I trust what is happening as I connect with the change I trust myself

milestone 1: intuition is serving me

I have moved through temporary vulnerability • I comprehend that alternative possibility exists • My blockages are clearing • I hear, recognise and surrender to the answers that lie within • I receive inner guidance graciously and consciously choose to apply it • I trust and nurture myself process questions What exists to assist the change? How will any collaboration bring mutual gain?

What options can serve the change?




I recognise positive influence of open collaboration I support inclusion Mutual trust and respect is emerging We learn and change together New approaches to the change develop

milestone 2: intuition is serving us

Inclusion and open-mindedness exists • Trust takes us beyond exclusion and fear • Diversity and alternatives are welcomed and accepted, contributing positively to the change • We drive change together • We customise futures together • We feel the difference and know what serves the change process questions What rewards will help embed the change?



Evolved behaviour and belief emerges Choices are honoured The change is serving positively

milestone 3: change is serving all

Labels and misinterpretations surrender to equality and truth • Diversity and collaboration drive harmony • Distinction disperses • We collectively appreciate while practising acceptance • An intuitive environment exists


E xisting Titles

Travelling Embers • your Personal World Travelling Embers Companion Workbook Enhance Your Self-Leadership

• Corporate Embers • the Corporate World Corporate Embers Companion Workbook Enhance Your Corporate Leadership

Titles Coming Soon

Nature’s Embers • Domestic Embers • Spiritual Embers

Register now into your ‘ReflectLearn’ community your Personal World, a companion workbook to Travelling Embers, facilitates independent or group reflection on the impact of self-leadership and personal change. Align your self-leadership to the needs of the changing world with the ‘Reflect – Connect • Collaborate – Innovate • Become’ process. It could be your personal development method of choice for the future.

‘Interacting with Become…in Your Personal World, I felt compelled to travel deeply into myself, to discover long-forgotten gems that now will help me to move ahead. A unique resource for those who are serious about connecting to and building their personal futures.’ Marisa Bodenstein, Teacher, Taiwan ‘There’s nothing like a few deep yoga breaths to help you process what’s going on in your life at a particular moment…especially when travelling. Become…in Your Personal World is a literary yoga breath, giving you time to look into your heart and truly understand the life lesson that’s been presented in a sometimes fleeting moment.’ Anne O’Connell, Writer, Thailand ‘The process applied in Become…in Your Personal World provides a step-by-step framework for personal change, allowing you to influence each stage of your own personal journey to arrive at customised and desired outcomes. Easy to connect with and even easier to apply, this process is a must-have in your personal development toolkit.’ Kath Taylor, Tanzania ‘ Your Personal World demonstrates, with such simplicity, a path to the deep wisdom that lies within and around us during our travels - an insightful guide which ignites embers of reflection and creative action aligned to the times in which we live. What an honour it has been to have shared adventures with Debbie while witnessing her love of life wherever she finds herself.’ Julie Lewis, Inspirational Speaker & Mountaineer, Middle East & Asia

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