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With too many stories to pack into a single season, we are delighted to announce that Darling Magazine is now available online, loud and proud, with more local stories than ever before, more social pages and IRIS Lily & Lionel Rae Vintage Bloom more of the news views, events and inspiring women our readers can’t Dress, £220 get enough of. We know how much you love to pore over our glossy pages and we’ll still be producing our regular seasonal issues, not only in Wimbledon but also in Richmond/Kingston and North Surrey.FRIARWOOD So 2017 Domaine while you’re waiting for your next fix you can now catch up on all the des Masques, Rouge Cuvee Essentielle, £18Sign latest at Can’t wait to see you there. up and tell us what do you think! K

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Elaine Halligan, inspiring parenting coach Sparkle & shine this season with Hel & Mel Tricia Cusden and her fabulous brand Editor’s gift picks for Christmas It all adds up at Mathnasium on the Ridgway Our Love Local Businesses – more online Really Helpful Club. Your supportive community Our sort after Beauty File for Winter Angus Forbes on how we can save the planet Treat your hair to organics with Love & Dye Why Malene says no to implants David Lloyd finds its rhythm with Aston Improve your skiing with Annette’s yoga Get a brighter smile for Christmas! Pam gets into The Menopause Surviving the Festive Season with a newborn Do we still need the Heathrow 3rd runway? Cook’s Corner – Carole’s juicy Lamb Tagine Merton’s finest Dividing the spoils of a marriage: Peacock & Co Bridge with Paul Mendelson On the Scene with Editor Karine Torr What’s On – things to do this winter Not all plain sailing for Carole Cory “Little pig, little pig…” Kate’s soft heart | winter 19/20


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Raising an ORCHID CHILD Elaine Halligan’s amazing journey from desperate parent to proud mother and inspiring parenting coach


never imagined in my wildest dreams that becoming a mother was going to be such hard work and I have to admit I haven’t always enjoyed my time as a parent. I have found being a mum exhausting, bewildering, and complicated. I frequently felt overwhelmed and guilty when I got things wrong and in the early days I made many mistakes. For the past fifteen years, my family and I have been riding a rollercoaster. Not the Elaine and Melissa fast, fun, three-minute ride you can walk away from afterwards, but the emotional kind. You know the one. The kind that rattles you around and strips you raw, that elates you and thrills you, overwhelms and terrifies you. We have lived it all, from utter despair and hopelessness to profound joy and the greatest celebrations of life. Initially I bought into the parenting myth that if my son didn’t listen to me, I needed to repeat instructions, nag, remind, bribe, cajole, threaten and punish. All these techniques however did not really put me in charge. It took me a while to realise that a large part of my son’s behaviour was due to his inborn temperament and his special needs and that I had an orchid child who needed careful greenhousetype nurturing. My husband and I struggled to know how to deal with him and by the time he was seven Sam had been excluded from three schools


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and was burdened with a plethora of diagnostic abbreviations that led to him becoming known as the Alphabet Kid. He was incredibly impulsive and had little self-control. We knew he was a good boy with a strong moral compass, but it took us many years to really understand his needs and temperament. As a family, we spent many years in crisis. And Sam began to feel very different and inadequate. He thought he was a bad boy. Society expects children, and adults, to conform. We are quick to judge those who present differently, and if our children behave inappropriately, we often believe this behaviour is a reflection on our parenting and that any criticism is directed at us. We feel judged. The transformation in my family happened when I sought help and got parenting coaching. I started to understand that all behaviour is a form of communication and learnt new skills to understand and support my child. I learnt that parents play a vital role in unlocking their children’s potential and no matter what needs your child has, with the right positive parenting input, understanding and compassion, there is always hope. When we understood our son was not BEING a problem but HAVING a problem, and that he was severely dyslexic, that led us to discover a brilliant sparkling diamond. A young man who has

kindness, resilience and clarity of vision as well as inner strength and confidence that belied his past experience. Imagine his immense pride when, having been written off in society, he finally finished his schooling as Head Boy Sam Halligan and his story has now been told in my book ‘My Child’s Different’ published last year by Crown House Publishing. It tells of the lessons we learned from Sam’s transformational journey from difficult child to budding entrepreneur. The book has led me to opportunities that I would never have predicted such as the TedX stage in Oxford, speaking at our beloved Wimbledon Book Fest, the Wellington College Festival of Education and last month we had days of fun recording the audio book. We had so many requests from dyslexic parents who desperately wanted to hear the story but reading was not their preferred choice. So having it on audible makes it more accessible. Sam’s voice is very powerful and is giving hope to so many other neuro diverse children and young adults.

My parenting coach, Melissa Hood, is now my business partner and friend, and I joined her running The Parent Practice in 2009. We use these skills to help parents of all children, whether they be challenging, difficult, different or not, to: • raise confident and happy kids • have a happier and easier home life • unlock their child’s potential and maximise their strengths • find the holy grail of parenting - the ability to stay calm! We LOVE our work. We have so much fun running classes, school and corporate workshops and helping parents in our bespoke parent sessions. We have just launched our Parent Practice Podcast which, incredibly, reached No 1 in the Apple podcasts in the parenting category! Don’t you want to ensure you raise happy, confident children? I feel so privileged to do the work I do, as there is no better gift than helping the future generation lead happy, healthy and productive lives. n ‘My Child’s Different’ published August 2018 by Crown House Publishing

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Darling’s Helen Adams talks to Tricia Cusden about sugar, feminism and why she wants older women to feel that they matter How do you feel about the term “age appropriate”? There is no such thing! It’s all about what works for you. There’s an implication that you need to change as you age - well, who says? All Look Fabulous Forever is doing is acknowledging that our skin changes.

In your book ‘Living the Life More Fabulous’, you mention that you want older women to say: “I matter too.” Was there a time when you felt that you didn’t? No.


fter Tricia Cusden reached the menopause, she found her make up no longer suited her skin. Unimpressed with alternatives promising to stave off the natural ageing process, she created her own brand, Look Fabulous Forever, with a vision to make older women feel confident.

I used that expression, because I feel that some older women just care for others - their families and volunteering activities, charities and churches. Without older women, these things would collapse! Just because an older woman has no paid status doesn’t mean that she doesn’t matter.

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Post menopause, I suffered with acne rosacea. I realised the most terrible outbreaks happened after occasions which involved an excess of sugar. It can certainly be problematic, working in the beauty industry with bad skin. A couple of years ago I cut out sugar as much as I could, and my skin has cleared up! In my book Living the Life More Fabulous, I introduce things which support your body: lentils, beans, leafy greens

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athnasium of Wimbledon has opened its doors on the Ridgway in Wimbledon Village to local families looking for support in maths aimed at six to sixteen-year olds. Mandeep Mangat, Centre Director, has had a successful career in finance, and is passionate about sharing her love for maths and Mathnasium’s approach here in the UK. “Unfortunately, maths is a subject that can often be feared and we want to help change that. Children may shy away from it because they lack the confidence, so we want to make it a positive experience for them. We want to help them achieve those light bulb moments when it all falls into place, to build that confidence wherever life takes them”, says Mandeep.

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ith the rise of social media we feel more digitally connected to one another, but we now know that these interactions can be at best superficial and, at worst, damaging to our mental health and wellbeing. Studies have found that ‘social connectedness’ - that is the quality and quantity of interactions - that we have with other people, has a profound impact on our wellbeing. Positive social connections give us a sense of belonging, help us build healthy relationships and improve our quality of life. Quite simply, we need each other to thrive. Main photo Anna Kunst Photography

If you’re trying to find your feet in a new area, getting used to new parenthood or an expanding family, hoping to further your career or build a business, it’s more important than ever to seek out your support network! At the Really Helpful Club, you will find a positive, supportive and like-minded community. We bring our members together at all levels from helping them to find trusted solutions in their daily lives, to connecting them to life changing opportunities. We focus on encouraging positive mental health and wellbeing, providing friendship, and sharing expert advice. We have a thriving online community

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s winter sets in and the trees are devoid of luscious leaves, have you noticed that so is your hairline and the density of your once thick full hair? The human body is a highly resilient system, able to heal itself in ways that can often seem magical. Sometimes our body needs help in certain places where it has reduced blood flow causing shrinkage and miniaturisation of follicles. Hair thinning occurs due to age, increased hormone changes in the scalp and even damage from hair products. At Wimblederm we have put together decades of science, studies and trials to bring you a long-term process to revitalise and thicken your hair. We use the latest advances in the Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP) method to increase hair growth with added vitamins and growth factors applied using microinjections. PRP hair rejuvenation treatments are autologous, meaning it is derived from the patient and therefore greatly reduces the risk of rejection or allergic reaction. Then pharmaceutical grade vitamins and additives are added to make a ‘cocktail’ which is then injected very accurately using a state of the art mesotherapy device. The days of slow and painful injecting by hand are truly over.


PRP is a procedure that uses your own blood to repair your cells. It has proven its effectiveness in addressing aesthetic problems. Since your own blood has amazing healing properties, this treatment has revolutionized the reversal of hair follicle miniaturisation and wakes up dormant or sluggish hair follicles. However, if there are no more hair follicles left due to long term baldness, PRP treatments will be ineffective. We can treat both men and women with this method and side effects and risks are very low. We are not changing any systemic hormone imbalances or blood profile as the treatment is only at the site of the thinning hair where the PRP and vitamins need to be. The treatments need to be repeated and best results are seen after six to nine months after which the treatments can be spaced further apart to maintain the thicker hair. n

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Need to Look Great Tomorrow? Louise Stewart from Nakedhealth Medispa on Coombe Lane shares the best clinic treatments for instant impact


nquestionably a personalised treatment plan delivered over many months is the gold standard route to fabulous skin which will look fresh and youthful long term. Sometimes, however, a quick fix is required. Here’s what celebs go for when time is limited. A great way to try out a clinic before embarking on more technical therapies. The team has an impressive depth of knowledge which is enhanced by Plastic Surgeon, David Gateley’s regular industry updates. Laser Carbon Facial If you want an immediate glow this multi-tasker is the one to book. A carbon lotion is applied to the skin and laser is used to vaporise the combined layer of this and rough, dead cells and impurities within your pores providing a deep clean and gentle peel. The next day you will notice improved texture and clarity - a clearer, smoother more radiant skin. Pellevé A well-kept secret and not widely available, Pellevé is a comfortable treatment offering immediate and lasting improvement. The Pellevé System delivers constant, gradual radiofrequency energy deeply into the skin, causing heat to build up where the skin and fat layer meet. The increasing heat modifies the collagen bundles causing contraction and stimulating the growth of new

collagen over time. It refreshes the skin and smooths wrinkles with immediate firming and tightening. Hydrafacial Hydrafacial uses advanced, patented vortex technology to deeply cleanse the skin and effectively transport botanical ingredients containing nutrients such as hyaluronic acid, horse chestnut seed extract, red algae extract, copper, zinc and magnesium peptides to where they do the most good. Powerful antioxidants counteract damage by free radicals - which can degrade the skin and accelerate the ageing process. After just one treatment you’ll look great. And feel great. Instantly. Skin Peels Designed to deeply exfoliate and brighten the complexion also stimulating new cell growth and collagen production. Justifiably popular for immediate complexion perfection.

CACI Discerning clients return to this time and again as one session will leave you with plumper, more radiant skin, having had a workout of all the facial muscles. You can book a quick mini consultation or a detailed skin scan to determine your complexion perfection solution. n Nakedhealth MEDISPA 261-263 Coombe Lane Wimbledon SW20 0RH 020 8944 5454

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picks wimbledon A brand new dermatology clinic has opened in the Raynes Park area offering progressive dermatological care to the community WIN A WINTER SKIN GIVEAWAY We’ve teamed up with Stratum Dermatology Clinics to run a winter skin giveaway, offering three lucky readers the chance to win a free skin consultation and 50% off your first skin clinic treatment, worth up to £150.

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Where is the new dermatology clinic located?


ith incidences of skin disorders and the demand for treatment rising, Stratum Dermatology Clinics, a growing network of trusted experts in dermatology, has opened the state-of-the-art facility to offer all forms of dermatology including skin cancer and mole checks under one roof. Lead consultant dermatologist, Dr Janakan Natkunarajah says: “As a centre of excellence we have a number of consultants specialising in all areas of dermatology. By integrating everything under one roof it is less disruptive for the patient and puts their needs first as they embark on their personalised treatment programme. They can see the same dermatologist and get immediate access to treatment if that is required.” Other areas of expertise include skin cancer surgery, hair and nail disorders, acne, rosacea, birthmarks, cosmetic and restorative dermatology, injectables, peels and skin rejuvenation. It has five consultation rooms and is situated above Lambton Road Medical Practice. n

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ith the winter knocking on our door it is important to prepare our hair for the harsh and oftentimes out of control treatment it is about to receive. From strong winds to heating and woollen hats, there are lots of dangers your hair will go static, flat or face breakage. That’s why at Love & Dye we have specially designed organic treatments to enrich and optimise the look of your hair. Our clients can choose a 20 minute treatment after their shampoo or have it as a part of the colouring session, where it’s added to the dye to maximise hydration and moisture during the process. We also offer our newest treatment, colour enhancement. Clients who have had previously coloured hair as well as those who like to keep it natural would benefit from a fresher look. All our treatments range between £15 to £35.

We only use organic products we are also popular among those who are environmentally conscious and prefer to use ethical, cruelty free products Our products, which come from O-Way, the first professional hairline using biodynamic ingredients, guarantee rich and lively colours due to organic components, essential oils and absence of ammonia. We are an international team with 10 to 20 years of experience in the industry. We attract clients who value professional skills as well as a good atmosphere and an individual approach. As we only use organic products, we are also popular among those who are environmentally conscious and prefer to use ethical, cruelty free products. We are also the most affordable organic hair salon in London. If you would like to see us during the festive season, please make your appointment as soon as possible we tend to get busy. n To find out more please visit 187 Worple Road 020 8944 5889 For tips on managing FINE HAIR go to:


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“We are destroying our only home” You’ve probably bumped into him walking his dogs on the Common or at your local. This is the unassuming Angus Forbes, usually playing second fiddle to his wife, Dame Darcey Bussell, now quietly but powerfully about to help save the biosphere The most visionary book since Silent Spring CHRIS DARWIN Nature in the driving seat of the biosphere, having part responsibility for the planet’s ability to sustain life as we know it. This is the essence of the new long-term era we have entered: the Anthropocene.


n lectures and in his compelling first book, Angus argues that we will form and appoint a global authority, with power over all human organisational forms, including the nation state, whose sole job will be to deliver global biophysical integrity for the ultra-long term.

In 2022, nearly 33 years after Sir Tim Berners-Lee wrote the computer program HTML and gave us the World Wide Web, 5 billion of us will be connected to each other via the internet. Connectivity, unity and power of a global citizenship that means we can undertake our first act of global self-determination.

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As it stands, we are destroying our only home. The blame for

the current predicament lies squarely with us all because we have not created the right governance tool for protecting our most valuable global asset, but this is a situation we can now correct with one click on our phones, one allocation of personal sovereignty en masse. With a passion for the environment, Angus was the first director of the Prince’s Rainforest Project at Clarence House. He is also the founder of the not-for-profit Bankers without Boundaries and is a vociferous advocate for global governance of the biosphere. n

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My Wasted Life with Breast Implants Darling Editor Karine Torr, chats to local mum Malene El Rafaey about her very personal journey


t 24 I was happy, confident and full of life but foolishly about to take for granted the biggest blessing of all, my health. After landing various modelling opportunities I decided to take the plunge into the world of page 3 and during a shoot, a few months in, a photographer


asked if it was okay to tape my breasts up and was left wondering why and became increasingly insecure about my new, apparently saggy chest. After a while I decided to have breast augmentation which I was happy with at the time as it really did help with modelling work, furthering my career.

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Five years later, unbeknownst to me, the symptoms of ‘Breast Implant Illness’ began to surface, becoming apparent after having my first baby which meant using even the gentlest baby wipes resulted in severe eczema. My immune system also started to crumble, getting every cold and illness and being

Malene’s years of eczema which she attributes to her implants

too weak to fight them off, I felt constantly drained and low. Little did I know this was just the beginning of a long journey of pain, suffering and depression. I was for years, forced to endure this life of misery until one day a friend on Instagram told me about Breast Implant Illness, showing me a list of the symptoms which all fitted with my suffering. Within seconds my heart jumped at the thought of having finally found the cause of my mystery illnesses. I quickly joined a Facebook Group called ‘Breast Implant Illness & Healing by Nicole’ which was full of women (now with 98.000 members) with the same catalogue of illness as my own and was a safe space where I found people I could confide in and validate my feelings. In April 2017 walking up the stairs in my house left me completely breathless. My fatigue and brain fog was astounding. My face had extreme oedema and burning with pain. I had a rash all over my body, my nipples were leaking discharge and my ribs felt bruised and sore. I kept waking in the night with sweats often feeling like I was choking. Knowing

that my implants were slowly killing me from the inside I had a sense of desperation and couldn’t wait to expel this toxic poison, so I went straight to the best surgeon, maxing out my credit card, to take them out. It was important to find a surgeon who was skilled enough to take out the capsule that had formed around my implant as well as the actual silicone as this is essential to fully healing; after the explant surgery my brain fog and fatigue had lifted and rashes disappeared within hours. The 23rd of October 2019 it was announced by the FDA that women considering surgery to receive breast implants should be warned in advance of the risk of serious complications, including fatigue, joint pain and a rare type of cancer called BIA-ALCL. Had I been told at my consultation there was even a small chance of developing auto immune diseases or cancer I would have never gone ahead with this toxic augmentation. I am living proof that Breast Implant Illness exists and along with so many others in my position am now fighting to get this out in the open so that millions of people

with any type of implant are aware that they are filled with carcinogens that cause auto immune diseases and cancer. I have also been interviewed for a BBC documentary on the subject due to be aired in February 2020. Now, on the anniversary of my implant removal surgery, I have an anchor scar on my breasts and lollipop scar around my nipples, but I have never felt more comfortable in my own skin. With my health back to fighting fit I feel empowered and also responsible to share the reality of this horror with as many people as possible so that they don’t go through the torment I have. I have learned the hard way to love the imperfect beauty we all share as human beings and no matter what my aesthetic ‘flaws’ are, being able to play with my children in the park without gasping for breath means more to me than anything. n

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Tooth whitening is a simple and straight forward aesthetic treatment and will give you a brighter whiter smile ready for the festive season. The Dental Rooms team explain all you need to know What’s the difference between stain removal and teeth whitening? Teeth whitening (also known as bleaching) is when hydrogen peroxide is used to change the colour of the teeth and reverse years of yellowing and aging. Food, drink and smoking creates pigments which adhere to the tooth surface. Stain removal is usually done when you have a hygiene visit using ultra-sonic jets and polishing pastes. What causes teeth yellowing? The natural whiteness of our teeth can fade over time and our day-to-day lifestyle habits (smoking and diet) can have an impact on the colour of our teeth. Whitening treatments help restore the natural whiteness of teeth. How does teeth whitening work? Whitening gels contain an active whitening ingredient that penetrates the enamel to get to the discoloured molecules. These agents react with the discoloured molecules in your teeth, breaking them down. As a result, you are left with a brighter and whiter smile.

Can you explain the different types of professional teeth whitening available? There are two main types of professional tooth whitening: take- away prescribed whitening or in-house whitening. The take home gels are very easy to use. We will make you customised trays which are carefully filled with whitening gel and worn overnight for 2-3 weeks. For inoffice treatment, the dentist uses a stronger gel and an LED light. This is a 60-minute procedure for instantly whiter teeth. What can you expect in a whitening appointment? We always check that you are dentally fit before the whitening treatment. Is it necessary to take moulds of the teeth? At the Dental Rooms we have a digital scanner to scan the teeth with a small camera. The scan is then used to make comfortable, bespoke bleaching trays thus making the whole process a lot more pleasant than taking moulds. Is it uncomfortable? During whitening the teeth may become sensitive but this is usually short term.

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your life

Pam Custers on coping with the menopause


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hristmas and New Year is a wonderful time for many, but it can also bring pressure on those who are celebrating their first Christmas with a newborn or young child. In the first few weeks and months of becoming a parent, it is often about survival rather than planning ahead. Negotiating what the baby needs and trying to keep sane while keeping track of feeds and hoping for a good night’s sleep.

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On these big occasions, we are suddenly asked to make decisions; who do we spend them with, and where, how long do we stay, what shall we bring? It is important to choose what feels right for us and to think about any information that may need to be given to those we are staying with. Is there a routine that needs to be explained, with timings you need to stick to through the day? Do you need to get out of the house at times? Within all of this try to find a level of flexibility that is comfortable, so you enjoy Christmas and the New Year too. This is also a time of year to think of those who will not be spending those precious moments with a longed-for baby, either because it is not possible or sadly because the baby did not survive. Remember to communicate your needs to those closest to you, so you can receive the right support. By doing this you are also managing your own and everyone else’s expectations. As we head towards this busy time of year, consider making conscious choices that are right for you and your children. Wishing you all a wonderful Festive Season. n |winter 19/20


MAKING noises

Local campaigner Mike Urwin’s views on Heathrow are worth a listen


f Heathrow has its way, be prepared for low flying aircraft! Proposed changes to air traffic management (ATM) and a changed protocol to spread aircraft over more London boroughs could see Merton and neighbours suffering added inbound westerly air traffic for the very first time. Wimbledon could see aircraft as low as 2000 feet, and, ‘worst case’, inbound aircraft overhead at the rate of one every 32

minute and a half. Residents in Wimbledon, Richmond, Cobham, Esher, Weybridge, Kingston and other towns should access “Heathrow’s Airspace Design Envelopes for Expansion, January 2019” website for possible new traffic movements over their homes. Heathrow’s proposed third runway will add 255,000 flights per annum, or 700 per day! Changes to ATM will add 25,000 more.

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Together they would increase current traffic by 60% to around 765,000 flights per annum. No surprise, then, that these two separate but related proposals will generate more noise, more pollution and add more carbon to both the planet and our neighbourhoods. Although technology will produce quieter, cleaner aircraft in the future, it is thought that viable electric aircraft are at least fifty years away.

environment is completely at odds with the government’s committed policy of ‘zero carbon’ by 2050.

With Heathrow already badly sited in the heart of London suburbs, the prospect of adding another airport the size of Gatwick to its operations defies logic. Particulate & NO2 pollution, already exceeding EU limits can only worsen with increased ground and air traffic. Almost one million people are already afflicted by aircraft noise and an expansion could see this number doubled. On the climate front, departing aircraft currently generate c20 million tons of CO2 and this will increase before, perhaps, returning to roughly the same level by 2060. It

If this is not enough to stop the expansion, the demolition of 800 houses, the bulldozing of two villages, the commandeering of 1000+ acres of greenbelt and farmland, the rerouting of rivers, the tunnelling of the M25 and the general environmental damage surely should be. Add to this the fact that expansion construction will impact local communities for over thirty years and the transport network capability for increased passenger loading has not been fully assessed or costed. As important, the figures used to promote this scheme appear to be based on flawed assumptions and conclusions. At best they only generate an overall average Net Present Value of ZERO. It is also not clear whether Heathrow itself knows what this project will cost. Is it £14bn, £30bn, £50bn or £100bn? Whatever, it seems logical to conclude that the government and taxpayer will be contributing billions to a project promoted largely by foreign shareholders. Heathrow secured government support largely due to its supposed economic contribution to the UK economy given its present questionable ‘hub’ advantage. However, since over 70% of its traffic is for tourism, spurred on by ‘cheap flights’, it seems clear that it would be better for England and the planet to reduce air travel rather than increase it. In so doing, there would be no need for a third runway at Heathrow

and no need for another one at Gatwick or at any other airport. Brexit, the Trump tariff wars, general global economic uncertainties and communication technologies will anyway reduce the need for air travel, aircraft and runways …not only in the UK, but globally. Readers can help stop the Heathrow Expansion by writing or emailing their views to their councils, MPs, to the CAA and to Heathrow. They can support opposing bodies like No3rdRunway, Stop Heathrow Expansion, HACAN and many others. Check their websites for details. Sitting back and doing nothing is not an option. The third runway must be consigned to history and the proposed airspace routing changes must be reconsidered. Project status: following government approval in June 2018 (now the subject of a Judicial Review Appeal), Heathrow’s second and final Airport Expansion consultation was commissioned in June this year. Heathrow is now preparing its DCO application for submission to the Planning Inspectorate in 2020 for a decision in 2021. Approval would see a third runway added by 2026. n

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he Cook’s Corner recipe this season is for a delicious Lamb Tagine. In these winter months, I think it is a warm, winter comfort food and I love the spicy taste mingling with the sweetness of the figs and dates – yummy!

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Lamb Tagine 2kg Leg of lamb cut into bite sized cubes 5 Onions diced 5 Tablespoons of vegetable oil 5 Garlic crushed 4 Teaspoons ground cumin 4 Teaspoons ground coriander 4 Teaspoons Ras el Hanout 250g Ready to eat dried apricots 200g Pitted dates Roughly chopped coriander bunch


1. Heat 1 tablespoon of the oil in a large saucepan and brown the lamb in 3-4 batches until lightly brown and sealed adding 1 tablespoon oil in between each batch. 2. Heat the rest of the oil in the same saucepan and fry onions until lightly coloured. 3. Add the garlic, cumin, coriander, Ras el Hanout and salt and pepper. Stir for about 1 minute. 4. Add the lamb to the mixture. 5. Add 1.5 litres of water and stir into the lamb mixture, cover and simmer. 6. Cook for 1 hour on low heat. 7. Next add the apricots and dates. 8. Cover again and cook for another 30 minutes and check lamb is tender. 9. When you are ready to serve the tagine, garnish with chopped coriander. 10. I like to serve with couscous, but rice is just as delicious. Enjoy!

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With the festivities fraught, finding a fresh start might well be top of your New Year’s to do list. But when contemplating new beginnings, and the emotional fall-out it brings, resolving family finances can be the hardest yet most important step to reclaiming financial freedom, says Peacock & Co’s Dimple Patel 38

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t might seem an obvious starting point, but when considering divorce, it is often surprising how few people have an accurate and up-to-date picture of all their assets, income and liabilities - especially if, for the most part, their spouse handled the family finances. Don’t shy away from reviewing your finances: it is wise to gather the relevant financial documents at an early stage. However, be careful not to take any confidential documents belonging to your spouse by opening their post or accessing their emails - doing so can have potential criminal and civil consequences. Equally, the courts take financial disclosure very seriously and if it subsequently comes to light that certain assets have not been disclosed you risk the agreement you have reached being set aside by the court and considered afresh. A common misconception is that if the marriage has broken down due to adultery or unreasonable behaviour, the ‘wronged’ party should be in line for receiving a greater share of the matrimonial assets. In reality, only very serious personal or financial misconduct may impact on the division of assets. The starting point for a division of matrimonial assets is 50/50 which must be balanced with the needs of the parties and any minor children. More immediately, if your spouse has moved out of the family home you may have concerns about paying the mortgage and other outgoings. In this situation an application can be made to the court for interim maintenance to be paid by the higher earning spouse to cover essential outgoings and can also include a contribution towards legal fees. Reaching a financial settlement does not have to be a long, drawn out and costly process – and alternatives to ending up in court can save you in both time and money. Try and keep the communication channels open with your spouse to find a mutual agreement. If communication

between you has broken down there are other options too - such as mediation, arbitration and negotiation through a solicitor. Once you have reached a financial settlement it must be embodied in a consent order drawn up by a solicitor and sent to the court to be approved. It is only at this point that the agreement becomes legally binding and enforceable. Without it, the door is left open for future claims by your spouse. It is worth remembering that divorce has tax implications – do seek advice from a tax specialist early on so you can factor this into the financial settlement. A tax liability might arise depending on the timing of the transfer of any assets and for the spouse who has left the family home. Equally, until the divorce is finalised you will remain each other’s next of kin – so now is the time to make or review your will and ensure that your assets pass according to your wishes. n To discuss any of the issues here please contact Dimple Patel or Christopher Goodwin on

020 8944 5290 Peacock & Co are pleased to be expanding our Family Team with the addition of Dimple Patel and Clare Kirby to our Wimbledon office. For more information on our specialist teams and how we can help you, contact us on 020 8944 5290. We are proud to support

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CLUB NEWS FIND YOUR RHYTHM David Lloyd Clubs, Raynes Park recently launched its brand new cycle class Rhythm, attended by ex strictly star and member of the band JLS, Aston Merrygold. It was a class full of high energy songs, glow sticks and fun. Aston commented afterwards that “that was a lot harder than I expected, but great fun. What a fantastic class!”


Members attending were treated to a photo opportunity afterwards. The class now sits on the clubs very busy timetable alongside other favourites like RPM and its virtual classes where you can race through the alps or take part in a time trial. The newly introduced Rhythm class works your body and your mind with inspiring playlists and highly motivating instructors – creating an immersive workout that tunes your muscles and unlocks your emotions. Rhythm is being rolled out nationally across David Lloyd Clubs, and in purpose built studios. For options on joining the club please take a look at the website

But Yoga First Says Annette Wiik, Yoga teacher And as you arrive back to the chalet after a day of skiing, enjoy lying down with your legs up the wall, allowing your body to recover and be ready for a new day of alpine adventures. If you are like most of us, sitting down for an average of 12-15 hours per day, start yoga practice now! It will make your time on the slopes so much more enjoyable.

Through yoga practice you will develop: • A greater sense of stability and trust in the whole body as you are skiing, while feeling truly in touch with the snowy surface • Increased strength and ease of movement in your hip and shoulder regions • A feeling of comfort in your legs and spine in the typical skiing posture • Ease of breathing at higher altitudes through greater breath awareness

Annette teaches Yoga for Sports classes at The Wimbledon Club. All levels welcome, group and one-to-one sessions available. n ANNETTE WIIK YOGA 07789 175481 For my new MINDFULNESS programme go to:

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lead a fun and frenetic life. As it has always been, and as I would always want it to be. Being a mum, wife and owner of a very pink catering and events company, I live life to the full, as does my company, which is why our clients choose us. I care about our clients as much as I care about our fresh produce and exciting recipes keeping our customers happy at all times. However, I am here to give you a behind-thescenes look into my life… Cast your minds back to the 3 June 2012 where 670 boats were on the tideway of the River Thames taking part in the Diamond Jubilee Pageant for the celebrations of the Diamond Jubilee. Parties to Go were catering for one of the VIP boats next to the Royal family with many different celebrities, copious amounts of food and drink, next to HMS Belfast, watching the queen give her speech. All sounds very glamorous so far, right?

“Well let me tell you that behind the scenes with the weather storming, the sea rocking around all over the place, along with the crockery and glasses, myself and my head chef who were feeling a bit green around the gills, were in a tiny kitchen in the depths of the boat and my waitress who thankfully was not green around the gills, was trying not to go overboard serving the guests with champagne and canapés up and down the stairs. This is what really happens behind the scenes. The catering and service were great, and we had incredible feedback and it was a fun and exciting day despite the weather! Falling down a pothole was another unforgettable experience just before a huge event. On the way, I had managed to get my foot caught and ended-up head over heels onto the pavement – without any food I might add- this was still in the refrigerated van! Undeterred, however, I picked myself up and carried on delivering the food to this event. Afterwards my husband had to rush me off to A&E as it turned out I had fractured my arm. What I do in the name of my company! I love my work and always have. It is a great company and my staff are so amazing - I get 100% support from all of my family, friends and staff and wouldn’t have it any other way. n |winter 19/20


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knew it had been on my partner’s mind, so it was time to talk. I said, ‘You’re thinking, has she gone sneakily vegetarian?’ He sighed, ‘Have you gone sneakily vegetarian?’ Pause. ‘No! Yes! Maybe! We passed that lorryload of pigs the other day, remember? It gave me one of those moments.’ The last time that happened, it was battery chickens and I was 17. Everything is so triggering at that age. This time, it was the pigs’ trusting little faces as they trundled to slaughter. Radical zeal awoke in the old bosom, even though I really love farms. There’s a pig farm on the A303 by Stonehenge - you must have driven past it - lots of rooting and oinking; pigs sunbathing and reading pig-lit on their kindles - how a pig farm should be. And I love my Christmas ham, and chipolatas basting round


the turkey, and devils on horseback dipped in mustard. Damn. If only I could forget those little pigs. To be fair, we now live in the age of A.Y. (After Yotam), where a vegetarian diet can be a wondrous thing; delicious meals which propel wholesomely through the gut. Power Peristalsis! Aubergine Awareness! And as we’re not talking vegan, (welfare concerns for dairy cows - lalala, not listening, not listening...) there’s always the consolation of cheddar. Is there any greater delight than a lump of cheddar? Name one thing that is not improved by the addition of cheddar. No, see, you can’t. But this is sad. When yet another of my woke triggered children went veggie, I missed cooking the favourite slowroast lamb for her anymore. I feel sorry for my partner. We’ve always bonded greedily

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over beef and horseradish. Maybe I’ll still eat chicken, if it’s organic. According to Which magazine, organic chickens lead a pampered, idyllic existence, (like that of the proverbial pig in clover) so I won’t feel too guilty about scoffing one after it’s had a good innings. Chickens can’t have existential angst about being served up with a bit of thyme and garlic, can they? Although a friend of mine who did a work placement at a local chicken processing plant reports that it was grim. And on another bright side, that’s also Lent sorted. I never do Lent, as giving up anything is a terrifying thought for me. I bless the day I never got into gambling, drugs and pornography. But now, by not eating meat, I can be both Lentenly pious and compassionate to animals; kill two birds with one stone, so to speak. n

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Darling Magazine Wimbledon - Winter 2019-2020  

A Wimbledon women's lifestyle magazine full of local stories and local businesses.

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A Wimbledon women's lifestyle magazine full of local stories and local businesses.