THAT CHILDREN MORE READILY ACCEPT THE “HARD TRUTHS” THAN ADULTS BECAUSE THEY DON’T HAVE THE EMOTIONAL HANG-UPS THAT ADULTS HAVE WITH THESE TRUTHS. AT FIRST, THESE ARE INTELLECTUAL ISSUES FOR CHILDREN, AND THEY ARE NOT COLORED BY THEIR EXPERIENCE. BY STARTING WITH THE FOUNDATIONS OF TRUTH, CHILDREN THEN INTERPRET THEIR EXPERIENCE IN LIGHT OF THESE TRUTHS. WHAT I HAVE SEEN AS A RESULT IS A STRONGER TRUST IN GOD’S PROVIDENTIAL WORKS, A GREATER ACCEPTANCE OF LIFE’S DISAPPOINTMENTS AS BEING A GOOD PART OF GOD’S OVERALL PLAN FOR THEM, AND A CONFIDENCE IN ROMANS 8:28. THEY REACT IN MORE MATURE WAYS THAN EXPECTED AS THEIR THEOLOGY INFORMS THEIR EMOTIONS RATHER THAN THE OTHER WAY AROUND.
or “Selfishness is sin and separates us from our good and holy God.” Leading children to see their need of a Savior because of the sin in their hearts is gospel teaching. In disciplining children, we must be careful not only to identify their actions as sinful but also to impart to them an understanding that they have sinful hearts which must be redeemed by Christ. We must be careful to point to Jesus as our sinbearer and the only source of true righteousness. We must lead them to ask forgiveness from God and from those whom they have offended. We must demonstrate the mercy and forgiveness of God as well as the consequences of sin. And we must be diligent to restore the relationship with a child we have disciplined, demonstrating that true confession and repentance leads to a restored relationship between God and his children.
5. One of the hardest moments for Christian parents is when they feel like they just aren’t setting a good enough example for their children. In those moments they feel as if they have totally undermined any witness to the gospel. But can parents use their visible failures and shortcomings to teach their children about Jesus? Good parenting is not about perfection but about direction. We will sin and we will fail our children, but the more important reality is, “Are we growing in grace? Do we bow humbly before the Lord’s discipline? Do we repent of our sin and ask forgiveness of those we sin against? Do we show our children our need for Christ and our dependence on his mercy, grace, and discipline?” It is a powerful moment for our children when www.credomag.com | 19