HOW I MAKE HAPPY KIDS By Daniella Bogantes
03-06 Parenthing! 06-0 At school! 06-09 At Home!
Parenthing! Happy parents,Happy kids?! Depends on how much support parents get
If happy parents make happy kids, as the science tells us it does, then how do we ensure parents are happy? “Economic anxiety is a big piece of the puzzle,” parenting expert and author, Ann Douglas told us. “Given the high cost of housing, childcare, post-secondary education, and all the other assorted expenses that go along with raising a child, it’s hardly surprising that parents are spending a lot of time worrying about how they’re going to pay the bills.”
According to a recent study published in the American Journal of Sociology, parents today aren’t happy, or rather, are not as happy as childless couples and researchers point to a lack of public policies to help families as the main culprit. It’s a similar theme found in Douglas’ new book, Happy Parents, Happy Kids. Douglas says she felt it was important to push back against a culture that is quick to blame parents for their perceived shortcomings, but that isn’t nearly so quick to step forward to offer meaningful, hands-on support.
Parents are worried about what the future has in store for themselves and their kids,” Douglas told us. “Jobs are becoming increasingly precarious. They’re likely to be temporary, contract, or part-time. Workplace automation is eliminating a lot of jobs. It can be hard to build a future and raise a family in the wake of all that uncertainty.” Ways to make parents happier according to the American Journal of Sociology study include lowering childcare costs so that women can remain in the workforce and see their family’s income and savings rise. Other avenues for the improvement of public policy and therefore, parental happiness include paid maternal and paternal leave as well as more vacation and sick time.
“We know that economic anxiety has an impact on parenting,” Douglas told us. “When parents are stressed about money, they tend to be more anxious and more depressed. They’re less sensitive and responsive to their children’s needs. They’re more likely to rely on harsher and more controlling parenting methods in an attempt to give their kids the edge in an increasingly dog-eat-dog world.” Parents can manage this anxiety by acknowledging it, Douglas explains, and by learning strategies for hitting the pause button on their anxiety, and by being willing to talk about what they’re feeling with other people who are feeling this anxiety, too. A lot of the issues that are causing parents so much anxiety are too big for individual families to solve on their own. As sociologists like to remind us, says Douglas, systemic problems demand systemic solutions and parents need to join forces with other families to make things better for ourselves and kids.
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