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editor’s letter Dear Darling Reader, Sometimes I come back from holiday feeling like I need another one. By the time I’ve cleared the mountain of laundry and bought the new trainers/rugby boots/Ikea duvet cover for the kids, lying in the sun with a Pina Colada seems a distant memory. And I’ve got a rosé belly! Luckily the Autumn edition of Darling is jam-packed with stories and features that will help get mind and body back in shape.

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Publisher Darling Magazine UK Karine Torr Editor Karine Torr 020 8739 0059 Advertising 07930 396356 Email Contributors Holly Candlish Kate Greenhalgh Darling Wimbledon Karine Torr 020 8739 0059 Darling Kingston & Richmond Marja-Leena Toseland 07802 949836 Design Director Hermina Williams Website Design Printer Aquatint Distribution Right Distribution Whilst every care has been taken to ensure that the data in this publication is accurate, neither the publisher nor its editorial contributors can accept, and hereby disclaim, any liability to any party to loss or damage caused by errors or omissions resulting from negligence, accident or any other cause. Darling Magazine does not officially endorse any advertising material included within this publication. All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in any retrieval system, or transmitted in any form – electronic, recording or otherwise, without prior permission from the publisher.

Women who appreciate the connection between mind and body are Suzanne Ruggles who has helped hundreds of very sick patients at St George’s hospital with complementary therapies and holistic therapist Vessy Zlatereva who helps people deal with osteo bone problems. A great way to recover from the holiday blues is a wardrobe update. Between stylist, Charlotte Broadbent and fashion entrepreneur, Helene Rapaport, there’s no excuse for looking drab this season. Charlotte showcases the latest trend for animal prints - hear her rrrrroar. Our cover-girl, actress Rachel Fielding, is an inspiration for all busy women with teenagers. Rachel auditioned for a role in a small art-house film and before she knew it, found herself in LA. No-one watching this year’s Oscars could have missed the Time’s Up and #MeToo campaigns highlighting inequalities in the film industry; find out what’s going on behind the scenes from local female filmmakers in our film feature – ‘What’s next?’. Nowhere are the inconsistencies between women’s and men’s pay more apparent than in professional sports. Local girls hoping to make changes in the future feature in our sporty spread, ‘Play like a Girl’, just hearing from girls like Ella Nigrelli and swimmer Leah Chowdry, puts a smile on my face.

Now, when can I book another holiday? Holly Features Editor, Holly Candlish | Editor-in-chiefs Karine Torr and Marja-Leena Toseland .uk

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Our Rachel Fielding inspires in Oscar winner Darling stylist Charlotte roaring to go this autumn Holly Candlish gets behind the Bernard Boutique empire A stroll down Ripley High Street Girls taking over boys’ sports and loving it! Our Schools in Focus for the new year Helping with nightmares, Lise Andersen’s new book Anti-aging and looking good at The Cobham Clinic Problems with your bones? See Vessy quick Nesan’s exclusive five-star gourmet pop-ups Top tips on inheritance tax planning with Hart Brown Our top-notch local women in film Leah Chowdry makes a splash across the Channel A life of service – Holly Candlish chats to Suzanne Ruggles Claygate’s annual extravaganza On the Scene – our fabulous social pages Lady Wimbledon’s Hot picks Darling Diary for autumn 15 minutes with Kate Greenhalgh | autumn 2018


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arling Magazine’s Zara Woodstock met with the British actress to chat about Oscar winning film ‘The Silent Child’ which changed her life Rachel’s acting career began aged 16 with the National Youth Theatre. She moved on to graduate from the Bristol

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Old Vic Theatre School after which she carved a constant career for herself in television before landing her big break in ‘The Silent Child’ which won the Oscar for Best Live Action Short Film 2018. Not even in her wildest dreams did she think that being part of an independent short

film would lead to an Oscar nomination, let alone a win. The £10,000 budget film became a talking point on the importance of invisible disabilities. Rachel has become a patron for the Deaf Cultural Outreach Group and is learning British Sign Language. She is currently writing a screenplay, and happy to see what will come her way. | autumn 2018




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The Oscars is a huge celebration to be part of, how did it feel?

where Maisie and her family were staying. But it was a very respectful set and we were mindful of the fact that one, Maisie had never been on a set before and two, that she was deaf. As crew members we agreed that it was an experience unlike any we had ever experienced, and hands down the best of my career. That’s why I became an actress, to tell stories.”

“Complete and utterly surreal actually. It was adrenaline fueled, unreal but at the same time I think, because of what happened with the Harvey Weinstein thing and the #MeToo campaign, authenticity was being rewarded rather than big business and operations. Because the film was based around, not only this deaf little girl, but her family, her mum, her dad, her brother and her sister who are all deaf - they were all with us through the whole filming process and in Los Angeles, together with half of the film crew. We all did it for very little money. It was done for the love of it and that feeling continued into our celebrations of the Oscars. We got to celebrate with the people we wanted to celebrate with. That was extraordinary. I still can’t quite assimilate that it has actually happened. I’m still processing.”

Were you approached for the role? “No, I was asked to audition for it and it came at a time when I was not getting a lot of work. I was feeling extremely cynical. I was a busy mother of two teenage boys and I had been auditioning a lot for many years and not getting a lot. On the day of the audition there was a train strike so I had to drive and hit a terrible traffic jam thanks to the Lord Mayor’s parade. I didn’t make it to the audition. Rachel Shenton, who wrote it and Chris Overton, who

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directed it, thought I hadn’t bothered to turn up, but I had! I just hadn’t been able to get there and I couldn’t ring them because my agent wasn’t in her office on a Saturday. I wrote an email to Rachel saying, “Look, I just want you to know that I think what you’re doing is wonderful and I want you to know that I did try to get to you but I couldn’t.” I left it at that and thought that was it. Then two weeks later I got a call. I had just come back from the gym and was asked if I could put myself on tape. My attitude was kind of, “oh alright then” so I slapped some make up on top of my sweaty face with my jogging bottoms and I did the scene. Then I had a call to go up to London. I got directed to this tiny little bookshop and through it to a tiny little theatre at the back where I met Rachel Shenton. My first thought was, my god, what a beautiful young woman you are.”

How did working in a film focusing on invisibilities effect you? “Massively, it was a very different experience because we were filming in the house

You’ve mentioned your mother being a source of inspiration and support to you “My mother was a phenomenal woman. She was the greatest friend I’ve ever had and a very good judge of character. She had always known some kind of creative field would be my passion so she always supported me when I was not working and used to send me cards with messages like ‘don’t give up, remember you have strong roots’. I credit my mother to keeping me grounded.”

On a more local note, where are your favourite places around Esher? I love Côte in Esher, especially for a cup of coffee with Norman, my dog, and watch the world go by on a Saturday. The international contingent; we have such a diverse bunch of people here. Today I met Americans and a Dutch lady during my favourite walk in the woods with Norman. When I was working on Silent Child, a taxi driver was driving me back and he said, “You’re so lucky to live here. It’s like being in the countryside but it’s 15 miles from London.” | autumn 2018 


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very time I drive through Esher, I slow down, count to ten and hope the lights change colour. Only the game is different outside Bernard Boutique: where I’m willing the lights to turn red rather than green! There’s no other place in Surrey I’d rather grind to a halt then outside their stunning windows.

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boutiques in the UK. Bernard Boutique is absolutely fabulous.

How did Bernard Boutique come about? I married Barry, my husband and long-term business partner, and we decided to start a fashion retail business and a family in Solace Lolita Cranleigh. We Maxi Dress lived above the £350.00 shop and I had my first child. But Cranleigh, back then, wasn’t me, so I started looking for a better location and the Esher store came up. Esher had a buzzing high street with loads of dress shops and from the start the store was packed. I wanted to call the store ‘The Course’ after Sandown, but ‘Bernard’ was a family name - and we had to borrow a lot of money from relatives to buy it - so Bernard Boutique it was! shop local

Who is the most exciting designer you’ve ever represented? Sacai. She’s a Japanese designer who is constantly evolving her structural designs and her combination of urban and sporty with delicate drapes and fabrics and they never fail to amaze! Are there collections you knew would fly? Yes. At the moment they are Ganni, Zimmerman and Etoile by Isabel Marant.

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What was your dream for the store? I wanted to buy what I love and sell to people who share my vision. People come to us because they want, what I call, ‘the unexpected’. We don’t follow fashion because nobody follows fashion like they used to - but we are fashionable. Where are you from? I was originally from Leeds and left school at 15. I really wanted to be a singer but it wasn’t going to pay, so I got a job in a dress shop and aged 20, moved to London to work at Spiro, now long gone, in Baker Street. That’s where I learnt to tell the customer the truth which I always do: if a customer tries on something that doesn’t look great, I tell them. What does your year consist of? Designers have introduced more ‘buy now, wear now’ than previously but I’m still buying 8 months ahead. In February, I buy for Winter and visit the Paris, London and Milan collections. Right now, I’m buying for the start of Summer 2019. It sounds glamourous and it is - I still love the travel. What’s your forecast for Autumn/Winter 2018? There’s a lot of good colour, a lot of pleats, checks, animal prints and tartan. There are ugly trainers and cowboy boots. I’m excited about many of our new affordable brands like Rixo, Solace, Ganni, 1234 Cashmere and Ba&sh. Do you think you were ‘born with an eye for fashion’ or is it something you developed? Over time I’ve developed confidence in my buying choices. One designer complimented me last week saying that I buy like a European; my eye was not that of a typical British buyer. Look, I do make terrible bloomers but I don’t mind as long as I’m making brave choices. shop local

Do you have any regrets? No. I have no regrets, I’ve had a wonderful life. Although, I probably view the start of our association with FarFetch website as a mistake because I bought too much high-end fashion to satisfy their browsers - not our local clients. We’ve redressed that recently by stocking lines I still love, look expensive, but are easier on the pocket and more in line with the price points of say, Karen Millen or Reiss. But I’ll still keep the big top four - like Roland Mouret. Who would you like to dress? I’d love to dress Meghan because I don’t like what she’s wearing now. I loved the way she dressed before: cool, young and super. Of course, she looks amazing in whatever because she’s beautiful, gorgeous, stunning! What is the future of high end fashion on the high street? A combination of rents, business rates and internet shopping is squeezing everyone out. The high street is sadly dying, all retail, not just fashion. Can internet buying replace the high street shopping? We have a wonderful internet site but for me, it can’t replace the joy of feeling, touching and trying on clothes. What are you proudest of? My children. What advice would you give budding fashion entrepreneurs? Don’t! Saying that, both our children have ignored our advice and followed us into the fashion world. | autumn 2018 


RIPLEY The Anchor

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One of the few surviving Craft Bakeries in Surrey, with a reputation built on combining good quality traditional baking with good value for money. Customers can enjoy a full range of breads, speciality breads, morning goods, cakes and pastries. Our highly skilled craft bakers in East Horsley ensure each loaf of bread is perfect and work through the night so that the loaf of bread you buy in the morning is fresh out of the oven! High Street, Ripley GU23 6AZ | 01483 224332 |

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Play Like a Girl… Holly Candlish finds out how

Throwing like a girl, running like a girl and playing like a girl: all disparaging ways of putting women down; but not for much longer, if three local sports clubs have their say. Oxshott Royals Football Club, Esher Cricket Club and Cobham Rugby Club are amongst a growing number of traditional male sports clubs welcoming women into their ranks and investing time and money into coaching young women and girls to make sure that ‘playing like a girl’ becomes a battle cry. Following the success of the England Women’s cricket team: not only winning the World Cup in 2017, but rightly earning the title of the BBC’s sports personality team in that same year, cricket is growing in popularity amongst girls in the area.

U15 England and Surrey player Ella Nigrelli (centre) from Cobham Rugby Club

Esher Cricket Club has seen numbers swell, from nine last year, to an impressive 58 strong membership this Summer. ‘We’re keen to invest in the girls’ teams,’ says Geoff Ellis, club chairman, ‘We moved girls’ training to Sunday mornings, picked our best young coach, Ben Collins and entered the girls into Winter

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But what’s in it for the girls? Judging by the enormous number training on a Sunday morning, there’s plenty to fire their enthusiasm. ‘My daughter watched cricket on TV and really wanted to learn,’ enthuses cricket mum, Rachel Pitts. ‘Lots of schools are dropping rounders in favour of cricket and at Esher, she’s learning new skills and a lot about teamwork.’ | autumn 2018 


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But cricket isn’t the only team sport that is growing in popularity: The Women’s FA Cup Final in May between rivals Chelsea and Arsenal attracted a record crowd of 45,423 to Wembley Stadium. Interest is set to increase with the Women’s Football World Cup in France, in June 2019, when England will have a second chance to make sure football is coming home. Since 2014 Oxshott Royals FC has benefitted from the FA’s drive to invest in ground roots leading the club to visit local primary schools to introduce the game to girls. Director of football for Oxshott, Scott Rimmer, coaches boys and girls but notices a different mind-set between the two: ‘Girls are motivated differently, not just playing to win. They are more inquisitive, generally listen better and like to understand technique.’ With a growing number of girls’ teams and a calendar of social events at the club, there’s no shortage of opportunities to play a high level of sport and expand the girls’ social network. ‘We are launching a girls’ development programme on Sundays from 9.30am - 10.30am at Oxshott Village Sports Club and offering the first two sessions free of charge,’ he adds. Arguably the most controversial sport played by women is rugby. However, in recent years, it has been championed by an ever-growing number of supporters and players and grown at an impressive rate since England won the 2014 Rugby World Cup. Cobham Rugby Club field teams in four age groups. They have a thriving girls’ section and

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enjoyed success with their U15 team winning the area competition and qualifying for the nationals. There is an established pathway taking the girls through to higher levels of the sport with many of the girls playing for Surrey or the England development squad, now a Centre for Excellence at Harlequins. One player who has followed this route is 15-year-old, Ella Nigrelli, ‘I’ve played rugby since I was four. I’ve got three older brothers, so I was bought up on a rugby pitch. I played for the U15 girls’ team and qualified for Surrey and England. I play number No 8 and prop, but I prefer No 8 as it’s a more active position and I can run with the ball and use more skill on the pitch. I do like barging through people.’ Asked if she’s ever afraid, she says, ‘I get nervous when I see a scary opposition – but honestly school hockey is terrifying compared to rugby.’ According to Ella the opposition in rugby may be tough on the field but are always friendly off the pitch. She clearly loves the physicality and camaraderie of her chosen sport and dreams of a professional career in rugby. But dreams of securing the kind of sponsorship and rewards of their male counterparts at present are just that – dreams. Yet, far from giving up on their goals, they should be reminded of Billie Jean King, who used sport for positive change and through talent and willpower secured a revolution in female sports remuneration. Let’s hope for Ella, and girls like her, that positive changes - however slowly - will occur in their chosen sports so that in the future they will be rewarded for their ability to ‘play like a girl’.

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SCHOOLS in focus their pupils thrive. The School aims to offer a broad education to all pupils enabling them to develop their academic, social, sporting and artistic attributes. This breadth and balance is one of the strengths of the School. The academic side underpins the education here, with the emphasis on the core areas in the early years spreading to an increasing range of subjects by the top end of the School. “An excellent, all-round, happy prep school that brings out the best in all its boys.” King’s House parent.

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These goals, powerful as they may seem at the moment of decision, invariably lose their attraction when the alarm goes off at 5am on a cold October morning. It is all too easy to switch off the alarm and grab another 30 minutes in your warm, cosy, safe environment rather than face the somewhat more challenging option of pushing yourself at the gym. That is unless you understand your ‘why’.

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MONSTERS INC Darling caught up with Child Psychologist and long-time Woking resident, Lise Andersen on children’s nightmares


or a long time the purpose of sleeping was a puzzle for scientists as they could see that the brain is just as active during sleep as during being awake. However we now know that while we are sleeping a lot of important processing, restoration, and strengthening occurs of both the body and the brain. The brain is being cleansed from waste products and a memory consolidation is taking place. During the day we experience a huge amount of input and the brain needs to sort and transfer these into the long term memory. This may be the reason why little children who learn and grow at a breath taking pace need so much sleep. Dreaming is a normal and necessary process that takes place when we sleep. Every parent knows that their child is dreaming from the moment they arrive in this world. When children reach the age of 3 years they sleep an average of 12 hours per day and of that approx. 25% is “REM sleep”, the stage of sleeping where dreaming occurs. REM sleep occurs several times during a full night’s sleep. So research points to dreaming being for storing and integration into already held memory taking place. As the input we receive during the day can be visual or auditory as well as tactile, so our dreams are visual as well as auditory and tactile. Many of us will recognize this from experience - that after especially eventful days we will have very vivid dreams during the night. Nightmares are dreams that turn frightening. Science has not been able to come up with an explanation as to why some dreams turn into nightmares. Though dreams serve an important purpose, dreams turning into nightmares seems to have no additional purpose. We also know that nightmares are normal and that children, especially

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little children, have more nightmares than adults. Most families will know the experience of a child crying out in the middle of the night needing comfort from mum or dad because of a frightening nightmare. And most of us would rather be without the nightmares. For some families nightmares turn into a problem with the child waking up from a nightmares every night or the child resisting sleep, being afraid of having a nightmare. Hence children and their families may need a little help on learning how to handle nightmares and lessen their occurence. Clinical psychologists have developed techniques that can easily be learned on how to handle nightmares and lessen their occurence. These techniques have shown themselves to be effective and are now used with both children and adults struggling with nightmares. “The Little book of Bad Dreams - and how to get rid of them” is using these techniques. It is written for children aged 4-8 years to help them fight their nightmares. The parent and the child are meant to read it together. The contains a number of enjoyable and fun tasks for the child to do. While doing these fun tasks, the child is learning how to fight nightmares and trying out these techniques. This is the kind of book many parents would say: “I wish I have had this book when my children were little.” | autumn 2018


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How does the treatment work? HIFU works on the SMAS layer, this layer acts as a “sling” for the facial layers. HIFU is the only treatment which can target this layer, creating SMAS contracture gives a lifting effect by using micro and macro focused cartridges and uniform ultrasound energy that induces thermal coagulation and contracture. In simple terms it causes shrinking and tightening of the tissue, HIFU also stimulates new collagen and elastin to be formed smoothing the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. HIFU is also used on the body and causes subcutaneous fat reduction for body treatments on stomach, arms, thighs and back. (A course of 3 treatments is normally required

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for fat reduction and body contouring)

Are results immediate? Often results can be seen straight away but results are normally seen from 12 weeks onwards due to the nature of the tissue remodelling, this is a biological process that takes time to complete.

How long does it last? The treatment is dependent upon the client’s own skin and desired results. Each person is an individual case and needs a consultation prior to treatment. Usually one or two treatments in most cases will achieve fantastic results that can last for over 12 months and often longer, again this is largely patient dependant.

Do you offer any other skin treatments? We offer a wide variety of skin, body & health treatments, our skin clinic has been the focus of our development for

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the past 2 years. We have really looked at what we can offer clients and tried to bring in new treatments with proven results that are of a high quality. We currently offer Environ Facials, CACI Non Surgical Facelift, microdermabrasion, Neostrata Chemical (upto 30%), Microneedling, Medical Grade LED light therapy and our new most exciting treatment is our Ultraformer 3 High Intensity Focused Ultrasound machine (HIFU)!

What sort of problems do people seek help for? Anti-ageing, sagging skin or jowl area & fine lines and wrinkles are the most common concern, HIFU and Skinpen

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microneedling, work really well together as we are lifting, tightening and treating skin texture. Pigmentation is another concern that many clients have, treatable with a combination of microneedling, Environ and Neostrata peels. Acne, whether its childhood acne or adult acne can be treated with LED light therapy and enzyme masks. We use a medical strength blue light which is antibacterial. As you can see the treatment possibilities are quite extensive and a combination of treatments can be used if needed. Each client is totally different. We design the treatment plan around the client.

How do you know which treatment book in for? We offer a 30 min complimentary consultation with one of our therapists to fully discuss what the client would like to achieve for their skin, we then offer advice on the treatments that are most suitable.

at the results. Family and friends comment as to how well I look and one close colleague even asked if I have had a face lift! Will most definitely keep visiting Rachel to keep the clock back!” Client, L. Rees

HIFU Launch Event – 3rd Oct 5pm – 9pm One-time only event offer - Up to 25% Off treatment packages & 20% Off individual treatments purchased on the evening. The evening: Join up for Drinks and Canapés, watch a live HIFU & Skinpen Demonstrations, skin consultations & try a Free LED Light treatment. Full details are on our website Booking in advance is required: 01932 860190 2nd Floor 57 High Street, Cobham, KT11 3DP (above Adaptations Kitchen shop)

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Is Your Bone Density Up To Scratch? A depressing diagnosis of osteopenia prompted Denise Taylor to get help from Vessy at The Bone Life Clinic


y mother was a good dancer and tennis player but eventually had a very bad time with severe osteoporosis, culminating in fractures of both hips and several spinal vertebrae. I would not wish anyone else to have to go through this. My dexa scan in January 2015 showed a marked drop in bone density compared to the previous one taken 3 years earlier. I was very disappointed and spent a great deal of time researching possible methods to increase my bone density and quality before any further loss took place. I would like to share my experience in increasing my own bone density over the last three years using a form of resistance weight training called Axial Bone Osteogenic Loading. Fortunately, I came across research by Dr John Jaquish in the USA who had developed a machine to try and increase bone density for his elderly mother who had osteoporosis. This BioDensity machine allows safe loading of joints with heavy forces which replicate the impacts we receive as children and young adults and are associated with increased bone formation and increased muscular strength. The BioDensity machine is distributed by Performance Health Systems UK and I will always be grateful to them for introducing me to their specialist trainer Vessy. Vessy has taught me how to position myself on the machine and perform the required exercises which only take a few minutes. Her attention to detail is meticulous and produces great results. I have been training on this machine around once a week since July 2015. After 18 months I had significant increases in bone density confirmed by dexa scans and my bone density has remained stable. Research using this machine has so far been limited to pilot studies and larger studies will be required to confirm the benefits. A

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study using the machine is currently taking place in Australia, supervised by Professor Belinda Beck whose research into increasing bone density using heavy resistance exercise is well worth reading.

Denise Taylor on the BioDensity machine

Alongside osteogenic training Vessy has taught me ‘PowerPlate’ exercises, effective yoga postures and a technique called ‘Spiral Stabilisation’ which are all designed to increase my flexibility, strengthen my spine. I always leave our sessions feeling taller, stronger and happy! Vessy has a very deep knowledge of anatomy, movement and the breath. Helping people is her vocation. I hope that my story will raise awareness of the possible benefits of axial loading which have helped me so much. They are based on sound physiological principles and can work as a standalone treatment in specific cases or together with osteoporosis medication. They can also be used as a preventative regime earlier in life. A diagnosis of osteoporosis or osteopenia can be very depressing so it is helpful and empowering to feel there are options other than drugs and I hope you will find out for yourselves more about osteogenic training. Bone Life Clinic is located at Dorking Chiropractic Clinic, 316 High Street, Dorking, Surrey, RH4 1QX. Open Saturdays between 9-5pm, with a view to extend our opening times to 2-3 days a week very soon. For further info and to claim your Free Consultation, contact Vessy on 07970 133992, email or visit | autumn 2018


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It’s Party Season


NC Supper Club is here to help After our wonderful summer of sun, it’s time to prepare for autumn. As the nights draw in we start to think about FOOD AND PARTIES for friends and family By Roz Hanna, Features Editor For an extra special party this season, I have the answer for you: NC Supper Clubs. Most of you, Darling readers, already know the founder, Nesan Thirunesan from suppers and parties featured in these pages, with guests including our very own Editor Karine. Nesan hosts supper clubs all over SW London and you can hire your own private chef to curate a bespoke menu for a private family dinner, large party or corporate occasion. Nesan explains: ‘My hobby is food and nurturing talent. NC Supper Clubs and Chef’s Kitchen Social help chefs and cookbook authors to showcase their dishes via supper clubs, photography and cooking demo events. ‘I love good food and giving chefs the chance to work their magic with a fusion of flavours and clever combinations of local seasonal ingredients, using traditional and innovative methods of cooking. ‘Some people have hobbies like playing golf or collecting classic cars. For me it is bringing talented chefs to an ever more food-savvy clientele. Londoners will travel across town to experience great food. I love being a part of that,’ he explains. I met Nesan at a Sunday lunch event showcasing the talent of Bobby Geetha, UK Masterchef finalist in 2016 and author of “Beyond Curry”.

Bobby now heads Asha, one of Asia’s Top 50 restaurants in Dubai and recently won Gold as Executive Chef of the Year in the Middle East Chef Excellence Awards 2018. His Keralan-inspired cuisine is living proof of how far we have come from the first ‘Indian’ restaurants in the UK in the 1970s, actually Bangladeshis catering to the old British love of ‘lumps of meat in a sauce’! Bobby’s dishes are perfect for our now-sophisticated palates. He flew over from Dubai to deliver a delicious 5-course menu, beautifully paced and flavoured, the aromas a reminder that Kerala was historically a spice trading capital. Our taste buds were awakened with Langoustine Achar, with tempered watercress puree, then tickled some more with Crab Masala Vada, featuring sweet pepper Rasam and oyster mushroom. Then came the confit and Masala-fried chicken wings with button onions on a sweetcorn and turmeric puree, a reminder that chicken wings can be truly appetising. There followed a memorable Red Mullet Moiilee, pink hoppers and heirloom carrot thoran. Chef Bobby explained to us that the calcium-rich scales are good for us, and he made them enticing by keeping them crispy. The finale was a Ilaneer Payasam, a baked Kerala banana and custard apple fritter, both delicately flavoured and deeply filling.

All images courtesy of Rupa Photography

Chef Bobby with Nisha Parmar and Alex Jorge (from 2018 Masterchef series)

Chef Bobby at work

Also there to enjoy Bobby’s brilliance in the kitchen were finalists from this season’s Masterchef, Alex Jorge and Nisha Parmar, along with Arup Dasgupta, an executive chef and NC Supper Clubs regular, known as the Master of Sauces.

finally an extra-large helping of generosity from Nesan himself, who treats everyone who attends to complimentary Prosecco, wine and live music from a talented young musician called Alex – ok, you saw it coming – the icing on the cake.

The ‘feel-good factor’ was as palatable as the food – Nesan not only works with chefs curating a good menu, he curates a great event – with all the key ingredients (had to have that in somewhere, sorry) – great chef and dishes, eclectic group of people with one thing in common – a love of food and

If you want to create your own event, for family, friends or business, NC Supper Clubs will help you select a chef for the cuisine of your choice and introduce you or book (with no mark-up) to suppliers for everything you might need – from waiting staff, to lighting and heating to marquees.

Nesan and Chef Bobby Geetha

‘I am not in this to make money,’ Nesan emphasises, ‘I enjoy nurturing young and older talent and helping them build up their careers by creating events that I enjoy going to myself.’ Twitter: @ttnesan Instagram: @nesancreations 0203 078 9737 For private chef hire please call Chef Kitchen Social 020 3078 9737 Twitter: chefs_social Instagram: @chefskitchensocial

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Inheritance tax planning:

a little each year…


ather shockingly, a recent survey revealed that only 1 in 10 people know how much cash they can gift during their lifetime before risking a charge to


inheritance tax (“IHT”). Without knowing what the future holds, it is certainly understandable why many are reluctant to pass wealth to younger generations for fear

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of leaving themselves short in their later years. Indeed, our advice to clients is to not let the ‘tax tail wag the dog’ and that potential IHT savings should not be made at the expense of financial security.

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Nevertheless, making regular smaller gifts in your lifetime can be an effective method of reducing the value of your estate to mitigate future IHT liability.

Below are some examples:

The ‘annual exemption’

You can give away £3,000 worth of gifts each tax year without them being added to the value of your estate when assessing your estate’s liability to IHT on your death. If you don’t give away £3,000 in one year, you may carry it forward for the following tax year and use it then in addition to your allowance for that year. You can only combine two years’ worth of allowances (you cannot save up several years’ worth of allowances and use them all at once) so it is very much a case of use it or lose it. Each person has this allowance so a couple can each make use of their own individual allowances.

The small gift allowance

Gifts of no more than £250 to individual recipients per tax year are excluded from IHT, which is particularly useful for those with large families. For example, someone with 10 grandchildren could give each of them £250 annually and the gifts would not be taken into account in calculating the value of their estate. Again, the small gifts allowance exists for individuals so both

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grandparents could give £250 to each grandchild if they wished. Small gifts of up to £250 are not counted toward the £3000 annual exemption - although you cannot combine a small gift with the annual exemption and give an individual £3,250. If you did and were to die within seven years of making the gift then £250 (i.e. the part in excess of the annual exemption) would be added back into the value of your estate for the calculation of IHT.

Exempted gifts

Each tax year, you can also make gifts to individuals for certain occasions, without running the risk of IHT being payable on your death. For example, you can make wedding/civil partnership gifts of up to £1,000 per person, £2,500 for a grandchild or great-grandchild and £5,000 for your child. These gifts are exclusive of the annual exemption and small gift allowance. Gifts to charities are exempt from IHT, as are gifts between spouses. Gifting between spouses can be a useful way to split the risks of lifetime gifts. If your spouse has no money in their own name they could give away, but you have more than you wish to keep you could, for example, transfer money to them for them to pass on making use

of their (otherwise) unused allowances. Any gifting in excess of the above exemptions and allowances is likely to be classed as a potentially exempt transfer (‘’PET’’). You would then need to survive 7 years from that date in order for your estate’s IHT position to be unaffected. We recommend you obtain professional advice before making substantial gifts as there may be other tax and/ or practical implications to consider. The Trusts & Estates’ Team at Hart Brown are able to provide specialist inheritance tax planning advice that is tailored to your circumstances. We are also able to assist with the drafting of wills & lasting powers of attorney, as well as the administration of trusts and estates. This is not legal advice; it is intended to provide information of general interest about current legal issues If you have an inheritance tax planning issue that you would like to discuss with Jordan Page, you can contact him on 01483 887766 or by email For any general enquiry about the legal services Hart Brown offers please call us on 01483 887766 or email us | autumn 2018 


women in film

WHAT'S NEXT? As movements such as Time’s Up and #MeToo continue to highlight inequality in the film industry, let’s look at what our local female filmmakers are up to


omen led the way at the Sundance Film Festival in London where twelve films from this year's Sundance Film Festival in Park City, Utah, were selected to be screened. The four-day festival showed a whole weekend of bold, female-focused stories. With seven out of the twelve films showcased directed by women, along with a thrilling array of female leads on screen, the selection championed female voices and highlighted some of the broad and excellent women-led work. Darling asked four local accomplished female filmmakers what's next for them and have they seen a shift for better opportunities?

Shamim Sharif and Hanan Kattan Enlightment Films “We’ve seen a huge shift in attitudes in the last year, especially in LA. We’re used to meet-

Shamim & Hanan with Charles Dance on set of Despite the Falling Snow

two women on very different sides of Trump’s America. We’ve always made complex stories that make women the protagonists, not the supporting cast - it’s great to see Hollywood catching up!”

Shamim and Hanan

ings where movie execs balk at lead roles for women, women of colour etc. But it’s changing. Shamim’s fourth novel, The Athena Protocol, is about a rogue agency run by very international women and the lead character is LGBT - and it’ll be a lead title for Harper Collins young adult books in September 2019. Film interest in the book is high too. And our other movie project, Polarized, is a love story between 32

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Kate on set of Even When I Fall

Kate McLarnon Director at Postcode Films “At the moment I am concentrating on growing the slate of my production company Postcode Films and steering it towards documentary projects that really speak to all our values. shop local

We have a majority of women filmmakers on our staff and our freelance books - in all roles from director to DOP to editor - and I love that. Over the past five years it's been a significant challenge balancing all the maternity leaves and the various physical and scheduling challenges that pregnancy has brought to the table for our team (at times we've had shoots with majority pregnant crew). The tone and the force of the conversation has changed, making me hopeful. I think there's real momentum since #MeToo and people who would have turned a blind eye to protest are being forced to listen up more now, particularly those in established positions. Real change is not a sure thing but there has definitely been a shift in the profile of the conversations around women in film, and there is a coming together of various voices who have in the past been quieter on their own.”

Kate’s and co-director Sky Neal’s first feature Even When I Fall, was nominated for the BIFA Discovery Award and was part funded by the Sundance Documentary Film Fund (as well as the BFI of course and a Chicken and Egg Pictures grant - which is a fund directly benefitting women in film).This incredible documentary tells the story of young trafficing survivors who reclaim their performance skills by forming Nepal’s first circus, Circus Kathmandu.

Vanesa Bailey is a self-taught actress, writer and filmmaker. She has also script-consulted and cast other people’s projects. shop local

Vanessa at the Darling Inspiring Woman shoot

“My first film, Seeing Him, is coming to the tail-end of its festival run, having won 12 awards so far. We are finalising my new short film, Bus Stop, a story of two strangers who find themselves at a bus stop and the unexpected journey they take together. I wrote the script over one, sleepless night and showed it to my husband the next day. He said “You should make it” so we did. I decided to direct this time as it was a new challenge for me and meant that I could be even further involved with the creative process as a whole. There is a definite sense of camaraderie amongst indie filmmakers and my greatest supporters in practical and emotional terms have been both women and men. The women I know who are the most impressive filmmakers have a sense of humour about themselves and about filmmaking and have savage work ethics. They are often the women who have had to negotiate tough times in their lives, they possess a resilience and a determination and a sense of perspective. They find brilliant teams and they create beautiful work. And it shows in the stories they tell. I believe very strongly in creating your own opportunities. No one owes me anything and I like to earn the right to show my films to people.”

Vanessa on set of Bus Stop, photo by Christopher Frith | autumn 2018 




Leah Chowdry from Oxshott swims the English Channel 60,000 deaths. Overall, around a quarter of people with CLL will live at least five years after diagnosis. Though an incurable condition, treatment is constantly advancing. Leah’s aim is to help raise funds to ensure research into this condition is improved and hopefully her father, and others, will be cured. Dedicated to the cause, Leah trained every day for two hours in lakes, Dover Harbour, swimming pools and Docklands.

Some interesting facts about swimming the Channel: Made it!


n the 7th July 2018, Leah Chowdhry completed the amazing feat of swimming the English Channel from Dover to France, taking 14 hours and 44 minutes. What makes this more remarkable is that Leah is one of the first British Asian women to do this challenge. Local girl Leah has already raised £135,000 to help projects in India designed to educate young girls and end child sex trafficking and Cancer Research UK following her father’s diagnosis with Leukaemia two years ago. The 26-year-old businesswoman by day has already defied the odds as the average age of a swimmer is 35. Only 1,833


• More people have climbed Mount Everest people have completed the 24-mile-long Channel swim which takes around 15 hours to complete. Leah first witnessed a six-yearold cradling a baby and begging on the streets of India for food when she was around the same age. She was disturbed by the harsh reality that a girl of a similar age was protecting and nurturing another life, when both should have been cared for. This was a catalyst for her commitment to raising money for girls in India. Then two years ago, Leah’s father was diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocytic Leukaemia (CLL). It’s a condition that affected nearly 900,000 people globally in 2015 and resulted in around

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• Likely water temperature will be 14-18°C but could be as low as 6°C and night time air temperature is likely to be 10.6-13.9°C • The English Channel is one of the world’s busiest shipping regions. Due to the complications of avoiding tankards in the shipping channels and catching the tide at the right time, Leah ended up having to swim over 30 miles rather than the 26 miles that it would have been in a straight line • There are six species of jellyfish, one of which can be extremely painful and sometimes fatal. Leah was stung several times (there are six species). Leah said,

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“More people have climbed Mount Everest”

Photography Leah Chowdhry

Leah finishes her swim

“The jellyfish just wrapped themselves around my face and arms and I was literally battling to rip them of me. I was left with lacerations which were extremely painful” • According to the Channel Swim Association restrictions, no physical contact is allowed with the swimmer, so energy drinks were passed to Leah

Leah in the middle of the Channel

on a float attached to a lead every half an hour • Hypothermia is a big risk and there have also been some deaths • Dedicated to the cause, Leah trained every day for two hours in lakes, Dover Harbour, swimming pools and Docklands

A compassionate person since a child, Leah gave up fizzy drinks and sweets to raise money for blind children in India at the age of seven; worked in an orphanage at the age of 17 and raised £11,000 running the London Marathon.

For more information, contact or 07956 007821


Squaring the Circle Holly Candlish talks to Suzanne Ruggles about her pioneering work for Full Circle Therapies

Suzanne Ruggles

Gabby in paediatrics


this came to an end when she contracted the lifethreatening disease, lupus, and experienced a massive wake up call.

Suzanne had come far. Back in the 90s, Suzanne was a celebrated gallery owner in the Kings Road, representing international artists and designing furniture. All

“Like everyone else, I had no strategies to deal with the stress of serious illness, this was an era before mindfulness,” says Suzanne. “Typical treatment for lupus is steroids and chemo but my mum suggested some complementary medicine energy therapy and reflexology - which put me in an incredible state of peace. It was like being in a bubble; what the experts call ‘remembered wellness’. I learnt breathing techniques and stress responses and managed to avoid harsher forms of treatment.”

reatment for blood diseases and cancer can be a long battle, with very sick people enduring lengthy treatments and debilitating procedures. Possessing such low immune systems that even the common cold is deadly, patients are placed in total isolation with limited contact to loved ones and the outside world. This is the depressed scene that Suzanne Ruggles faced, and vowed to change, when she started work as a hospital administrator at St Georges.


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Suzanne was so impressed with the treatments that she sought them out for herself. Over the following three years she embarked on a journey to educate herself, learning a raft of different skills including energy medicine, NLP and reflexology. She studied the science of mind-body at Harvard Medical School, eventually graduating with a Masters in Science from St George’s, University of London. “I sold my business. That Christmas I took a low paid role at St George’s Hospital. The irony was one month before I was flying to Rome to meet Gorbachev, now I was meeting a very different type of courageous people.”

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Suzanne with Jo and Mic in haematology

Suzanne was overwhelmed by the conditions she found on the ward. Patients were confined to sealed rooms with bare walls and not even a garden to look onto. There was no psychological help, the patients were in for weeks and sometimes months. Suzanne describes the doctors and nurses as ‘beautiful souls, doing amazing work,’ but she knew that she possessed managerial skills that could improve the wellbeing of the patients. The moment of bringing her project to reality would still be a long way off. She toured the ward in her admin role, asking patients what they wanted for dinner, and gauging what they needed for their soul. Before long Suzanne had 27 projects on the go including a Japanese garden, artwork for the walls and TVs for each room after Curry’s were ‘persuaded’ to donate TVs and DVD players. Staff and patients recognised that Suzanne Ruggles was a force to be reckoned who achieved stunning results through warmth and grace.

in the balance. Her family were told to prepare for the worst. As her condition worsened, exhausted from relentless pain and hallucinations and lack of sleep, she realised she was floating up towards the ceiling. She made one last desperate attempt to live. That moment changed everything, and a new chapter began. For the past 18 years, Suzanne has built a team of hand-picked therapists in St George’s Hospital practicing reflexology, clinical hypnotherapy, reiki and mindfulness and set up the charity, Full Circle Fund Therapies, which aims to

help a patient feel human when so much has been taken away. The fund has won NHS awards for their work in haematology and paediatrics and this year expands to Brighton and the Evelina Children’s Hospital. Suzanne’s stint at Harvard left her better equipped to provide clinical evaluation of their work. Their reports add to the growing body of evidence that supportive therapy interventions such as infant massage for hospitalised babies and reflexology, massage therapy or relaxation training for patients with cancer and chronic pain has a positive impact on symptom relief, improving the ability of very sick patients to cope with the anxiety of their illness. Suzanne remains a woman with a sense of purpose and describes herself as an entrepreneur. ‘I never felt like a do-gooder, never imagined I’d have a charity,’ she says, ‘it was just something that was always meant to be.’

For more information or to make a donation contact: Kasia in haematology

Her sense of ‘being guided’ grew ever stronger until the day came when she was admitted to St George’s with a deadly form of meningitis. She knew then her life hung

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Flower & Village Show

Girl’s running race

Darling chatted to one of the organisers Gary State about this epic annual event


illagers and visitors (about 5000 strong), kicked up their heels, despite the very hot weather in the middle of July. Our 105th annual Show was formally opened by the Mayor of Elmbridge, Councillor Shweta Kapadia at 2:00pm by the cutting of the doorway sash to the impressive exhibition marquee. Families enjoyed the wonderful adult and junior exhibits which included flowers, fruit, vegetables, art, photos, and domestic delights including cakes, cordials, wine and beer. They also loved participating with their beloved pets in the Companion Dog Show and admiring the vintage cars and motorcycles as well as watching the entertainment which included live music, martial arts, Morris dancing, kids’ sports, a fancy-dress parade (judged by Hon Vice President Mike Aspel OBE), adult tug-of-war, a beer garden and a prosecco and gin tent. So much going on! Towards the end of the afternoon the 2018 President, Vicky Lord-Taylor presented cups and trophies to the many adult and junior prize winners as well as honouring the long serving Headmaster of Claygate Primary School Darryl Taylor. On the Sunday evening, at the same venue, The Claygate Recreation Ground, ‘Like the Beatles’, a Beatles tribute band, entertained 600 guests either standing outside, or sitting in the marquee. The Gig On The Rec has been going for 6 years now and with the flower show forms the Claygate Village Weekend.

Middle left: Vicky Lord-Taylor, President Claygate Flower & Village Show. Middle right: Mayor of Elmbridge, Cllr Shweta Kapadia

Thames Valley Morris Men

Barry Fitzpatrick - Chairman Claygate Flower & Village Show Mayor of Elmbridge, Cllr Shweta Kapadia, Vicky Lord-Taylor & Mike Aspel OBE Hon Vice - President Claygate Flower & Village Show

President Vicky-Lord Taylor presents a trophy to the President Elect, John Baldwin

Companion Dog Show One of the winning dogs and owner

Next year’s event will be on the 13th July and any profits made are distributed to local community organisations and charitable causes. “Christmas Lights Switch On” from 4:00 to 6:00pm on Saturday 1 December.

Winners of the Children’s Fancy Dress Parade



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Adrian Fairbank Janet Nelson Angellica Bell and&Michael Underwood

Joerg and Viktoria Nuernberg

Rosie Slater, Jo Darwell-Taylor and Joss Dickson

Vicki Sharp, Jude Roberts, Jason Sharp and Sam Hall

Annalie Howling, Judy Tams, Sian Marshall and Angelise Packham Megan Taylor and Glenda Taylor Emily & Gavin Towers Catriona Greene, Alistair Candlish and Sam Hall

Audrey Guarnori, Ivy GM Richard Roper & Agnes Paver

Trudi Cooper and Kathleen Müller

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Klariza Clayton and Aimee Kelly

Model Brigid McGaw with event curator Kerry Nixon Patron Samantha Bond and Director of fundraising development Karen Sugarman

Singer Teshay Makeda

Compere for the event, Beverley Hunter from Eagle FM Images by Loukia Photography


Carmen Robinson and Ellie Bennet DJ Kat Snoob for Heart and Capital FM


WHAT’S HOTHOT WHAT'S Editor Karine Torr, Salima Manji, Alex Jorge (MasterChef finalist ‘18), Karyn Noble and Surrey nutritionist May Simpkin

Executive Chef Bobby Geetha & Nesan Thirunesan


NC SUPPER CLUB AWASH WITH MASTERCHEFS! Spotted at recent pop-up OXSHOTT VILLAGE SPORTS CLUB ANNUAL TENNIS CHAMPIONSHIPS Ladies Doubles winners Vikki Arkinstall & Claire Macintosh with John Chapman (OVSC President) & Rod Stevens (Tennis Chair)

Right: Frank Wallis (organiser), Angela & Graham Woods (Mixed Doubles - winners), Carol Littlewood & Graeme Foote (runners up) and Sarah Eisner (organiser and Umpire)

Essie, Orangee Nail Polish, £7.99 Reiss, Tuxedo Front Jumpsuit, £225

JJigsaw igs Leather Trainers, T r £98


J Crew, Motorcycle Jacket, £550

Evie Loves Toast Estella Bartlett Bag, £15 Friend, Particia Parker MBE (Founder & CEO) Alastair King-Smith (Trustee), Jo Marshall & Sheila Marshall

Sweaty Betty, Yoga Bra, £40

Margaret Pankhurst & Theresa Sundt VITALITY LONDON RACE FOR HARRISON’S FUND Andrew Petrie, Dame Jessica Ennis-Hill and Andrea Petrie (it’s her first fitness challenge!)

Hannibal Brown, Personalised Wine Design @ladywimbledon #LadyWimbledon


Nicola Mugford, Marcela Boyle, Abbie Sell and Emma Newman Lisa Calvert & Michelle Lopez

The Organising Committee: Laura McConnon, Nicola Morison, Louise Porter, Hayley Mitchell, Sarah Colenso, Dan Smith, Caryl Dixon, Lina Lambrecht, Nyomi Peters, Rhian Simm Javier and Paula Guevara and Barbara Gaion

Helen Chisholm, Lawrence Lillie and Chantelle Lillie

Anna Orr, Gabriella Ruddick, Simone Windeatt, Nicola Gibbs, Shazanna Karim, Lisa Meade, Laura Pearman & Kelly McConville


Above: Luca DiNello, Annette DiNello and Ben Christie

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What’s On this autumn COBHAM HERITAGE DAY

Sat 8 Sept, 11am-4pm Church St, St Andrew’s Church and Leg O’Mutton field Parking on Leg O’Mutton field, £2 all day


Heritage Open Day

Sat 8 Sept, 10am – 6pm Free entry


Autumn Photography workshop Sat 13 Oct, 10am – 4pm

Fantastic Food Festival

15-16 Sept

Denbies Autumn Wedding Fair

Autumn Tree Festival

Sun 21st Oct, 10am – 6pm “Fall” in love with Painshill this autumn, and celebrate a host of autumn activities for all the family!

Weds 11 Sept, 6-9pm Sun 18 Nov, 11am - 4pm

Breathe in the autumn air and majestic colours of Painshill’s magical landscape.

Gin and Vine Experience

Offering outdoor demonstrations, carriage rides, and special children’s trails.

Thurs 20 Sept, 10am - 4pm

Surrey Hills Challenge & Festival of Sport In aid of Shooting Star Chase Sun 23 Sept

Vintage and Collectables Fair Sun 30 Sept 10am - 4pm

Harvest Jazz in the Cellar Sat 27 Oct

Wild Halloween Camp

Mon 22nd Oct – Fri 26th Oct, 9am – 4pm

Father Christmas in the Crystal Grotto Sat 24th Nov – Mon 24th Dec

An annual sell-out, children will get to meet Father Christmas and his trusty elves + receive a gift from Father Christmas himself! 24th & 25th Nov: 10:00am – 8:00pm 26th & 27th Nov: 2:30pm – 8:00pm


Make Festival

Sat 22 - Sun 23 Sept, 11am - 4pm

Heritage Open Day

Sun 16 Sept, 11am - 5pm

James Henry Pullen: Inmate - Inventor - Genius Until Sun 28 Oct

1st & 2nd Dec: 10:00am – 8:00pm 3rd – 7th Dec: 2:30pm – 8:00pm 8th – 23rd Dec: 10:00am – 8:00pm 24th Dec: 10:00am – 3:30pm

Festive Walk

Wed 28 – Fri 30 Nov, 5– 6:30pm or 6:30 – 8pm


For full listing on shows and courses watts

The Handmade Fair with Kirstie Allsopp 14-16 Sept, 9:30am-6pm


Sat 6 and Sun 7 Oct,10am – 5pm A new location at Fish Pond Copse, Bookhurst Road, Cranleigh, Surrey GU6 7DW


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Children’s book series Beast Quest comes to life at Hampton Court Palace New immersive family experience 20 - 28 Oct

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1918 & All That, musical by Molesey Musical Theatre Sat 17 Nov, 2.30pm & 7.30pm Sun 18 Nov, 4pm Ticket price - adult £14, children under 16 £10 Box Office -

The New Jersey Boys Fri 14 Sept, 7:30 pm

POPUP OPERA presents La Tragedie de Carmen


HARRISON’S FUND CAROL SERVICE Fri 7 Dec, 6.30- 9pm Tickets: Adults: £10.00, children free


History walk

Sat 29 Sept, 7:30pm

24 Sept, 2-3pm 14 Oct,2-3pm

Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

Pumpkin carving

2:30 pm Sat 20 Oct, 2:30pm

Eva Cassidy: an icon of acoustic music Fri 09 Nov, 7:30pm


Please bring your own pumpkin. 25 Sept, 11am - 1pm

Spooky walk at Claremont Landscape Garden 26 Oct, 5-7pm

Sat 24 Nov, 2:30pm


A Cherry Musical Evening

Missing Your darling Magazine?

28 Sept, 7:00pm Cranmore School


Cherry Trees Christmas Ball

• Fego Caffé, 14 Anyards Rd, Cobham

Guildford Harbour Hotel 23 Nov, 7pm Tickets £65


Fishing for Goats! Executive Fly Fishing Day 13 Oct, 9:30am - 5:30pm Park Lake, Albury Estate, GU5 9JA

Magical Candlelit Christmas Concert St Peter’s, Eaton Square, London 29 Nov, 7-10pm

• Carluccio’s, 22B Hight St, Cobham • Painshill, Portmouth Rd, Cobham • Boho Tea Room - 45 Queens Rd, Weybridge • Café One, 1 Baker St, Weybridge • Coco Café - Claygate Station, Parade • Esquires Coffee - 27 High St, Esher • The Art Agency, 118 High St, Esher • Munch and Wiggles Cafe/Bakery, High St, Oxshott • Nest Home & Café, High St, Ripley

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Fifteen By Kate Greenhalgh


n ye time of Jane Austen, you used to leave your calling card, and if it was accepted (a big if) you got to pay a visit lasting 15 minutes. FIFTEEN! How brilliant is that? How have we got to this thing where if you want to catch up with people, it involves at least 4 hours? Drinks, dinner, coffee, chat chat, Uber at 11pm. And sometimes, like happened to me the other day at a school reunion, you get trapped for 3 hours next to a person with whom the only thing you ever had in common was total mutual indifference.


Even at the best of times, I’m seriously boring after about 20 minutes. 15 minutes is just the ticket! Quick burst of being relatively scintillating - enthusiastic greetings with the peeps involved, crisis news and gossip, bit of banter, desultory enquiries about family, boom, job done; before the listless, stilted stuff kicks in, and I start talking about the cat’s accident again, my kids’ career prospects (nobody cares!) and our plans to rent a villa in Deadly do Lobo. And isn’t the parking outside Sainsbury’s pricey, and have you tried the new smashed avocado place down by the Odeon? ‘Somebody’s boring me. I think it’s me’ as Dylan Thomas once insightfully observed. I suppose at least I don’t talk about books any more since I stopped reading them in 2012. It was Jonathan Franzen’s second novel that finished me off. Time was, I couldn’t start socialising until after I’d finished doing the kids’ homework and colouring in all the worksheets about

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the Aztecs, before sitting in a suicidal coma during the Grade 2 violin practice. These days, I’m ready to meet up and socialise at 6pm. And if, like me, your work commitments consist of keeping your employer still pondering, “Hmm, how can we encourage them to retire without it looking like constructive dismissal?” (Tell me about it - Ed) then you are not kept late at the office either, so again, you are ready to socialise at 6pm. And be home by 8.30 latest. In order to watch some football on TV, even Salford City v Leyton Orient, because, frankly, it doesn’t matter when you have already nodded off. Can I propose a new etiquette amongst the Inbetweeners? (In between useful work and parenting years, and downright dotage.) We embrace our newfound freedom and utter exhaustion, and meet up for 15 minutes at a time, max, early doors. Enough time to down a pint and have - quite a quick - laugh. shop local

Barbara Currie School of Yoga Ltd OXSHOTT Village Centre Holtwood Rd



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Darling Magazine North Surrey - Autumn 2018  

living in north surrey

Darling Magazine North Surrey - Autumn 2018  

living in north surrey