Habit #3 Put First Things First Based on the work Stephen Covey
THIS LESSON IS INTEDED FOR OUR PLAYERS TO TEACH WITH THEIR CLASSROOM AT BATH SCHOOL AS PART OF OUR CLASSROOM PAL PROGRAM!
Review Habit 1 –
―Be Proactive‖ ―You are the driver, not the passenger‖
Habit 2 -
―Begin with the End in Mind‖ ―Decide where you want to go and how you will get there.‖
Chapter 4: Pokey and the Spelling Test Prioritize • The third habit of happy kids is to ―Put First Things First.‖ • It is all about learning to prioritize and managing your time so that your first things come first, not last—think about what are the most important things you need to accomplish. • It is the strength to say ―no‖ to less important things and ―yes‖ to more important things.
I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am organized.
Read Chapter 4 • Discussion Questions – Why did Pokey put off studying for his spelling test? What did he do instead? – How did Pokey feel the night before the first test? – What does procrastinate mean? What did Sophie teach Pokey about procrastination? – How did Pokey feel after he studied all week and aced his spelling test? – Why is it important to put first things first?
How Can People Be More Successful Applying It? • By setting goals each week • By writing down assignments in the order of their due dates • By studying for tests, not just taking your chances • By not taking on to many tasks or activities at once • By balancing out your days ahead of time in an agenda
We spend our lives in four quadrants. The goals is to spend the most time in quadrant #2! #1: The Procrastinator Example: -Put off doing things; do everything at the last minute; results in stress, anxiety, burnout.
#3: The “Yes-Man”
#2: The Prioritizer -Results:
“Quadrant of Excellence”; “got it together”; look at everything they need to do and then prioritize to make sure that first things get done first and last things done last; knowhow to say no with a smile; results in control of their life, balance, high performance.
#4: The Slacker
Example: -Example: category of waste and -Tries to please other people; excess; do too much of everything can’t say “no” because afraid that is unproductive.; results: lack of of offending others; often responsibility, guilt, flakiness. caves to peer pressure; results in reputation of being a “pleaser,” lack of discipline
Quadrant #1-The Procrastinator • A Procrastinators motto, “I’m going to stop procrastinating-sometime soon.” • There mind wont kick into gear until there's an emergency. • Stressful way to live. • Don’t let this be you.
Quadrant #2-The Prioritizer â€˘ They save the best for last. â€˘ Make sure this is you.
Quadrant #3-The Yes-Man • Trying to please other people. • Always saying yes to people because your afraid you’ll offend them. • Feeling like a doormat for others to wipe their feet on. • Don’t let this be you.
Quadrant #4- The Slacker • Loves anything in excess, T.V., to much sleep, to many video games, to much web. • Long phone calls and mall marathons each weekend. • Being a professional loafer. • Don’t let this be you.
Time Wasters: Brainstorm some things that you do that wastes a lot of your timeâ€”the small things. Sometimes these things are fun and relaxing. If you do them too much though, they may get in the way of the important things. DO THE BIG THINGS FIRST!
Charlie’s Dilemma • Get a bucket and fill it half full of small pebbles. Then try to put several big rocks in the bucket, on top of the small pebbles. • Let’s imagine that the big rocks won’t fit. • Now, try putting the big rocks in first, followed by the pebbles. The pebbles neatly fill in the spaces around the big rocks. • The difference then is the order in which the rocks and pebbles were placed in the bucket. By putting the big rocks in first, everything fits. • The big rocks represent your most important goals for the week, while the pebbles represent your daily chores.
Plan Weekly • Take 15 minutes each week to plan your week. – Step 1 • What are the most important things I need to do this week?—THESE ARE THE BIG ROCKS!
– Step 2 • Block out time for your big rock • By seeing the important things listed, you can then plan when you will do them
– Step 3 • Schedule Everything else—Fill in day with the little to-dos like daily tasks (take out garbage), appointments
Adapt Daily • Things may come up or your plan didn’t go quite like you thought it would. • Take 5 minutes each evening to plan out your next day.
Organizing Your Days Assignment #1—
Write out your regular schedule for a full day, from start to finish. Is it organized? Do you put the “Big” things first? www.getbuttonedup.com/tools/free_printable_daily_schedule_form_template.pdf
Daily Planning Tips 1. Make a To-Do List Every Day: Put things that are most important at the top and do them first. And don't forget to reward yourself for your accomplishments.
2. Use Spare Minutes Wisely: When youâ€™re commuting on the bus or train, use the time to get some reading done.
3. It's Okay to Say No: If your friend asks you to go to a movie on a Thursday night and you have an exam the next morning, realize that it's okay to say no. Keep your short- and long-term priorities in mind.
4. Find the Right Time: You'll work more efficiently if you figure out when you do your best work. For example, if your brain handles math better in the afternoon, don't wait to do it until late at night.
5. Review Your Notes Every Day: Reviewing helps you reinforce what you've learned, so you need less time to study before a test. You'll also be ready if you get called on in class or have to take a pop quiz.
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Make a To-Do List Every Day: Put things that are most important at the top and do them first. And don't forget to reward yourself for your accomplishments. Use Spare Minutes Wisely: When youâ€™re commuting on the bus or train, use the time to get some reading done. It's Okay to Say No: If your friend asks you to go to a movie on a Thursday night and you have an exam the next morning, realize that it's okay to say no. Keep your short- and long-term priorities in mind. Find the Right Time: You'll work more efficiently if you figure out when you do your best work. For example, if your brain handles math better in the afternoon, don't wait to do it until late at night. Review Your Notes Every Day: Reviewing helps you reinforce what you've learned, so you need less time to study before a test. You'll also be ready if you get called on in class or have to take a pop quiz.
Daily Planning Tips
6. Get a Good Night's Sleep: Your brain needs rest to perform at its peak. Lack of sleep makes the day seem longer and your tasks seem more difficult.
7. Communicate Your Schedule to Others: If phone calls or text messages are proving to be a distraction, tell your friends that you are only available at certain times of day and not to expect a response at other times.
8. Become a Taskmaster: Give yourself a time budget and plan your activities accordingly. Figure out how much free time you have each week before you add any commitments.
9. Don't Waste Time Agonizing: Instead of agonizing and procrastinating, just do it. Wasting an entire evening worrying about something that you're supposed to be doing is not productive, and can increase your stress.
10. Determine Your Priorities: You canâ€™t do everything at once. Establish the importance of each item. Then set realistic goals that are attainable.
How good are you at putting first things first? 1
I always put first things first! Why did you rate yourself this way?
I never set goals or put first things first.
How could you be better at putting first things first?
Credits: 1. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
2. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective Kids by Sean Covey 3. The Seven Habits for Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey 4. Presentation by Rebecca Radicchi: www.classjump.com/m/mrseustice/documents/6424744717.ppt
5. The 7 Habits of Happy Kids Activities: www.ehow.com/info_7948210_7-habits-happy-kids-activities.html