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Table Of Contents Section 1 – Unwrapping The Male Mind ........................…..19 Section 2 – Precious Honeybunch Lines..........................................................................….38 Section 3 – Fire In The Belly Lines .................................. 52 Section 4 – Attraction Meow Lines................................... 63 Section 5 – Rejection Squish Squash Lines........................ 74 Section 6 – Sensation Grand Slam Lines .......................... 86 Section 7 - Queen Of My Heart Lines................................ 98 Section 8 – Emotion Devotion Lines........................................................................... 112 Section 9 – Intimacy Yoo-Hoo Lines............................... 126 Section 10 – Light Of My Life Lines................................ 141 Section 11 – Secret Hanky Panky Lines........................................................................... 154 Section 12 – Slap Of Love Lines.................................... 167 Section 13 – Soulmate Mishmash Lines.......................... 180 Section 14- Blind Sweetheart Lines........................................................................... 193
Closing Thoughts......................................................... 206
Now let’s be honest - lots of men are pretty predictable, except when they’re not. We can read a typical man just like you’re reading this, except for that moment when he does something more confusing than a Rubik’s cube. Whether or not you’re heavy into the dating game, you’ve probably asked yourself this question at some point: Why is that men will chase after some woman like bloodhounds, but treat the rest like yellow traffic lights? Why is it that certain men have a superhuman skill of being jerks to women, until one woman shows up and makes them start working for good boy points? Sometimes it seems like this woman has the power to work her magic like a sexy lightning bolt in heels. Some magicians pull rabbits out of hats, and she makes misogynists carry grocery bags - indeed, this is an extreme brand of dark magic. By the time it’s over, the man might not even remember when he got in the car and drove her to the airport. It happens every single day. When was the last time you witnessed this world wonder? No matter what the weather or venue, “that” woman is always around to make us question just how in the world she pulls her magic off so effortlessly. She may either be single or taken, but there is something about this woman that men just seem to respond to – it’s not a 5
response that gets catcalled or censored on daytime television. This is the type of woman that makes men want to do things for her, just for the sake of doing those things. Do you have any theories about why so many woman struggle over hell and high water just to get a man to talk about commitment, while other woman seem to just be able to make their men commit like flipping a light switch? What’s the difference between a woman who can’t get her boyfriend of 6 years to propose, and a woman who can make a man want to marry her within hours? If you’ve lost nights of sleep trying to crack the mystery of these women’s techniques, you are not alone. At some point, you may have figured that this woman with unnatural mantaming ability must simply have freakishly good luck. You may have just completely given up trying to uncover any kind of rationale in the equation and chalked it up to some kind of bizarre lottery ticket she won for male attention. While it’s understandable that so much success with the opposite sex could be interpreted as luck, in this case, luck is not the main tool in this femme fatale’s arsenal. As hard as it may be to believe, the reality distortion field these women seem to have is something that you can generate yourself! The truth is that these women are enjoying success with their man because of the simple power of understanding, not their luck. Almost no amount of romantic luck in the world can compensate for not knowing the kind of game you’re playing. To put it simply, you win more when you know more. Relax, this is not a calculus lesson. Right now, we’re in the business of making things simpler and not more difficult. 6
Have you ever heard of the best way to eat an elephant? Well, the absolute best way is to not eat any elephant at all, but the second best way is to eat it one part at a time. Here’s the good news: we’re really only dealing with one part. We’re going to focus on the executive office of the male mind. Conquer the part of his brain that calls the shots, and you’re in charge - it’s so effective it should be illegal. I used to stare slack-jawed at these man-eating wonder women until I figured out that their amazing secret isn’t all that amazing - what’s really amazing is the fact that more women, including me at one point, never caught on. The secret to being a whole lot better at keeping men around for more than fifteen seconds is called the “attraction switch”. When you know how to flip an attraction switch, you’ve basically become his goddess. Don’t freak out, it’s something you get used to. The rabbit hole goes much, much deeper than you think . You need to think bigger than just a big butt. The attraction switch means more than a coy little switch in your walk. Any woman can get more eyeballs to turn down the road by putting on less clothes, but if you want to have the kind of quality that makes a man attracted to the idea of being with you, it’s going to take something that’s just a touch more refined than showing skin. The only thing that needs to get taken off here is the hood on top of a man’s emotions. When you see what’s under the hood, you’ll catch onto the mechanics pretty quickly. It’s pretty smoky and tough to see in there at first, but give it time and everything will be clear as a crystal ball.
These women can make men act like commitment-ready gentlemen at the drop of a hat are basically like mechanics working under the hood - the catch is that they can use the tools with their minds. They’re psychic mechanics. Sure, a physical quality might give them an edge, but their greatest advantage isn’t something that can be measured with a cloth tape at the mall. These women are able to do what they do because they can flip those attraction switches like a prop. Once again, an attraction switch isn’t something you can physically wear or do, but it is something that women can stimulate in a man’s head. This isn’t a dirty technique. You don’t need to do anything weird or unnatural. You’re actually going to be doing things the way nature intended since Year One of the human race. Every man, no matter how old he is or what job he pretends to have, has attraction switches made to get flipped. A man doesn’t even need to know what his attachment switches are for you to get to business! Before a man even understands that an attraction switch has been flipped in his head, attraction has begun. The feeling of being attracted occurs after the switch has already been flipped. A pleasant signal wave gets released from his brain, like a Facebook notification for his body saying “hot stuff ahead”! There are unique attraction switches and basic, worldwide attraction switches. Some men know what’s going on, and some can’t even spell “attachment”. Generally speaking, many men are more open about their physical attraction switches than mental ones. What we’re going to be focusing on here is a universal 8
attraction switch. The universal attraction switch is the type that is older than civilization itself. This attraction switch is older than the very first corny pickup line. If you develop your skill at triggering this universal male attraction switch up to a high enough level, you may feel like you’ve got a case of illegal fireworks. This ability is just as powerful at it seems, and so it must be treated as such. We’ve got to be mature so that nobody gets hurt! As with all relationship techniques related to psychology, this is heavy stuff. This isn’t a weekend at the spa, this is lifeenhancing material. For your safety and sanity, try not to get too evil with the potential for power here. Now you don’t need to be a super model or a super genius to have what it takes to make men incurably interested in you. Many women are at a loss for ideas on how to get more quality men in their lives without becoming Miss Universe, but that’s why we’re here. Attraction switches GIVE you the key to the love universe. The attraction switch method will give you a healthy dose of reality - the good kind of reality, not the reality of having to serve jury duty. When all the misunderstood nonsense comes tumbling down, all that’s left is pure, saucy human magnetism. Understanding how to activate attraction switches work will give you access to a brand new dimension where dates don’t wind up being wastes of time. These are just a light handful of some of the amazing perks:
The power to make a man deeply addicted to pleasing you.
· The power to have a man do what you desire without even needing to ask. · The power to make a man rearrange his life just to spend more time with you. · The power to make a man fall deeply in love with you past the point of no return. These are facts, not opinions! Attraction switches can cure a man of commitment-phobia very quickly, and it’s a cure that he’ll happily pay for too. Total awareness and proficiency with attraction switches will make you about five times more awesome, but ignorance is like sabotage. Being ignorant about the proper ways to trigger attraction switches is what makes you want to write a manifesto on why women should be able to asexually reproduce - it’s not a fun state of mind to be in! If you’ve ever wondered why your date with Potential Prince Charming sunk like a dead frog, the likely culprit is an unflipped attraction switch. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, but it’s something that you can benefit from not allowing to happen as often. Women who fail to acknowledge the importance of attraction switches or don’t know of its existence will often talk about relationships like most normal people would talk about the Black Plague. Women without any real attraction switch proficiency, or desire 10
to learn about them, will often express beliefs that: · No man is capable of remaining committed for more than a few months at a time. · Getting men to remain loyal is nothing but a useless, exhausting struggle. · They will always end up with a man who has no idea how to treat a woman respectfully. · They are forever fated to end up with a man who takes more and gives less than they do in the relationship. ·
They will never meet a man who isn’t a total jerk
The reason that these women feel so little hope about their prospects in love is truly the result of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because these women refuse to learn how to trigger attraction switches when their relationships are in a relatively normal state, their relationships completely melt under pressure like butter. When a woman with no skill in triggering attraction switches finds that her man has become distant or moody, she’ll be like a koala with a screwdriver and a broken chair. She won’t have any idea what she’s doing, or how the things in front of her even came to exist in the first place. She won’t even know what to call those things. By understanding what an attraction switch is, you can at least make yourself man-literate. Understanding the keystones of attraction will increase your chances at being able to survive a rough patch in the relationship. For the sake of your own relationship or any relationship you 11
may find yourself in down the line, you need to develop some skill at triggering attraction switches as a plan of defense. It may seem a little rigid, but you’ll thank yourself for plugging through it! Attraction switches are lifesavers when no other ways of getting through to your man will cut it. Despite how intense this all may seem, there’s no need to worry about complexity or difficulty. Triggering that precious psychological wonder-button just begging for attention in your man’s mind only takes one thing: a connection with his emotional mind. Before going any further, we need to establish the fact that there is more type of mind in the human head. One brain holds multiple minds. Lots of people are only aware of the logical mind, which is meant for things like planning a weekly alcohol budget and pretending to understand politics. The logical mind is partnered with the unconscious mind. While the logical mind analyzes and plans, the unconscious mind feels and reacts. We are consciously controlling our logical minds in order to function throughout the day, but the unconscious mind is always at play behind the scenes. The logical mind takes the front of the stage in plenty of casual conversations we all have about our own thoughts and memories, but the emotional mind is actually even more perplexing. Underestimating the strength of emotions is like underestimating a tiger on steroids – doing this will total the longevity and health of any relationship. When it comes to understanding what makes your man tick, strong emotional insight is basically the same as mind reading. A man’s attachment switches are strongly rooted in the most sensitive recesses of the unconscious mind, and so in order to 12
reach them, we need to start drilling into that emotional gold mine. The golden rule is that the unconscious mind always wins. Ironically, though the unconscious mind is several times more influential than the conscious mind, the conscious mind gets most of the attention when people talk about thoughts. When you accept the fact that just about all of our decisions are a result of the unconscious mind, even if balanced out by the conscious mind, you’ll see just how dramatic the power of an attachment switch can be. No amount of reason or hesitation can overcome an eruption from the unconscious mind that shuts the conscious mind up at the last moment. The unconscious mind is a majestic, rude beast. Considering the lack of awareness that most of the general public has about the contents of their own heads, it’s no wonder that millions of people can’t tell the behavior of their partner from the behavior of a Martian. When we put the unconscious mind in context, however, it’s easier to understand. The unconscious mind is what compels certain men to willingly pick fights they can’t win to stand up for their ladies– this is where attachment switches come in. With the right trigger, an attachment switch causes an emotional surge within a man that sets his unconscious mind into overdrive. The unconscious mind is already more powerful than the logical mind under ordinary circumstances, and so during a powerful emotional spike, the unconscious mind practically becomes a person’s ENTIRE mind. Basically, what we’re dealing with here is a massive set of 13
dominoes just waiting to get flicked. The woman activates the man’s attachment switch, an emotional surge supercharges his unconscious mind, and in the blink of an eye, the man reunites with his ancient instincts that force him to fight for his mate. These wonder-women that we discussed before are, for all intents and purposes, expert navigators of the male unconscious mind. Though these women may not appear to be doing much on the surface level, but on a deeper layer, they are setting off emotional explosions that give him a mighty urge to express his affection for her. Now, while the effects are tasty, we still have to deal with the bitter reality that many men fall out of love without exactly giving a two-week warning. The power of his unconscious mind can either be your best friend or your sworn enemy! While positive attachment switches can make him jump to worshiping you, negative attachment switches can send him sailing in the opposite direction at an even faster pace. Your man’s unconscious mind can either be a blessing or a curse for you, depending on how savvy you are about how to interact with it. When the man’s unconscious mind has been energized by something sweet that you’ve said, he’ll work to bring heaven on Earth for you without a second thought. When a man’s unconscious mind has been conquered by negative vibes, he’ll be practically blinded by all of the giant signs pointing to an escape. When a man falls out of love, it means that his unconscious mind has essentially changed channels. The man will transition from willingly walking over hot coals to reach his woman, to willingly climbing a barbed wire fence to get away from her. 14
Though a man just might logically address some key points about a relationship that make him want to fly the coop, the actual process of falling out of love is not something that he plots on a spreadsheet. The unconscious mind always makes the final call on whether or not a man will love or hate the idea of sharing a life with you. Simply put, the unconscious mind’s power cannot be overstated. Neglecting to tend to a man’s unconscious mind is as good as ASKING it to make you single. Using positive attachment switches works against the negative ones that cause millions of men to feel less for their relationship every day. The unconscious mind absorbs everything around it just like soil holds seeds – ultimately, you will reap everything that you sow. Even if they may not seem extreme or dramatic, the little things that you do and say are constantly forming the collective image that your man has of you in his mind. The women who seem to have a nearly supernatural ability to make their man jump over the moon for them are using the awesome power of IMAGE. They’re basically projecting a constant flattering hologram of themselves into their men’s minds, like a 24/7 advertisement campaign. These women are constantly reinforcing a positive image of themselves, strengthening the association between their company and the man’s feel-good vibes. When a man has “learned” to associate the mere sight, smell and touch of you with instant positive sensations, his emotional mind has taken the front seat. When the emotional mind has taken the front seat, the attachment trigger is practically begging to get pushed! The more strongly her positive image has been reinforced, the 15
less the woman actually has to do in order to reach her man’s emotional mind. With higher access to the emotional mind, the easier it is for a woman to trigger the attachment switches that make a man increasingly devoted to her. With all of this in mind, the entire process couldn’t be simpler: make the mental image that your man has of you a good one, and as a result, he’s going to want to see the real deal more often than not. Now you might be wondering at this point – what is a simple way that you can actually reach a man’s emotional mind after the positive image has been projected? The best way to trigger that attachment switch in the man’s emotional mind is actually the oldest one. All that you need to do is activate the man’s natural protector instinct. The protector instinct is that natural drive in a human’s mind to serve as the defender and provider for his mate. You’re gonna make him go caveman mode in the best way. Even after millions of years, that primal protector instinct is still growling and prowling under the man’s skin at all times of the day. In order to best make use of your man’s inner protector on a regular day, you’re going to need to speak in a certain tongue. Don’t worry, this isn’t something that you need to get a translator book for. The language is grammatically identical to the one you speak now, only it makes men call you back more often! A man who is overcome with the mad will of the inner protector will devote his life to you. You don’t need to climb any mountains or reinvent the wheel – a man’s natural protector instinct will literally do all of the work when it emerges, and all that you have to do is delicately lay the foundation in your 16
man’s subconscious for its arrival. The ability to speak the language that summons the protector within him is a priceless skill, and I call these verbal techniques “Lovetraction Lines”! In later sections, you’re going to be introduced to an A+ collection of beautiful little phrases that call his inner protector like snake charmer. When your man’s unconscious mind is breached and the attachment trigger is flipped with just a simple sentence, you’ll understand just what it is that makes those other women so aggravatingly good at making men walk through fire for them. A woman who has injected Lovetraction Lines into her speech can practically enlist an army to defend her in a grocery store. The reason that this protector instinct is so intense and overriding is due to the fact that it’s linked to the oldest parts of his entire psychological makeup. The genetic wiring that charges up the protector instinct was already live and active for a long time before you first met him, and it exists to be activated. The existence of the protector instinct illustrates that your man has been composed by nature itself to defend you and make you happy. When a man happily struggles through the physical discomfort he may experience when he’s doing something for you, it’s because his protector instinct is practically getting a massage while his body strains. The ancient protector instinct needs to be exercised frequently in order to be kept in balance, but unfortunately, not all women are aware of just what they can do in order to activate it. A man’s protector instinct rarely atrophies, but it needs to be triggered periodically in order to keep him feeling like “the man”. If your man isn’t satisfying that ancient drive within him by 17
satisfying the protector instinct, all kinds of bad stuff can occur. A man who feels unfulfilled may start to become insecure about his own worth as a competent partner to you, which can lead to serious friction, fallout, and whining in the long run! Activating the protector instinct within your man is a win-win deal – you will have a happier, more devoted man in your life if you activate it constantly. You have the power to do both yourself and your man a favor with the simple use of these Lovetraction Lines. In the following sections, I’m going to share these invaluable verbal techniques to get you started. By the time you’ve managed to take all of the Lovetraction lines completely to heart, you would have learned how to become that mind-boggling woman with the mysterious power to turn men into suitors!
Section 1 – Unwrapping the Male Mind. This book is a product of years of study and more years of flopped dates. The frustration of every lady out there with a luckless love life has served as the fuel for this vessel, and now comes the time for liftoff! In the very beginning of my research, I networked with a man named Lance Taylor. As a “Hypnosis Expert”, Lance has a special talent to help his clients absorb the gist of his message on subconscious level. Lance has developed a bit of a cult following for his intense psychological strategies. His coaching was formerly a ladiesonly affair, but that changed after he could observe one of my most successful experiments. After getting to see the results of my experiment in action, Lance was so blown away that he opened the door to male clients as well! Not very long after he opened coaching methods to male clients, the floodgates opened and down came the tidal wave. As a relationship coach, Lance was prepared for a range of cases that range from mildly unsettling to borderline vomitinducing hazards of the job! Eventually, a certain client reached out to Lance that changed his perspective forever. The client was not an inspirational speaker, just your standard fare womanizer.
He could rotate through women with more ease and less moral hang-ups than rotating a sunglasses kiosk. This was the type of man whose name simply couldn’t be spoken in the same breath as the word “commitment”. One day, this man found himself in a situation that contradicted everything he stood for. This client had inexplicably found himself caring about a woman. He had pledged his body and soul to being a master of “game”, but suddenly, the game master was breaking his own rules. He had tried building himself up into the ultimate player, but the player was starting to lose to himself, and it filled him with dread. Try as he might, he just couldn’t shake off this phantom that made him unable to take his mind off of this woman’s face whenever he had a spare moment. He couldn’t figure out, for the life of him, why it took so much energy to make sense of the reason why he couldn’t just brush her off like all of the others and be done with it. When Lance listened to the man describe his situation, he could almost feel the desperation and confusion radiating from his client. It was almost unfathomable that the wannabe pimp was saying that a woman made him have feelings above the waist. There are plenty of men who are so caught up in the need to prove themselves through sexual conquests that they start seeing women on the same level as dress s socks. Lance’s client described himself in a way that made it sound like he had certainly been one of the more extreme cases, but this new woman was making him feel like a schoolboy with his first 20
crush. The client claimed that just the mere thought of this woman was enough to make his entire day suddenly feel hopeful. He had become addicted to her every little silly word, and the butterflies in his stomach became aggressive at the slightest touch of her. In a sense, this woman was interacting with Lanceâ€™s client in a way that made him play into her frame. They werenâ€™t doing anything spectacularly unique, but the feelings he got were doing a spectacular job of messing with him. When affection has reached a fever pitch, every little thing takes on a brand new form. The same words spoken by a woman that a man has no feelings for, and woman that a man has become addicted to, may has well be as different as jalapeno and banana flavor. This man was thrust into brand new, frightening territory .His ego was built on getting any woman he wanted, and when that was challenged, it came down like a flimsy house of cards! The world-bending sensations he was experiencing forced him to bend his own rules. He burned all of his booty call lines. This man was willing to give up on having one-night stands for the rest of his life if it meant that the woman of his dreams would be there next to him for it. The impulsive feelings that make us want to jump somebodyâ€™s bones come from the unconscious mind, just like emotions. At times, the emotions can surpass the power of your lusty urges. The desire that this man felt was greater than just one to have 21
sex - he was hurting to complete himself with this woman. Lance thought the sky must have been falling with the tears that fell from his client’s eyes. It was all just too surreal, but it was still very real. As it turned out, there were plenty of other men who would come to Lance because of their struggle with overwhelming commitment pangs. All over the world, men are having their entire realities flipped upside down when they encounter a woman who makes them want to shut away their little black books to become family men. The process of falling in love hits these guys like assassin from a fold in the air. These men had the rug pulled out from under their entire selfimage, and once that happens, a man can be prone to do just about anything. When the assuredness in “self” has been challenged by love, all of the things that he used to claim that we’d never do can suddenly become his new habits – this is especially true when it comes to money. One man had been consumed by his desire for a woman to be his “one” that he literally made himself bankrupt trying to please her. He may as well have poured gasoline on his saving and set off firecrackers! He didn’t think about the state of his bank account until the card declines made it impossible to ignore. The lens of love present a very different reality when a man wears them. Where most people would probably see a maniac bleeding out a year’s worth of rent money for no reason, he would see nothing more than opportunity to please the woman of his dreams. 22
Compared to the chance of having her agree to be his wife, major financial debt seemed like nothing more than a mere inconvenience to him in the process. In these cases, financial consequences can easily be swapped out with physical and social consequences as well. Another effect that love had on Lance’s clients was the emergence of a “superpower.” These men had an uncanny ability to describe the women with laser-like accuracy. The physical range of women that his clients were describing was endless, but each of them shared a disturbingly accurate memory of those women’s looks. You would think that these men learned how to describe their dream women before learning the alphabet! One man actually went as far as bringing in a picture of the woman who was giving him lovesick dreams. Where a lot of men would normally find “she’s really hot” to be an appropriate description, this man found a library of novels for every single one of her features. These women would literally be too bright to observe with human eyes if they actually looked exactly as Lance’s clients were describing them. To these men, the girl next door was the cosmos given a human form. These men had learned to find a woman’s existence even more attractive than her appearance. Even if a man doesn’t “get” the feelings he has, he’ll know that the feelings are some of the rarest things he has. He won’t have any idea how the feelings arose, but he’ll know that they aren’t feelings that he’s likely to experience again for a very long time. On an unconscious level, he’s going to want to protect those rare feelings like a rabid comic collector would defend the first 23
issue of Superman. The supply of those feelings is limited to one woman in the entire world, and that means that the demand is at an absolute maximum. Lance had a certain client who was in his mid-twenties, and this young man found himself catching feelings for a woman who was more than old enough to be his mother. Being attracted to a more mature woman is a perfectly normal thing for a man to experience, but the thing that set this man’s case apart from the other clients was a lack of any ability to explain it in the slightest. Whereas other men could start describing their dream women on Easter and keep going on straight through Christmas, this man seemed to be at a total lack of words to even start. The sort of attraction that this man was feeling is the kind that exists to be questioned and overwhelmed by. The mystique of his attraction for her was enough to sustain his appetite to dive deeper into it. He was at once given a high by the woman herself, and mesmerized by the strength of his own feelings. All that this man could tell was that there was just no turning back from the avalanche of feelings. The age difference made it difficult for him to find anything that they had in common, but that didn’t discourage him in the slightest. He felt magnetized to her by something and just couldn’t figure out where it began or ended. In this scenario, what Lance was witnessing was a complete takeover by the emotional brain. In the previous section, we went over just how powerful the unconscious mind is when compared to the conscious mind – this is a perfect illustration of 24
what happens when emotions have won over. Before feelings reach a complete fever pitch, we still like to hang onto logic as a last-ditch effort. We might logically deduce that the compatibility between our personalities and the personalities of the people we are in love with is important to keep in mind. We might compare and contrast our own hobbies and the hobbies of the people we’re seeing. Once the comparison has been made, we might come to conclusion of just how much of a good idea it is to continue moving forward. We might convince ourselves that we’re making an educated decision. When the emotional brain runs more and more independently, the logical measures that we might use to assess our connections to another person are taken out of the equation. The truth of the matter is that the things we see as having “in common” with the ones we love are really just attempts to make sense of the feelings, but may not actually be the source of those feelings themselves. It’s literally the same as confusing cause with effect! Lance’s client is a perfect example of how you don’t need to have a single square of common ground with another person to get obsessed with them. When we spend too much time fixating on the logical plants in an emotional jungle, we’re at least ten times more likely to get lost. Hundreds of cases would follow that mirrored that client’s experience with the older woman, and sometimes it would appear that each one could potentially outdo the last. 25
No matter whether the man is successful or a complete slob, the cycle repeated itself yet again. Lance came to see that it really didn’t matter how commitment-phobic the guy was once bitten by the mysterious little love bug. What was even more astounding to see was that these men were seemingly managing to fall for women that they would claim weren’t even their type in the first place. These men were willfully breaking their own standards and replacing them with the unshakable belief that they had found water on a desert planet. It took several months of experimental coaching methods before Lance started to realize something too weird to be ignored. As he listened to all of these men go on about these women, he noticed three constant patterns between all of their stories. 1- “She’s the hottest thing in the universe!”
Lance discovered that these men were experiencing a serious emotional buzz that made them view a certain woman as THE most attractive woman in the entire world, without exception or exaggeration.
As much emphasis as there is in society on physical attractiveness, physical attraction still isn’t something that we’ve been able to determine a scientific formula for explaining from top to bottom. We can explain the biological stuff at work 26
in the body after the attraction has already happened, but pinpointing Square 1 remains a serious challenge.
We can attempt to make sense of the physical attraction by attempting to reach a general consensus on what’s hot and what’s not, but this never even lasts enough to make it through a single generation.
What it seems to be is that the logical factors of physical attraction are almost completely meaningless when emotions start meddling. Just like every other situation that we’ve talked about where the unconscious mind beats out the conscious mind, rational physical attraction is defeated by instinctual attraction.
In a sense, it’s like the parts of our minds that identify a person as physically attractive are actually being PILOTED by emotions! What a man may have found boring or unattractive on women before will suddenly become the mark of a supermodel on the woman that he loves, and he probably won’t even realize it, let alone understand it.
When we see a person’s alleged standards for physical attraction get completely wiped out by an emotional surge, we can also see how a person might suddenly start finding all kinds 27
of Unattractive things about their ex once the emotions have worn off.
Let’s be honest, we may have all done that at some point. One bad break and Prince Charming looks like Quasimodo.
When the emotional sandstorm has settled and the love is no longer all-powerful, “logical” reasoning will suddenly start to creep back into the frame of the man’s mind. Where he may not have even been able to put this former partner’s beauty in words when they first met, he might find it easy ways to compare her to a flounder fish when things go sour.
Understanding this contradictory truth of physical attraction is essential to being aware of just what happens when a man has truly fallen into the deepest caverns of love. If you can become good enough at activating a man’s attraction switches, then the physical attraction to you will be something that he always finds himself at loss to explain. 2-
“Reasons? I don’t need reasons!”
Lance’s clients needed less reasons to justify their attraction than a duck needs to justify quacking! Men who were normally rational and patient will themselves on spending sprees that would make Las Vegas look like a financial wisdom workshop. If you could peer into the logical brain of a man who is 28
splurging on a woman with money that he literally needs in order to eat, then you would probably see a sign that reads “Out to Lunch”. The emotional brain, however, will be nothing but fireworks and trumpets. Being in love can literally be compared to the effects of a drug. If you ask a man just why he thought it would be a good idea to spend 700 dollars on a single date with a woman when he only makes 20 dollars an hour, you’re asking the wrong kind of question – “thinking’ never had anything to do with it, and that’s exactly why he did it so willingly. If not breaking their banks in half, these men were also prone to unconsciously doing things to please their women that would embarrass them tremendously in hindsight. It was almost as though someone or something had literally hypnotized them in the moment of being faced with that special woman. The man in love, in some interpretations, might not even be the same person when out of love. When out of love, a man can easily make logic the commanding drive of his everyday life. Rational choices are easy to make when they aren’t being interrupted by the impatient growls of the unconscious mind. When love strikes, however, the growls of the unconscious mind become a deafening roar! The roar completely ATOMIZES logic, like a lollipop hit by magnum bullet. The things that we learn in life to apply for smarter survival are only possible to make use of because of logic, and so when a man’s logic is compromised at a base level, so is his ability to make use of those lessons.
3 -“Pleasing these women made them ridiculously happy”. One of the craziest things that Lance observed was the fact that these men were pleased simply by pleasing their idealized women. Without even receiving anything specific in return, these men were seeking out ways to make their women happy for the sake of doing it. You might even be able to say that the opportunity to please a woman becomes like a sort of opiate for the man, completely apart from any other reward. Of course there might be some real incentives that the man associates with doing the favor, but when this happens often enough, the man will literally associate the favor with the reward. Once the favor itself has become associated with positive feelings, the man will go out of his way to make himself useful in as many ways as possible. What he may have seen as a chore will become a privilege and an honor. A man who is falling out of love will lash out at his significant other for nagging about housework, but a man truly in love will rarely ever need to be nagged at all. After seeing how common these effects were, Lance’s curiosity was at its peak. Lance put himself on the case to track down the truth, and for the next year, he dove into his research. Lance consulted a ton of cognitive psychology therapists and read books tirelessly. At the end of that year of intense research, Lance was able to lock onto a very promising lead: “phenylethylamine”, also called the “Love Hormone”.
Simply put, the Love Hormone is like a horn that calls out man’s natural protector instinct from its cave. When the Love Hormone is in play, the man’s desire to be a protective and supportive mate can override his consciousness. The Love Hormone is basically Cupid’s arrow! Whenever you get a certain “gut feeling” in your stomach that makes you feel like you were meant for a certain person, that’s the Love Hormone doing its job behind the scenes. When you look at a random object or hear a song that makes you think of a certain someone, and it immediately makes you feel amazing, that’s the Love Hormone pulling your strings. All the Love Hormone needs in order to activate is an indirect mental association – as long as it ties back to the person you love, it’s legitimate. A certain kind of chemical process occurs when the Love Hormone has been activated. When the Love Hormone goes to work, it makes a man’s brain start sending out pulses that chemically speed up the beating of his heart. The chemical that leads to faster heart palpitations here is known as the “Bonding Chemical”. When the Bonding Chemical has reached a strong enough concentration level in the body, the man will feel an incredibly pleasant wave of satisfaction ripple through his body. If a man associates you with the feelings that come from Love Hormone activation, the results are a BIG. You are going to be a recurring image in his mind that he becomes addicted to. Once the image of you has become something that he has 31
become addicted to, he’s going to feel an urgent need to commit to you. His main priorities are going to become focused on your pleasure and comfort above all other things. In the dimension that man enters when he’s in love, time itself become trifles compared to the ability he has to please you. If you’ll recall from the previous section, Lovetraction Lines are verbal techniques that you can use to manually encourage the appearance of a man’s protector instinct. With what we’ve just covered, you’d be right to assume that Lovetraction Lines awaken the protector instinct by triggering the Love Hormone within him. The Love Hormone is nestled deeply in a man’s emotional mind, and with a Lovetraction Line, you’re basically singing a siren song directly to it. If you’re constantly wrestling with the question of what it is that men really want, then you are in the company of just about every woman who seeks out relationship help. An even more satisfying question that you could have answered is – “What makes a man experience feelings towards a woman in the very first place?” While it would be ideal, there are no perfect answers. You could scour the globe from northeast to southwest, and you still wouldn’t find a complete and undeniable answer to the question of what establishes the very first seed of attraction from the ground-up. Even if we can’t know the absolute truth, what I can offer you is best answer that we’ve managed to form after centuries of studies on love. Imagine that the world is like a giant open-air marketplace, and 32
the hottest thing being traded is emotion. We are perpetually trading emotions with one another in this marketplace, just by being around one another. We all derive some sense of satisfaction out of feeling wanted and excited, and this connects to our natural desire simply to feel good- emotions are traded for this desire. You might be able to make another metaphor for this that doesn’t involve a marketplace, but at the end of the day, the truth is that all of us have a drive to simply feel good. When a man has truly fallen in love with you, then you have to understand that you have become like a water source for his good feelings. Beyond having to actively do or say things that make him feel happy, when he is in love, your existence alone is what makes him experience those positive sensations that we are all seeking in the emotional marketplace. It may begin with something you do or wear, but once it begins, the man will get an incredible high just from being in your presence. There are many differences between the sexes, but the state of a man in love is identical to the state of a female in love. When you’ve fallen in love with a man, you have come to see that man’s essence as a powerful source of positive feelings. When you are able to feel like you can move a building simply by being around a person, it’s only natural that you’d like to be around them more often! When someone gives you the euphoria of love, you both desire their happiness and company – you desire to win their affection so that they’ll willingly be around you for as long as possible.
The trading of emotions is never-ending and over-arching – in addition to being aware of that, you should also be sure to understand the fact that an emotional trade is not always based in logic. The emotional marketplace is not a logical marketplace, and that makes it a very chaotic marketplace indeed. There are lots of women in the world who, despite the illogical nature of emotions and love, are convinced that there are perfect logical reasons why they couldn’t ever possibly be loved. Women out there are completely convinced that simply because they don’t look a certain way or aren’t in a certain age group, there’s no hope for them in romance. Now if you think back to the men I was describing before, who came to Lance for advice on their reality-defying obsession with women of all shapes and sizes, can’t you see how ridiculous it is to give up on being loved because of your looks? You might not think that you have the right type of body for that one special guy, but that shouldn’t make you short-sell yourself. When certain women give up on believing that they aren’t attractive enough to reach their standards of their ideal man, they might start to think that their only hope in the situation is to lower their own standards. A woman who has decided to drop her standards might as well have practically made themselves allergic to the man of her dreams. If you can just take a good look at some of jaw-droppingly strong feelings of attachment that men can develop for women of a literally infinite array of physical appearances, you’ll understand how untrue it is that looks are everything. Looks are something, but to call them everything is a ticket to 34
Hurtsville! Women who doll themselves up for a better love life without improving anything else are very, very good at learning things the hard way. When a man can get high off your presence, you’re going to be 10 out of 10 in his mind on just about any day of the year. The “Love Hormone” is completely responsible for the way that you identify a certain man you see out there as the “the one”. When the Love Hormone activates, your brain’s pleasure and reward zone has made an executive decision on what the person it wants to see more of and more often. At this point, you should have a pretty solid understanding of just what it is that sets off those sparks of attraction in a person’s mind. You’re well aware of the distinction between physical attraction, and an all-powerful Love Hormone activation. You’re ready to understand how it is that just a few mere words can trigger a man’s protector instinct and Love Hormone. The truth of that matter is that these seemingly magic words are more than just words, but not necessarily magic. Every word is embedded with a set of INSTRUCTIONS. When our brains receive the instructions carried by spoken words, two things can happen: 1. We respond in a way that fits into rational social rules. 2. The words leave an emotional impact and set off alarms!
When a word is spoken, be it “bloody murder” or “cuddle”, feelings AND images have been transferred. Depending on the word, either the graphic image or the feelings created by the word can be more powerful than the other. Whenever a spoken word is heard, the brain immediately processes images so that it can categorize that feeling. The sound of the word might travel through our ears, but at the same time, we are mentally traveling through several hypothetical places in our minds at light speed to identify the word. The words create the images, and then all of those images reinforce the feelings – this is the fundamental nature of the Lovetraction Lines that I’m going to be sharing with you. What I’ve done here is put together a winning combination of words that have been proven to trigger those images that stir the primal protector. When the words are spoken at the right possible time, striking the iron while it is hot, his attraction reaches a fever pitch. A truly attracted man will become addicted to the feelings that come from the emotional impact of your words. The words might either be spoken in-person or in a text, but once they’ve been received, the ultimate end result is the same. Use Lovetraction Lines and you can observe how he becomes increasingly infatuated with you. Alright, at this point we’ve covered more than enough gritty details about the maze of male psychology. Now that you understand just how much leverage you can gain by loosening 36
up the Love Hormone, we can start doing this dance for real! You know the system, and now it’s time to learn how to make that system work for you – let’s start breaking into the specifics of how to do that in the next chapter.
Section 2 – Precious Honeybunch Lines. Now it’s finally time that we start discussing how we can put these Lovetraction Lines in action. Don’t be worried that you’re going to have to memorize any monologues to pull this off! You can relax, this won’t be like a high school drama class; even so, you’ll still be on your way to getting an “A+” in the school of attraction. The golden rule here is that these lines are SIMPLE and SWEET. I actually sometimes interchange the term “Precious Honeybunch Lines” with Lovetraction Lines. This type of language is friendly enough to be low-risk and even flattering to the man you’re speaking to, but the point is that it still creates positive discomfort. Once you get a good grip on the sort of impression that this type of language gives off, you’ll find that all of the psychological complexity we’ve been talking about is almost shockingly easy to apply and benefit from. If you’re the type who learns best from doing, then this will all be a breeze. Now before we start cracking into the simple and sweet goodness of these lines, I’d like to share a story about a friend of mine that you just might relate to. This is the story of a good friend of mine named Cassie. First of all, Cassie is an absolute sweetheart. She is cute in that “quirky girl next door” type of way that makes the atmosphere just a 38
little bit lighter wherever she goes. Unfortunately, just like me and you, Cassie wasn’t exactly hitting home runs in the dating department. Cassie is a unique soul, but sometimes her quirks could make her come off to men as a little bit “weird”. She’s far from being a murderous lunatic, but her off-beat personality made it hard for her to find common ground with your average guy. Like so many women before her, Cassie got into a habit of beating herself up for every date that fell through. We’ve all had an awkward situation or two that makes us want to collapse on the bed and groan our regrets into the pillow, and Cassie was experiencing a successive string of these. She started getting a bit socially anxious and critical of herself. She was starting to act like a glum investigator, obsessed with solving the case of what it was about her that made men want to buy one-way plane tickets. One day she would blame her “love handles”, and they next day she’d say it was her forehead. No matter what the case, Cassie was convinced that she was the pinnacle of “UN-DATABLE” given a human form to walk the earth. Wonderfully Weird Being Cassie’s friend, I was naturally inclined to let her know that she wasn’t literally the reincarnation of Swamp Thing. I wanted badly to give Cassie hope, because just like her and perhaps even you yourself, I once struggled with feeling “weird” to guys.
There are plenty of people out there who argue that being normal is actually even weirder than being “weird”. Being the weird one means you have a memorable personality. The times when “weird” becomes a problem is when it affects your selfconfidence to the point of self-loathing. You should find ways to let your personal weirdness billow like a flag, not drag you down like an anvil. It was one unremarkable day in the distant past when I got the epiphany to address this problem. While I was struggling with the problem of figuring out what I could do to make men recognize all of my best traits, I had a shocking realization: I was doing it backwards! Instead of obsessing over all of the ways I could try “selling” my personality to man, what I should have been doing (and what I suggest that all women do), is encourage a man to become even more critical about himself. Do you know all of that time you can waste waiting by the phone in distress after a date that left you feeling unsure? Some women could have written books in all of the time dedicated to that. When that happens, what is it that you’re feeling? You’re feeling regret, for one, but you’re also thinking about him. Your thoughts are virtually invaded by him. What we’re basically going to do here is flip the script. I’m going to show you just how easy it is to lead some very engaging conversations while you’re on a date with any man. If you can take what I’m sharing here to heart, at the end of that date, you will not be the one left with the lion’s share of nervous uncertainty about what’s going to happen next. What we’re actually going to do here is something called 40
“Positive Discomfort”. It means giving a guy a cocktail of pleasure, mixed with some discomfort. This makes him feel a sudden urge to chase you & capture you. Here is where the process of developing positive discomfort is going to start looking really good. Let me just try and illustrate the beauty of this reversal with a personal story of my own. I was on a date with this guy that had, up until that point, been more or less standard fare. We were in the middle of our date, still scoping each other out. It wasn’t yet the time for us to exchange our sweet goodbyes and split off into “did they really like me?” land, but we were still starting to just form some solid impressions of one another that would set the date’s tone. He asked me what I thought of him so far. It was a fairly mundane question, but in truth, he may as well have just opened up a jar full of cookies and diamonds. When a guy casually asks you what you think of him, he’s offered you an opportunity to flip him on his head so strongly that it could make a judo master blush. The thing you have to appreciate is the fact that he expects you to give him a straight answer; you can have a lot of fun with this expectation. Now to be honest, I didn’t even quite realize exactly what I w as doing when I did it, but I thank my lucky stars for doing it on reflex. After he asked me what I thought of him, I blurted out, “Well I think you’re a really nice guy, but I did notice something 41
a little bit weird about you.” I could write additional books about the expression that washed over his face when he heard that. It wasn’t at all what he had expected, but it had seized his attention in a BIG way. At first he might have only been slightly curious, but my answer made him downright ravenous for answers. I could practically see the confused impatience flickering in my date’s eyes. As if on cue, he floundered against my answer with a satisfying, “Um, what’s that?” My response was the stuff of paid vacations and complimentary dessert. I said, “Well, it’s nothing major. Maybe I’ll talk about it when I know you better.” “Nothing major”, “know you better”, and “maybe”. Words like
these were made so that they could be put together in sentences that give you power, and you must accept that power completely. This isn’t the type of power that breaks through walls, but rather the kind that seeps into a crack in the wall and expands until the whole thing comes crumbling down under its own weight. In that moment, I had just successfully used a Lovetraction Line for the very first time. What I had said wasn’t bitchy or critical, but innocent. It complimented him but at the same time it confused him. After that quick exchange with the man, his entire persona seemed different. He stuttered a bit more, he laughed 42
nervously at things that weren’t all that embarrassing. He became a lot more complimentary, almost in a deferential sort of way. You really just can’t overstate how far just a tiny bit of curiosity can go when it comes to creating a powerful sense of interest. By not letting him onto everything that I was thinking, but giving him a compliment under the fog of doubt, I had drawn the beginning of a “circle of attraction”. Want to know what it is that makes this tiny bit of curiosity so effective? The thing that we’re dealing with here is what’s called the “reptilian brain”. The Reptilian Brains The best way to describe the reptilian brain is that it seeks to maximize your pleasure and minimize your discomfort. The reptilian brain compels you to only seek the good things and avoid the painful things - this is a way to increase your chances at survival. Most people don’t go completely through life only listening to their reptilian brains, but it still holds a great deal of influence. When it comes down to it, the reptilian brain operates in accordance to two main rules. Rule Number One - Reason is Forfeit Compared to your logical brain, the reptilian brain has 43
absolutely nothing to do with calculated reasoning skills. The reptilian brain’s primary objectives are to maximize pleasure and minimize pain, plain and simple. When it comes to the decisions that you make, only the ratio of enjoyment to inconvenience matters to the reptilian brain - if the latter outweighs the former, the reptilian brain opposes it. Rule Number Two - Pleasure is the Principle Priority Because the reptilian brain doesn’t have any capacity for logical reasoning, it relays its messages with extreme volume and urgency. To the reptilian brain, any chance to be satisfied is a chance that shouldn’t be missed for the world! Therefore, when the reptilian brain has decided that something must be acquired, it won’t be easily be swayed by the words “No”. For example, if I say : “DON’T think of a big, fat, blue COW”, what do you think the person I say that to is immediately going to start thinking about? It is impossible to clear your head of certain thoughts by thinking about not thinking about them, and that’s why the reptilian brain can’t be discouraged when it hears that something is unavailable or unattainable. When I told that man that I was unsure about a certain quality of his, it basically spoke right to his reptilian brain. When his reptilian brain received the message that my answer wasn’t immediately available, all that happened as that its desire for my answer was intensified to an even higher degree than before. Intrigue and Obsession Mode When a man’s reptilian brain has been set into a frenzy of 44
desire for something that it has been a challenged to have, he will begin to shift into certain “states” illustrating the condition very clearly. When I first gave my date my answer, his initial confusion put him into INTRIGUE mode. Intrigue mode is exactly what it sounds like. In the state of intrigue, a man is fueled by the uncertainty surrounding your true feelings. If you’ve successfully baited him with innocent but unclear answers, he’s going to start making greater efforts to uncover the truth. In essence, you will have left him a trail of breadcrumbs to follow towards your clear opinion. Now of course, you can’t just give up all of the answers just when he’s become intrigued. If you immediately satisfy his need for answers as soon as he shows intrigue, then you risk breaking the intrigue mode and winding up back at square one. If you hold fast and don’t let him have his curiosity satisfied right away, however, he’s going to advance from Intrigue Mode to an even more intense state. The state that follows Intrigue Mode is what we call Obsession Mode. In Obsession Mode, the man’s reptilian brain is indignant. He’ll be past the point of mere curiosity about what your feelings are and become completely fixated on understanding just what it is that you meant to communicate to him. When Obsession Mode has been achieved, you don’t need to worry about whether or not you’ve left a good impression any more - in essence, you will have left the deepest and most effective impression that can be left on a man interested in a woman. He won’t have all of the answers, but all he’ll know is that he harbors an unshakable need to figure you out. 45
Now of course, there are plenty more Lovetraction Lines than the one I used in my story above. In truth, the type of things that you could say are really only limited by your personal level of creativity. To make this easier, there are some clear-cut examples below of the sort of things that you can say to a man who probably expects you to tell him exactly what you think about him. The usage of these phrases aren’t just limited to when he asks you what you think of his personality, so the potential is huge. If you can flip these phrases on the man at the most appropriate times, then you’ll see firsthand just how effective a Lovetraction line is at giving the love game some serious traction. "You know, this is the first date that excites me and freaks me out a little at the same time. This is the kind of phrase that you’re going to be able to use at the very beginning of the date. Note how the line opens with the expression of your genuine excitement at being on the date, which establishes a quick and sweet connection between the two of you that will have him feeling pretty good. Now, immediately after that sweetness comes the stinger, “freaks me out a little”. You want to be sure to add in “a little”, so that he doesn’t get the idea that you think he’s some kind of untrustworthy ax slasher; at the same time, what you’re doing is letting the very first little shadows of uncertainty start to creep up into his mind and provoke some questions. First and foremost, he’s probably going to start wondering if it’s 46
actually him that’s freaking you out or something entirely different. As soon as he gets the idea that something about him just might be weirding you out, his mind is going to start spinning into a little damage control mode. He may not even flat-out say that it’s bugging him, but he’s going to be running a thorough and rushed mental inspection of everything about him that might possibly be giving off a freaky vibe. In this simple phrase, what you’ve managed to do is lay the foundation for Intrigue Mode to arise in the very first moments of the date. This is what it means to hit the ground running! “You seem to be a person who has real opinions and likes
to have fun! Just like me! There is so much more I want to say, but I’m holding it for the right time.” Now, towards the middle of the date (assuming that two of you can still stand each other, you’re in prime territory to start laying down some more sweet and tasty little lines to make his intrigue gain a little bit of additional heat. In this statement, you’re communicating something that’s a little bit more intimate than the example of what could be said at the beginning of the date - this is a natural escalation of interest. With this phrase, you’re offering that reptilian brain its optimal ratio of pleasure to discomfort. He’ll be invigorated by the fact that it seems you legitimately like him, but at the same time, there will be a festering little pit of resistance to the fact that you’re still keeping something unknown.
The impact of the positive things that you said will be complimented by that which you’ve chosen to omit. He’s not going to completely understand if the gravity of that unmentionable thing is really so intense that it could outweigh the positives, and that’s exactly what we want! We want to keep him fed enough to develop an appetite, but always a little bit hungry. Now the range of contexts in which you could use this line below is pretty versatile, but no matter how you choose to use it, it will serve you well. In this phrase, you’re going to make him refocus his perspective from him to you "Well, most of my life I've been trying to be this super nice girl, and I thought that this is what guys wanted. A really clean, always straightforward kind of gal. But the funny thing is...I actually have this really intense weird side to me, but I only reveal it to guys I can trust." This is the type of line that you’re going to could effectively insert a stinger at the middle or the date. Out of all of the different opportunities that you have to use these lines, the end of the date is probably the most vital opportunity of them all. Whatever gets said towards the end of the date will tend to be what echoes the loudest in your minds after you part ways. In this situation, what you’re basically doing is making sure that he leaves with the question of your true self buzzing about in his mind. If you’ve moved through the date by successfully leading him through statements that make him question his own character, then a sudden flip to mentioning your personality might be like 48
a splash of cold water on his face. He might have been wondering if the type of girl you are is really attracted to the guy you think he is, and this will intensify his intrigue yet again. After describing yourself, you say, "Well....do you think you prefer brutally honest women or nice ones?" Now in this phrase, what’s actually happening here is the fusion of focus on his personality and your own. While you’re directly asking him about one of his qualities, he probably won’t miss the fact that his answer could potentially give you an impression of his thoughts about you. When he’s thinking of himself and you in the same train of thought, he’s starting to build the kind of association that escalates the Intrigue Mode into the next state. "Well, honestly I've been told I'm one of the most nicest people you'd ever encounter. My friends actually think I'm even a little bit crazy. But I do this secret little thing in my head where within the first 5 minutes I can figure out whether things will work out or not and that’s why I asked you this question.” (Or Alternatively) "I'll probably be kicking myself later tonight with regret....but what do you think about checklists?" Now if he’s been having any kind of uncertain thoughts about whether or not you’re really sizing him up, then a line like this is going to confirm it. At the end of the date, you’ll basically be letting him know that he’s reached the end of a “performance 49
evaluation”. While it may not be all that serious, it’s reasonable to bet that it may make him anxious to understand how he did. If he predictably tries to prod for an answer, then your reply should naturally be something along the lines of: “I’ll tell you about it once I feel a little more comfortable
being honest with you..." Now if his intrigue has been stimulated effectively enough up to this point, chances are he won’t just be satisfied by this type of answer. The reptilian brain roars for satisfaction! If and when he asks you to clarify the terms of your honesty, you can answer his question with a question like below. "Well, I mean, have you ever sat down and thought "gee if there was a perfect woman for me, these are the qualities she'd have?" Since he’s been thinking about you for the entire date, he might be likely to start wondering about how you could stack up to the idealize version of the perfect female partner that he has in his mind. The intrigue you’ve managed to stir up was a great way of fostering genuine attraction, and as you now know, attraction has a way of making man shape his ideals around the woman he’s become legitimately attracted to. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t immediately think you’re the dream woman right then and there, because the seeds will still be planted. You can elaborate just a precious few more implications like in the phrase below. 50
Then you say, "Well I have this sort of unusual checklist that I've started using, and you actually already have 6 really good points checked off...but..." It’s important that you make a point not to explicitly mention how many good points are a good score. Giving him six points and leaving it at that will basically leave him helpless to understand whether or not his six points are out of 10, 7, or 700. This is a great last-ditch way to make him really start checking his closet for anything he may have accidentally left out in the open. The checklist is a bit unconventional, but it’s quirky enough to show that you’ve got sense of humor about you that isn’t overly rigid - at the same time, he’s still going to be wondering whether or not you’re serious about just how critically he’s been “graded” over the course of the date. His intrigue will be set to a potential fever pitch, and your work will nearly be done. Now one last thing that you can throw in there for a good (and necessary) effect is an additional dash of uncertainty about the truth of your feelings. The phrase below illustrates the uncertain message well: "Well.... there's a couple odd things I've also noticed." The perfect way to cap this off is to let him know that the odd things will be fun to tell him, but you’ll be keeping them a secret until then!
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The Doorway to Love by JD Fuentes www.EmotionalDoorway.com
â€œHow to Meet the Man of Your Dreamsâ€? How is a woman supposed to meet the man of her dreams? The conventional, traditional answer is this: She waits for him to find her, and then waits for him to win her. Let's call this notion of courtship, The Patience Model. The Patience Model is usually seen as the only alternative to bold vamping-- which is the kind of behavior that leads to feeling the sting of other women's scorn and venom. Bold vamping, it's also thought, will get you a man in the short term, but not in the long term. This program doesn't rely on either The Patience Model or The Vamp Model. Instead, you'll discover a third way, one which allows you to choose the man you want, yet not be seen as threatening by other women. You're going to learn to bond with a man's emotions from across a room, without saying a word, and without him or the women around you noticing what you are doing. Then, once you engage his instincts and enter conversation with him, you will use what you learn from this program to break through the walls he keeps up in most relationships-- so from the very beginning, you are going to reach places inside him that the other women he's met have never been given permission to enter. And again, you can begin reaching these places inside him from the very first conversation... even the first few moments of that conversation, if you'd like. You will also have the option of leading him to intense sexual arousal, without seeming to do anything out of the ordinary. Before you read further, please ask yourself a question. Have you ever felt yourself wondering, Why doesn't my man just understand what I want? Why doesn't he just know what I feel? If you're like most women, you've found that other women usually are better at reading your feelings than men are. So men don't always-- or even usually-- know what you're feeling. And yet, consider what the self-help industry, and well-meaning friends, tell women to do, in order to attract men: Feel good about yourself. But if men don't reliably read your feelings, then they won't reliably know when you're feeling good about yourself.
Bluntly, feeling good about yourself usually doesn't affect how men feel about you. For that matter, by and large, men don't care about how you feel-- they care about how you make them feel. As we'll explain more fully later, the brains of men and women are very different, and experience the world in different ways; the mere sight of a physically attractive woman floods a man with intense pleasure. (Imagine an attractive man whispering romantically into your ear, while massaging your shoulders; that is what a man feels, just by seeing a beautiful woman.) So just by being physically beautiful, a woman makes a man feel good, and he's usually inclined to going quite a bit out of his way, just to have a chance to experience more of-- and perhaps feel and taste-- that physical beauty. But, some might protest, when I feel good, good things happen. I've met some great men, when I'm feeling good about myself! Actually, when you're feeling good, you're more likely to give yourself permission to notice that a man is attracted to you. More to the point, feeling good about yourself may cause you to behave differently, which can cause men to find you more interesting and more attractive. Simply put, there are two ways to attract a man: 1. be, by the standards of that man, physically attractive 2. behave-- that is, say and do things-- in a way that that man finds fascinating, exciting, and compelling As it happens, men, and particularly driven, successful men, are usually intensely motivated toward sexual variety-- that is, having new women, or having more than one woman. Therefore, the secret to keeping a man passionate for you over time is not being physically beautiful; it is being able to reach a man's emotions and hungers on levels that other women do not even know about, and therefore satisfying his soul in ways other women cannot match. Since there is no shortage of supplies and resources available elsewhere for helping you polish your appearance, â€œRousing the Lionâ€? will concentrate solely on how to say and do things that make a man want you, respect you, admire you, and crave you... for the long-term. Rousing the Lion is designed to help you: 1. feel good about deciding what kind of man meets your personal standards 2. attract that man 3. steadily increase his erotic attraction to you even after you and he are
lovers 4. use his intensifying passion for you to fuel his career success... and his newfound career success, to fuel even greater passion for you As we'll explain much more fully later, the key to opening the world of passion hidden inside him consists of something quite counter-intuitive: Knowing and discussing with him the details of his struggle for worldly success, and making the details of his success an integral part of your erotic life together. Note that his worldly success is a very delicate matter, and he will probably not want to discuss such things with you; getting him to truly open up and share this part of himself requires a very particular approach, which you will learn from the Rousing the Lion program.
“But I Don't Want to Have to Think About This-I Want Love to Just Happen!” One problem with an approach to dating based on waiting and “letting things happen”-- based, that is, on not planning and not analyzing-- is that you wind up having to spend time thinking-- and thinking and thinking and thinking-- anyway. You just do it afterward. You find yourself in the middle of something, you let things happen... and then, later, you wind up thinking and thinking and thinking as you try to interpret what happened. And as you run through this mental autopsy of your experience, either you're regretful and disappointed, or worse, you're unable to fully relax and completely enjoy a good thing because you're still thinking and thinking and thinking about it. On the other hand, if you decide to set clear standards for yourself, and choose to decide for yourself who you want in your life; if you give yourself permission to choose and decide, and then choose to feel proud of acting on your decisions; then, afterward, you can fully relax into and enjoy the fruits of what your new awareness of men is bringing you. You'll find yourself noticing other things, too. Particularly, in giving yourself permission to choose, and giving yourself permission to feel good both about immediate rewards and about the subtler rewards of learning how to get even better results next time, you are more fully transforming on the inside, on the levels others can't see. In choosing what you want, and choosing to have it, and choosing to be responsible for your experience, the deepest parts of you are transforming from child to woman. And the more that you give yourself credit for having made choices, the more and faster your confidence will increase.
“Of Love, Fate, and the Unconscious” The fact is, even when a woman convinces herself that she's not thinking about love, or not trying to be attractive, she is, consciously or unconsciously, doing countless little things to catch men's attention, or to drive men away, or, quite often, both. And because most women don't give themselves permission to really think about the specifics of how they relate to men, they wind up attracting men by default... men who dissatisfy them. Or, for that matter, they wind up losing the men they want the same way they met them... unconsciously, and by default. Sometimes, doing things unconsciously doesn't mean that you're doing them in an inspired way, and according to what Fate wants... sometimes, it just means that you're doing them, well, unconsciously. That is, without awareness, without sensitivity, without curiosity; that, in fact, you're doing stuff, without a clue as to what you're doing... even, and especially, if you find yourself doing these things time and time again. Which leads to another point about the Patience Model. You'll notice that the Patience Model tends to leave you with a very limited range of choices: basically, only those offered directly to you. That is, with the Patience Model, your only real shot is with men who, seeing you wait around and therefore pumped up with a temporary shot of I-guess-she-doesn't-have-any-other-options courage, decide to approach you. Typically, these men will be of approximately your level of attractiveness-- or often, much less. Basically, with the Patience Model, you are lined up with all the other women in the room, competing with other women on the basis of who looks prettiest and most available. And you're competing for men who you might not really want to be chosen by. Of course, if a woman is prepared to settle for whatever men luck brings her way, then the Patience Model is fine; but the more that a woman wants a truly highquality man, one who can satisfy her for the long-term, the more that she'll need to bring awareness and intent and conscious choice to bear. The more choice you want, the more you need to give yourself permission to notice the world around you, and the more you must be willing to give yourself permission to take subtle but effective action.
”The Truth About Men and Women” The vital truth, when it comes to connecting with men, is that men and women
really are different; the things that would attract and impress you usually hold little meaning for men. And, conversely, men can be excited and compelled and rendered passionate by things that, to most women, seem rather silly. Yet, by understanding and utilizing a man's hidden triggers, a woman can inspire a man to behave in ways that make her feel wonderful, spiritually, sexually, and emotionally... and, what's more, to love doing it, so that he hungers to please her over and over again. At this point, you might think, Well, men and women may behave differently... but that's just social conditioning. In a state of nature-- if there weren't society and magazines and movies and social traditions-- men and women would be alike, and a man would finally understand what I'm feeling! The underlying fact is this: Just as men's and women's bodies are different, men's and women's brains are different. Measurably, physically different. Some parts of the brain are proportionately bigger in women's brains than in men's; other parts are proportionately bigger in men's brains than women's. Men's and women's brains are dosed with different neurochemicals, in different proportions, early in life; men's and women's brains even form and recall memories differently, each using different neurochemicals for this process. Bluntly, men and women behave differently, and prioritize things differently, because they think differently; they think differently, because they perceive the world differently; and because they perceive the world differently, they live in different worlds. Is this a tragedy? It can be, when you don't let yourself accept that a man naturally lives and breathes in a different atmosphere than you do. But if you do let yourself accept this, and then ask, How can I make this fun?, then you and he can be transported together into a third, hidden realm-- a realm hidden to the women he's known before--, and now an entirely new universe of emotional and erotic possibility can open up to you...
â€œOf Particle and Waveâ€? It's helpful to think of men experiencing the world through particles, and women experiencing the world through waves. What does that mean? It means that for men, experiences are discrete, divided, separate nodules of hard, visible, measurable matter-- stuff. The world is made of stuff; stuff is what's real. More to the point, that which you can see with your eye, weigh with your hand, strike against something else, and measure with a ruler are realâ€”the invisible connections, relationships, and ramifications between events aren't so
real and important, and are scarcely worth talking about... except in those cases when talking about something can somehow get you better stuff. As William Carlos Williams wrote, No ideas, but in things. For you, as a woman, life is at least as much about those invisible connections-the flow of emotion-- between solid objects, as it is about the objects themselves. For you, feelings and interpretations of events give events their meaning and importance. Relative to men, you experience the world in terms not of particles, but waves-- waves of emotion, connection, context, explanation. It as though stones rest in a pool of water, and men and women are in the pool with them; but men are wearing goggles through which they see only the stones, and women are wearing goggles through which they can see only the water. This may seem to be an extreme, exaggerated metaphor. But if you just allow yourself to accept it, and apply the recipes that follow from it, you will soon find yourself creating extremely deep, intense relationships with men... because there are wellsprings of fire and intensity waiting within them that a woman can tap easily, when she discovers how to relate to a man's hidden internal experience-and when she learns to see and weigh those stones that a man cares about, in a way that respects the way he cares about them. You might find it easier to begin communicating in terms of particles, by first imagining how brightly your man will seem to glow, and how warmly and fully you will feel him connected to you, once you have succeeded in doing this. Remember that communicating to him in particles-- in terms of objects, specifics, details, and visible events, rather than in terms of feelings, hints, stories, and emotions-- is what allows him to feel waves, and then share them with you. Sex, of course, is the ultimate particulate experience (and “hot sex, right now” is a man's default motivation); but to truly make sex magical, in a way that inscribes you into his heart and mind, be sure to use the emotional recipes you'll find later in the Rousing the Lion program.
“Stuff and Story” Another way of looking at this is that men focus on objects, whereas women are attuned to those objects' stories-- how they came to be, how they relate to other objects, what they mean. Women care about narrative, and continually search for new narratives, new stories, new explanations-- for men, there is only one story that counts, and every object he encounters and every experience he has is a part of this one story. What is this one story, that so dominates a man's existence?
“The Battlefield of Life” For a man, as we've written, hard, solid, measurable objects and actions are what count. Why do they count? They count-- they are important-- because they help him make a mark on the world... that is, they help him accumulate power, prestige, security, freedom, and admiration. And with these things, he gets sex with a beautiful woman, or sex with a new and different beautiful woman, or the ability to impress, dominate, and fend off other men. It is not the story of these conquests that is important to him-- it is the raw, sensual pleasure of a conquest. It is not what the act “means”-- it is the act itself. Every element within a man's life, then, is related to one single overarching story: the quest for achievement and distinction, as a means to sexual pleasure, self-esteem, and social power. Note that his quest can take any number of forms, including those that seem diametrically opposed to power and competition. A man doesn't have to compete to be the richest real estate developer in the city; he can just as well compete to be the most relaxed, laid-back, spiritual hippie in the neighborhood, or the best painter of miniature figurines in the hobbyist club, or the most non-competitive and mellow guy in the ashram, or the most sensitive and open and gentle woman-respecting man in the bar. The will to power always exists, and is simply modified and filtered by what a man believes his realistic capabilities and opportunities to be. He is always on a battlefield, always counting up wins and losses, as his fortunes rise and fall. And the elements of his life count as wins and losses, or lead to wins and losses; and that is the simple, never-ending, and wildly charged story that drives him, and from which he never truly escapes.
“On the Simplicity of His Story” A woman may wonder how living a life with such a simple story can not be... boring. In that case, it may help to remember that his story, which is so simple, so lacking in color and variation, is nonetheless intensely felt: Rather than his inner life being colored with a rich palette of amber and mauve and orange and teal, with permutations and combinations of color upon color, his life is fundamentally one of black and white: pain and pleasure, hot and cold, hunger and satiety, impulse and sleep. The fact that there are only two poles, two extremes, heightens the intensity of the experience. More bluntly-- imagine that your experiences are very rarely confusing or ambiguous, that they do not require introspection, retrospection, and discussion with others, in order to be fully understood and appreciated. Instead, imagine that every experience is immediately hot or cold, pleasurable or painful, because
you can see that it raises your status or lowers it-- that it brings you closer to sex and money and safety and freedom and control over other men, or not. That simplicity, that clarity, is what shapes male experience.
“How Understanding His Story Can Open His Heart” Paradoxically, the simplicity of male experience makes it easy for a woman to connect intensely with a man... when she understands how to engage his neverending, internal saga. To engage his internal saga, think of every experience as leading to, and meaningful only in the sense that it leads to, a trophy or a scar-- that is, some physical, material proof of impact on or interaction with the world. His life is a quest for the next milestone-- to engage his passion, get him talking about the details of what he needs to do to get to his next milestone. He wants ever greater prestige, power over other men, financial success, freedom, and physical pleasure. Help him figure out exactly how to get these things—exactly, in a step-by-step way--, and he will show you and share with you the passion he is afraid to share with other women. Note that he'll likely be evasive on this topic, at first. This is largely because men tend to doubt that women will take seriously the rigors and perils of his quest, let alone the exertion required. They suspect that women will want to talk about the feelings involved... which, to a man, misses the point, and ultimately disrespects the difficulty and challenge of what he needs to do. To truly distinguish herself, and to get a man to truly open up, a woman should get a man talking about his next milestone, and then discuss with him-- carefully, dispassionately, and precisely, rather than with cheerleading and indiscriminate approval-- the exact tactics, strategy, and details of performance he will need to solve the problem of achieving that one specific concrete goal. Note that your tone is very important; be as serious as a surgeon-- remember that for him, his wins and losses are serious, serious business. Cheerleading him-- putting on a big smile and saying, “You can do it!”-- will probably discourage him from discussing the details of his challenge in a meaningful way with you. Present yourself not as his cheerleader, but as his coach. Explore with him the technical details and workplace battles he needs to fight and win in order to achieve his goal, and you will begin to seem like a much more important part of his one eternal story.
â€œEmotional Addictionâ€? Since Rousing the Lion is about creating and renewing relationships, it's important to take a moment to deal with the concept of emotional addiction. Yes, becoming emotionally addicted to a relationship that isn't good for you is a bad thing-- and the RtL program includes techniques for letting go of your attachment to someone. That said, emotional addiction in its most insidious form is not addiction to another person, but addiction to the excitement and drama of your own negative responses. Have you ever found yourself feeling hurt, sad, uncomfortable, or some other negative feeling ... and then feeling bad about feeling bad, or feeling worse by thinking about how bad you feel? This is emotional addiction. Lurking underneath it is the idea that if you just feel bad enough, or angry enough, or disappointed enough, you will eventually cross a threshold, feel some freeing emotional release, and then look at your experiences differently. But that is like discovering that you are driving the wrong way, and feeling that the best way to stop going the wrong way is to keep driving until you run out of gas. Instead of dwelling on what makes you upset, ask yourself what you want. If that doesn't seem exciting enough to get you out of your bad mood, add to what you want. What would make what you want more exciting and fulfilling? Are you still upset? Then add even more to your idea of what you want. Disappointed by the guy you just broke up with? Then ask yourself what you want in a man. Not exciting enough? Then imagine being with him in Paris. Not exciting enough? Then imagine that he's not just smart and funny, but that he's also a salsa instructor. And so forth. Then start planning how to achieve exactly that result. In other words, don't fret about the past; instead, focus on what you want, and keep raising your standards. Remember, hope, disappointment, fear, and anger are waiting-room experiences; real fulfillment comes from real, primary experiences. The more time spent in the waiting-room of fantasy, and blame, and complaint, the fewer opportunities you
have to enjoy the life you truly want.
â€œThe Secret of Storybook Romanceâ€? The secret of storybook romance is this: He is not the author; you are. As we've suggested above, his notion of emotional story is much simpler than yours. In a relationship, he'll mainly be asking himself how good his body feels, and what he can do to make his body feel better. If his body doesn't feel good enough, he'll be dissatisfied; if his body feels dissatisfied enough, for long enough, he'll probably start thinking often about leaving the relationship, or he'll carve out a personal protectorate of habit, such that he seems rather vacant and dull, with you more or less shut out of his emotional life. You must be the one to improve the relationship. But talking about The Relationship rarely works-- in fact, it's almost guaranteed to make him retreat further. Instead, you must consciously set about making your relationship into an adventure. You must find ways to link physical pleasure to surprise, adventure, challenges, and tests. You must link physical pleasure to worldly success. You must make scheming and plotting with him his rise in the world an erotic highlight. As you go deeper inside the Rousing the Lion program, you'll discover specific emotional recipes and techniques that will make doing these things easy. And as you find yourself using these techniques enthusiastically and consistently, you will discover that he feels increasingly charged up with energy and vitality and excitement and ambition; he will see you as the source of all this pleasure; and you will enjoy the comfort of having a man truly worthy of you.
If You Find These Ideas Challenging or Stressful... That's a Good Sign! The degree to which you find them challenging is an indicator of how much, even on an unconscious level, you have shied away from these principles. The more you have shied away from them in the past... the more you have been secretly penalized by not applying them. The more challenging you find the rituals and principles taught in this program, the more you will benefit, once you start to use them!
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Published on Dec 11, 2017
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