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14 – Barnsley Chronicle, Friday, February 17, 2012

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Guide to Bereavement

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Bev Hewitt, Nurse Manager on the Inpatient Unit explained “It is estimated that almost 30 million adults in the UK have not yet made a will. Doing so can give you peace of mind that your loved ones are provided for and the knowledge that your wishes will be carried out. If you feel able to leave Barnsley Hospice a gift, it will help us to provide care for local people long into the future”.

The group will meet in ‘The Limes’ at Barnsley Hospice. We also offer one-to-one bereavement support for anyone whose relative or friend was connected with Barnsley Hospice.

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care of the deceased person before the funeral, which are payable to the funeral director. These costs can vary considerably from one funeral director to another, so it’s useful to get more than one quote and compare costs and services. For someone who has never organised a funeral before the prospect can seem quite daunting, but funeral directors will treat families with dignity and can help make the experience less stressful. They can advise on the different types of ceremony, readings and music choices, contact the relevant church, cemetery or crematorium, organise the clergy and arrange the date and time of service. The organiser will need to decide whether to have flowers or donations to a charity and if they will want to hold a wake after the service, which may require room hire and caterers. Another consideration will be to find out if the deceased left a will. This might include instructions for the funeral in addition to how they wish their property and possessions to be dealt with. During the grief period it’s important to remember that everyone deals with bereavement in different ways and there is support available for those who need it. Practical help and advice is usually provided by a solicitor, trusted religious counsellor, or social services, while family and friends can provide the necessary emotional support. Where depression is persistent, help from a GP, counsellor or specialist organisations such as the Samaritans may be required.

hen someone we love dies, we can feel numb and confused, but there are several important arrangements that need to be made. Before proceeding with plans for the funeral, the death will need to be reported within five days to the register office in the town or city in which it has occurred, except where a death has been referred to the coroner. Who undertakes the registration will depend upon whether the death occurred at home or in a hospital. It will take about half-an-hour to register the death and you may need to make an appointment beforehand. Medical certificates stating the cause of death, the birth certificate, any marriage or civil partnership certificates and the deceased’s NHS card should be taken along. If a post-mortem is not being held, the registrar will issue a certificate for burial or cremation, the ‘green form’, and a certificate of registration of death, ‘form BD8’. When it comes to planning the funeral the deceased may have left requests, making things that bit easier to arrange. However in some cases it is left to those who were closest to them to make decisions. One of the first things to consider is how much the funeral will cost. Funeral and burial fees, such as the use of a chapel for a service, or the actual charge for burying the deceased, vary depending on the local authority. There are also costs for additional services, such as providing a coffin and

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Barnsley Chronicle, Friday, February 17, 2012 –

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Guide to Bereavement

During the grief period it’s important to remember that everyone deals with bereavement in different ways and there is support available for those who need it. Advice is usually provided by a solicitor, trusted religious counsellor, or social services, while family and friends can provide the necessary emotional support

NEWSLINES Booze chain ‘aled’ as top specialist BARNSLEY-based off licence Rhythm and Booze has been named the best specialist chain. Director Martin Swaine said he was delighted the firm had beaten southern-based groups including Wine Rack and Majestic Wines. “It’s good to get recognition for somebody up north.” The head office is on Doncaster Road, Barnsley, and there are eight stores across the borough. It was the first time the business had entered the Drinks Retail Awards. Martin said judges had been impressed with the range of drinks offered. That includes locally brewed ales at shops across the region. The firm was launched in 1993 with one shop in Doncaster. It now has 74 stores and employs almost 500.

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Samaritans believe that offering people the opportunity to be listened to in confidence, and accepted without prejudice, can alleviate despair and suicidal feelings. In offering this service we hope to achieve our vision of a society where fewer people die by suicide. Samaritans is staffed entirely by volunteers, who receive specialist training for this work. Absolute confidentiality and anonymity are guaranteed. You can contact Barnsley Samaritans by telephone on

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Coming to terms with the death of a loved one? BBSS offers free confidential support from trained volunteers to those who cannot come to terms with their bereavement. It is available to adults, children and young people. Coming to terms with the death of a loved one can be the most difficult emotional challenge we will ever have to face. No one has to face this alone. Not knowing what to expect or whether or not your feelings are normal can cause added anxiety. Those around you feel uncomfortable talking about your loss – perhaps they are in pain too. It might help to speak to someone who is not directly involved. This service offers a space where feelings can be expressed without upsetting those close to you, and, where you can talk about the way you really feel in complete confidence.

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POWERFUL AND POSITIVE SUPPORT After the funeral and the sorting out of the above, clients are given sensitive support to get through the ‘Grieving Process’ more smoothly. The Grieving Process is as follows: 1 • ACCEPTANCE - That the person is now at rest 2 • FORGIVENESS - Of regrettable past events 3 • GOODBYE - Relieved the person is at peace Going through the process smoothly helps you transfer any negative memories into more positive, happy memories.

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THE following divorces were granted at Barnsley County Court: N Bailey from D E Bailey; N M Schofield (known as Kendall) from L S Schofield; C M Firth from D Firth; K J Trasler from J Trasler; K M Horsfall from M Horsfall; S Gregg from C J Gregg; P J McDonald from C McDonald; L S LunnBurns from S M Burns; M D Rowney from P Rowney; B M Wood from I Wood; S Johnson Holland from N Holland; K M Roughneen from A M Roughneen; P F Robinson from D Robinson; L J Hirst from P D Hirst; A Silcock from M M Silcock; C M Connelly from L Mitchell; S P Menzies from G R Simane; J L Pearce from M A Pearce; M J Hassack from S R Hassack; J L Richardson from L A Richardson; D Ditch from B Ditch; K E Hayes from W M Hayes; E L Heeley from D C Heeley; R P S Sadeghkhani from M B Ghombavani; J K Birkinshaw from J Birkinshaw; L G Bancroft from M G Bancroft; J M Goulding from A Vowden; J E Proctor from N D A Proctor.

Appeal after car smash POLICE are appealing for witnesses to a crash involving a taxi and another car. The vehicles collided at the Gawber Road and Greenfoot Lane traffic lights near Barnsley Hospital. A force spokesman said the crash involved a green Citroen Xsara and a red Kia Picanto. Those involved in the smash, at about 7.30pm on January 14, suffered minor injuries.

ABH charge A MAN accused of assault has been committed to crown court. William Mavin, 23, of Arnold Avenue, Athersley North, is accused of causing actual bodily harm to Stephen Cleugh on October 1 last year. He was granted unconditional bail and is due to appear at Sheffield Crown Court on February 27.

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Employment site to stay undeveloped By Mike Cotton mike.cotton@barnsley-chronicle.co.uk PLANS to redevelop former industrial land at Pogmoor which were thrown out by the council have been dismissed again on appeal to the planning inspectorate. Barnsley Council refused permission for the mixed development at West Road, which included housing alongside smaller employment uses, such as a care home, creche and some ‘start-up’ business units. The plans on land which includes a former tip emerged last year, soon after a controversial plan for a gypsy and traveller site had been withdrawn. Developer Vicky Simpson has lost her appeal. She said: “It is very disappointing. “The site is now being advertised as a waste management station, as that’s the only use it has planning permission for at the moment.” The site is designated for ‘employment land’ and it was originally refused planning permission because the council wants to protect employment sites. Several other employment sites have previously been given planning permission for housing only, including the former Polar Ford site across the railway line from the Pogmoor site.

Miss Simpson said: “The council is now saying that if they allow more sites to go for housing there will be a shortage of supply of employment land. “But this site has been vacant for eight years and our proposals included some employment uses. “We thought it was a strong application.” Barry Lowe, chairman of Pogmoor Area Residents’ Association, said: “I do think the majority of residents down there want to see something happen with that land, because it is an eyesore. “But I don’t think it will, for a long time. “In the meantime we’ve set up a subcommittee to look at what we can do down there to improve matters, and we’re going to look into some tree planting.” A council spokesman confirmed the loss of employment land, and the danger of leaving a shortage of supply, was the main argument for refusal. He added residential development could add constraints to the existing businesses on West Road, and that while the former Polar Ford site was used for employment, it wasn’t designated specifically for employment land in the same way the West Road site is.

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Obscene text sent to wrong person A MAN sent a photo of his newly pierced penis with the line ‘Big John Barnsley text me if you can take me’, to the wrong woman, a court was told. John Christopher Ormston, 53, of Honeywell Street, Honeywell, had meant to send the message to an ex-girlfriend who he was on ‘friendly terms with’. But he accidentally sent it to another woman with the same Christian name, said Gus Kennedy, defending. “This offence is obviously an unusual offence. He fully accepts he sent it and it was obscene,” he said. He said Ormston had told his ex about the piercings and she had asked him to send a photograph. “By mistake he input the wrong name from the list of contacts on his phone. Clearly he regrets it, it was never his intention this lady should receive that photo.” John Parry, presiding, adjourned the case for sentencing on March 8. “In light of what I have heard, a low to medium level of community order would be appropriate in this case,” he said.

Red through and through: Gawber Primary School pupils Charlotte Hobbs, eight, and Bailey Whitfield, nine, wear red and white last Friday as the school raised money for Leukaemia and Lymphoma Research. Picture: Scott Bairstow. PD21739

Return of library books from 1550 BOOKS dating back to 1550 will be on display at Worsbrough library. The display will include collections from the former Worsbrough Grammar School. It is thought the books originate from Monk Bretton Priory when many of its monks retired to Worsbrough following the dissolution of the monasteries. The exhibition will have collec-

tions donated by several notable families including the Edmunds, Rockleys, Wentworths and Elmhirsts and Worsbrough-born, Obadiah Walker, who became master at Oxford University and advisor to James II. The books are normally on permanent loan to Sheffield University. There will also be a display on

Nail biting: First to sign up for the ‘Midnight Walk’ is author Milly Johnson. The Hospice’s Helen Macintosh gives her advice on what to do with her planned ‘Coconut Bra’. PD20843

Milly ready to hula for Hospice NOVELIST Milly Johnson was the first to sign up for this year’s Hawaiian-themed hospice Midnight Walk on June 23. Milly said: “I’m doing the Midnight Walk for two reasons. One because I’m mad, and two because sometimes it’s good to leave your comfort zone and have an adventure. “And doing a ten-mile walk at midnight dressed in a grass skirt and coconuts is something I haven’t done before but it’s for a fabulous cause and I’m strangely looking forward to it.” The event starts at 9pm at the Events site, Grange Lane. Local bands will create a party atmosphere to entertain walkers before they set off on their trek

Worsbrough’s industries. Coun Jenny Platts said: “This is a unique and exciting opportunity to see some of Worsbrough’s first library. “I hope that people will visit and enjoy the exhibition.” It will run at the library on Queensway, Worsbrough, from March 2 to 10 and Barnsley library from March 12 to 16.

around Barnsley. There will be two routes to choose from – ten miles for those who are up for a challenge and a five-mile route. Helen MacIntosh, event organiser, said: “Over the past few years the Midnight Walk has captured the imagination of so many local women. “It is possibly the biggest community-participated event we have in Barnsley and attracts women of all ages and fitness.

“People walk for lots of reasons. “Some have been directly touched by the work of the Hospice while others do it simply as a way of doing something a little different with their girl friends on a Saturday night.” Anybody wanting to take part in the event should contact Helen on 323622 or visit www.barnsleyhospicemidnightw alk.org

Going out for dinner lands curfew man in prison A MAN who went out to get something to eat on the first day of a curfew has been jailed. Gary Dickinson, 25, was also not indoors the following day, Barnsley Magistrates’ Court was told. Stella Andrews, prosecuting for the Probation Service, said Dickinson, who was sent to prison for 20 weeks, had also completed just five-and-threequarter hours out of 147 hours of unpaid work. Mrs Andrews said: “Mr Dickinson violated his curfew just after monitoring equipment was fitted. He was not in on the fol-

lowing day. It seems he does not have any regard for court instructions.” She said Dickinson, of Cockerham Lane, Honeywell, had been sentenced for smacking someone in the face. She said his victim needed two stitches and had some of his teeth loosened. Another sentence had been imposed for four thefts from Asda, Mrs Andrews said. Julian Brook, defending, said Dickinson breached his curfew because he was short of money and needed food. He said he went to a friend in New Lodge to be fed because there was no one

else to turn to as he had fallen out with his family. Mr Brook said Dickinson did not turn up for unpaid work because he had been promised a job as a water mains engineer. The job depended on him attending a course. Dickinson had tried to explain this to a probation officer supervising him but the officer was not in. Mr Brook said: “Mr Dickinson thought a job would be the end of his financial problems. He put human needs before court orders. “He tried to help himself because he was tired of relying

on state benefits. “He is on the cusp of turning over a new leaf and if he is given a chance this may well be the end of his offending.” District Judge John Foster said: “You have manifestly failed to co-operate. One of the offences you were sentenced for involved serious violence. “Court orders are there to punish people. “Those who fail to co-operate with them find themselves in the position you are in today.” Dickinson admitted breaching community orders.


Guide To Bereavement - 17th February 2012 (Week 07)