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Dear Darling Reader

Karine Torr & Marja-Leena Toseland

Here’s to hoping and coping, to showing up and showing off, to living with and living without - to staying in and getting out!

We kick off this bumper autumn issue, now going to all our SW London areas, with an exclusive interview with the fabulous Jude Kelly OBE, feminist and founder of the international WOW festivals. Then it’s back to school with our special education feature, back to business with Really Helpful Club and back to dining out with our autumn restaurant picks. And isn’t it great to be pampered again, whether it’s hair, beauty or the muchneeded visit to the dentist. If you’ve been feeling low you’ll find great advice on relationships, narcissism, motherhood and caring for loved ones. Plus legal advice on Wills from Russell-Cooke, Peacocks on the new divorce laws and mediation with Clive Douglas - to property tips and tricks from Elise Jalon’s Room Boutique and the Buy to Let Hunters, Adrian and Lucy.

There’s plenty of fun, fashion and thought-provoking chats with Robert O’Dowd on diversity in the arts and culture, and Strictly‘s Emma Barton.

We are especially looking forward to the Richmond Fashion Festival in December – there’s so much to be optimistic about in our wonderful communities. And as always, we end with a smile as Kate Greenhalgh celebrates the ‘JOMO, the Joy of missing out’.

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CONTENTS 6 WOW! Inspiring woman, Jude Kelly OBE 8 Stylists Hel & Mel are golden for autumn 9 Richmond Fashion Festival – not to be missed 11 Change of life – change of wardrobe 13 Interview with Rose Theatre’s Robert O’Dowd 14 Schools are big news for 2020 20 Our dining out picks for autumn 23 Reskilling for new times, Really Helpful Club 24 Beauty File – skin savers this season 29 Clive Douglas settles your disputes 31 Safety first at the Dental Rooms 32 It’s taken 50 years! New divorce laws 34 Holistic luxury at Signature Care Homes 36 Our Love Local Businesses – more online 36 New home fogging with Zoono 37 Best care at home. Home Instead reports 38 Russell-Cooke making Wills easy 40 Training Works keeps you moving 41 Bridge with Paul Mendelson 42 ‘Buy to Let’ – where best to invest 43 Home Staging to sell your property fast 45 Get help from our Mental Health Dossier 48 Darling’s Jas Matulewicz chats to Emma Barton 50 On the Scene 54 Notes for your diary – What’s On 54 Wimbledon Bookfest is on again!

55 The changing face of funerals 57 Carole’s Cook’s Corner autumn dessert 58 Kate’s JOMO – ‘Joy of missing out’

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Making Women First Class Citizens Darling exclusive with Jude Kelly OBE founder of WOW

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omen of the World festival was started by Jude in 2010 when she was Artistic Director at Southbank Centre. A decade on and WOW Festivals and events now take place in more than 30 locations around the globe on six continents.

Each festival celebrates women and girls, and takes a frank look at the issues they face. Two years ago Jude left the Southbank Centre to run WOW as an independent charity. The Wow Foundation, its recent online global festival, WOW Global 24 - the biggest gathering focused on women and girls around the world - and it’s new podcast series, The WOW Podcast with Jude Kelly, the global movement 6

is growing more than ever.

Next up is a celebration to mark International Day of the Girl in October. Find out more about WOW from Jude.

1. What drove you to set up the Women of the World Festival?

I felt compelled to create WOW ten years ago, because so many young women had been persuaded that there was no need to keep fighting for gender equality as we had ‘so nearly got there’ in developed countries. The reality is that across the world there is the ancient and historic idea that women are second class to men and it’s naive to assume that it could be eradicated quickly.

WOW, however, was also started to remind us that we have much to celebrate.

For instance, my life is completely different from that of my grandmother.

However, I’m still aware that my daughter and my granddaughter are in a world without equal pay, proper childcare and freedom from sexual harassment. Women and girls have achieved a phenomenal amount and changes are constantly progressing, but it’s slow and can loop back very quickly.

Bringing together women of all classes, backgrounds, and life experiences, allows us to fight for things in a way that includes everybody’s needs, not just those with certain levels of power.

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2. Do you see WOW as having a big role in areas of the world where women and girls are facing the most oppression? Can WOW influence decision makers at the highest levels?

WOW is global and its ability to operate in Finland, as well as Somaliland, demonstrates the need to link our stories.

In authoritarian regimes there might be extreme levels of suppression of women’s creativity, conduct and expression, but in other countries there can be all sorts of pressures on women to conform to impossibly high standards of perfection. Therefore, unless we operate as a global conversation, understanding how inequality shows itself differently in different societies, we don’t achieve a systemic picture and without that we’re unable to tackle the issues at their roots.

3. You’ve raised concerns about how the COVID-19 pandemic is putting the progress women have made back by years, even decades. Is childcare that’s affordable for everyone the answer or one of the answers?

The biggest issue that COVID has revealed is the expectation we put on women with regards to domestic responsibilities and the assumption that these responsibilities do not warrant payment. Homeschooling quickly made it clear that in many households women would still need to take responsibility for childcare and the domestic space, despite

often trying to maintain a full-time job. Of course, some men have been shocked to realise the scale of the workload, however the attitude of many partners is that they will lend a hand but that the responsibility is not theirs. Domestic work is perceived as invisible labour and directly relates to the value we give care in general.

Professional care workers, who tend to be almost entirely women, are on very poor wages and given very little status. This needs to change. If domestic labour was properly valued and paid men would approach it differently. The COVID crisis is already taking women back in a way that we should be very nervous about. We’ve worked so hard for the progress we’ve got and it can be taken away very quickly.

4. Has the WOW movement influenced any legislation in the UK, or elsewhere, that has made a real change to women’s lives?

Over the past ten years WOW has definitely had an impact on legislation in the UK and in other places around the world too. For example, the women in the UK who fought so strongly against FGM directly cite WOW as one of the places that has helped change the conversation, bring about new laws against the practice and help build budgets where there were none. The formation of the Women’s Equality Party also came directly out of WOW. In all countries where the festival has taken place there is an acknowledgement that the strength of WOW is its ability

to speak on all subjects to a wide variety of women, girls and men, and that politicians and policymakers know that what is raised at WOW needs to be given serious consideration.

5. As an activist for women’s rights and equality you’ve also organised Being a Man (BAM) Festival in 2014 that addressed the challenges and pressures of masculine identity in the 21st century. Do we still need a separate festival for men or should they join WOW? I started the Being A Man festival because the conversation about gender equality belongs to all of us.

Gender isn’t about women, it’s about the way we’ve positioned gender in terms of who has power, so it’s really important that men are part of the conversation.

Masculinity has many of its own problems and Being A Man gave an opportunity for those to be discussed. I still believe that a space for men to have freedom and safety to discuss personal and societal change is vital and I’m working on a new version of this opportunity.

I also recently launched a project called Fathers and Daughters, which has been very exciting, talking with fathers who suddenly, once they have a girl, realise that they want that child to grow up in a much more equal society than they know exists and want to know how they can support girls in a positive way. n thewowfoundation.com

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Chanel Large Boy Bag £2750 phoenixstyle.co.uk

Orchid Diffuser £175 senti.co.uk

Mix & Match, Mini White, Pink Ripple & Crazy Daisy stackable bracelets £105 cocoandjaneloves.com

Munthe Lace T-Shirt £69 featherandstitch.com

Golden Brown Texture Like Sun As summer fades, fall into the richness that autumn brings with Hel & Mel’s style essentials Tort ‘Discomania, Alt Fit sunglasses £80 bernardboutique.com

Hi, we’re Hel and Mel, Fun-loving fashion influencers and trendsavvy style bloggers.

Our sense of humour and mutual love of good clothes, gorgeous shoes and great times has found a loyal following on Instagram, where we showcase affordable, wearable looks youʼll love. Empowering women to dress with a spoonful of fierce and a shot of glam by sharing style tips and what-to-wear advice, we’re your go-to girls for all things fashion.

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Debut: Snake print leather £210 solebliss.com

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Chelby Dress £150 bohobeachfest.com

Yrsa Knit T-Neck Antique White £165 numbersixcobham.co.uk

Logo-embroidered pleated velvet-jersey midi skirt, Valentino £1390 matchesfashion.com

Suede Cape with belt £400 zutlondon.com

Joni Red Patent £160 josephazagury.co.uk

Lucy Williams Gold T Bar chunky chain necklace £295 uk.missoma.com

Black Leather Cropped wide leg trousers £149 sosander.com

Let your pre-Christmas celebrations begin at Richmond Fashion Festival The High street fashion industry was not just touched by the coronavirus pandemic. It was crushed!

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verall fashion sales are up but mostly in favour of online purchases, now 30% of the market. This does not bode well for the stores and fantastic boutiques in Richmond hence the need for this festival. It’s organised

by Eddie Ottmann at EKO Marketing which helps charities raise funds, this time through an auction in aid of the Fashion & Textile Children’s Trust. Visit richmondfashionfestival.co.uk/ auction after 1 October.

The festival will take place on Saturday 5 & Sunday 6 December To hold it against a backdrop of COVID-19 threat and its restrictions is not ideal but after the cancellation of all other major events in town because of the pandemic, there’s great anticipation for the festival and Darling is delighted to be its official media partner.

Sophie Ottmann, the festival’s PR & Marketing Manager, reports an overwhelmingly positive response from retailers and is expecting 15 to 20 businesses to do their own thing in-store as well as hold fashion shows on strategically placed stages around the Town.

For the latest news, including competitions and beauty, visit richmondfashionfestival.co.uk darlingmagazine.co.uk @darlingmagazineuk @richmondfashionfefstival

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Putting on the Ritz Put it on in Richmond Fashion Shows across Town, Makeover Workshops, ‘Live’ Mannequins, Drinks Parties, Street Entertainers, Music, Exclusive Charity Auction with Darling in aid of the Fashion & Textile Children’s Trust, and We LOVE Richmond Competition.

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Navigating the menopause Your menopause should NOT be a midlife crisis

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The majority of my clients fall into the 40 to 60 year age range. It’s their feedback and concerns about the effects of the menopause that has been the catalyst behind me offering this service. I’ve seen hundreds of women for oneto-one consultations relating to some or many of the symptoms of the menopause. I’m here to make sure that you look colourful, stylish, appropriate and current and, most importantly, that you feel comfortable.

Who’s it for?

It’s for women who feel they’ve undergone or are going through a huge change in the way they look and feel, and who need support, advice and encouragement to help them look and feel incredible. Going through the menopause can affect one’s self-esteem and confidence, especially at work. My job is to help rebuild that through showing you how to dress your changing body shape.

What’s involved?

The four hour consultation at your home costs £500 and covers ways in which personal styling can help you to weather some of the symptoms of the menopause. We’ll look at the following:

1. Practical advice on choosing the right fabrics; what to wear and how to wear it to keep cool 2. This season’s trends, specifically targeting you 3. How to dress your changing body shape 4. Where to source comfortable yet stylish clothes 5. Advice on skincare and makeup to wear near your face to best complement your complexion 6. Advice on which colours suit you best, according to your hair, eyes and skin tone 7. How to adapt to a change in lifestyle 8. Accessories: I’ll bring along lots of examples to show you how you can jazz up your outfits with shoes, scarves and jewellery

Shopping My extensive knowledge of the high street, online independent brands and Instagram means that if you need to replace or add items in order to create the perfect capsule wardrobe, I’ll know exactly where to source them. n Follow Anita on Instagram @feronclarkstyle

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Spotlight on Diversity Drastic times call for drastic changes. Robert O’Dowd Chief Executive of the Rose Theatre highlights four actions needed for inclusivity in the arts

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ven though the past few months have been very challenging for us, as with all theatres, with the support of our amazing patrons and The Royal Borough of Kingston we have plotted a route to weather the COVID storm and come back when we are allowed to open better, stronger and more inclusive. Our new Artistic Director is fully committed to make the Rose a theatre for all.

The arts are in a perilous state. Their entire model is based on high numbers of customers paying to see work produced. COVID 19 has brought an abrupt halt to the majority of the income streams the arts generate. As the arts industry looks at ways to weather this huge storm it also has to think of a new and better way of becoming more inclusive. For too long the arts have pursued a small but hugely important demographic but in order to grow and survive post the pandemic the arts need to secure new audiences whilst retaining its current ones.

The diversity gains made in the arts in recent years have been largely down to new entrants to the sector. If we lose diversity in the workforce now, we lose our future talent pipeline.

The arts need to change.

Here are four actions that the arts could instigate as they reawaken from lockdown 1. Introduce regular mandatory training in places of work on racial equality, micro-aggressions and cultural differences to ensure a safer environment and to inspire people to talk about it from the start of getting back to work 2. Use the rescue package funding to encourage organisations to move to a minimum of 15% ethnic diversity in their operations and activity.

3. Prioritise the retention of existing diverse staff, and the employment of diverse freelancers in the arts workforce.

If we lose ethnically diverse staff and freelancers who are not new to the sector, we will create a skills deficit that will take years to rebuild.

The UK’s population is increasingly diverse: lose ethnicity and we consign our industry to history.

4. Build diversity across all areas of arts businesses: for cultural organisations to allocate a percentage of each budget line to an active diversity intervention, including all areas of business practice, management and governance.

From the artists we engage with, to the contractors we work with, even if organisations are small, then prioritise engagement with ethnically diverse freelancers.

Conscious procurement is within our gift. n rosetheatrekingston.org

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Schools Are In The News Darling looks at how a handful of countries are performing on PISA (The Program for International Students Assessment, 2018). Whether this means much is for the educationalist to decide but, at the very least, it makes interesting reading. The skills and knowledge in reading, mathematics and science amongst 15-year-olds are evaluated in the 79 participating OECD countries in order to assess education systems around the world The UK has made positive progress in reading, maths and science but lags behind top performers such as China, Singapore and Finland. The UK’s teenagers were also found to have among the lowest levels of “life satisfaction”.

Results from the 2018 tests places the UK: - In reading, 14th, up from 22nd in tests three years ago - In science, 14th, up from 15th - In maths, 18th, up from 27th

The Chinese Approach to Education: A state-run public school system.

Compiled by Lara Krausé China’s unique, public education system has led Beijing, Shanghai, Jiangsu and Zhejiang’s 15-year-old students ranking as first among 79 countries in reading ability, mathematics and science. Chinese education comprises three levels - basic, higher, and adult - and everyone must attend school for a compulsory nine years. Due to intense competitiveness to get into university and the high value of 14

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education, Chinese students are subjected to gruelling hours of study during weekdays, half a Saturday and additional hours of tuition and extra-curricular subjects.

The infamous ‘Gaokao’ is a nine-hour test and a pass is required for university. It is one of the most difficult examinations in the world, with only a 50% pass rate. A key negative in this system is the immense pressure leading to reported suicide and depression.

The American Approach to Education American students rate 13th for reading, mathematics and science out of 79 countries on PISA. The US has no country-level set curriculum, instead every state has its own Department of Education that sets guidelines and provides funding for the schools of that state. During elementary, middle and high school, a student must pass all of their required courses at the end of each semester, allowing them to continuously self-evaluate.

During the last year of school, students take their SAT or ACT exams which determine whether they will get into their chosen university.

At university, students are required to take several subject choices before they specialise in one specific field, permitting a student a clearer idea of career route. Funding differences due to state financial constraints have left some schools offering limited subjects, reduced teaching resources and minimal opportunities, leading to each state having different levels of literacy. Social and academic differences, with reduced opportunities, create unrest, which is shown through mass shootings and rising mental health issues.

Finland

Compiled by Editor Marja-Leena Toseland The Finnish approach to education is amongst the least pressured with the world’s shortest school days.

Learning how to learn, critical thinking, interactive skills and the ability to use technology are seen as the most valued skills in our rapidly changing world.

When it comes to PISA 2018, reading literacy shares 2nd place with Canada in the OECD countries; 6th out of all participants. Maths ranks between 7 and 13 among OECD countries and between 12 and 18 overall.

Science literacy, in the other hand, ranks third among OECD countries and sixth overall.

Full-time education is mandatory from age 7 to 16. Younger children attend school only three or four hours a day, with afternoon clubs based on free play valued as an important part of learning. The only standardised external exams are the matriculation exams, taken by 42% at the end of the optional high school and are required for university. The rest opt for a vocational education after turning 16.

Teachers are highly educated and required to have a Master’s degree. Pupils are treated as individuals who progress within their own capabilities. Experience of success and joy of

learning is highly valued. Education is free at all levels from pre-primary to higher education.

There is no market for private tutors but pupils needing extra support receive it at school.

South Africa

Compiled by Debby Evans, Specialised Education Consultant, Cognitive and LSEN. South Africa is one of the most unequal countries in the world and has no ranking on PISA. Nelson Mandela became first State President of the new democracy in 1994, inheriting the legacy of the apartheid system.

Tragic inequalities still exist and plague our multi-racial education system. The system is `out-comes based’ and inclusive for 6 to 15-year olds.

SA was ranked last by the World Economic Forum (WEF) for mathematics and science education in 2016, and close to last out of 139 countries for the overall quality of the education system. The latest PIRLS results show that literacy levels are also disastrously low: 78 % of S.A. Grade 4 children cannot `read for meaning’ in any of the 11 official languages.

Mother tongue instruction is given until Grade 3. From Grade 4, English is the language of teaching and learning.

State Secondary schooling ends in Grade 12 with the National Senior Certificate (NSC) examinations. Only 28.7 % pass with a ‘bachelors’ pass, which is necessary for entrance to university, compared to the over 98% from the excellent private schools.

The poor quality of current teaching can be attributed partly to the closing of the teacher training colleges since 1994. Teachers now train through universities, distance learning or training and vocational colleges. n

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Schools Guide Pick of the best independent schools in SW London and Surrey

Holy Cross Preparatory School - girls 4 to 11 A compassionate, vibrant community, working together to inspire a true love of learning.

Their state-of-the-art facilities are set in eight acres of beautiful, historic grounds, with plenty of outdoor space for the girls to explore. Holy Cross Prep is perfect for girls who want to enjoy school life and achieve excellence. Their pupils are happy, curious individuals, encouraged to nurture their natural inquisitiveness and a healthy attitude towards learning.

Open Morning: Saturday 3rd October, 9.30am 12.00pm. Please register your interest online. If you are unable to attend, please book a personal tour of the grounds.

Parkside School – Boys aged 2 to 13 years old, with co-educational nursery Parkside is a wonderful environment where children’s curiosity is awakened. Set in 45 acres of beautiful countryside where talents and passions are nurtured and developed, pupils are encouraged to take responsibility for their learning. The school delivers a dynamic and innovative curriculum that lights that spark. Academic excellence and outstanding sporting achievements are underpinned by exceptional pastoral care. Parkside pupils flourish and are valued as individuals; happy and confident as they move to their Senior School.

George Road, Kingston upon Thames, KT2 7NU holycrossprepschool.co.uk/admissions admissions@holycrossprep.com

The Manor, Stoke D’Abernon, Cobham KT11 3PX parkside-school.co.uk

The Mall School - boys 4 to 11 The Mall School is a successful independent school for boys aged 4 to 11 in Twickenham. We bring out the best in every boy and they make exceptional progress, benefitting from small class sizes, inspirational teaching and excellent pastoral care. We work closely with parents to identify the senior schools where their son will continue to thrive. In 2020 boys received 11+ offers for 20 senior schools including Hampton, King’s College Wimbledon, Kingston Grammar School and Tiffin.

185 Hampton Road, Twickenham, Middlesex, TW2 5NQ | themallschool.org.uk

Next Open Morning is Friday 2 October at 9.30. To book a place, please e-mail head.pa@parkside-school.co.uk

Reed’s School - boys 11 to 18, co-ed Sixth Form Set amongst 40 acres of countryside with excellent facilities, being part-boarding allows Reed’s to offer huge advantages for day pupils, such as wraparound care and outstanding pastoral support, allowing each and every child to be known and valued. The values-driven education that pupils experience at Reed’s equips them not only with excellent academic qualifications and the interpersonal skills they will need for the future,

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but ensures that when they leave they possess a strong moral compass and a desire to go into the world and improve it.

Sandy Lane, Cobham KT11 2ES | reeds.surrey.sch.uk

Rowan Preparatory School - girls 2 to 11 Rowan is a vibrant, friendly and nurturing community, with traditional values and a forwardthinking approach to education offering a broad and adventurous curriculum. It has excellent sport facilities with a ‘sport for all’ approach and a highly developed Arts programme spanning both creative and performing arts. All the girls progress to outstanding senior schools of their choice, equipped with life skills and knowledge to excel in the next stage of their learning journey.

Open Days: Personal tours, one-to-one video calls and virtual events are available, please contact us to find out more. Our next Open Morning will be held on Friday 9 October 2020.

register for the event online.

107 Ditton Road, Surbiton KT6 6RL shrewsburyhouse.net/openmorning

Wimbledon High School - girls 4 to 18 Bright, kind and utterly grounded, Wimbledon High students know where they are heading.

Our extensive partnership programme allows for volunteering in the wider community, with meaningful interactions such as mentoring enriching our students’ lives. With excellent A level results, our Sixth Form leavers join over 70,000 GDST alumnae (the Girls’ Day School is expert in educating girls with a unique ethos and family spirit), ready to stride out of SW19, take on the world and shake it up.

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6 Fitzalan Road, Claygate KT10 0LX rowanprepschool.co.uk/admissions/open-days

The Study Prep School Wimbledon - girls 4 to 11

Shrewsbury House Prep School - boys 7 to 13 An outstanding IAPS Independent Prep School for Boys with a superb academic record, committed staff, small class sizes and dedicated pastoral care, every boy has the opportunity to fulfil their potential. The school hopes to welcome visitors on Saturday 3 October 2020 from 9.30 to 11.30am to their Annual Open Morning, but if this is not possible, it will take place as a virtual event. Please

A New Head for The Study Prep, Miss Vicky Ellis, commences her headship at The Study Prep, Wimbledon, in September 2020. The Study is a leading prep school for girls aged 4-11, based on two sites near Wimbledon Common.

Proudly non-selective at 4+, and with a highly creative and nurturing ethos, the girls go on to achieve excellent results at 11+, with offers and scholarships from top senior schools. 2020 was record year for scholarship offers, with 40 offered to the Year 6 cohort, across academic, sport and the arts.

thestudyprep.co.uk Located on two sites in Wimbledon Village

VISITING US THIS AUTUMN Please visit our website for dates of our autumn small group tours led by the Headmaster, David Price.

Contact Ms Alex Penny at admissions@themallschool.org.uk to join a tour or arrange an individual visit.

A successful independent prep school in Twickenham for boys aged 4-11

2020 11+ offers to 20 independent and grammar schools including: Epsom College, Hampton, King’s College School, Kingston Grammar, Latymer Upper, Reed’s, St George’s College, St James, Tiffin and Wilson’s Non-selective for entry at Reception; assessment for other years. Small class sizes with focus on each boy’s potential. Boys make excellent progress by Year 6 compared to national levels Minibus services: Kingston, Sunbury, Richmond, Kew, Chiswick and Osterley Wraparound care: 7.30am to 6.00pm including extensive range of clubs

Bringing out the best in every boy

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Introducing Miss Vicky Ellis, the new Head at The Study Prep in Wimbledon Darling Editor Karine Torr caught up with Vicky at the start of the new school year phase of education at 11+, whether in all-girls’ or co-educational senior schools.

What are the popular choices for schools that your girls apply for after The Study?

Girls join the school at Reception through ballot entry when they are 4+, and leave at 11+ to go onto top day and boarding schools.

Day schools include Wimbledon, Putney and Surbiton High Schools, St Paul’s Girls’ School, The Lady Eleanor Holles, Epsom College, Francis Holland, Marymount, Notre Dame and St John’s Leatherhead. Boarding schools include Benenden, Downe House, St Mary’s Ascot and Wycombe Abbey.

Tell us about your rise to the top of the tree I have worked in a wide range of schools, including teaching at Guildford High School and as Director of Studies at Redcliffe School in Chelsea. I also worked as a consultant on Early Years education for a period of time to enable me to gain a strong understanding of children’s varying pre-school experiences. Since I began my career in education, I have taken on roles with increasing leadership responsibility, including most recently, being the founding Head of an independent prep school in Surrey.

Do you still want to remain a purely girls school in the future? What’s your feeling on co-education and the pros for singlesex education?

The Study Prep was established as a school for girls in 1893. We have a long history in successfully educating young girls and do not have plans to change this. There is no one-sizefits-all education, all children are different, but our girls leave The Study as confident, wellrounded individuals, both with a voice and a strong sense of self, and are ready for the next

You’ve invited inspiring sports personalities and authors to speak at the school – any exciting future speakers planned?

We have been very fortunate in having some very impressive and interesting guests at our annual prizegiving events. We are thrilled that Dr Emily Grossman, the eminent science communicator, best-selling author and TV personality, is confirmed as our guest speaker next year. We also have plans for an exciting VIP appearance at our new building when we have an official opening ceremony.

Describe the building and development works you have done at the School recently Facilities have been enhanced at both sites over recent years, and 2020 will see the completion of an ambitious development which will add a new library, six bright new classrooms, a new visitors’ reception and performing arts space to the school. n The Study Preparatory School, Wimbledon 020 8947 6969 | thestudyprep.co.uk read more at darlingmagazine.co.uk autumn 20

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Darling’s Top Picks for Dining Out Locally We don’t know about you, but over lockdown we have really missed dining out.

Now that restaurants have re-opened their doors, we have put together our top picks of sensational local hotspots. From gorgeous vegan treats in Richmond Hill, authentic Italian in Claygate and Wimbledon Village to award-winning Indian in Kingston, we have all your cravings covered.

Averna - mouthwatering Italian dining The Claygate Averna’s approach to food is simple. Their menu is rooted in authenticity, with inspirations taken from the Italian table, and made with only the best ingredients – sourced locally and of course seasonally, wherever possible. Their welcoming staff make sure that each and every dining experience is memorable.

Expect fresh, homemade dishes, including comforting bowls of pasta and delicious pizzas and many dishes with a modern twist too.

The Green, Esher KT10 0JQ | claygateaverna.co.uk | 01372 466888

Cent Anni This elegant, modern, independent Italian restaurant, in the heart of Wimbledon Village serves classic, freshly prepared Italian food matched with an excellent wine list, also offering takeaway with Deliveroo service.

Pizza Monday: Any pizza from our menu £10.00. Pasta Tuesday: Any pasta from our menu £10.00. Wine Wednesday: 50% off any bottle on our wine list *Excludes Tignanello and Solaia. Mon-Wed offers also available for dine in. Thur-Sun: 10% off all take-away orders.

33 High Street Wimbledon Village SW19 5BY | centanni.co.uk 020 3971 9781

Fratelli Delicatessen Stepping into Fratelli Delicatessen feels like visiting Italy in the heart of North Kingston. A perfect place for a coffee or delicious lunch prepared by the owner, Antonio, who has years of experience as a chef at London’s top Italian restaurants.

Antonio uses his own brand of pasta sauces in all his recipes and they are perfect for at-home cooking. It’s worth asking him for advice on your cooking queries.

Alongside the variety of foods available from the Deli counter and their artisan Italian gelato, Fratelli’s also offers a broad range of wines including some of the finest vintage Italian wine.

10% off for a case of six bottles - quote DARLING10.

57 Park Road, Kingston KT2 6DB | fratellidelicatessen.com | 020 8549 8021

Hemingways Lounge Bar Wimbledon Village’s only independent owned and run daytime and night-time elegant, plush lounge cafe and cocktail bar. Serving award-winning cocktails in bottles, top hat and welly boot vessels - very popular to share. Hemingways are famous for their Margritas Expresso Martinis and Crack Babies. Now introducing their food and party canapés from Michelin Chefs Jack Blumenthal and Scott Perkins. Give them a call to book their venue for your next event or get-together.

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Roz Ana - award-winning Indian cuisine In July Roz Ana re-opened its doors to the delight of their devoted diners around the Kingston Hill area, with COVID-19 precautions in place. It is regarded as one of the finest Indian dining experiences outside central London; a place to find the best in authentic regional Indian cuisine.

Great cocktails and wines that are matched perfectly with Indian food, a top choice for spice lovers to meet, relax and celebrate with all the family. If you fancy eating at home check out their takeaway options.

4-8 Kingston Hill, Kingston Upon Thames KT2 7NH | roz-ana.com 020 8546 6388

The Retreat Kitchen - delicious plant-based dishes This small but perfectly formed vibrant, plant-based cafe founded by Maggie and Claire, whose intention is to share their love of homemade vegan cooking with their community. They create earth-friendly food which is good for you and good for the planet. They use locally sourced ingredients where possible and their menu changes with the seasons.

You certainly don’t have to be vegan to come and enjoy their delicious creations!

16 Hill Rise, Richmond TW10 6UA | theretreatkitchen.co.uk 020 8127 0700

Riverside Walk - unbeatable river views We are open and looking forward to serving the community again with delicious mouth-watering cuisine from our six restaurants at Riverside Walk in Kingston. If you’re looking to visit us and dine at the restaurants, we have safety measures in place, as per Government guidance. However, if you decide to enjoy a delicious meal at home, don’t forget that many of our restaurants are offering click and collect or delivery via Deliveroo, Uber Eats and Just Eat UK. You’ll be spoilt with a variety of cuisine - Bill’s, Busaba, Chakra, Comptoir Libanais, Côte Brasserie and Haché Riverside Social.

Riverside Walk, Kingston upon Thames KT1 1QN | riversidewalkkingston.co.uk

The Six Nestled between Bushy Park and Hampton Court Palace we have a stunning boutique hotel with a restaurant and bar and newly renovated 14 bedrooms with the most comfortable beds, individually designed bathrooms with mosaic tiles and minibars in every room. Our restaurant is currently open Thursday - Sunday for lunch and dinner. Our talented team only use the best local ingredients to produce familiar and comforting food. Kids and dogs welcome. Come for lunch any day and we can include tickets to the Palace and Magic Garden.

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Really Helpful Club Back To

Business Conference and More We didn’t quite appreciate what we had until it was gone. COVID-19 has changed how we work, socialise, teach our children and interact with each other. Change is invariably unsettling, but we have adapted and adjusted to Lockdown-Life, says founder, Sarah Austin Our conference will feature inspiring guests including Emma Jones MBE, founder of Enterprise Nation, and Miriam González Durántez, founder of Inspiring Girls.

In this challenging year, with the increasing digitisation of business, shifting work dynamics and employment uncertainty, you may be taking some time to reassess your options for the future and we are here to help. Thanks to our sponsors, “It is not the strongest species that survive, nor the St James’s Place Academy and Vodafone most intelligent, but the most responsive to change” Business, we’re bringing together Charles Darwin experts who will lead online keynote talks and breakout session workshops on topics such as career change, s restrictions ease, we will continue fundraising and investment, branding and to have limited face-to-face contact social media, leadership, and much more. for some time to come. We have discovered the importance of online Educational workshops connections and a trusted community.

We’re also working with a growing number of schools to run educational workshops that A connected community who care cover topics and areas vital for understanding Community is at the heart of everything and embracing the modern world and the we do at the Really Helpful Club (“RHC”). changing workplace.

Members have access to secure online advice Our next educational event will be held forums, recommended businesses, special online with Wimbledon High School on 20th offers and discounts and a new Jobs Board.

November and will focus on financial literacy and confidence to empower women and the Back to business conference reconnecting and reskilling next generation. We’re delighted that CEO of We are excited to launch our online NatWest Group, Alison Rose, will be amongst programme of events this Autumn. This year our speakers. n we can welcome so many more attendees to our Back to Business Conference, from wherever you live, as for the first time we’ll be presenting this informative and inspirational Visit reallyhelpfulclub.com to register for these event online on 23rd September. events and find out about membership.

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Beauty

Get Your Skin Glowing Says Bhavash from Wimblederm, specialist in medical skin peels 2020 so far will be remembered for the deadly health pandemic and frustrating but necessary lockdown. To celebrate the decline of the COVID-19 virus and the ease of lockdown we have a special offer to help get your

skin in better health and glowing, as we move into cooler autumn.

We are experts in medical skin peels and only licenced medical professionals can perform these. We use the acclaimed AlumierMD peels. These are a wonderful introduction to specialised skin treatments and what makes them so good are the levels of active ingredients and the greatly reduced downtime compared to conventional medical peels.

The AlumierMD skin peels are powerful enough to exhibit

noticeable results whilst being gentle enough for you to get back to your day as normal.

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Your Roadmap to Radiance Following months spent on Zoom conferences and watching others look fabulous during lockdown, Louise Stewart helps to pinpoint what it is that shines through beyond the tricks of the soft-focus lens and special lighting Quite simply, it is radiance.

Healthy looking, luminous skin with a natural glow is more youthful whatever your age than any kind of temporary intervention. Botox and fillers have an amazing impact if done sympathetically to gently enhance your natural beauty, but first the skin condition needs addressing.

Sound advice from a knowledgeable skin specialist and a bit of investment initially will help you unleash your skin’s full potential.

Under the direction of Plastic Surgeon David Gateley, the team at Nakedhealth are well placed to assess your skin condition and prescribe the most appropriate treatment.

This might typically be a few high-tech treatments in the Clinic followed by a robust homecare regime.

“Underpinning all advice” says David, “is a regular review with the patient so that they are getting maximum effectiveness and the best outcomes”. At Nakedhealth they insist on this so that patients aren’t left on regimes that haven’t kept pace with their changing skin condition.

The Obagi Nu-Derm system is one of the leading medical skin care regimes available.

It uses prescription-strength ingredients to repair,

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regenerate and transform your skin. Once you get going with it, it is very easy to follow and you will soon see how your skin is transforming: clearer, more even and smoother. The reactions vary, but typically will involve some redness, dryness and flaking. This is usual but gradually subsides as your skin condition improves and it becomes more tolerant of the active ingredients.

David and Louise worked together in Harley Street when they first met in 2001 and have been working successfully with Obagi ever since, instilling a love of it within their team. It is the gold standard treatment for melasma and postinflammatory pigmentation.

It is also an excellent choice for treating acne, large pores and skin dullness. Many clients use the system intensely for a few weeks a year then transition onto a maintenance program. The range has extended in recent years to include the excellent Crx range for brightening the skin and the less intense Fx range for pigmentation suppression.

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“There’s a system for everyone and now is the perfect time to start your skin transformation” concludes Louise. n

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We provide a highly personalised, flexible service allowing us to meet the needs and choices of the families we support. On registering with Hummingbird Home Support, we will arrange a date to visit you in your home at a suitable time in order for us to completely understand your expectations and assess how we can meet your support needs.

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Get back into shape with CoolSculpting at The Glasshouse Owner Alison Telfer tells us more about this amazing treatment

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uring lockdown we have been offering virtual consultations and it has become clear that many of us have over indulged, resulting in a few extra pounds. But The Glasshouse has a solution! Whether you’re looking to enhance your body shape, get rid of stubborn fat, or just look and feel comfortable in your clothes again, CoolSculpting could be the answer.

CoolSculpting is a highly effective and extremely popular fat freezing and body sculpting treatment. It is non-invasive and requires no downtime. It can treat areas such as the abdomen, thigh, bra fat, double chin, flanks, upper arms and thighs. It uses controlled cooling to target and destroy the desired fat cells. In the weeks that follow your body naturally processes the fat and eliminates dead cells, permanently removing the fat cells!

In 2017 we delivered more treatments from one CoolSculpting machine than any other clinic in Europe The Glasshouse is one of London’s leading clinics for this treatment. In 2017 we delivered more treatments from one CoolSculpting machine than any other clinic in Europe and we are also one of the few clinics in the UK to offer ‘DualSculpting’, where two CoolSculpting machines are used simultaneously on different areas of the body to deliver quicker results and save the patient treatment time.

We offer free consultations with our highly skilled therapists, who receive regular training updates at the CoolSculpting university.

So, you couldn’t be in safer hands.

The Glasshouse clinic in Clapham opened its doors in 2009 and went on to open its second clinic in Wimbledon village in 2018. Both clinics offer a variety of high-level aesthetic treatments adapted to every individual’s needs. n THE GLASS HOUSE CLINIC 32 High Street, SW19 5BY Also 16 Abyssinia Rd, Northcote Rd London SW11 1ER 0203 968 0788 theglasshouseclinic.co.uk wimbledon@theglasshouseclinic.co.uk

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BUSINESS PROMO

Mediation

A Cost-Effective Way To Settle Your Dispute

Clive Douglas

Take “a helicopter view” of your dispute, says Clive Douglas, LLB MBA, a Civil & Commercial Mediator

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e is known for his empathy, patience and good listening skills and is a trusted professional both locally and internationally. Clive has over 35 years’ experience as a solicitor, initially specialising in town planning and property law and subsequently in commercial law working in the pharmaceuticals and telecoms sectors.

When it comes to the key benefits of mediation Clive says: “Mediation is an inexpensive, structured but also flexible process managed by a mutually agreed upon neutral mediator, who facilitates discussion and negotiation in order to help the parties reach a sensible and practical settlement arrangement quickly.”

80-90% of mediations result in settlement on the day or shortly after. The basic costs of a mediation are usually just a few hundred pounds if, as is often the case, the mediation only lasts for a half-day or full

A significant part in this is Clive’s approach: “I invite parties to take a ‘helicopter view’ of a situation and the issues involved in order to help them find practical and constructive solutions to disputes.”

Mediators are well trained to diffuse emotion and feelings of distrust day. Travel and venue hire costs can also be saved by telephone and online video conference mediations, “although these are not suitable for all disputes,” adds Clive.

He continues, “Disputes where distrust or emotion has developed between the parties are particularly suited to mediation. Mediators are well trained to diffuse emotion and feelings of distrust to enable the parties to see their way to a realistic settlement.”

All discussions and negotiations during the course of a mediation are confidential and without prejudice. If the parties cannot reach a mutually acceptable resolution, they remain free to pursue the dispute through the courts or other process in the knowledge that any information exchanged or offers and concessions made during the mediation cannot be used or referred to in subsequent proceedings, subject to certain limited exceptions.

Clive is always willing to have preliminary no-cost conversations to explain the mediation process and how it might benefit your situation. n Get in touch for a free preliminary conversation.

clive@clivedouglas.com clivedouglasmediation.co.uk

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Safe & Efficient Care For Your Oral Health BOOK YOUR FREE VIRTUAL CONSULTATION Discuss your treatment options, upload photos using our dedicated app and receive your dental reports electronically from the comfort of your home 1 Ridgway, Wimbledon Village, London SW19 4RS T: 020 8946 2426 E: info@dentalrooms.co.uk dentalrooms.co.uk

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Oral Health Care Safely Enters Post-Lockdown Era Virtual consultations and a New Norm Patient Journey are ensuring safety and efficiency for staff and patients, says Dr Angela Auluck of award-winning Dental Rooms Which safety measures do staff adhere to, during dental procedures?

All staff wear personal protective equipment.

We feel our normal dental procedures can be carried out with minimal risk, by the use of highvolume suction, rubber dam, surgical and FFP2 masks and, in aerosol generating procedures, FFP3 masks as appropriate. We are confident we can provide dental care in as normal an environment as possible, while bearing in mind our responsibilities to mitigate risks of infection spreading as far as is practically possible.

Do you offer Virtual Consultations for patients who cannot attend the practice?

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ack in March, Dental Rooms joined the government’s call in the fight against COVID-19, temporarily suspending provision of routine dentistry and providing advice and guidance solely for dental emergencies. The practice has now reopened its doors, with a range of safety protocols and initiatives in place to protect the health of patients and staff.

What is the New Norm Patient Journey that Dental Rooms have introduced?

It is a set of precautions based on multiple sources from within the dental and medical professions and the government. These include an overall safe journey at our practice from start to finish – from requesting medical and dental history forms to be completed online before attending appointments, to staggering visits, providing touchless temperature checks, masks and hand sanitiser and PPE for our staff, to contactless payments or payments over the phone/online. More information on dentalrooms.co.uk

Our complimentary virtual dental consultations scheme means that patients can arrange consultations with our dentists from the comfort of their home. They can discuss treatment options, upload photos using our dedicated app and receive dental reports electronically. It is an efficient way of monitoring dental issues such as discreet orthodontics including Invisalign, replacement of missing teeth including implants, cosmetic dentistry and facial aesthetics, whilst guaranteeing safety. n

020 8946 2426 | info@dentalrooms.co.uk 1 Ridgway, Wimbledon Village SW19 4RS dentalrooms.co.uk

Dental Rooms extends their heartfelt thanks to their patients for their understanding and support during the temporary closure of the practice, and for their cooperation whilst new measures are implemented to guarantee their safety.

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Ending the blame game?

The UK could see the biggest shake up of divorce laws for 50 years, says Peacock & Co’s Dimple Patel

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fter the Divorce, Dissolution and Separation Bill introducing “no-fault” divorce was backed by MPs on 8 June 2020, things are set to change.

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This must be evidenced by one of the following five facts: • adultery • unreasonable behaviour • desertion • you have been separated two years and you both consent to a divorce

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• five years separation If you do not want to wait a period of two years, or five years if your spouse does not consent, you will have no option but to commence proceedings on the basis of your spouse’s unreasonable behaviour or adultery, if applicable. This is not ideal for a couple who have reached

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a mutual decision to divorce and simply want to move forward with their lives as quickly as possible.

In practice, reliance on the adultery or unreasonable behaviour fact can increase animosity and conflict between couples from the very outset, which in turn can impact on the financial negotiations and child arrangements.

This much awaited change to the law will remove the ‘blame game’ and allow couples to simply make a statement of irretrievable breakdown without having to cite one of the five facts. The statement can be made by one spouse or the couple jointly. It would also remove the possibility of contesting the divorce which can be a very costly and stressful process. A minimum period of six months will also be introduced from the petition stage to final divorce, allowing parties to reflect on their decision.

There is no doubt that going through a divorce is a difficult, often fraught, time for many couples and tensions run

high. However, it is hoped that the proposed changes to the law will help to reduce unnecessary conflict, make starting the divorce process easier and allow couples to focus on the important areas of child arrangements and reaching a financial settlement.

Is it worth waiting for the new law before starting the divorce process?

It is likely that the new law will come into effect in autumn 2021. Whether you issue proceedings now or wait for the new law will depend on your individual circumstances and how quickly you want to resolve your finances. For those who have not been separated for two years, you have the option to rely on the adultery fact or the unreasonable behaviour fact.

When making a decision, bear in mind the following: • the behaviour examples cited in the petition do not have to be contentious and can include mild examples of unreasonable behaviour

before it is lodged at court so you can agree the wording as far as possible • the divorce petition is a private document which will only be seen by the court and your legal advisers • the reason for the divorce is not stated on the final Decree Absolute document.

Furthermore, relying on the adultery or unreasonable behaviour will not impact on the financial settlement or child arrangements unless it is very serious personal or financial misconduct. n If you are considering commencing divorce proceedings or would like to discuss any of the above, please call 020 8944 5290 and speak to a member of our specialist family law team who will be able to guide you through the process.

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• the petition can be shared with the other spouse

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Delivering peace of mind Luxury later living and care – “the Signature way”

Beautiful interior design, five-star amenities, landscaped gardens, fine dining and the highest level of bespoke care and service.

These are traits not historically associated with care homes, however times are changing and the sector is evolving. Leading this luxury paradigm shift is Signature Senior Lifestyle, driven by an unwavering vision to change perceptions of the sector forever, with a number of award-winning care homes all rated Good or Outstanding by CQC across London and the Home Counties

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ach home offers truly holistic luxury living whilst delivering a full spectrum of care services, from assisted living to nursing and specialist dementia care. Every aspect has been meticulously designed with complete resident safety and comfort in mind, creating friendly environments that everyone can be proud to call home.

Cox is quick to reassure that despite the easing of lockdown “the health and safety of residents, families and team members remains the number one priority above all else. We continually monitor the situation and will adapt as required – striving for excellence in our safety protocols as if our own relatives are in our homes.”

Following a period of lockdown, in line with government guidance Signature Senior Lifestyle are now reopen to visitors, including family members, friends and potential residents who could benefit from its industry leading accommodation and support.

Homes are expansive and accommodate the spaciousness in which to adhere to social distancing, with each also completing a bespoke risk assessment and implementing new protocols. Chief operating officer Kay

From independently procuring personal protective equipment (PPE), conducting widespread whole home testing, assembling additional specialist training and creating new safety measures, Signature acted quickly and decisively amidst changing circumstances.

Indeed, one resident asserts “you couldn’t have asked for a better response”. As a result, its homes are well prepared to look to the future whilst robustly managing future COVID-19 related risks.

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PROMO Beyond the beautifully designed homes, which include industry-leading clean air filtration systems and a breadth of amenities, it’s the award-winning 24-hour care and nursing expertise that remains at the heart of what Signature Senior Lifestyle does.

“That’s the Signature way” as Kay Cox puts it, highlighting an unwavering dedication to treating every resident with the respect, dignity and individuality they deserve. Tailor-made care plans are designed around individual needs, and skilled staff focus on supporting independence as much as possible to enable active and fulfilling lifestyles for all residents.

Signature at Coombe Hill Manor, Kingston

Here we take a look at what Signature Senior Lifestyle has to offer in the area.

Signature at Wimbledon

Signature at Wandsworth Common The group’s newest and most luxurious home, offering a range of spacious studios and one bedroom suites, with assisted living, specialist dementia care and 24-hour nursing.

Residents can enjoy a range of exceptional lifestyle facilities akin to the globe’s finest hotels, including a sky lounge with beautiful panoramic vistas across London, a cinema, café, restaurant, private dining room, terrace gardens and even a chauffeur service.

Call 0208 108 9651 to find out more and book a visit.

This award-winning home provides assisted living, specialist dementia care and 24-hour nursing, offering a range of accommodation from studios to two bedroom apartments. With a list of accolades that includes an Outstanding care quality commission (CQC) report achieved by the top 4% of care homes in England, Beacon status in the Gold Standards Framework for end of life care and Top 20 London care homes status from carehome.co.uk, Coombe Hill Manor provides an unrivalled environment for residents. Call 0203 811 0261 to find out more and book a visit.

A luxurious and welcoming home which provides assisted living and specialist dementia care offering spacious studio apartments, and a range of amenities including cinema, spa, hair salon and therapy room. Studios are offered furnished or unfurnished. A highly skilled dementia care team provides a fulfilling, safe and dignified lifestyle for those living with memory loss. Call 0203 811 0228 to find out more and book a visit. n To find out more about any of the Signature Care Homes visit signature-care-homes.co.uk read more at darlingmagazine.co.uk autumn 20

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Home Instead Social care for young and old at home She also loves cakes. Pippa visits Georgie every day, and together they go to the supermarket and plan what Georgie is going to eat. Pippa also accompanies Georgie on long walks to burn calories, to help her stay trim and fit.

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atching the news over the last six months has introduced millions to the care world, with care homes taking the spotlight, sadly for all the wrong reasons, and clapping for carers putting social care on the map, in particular home care.

Home Instead is a social care provider, and our objective is to help our clients live as independently at home as they can. This can range from helping someone to cook a meal, right up to end-of-life care.

Historically, our type of care has attracted older people, and we are delighted to be caring for lots of them – our oldest gentleman is 102 and

still going strong with a daily visit from our CAREGivers.

However, over the last few years our clients have been getting younger and more diverse. They now include those with learning and physical disabilities, as well as those with long-term neurological conditions.

For example, Vanessa (35) lives with social anxiety and struggles to make friends.

Laura is a Home Instead CAREGiver and is Vanessa’s companion. They spend lots of time together, and Laura helps Vanessa to make sense of the world and live independently from her parents.

Maria has young onset dementia – she’s 48. She finds the simplest of tasks confusing, but with a busy family around her, Sue is by her side to help her and her family cope with everyday life. (Note: all the names have been changed.)

We are so delighted that we are being recognised as a care provider for anyone who needs help, and not just the elderly.

So much so that we have decided to change our name – we’re dropping ‘Senior Care’ and will now be known simply as ‘Home Instead’ – we think it’s got a good ring to it! n If you would like to chat with one of our Care Managers about any aspect of care at home, please call 020 8942 4137 and Nancy or Tina will be happy to discuss how we can help.

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Where there’s a will…

Changes are on the way to ease the process of making Wills, explains Julie Man, Partner at Russell-Cooke

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he coronavirus has made every aspect of life more difficult, none more so than foresight and planning. Wills and estate planning have been on the mind of many, but the whole process has been hamstrung by the logistical difficulties of the early complete lockdown, and the fact that many of those who are older or vulnerable and wish to make a Will are shielding and cannot visit their lawyer or be in the same space as witnesses.

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Finally, in a recent groundbreaking update, the Government has caught up with this reality and has confirmed plans to recognise Wills that are remotely witnessed.

The current position Traditionally, when signing a Will you must: • be 18 or over • have capacity • be making your Will of your own free will • make it in writing

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• sign it in the presence of two witnesses who are both over 18 • not leave your witnesses anything in the Will The combination of lockdown and social distancing measures has made meeting the witnessing requirements difficult, especially for those who have been isolating or shielding.

During the pandemic everyone has experienced how technology played an important role in helping people try to continue with

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their ‘normal’ daily lives as much as possible whilst adapting to the ‘new normal’.

This was bound to happen in an age where everyone’s daily lives involve or are reliant on digital technology in some way or another.

Understandably, many have also been looking to technologies like Zoom or Facetime to find a solution to the Wills conundrum.

The proposed reforms On 25 July the Government made moves to enable people to take “the incredibly important step to plan for the future by making a Will” so “that their last wishes can still be recorded at this challenging time, while continuing to protect the elderly and vulnerable.”

The Government has therefore suggested: • introducing laws in England and Wales allowing Wills to be witnessed virtually • backdating any changes to include Wills put in place since 31 January 2020 • reassuring the public that Wills witnessed by videolink are valid Maintaining these changes for as long as necessary. The changes will be introduced through new legislation in

September. However, the Government has said that using video technology should be looked at as a last resort. People must continue to adopt the current rules and arrange for the physical witnessing of Wills where it is safe to do so.

Wills witnessed through windows are only recognised as acceptable as long as there is clear sight of the person signing their Will.

Moving forward By removing what is seen as a hurdle in the process, we open up the Will making process further to the public ensuring they can put in place Wills efficiently, effectively and safely, especially for those who are isolating.

By applying the reforms retrospectively it also provides reassurance to those who have had to resort to these ways for the purposes of witnessing their Wills, at a time that they had no choice but to adopt these means.

At the heart of the reforms is the important recognition of enabling and making it easier for people to put in place a Will without unnecessary hurdles during the pandemic.

However, the measures will remain in place as long as

necessary. The Ministry of Justice states the time period can be shortened or extended if necessary.

All other formal requirements still stand.

In order to protect people against undue influence and fraud, the safeguard of requiring two witnesses (who are not beneficiaries) remains untouched. Electronic signatures will still not be accepted.

The policy will clearly need to continue evolving to react to the changeable circumstances of the pandemic with the Government modifying general guidance in response.

If you have any questions or wish to make a Will or Lasting Power of Attorney please contact our private client team in Kingston.

We are ensuring that all clients are contacted personally and offered arrangements that suit them best when putting in place their Will.

Lastly and most importantly we hope everyone - both clients and contacts continue to stay well and safe in these difficult times. n Julie.Man@russell-cooke.co.uk russell-cooke.co.uk

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f you have savings in a bank account, in stocks or shares, or even in bonds, you are likely to be bemoaning the current interest rates and returns.

Are you considering where your money would be safest - or even where it could work for you in these uncertain times?

If we suggested bricks and mortar your teeth sucking may just continue as the government has created a decidedly hostile environment for property investors.

And you’d be right to be nervous, given those facts, investing in a London “buy to let” property will probably not make you a fortune, or even be a particularly secure place to stash your cash.

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Instead, why not follow our lead and focus your investments in higher yielding commuter areas?

Take our advice and forget London for a start: London prices are too high and the yields are too low If you buy a modern place that appeals to young professionals not yet able to get their own feet on the property ladder (but who make great tenants) within easy commuting distance of London, your money will be as safe as houses.

Anonymous, anodyne, high spec one-bedroom flats in new blocks with parking near the station in High Wycombe and Windsor sound soulless but have been surprisingly successful for our clients.

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So just hand the rest over to us. We can help you as much or as little as you require: we can just advise you, or help you find the perfect investment property. We can even help set it up, rent it and manage it for you. We work closely with fantastic tax advisors to help structure your deal in the most efficient way and mortgage brokers who can secure the best financial products to give you the best monthly return.

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PROMOS

Has the virus stolen your spark?

Relationships have weathered extraordinary stress in these past months, says therapist Pam Custers

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t has simply been the perfect storm. Initially hunkering down, not facing the work commute and baking copious banana bread felt ok at first. After speaking to some clients, I know that they felt in some ways, work, school and home stress had subsided. Sadly this view changed as time went on. The intensity of being foisted together for prolonged periods whilst being deprived of the small every day interactions have taken their toll.

So how do we get the spark back in our relationships? Many couples and individuals are finding that living and working together has been a case of too much togetherness.

Intimacy is vital for relationships but being under the same roof does not equate to intimacy. We know that physical intimacy needs to be worked on. At the best of times after the first few years and doesn’t just happen “naturally”. One potent way to reignite the spark is emotional intimacy.

Emotional connection takes effort. Being in the same room does not equate to emotional intimacy. It takes effort to feel close to each other by being present, emotionally available and connected in our relationships. Giving your partner your attention, being curious, allowing your partner into your head and being vulnerable.

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On the couch with Dr De-Stress Narcissists are everywhere.

But can you recognise them?

Find out: think of someone you know (MN – My Narcissist) when answering the following questions: 1. I often feel uncomfortable in the presence of MN Yes / No 2. MN is very critical of me Yes / No 3. I never know what mood MN is in Yes / No 4. MN is not really kind and caring towards me.

Yes / No 5. MN often confuses me with their double standards Yes / No

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on’t wait till it is too late. Narcissists creep under your skin, invade your system and like a parasite, take you over. You will lose your confidence, selfesteem and ultimately yourself.

My experiences drove me to write a self-help book, to help others recognise narcissism and how to deal with it. My journey was also featured in the Daily Mail in July.

They are friends, partners, family and bosses or colleagues. They are manipulative and confusing and make you think it is all down to you. Your fault. And you become anxious and are focused on making it right. For them. And in doing so, you make it wrong. For yourself.

‘My mother shut my mouth, closed my heart, pushed me down and made me feel the most unworthy person on the planet.’ It took me 58 years to discover her toxic influence and finally leave her out of my life.

6. The conversation always revolves around MN Yes / No 7. I am nervous because it feels as if I am always doing the wrong thing (according to MN) Yes / No 8. I find it hard to trust MN Yes / No 9. I often give in to keep the peace Yes / No 10. MN always wants me to agree with them Yes / No More than three yeses? Time for a reality check. n Buy ‘From Victim to Victor – Narcissism Survival Guide’ on Amazon paperback or Kindle.

Alternatively, book a free call with Dr Mariette Jansen, who will take you through a full checklist and give you some tips on dealing with MN. Just email mariette@drdestress.co.uk mention Darling MN or text 07967 717 131 Darling MN. More on the website drdestress.co.uk

Emma Barton Sweet as Honey

Darling’s Jas Matulewicz finds out how the EastEnders and Strictly star fell in love with Surrey, beat the lockdown blues, and learned to take it easy What’s your favourite thing about living in Surrey?

The village community.

It’s got even stronger with everything that’s been going on with coronavirus.

During lockdown, it was so nice to have time to appreciate where I live and what I have on my doorstep. A lot of actors go into London to be close to the theatres, but I wouldn’t move. There are so many great places to eat near me – The Hambledon Stores have amazing homemade sausage rolls. My favourite restaurants are The Ivy, Guildford, and I love Italian food, so I recommend A Casa Cobham.

You were great on Strictly last year. Have you kept up your dancing?

I loved dancing, but I haven’t got plans to do any more. Though if someone drops out of this current series, I’m happy to step in! Strictly is up there with some of the best things I’ve ever done. It lived up to all expectations, and I never thought I’d be able to do so many pivots!

Anything exciting planned for the future?

As long as I’ve got a bit of hope, a bit of health, and a bit of happiness, I’m okay. I don’t plan too far ahead. I go back How has lockdown to filming as Honey affected your work as an Mitchell in EastEnders actress? for the first time since It was quite a shock because November. They’re not I was meant to go back to cutting any corners with filming EastEnders the week the stories, but we’re they announced lockdown. taking extra care for the whole team’s safety. My Suddenly everything stopped, and I wasn’t ready daughter on EastEnders for that. It really affected has Down’s syndrome, so Emma Barton with QEF staff and clients at the new me, but then I joined Home when I was approached Care and Rehabilitation Centre Festival Fun, which was by the Queen Elizabeth’s Foundation, it did pull on created by Karen Hauer and Oti Mabuse, so, in the end, I did get to my heartstrings. If I can support them, they can continue to support adults and children with perform, because I was the resident bedtime story reader! disabilities. n 48

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MENTAL HEALTH

Help Is At Hand The pressure of family life in and out of lockdown – how do we cope? Asks therapist Emma Parr

brings the opportunity to explore our own awareness at times of change. n Emma Parr is an experienced therapist who works with individuals covering a range of issues, but specialises in mothers and babies. MA. MBACP, PG Dip Couns. DBS Certificate.

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t is impossible not to look at life through the lens of COVID -19 at this time, it colours everything for everyone in so many ways.

For those who are feeling vulnerable - pregnant mothers, those families with young babies and those with underlying conditions - it is an anxious time.

Initially we had clear boundaries to follow, knowing what we could and could not do in no uncertain terms. The lack of choice and narrowing of our worlds was for many very uncomfortable. For those with babies and young children a huge challenge particularly if both parents were working. Being so stuck in one place externally can however challenge our internal world to expand and explore our reality, often on an unconscious level.

As we start to emerge from full lockdown there is now an opportunity to look at how we survived it: • As a mother with a baby, or young children what was it like to have to stay at home?

• How do you cope in stressful environments?

• Do you turn to food for comfort, or perhaps criticise everything you do and end up feeling like the worst mother in the world?

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• Do you slip back into patterns of behaviour that although familiar and comfortable you know do not serve you?

• How would it feel to be resilient in these changing times and be able to choose healthy coping mechanisms?

A disease like COVID-19 brings ‘dis-ease’. Can we challenge ourselves to seek consciously the lessons this has brought to us? Psychosynthesis therapy

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imbledon BookFest will offer some muchneeded live culture at their ‘Last Days of Summer’ Weekend, which will take place in a bespoke, open marquee on Wimbledon Common on the 12th and 13th September, showcasing inspiring speakers, bestselling authors for adults and children and live performance. Inspirational thinker and writer, Matthew Syed will deliver a keynote speech, with other speakers including Floella Benjamin and Kadiatu Kanneh-Mason who will talk about her book ‘House of Music: Raising the Kanneh-Masons’ while her son Braimah will play violin.

events will be filmed and digitally relayed so that those who can’t attend won’t miss out.

Events will have reduced capacities and ticketed entry to ensure that they are safe and enjoyable. All of the

For more details on the programme and tickets wimbledonbookfest.org

BookFest are also running their ‘Word Up’ education programme this autumn, featuring author events filmed live and then digitally relayed to participating schools. In celebration of Black History Month in October, BookFest will donate a selection of books by black authors to the library of every Merton state schools. BookFest’s ‘Young Writers’ Competition,’ which was run during lockdown, attracted a record amount of entries, with pupils from 53 state and independent schools in South London participating.

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The Changing Face of Funerals COVID-19

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othing could have prepared us, as modern funeral directors, for the baptism of fire that became COVID-19.

In a matter of days we were faced with regulations changing daily and for six weeks a dramatically higher death toll. Thankfully, we are currently back to normalised times with the numbers of funerals we manage.

Ideas evolved, in particular looking at how to connect the friends and family members unable to attend. For some families, we organised travelling to the funeral so neighbours, friends and family could gather along the route on the way - safely socially distanced. There were some beautiful touching scenes that helped the family to feel supported.

who needed to feel their church connection - with technology this was all made possible.

For families, to face the overwhelming emotions at the death of a family member, whilst largely in isolation, it has been beyond tough. There was a lot of national press coverage about the limitations of funerals - only 10 people allowed to attend and quite austere restrictions with what was allowed. For ourselves, it was looking at how to adapt a service for a family, so a small gathering did not mean their farewell was going to be any less meaningful.

Live webcasting and video was used regularly so friends and family in isolation could watch the service. Personal video messages or voice recordings were played. Often, with just a handful of close family attending, family members felt no need for a traditional eulogy, instead they wrote their own personal letter tributes.

Contrary to the negative press, a lot of families we worked with commented how they preferred not having the stress of a large crowd of people behind them and appreciated the intimacy. They felt they were able to express feelings more freely and say farewell in a personal way.

The ever-helpful Reverend Joe Moffatt in Teddington offered private video call blessings to family members

At a natural burial funeral, a family meeting for the first time in two months, used a length of ribbon they could hold, two metres apart, so they could all feel connected as they stood around their mother’s grave.

Should you experience the death of a loved one and need guidance, please just call us, we’re here to help you. n whiterosemodernfunerals.co.uk

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Kutaifi (Kanafeh) 1 x 400g Kutaifi pastry

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227g Butter 1 ½ Packets of mozzarella cheese 250g per packet

Semolina Mix 400ml Milk 200ml Double cream 40g Granulated sugar 40g Semolina 3g Cornflour 5g Water 5g Orange blossom water

Sugar Syrup 250g Granulated sugar 175ml Water 1 teaspoon Orange blossom water

I cook this wonderful Middle Eastern dessert which all my family and friends love and is totally different! It can be made in loads of different ways, but this is my version.

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Method Pull the pastry apart so it is split up.

Melt the butter and add to the pastry and mix in.

Lightly grease a 12”/30 cm round cake pan.

Take half the kataifi pastry and place it around the bottom of the cake tin.

Place all the semolina mixture in a saucepan and gently heat up, stirring all the time, till the mixture thickens.

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Cut the mozzarella cheese in round circles and layer on top of the pastry in the cake tin.

Pour the semolina mix on top on the mozzarella.

Place the remaining pastry on top of all the mixture.

Bake in the oven on 180˚C fan, until golden brown.

In the meantime place all the sugar syrup mix in a pan and heat up. Once it is boiling turn it down to simmer for 10 minutes then turn off.

When the Kataifi is cooked, gently pour as much syrup as you would like all over the Kataifi. I don’t put all of it as we do not like it too sweet. I usually pour a little and put the rest in a jug and let everyone add more sugar syrup if they would like it sweeter.

I hope you enjoy this dessert. It is yummy and a very unusual dessert! Try it – it’s delicious!

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THE LAST WORD

Life, death, ice cream and JOMO

By Kate Greenhalgh

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his time last year I wrote about the buildup to my daughter’s wedding. In hindsight, I was having a tiny bit of a nervous breakdown. You only find yourself filling 200 paper cones with sun-dried rose petals from Shropshire at 2 o’clock in the morning after your sanity has temporarily departed. Anyway, only three daughters to go. But just as sanity returned, THIS happened! I mean 2020 happened. Oh boy, had we not seen nothing yet in terms of losing the plot.

of skated over that, didn’t we?

At the time, it was refreshingly simple. After all that Brexit agonising over hard or soft borders, Norway Plus and Meaningless Votes - just stay at home. Think about life.

And about death, who rudely reminded us is a thing. We maybe got into an eventual bind over statues and gender towards the end of the 100 days because, without Brexit, we missed chasing logical arguments ad absurdum as a national pastime. (But don’t worry - Brexit never really goes away.)

Actually, I didn’t lose the plot during those 100 days of quarantine. Because I never had one in the first place. Did you? One minute, minding my own business - next, told to stay at home or die. This did not present itself as much of a dilemma to most people, myself included. You had to be somebody who had to leave home for work - but we kind

I’d like to say I was like a caged lioness as the days ticked by, raring to roam the grasslands of Oxford Street once again, but actually I was more like one of those budgies with Stockholm Syndrome, who stay in their cage even when the door is left open. What more do you want? A diet of amusing memes on WhatsApp, a freezer full of Magnum ice

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creams, not a flicker of FOMO (but the opposite - JOMO - Joy of Missing Out) and frankly, when Glastonbury weekend proved a bit damp and chilly, cosy relief that it was cancelled anyway.

Looking ahead (if we must) what preoccupies my thoughts about the remainder of 2020 is as follows: in what way can I use the pandemic as an excuse to massively scale down Christmas; in what way can I use the pandemic as an excuse never to have Shellac again; in what way can I use the pandemic to convince any more daughters of the marrying kind to have a woodland picnic for six people maximum; in what way can I use the pandemic to be a bit less narcissistically aggrieved about my own mortality?

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